I was in the middle of a delivery when I got the urge to use the restroom. No matter, I’m a big boy, I can hold it in until I can get to a restroom. So I continue with my delivery while holding it in. I get to the hotel where I must deliver and the urge comes back a lot stronger, but I’ve dealt with this before I can definitely make it. I go in and greet the lovely receptionist and I get permission to deliver directly to their door. I get in the elevator and strike up a short and sweet conversation with a young man who just came back for the night. As my floor comes up I say farewell and start looking on the wall for where my delivery is located. As I find where to go the urge comes back and it starts to feel like I might not make it. I put those thoughts aside and I hurry down the hallway to the correct door. I double check the room number and I place the delivery as quickly as I can. As I pull up my phone to take the confirmation picture my body trembles. I shake and hop to try and hold on for just a little bit longer. I take the photo but it’s too blurry! I try again and just barely get a passing picture. I finish my delivery and half run back to the elevator. All while my body continues to shake and tremble from holding back this unstoppable urge. I get in the elevator and I can barely press the button to the first floor. The shaking increases as I am now fighting back what feels like a turbulent river inside me. I feel a drop go through, and then more. The release is too much I can’t hold back any longer. I stand there in shock as I see torrents of pee go through my pants and onto the floor. I continue to try and stop the flow but it’s too much I am just along for the ride. I stand there for a second as the realization of what just occurred sinks in. The elevator dings open and I walk out. A wet splat announces my every step. For a moment I consider dashing away, but that would only make things worse for others. I walk sullenly to the same lovely receptionist and tell them of my sins. Their look of confusion and horror increases my embarrassment and it now feels like my head will explode at any moment. They quickly call someone over who then asks me to repeat what happened. I explain while I keep repeating “sorry” every other sentence. They tell me it’s okay and offer their restroom, but I explain that couldn’t stop my flow until it was all out. I continue to stand there just wonder what the hell was wrong with me. Luckily they tell me again that everything is alright and let me know it’s okay if I want to go. I go to leave and say sorry one last time as I leave the establishment. I get in my car and drive home. The moment replays in my head over and over all the way home. Acceptance finally kicks in and I decide to write this post.
TL;DR: thought I could finish a delivery before using the restroom. Now I will be remembered as elevator-pissboi.

I 21F and my boyfriend 21M have been in a serious relationship for 2 years and I love him very much.
In the past 2 years he's done a lot of micro things to betray my trust like breaking unwritten rules of a relationship like having sleepovers with his friend group including girls, maintaining phone contact with his ex, sending posts and photos of naked Instagram models and taking about things he wants to do to them with his best friend Graham, and on a college trip we took together, one night he told me to go to sleep early, I found him up until 3am in the girls' rooms playing and drinking and laughing, and I know that half those girls want him. I also recently asked him to block his girl best friend who was very weirdly obsessive and would post him a little too frequently saying how much she misses him. And he was very reluctant about it he snatched his phone away from my hand and said "can you stop messing with my phone" and after a long fight he did it . Long story short, I took it pretty hard when I realised that my boyfriend is like every other guy.
It's just that when you do repeated things like that to a person their trust eventually breaks and it's bound to create trust issues in them.
And recently we were both stressed out in life and our relationship took the strain of the past trust issues and the smallest things were creating problems. And we almost broke up but he gave me an ultimatum saying he just wants one more chance and he would never put me in a situation where I have to doubt him or worry about trusting him just until I start trusting him again, and the trust gets just a little bit stronger. My trust for him is hanging by a thread right now and as much as I want to trust him I simply cannot do it. I currently do not have the mental strength for it.
I am also going through a lot in my life, my sibling just moved away and I am under lot of pressure from college I have been working non stop for the past 2 weeks with no sleep and I recently did horribly on my finals and I am already under great mental stress that I might fail my course. Our sex lives took the toll too and things haven't exactly been perfect I just assumed it was the mutual stress on both of us.
We made plans to go on a trip, just me and him and reconnect and enjoy this summer.
But we both got busy and I saw him after a long while and he said he will be going on a boys weekend this summer. The place he is going to is reputed for beaches, sex, drugs, clubs, and parties. He completely forgot about our plans too. I've never stopped him from going on a trip before when he takes the boys out for a drive or when they go on biking trips together but this place is known for drugs parties affairs and naked women around everywher it's the perfect place for bachelors. In fact his own best friend cheated on his ex girlfriend with his now girlfriend in the same place. And most people I know end up getting cheated on if their partner takes a trip to this place. But it's also like a cliche place for a friend group trip or a bachelor boys trip but not for a man who is serious about his relationship. He is also going with his friend Graham who he would send posts of naked Instagram models to even though he knew about me.
But I told him it would make me really uncomfortable and I do not have the mental capacity to deal with the anxiety of him cheating or constantly worrying about what he's upto as I am in a bad place mentally and I won't be able to survive it and neither will our relationship. I also said I would break up with him because the stress of this trip and the anxiety would push me into depression and my mental health would be completely fucked and I said I'm sorry and I had to protect my peace.
But it is really important to my boyfriend and he really wants to go make memories with his friends. So I asked my boyfriend to change the place to something more comfortable where he could still have fun with his boys like camping but he made excuses and said no since it's already planned. Now he said he chooses love over the trip and I feel horrible and guilty making him leave his trip.
Now he calling me toxic as he has to leave this trip to choose me over his friends even though I said it for my mental health :/ Aitah?

I realized that I was gay quite young. On the one hand I would see boys start talk about girls and on the other hand I was feeling something I couldn't get for boys. I almost had a "girlfriend" when I was 14. But that started to become tiresome. Being close to a girl started to feel annoying. I wanted men. The internet was very informative about these topics and I would see "entertaining movies".
During one of these entertainment moments my father caught me on action seeing a photo of a shirtless guy. I closed the window fast but my father was just shocked. He told me saw it and left. For some days he wouldn't talk to me. I wasn't afraid that he would tell my mother (she would react really bad). But I knew he was sad. My dad was a handsome guy who used to flirt a lot. That had made several family member to tell me (as a joke or something) that I will become as naughty as him. He thought me as his successor.
After some days he came to my room and sat with me. I got very anxious. He told me that he knows I'm gay. I tried to tell him I'm not. But all these days he was putting the pieces together on his head and told me he knows I am. He said it hurts a lot and he felt bad. But then he realized that the only thing he ever wanted from me was to be happy. He said that he's very worried and he will be always there for me and he hugged me.
The most most unpredictable thing was a calendar that he bought me. It was one with photos of shirtless hot Scottish people with kilts. He said I should hit it well. I felt very happy.

TLDR. 15 yr old cat is currently "stable". But after 8 weeks and 2 vets will only eat treats, missing two teeth and gums not healing. One ear has a sore that won't heal and secretes dark red/black gunk. Has been unstable for 2-3 weeks. Still moving around without pain as far as we can tell, but unstable and occasionally falls. (Photo and video link below)

• Species: Cat
• Age: 15
• Sex/Neuter status: Male Neutered.
• Breed: Orange tabby
• Body weight: 15+ when healthy. Currently 9-10
• History:
  • Our boy has had ear problems for the past few years. He is 100% indoor. Usually a weekly wash with tri-rinse would help. Early March that stopped being effective and it got bad enough for us to schedule a vet visit. A week before the visit he lost his top left fang (same side as the ear issue in the photo). Noticed he wasn't eating as much.
  • March 4. Vet 1 - visit 1: 12 lbs.
    • They cleaned his ears at the vet and gave us Epi Optic and Animax to clean and administer at home. (Once daily) He let it happen, but hissed the entire time and pooped on the table.
    • For the tooth. They checked his teeth, noted decay and gum inflammation. Said that his natural bacteria to break down food is probably out pacing his ability to heal due to age (I'm paraphrasing, but that's how I understood it.) Gave him Covenia at the clinic. Gave us Gabapentin to help with pain (.5 twice daily orally).
    • Ears cleared up nicely. First few days he fought me and actually peed in the shower. Would have to scruff him. Eventually he stopped fighting.
    • Eating gradually got worse. We tried 8 different wet foods thinking that would be easier on his teeth and gums. He had the appetite and would come running for food. Take a few bites then violently shake his head and paw at his mouth. After a few days Temptations treats were the only thing he would eat. Even if he would shake and paw he'd generally continue eating after. I figured out that if I gave him the Gabapentin, then fed about an hour after he would eat 20-30 treats 2-3 times a day.
  • March 25 Vet 1 - visit 2: 9lbs
    • Concerned about the lack of eating and the obvious mouth pain. They gave Depomerdrol to hopefully stimulate appetite. (which i didn't think was really the problem. I'm pretty sure he's avoiding the foods because they hurt. Wet stuff getting stuck in hole from missing tooth?)
    • Did blood panel. Came back fine, even cleared for surgery.
    • Told to recheck in 1-2 months.
    • No real change at home.
  • April 22 Vet 1 - visit 3: 9lbs
    • Blood work came back ok. Basically they want to put him under to pull teeth. Not saying that isn't the solution, but I'm skeptical this will work considering the tooth he lost 7 weeks ago still has a hole that's not healed.
    • More Gabapentin to help with the feeding routine.
    • Perscribed 1.2 cc Clavamox daily to help fight infection of teeth.
  • For context on this next bit. We have a local mobile vet that we used to go to. They are nearing retirement age and can be hard to get ahold of. We have another cat that a different vet told us needed to be put under to have all his teeth pulled. We were able to get him to this mobile vet for a second opinion. They had him for 15 minutes, pulled a few teeth, brushed the rest. He's been fine for 7 years now. So...
  • April 26 Vet 2 - visit 1: 9lbs
    • Bring him to the mobile vet for a second opinion. Tell them all the above. She seems to agree with what they've done so far. She decides to clean his teeth. Finds and pulls a rotten molar.
  • He seems less agitated, but no change in eating habits.
  • Currently:
    • Issue 1. Still will only eat treats. I give him .5 cc of gabapentin about 30 before I feed him. He'll eat without it, but he eats more with it. Still has significant mouth pain. Paws at it and growls. Sometimes to the point where he falls to his side with both paws on his head. (Video of pawing at mouth pain. 30 sec shows slight head shakes at rest. He'll sit like that for 30-60 min at a time if he's undisturbed. Then usually when time to feed he'll wake up and do this. Does it more while eating and randomly throughout the day.)
    • Issue 2, His left ear has a soar under the top fold and is secreting dark red/brown/black gunk that collects at the lower folds of his ear and hardens I clean it daily but shows no sign of improving (Photo)
    • Issue 3. He's losing balance. Our house is open beam and he likes to climb up and sleep above my closet. Typically he'd just jump down and land on the bed. He no longer sticks the landing. At best he falls over, his back legs don't cooperate. He's bounce off the bed on landing. Also just walking, if he shakes his head while walking he will stumble or fall. I'll try to get video of this. I realize Gabapentin can cause this, but it's 24/7. For instance we had to be away for a night this weekend, so the drugs are out of his system and he had the issue described getting off the closet and stumbled walking around the rafters.
• Clinical signs: See above
• Duration: See above
• Your general location: Hawaii. Multi-cat home. (4)
• Links to test results, vet reports, X-rays etc.

I'm aware he's old, and it may just be time. I really hate how bad his quality of life is now and I don't want to put him through surgery to get marginal improvement, if any. I also don't want to not try something that may make things better.
Sorry for the long post. Thanks in advance for any help, or if you just read this far :)
Edit: spelling. There's probably more.

For about two months I've been dating a guy, he's about four years older than me and from the beginning he's asked me for photos of me (you know what tipe). It bothers me a lot so I always change the subject, after that we get along well but for a few weeks he has been publishing things that are indirect and even in morse code or so I think (.---), I saw that he uploaded another one where he said how much that he liked that boy of ".---", he is increasingly distant and takes a long time to respond to my messages. I know it seems stupid but, I really grew fond of him. Idk what to do cause every time I try to talk to him he brings it up in the light of "can you send me a photo of yourself?" (Actually, he makes me uncomfortable and no matter how much love I have for him, it makes me want to block him). I already told him that I didn't want photos and he continued.

Seriously questioning should I just disappear from "ex" (in my head for now, until physically able to disappear)
(25 years old female) with (28 years old male) we have been together for 5 years now and I feel unfulfilled in this relationship after lying, cheating, and Etc.
Of course at the beginning of our relationship everything was great in the honeymoon phase, I also made the mistake of inviting him too come live in my apartment with me at the beginning of our relationship, love really is blinding (Because, That's a stupid move on my part) not knowing what he had lerking in the shadows:

1. (FIRSTLY, he lied about having a baby that "could possibly" be his from a prior relationship before, and was his! And I wasn't too big of being SOMEONE'S STEP MOM AS I WAS FAIRLY YOUNG at the time, and Not really a SUPERBIG KID PERSON! I gave him AMPLE amount of opportunity to let me know, as I was asking him how he made it living to (25 years old at the time) without any children. I found out after seeing him messaging other women, that wasn't even the child's mother, asking someone how their kids were doing. (WTF) and he admitted to having a daughter and that he was afraid to tell me because he wasn't sure if the child was his or not" an stated, during an emotional discussion "HE WAS SCARED, AND DIDN'T WANT ME TO LEAVE HIM" at that moment I wanted nothing to do with him, but we had been having sex and I felt In my intuition that I was pregnant after that emotional discussion, the next day I went and got pregnancy tested and it was POSITIVE, we now share a daughter. And I just decided too stay because I needed his support as a father, as he was my best supporting system at the time. (As a result of my personal family not being the best.) was super disappointed after this series of events.

After this transpired, it had been a downhill battle for my trust of him, and I started to resent him as a man that would deny his "possible" child in the name of having a "relationship" I couldn't fathom what other stuff he could have been possibly lying about and keeping secret. I will say that I was very COLD at this time for a long while.

1. (SECONDLY, after being cold about getting lied too, he felt animosity, because he had apologized and in his mind I should have been "over it" already, after the apology, But that was such a big deal to me because it altered my entire life and perception and reality, and he did nothing to reassure me that he wouldn't hurt me again (like take a moment to think about this, I moved him into my apartment, he was being secretive and not telling anyone, even his own family! that he possibly could have had a child, which was his, and hurried up an impregnated me, I felt FUCKING TRAPPED) after being cold towards him for sometime, he took it upon himself to add Fuel to the flame by cheating on me and getting a blow-job in MY VEHICLE, I really understand the cheating part, because if someone is being mean or cold towards me I would cheat too. But it's the fact he went out his way too disrespect me and the car my child rides in by lying about the car being his too the Penis-Sucker, and letting her sit in my car to do such sexual acts, just out of fucking line. LACKING RESPECT! Just disrespectful (Because he would definitely have a stroke if I had a man I was cheating on him with in his car, (just saying) !)

Definitely after this event I was livid and on my way to becoming his worse headache, this is what drew the line in the sand for disrespect and I crossed that fucking line an joined in on the disrespectful antics as well, with no questions asked, which is wrong an I understand I should have been more mature about it, but at the time I was 22 years old. I have done things like call another guy I was interested in, in front of him and lied an told him the guy was just a friend. (WHICH TECHNICALLY HE WAS JUST A FRIEND AS I WAS STILL GETTING TO KNOW HIM, and never seeing him after exchanging numbers prior too our relationship. But it was wrong because I shouldn't have been entertaining the guy friend while being involved with my "BoyFriend")
After my retaliation he returned it with even more Fuel to the flame, eventually I became even more colder, not willing too work it out because he knew what he was doing came with consequences just like my actions did, and at this point he really didn't care, l've caught him countless times on Instagram and Facebook messaging women and calling them his "Wife" & "Baby Moma" then telling me too stop worrying about it, and while away on a work sponsored trip he created a tinder account and physically cheated on me and went on a date with this women while out of state on a work sponsored trip, even sleeping over at the women's house. Which Im not mad about, but he came home pretending to be super in love with me barring gifts and even wanting sex, after he cheated. Without feeling guilty about it. Which is Insane, But.........
Honestly after I found this out, I wanted nothing more too do with him and been done with him for a while, l did retaliate back being petty by sending sexy photos of myself too a guy, but never cheated physically the way he did, (even though technology abuse is a very real thing and I admit I'm wrong for messaging a guy sexy ass photos of myself lol)
I really didn't kick him out after all these series of events because as stupid as it sounds, l asked him to come live with me an I feel wrong for just putting him out, and we are useful to one another in the form of benefiting as being parents, l've tried to be direct with him by telling him that we aren't going to work, but he's said we might as well make it work because we have a child together, and how he already had a daughter from a broken home and he doesn't want to create another broken home with our kid.
There is much more I can say about our situation, but I will keep it short, (LOL NOT SO MUCH SHORT TO READ) But, this is the overall gist of things and honestly I know myself I'm tired of being with him, and he's tired of me just as much, we just been existing together, he's definitely told me an constantly insinuating that he's SETTLING FOR ME! But never leaves and l'm stuck right now because I have no support and it's hard to just disappear right now within today's economy. But I'm definitely over this relationship! Just kind of stuck in it at the moment.
Somebody give me some advice on what to do? Because at this point I feel so weirdly lonely and unwell about staying with my child's father.
TL;DR! - After years of back and forth retaliation within our relationship due to infidelity and lying, My child's father feel he is "settling" but claims to be doing "what's morally correct" and not being "selfish", by staying in relationship with me, so that our daughter has "two parents in the household" Im not willing to be selfish and checked out of this relationship mentally a while back!
What should I do? Am I wrong? Advice anyone?

Brand new account just for this lovely occasion. I’m ready to air out some dirty laundry.
I am at my limit and can’t sleep. My fiancé and I have been together 9 yrs except for when we broke up for about 2yrs in the middle due in part to his mother’s behavior but what can I say we love each other. Things are generally better but there have been some big drama flare ups from her.
She’s top-tier toxic boy mom material. He was her only child for 12yrs and while men continue to come and go in her life he is always there for her. She uses him for emotional support, love, affection, validation, friendship, you name it. She treats him like a husband and like a father to her other child.
I only just got him to move out last year (I moved in with them after getting back together, a HUGE risk for me as it ended very bad last time) after finding out she had made him promise to stay with her another year after he graduated university so she could save up more money to afford rent on her own (this after she spent all year going on vacations and making us watch her crusty dogs that kept peeing and shitting on the carpet). I basically forced him to move out the month after graduation.
Things have been better but she still uses him for so much. We only live 15min away. They already work together and he usually visits her and they go out to eat or he helps her with grocery shopping (she’s only 50, she does not need help but she also has an 18yr old son that lives with her who could help her)or something on at least one of his off days (him and I have opposite schedules currently which is making everything worse).
So he had told me multiple times, well in advance, that he was taking his mom to a concert this past Friday for Mother’s Day. Fine, not very traditional but whatever he always spends a lot on days that celebrate her. The covert venue was about an hour away in a very big city on Friday night so I was worried about drunk drivers and general safety. Fiancé told me that his younger brother was driving them and he wouldn’t get too drunk and probably wouldn’t be out “too late”. (His mom gets black out drunk anytime she drinks which is pretty much any time she goes out hence my concern)
I work 6am-6pm on weekends so he was gone when I got home but he sent me occasional texts from the concert. His mom sent a photo of them with their drinks around 8pm. Next I heard from him was around 11pm. He called me and said they were waiting for his brother to pick them up. I estimated they’d be home about midnight, I knew him coming home at that time would cause our large dogs to bark and wake me anyways so I decided to stay up to make sure he got in okay especially cause his brother is a newer driver and they were coming from the city.
It’s then 12:30am, 1.5 hrs later, he hadn’t answered my texts. I have to wake up for work in 4hrs. I decided to go to his mom’s Facebook (we are not fb friends but a lot of her stuff is public) and I was honestly disgusted by what I saw. She had posted a video of her and my fiancé holding their drinks and dancing at this concert, totally drunk, her tits on full display (she likes to dress like a 20yr old going the club) and them taking turns kissing each other on the cheek. Along with other photos you’d expect to see from a bf/gf couple.
I need to pause here and mention that while cheek kissing is a cultural thing she has always been wayyyy too affectionate towards him for my liking. It has also been an issue with her dressing extremely provocatively, like usually she’s dressed way sexier than I am and it makes me really uncomfortable. Past occasions include several birthday parties she hosted for him in which she was dressed like she was ready to hit the streets, got back out drunk, and danced and flirted with all his friends. She is also very young looking and in fact when fiancé and I first started dating I saw the pictures they had together on Facebook and thought she was his gf. It is not uncommon for people to think they are a couple.
Seeing this video that she had tagged him in so that all our friends could see them like that made me so angry. We don’t even post photos like that and we’re fucking engaged. I called my sister who had also seen the video and agreed it was uncomfortable to look at. She had also posted a slideshow of photos of the two of them from various ages to celebrate Mother’s Day, pretty much her being clingy to him and even some photos that directly mirror photos him and I had taken. Her younger child was not in any of the photos.
I then went through her fb and discovered that since we got engaged in March, she had not posted one single thing about us but every week has been sharing fb memories about my fiancé graduating and stuff talking about how much she loved him and how proud she is of him. I was pretty shocked as I had just had dinner with this woman for my fiancé’s bday the week before and now I’m finding out that instead of publicly bragging about her son proposing to his gf, 8 days later she had shared a photo of her two kids stating how much she loved them and that they would always be her children.
So it’s 12:45am, I decided to call his brother who answers and tells me that my fiancé and his mom are passed out drunk in the back seat and that they will be here at around 1:20am. I’m ready to cry, I already only got 2hrs sleep the night before, staying up till 130 gives me 3hrs sleep. He finally gets dropped off at 1:30am, (a full 1.5hrs passed when he should’ve been home based on our call) and he immediately goes to our only bathroom and starts puking.
I am extremely puke phobic so I immediately set up the couch for him and then had to stay up till he stopped puking to make sure he didn’t pass out in the bathroom. Finally I get him to the couch and go to sleep at 2:30am. At 3:30 the sound of him puking in the bathroom with the door wide open wakes me up. I have to go to work in 1hr. I’m scared to even go in the bathroom to get ready cause I’m so scared of puke so I end up calling out cause I have literally not slept.
I rip into him in the morning. I tell him how humiliating it was to see those photos and videos, I inform him that his mother has not posted anything about us to which he was surprised and also found it weird when I pointed out ask the posts of him and none of his younger brother. The neighbors for sure hear me shouting at him about his mom’s titties and missing work.
I also get on his case bc not l this just happened 2 months ago where they went to a bar for a work thing and while he didn’t drink his mom got black out drunk and he had to get her in the car, drive her home, and then call his younger brother to come home to make sure she didn’t choke on her own vomit. He said she doesn’t really drink like that anymore but here we are again. And the kicker is she has kidney problems. And her kids are always worried about her anytime she gets even just a cold yet here she is at 50yrs old drinking to black out and making her kids take care of her. It’s honestly so disgusting to me and unfair to them but they just see it as normal cause they’re used to it.
Anyway I was about to go to bed when he mentioned he was taking her out tomorrow for Mother’s Day. I basically asked hasn’t she had enough? And he said she wanted to celebrate with both him AND his brother. I got incredibly angry bc this woman always gets what she wants from him and I feel like they already ruined my sleep and forced me to call out and she still wants to be celebrated even more? I feel like she should be embarrassed but she never is. I told him ask her why your engagement isn’t on her fb and he said he will and then I wrote all this bc I’m just so angry and now it’s almost 3am and I have to get up at 4:30.
He’s been making slow improvements in standing up to her but this is ridiculous. I’m sick to death of feeling like the other woman in my own relationship.

Hello, I'll be honest, the truth is that I'm a soo insecure person, people usually tell me that I'm something attractive but I don't know I don't consider the same thing or I don't feel that it's true, I'm a somewhat serious or reserved person, but when you gain my trust I can spend hours telling you my life, in my life I've gone through different moments on the subject of girls, as a child it was what I least important to me in this world and the truth was not the cute boy in the room, rather he was a chubby boy, introverted and somewhat clumsy, in high school I lost weight and I became much more extrovert and I was half more about talking to girls (something impossible for me before) I remember I was doing well, I had a group of fans for some reason, I got to have 2 girlfriends but I felt weird when I was with them, in a pandemic everything changed, I became too reserved and the truth I had thousands of things to think about before girls, when I entered high school I kept that seriousness, but I noticed that with the girls who seemed attractive or cute I made a huge lump in my throat, I got red and left The voice, to date it still happens to me, that is, I have had some things with girls but being honest and without sounding bad, I really feel that I confused my friendship with them for something else, since it is really very difficult for me to have a good conversation with the girls that I find attractive, I don't know, I'm not the big thing, I don't have lips and I'm not so funny, I'm a little bit Handsome, but the handsome people have an advantage of 10 seconds over the others with the girls and the truth for me to talk to a cute girl Without zero previous contact is something impossible, Oh even things like sending a message to a girl on Instagram or posting a photo of me,even with someone with whom I don't talk so often, I don't have a great need to have a partner, not even to fuck for the first time, obviously I would like it but it's not my greatest illusion in life right now, but like to experiment and live my life more, feel attractive or I don't know, just don't feel that lump in my throat that prevents me from talking sometimes

Hello to all of you that choose a career path that pays 4k to install a panel in a home. I am regretting my career choice thoroughly.
I just bought a home this January. It has an attic that is unfinished and a basement that is finished. Due to some unforeseen changes in my love life and an increased debt to income ratio because of those changes, I have decided to rent out my basement. I will also be finishing my attic for the eventual move towards turning the property into a rental in 3 or 4 years.
As it sits my basement is not fitted to have an oven. I have figured it is safer to install an induction cooktop and retrofit my bar in the basement into a kitchen space for this rental.
Unfortunately, I looked at my panel and realized that it has no additional upgrade slots, making it F tier. As I would need to run new wire in the basement to make this happen. Murphy's law.
As I am a poor boy from a poor family, and cannot pay an electrician with highly advanced knowledge, I myself must venture forward into the great beyond and learn. I stand on the precipice, overjoyed...
I watched YouTube videos to expand my third eye, due to the lack of highly trained friends or family in any actual trade. I came to the conclusion that I needed to network. So I turned off pornhub on the phone and fired up my computer to ask for assistance. Unfortunately I totally forgot what I was doing and went back on porn hub.
Until now!
In one of the following photos you will see a small hole cut into the wall on the lower left side of the picture. That's literally the water main line on the ground there, you can't actually see it in the photo, it's on the ground.
Then there is the panel. I removed the shell to find a cluster fuck of wires, all not labeled, unlike any of the videos of women I watched instaling panels on YouTube with extremely nice asses. Hence the pornhub. Don't judge, I refuse to pay more child support. Everything looked perfect on her panels. They all came (wires) from the TOP DOWN. My panel looks like a squid exploded.
So, I need more power. Here are some questions.
I seen someone online install a new box next to their original box and follow all the national institute of electricity workers united protocol (ya I know it's not called that). Then after looking at the small space and all the conduits running into the fucking panel I realized, I don't know any of the rules at all, plus I can't even find them online, because It's not called the national institute of electricity workers united protocols.
The fucking panel is connected to wood away from the cement wall. IS THAT EVEN PROTOCOL!? And it's next to the WATER MAIN. Call me crazy but...is that the old fashioned way of doing things cuz it just looks absolutely insane. If there was a leak, it would spray on the panel....man.
I'm getting off track. Maybe I should put a partition in between all that in the 1/16 "closet space" it's all shoved into. Probably not protocol.
Can I add a panel underneath the existing panel or does it have to be perpendiculalateral to the original box. Tell me what to do. Break the wall down to the right and... and add another God damn door! I'm not sure where to make magical fucking space in the closet of get fucked renter use a pizzazz!
The guy online ran a 3 gauge black wire from the main panel to the new panel that was perpendicular.
I ain't got the cash to get an electrician to put in a new panel. I did find out I needed a permit for the city of ST PAUL MN to do any panel upgrades. I say, get fucked, this shits already fucked.
Also I called my electric company and they said I just need to schedule a day for shut off, and it's free. Very nice.
Talk to me. Send help. Broken arrow.
Photos attached.
Also I wasn't on pornhub.

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I read GTD and bought a stackable in-tray at Target. I finally had some time to clear it out today. Boy was it a chore. Tons of sticky notes, papers, mail, receipts, warranty cards, etc. that had just piled up over the months I hadn’t got to. I am only halfway done with just my physical in tray.
I realized many of the items were notes tied to projects. I have created a spreadsheet where I add tasks in Google Sheets. I add certain tasks to my calendar, if they’re time based, and I can make the commitment. Otherwise they remain in next actions.
I am trying to figure out the best way to add notes to projects - I figure if there’s a note I haven’t reviewed for the project I either need to create a new Google Doc or add it to an existing one. If it isn’t directly reference material I need to add it as a next action, if it is reference material I don’t need to add it to a next action.
Now I have notes in my phone, reminders in my phone, YouTube videos, photos, Instagram pages tied to projects that I have to consolidate all of them. Some are reference photos that tie to the projects as well. I am storing items by reference category either in my Google Drive or on folders in my PC. I want to keep items on my phone to a minimum, unless I want to reference them to send out or to see not on my PC. Is this a good strategy to consolidate all of these into projects?
Is this a good solution?

hi guys, im really upset about something and just need to vent it out somewhere. sorry if this is really long.
my mom and bio dad broke up during her pregnancy with me. according to her, he never tried to have any relationship with me other than stating he was going to try to take me away from her forever, but that never happened. I met him only once as a baby. ofc I have no memory of this. I've been with my mom all these years (im almost 20 now.)
it wasn't until last year I even knew his name. I suspected what it was for three years before that and I was so close (I saw a Walgreens photos receipt from 2003). just one letter off in his last name. I found his Facebook. I got to see what he looked like for the first time last Father's Day. And I cried. I found out where some of my features came from (I was always told I looked nothing like him.. well turns out that's not completely the case.)
It turns out he's married now and has a little girl and a new baby boy. I have an older half brother as well who he has a relationship with. Everyone but me. He was a father for everyone except me.
I view his stories every now and then and I KNOWWWW he can easily see I'm viewing them. This morning he posted two stories of him staring directly into the camera kissing his two little babies. Like he was saying HA to me, and rubbing in the fact I never had that. I've never had a good father daughter relationship. I'm ngl a mess right now.
He and his wife own a couple bars around town. As soon as I turn 21 im GOING THERE. I also wish to confront him online but im thinking I should just wait until I go to one of the bars. I don't know. I'm just really upset right now. Why tf does he love every single one of his children except me

Wife Had Affair With Multiple Women
I’m going to try and keep this as short as possible, but it’s a summarization of five years or more.
At the end of 2018, in the ninth year of my marriage and the twelfth year of our relationship, my intuition began to berate me that my wife was up to something no good. I had zero evidence, trusted her beyond what I thought was humanly possible, and was so confused as to why this sick feeling had come over me. That same day I explained to her my feelings. She reassured me nothing was going on and it’s just anxiety.
For more than two years I lived in this world where my intuition (which has always been based and accurate regarding important things) was screaming at me that my wife was cheating, while simultaneously being told that absolutely nothing is going on… and that I should get therapy if I can’t shake it. So I started going to therapy. My therapist told me that I am probably being paranoid. So basically, gaslit to believe I was crazy for two years. We had agreed to some very basic boundaries after that first convo in December of 2018. Those were forgotten or blatantly ignored right away basically.
There were three events at the end of 2019 and beginning of 2021 that revealed I was in fact being gaslit, betrayed, and cheated on.
The first: I discovered in our phone records (I inspected after catching her having a long convo with late at night with a person I hadn’t heard mentioned in at least three or four years) and she’d been talking to this lesbian she used to work with literally everyday. Hours at a time. 100’s of text. She’s not a person who enjoys talking on the phone — so I immediately got restless. This was the first moment my concern shifted away from her being with other men to maybe women — I had no idea she’d ever even had a thought about other girls. It wasn’t something I expected in any way.
The Second: I caught her getting a call from someone that she worked with. But she had been in the city that day, and my intuition completely went off. At her work Christmas party we were using her phone to check on a bowl game. I took her phone to the bathroom, typed in the number she got the call from — and it went to a completely different person. Someone she had never worked with and a girl about fifteen years younger than her. I found her social media profile, and sure enough this was a young lesbian that lives in the exact area my wife had been that day.
At this point she’s still denying it all. Making up stories and excuses for all of these coincidences. I pleaded with her and promised I would forgive her, I just needed the truth. I was really beginning to feel insane and like I’d lost my ability to interpret reality accurately.
The Third: Early 2021 I remembered she had an old iPad she hadn’t used in years that we had stored away when we moved into our new house a couple years earlier. Desperate, I started it up and it was still connected to her iCloud account. At least three people were receiving and giving constant flirting and invitations to meet up. It broke my heart. I was never mentioned /- she was pretending I didn’t exist. While we were on our anniversary dinner she was sending flirtatious text and pictures — saying she was just out with friends. It all really broke my heart and I went into some type of shock. It hurt but it was nice to know I wasn’t crazy for the first time in years.
I asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me or anything going on I should know about. She said no. I gave her one final chance. Nothing.
After calling a friend and talking it through I agreed that I should separate at this point. When I told her that she asked if I could come to her office and give her one last chance to tell the truth. I went up there. She was crying for the first time through this whole ordeal — she admitted to texting and meeting the girl the day I caught her faking the contact name. She admitted that at the end of the date the girl kissed her quickly. I asked, “if there’s anything more tell me now. If anything new pops up later than that’s it.” I slept over at a friends house and the next afternoon I agreed to forgive if we can setup some basic boundaries, and that we would go to counseling. She swore that was it.
I was having a day here and there where the betrayal trauma was absolutely wrecking me, but on the whole we moved forward. She broke every boundary and never brought up counseling again. Which was basically just not traveling without the other person or maintaining contact with any of those people. During a major painful moment with her where I confessed my mind couldn’t accept the version of events I had. To her credit, she admitted that when she was out of state following her dads funeral after I had already returned home to resume work, the very first girl I caught on the phone records talking all the time came and stayed the night. They were drunk, and made out. But that’s all that happened — they even left the room to change into their pj’s. To my wife’s credit I would have never known that and she could have taken it to her grave. And my wife is genuinely not a sexual person. She and I have a great sexlife, but it’s still not fun for her if it’s more than every threee weeks or so. She had never done anything sexual with anyone when we got married. She takes the role of caring for me sexually in a responsible and loving way, she could have easily ended up being asexual if she hadn’t gotten married.
So that was two years and four months ago. In that time we sold our house and bought some beautiful land to live on. We had our first child at the end of 2022, a beautiful baby boy. Our sec life has definitely heated up into something we both enjoy more than ever.
We talk about all this and she is always apologetic and open and willing. It’s a vulnerableness I’ve never seen from her. We’re closer than ever and our life is beautiful. But in November she broke a major boundary despite knowing I was uncomfortable. But that opened up all my old wounds and led me to checking her phone for the first time in two years.
I found the girl she met, and that kissed her contact screenshotted and hidden in her hidden photos. It was added in Feb 2023. I found that she is still Snapchat friends with the girl she made out with and has a three year emotional affair with — the last message was from July of 2022.
This has wrecked me. Nightmares, can’t sleep, and am just in a really unhealthy and anxious state of mind. She says the contact was a relic of sorts and the message was simply one for closure. She’s been doing better with boundaries.
I’m wrecked. I want to trust and enjoy our beautiful life and family. But I’m falling apart and crying everytime I’m alone. I love her and forgive her, but my memories and mind are torchering me. Help.

Wife Had Affair With Multiple Women
I’m going to try and keep this as short as possible, but it’s a summarization of five years or more.
At the end of 2018, in the ninth year of my marriage and the twelfth year of our relationship, my intuition began to berate me that my wife was up to something no good. I had zero evidence, trusted her beyond what I thought was humanly possible, and was so confused as to why this sick feeling had come over me. That same day I explained to her my feelings. She reassured me nothing was going on and it’s just anxiety.
For more than two years I lived in this world where my intuition (which has always been based and accurate regarding important things) was screaming at me that my wife was cheating, while simultaneously being told that absolutely nothing is going on… and that I should get therapy if I can’t shake it. So I started going to therapy. My therapist told me that I am probably being paranoid. So basically, gaslit to believe I was crazy for two years. We had agreed to some very basic boundaries after that first convo in December of 2018. Those were forgotten or blatantly ignored right away basically.
There were three events at the end of 2019 and beginning of 2021 that revealed I was in fact being gaslit, betrayed, and cheated on.
The first: I discovered in our phone records (I inspected after catching her having a long convo with late at night with a person I hadn’t heard mentioned in at least three or four years) and she’d been talking to this lesbian she used to work with literally everyday. Hours at a time. 100’s of text. She’s not a person who enjoys talking on the phone — so I immediately got restless. This was the first moment my concern shifted away from her being with other men to maybe women — I had no idea she’d ever even had a thought about other girls. It wasn’t something I expected in any way.
The Second: I caught her getting a call from someone that she worked with. But she had been in the city that day, and my intuition completely went off. At her work Christmas party we were using her phone to check on a bowl game. I took her phone to the bathroom, typed in the number she got the call from — and it went to a completely different person. Someone she had never worked with and a girl about fifteen years younger than her. I found her social media profile, and sure enough this was a young lesbian that lives in the exact area my wife had been that day.
At this point she’s still denying it all. Making up stories and excuses for all of these coincidences. I pleaded with her and promised I would forgive her, I just needed the truth. I was really beginning to feel insane and like I’d lost my ability to interpret reality accurately.
The Third: Early 2021 I remembered she had an old iPad she hadn’t used in years that we had stored away when we moved into our new house a couple years earlier. Desperate, I started it up and it was still connected to her iCloud account. At least three people were receiving and giving constant flirting and invitations to meet up. It broke my heart. I was never mentioned /- she was pretending I didn’t exist. While we were on our anniversary dinner she was sending flirtatious text and pictures — saying she was just out with friends. It all really broke my heart and I went into some type of shock. It hurt but it was nice to know I wasn’t crazy for the first time in years.
I asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me or anything going on I should know about. She said no. I gave her one final chance. Nothing.
After calling a friend and talking it through I agreed that I should separate at this point. When I told her that she asked if I could come to her office and give her one last chance to tell the truth. I went up there. She was crying for the first time through this whole ordeal — she admitted to texting and meeting the girl the day I caught her faking the contact name. She admitted that at the end of the date the girl kissed her quickly. I asked, “if there’s anything more tell me now. If anything new pops up later than that’s it.” I slept over at a friends house and the next afternoon I agreed to forgive if we can setup some basic boundaries, and that we would go to counseling. She swore that was it.
I was having a day here and there where the betrayal trauma was absolutely wrecking me, but on the whole we moved forward. She broke every boundary and never brought up counseling again. Which was basically just not traveling without the other person or maintaining contact with any of those people. During a major painful moment with her where I confessed my mind couldn’t accept the version of events I had. To her credit, she admitted that when she was out of state following her dads funeral after I had already returned home to resume work, the very first girl I caught on the phone records talking all the time came and stayed the night. They were drunk, and made out. But that’s all that happened — they even left the room to change into their pj’s. To my wife’s credit I would have never known that and she could have taken it to her grave. And my wife is genuinely not a sexual person. She and I have a great sexlife, but it’s still not fun for her if it’s more than every threee weeks or so. She had never done anything sexual with anyone when we got married. She takes the role of caring for me sexually in a responsible and loving way, she could have easily ended up being asexual if she hadn’t gotten married.
So that was two years and four months ago. In that time we sold our house and bought some beautiful land to live on. We had our first child at the end of 2022, a beautiful baby boy. Our sec life has definitely heated up into something we both enjoy more than ever.
We talk about all this and she is always apologetic and open and willing. It’s a vulnerableness I’ve never seen from her. We’re closer than ever and our life is beautiful. But in November she broke a major boundary despite knowing I was uncomfortable. But that opened up all my old wounds and led me to checking her phone for the first time in two years.
I found the girl she met, and that kissed her contact screenshotted and hidden in her hidden photos. It was added in Feb 2023. I found that she is still Snapchat friends with the girl she made out with and has a three year emotional affair with — the last message was from July of 2022.
This has wrecked me. Nightmares, can’t sleep, and am just in a really unhealthy and anxious state of mind. She says the contact was a relic of sorts and the message was simply one for closure. She’s been doing better with boundaries.
I’m wrecked. I want to trust and enjoy our beautiful life and family. But I’m falling apart and crying everytime I’m alone. I love her and forgive her, but my memories and mind are torchering me. Help.

🌊🔱🏕️Camp Half-Blood🏕️🔱🌊
Hosted by: DogFish
Ad//Campers everywhere. Some were doing archery, some were canoeing on the lake. A man with a Hawaiian shirt was sitting on the porch of the big house with a Diet Coke in hand. beside him was a black haired girl in an orange shirt and a centaur beside him, gazing out onto the sea of demigods, nymphs, and satyrs scattered around, all with the same orange shirt, from one to the other. A semicircle of cabins, all different lay in the center of it all. Welcome to Camp Half-Blood, where children of the Greek Gods and Goddesses go, and kids only live to 20! Where do you fit into this? Come join our Roleplay today! PJO CABINS ONLY (up to 12) THIS IS DATED IN THE FIRST PERCY JACKSON SERIES! - [ ROLES: Cabin 1- OO Cabin 3- OO Cabin 4- U Cabin 5- U Cabin 6 - U Cabin 7 - U Cabin 9 - U Cabin 10 - U Cabin 11 - U Cabin 12 - U Satyrs - OOOOOO Nymphs - OOO Customs - U ]
O=OPEN (role open) T=TAKEN (role taken) U=UNLIMITED (unlimited amount of roles open)
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• CHARACTER MAKING

Hi! DogFish here. I just got into Percy Jackson, uh oh. Anywho, welcome to this RP, again, this is dated in the first Percy Jackson series, PJO (Percy Jackson and the Olympians). Book Characters do exist in this RP but unless anyone volunteers to RP as them, npc them if you’d like them to be involved with your story. Otherwise pretend they don’t exist, and none are cabin councilors unless requested. ‼️IMPORTANT ‼️YOU MUST KNOW THE CABIN NUMBERS THAT ASSOCIATE WITH EACH GOD OR GODDESS! CABIN ONE = ZEUS, CABIN TWO = HERA, CABIN THREE = POSEIDON, CABIN FOUR = DEMETER, CABIN FIVE = ARES, CABIN SIX = ATHENA, CABIN SEVEN = APOLLO, CABIN EIGHT = ARTEMIS, CABIN NINE = HEPHAESTUS, CABIN TEN = APHRODITE, CABIN ELEVEN = HERMES, CABIN TWELVE = DIONYSUS ‼️‼️
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Bio Template:
Name - Age - Cabin/Parent - Other Family - Appearance - Personality - Canon Character Friends - OC Friends - Ship - Backstory? - Nationality/Ancestry/Accent - Nicknames - Aesthetic - Other Languages besides English? - Favorite Camp Activity - Relationship/Opinions On/With Godly Parent - Wish/Dream/Goal - Voiceclaims - Other - MBTI - Name To Call You When We Aren’t Roleplaying :]
Example:
Beckett Colins - 13 - unclaimed (HERMES’ SON) - He did have a mom, and they were very close, as they were poor. - Beckett is a short, slim boy with knotted dark brown hair (that’s been dyed a lighter brown, but not fully so it’s kinda spotty) - He’s pretty shaky, he has major trust issues, and he always looks like he’s on the verge of crying. He’s really (mentally) strong though. He doesn’t cry unless other people do. Or he’s hurt. He’s tough even when he’s hurt though. He’s a bit afraid to speak up or ask for help sometimes, since he’s scared someone will tell him off for it. - Luke and Chris are like his adopted dads or something. No but seriously, an older (probably girl to remind him of his mom) in the Hermes cabin, unclaimed or claimed Hermes child, would be his mothefather figure to cope with being unclaimed. - N/A - N/A - he and his mom were very close, living in an overdue with rent apartment in a rundown neighborhood in NYC, but she died of heart failure when he was 8, and left Beckett to fend for himself on the streets of New York City. Thankfully he got food and things from people who felt bad, he had the cute factor of a child. Then he found CHB :] - His mother was heavily German, and could only speak German. He has a thick German accent especially when he speaks the language (it was his first language, as he learned it before English, which he’s still pretty bad at) - Rahh idk - Homeless. Idk streetwear? - He speaks German :) - uhhhhshajajkwkwksmzmk probably like nothing bc he’s pretty useless at everything tbh. - he wishes he could know him. - to be claimed. - Ben Platt (idk lol I was listening to DEH) - Aaauushhshsjjak idk help the poor boy - ISFP - EXAMPLE_NPC
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• STARTER PROMPT ⚠️

So this RP I’m trying something new ! Everyone will have a starter prompt for every oc you roleplay as, just to give a feel of your overall character, you can give a description of what you look like, a dialouge to show how your oc speaks, or anything else that gives you a little tap into what your oc is like !! You may put this in ‘Other’ in your bio templates or not, the choice is yours, and these can also be used as RP starting prompts. You do have to pm me your starter prompt at some point before you begin roleplaying, so I can also make sure you know how to roleplay, and are exp. ‼️PLEASE WRITE THEM IN 2ND PERSON, USING YOU/YOURS PRNS FOR THE READER‼️
Example with Beckett —
.:You watch from across the amphitheater, at a frail, small looking boy, sitting with a few older Hermes boys, chatting and occasionally laughing. The Apollo cabin was leading a song at the moment, by the campfire, as the Ares cabin shot looks at the Athena cabin. All of which was relatively normal. The boy you were staring at caught your gaze. He gave a quick smile and a shy wave, before glancing back to the older boys and laughing a bit. (Not at you,) :.
Examples for each of my oc’s —
ARLO-
— As you tread through the forest you hear a stick snap in the distance, which earns a small squeak from the perpetrator. He’s a seemingly suntanned boy with dirt patches on his arms and face as he turns your direction. His brown eyes gleam amber in the sunlight. Definitely a son of Apollo, you thought as he froze, pondering if he should approach you. A wide grin broke out onto his face. — ` Heeeeyyyy..! What’re you doin’ out here? ` — He tilted his head. He looked around, awkwardly. “Ignore the uh.. mud..” he gave an awkward laugh as he wiped the dry mud and dirt from his arms and cheeks, waiting for your response.—
RUTHIE-
— You move into the back corner of the Forge, carefully trying to dodge sparks from metal, bracing your ears for the loud clangs and excruciating heat from the fires. You settle yourself into a comfortable standing position as you begin to heat up your sword with a blowtorch, grabbing goggles and placing them on your head. You feel a pair of eyes burning into your side, as you turn your gaze to your left and spot a short-haired girl staring at you with a flat expression. She has goggles pushed upwards on top of her head and gloves on as she looked down at your sword, not bothering to make eye contact. —` You’re doing it wrong. ` — She comments dryly. —
RAIYNA-
— you walk up to the big house, therefore Mr D, tiredly. Your cabin mates had been bickering all night and you were about to report it, but instead of the man in a floral Hawaiian shirt as always, it was a younger girl, shuffling a deck of cards with a bored expression on her face. She glanced over at you and cracked a small smile. — ` Thank gods someone’s here to talk to me. I was getting bored out of my mind. ` —She tilted her head at you, you opened your mouth to speak but she cut you off. — ` If you need my dad, he’s uh,, somewhere, I don’t exactly know where, ‘cause all I heard was ‘in charge’ and I stopped listening, ` — It was almost as if she read your mind. — ` I’m Raina, you? ` — The black-haired girl prompted, setting the cards down. —
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• RULES!
• BE KIND!
• You can have up to 4 oc’s, but you can only rp as one at once
• Talk to DogFish if any questions!
• Make sure you’ve read at least the first series
• No power playing
• Perms are needed for everything
• All Camp Half-Blood rules unless given perms from DOGFISH or any other co-host.
  • Example of this: Cabin counselors must do their cabin chores.
• No power playing.
• Cabin counselors can be decided through cabin vote pre-rp
• No killing
• Auditions required for children on the big three. Well, two at this point. (Sorry children of Hades, we still love you <3) [I get that they existed but let’s keep it simple for now.]
• NO CHILDREN OF HADES 😨(sorry again emos)
• No breaking out into song (yes this has been a problem in past roleplays.)
• ANY OTHER RULES ASK DOGFISH TO ADD!!

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• HOW TO ROLEPLAY!

Dialogue-
Dialogue is probably going to be most of what you type later on in the role-play. Dialogue is when a character is talking, either to themselves or to others. You need marks to represent dialogue though… soo- here’s some ideas :)
“Hi!”
‘ . Hi! . ‘
‘ ‘ Hi! ‘ ‘
/ ‘ / ‘ Hi! ‘ \ ‘ \
‘ -_ Hi! _- ‘
‘ ‘ Hi! ‘ ‘
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Actions-
At the beginning of every good rp- you use an entire PARAGRAPH of this crap. Oh jeez- every rp I do- I start with a paragraph of some actions or a description of what’s going on around me. Actions are basically everything that isn’t dialogue and thoughts in an rp. That means- “the wind blew softly” is an action in roleplaying. So is- “the floorboards creaked loudly” :) here are some action marks that you can use :D
+Action+
:action:
.:. Action .:.
Action
%^ Action ^%
{ + . Action . + }
[ action ]
Out of roleplay -
Basically talking outside of the role-play :)
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ORP
EVERYONE NORMALLY HAS A DISTINCTIVE RP STYLE, AND THIS CAN CHANGE! DOGFISH’S CURRENT RP STYLE IS:
` dialouge `
— actions —
/ORP
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• WHERE TO ROLEPLAY!

On the DogFish Roleplay subreddit!
roleplaysbydogfish
There should be a megathread titled Camp Half-Blood.
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• PERSONAL NOTE + COMMUNICATION!

Hi! I’m DogFish! But you can call me Doggo or Dog! (or Fynn if you know me personally). I go by any pronouns and I really enjoy making new friends! Don’t be afraid to ask any questions! Just because I’m a shark, doesn’t mean I bite! I hope you enjoy this new role-play! If you want more roleplay’s like this, check out my subreddit, roleplaysbydogfish and look at one of the other mega threads! Other roleplay’s I have ready, but haven’t publicly hosted yet include:

• Hogwarts (Harry Potter)
• Just A Game
• OC Hunger Games
• Realistic All-Clan RP (Warriors)
• Magic School
• Afterlife (not GB)
• Atlas Laboratories
• Zodiac Signs
• RuinClan & PearlClan (Warriors)
• Soulmate Bows
• Haunted Orphanage
• Great Xendos (‼️CANCELLED‼️)

Sharky Wishes!! 🦈🫂🐾
— DogFish and my whole team !
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• CAMPERS - BY CABIN

Cabin 1 / Zeus -
tbd
Cabin 2 / Hera -
N-A
Cabin 3 / Poseidon -
tbd
Cabin 4 / Demeter -
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Cabin 5 / Ares -
tbd
Cabin 6 / Athena -
tbd
Cabin 7 / Apollo -

• Arlo Pesci - DogFish

tbd
Cabin 8 / Artemis -
N-A
Cabin 9 / Hephaestus -

• Ruthie Hearthstone - DogFish

tbd
Cabin 10 / Aphrodite -

• Valentine Connor - Lola

tbd
Cabin 11 / Hermes -
tbd
Cabin 12 / Dionysus -

• Raiyna Speals - DogFish

tbd
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• BIO TEMPLATES !

Valentine Conner-
15- APHRODITE- the Conners (humans) - A young looking female with brown eyes and light brown hair, she has pale skin and lots of lashes. Her eyes brows are thin and fluffy and is thin. She has freckles on her face and has a height of 5’5 - She is kind,honest (a little too honest,) but can keep secrets, funny, and brave. - (to be made) -(anything dogfish does) - None 🤩 - Nothing dark, just a happy life until her momma made her leave for camp.- German American (like me), with a bit of a German accent. - Val, valentines, tree. - COQUETTE AND DOWNTOWN GIRL 🎀🖤 -she can speak German..- Canoes & sleep.- SHE LOVES HER GODLY MOMMY ❤️- to make a bouquet by the end of camp with mixed flowers, and to get her phone back. - none yet.. - She likes bows and flowers..-(shown in photo)- Lola 🎀
Raiyna Speals -
14 - Cabin 12/Dionysus - mother was a traveling singer and danceentertainer for the renaissance festival, Castor and Pollux which she has a decent relationship with - she has silky black mid-length hair and purple eyes, which she put contacts in when she was younger, since kids would bully her for the fact, she has pale-ish skin that mostly pales in the wintertime, which is why she loves heat. - She’s very sarcastic and has a good sense of humor, while she can be dry sometimes she’s also very good at acting and lying, from her dad. She likes talking. A lot. She’s very good at manipulating people, but she never really uses that ability much. She’s “cold” to people she doesn’t like, and she’s kinda the definition of “I don’t care what anyone thinks”, but she won’t just go frolicking in public screaming Good For You from Dear Evan Hansen at top lung capacity. She’s very dry sometimes, and extremely stubborn. She holds grudges against people, and she thinks first expressions are the most important. She’s a really supportive friend though. She can get quite disrespectful, and believes she shouldn’t have to follow any rules she doesn’t agree with. Overall She’s pretty laidback, unless passionate about a certain topic. - Percy def, uhh, Castor and Pollux, I dunno she likes to stay by herself mostly. Oh yeah, and Grover, they’re gossip buddies - Arlo, APOLLO CABIN KIDS!! - open, probably won’t get one though - miRP - Her mother had polish decent, she’s mostly American though. - Rai-Rai (Mr D.) Rai (Apollo kids) - Dark Academia - She speaks Spanish, French, German, and Italian (not fluently) because she needed to translate some for her mother while traveling. - Archery, she’s like, too good at archery, mostly because her cabin only really had three people in it and she’s convinced her dad to let her practice extra all the time. She also likes doing stuff with the Apollo cabin in general, since their dads are kinda like the two theatre Gods - “I get it, you’re all— without fathers I..” “I’m not. I love my dad.” She loves Dionysus, mostly because he lets her do things other campers can’t, through guilt tripping <3 also cause he teaches her card games, so she can beat her other friends and brag about it. - To make the Gods stop using them as players in their little game, she feels very strongly about defying the Gods,, for some reason. She knows she’ll never succeed, she just wants (mostly for her friends) the gods to actually notice their children. - some form of Janis Ian/Sarkisian - She likes trying to sneak her dad wine, that’s why she’s the favorite child :] - INTJ - DogFish
Arlo Pesci -
17 - Cabin 7/Apollo - his mom was a marine biologist, they had a really close connection. He had a dad (his mom’s husband) before Apollo, who was a nurse, but y’know, after he found out his wife was pregnant with someone random’s child, he divorced her. His stepdad was an ecologist, who worked at a zoo, so he spent most of his childhood at a zoo, now he loves animals. Until his stepdad got a divorce from his mom for money reasons. He’s the middle child of two mortal sisters. His older sister was born from his dad before Apollo, and his younger sister was born from his stepdad. His older sister’s name is Devyn, and his younger sister’s name is Emma - He has curly dirty blonde hair and suntanned skin, with brown/azure eyes that appear orange in the sun. Sometimes he uses hair gel, but he’s mostly given that up, because nobody really cares about what you look like at CHB. He’s often covered in dirt, and sometimes has leaves and twigs caught in his hair. During capture the flag he puts mud on his arms and stuff, and sometimes he creates tiger patterns on himself from the mud :] - He’s very passionate, and mostly happy, but he gets hurt very easily, emotionally. He cries easily as well. It’s a bad habit of his to cry over every little thing. He isn’t very smart, nor was he ever good at school, but he loves the people he surrounds himself with. He’s extremely gullible. Extrovert for sure. - WWIIILLLLL<3333 - uhh, Raiyna, OPEN!! GIVE THIS BOY FRIENDS! - 💍who’s gonna take this - sort of explained in family - his mom was American, with some unknown European ancestors. He’s caucasian. - Songbird/Sunshine (ship) - PrismCore - he’s not very good at that memory thing, probably not, - archery, as any Apollo child, that’s where he met Raiyna ! - he just wishes he could give his dad a big hug, let the boy hug his dad :[ - he wants everyone around him to be happy - Will Connelly or Jake Ryan Flynn - he’s an overachiever :( OH YEAH, HE PLAYS THE UKULELE, AND BASS GUITAR ! - ESFJ - DogFish :]
Ruthie Hearthstone -
16 - Hephaestus - she has her mom and stepdad back home, they’re inventors, - She’s a pale brunette with red streaks in her short hair. She doesn’t wear glasses, although she needs them. She has short sight. Speaking of her vision, she has hazel doe eyes and bruises/cuts on her arm from her machinery. - She’s very.. pre-season 1 Twilight Sparkle. Like, think smart (she wishes she was an Athena kid) but very socially withdrawn, she doesn’t like interaction but what she does like? Being alone with her inventions and metalwork in the forge or cabin 9 (again, pjo, not hoo.) - nobody. - nobody. - be my only friend whoever’s gonna be this girly’s ship. She may be an awkward introvert but she’ll try to give you science pickup lines and she’ll be wholesome to u :] - rrraaahhhhh uhh.. yeah um.. no? She’s just always been like this, her parents want her to be “normal” and socialize buttt? She disagrees. She ran away (AnnabethCore🤩) - America. RAAAHHH 🦅🦅🦅 - Ru / Ruth. She hates when people call her Ruth, because they assume it’s her real name, when Ruthie is what she was born with. - Academia in general - she speaks French and Russian, she learned Russian for fun and French for school. - Staying in her cabin and making stuff. - She doesn’t really care, though she’d like it if she was a child of Athena. - To be actually seen as not just this weird genius girl and for a person to be accepting of her humor and real personality. - Analise Scarpaci - She doesn’t have that cool fire power or whatever, she wishes she did though (she wishes she could be better a lot, she’s actually really insecure.) - INFP - DogFish

Last night I went over to his house to hangout. We had a really rough week because I found out he went to a strip club with his best friend and didn’t tell me. He then followed one of the strippers on Instagram and liked her photos. We got into a huge fight and it ended with him apologizing for not telling me but that he didn’t do anything or get a lap dance. So yesterday when I went to his house to spend the night, I was still very suspicious so I decided to check his iMessages and Photos on his MacBook when he went to sleep. Strong winds then blew me to his email where I found he has been subscribed to Tinder Plus since February and has even updated his subscription. I also found photos of screenshots of girls profiles in his Recently Deleted folder.
I felt so betrayed. I even found messages from months ago with him telling his friend he might have to break up with me because he “misses being with girls.” I also saw messages of him lying telling his friends that I approved us to have a “female companion” which isn’t true. We have only been together for 6 months but my heart is completely broken. He knew I was monogamous and not okay with any of this.
I woke him up at 2am and until 6am I told him everything I knew and how bad he messed me up. The trust has been completely broken, even if he never physically did anything, the dating profile and the messages and the disrespect he showed me to his friends was horrible. He admitted he’s a “weak man that can’t control his impulses” and cried and said he felt “controlled” by me because I wanted to be monogamous. He kept trying to say he wants to work on things but I never gave him an answer, I didn’t break up with him but when I left, I left his key to his apartment and a special book he got me for Christmas on the table.
Right now I don’t even know what to do or how to feel. I didn’t break up with him but the way I left, I’m unsure he will even try to reach out to me. I blocked him on Insta and FB, but left open other forms of communication just in case. The logical part of me hopes he doesn’t reach out and that’s that, but the other part wants him to beg me on his knees with flowers for forgiveness, or to text me asking for another talk. I’m so stuck. This always happens to me around 6 months in a relationship and I don’t know why I deserve this.
I want to forgive him and try and move forward but that feels disrespectful to my soul. I trusted him. I believed him when he said I felt like family to him and he saw a future with me. I guess the girls are just far better than a stupid boy like me will ever be. He was so amazing, nice, communicative, and caring to my face. I’m so emotionless right now I can’t even cry. I want silence but I also want him to run to me. It feels wrong that I left without ending things but that he still might not chase after me. I feel so alone, and all my friends live far away, he was all I had in this city. :(

Im an Italian boy who will start university in September in Seoul, I know that Korean estate market is really fast but as an European I would like to book something in advance reducing the risks of being without an house once in Seoul. I tried everything, from contacting Airbnb guys for making me a long term contract to Facebook groups.. and in that Facebook group (one girl inside a kakao group chat suggested me to go into this house rent hunting group with more than 20k people) a old woman contacted me under my post searching for an house and she told me she have some rooms between Seoul and incheon and that she can book it in advance for me now for the end of august paying 1 NON refundable rent fee. She gave me the hypothetical adress of the house and she told me that the place is under renovation now.. she told me that it’s “first paid, first served” but she seems kind (or at least not making me rush to pay her for booking in advance immediately) suggesting me to wait for the renovation to end so she can send me the photos of the place after renovations.. but I don’t know, it might be sketchy and risky, plus the old woman never posted an house announcements in no groups and I can’t find her online (so I think she is not even in a rental agency but i didn’t asked) , she just told me she have some rooms around Seoul and incheon and that’s it..
What should I do? Should I trust her or not? How to check if she’s legit? How to prevent the scam?