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Simple Friendship Band Craft for Preschoolers
2024.06.05 12:08 hellopriyasharma Simple Friendship Band Craft for Preschoolers
 | Creating friendship band craft for preschoolers is a vibrant activity that combines fun, learning, and the celebration of friendship in one creative package. In addition to helping young learners develop their fine motor skills, this exercise emphasizes the value of friendships in life by introducing them to the fundamental idea of giving and sharing. Designed with toddlers in mind, this book offers a thorough tutorial on how to make meaningful friendship bands that are easy enough to be fun and educational at the same time. submitted by hellopriyasharma to u/hellopriyasharma [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/1ni4ktc49q4d1.jpg?width=1152&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6435aebbf35b99e94dae25c4527fd87698840f93 The Essence of Friendship BandsFriendship bands are a concrete expression of preschoolers' affection and togetherness, signifying the ties that bind friends together. Involving kids in the creation of these bands can promote a culture of gratitude and generosity at an early age, establishing the foundation for solid, compassionate interpersonal bonds.Preparing Friendship Band CraftGathering Supplies:
Friendship Band Craft for Preschoolers Step-by-Step1. Color Selection and Yarn Preparation:Initiate the activity by discussing the concept of friendship. Ask each child to reflect on their friends' favorite colors, encouraging them to choose yarn that reflects their friend's preferences or personality, promoting thoughtfulness.2. Measuring and Cutting:Teach children how to measure and cut the yarn, emphasizing cooperation and assistance among them to foster a collaborative atmosphere.3. The Crafting Process:
Learning Through PlayIntegrate educational elements subtly within the activity. Discuss concepts such as colors, patterns, counting beads, and the importance of sequences in braiding. This not only enriches the crafting experience but also turns it into a multifaceted learning opportunity.Safety and SupervisionHighlight the importance of adult supervision, especially when using scissors or small beads that could pose a safety risk. This ensures that the crafting experience remains positive and secure for all participants.The Joy of GivingFinalize the exercise with a special gathering where kids can trade friendship bands. This is a critical time to reinforce the social-emotional learning components of the craft by imparting attitudes of kindness and appreciation for one another.Beyond the CraftExpanding the Activity:Consider extending the theme of friendship beyond crafting bands. Encourage children to share stories about their friends, draw pictures of playing together, or even sing songs about friendship, making the concept a recurring theme in your preschool curriculum.Incorporating Technology:While the focus is on hands-on crafting, you can also use technology to document and share these moments with parents. Photographs or videos of children engaged in crafting, shared through a secure platform like through a school parent app, can involve the family in the learning journey and celebrate the children's achievements.ConclusionPreschoolers' friendship band creation is more than just an arts and crafts project; it's a meaningful experience that fosters fine motor skills, creativity, and—above all—the virtues of empathy and friendship. Preschoolers not only take their first steps in creating with this guided activity, but they also learn the value of friendships and the joy of sharing. Teachers and parents build a generation that appreciates relationships, exhibits creativity, and treasures the small but meaningful act of creating and exchanging a sign of friendship by cultivating these experiences. |
2024.06.05 07:25 elafey I’ve had sunburn for over 2 years now and it won’t go away
On April 2022, I went swimming with my family. It was 9am and the sun was so hot already (I swam for 2hrs). I didn’t wear any sunscreen at the time because I thought if I had just stayed under the shade of trees, I wouldn’t get sunburn (I did). The next day when we got home, my arms started looking red and had this stinging feeling whenever I touched it or when I showered. This went on for about 2 weeks. After a few months, I’ve noticed that it wasn’t blending with my original (?) skintone, so now it looks like I have 2 skintones. It’s June 2024 and it’s still the same. This caused me to become insecure when wearing sleeveless tops or even tops with short sleeves because the line between my skin that wasn’t affected and the skin that got sunburn is clearly visible. I’m currently using a whitening soap but I barely see any changes. How do I get rid of this?
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2024.06.05 07:15 clarahugszombies The Strange Disappearance of Branson Perry that still haunts the community of Skidmore, Missouri.
 | 𝐖𝐢𝐤𝐢𝐩𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚 𝐀𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐥𝐞 ^ submitted by clarahugszombies to UnsolvedMysteries [link] [comments] In the small town of Skidmore, Missouri, where the population is just around 300, the strange disappearance of 20 year old Branson Perry has haunted the community for years. His disappearance follows the high-profile murders of Wendy Gillenwater and Bobby Jo Stinnett, who had her baby cut from her womb. Eerily enough, Branson and Stinnett are related. 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧’𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 Born on Feb. 24, 1981, Branson Kayne Perry was raised in Missouri and graduated from Nodaway-Holt High School in 1999. After working as a roofer for some time, he lost his job and decided to help with a traveling petting zoo as he looked for another occupation. Branson’s parents were divorced as of November of 2000, he lived with his father, Bob Perry, at 304 West Oak Street. Although Branson suffered from tachycardia, which made his heart race, he was quite active. He had a black belt in hapkido and enjoyed lifting weights. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐝 On April 7, 2001, Branson Perry visited his neighbor Jason Biermann who allegedly gave him an unidentified drug. Branson responded by stripping naked and dancing around Biermann’s home. He then shaved off his pubic hair and “participated in sexual activity” with Biermann. Once Branson sobered up, he became humiliated. So, he explained the situation to his father — who was furious. Though he’d always suspected his son was gay, he was enraged at Biermann for drugging and using his son. He even considered “teaching him a lesson”. Although, no confrontation ever took place. 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧’𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 What is known for certain is that Branson and his friend Jena Crawford were cleaning the house before his father returned from a stay at the hospital. Meanwhile, two mechanics were outside replacing Bob Perry’s alternator. Branson suddenly grabbed something from a cabinet and then went outside. Upon returning, he didn’t tell Crawford what it was that he grabbed or why he left. Crawford took a shower after they finished cleaning, and then saw one of the mechanics rifling through a kitchen cabinet. When she asked what he was looking for, he told her that it was nothing and went back outside. Resting upstairs, Crawford looked outside the window at about 3 p.m. She saw Branson leaving the house and called out to him, asking, “Branson, what are you doing?” Perry replied, “I’m going to put away the jumper cables, then run out for a bit. I’ll be back in a few minutes.” Despite several witnesses, Perry vanishes moments later. On April 12, Branson’s grandmother, Jo Ann, stopped by to see Branson and found the home empty, all of the doors had been left open and the radio was still on. Over the next several days, she continuously called Branson but got no answer. She called Rebecca Klino, Branson's mother, and found out she had not talked to Branson either. Bob was eventually discharged from the hospital several days later, and he and Rebecca filed a missing person report with the Nodaway County Sheriff's Office on April 17. Not only was it uncharacteristic of him to be out of touch for so long, but all of his personal belongings were left behind. Foul play was immediately suspected. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡 + 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐈𝐬 𝐉𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐖𝐚𝐲𝐧𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐬? Nodaway County Sheriff Ben Espey began searching for Branson by combing through a 15-mile perimeter of Skidmore. Authorities questioned the community, including his “drug acquaintances” — but they all passed lie detector tests. No one seemed to know what had happened to him. But then finally in 2003, a new possible lead came about. Presbyterian minister and Boy Scouts leader by the name of Jack Wayne Rogers was arrested for unrelated crimes that had nothing to do with Branson. After attempting to perform sex reassignment surgery on a trans woman and failing to stop the bleeding, Jack Wayne Rogers was charged with first-degree assault and practicing medicine without a license. But when authorities searched his belongings, they discovered evidence of even more disturbing crimes on his computer. Not only did they find child pornography, they also came across highly sensitive online posts under usernames such as “BuggerButt.” These posts described the rape, torture, and murder of several men. In some cases, Rogers had even talked about cannibalizing severed genitals. The most shocking post that was made by Jack Wayne Rogers, was about murdering a blonde hitchhiker and burying him in the Ozarks. When questioned about this, Jack Wayne Rogers claimed the post was completely fictional and denied ever meeting Branson. But then police found a turtle claw necklace in Rogers’ car, which was an uncanny resemblance to one of Branson’s necklaces. However, none of this sufficed as hard evidence so Rogers was cleared as a suspect. In 2004, Jack Wayne Rogers was convicted of illegal surgery, assault, child pornography and obscenity. He received a 17-year sentence for assault, seven years for illegal surgery, and 30 years for child pornography and obscenity. But it was never confirmed that he had anything to do with Branson disappearance. Branson’s mother waited and waited for answers and information regarding her son — but she was eventually convinced that Rogers was innocent of abducting him. “In my heart, I don’t believe this suspect is responsible,” she said. Authorities excavated a site in Quitman, Missouri after they got an anonymous tip that Perry’s remains might have been buried there. Unfortunately, nothing of note was found at the site. 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐧’𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 Tragically, Branson’s father died in 2004, and his mother succumbed to melanoma in 2011. But in April of 2019, Nodaway County Sheriff Randy Strong said that authorities won’t give up on solving the case. They will keep searching for answers because justice and closure are needed for the rest of Branson’s family. Before Branson’s mother died, she reserved an empty plot next to her grave for her son, even as authorities continued to search for him. Over 20 years later, Branson’s close family is gone, but others are still demanding answers. |
2024.06.05 06:36 Stroepwavel_ I live with French international students who are dirty asf!
Back in February I (black girl) was fortunate enough to get a room in an apartment my friend had just moved out of. (International student, she went home) I thought I was finally settled, the week before I arrived the landlord had sent someone to clean the entire apartment. When I arrived there were pots, Pans and dishes stacked up on the counter top, the island was stick and the floor was dusty. 4 roommates (White- french)
I spoke to my mom about it and was advised to clean up cause maybe my roommates weren't used to living alone so if they saw me cleaning they'd learn to. I did that for a month, none stop until one night I came home from the library around 1am and the kitchen I'd cleaned up just that morning looked like a mess, stuff on the counters and water everywhere - not proud of myself but I did lose it and went knocking on everyone's doors asking them if it was theirs, the person responsible went out and fixed it.
At this point I was demoralized and kind of just decided to focus on school. The apartment only got worse and finally there was a huge blowup in our groupchat when I mentioned again the state of the apartment, the roommates said I was the problem because since I moved in, I expected them to have a sense of cleanliness according to my standards but they didn't want to, they claimed they were clean and that I was being delusional.
I suggested we have a cleaning schedule and was told that everyone in the apartment is an adult and can clean for themselves when they need. Cleaning schedules are for children. I suggested a cleaning lady, one of the roommates said that they can't agree morally for someone to come and clean the apartment because it's morally wrong, whilst the two others stated that it's too expensive to spend 30 dollars a month each for someone to come and clean the apartment twice a week.
I mentioned the following : - if you spill something on the floor, mop it up/broom it up and throw it in the bin - if you chop raw materials throw them into a small packet and then the bin, - if you're cooking, open the window - When you're done in the bathroom, dry the floor - once a week make sure the toilet is clean.
These were too ridiculous for them, and then one of the French kids who was apparently a very avid recycler spoke up and said that when throwing away things, the roommates should separate the plastics from the rubbish to which everyone quickly agreed and promptly did. (Tones of disrespect? Yes)
Time goes on and ultimately I stop spending as much time in the apartment, I shower at univeristy majority of the time - only using the at home bathroom when I absolutely NEED to, I bought toilet seat covers in case I EVER need the bathroom and can't hold it the hour it takes to get to campus.
And I ultimately start eating out all the time.
The landlord came this past week to show the apartment to a potential new roommate cause one of the French people moved out, and he was shocked and disgusted.
We have a pile of pads in the bathroom from February - March in the bathroom bin. We have some kind of mold growing on the shower curtain and overall this place is disgusting.
Funny thing is, if you see my apartment mates outside of this apartment you'd be shocked at how "clean" they present themselves to be.
Be prepared, pictures are from a week ago, when the landlord was about to force a cleaning lady on us (I didn't disagree) , one of the roommates cleaned up the kitchen counters and presented it as "clean apartment" yet the bathrooms and everything are still filthy.
Fyi: before anyone comes for me, I gave up cleaning the apartment and stopped existing within it other than sleeping, however! I've bought copious amounts of bleach and regularly clean the "girls bathroom" toilet bowl (not the entire toilet or the seat because I've found pubes on it, I've found pee and even some kind of sludge. If they want to live in filth let it be, but I won't catch an infection from the toilet water.)
Pictures taken Wednesday last week, yes that is chicken on the cutting board, the one big roommate left it out for 4 days.
Apartment set up: 5 bedrooms, two and a half bathrooms
Living arrangement: February: 2 boys, 3 girls March: 3 girls , 1 boy April: 4 girls, 1 boy May: 4 girls, 1 boy June: 3 girls, 1 boy
The boy has his own full bathroom and he has also taken the liberty of taking over the half bathroom only for his shaving purposes. There is now always specs of hair in our living room.
All the girls share one bathroom.
P.s. since I told them I wouldn't stand with them in complaint against the landlord they've started touching my food in the fridge, destroying my food stuffs. I called them racist because over these past 4 months they've constantly undermined me, have been passive aggressive towards me, never listened and dismissed all concerns yet only listened to each other (white) and constantly stated each other were "right" in any and all conversations. They've made me the "maid" of the household and when I stopped playing along they continued to be passive aggressive and overall filthy.
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I spoke to my mom about it and was advised to clean up cause maybe my roommates weren't used to living alone so if they saw me cleaning they'd learn to. I did that for a month, none stop until one night I came home from the library around 1am and the kitchen I'd cleaned up just that morning looked like a mess, stuff on the counters and water everywhere - not proud of myself but I did lose it and went knocking on everyone's doors asking them if it was theirs, the person responsible went out and fixed it.
At this point I was demoralized and kind of just decided to focus on school. The apartment only got worse and finally there was a huge blowup in our groupchat when I mentioned again the state of the apartment, the roommates said I was the problem because since I moved in, I expected them to have a sense of cleanliness according to my standards but they didn't want to, they claimed they were clean and that I was being delusional.
I suggested we have a cleaning schedule and was told that everyone in the apartment is an adult and can clean for themselves when they need. Cleaning schedules are for children. I suggested a cleaning lady, one of the roommates said that they can't agree morally for someone to come and clean the apartment because it's morally wrong, whilst the two others stated that it's too expensive to spend 30 dollars a month each for someone to come and clean the apartment twice a week.
I mentioned the following : - if you spill something on the floor, mop it up/broom it up and throw it in the bin - if you chop raw materials throw them into a small packet and then the bin, - if you're cooking, open the window - When you're done in the bathroom, dry the floor - once a week make sure the toilet is clean.
These were too ridiculous for them, and then one of the French kids who was apparently a very avid recycler spoke up and said that when throwing away things, the roommates should separate the plastics from the rubbish to which everyone quickly agreed and promptly did. (Tones of disrespect? Yes)
Time goes on and ultimately I stop spending as much time in the apartment, I shower at univeristy majority of the time - only using the at home bathroom when I absolutely NEED to, I bought toilet seat covers in case I EVER need the bathroom and can't hold it the hour it takes to get to campus.
And I ultimately start eating out all the time.
The landlord came this past week to show the apartment to a potential new roommate cause one of the French people moved out, and he was shocked and disgusted.
We have a pile of pads in the bathroom from February - March in the bathroom bin. We have some kind of mold growing on the shower curtain and overall this place is disgusting.
Funny thing is, if you see my apartment mates outside of this apartment you'd be shocked at how "clean" they present themselves to be.
Be prepared, pictures are from a week ago, when the landlord was about to force a cleaning lady on us (I didn't disagree) , one of the roommates cleaned up the kitchen counters and presented it as "clean apartment" yet the bathrooms and everything are still filthy.
Fyi: before anyone comes for me, I gave up cleaning the apartment and stopped existing within it other than sleeping, however! I've bought copious amounts of bleach and regularly clean the "girls bathroom" toilet bowl (not the entire toilet or the seat because I've found pubes on it, I've found pee and even some kind of sludge. If they want to live in filth let it be, but I won't catch an infection from the toilet water.)
Pictures taken Wednesday last week, yes that is chicken on the cutting board, the one big roommate left it out for 4 days.
Apartment set up: 5 bedrooms, two and a half bathrooms
Living arrangement: February: 2 boys, 3 girls March: 3 girls , 1 boy April: 4 girls, 1 boy May: 4 girls, 1 boy June: 3 girls, 1 boy
The boy has his own full bathroom and he has also taken the liberty of taking over the half bathroom only for his shaving purposes. There is now always specs of hair in our living room.
All the girls share one bathroom.
P.s. since I told them I wouldn't stand with them in complaint against the landlord they've started touching my food in the fridge, destroying my food stuffs. I called them racist because over these past 4 months they've constantly undermined me, have been passive aggressive towards me, never listened and dismissed all concerns yet only listened to each other (white) and constantly stated each other were "right" in any and all conversations. They've made me the "maid" of the household and when I stopped playing along they continued to be passive aggressive and overall filthy.
2024.06.05 06:20 adulting4kids Writing Contests: Upcoming December/January Deadlines
If this content is something you want to see more of, comments below will be taken into consideration as we prepare to start finding the open submissions for a variety of writing and artwork competitions. If it's of no interest, let us know that too! This is YOUR subreddit!
Seeking Submissions for Poetry Chapbook Prize
Deadline: December 31, 2023
The winner of The Headlight Review’s 2024 Poetry Chapbook Prize Contest will receive publication (a perfectly bound book with a full color or black/white cover), an award of $500, and 25 copies of the book. A list of finalists will be announced sixty days after the close of submissions. All manuscripts will be judged blindly. The finalists who make it through the first round will be judged by esteemed poet Valerie A. Smith.
2024 Press 53 Award for Short Fiction
Deadline: December 31, 2023
The 2024 Press 53 Award for Short Fiction will be awarded to an outstanding, unpublished collection of short stories. Reading Fee: $30. Award: $1,000 cash advance, publication, and 53 copies. To Enter: Submit online with Submittable or by mail from September 1–December 31, 2023. Press 53 short fiction editor Claire V. Foxx will serve as the only judge. Winner and finalists announced by May 1, 2024; advance review copies sent to major reviewers and outlets; publication in May 2025.
Complete details at www.Press53.com/award-for-short-fiction.
After Happy Hour Contest (Theme: Animals)
Deadline: February 15, 2024
For this year’s contest, we want submitters to go wild—or domesticated, or sentient, or whatever other form of beastly you’re feeling. Submissions should feature some kind of animal that is integral to the story. Note that this doesn’t need to be a real animal—it could be a cryptid, a hybrid, or a human-to-animal transformation. Each $10 contest entry covers 1 short story, creative nonfiction piece, or suite, or up to 3 individual poems or flash prose pieces. Winners receive publication and a cash prize determined as a percentage of total entry fees (full details are on our website).
The swamp pink Prizes in Fiction, Nonfiction, & Poetry
Deadline: January 31, 2024
Formerly known as the Crazyhorse Prizes, the swamp pink Prizes award $2,000 and publication to a story, essay, and poem. From January 1 to 31, submit a story or essay of up to 25 pages or a set of 1–3 poems via Submittable. Judges for each genre can be viewed on our website. The entry fee is $20; all entries will be considered for publication. swamppink.submittable.com/submit
2024 Bill Hickok Humor Award Deadline: February 28, 2024
I-70 Review announces the Bill Hickok Humor Award for a poem. The winner receives $1,000, and the poem will appear in I-70 Review 2024. Submit one to three poems with a $15 entry fee to i70review@gmail.com. Reading period: Jan 1 to Feb 28. No submissions before January 1. Submissions will be eligible for publication in I-70 Review. The judge is Alice Friman.
For more info visit i70review.fieldinfoserv.com.
The Orison Prizes in Poetry & Fiction
Deadline: April 4, 2024
The 2024 Orison Prizes in Poetry & Fiction offer $1,500 and publication by Orison Books for a full-length manuscript in each genre. Judges: Ellen Bass (poetry), Kaveh Akbar (fiction). Entry fee: $25. Entry period: December 1, 2023–April 1, 2024. For complete guidelines visit orisonbooks.com/submissions.
2024 Colorado Prize for Poetry
$2,500 honorarium and book publication: Submit book-length collection of poems to the 2024 Colorado Prize for Poetry by January 14, 2024 (we will observe a 5-day grace period). $25 reading fee (add $3 to submit online) includes subscription to Colorado Review. Final judge is Brenda Shaughnessy; friends and students (current or former) of the judge are not eligible to compete, nor are Colorado State University employees, students, or alumni. Complete guidelines at coloradoprize.colostate.edu or Colorado Prize for Poetry, Center for Literary Publishing, 9105 Campus Delivery, Colorado State University, Fort Collins, CO 80523-9105.
Burnside Review Press Contest
Manuscripts of 50-100 pages of poetry will be accepted until December 31, 2023. Arda Collins will judge. The winning book will be published by Burnside Review Press in 2025. The author will receive a $1,000 prize, plus ten copies of the book. A $25 entry fee must be paid at the time of submission. Contest entrants will receive one Burnside Review Press title. The editors may select an additional manuscript from the submission pool for publication.
Visit www.burnsidereview.org for complete guidelines.
2024 William Saroyan International Prize for Writing
Deadline: January 31, 2024
Submissions are now being accepted for the 11th Saroyan Prize. The awards, co-sponsored by Stanford Libraries and the William Saroyan Foundation, are intended to encourage new or emerging writers and honor the Saroyan legacy of originality, vitality, and stylistic innovation. Two prizes of $5,000 each are given for works of fiction and nonfiction. Writers who have published four books or more are ineligible. Submit five copies of your work published between January 1, 2022, and December 31, 2023, with a $50 entry fee by January 31, 2024. Visit our website for complete eligibility and submission details: saroyanprize.sites.stanford.edu.
Interim Poetics: The Test Site Poetry Prize Deadline: December 15, 2023
Interim will choose two winning books for the series—one title publicized as the winner of The Test Site Poetry Series and the other as the Betsy Joiner Flanagan Award in Poetry. Both winners will receive a $1,000 award and their books will be published by the University of Nevada Press. Submit by December 15, 2023. www.interimpoetics.org/test-site-poetry-series
Driftwood Press In-House Contests + Additional Submission Opportunities
Deadline: January 15, 2024 (In-House Contests)
Driftwood Press is happy to share a plethora of submission opportunities for writers and artists! Our In-House Short Fiction & Poem Contests, in which every work submitted is considered for publication as winner or runner-up, is ending soon! For our yearly print anthology, we are looking for poems, short stories, comics, and visual art that will wow our readers with innovative language and strong craft. We are a paying market, and our published writers also get to take part in bespoke interviews about their work! Driftwood is also on the hunt for amazing book-length titles to grow our catalogue, so if you have a novella, poetry collection, comic collection, or graphic novel manuscript, we would love to read it! Visit us here for our Submittable page, and we encourage you to follow us on social media (@driftwoodpress) to learn about even more submission opportunities!
The Twin Bill’s Second Annual Baseball Lit Contest
Deadline: December 30, 2023
The Twin Bill, a baseball literary journal, is open for submissions for their annual contest for best baseball fiction, creative nonfiction, and poetry. The winner in each category will receive $100 and an engraved baseball trophy. The runners-up will receive $50 and will be published in our January 31 issue. Each piece will be professionally illustrated. Contest submissions are $10 and will be considered for both the contest and the Opening Day issue. thetwinbill.com/submissions/
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Seeking Submissions for Poetry Chapbook Prize
Deadline: December 31, 2023
The winner of The Headlight Review’s 2024 Poetry Chapbook Prize Contest will receive publication (a perfectly bound book with a full color or black/white cover), an award of $500, and 25 copies of the book. A list of finalists will be announced sixty days after the close of submissions. All manuscripts will be judged blindly. The finalists who make it through the first round will be judged by esteemed poet Valerie A. Smith.
2024 Press 53 Award for Short Fiction
Deadline: December 31, 2023
The 2024 Press 53 Award for Short Fiction will be awarded to an outstanding, unpublished collection of short stories. Reading Fee: $30. Award: $1,000 cash advance, publication, and 53 copies. To Enter: Submit online with Submittable or by mail from September 1–December 31, 2023. Press 53 short fiction editor Claire V. Foxx will serve as the only judge. Winner and finalists announced by May 1, 2024; advance review copies sent to major reviewers and outlets; publication in May 2025.
Complete details at www.Press53.com/award-for-short-fiction.
After Happy Hour Contest (Theme: Animals)
Deadline: February 15, 2024
For this year’s contest, we want submitters to go wild—or domesticated, or sentient, or whatever other form of beastly you’re feeling. Submissions should feature some kind of animal that is integral to the story. Note that this doesn’t need to be a real animal—it could be a cryptid, a hybrid, or a human-to-animal transformation. Each $10 contest entry covers 1 short story, creative nonfiction piece, or suite, or up to 3 individual poems or flash prose pieces. Winners receive publication and a cash prize determined as a percentage of total entry fees (full details are on our website).
The swamp pink Prizes in Fiction, Nonfiction, & Poetry
Deadline: January 31, 2024
Formerly known as the Crazyhorse Prizes, the swamp pink Prizes award $2,000 and publication to a story, essay, and poem. From January 1 to 31, submit a story or essay of up to 25 pages or a set of 1–3 poems via Submittable. Judges for each genre can be viewed on our website. The entry fee is $20; all entries will be considered for publication. swamppink.submittable.com/submit
2024 Bill Hickok Humor Award Deadline: February 28, 2024
I-70 Review announces the Bill Hickok Humor Award for a poem. The winner receives $1,000, and the poem will appear in I-70 Review 2024. Submit one to three poems with a $15 entry fee to i70review@gmail.com. Reading period: Jan 1 to Feb 28. No submissions before January 1. Submissions will be eligible for publication in I-70 Review. The judge is Alice Friman.
For more info visit i70review.fieldinfoserv.com.
The Orison Prizes in Poetry & Fiction
Deadline: April 4, 2024
The 2024 Orison Prizes in Poetry & Fiction offer $1,500 and publication by Orison Books for a full-length manuscript in each genre. Judges: Ellen Bass (poetry), Kaveh Akbar (fiction). Entry fee: $25. Entry period: December 1, 2023–April 1, 2024. For complete guidelines visit orisonbooks.com/submissions.
2024 Colorado Prize for Poetry
$2,500 honorarium and book publication: Submit book-length collection of poems to the 2024 Colorado Prize for Poetry by January 14, 2024 (we will observe a 5-day grace period). $25 reading fee (add $3 to submit online) includes subscription to Colorado Review. Final judge is Brenda Shaughnessy; friends and students (current or former) of the judge are not eligible to compete, nor are Colorado State University employees, students, or alumni. Complete guidelines at coloradoprize.colostate.edu or Colorado Prize for Poetry, Center for Literary Publishing, 9105 Campus Delivery, Colorado State University, Fort Collins, CO 80523-9105.
Burnside Review Press Contest
Manuscripts of 50-100 pages of poetry will be accepted until December 31, 2023. Arda Collins will judge. The winning book will be published by Burnside Review Press in 2025. The author will receive a $1,000 prize, plus ten copies of the book. A $25 entry fee must be paid at the time of submission. Contest entrants will receive one Burnside Review Press title. The editors may select an additional manuscript from the submission pool for publication.
Visit www.burnsidereview.org for complete guidelines.
2024 William Saroyan International Prize for Writing
Deadline: January 31, 2024
Submissions are now being accepted for the 11th Saroyan Prize. The awards, co-sponsored by Stanford Libraries and the William Saroyan Foundation, are intended to encourage new or emerging writers and honor the Saroyan legacy of originality, vitality, and stylistic innovation. Two prizes of $5,000 each are given for works of fiction and nonfiction. Writers who have published four books or more are ineligible. Submit five copies of your work published between January 1, 2022, and December 31, 2023, with a $50 entry fee by January 31, 2024. Visit our website for complete eligibility and submission details: saroyanprize.sites.stanford.edu.
Interim Poetics: The Test Site Poetry Prize Deadline: December 15, 2023
Interim will choose two winning books for the series—one title publicized as the winner of The Test Site Poetry Series and the other as the Betsy Joiner Flanagan Award in Poetry. Both winners will receive a $1,000 award and their books will be published by the University of Nevada Press. Submit by December 15, 2023. www.interimpoetics.org/test-site-poetry-series
Driftwood Press In-House Contests + Additional Submission Opportunities
Deadline: January 15, 2024 (In-House Contests)
Driftwood Press is happy to share a plethora of submission opportunities for writers and artists! Our In-House Short Fiction & Poem Contests, in which every work submitted is considered for publication as winner or runner-up, is ending soon! For our yearly print anthology, we are looking for poems, short stories, comics, and visual art that will wow our readers with innovative language and strong craft. We are a paying market, and our published writers also get to take part in bespoke interviews about their work! Driftwood is also on the hunt for amazing book-length titles to grow our catalogue, so if you have a novella, poetry collection, comic collection, or graphic novel manuscript, we would love to read it! Visit us here for our Submittable page, and we encourage you to follow us on social media (@driftwoodpress) to learn about even more submission opportunities!
The Twin Bill’s Second Annual Baseball Lit Contest
Deadline: December 30, 2023
The Twin Bill, a baseball literary journal, is open for submissions for their annual contest for best baseball fiction, creative nonfiction, and poetry. The winner in each category will receive $100 and an engraved baseball trophy. The runners-up will receive $50 and will be published in our January 31 issue. Each piece will be professionally illustrated. Contest submissions are $10 and will be considered for both the contest and the Opening Day issue. thetwinbill.com/submissions/
2024.06.05 05:12 Serina_L Exploring the Best Toys for Different Age Groups
Choosing the right toys for children is crucial to their development and overall happiness. It's essential to pick toys that not only entertain but also stimulate learning and growth. In this guide, we will delve into selecting the perfect toys for different age groups, helping you navigate the world of kids toys effortlessly.
Understanding Age-Appropriate Toys
Children of various age groups have specific needs and developmental milestones. By selecting toys that cater to their stage of development, you can provide a nurturing environment that fosters creativity, problem-solving skills, and fine motor development.
Infants (0-12 Months)
For infants, sensory exploration is key. Brightly colored toys, soft block sets, and pull-along toys can engage their senses and encourage cognitive development. Wooden toys, such as the classic PinToy range, are not only safe but also eco-friendly and stimulate tactile exploration.
Toddlers (1-3 Years)
Toddlers are full of energy and curiosity. Opt for toys that promote physical activity and imaginative play. Play kitchens, shape sorters, and building blocks are great choices. Pull-along toys can aid in developing their coordination and balance skills.
Preschoolers (3-5 Years)
Preschoolers thrive on interactive play. Look for toys that encourage pretend play, such as dollhouses, dress-up costumes, and train sets. Puzzles and board games are also excellent for honing problem-solving abilities and fostering social skills.
The Importance of Educational Toys
When choosing toys for kids, aim for a balance between fun and education. Educational toys can enhance cognitive development, language skills, and creativity. Toys that involve building, sorting, and matching are particularly beneficial for young minds.
Benefits of Wooden Toys
Wooden toys have a timeless appeal and offer numerous benefits. They are durable, environmentally friendly, and free from harmful chemicals. Brands like PinToy are known for their high-quality wooden toys that promote imaginative play and sensory exploration.
Interactive Toys for All Ages
Interactive toys are a hit with children of all age groups. From musical instruments to interactive learning tablets, these toys engage kids and keep them entertained while enhancing their cognitive abilities and creativity.
Tips for Choosing the Right Toys
When selecting toys for children, consider their interests, abilities, and safety. Avoid toys with small parts that can pose a choking hazard and opt for toys that are age-appropriate and encourage open-ended play.
The Role of Pull-Along Toys
Pull-along toys are not only fun but also aid in developing a child's gross motor skills and coordination. These toys, whether in the form of animals, cars, or shapes, can provide hours of entertainment while promoting physical activity.
Adapting Toys to Different Ages
Sometimes, a simple toy can be adapted to suit various age groups. For example, building blocks can be used for stacking by infants, sorting by toddlers, and building elaborate structures by preschoolers. Flexibility in toy usage allows for extended playtime and exploration.
Crafting a Playful Environment
By carefully selecting toys that cater to different age groups, you can create a playful environment that nurtures creativity and learning. Remember to rotate toys regularly to keep children engaged and encourage new ways of play.
Investing in Quality Toys
Quality matters when it comes to choosing toys for children. Investing in durable, well-crafted toys like wooden toys from brands like PinToy ensures that they stand the test of time and provide endless hours of entertainment and enrichment.
Enhancing Playtime for Every Child
Choosing the right toys for different age groups is a rewarding experience that shapes a child's development and imagination. By incorporating a variety of toys that stimulate learning, creativity, and social interaction, you can create a vibrant play environment that delights children of all ages.
Original Article https://newbornurseryfurniture.com/blogs/nursery-furniture-1/exploring-the-best-toys-for-different-age-groups
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Understanding Age-Appropriate Toys
Children of various age groups have specific needs and developmental milestones. By selecting toys that cater to their stage of development, you can provide a nurturing environment that fosters creativity, problem-solving skills, and fine motor development.
Infants (0-12 Months)
For infants, sensory exploration is key. Brightly colored toys, soft block sets, and pull-along toys can engage their senses and encourage cognitive development. Wooden toys, such as the classic PinToy range, are not only safe but also eco-friendly and stimulate tactile exploration.
Toddlers (1-3 Years)
Toddlers are full of energy and curiosity. Opt for toys that promote physical activity and imaginative play. Play kitchens, shape sorters, and building blocks are great choices. Pull-along toys can aid in developing their coordination and balance skills.
Preschoolers (3-5 Years)
Preschoolers thrive on interactive play. Look for toys that encourage pretend play, such as dollhouses, dress-up costumes, and train sets. Puzzles and board games are also excellent for honing problem-solving abilities and fostering social skills.
The Importance of Educational Toys
When choosing toys for kids, aim for a balance between fun and education. Educational toys can enhance cognitive development, language skills, and creativity. Toys that involve building, sorting, and matching are particularly beneficial for young minds.
Benefits of Wooden Toys
Wooden toys have a timeless appeal and offer numerous benefits. They are durable, environmentally friendly, and free from harmful chemicals. Brands like PinToy are known for their high-quality wooden toys that promote imaginative play and sensory exploration.
Interactive Toys for All Ages
Interactive toys are a hit with children of all age groups. From musical instruments to interactive learning tablets, these toys engage kids and keep them entertained while enhancing their cognitive abilities and creativity.
Tips for Choosing the Right Toys
When selecting toys for children, consider their interests, abilities, and safety. Avoid toys with small parts that can pose a choking hazard and opt for toys that are age-appropriate and encourage open-ended play.
The Role of Pull-Along Toys
Pull-along toys are not only fun but also aid in developing a child's gross motor skills and coordination. These toys, whether in the form of animals, cars, or shapes, can provide hours of entertainment while promoting physical activity.
Adapting Toys to Different Ages
Sometimes, a simple toy can be adapted to suit various age groups. For example, building blocks can be used for stacking by infants, sorting by toddlers, and building elaborate structures by preschoolers. Flexibility in toy usage allows for extended playtime and exploration.
Crafting a Playful Environment
By carefully selecting toys that cater to different age groups, you can create a playful environment that nurtures creativity and learning. Remember to rotate toys regularly to keep children engaged and encourage new ways of play.
Investing in Quality Toys
Quality matters when it comes to choosing toys for children. Investing in durable, well-crafted toys like wooden toys from brands like PinToy ensures that they stand the test of time and provide endless hours of entertainment and enrichment.
Enhancing Playtime for Every Child
Choosing the right toys for different age groups is a rewarding experience that shapes a child's development and imagination. By incorporating a variety of toys that stimulate learning, creativity, and social interaction, you can create a vibrant play environment that delights children of all ages.
Original Article https://newbornurseryfurniture.com/blogs/nursery-furniture-1/exploring-the-best-toys-for-different-age-groups
2024.06.05 05:07 Latter-Hippo-2612 lost 2 jobs in 3 months 🙃
hi guys-could use some encouragement as i’m feeling super down at the moment. back in february of this year i started with a new NF after my previous NK of 2 years started preschool. i was with this new family for ~2 months (feb-april) before MB told me she couldn’t handle being a working mother (high stress job) and felt the best decision would be to be a stay at home mom. i was of course stressed because i had about weeks notice to find a new job, i felt blindsided, etc. typical feelings that come w being out of a job suddenly i guess lol. thankfully i was able to find a new family quickly and all seemed perfect-short commute, great hours, sweet MB and DB. today as my shift was almost over both parents came out of their office (they both WFH) and i kid you not the exact same scenario played out. MB told me (in short) that she hasn’t been doing well and has decided to leave her job to be with the baby.
i absolutely understand prioritizing one’s mental health and i can’t be upset with them because everyone is doing what’s best for them and their families. my mind is just really scattered at the moment with how unstable the past few months have been. thanks so much for hearing me out.
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i absolutely understand prioritizing one’s mental health and i can’t be upset with them because everyone is doing what’s best for them and their families. my mind is just really scattered at the moment with how unstable the past few months have been. thanks so much for hearing me out.
2024.06.05 04:25 Shift_change27 Not (too?) Whacky Airship Design: High carrying capacity, aerodynamic, omni directional maneuverability, etc.
Just a shower thought and why isn’t this a thing?
A disc (or donut?) shaped airship with rotating/pivoting propellors that would assist in velocity and minimize drag as they help propel air along the surface. The unique designs allows for more surface area for personnel/work space.
Compressors would assist in lowering the airship, increasing the density of the helium or hydrogen used for buoyancy.
The top surface of the airship would be clad in solar-shingles or some light-weight photovoltaic. Wind siphoning turbines could be used throughout for passive energy absorption/conversion.
I feel like drones have had such a meteoric development, and rightly so, but surely there’s a way to combine that new great technology with some new-gen wind turbines, photvaltaics on a craft that provides its own lift, tons of surface area, is fast (relatively), and can land anywhere.
Is there something here I’m missing?
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A disc (or donut?) shaped airship with rotating/pivoting propellors that would assist in velocity and minimize drag as they help propel air along the surface. The unique designs allows for more surface area for personnel/work space.
Compressors would assist in lowering the airship, increasing the density of the helium or hydrogen used for buoyancy.
The top surface of the airship would be clad in solar-shingles or some light-weight photovoltaic. Wind siphoning turbines could be used throughout for passive energy absorption/conversion.
I feel like drones have had such a meteoric development, and rightly so, but surely there’s a way to combine that new great technology with some new-gen wind turbines, photvaltaics on a craft that provides its own lift, tons of surface area, is fast (relatively), and can land anywhere.
Is there something here I’m missing?
2024.06.05 03:24 _chixki How do I survive a mentally abusive household as a 15 year old girl with no hope for her future getting any better..
[Tw: mentions of drugs and eating disorders] My dad has been unemployed for almost 3 years having unsteady jobs because he has been losing them. Because of this my mom has been the one to take care of 5 people financially. Her, my two brothers, me (oldest), and my dad. Him being unemployed is already iffy but the thing is he forces my mother to pay for all his expenses which include gas, his shopping addiction, and the pointless “projects“ he starts. Because of our poverty, he can't fuel his shopping addiction as much so he developed a huge hoarding addiction ( included hoarding animals) and would constantly dumpster dive and bring in anything he found intriguing (which was alot of broken useless stuff). He was constantly littering our first apartment to the point that it was so dirty and disgusting. The apartment was so unkept and cluttered you had to do parkour on the cluttered stuff in order to even walk through the living room which caused our whole family into a depression, it was classified as a level 5 hoarding. (Before you say, why did you not clean up? He would constantly make messes or whenever id try to throw away anything he would go back into the dumpster and bring it back inside. It was overwhelming). Even before this he would still punch holes into walls and break what we liked but was still working and cleaned the house everyday. I believe his behavior changed because of his use of m3th. He also believed that my mom's family put “witch craft“ on him. So he blamed all of his wrong doings and bad luck on witch craft. Fast foward we ended up getting evicted from our apartment because of my mom not paying rent on time and because of the state the apartment was in, caused us to be homeless. We had to stay in a hotel for a couple of weeks until my mom finally called a domestic violence hotline because she saw a poster about it at her job and recognized the signs (my dad was screaming at my mom through the phone saying he was going to kill her before she went). Even though me and my two brothers plus my mom were placed in a shelter she still decided to meet up with my dad at a walmart. Despite me and my oldest brothers cries not to meet up with him she still did and he later on followed our lyft to the shelter which caused me to have a panic attack and she told me i should just kill myself. Since my dad knew where we were staying he would constantly force my mom to sneak out to see him and if not he would blackmail her by threatening on telling our shelter manager we were a scam to get us kicked out. He refused to stay in a homeless shelter himself because he was embarassed so my mom had to pay 60+ dollars a day and get him motels whenever he wanted to shower. The shelter offers a housing program so after 2 months of staying in the shelter my dad had taken around 10k from my mom. We got our apartment 2 weeks ago and he is already hoarding and still won't get a job. My home life has greatly impacted my mental health and gave me a toxic look on how love looks like causing me to have anxious attachment styles with my ex partner and taking disresect because its the love I think I deserve. Im missing out on a alot of highschool credits because of my grades declining. I have developed anorexia because I want my parents to see my suffering and feel validation, and as well to feel i have control over one thing in my life. My anorexia made me use my dads m3th to make me lose weight and also hoping it would kill me in the end which ive gladly stopped. My life has been like this since middle school and I want it to all end. I had hopes when speaking to the shelter therapist. Believing my mom would move forward and leave my dad for good because there were time she would block him and say she is done only to go back to him in the end. What should I do? I truly believe my life is ruined.
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2024.06.05 03:23 witchywildwoman Help with Midland credit collections.
I was contacted today by Midland credit regarding a old PayPal/synchrony bank bill for just over 2k. I was informed that a prior letter had been mailed to me (never got but I did admit the RV park handy man sometimes looses my mail) I did acknowledge the debt verbally and am willing to work out a payment plan BUT they refuse to send me a debt verification letter!!!! Supposedly I got a email April 3rd and according to them read it (wtf that's creepy they can see if I read my email) I double checked my email and did find one from MGM in my spam folder saying just "welcome to the MGM family" but it's showing as unread and I haven't opened it yet (it's possible I received another one and clicked it before deleting it, April was a crazy month for me.) They are threatening me with a local lawyer and taking it before a judge if I don't make a payment plan but I'm leery about the fact they won't send a physical letter......They supposedly sent another email (I do have 3 new emails from them after speaking with a very pissy guy then his much nicer manager) but I requested a letter repeatedly and even stretched the truth saying my debt advisor wanted a pysical copy. Not that they could get anything 🙄, I'm self employed and in debt up to my eyeballs thanks to two rounds of COVID over a 8 month span (hard to do craft shows if you hacking up a lung and can't stay awake.) I own a 27yo RV and a 20yo car 🤣. Can I insist on receiving a letter before starting to make payments? I'm researching my rights but wanted to see if anyone else had delt with this issue. The manager was sweet but I don't trust people 😅, and I know for a fact they just want to get as much money as possible. (I TRIED to work out a payment plan with PayPal, they refused to drop the payments so I couldn't get caught up because of the interest! Paid just over 1k in interest alone on a $1800 amount before I said I wasn't paying anymore, I never was able to even touch the principal.
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2024.06.05 03:20 No-Highlight4824 Did I have a miscarriage
Hi, I really don't know where to go with this other than the ER which is what I'm trying to avoid. Last week maybe a few days longer I started spotting. I'm on NuvaRing but must admit to probably leaving it in longer than usual in order to skip periods. I also wasn't on it from Jan to April due to pharmacy error. When the spotting started I took it that my body was just ready to start my period whether I had the ring in or not so I took it out to let it run it's course. The spotting continued for a week. This past Sunday I noticed I started cramping to the point I wanted to throw up. I NEVER get cramps. Like, I had to message my sister and ask her what period cramps felt like but they went away. Yesterday while at work they started again and my sister gave me Midol and they didn't help. While at home the cramping got worse but it felt like I had to poop (TMI) but my cramps were not like I needed to have a bowel movement but I was having the urge to push like i had to..idk if this makes sense. Anyways I go to the bathroom and about 30 to 40 minutes later nothing is moving but the pain is almost unbearable, because of me pushing there is quite a bit of blood so I get in the shower in hopes the hot water would help. When I got in I had the urge to push again and this sac came out of me and the pain immediately went away. The sac was about 3 inches long and maybe 1.5 inches wide but it had something gray in color in it that was maybe the size of a grape. I freaked out like crying having my husband Google miscarriage images so I could compare them and it looked like one but I can't be 100 certain. I flushed it in the midst of my freak out and am now regretting it. Like, we dont want kids but the moment i thought this was a miscarriage i completely broke down with sadness thinking i caused it. Today I googled decidual cast and seen it has the same effects on the body but it didn't look like one and I also looked into cyst and it didn't look like that either. I took two pregnancy test today but both were negative and my body is achy. I'm still bleeding but nothing bad. I feel awful mentally and don't know what to do. I have a fear of hospitals so it's the last thing I want to do. I'm just wondering if anyone else has went through this and their opinions. I feel crazy for the amount of sadness I'm feeling because I could literally be crying over nothing.
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2024.06.05 02:32 OddPattern6627 It's not going away - piercing bump
I've had this piercing since early April. These bumps are not going away. They itch so bad. I left them alone, and they were doing okay. Then suddenly started back bothering me.
Original titanium jewelry in.
I'm using saline wash again because it keeps trusting. The other method of just a nice shower.
Am I doing something wrong? Will it ever go away? I'm tired of the chronic itch and crust.
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Original titanium jewelry in.
I'm using saline wash again because it keeps trusting. The other method of just a nice shower.
Am I doing something wrong? Will it ever go away? I'm tired of the chronic itch and crust.
2024.06.05 02:11 Sweet-Count2557 The Maldives Weather In July (2023)
 | The Maldives Weather In July (2023) submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] We're considering a trip to the Maldives in July, and we want to know what the weather is like. July marks the beginning of the dry season in the Maldives and temperatures range from 24 to 32 degrees Celsius. July typically has low humidity levels and an average of about 20 days of rainfall. There's also a pleasant sea breeze that makes the heat bearable. Resorts in the Maldives have their own microclimates, and it's important to check the weather for the resort you're staying at. Most resorts offer activities that will help you enjoy the weather, like sunbathing, snorkeling, and diving. If you're looking for something a bit more adventurous, you can take a boat trip to an uninhabited island, go on a fishing expedition, or explore the local islands. There's plenty to do in the Maldives during July, so why not give it a try? Average Temperatures July is a great time of year to visit, and the average temperatures make it even more enjoyable! In the Maldives, the temperatures in July are generally quite warm and comfortable, ranging from an average high of 30°C (86°F) to an average low of 24°C (75°F). This is the perfect weather for a relaxing day out on the beach, or perhaps a day of snorkeling. When packing for a trip to the Maldives in July, it's important to remember to bring sun protection, such as sunscreen, hats, and sunglasses. Additionally, beach safety is always important, so be sure to bring plenty of water and snacks to remain hydrated and energized throughout the day. Considering the warm temperatures and the sunny days, July is an ideal time to visit the Maldives. There are plenty of activities to enjoy and sites to explore, and the weather is perfect for a fun-filled holiday. Humidity Levels With balmy temperatures, the humidity levels in July can be stifling. The high levels of humidity make it difficult to be outside for any extended period of time, which can put a damper on outdoor activities in the Maldives. Luckily, there are several steps that can be taken to remain comfortable in the heat and humidity. Utilizing sun protection, such as a wide-brimmed hat, sunscreen, and sunglasses, is essential for anyone spending time in the sun. Wearing the right clothing can also make a big difference. Lightweight fabrics are best for staying cool, and selecting beachwear with breathable materials is also important. Lastly, keeping hydrated is vital for keeping cool and avoiding dehydration. Visitors to the Maldives in July should be mindful of the humidity levels and take steps to remain comfortable. By utilizing sun protection, wearing the right clothing, and keeping hydrated, travelers can enjoy their trip and make the most of their beach getaways. Rainfall You'll want to be prepared for rain if you're visiting the area in July, so don't forget to bring an umbrella and a rain jacket! The Maldives is known for its beautiful, year-round warm weather, but that doesn't mean it's immune to rain. The monsoons bring heavy rains to the area from May to October, so if you're planning to visit in July, you should expect to see some rain during your stay. The amount of rainfall will depend on the season in which you visit. During the southwest monsoon season, which runs from May to October, rainfall can be quite heavy. In July, you can expect to see an average of 250mm of rain, spread out over an average of 18 days. This is slightly higher than the amount of rain during the northeast monsoon season, which usually runs from November to April. The rain won't stop you from enjoying the beaches and other activities that make the Maldives a popular ecotourism destination. However, you can expect to see more rain in July than in other months, so it's important to be prepared. Make sure to bring a raincoat and umbrella if you're planning a trip to the Maldives in July. Sea Breezes Feel the refreshing sea breezes caress your face as you explore the tropical paradise of the Maldives in July. While the temperatures in the Maldives remain consistent year-round, the sea breezes can be a welcome respite from the heat of the day. Whether you're taking a snorkeling trip to one of the many pristine snorkeling spots or spending the day lounging on the beach, the sea breezes will keep you cool and comfortable. The sea breezes of the Maldives in July are often caused by the monsoon season that runs from May to October. During the summer months, the wind direction is generally from the east and northeast, bringing moist air from the Indian Ocean. These winds are generally light and pleasant, with average wind speeds between 8 and 12 mph. The sea breezes are especially welcomed during the hottest part of the day, as they can reduce the temperature by several degrees. Given the typically balmy and humid climate of the Maldives, the sea breezes are a welcome relief. They can add a cooling effect and can make the days more pleasant and comfortable. Furthermore, the cooler temperatures can make it more enjoyable to explore the stunning beaches and coral reefs of the Maldives in July. Weather in the Resorts Enjoy the perfect climate of the resorts in the Maldives no matter the time of year! In July, the average temperature in the resorts is 27°C (80°F), with temperatures ranging from 24°C (75°F) to 29°C (84°F). The humidity levels are quite low, creating a pleasant, comfortable atmosphere. It's important to take precautions, however, and always use sunscreen and bug repellent when spending time in the resorts. July is a great time to visit the Maldives because it's the dry season. There is very little rainfall, with an average of only 10mm per month. This allows for plenty of sunny days and plenty of opportunities to explore the resorts, relax on the beach, or take part in some of the many activities available. The resorts in the Maldives offer something for everyone. Whether you're looking for a relaxing getaway or an exciting adventure, you'll find it here. With stunning natural scenery, luxurious accommodations, and a wide range of activities, it's no wonder the Maldives is such a popular destination. So come and enjoy the perfect climate of the resorts in the Maldives in July! Tips for Enjoying the Weather Now that we know what the weather in the resorts of the Maldives will be like in July, let's talk about how to make the most of it! With the bright sun and warm temperatures, there are plenty of ways to enjoy the perfect weather of the Maldives in July. Here are some tips for getting the most out of your stay. First, make sure to bring plenty of sun protection. Sunburns can ruin a perfect day, so be sure to bring sunscreen, hats, and sunglasses to keep you safe. Beach games are also a great way to stay active and make the most of the bright sunshine. Popular beach games include volleyball, cornhole, and frisbee. There are plenty of places to rent the necessary equipment, or you can bring your own. The Maldives is also home to many wonderful restaurants and shops. Exploring the local area can be a great way to spend an afternoon or evening. The resorts are known for their luxurious spas, so be sure to take some time to relax and enjoy a massage or other spa treatments. With a little bit of planning, you can make the most of the weather in the Maldives in July. Other Activities During July With its tropical paradise-like atmosphere, July in the resorts of the Maldives is truly a once-in-a-lifetime experience that can't be beat! July is the perfect time to explore the Maldives and take advantage of the many activities available. From boat tours to snorkeling trips, there is something for everyone. Boat tours are a great way to explore the Maldives and take in the beautiful scenery. During the day, you can explore the many islands of the Maldives and spot exotic wildlife, such as humpback whales, dolphins, and sea turtles. At night, you can enjoy the breath-taking views of the night sky as you sail the undulating waves. Snorkeling trips are another popular activity in the Maldives during the summer months. With its crystal-clear waters, the Maldives is the perfect place to explore the vibrant marine life. You can spot colorful coral and fish, as well as a variety of marine life, such as sharks, stingrays, and manta rays. You can even observe the shipwrecks and other underwater wonders. With a snorkeling trip, you will be able to experience the beauty of the Maldives up close and personal. The Maldives offer a variety of activities for all ages in July, from boat tours to snorkeling trips. With its picturesque scenery, the Maldives is an ideal destination for a summer getaway. Whether you choose to explore the islands by boat or take a snorkeling trip, you will be sure to make wonderful memories that will last a lifetime. Frequently Asked Questions What is the best time of day to enjoy the beach? We all know that a day at the beach is one of the best ways to relax and enjoy the summer. But when it comes to making the most of your beach day, it pays to know what time of day is best for your activities. Depending on whether you're looking for a swim or a sunset cruise, you can get the most out of your beach experience if you time it right. During the day, the sun is usually at its hottest, so swimming is best enjoyed in the early morning or late afternoon. For a more romantic experience, a sunset cruise is the perfect way to enjoy the beach. With the combination of calm, warm waters and beautiful sunsets, a night swim is a wonderful way to end your day at the beach. Is snorkeling recommended in July? We recommend snorkeling in the Maldives during July, as it's a great time of year to take advantage of the crystal clear waters and vibrant coral reefs. To make snorkeling a success, make sure to bring along the right swimwear. A rashguard or wetsuit can help protect you from the sun's rays and the humidity levels. While you're at it, why not take a moment to appreciate the beauty of the Maldives? It's like stepping back in time! With the right equipment and knowledge, you can enjoy a wonderful snorkeling experience during your stay in the Maldives. Are there any outdoor activities available? We've got plenty of options for outdoor activities in the Maldives during the month of July! From diving trips to water sports, there's something for everyone. The waters are warm year-round and the visibility is great, making it an ideal destination for snorkeling and diving. If you're looking for a more laid-back experience, you can try kayaking, stand-up paddleboarding, and fishing. There's also plenty of beach activities like volleyball, sun-bathing, and beach-combing. No matter what you choose, you're sure to have an amazing time! Is the sun strong enough to require sunscreen? We often think of the sun as a source of warmth and life-giving energy, but it can also cause damage if it's too strong. Fortunately, the sun isn't usually strong enough to require sunscreen in the Maldives during July. However, it's still important to be aware of the potential for sunburn and heat exhaustion and to take steps to protect yourself. Sunburn prevention should include wearing sunscreen with an SPF of at least 15 and wearing protective clothing and sunglasses. Additionally, be mindful of your physical limits and take frequent breaks in the shade to avoid heat exhaustion. Are there any seasonal festivals or events during July? Us 'feasting in July' as our adage, we can say that the Maldives in July is full of cultural activities, from visiting ancient temples to sea kayaking, and more. July is the perfect time to visit the Maldives, as the weather is warm and sunny, and the island nation celebrates many cultural festivities. One of the major festivals during this time is the annual gathering of the Dhivehi people. During this festival, the locals come together to celebrate their culture and heritage, and tourists can join in on the fun, with activities such as traditional music and dance performances, arts and crafts, and cultural feasts. In addition, visitors can take part in many outdoor activities, such as snorkeling, diving, and sea kayaking, all of which can be enjoyed in the warm waters of the Indian Ocean. Conclusion We've just explored the weather in the Maldives during July, and there's no doubt it's a great time of year to visit. Average temperatures are comfortable, and humidity levels are fairly low. Rainfall is minimal, and the sea breezes make it a perfect destination for beach lovers. Even the resorts have great weather, so those looking for a luxurious vacation will enjoy their stay. But even if you don't want to spend the entire trip on the beach, there are plenty of other activities available during July. From snorkeling to scuba diving, fishing to sailing, you'll never be short of things to do in the Maldives. So don't be put off by the thought of wet weather - the Maldives in July is a wonderful place to be. |
2024.06.05 01:45 brookd24 Why do guys say they want to be just friends then act different.
A few months ago, I was dating this guy who I know through friends. We started talking in beginning of March until end of April. He ended up telling me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now because his life is a mess and he doesn’t know what he’s gonna do and he doesn’t wanna drag me along etc. so we agree to just be friends because like I said, we have mutual friends and that was it I have not seen him since the end of April and we have talked very briefly like when on the phone with other people.. this past week something really bad happened to me so I was on the phone with my friend and he ended up adding him to the call and later on that night he called me and said Let’s go out have a drink get your mind off of everything. I was like OK so we ended up doing that and when we were there, we decided to go to Vegas so the next day he came and picked me up we went and we were there Saturday-Monday. Also just fyi out the whole time that we were talking, I never slept with him nothing sexual ever happened. We would obviously kiss but nothing else and when we stop talking, everyone told me Maybe he just wanted to hook up and then he got tired of it when he realized it was gonna happen so that’s why he like you know said that. But I didn’t think that was it so we ended up going and the whole time there. He was very sweet with me like holding doors open holding my hand everywhere and just being really polite and like a gentleman and we were together the entire time like we were not a part aside from like taking a shower. And the whole time that we were there, nothing happened as well. We did not hook up. We did obviously like made out and cuddle and stuff but nothing other than that. And I made a very clear that I wasn’t gonna do anything with him. He even said oh if I didn’t have like an appointment tomorrow, we could’ve stayed one more night so I think that he did have like a good time I didn’t even think that I was gonna hear from him for a couple of days after, but he called me today in the afternoon and then just called me again right now so now I don’t know what to think now like did he take me because he wants to go back to how things were or just being a good friend and get my mind off of everything? I just don’t know how to like. Behave with him moving forward for right now unless you know it’s made clear what’s happenin
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2024.06.05 01:16 couscouscurious Mentioned the possibility of a baby shower and mom focused on her involvement
Please don't share.
This is more lighthearted BEC nonsense. No advice needed as I've got a plan to handle it already. But I want to document it for myself in case there's a part 2 later on.
A tiny bit of relevant background on my mom: many years ago, she used to cater private events. Even though she hasn't done it since my age was in the single digits, she held onto a lot of her things. This includes various inedible decorative elements meant for cakes and other desserts. She has happily given me unopened packages of things she bought but either never had the opportunity to use or forgot she had it until it was time to purge her cabinets.
When she came to visit in April, she brought me a bag of a bunch of little plastic pacifiers. She said she didn't know our plans for doing a baby shower, but we could use them if we wanted. I thanked her for the thought but ended up sending them home with her. There are lots of cute baby shower cakes and cookies out there. More power to ya if that's your thing. Personally, I have always found food decorated with baby stuff unappetizing and wouldn't eat it. No clue why, but to each our own.
Husband and I were planning on hosting a small casual get together this summer anyway. Since no close friends or family live nearby for a typical shower to be plausible, I asked if he'd want to make our summer party a casual shower. No gifts or typical games or activities. Just "yay we're having a baby, come have tacos with us" kind of thing. We came up with a plan for what we wanted and we're so excited to start inviting the new friends we started making since we moved to our new state last year. What we have in mind probably makes it distinctly NOT a shower but idk what else to call it besides just a party.
Of course, then came the question of whether to tell my mom about it. I knew she'd have a lot of her own ideas for how it should be, but at the end of the day, that's easy enough to handle and I didn't want to keep it a secret from her.
That said, I was very vague when talking to her about it. Kept everything hypothetical and just said we were thinking about it. I also told her I wouldn't expect the family (her, my dad, and brother) to make the long trip to see us just for this. She said she at least would try to fly down, as she knows we only plan to have one kid. Buuuut then she said, "Besides, how's it going to look if I'm not there? People will ask where your mom is!"
No one here knows her or knows about her (besides some of my husband's coworkers). She's also not on social media at all, so I don't know why optics matter to her.
Her next issue was "yOu'Re NoT sUpPoSeD tO hOsT yOuR oWn ShOwEr." Don't care. We want to celebrate and we're not going to try to find someone else to give all the work to because that's the tradition. And like I said, not asking for gifts or anything.
Then she moved on to suggesting themes and decorations for a cake or cupcakes. I told her we'd prefer something more generic but still elegant. She texted me a bunch of pictures from her old cake decorating magazines, all covered in plastic babies or teddy bears in diapers, that kind of thing. (Again, nothing against people who love these kinds of designs. They're just inedible to me.) I let her know that was exactly what we DON'T want, but she was in her own world of cakes and cookies. Wasn't listening at all.
When she said she'd come down a couple days early and decorate a cake for us, that was it for me. I said we would not need her to do that and would tell her our plans once they were certain, then politely ended the call.
So just a little annoyed at how her involvement is her main priority here. I'll give it some time, get a more accurate headcount for our guests, and stop calling it a shower. Then I'll let her know she can come the day before and help set stuff out on the day of, but food and treats are already handled.
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This is more lighthearted BEC nonsense. No advice needed as I've got a plan to handle it already. But I want to document it for myself in case there's a part 2 later on.
A tiny bit of relevant background on my mom: many years ago, she used to cater private events. Even though she hasn't done it since my age was in the single digits, she held onto a lot of her things. This includes various inedible decorative elements meant for cakes and other desserts. She has happily given me unopened packages of things she bought but either never had the opportunity to use or forgot she had it until it was time to purge her cabinets.
When she came to visit in April, she brought me a bag of a bunch of little plastic pacifiers. She said she didn't know our plans for doing a baby shower, but we could use them if we wanted. I thanked her for the thought but ended up sending them home with her. There are lots of cute baby shower cakes and cookies out there. More power to ya if that's your thing. Personally, I have always found food decorated with baby stuff unappetizing and wouldn't eat it. No clue why, but to each our own.
Husband and I were planning on hosting a small casual get together this summer anyway. Since no close friends or family live nearby for a typical shower to be plausible, I asked if he'd want to make our summer party a casual shower. No gifts or typical games or activities. Just "yay we're having a baby, come have tacos with us" kind of thing. We came up with a plan for what we wanted and we're so excited to start inviting the new friends we started making since we moved to our new state last year. What we have in mind probably makes it distinctly NOT a shower but idk what else to call it besides just a party.
Of course, then came the question of whether to tell my mom about it. I knew she'd have a lot of her own ideas for how it should be, but at the end of the day, that's easy enough to handle and I didn't want to keep it a secret from her.
That said, I was very vague when talking to her about it. Kept everything hypothetical and just said we were thinking about it. I also told her I wouldn't expect the family (her, my dad, and brother) to make the long trip to see us just for this. She said she at least would try to fly down, as she knows we only plan to have one kid. Buuuut then she said, "Besides, how's it going to look if I'm not there? People will ask where your mom is!"
No one here knows her or knows about her (besides some of my husband's coworkers). She's also not on social media at all, so I don't know why optics matter to her.
Her next issue was "yOu'Re NoT sUpPoSeD tO hOsT yOuR oWn ShOwEr." Don't care. We want to celebrate and we're not going to try to find someone else to give all the work to because that's the tradition. And like I said, not asking for gifts or anything.
Then she moved on to suggesting themes and decorations for a cake or cupcakes. I told her we'd prefer something more generic but still elegant. She texted me a bunch of pictures from her old cake decorating magazines, all covered in plastic babies or teddy bears in diapers, that kind of thing. (Again, nothing against people who love these kinds of designs. They're just inedible to me.) I let her know that was exactly what we DON'T want, but she was in her own world of cakes and cookies. Wasn't listening at all.
When she said she'd come down a couple days early and decorate a cake for us, that was it for me. I said we would not need her to do that and would tell her our plans once they were certain, then politely ended the call.
So just a little annoyed at how her involvement is her main priority here. I'll give it some time, get a more accurate headcount for our guests, and stop calling it a shower. Then I'll let her know she can come the day before and help set stuff out on the day of, but food and treats are already handled.
2024.06.04 23:28 RyanMeray I think it's clear why RK is getting the heat he has and they're so afraid - his options aren't properly hedged by market makers and he knew they wouldn't be. This is his Kansas City Shuffle.
 | It should be clear by now that RK has been a busy boy over the last 3 years. He now has cash on hand equal to his total portfolio in April 2021, and Sunday morning the total value was nearly 7 times that, a large chunk of it shares that represent a 525% increase over his holdings at that time. submitted by RyanMeray to Superstonk [link] [comments] The following is complete speculation on my part, so take this with a roll of tinfoil. Unlike Andrew Left, I don't think he's in this position because he's been staked, I think it's because he's been meticulously following this stock and market trends over the last 3 years, finding the patterns that allow him to parlay his options volatility arbitrage strategies into additional shares and more dry powder to rinse and repeat the process with. I have absolutely no doubt that he was the whale making the huge options moves in late April and early May that largely flew under the radar. His return to the scene, the week of meme tweets that undoubtedly took months to plan and craft, is no doubt because he saw the perfect combination of factors if given the right spark. A conjunction that would create a positive feedback loop that would be impossible to stop without another systemic fraud like during the 2021 Sneeze. The May 17th options expiry was his test run, June 21st would be the Requel. From the moment he liked the Run Lola Run tweet, every move was planned out or already completed, we just had to look for the signs, and not get lost in the gambit he was setting up, because he had already identified a series of moves that would be utterly predictable responses to his actions. So he starts with the two massive $20 call buys on 5/20. To put this in perspective, he created more open interest than typically exists in half a dozen strikes when you look 3 or 4 weeks out. Check out the June 28 and July 5 open interest from now for a comparison. 11,785 open interest for 7 strikes in 3 weeks 2,072 open interest for 7 strikes in 4 weeks What happened after those call options were written is what should happen if they can't be paired with opposing bets from other market participants - the Market Maker takes on the risk temporarily and hedges based on the delta of the options. The Market Makers actually have to buy these shares in the lit market, because IOUs are only good for us plebian household investors and retirement accounts. Understandably, we saw a jump in the stock price moments after those option buys hit the tape. Sweet, found a screenshot from one of my previous posts We also saw the option price run up appropriately due to the volatility increase and the stock price increase. https://preview.redd.it/93zioijqsm4d1.png?width=703&format=png&auto=webp&s=b8515643a756954c1f6d10b569f3b4eb2628fb16 Except, the next day, when 4 more of those 5,000 contract buys occurred... not much happened. https://preview.redd.it/hmqcq3hzsm4d1.png?width=619&format=png&auto=webp&s=d3d352d949bad2f2a9959ab3d8f5f0e98289fc26 Did they turn off the hedging algorithms?Did DFV know they would do that based on his observations over the last few years of option buying?And did DFV wait for a time when his war chest and market conditions would mean that he lay the ultimate bear trap for the biggest boss possible, the fucking Market Maker, because he's got every confidence they're nakedly selling options because they can normally manipulate the price to make the options worthless?It's a classic Rope-a-Dope, or Kansas City Shuffle as all the hip cats are calling it.So after he sees the algos are off, Wednesday rolls around, and he starts his counter-punching. THIRTEEN 5,000 option sales occur. And despite the fact those should have been hedged, significantly moving the price and creating more volatility on the options chain, it was a big fat nothingburger as far as the trading price went for most of the day, with enough concentrated sell volume towards the end of the day to undo the price action of the previous 6 hours. 10 minute candles because I can't get 1 minute ones that far back and didn't take any screenshots that day But on Thursday, nothing. They might have felt whatever was happening was over, so they cautiously turned the algos back on. So when the Friday orders hit at the end of the day... More sad 10 minute candles, anyone know a good way to see 1 minute views more than 10 days ago? Boom, price discovery. And then of course the after-hours news of the GME stock sale being completed. This was difficult to chart since I don't have the best data scraping sources, but I was able to pull 10 minute sales data for the dates coinciding with the buys and tried to overlay that information with stock volume and the 20C options buys (I ignored the 25C and 30C buys that occurred in the same date range, but there were only a handful.) Stock price vs volume (yellow columns) and large option buys (blue columns) Does that look like a stock price moving with actual hedging of open options interest and rising delta? These calls were all ATM with the exception of the buys on 5/24, when the stock was in the low $18 range. As to why RK revealed his positions on June 2nd - I'm wondering if his hand was forced but it was an inevitability he was anticipating. He was nearing an ownership stake that would require disclosure, and I bet E*Trade/Morgan Stanley had begun internally sweating the issue over the holiday weekend, which is why word of them looking into kicking him off the platform came out so quickly after he dropped his YOLO return. This could all be some circulation-blocking tinfoil on my part, this is not financial advice, I am not a cat, let alone a stock market expert, but if I'm right, hopefully your seat belt is buckled and you tray is in the upright and locked position, because DFV has pulled an Ozymandias. Why does Joe Kernen say that they're naked? Why wouldn't they be hedged unless... \"There's people on the other side that sold the calls and they're just like you know it's at 43 and they they got to provide it at 20\" Cheers y'all. |
2024.06.04 23:06 Embarrassed_Story_72 Hurt people hurt others
I’m dealing with it right now to bear with me. It’s been a month i haven’t spoken to my ex. Until I broke contact, texting her for her birthday. I know why but I did. We meet 3years ago through a mutual friend(that’s the first I usually do apps) so it was weird when I meet someone in person. I didn’t see her until a year later at our friends baby shower, I asked her for her snap and after that we started talking. It was nice get to know someone new and get this attention. During the time in the relationship she was checking out. missing her ex, being ugly. We only lasted 3months after she contacted her ex, she said “I wanted to check up on him”. They have 10yrs on and off, cheating, lying and abuse. The best example of trauma bond. (I found out when I got her snap she was only was broken up with her ex for a week).
We broke up , I started healing in dec 22. The first 3months was hard it, felt confusing and annoying . I started therapy, where I started to open my mind too. I never done that before, getting to understand who I was. I deactivated my social media.
Jan-March 23 my ex’s sister. I kept in touch with her sister.(now she hates me) Her sister would keep me updated on her. First it was like “I want know”. I had to stop it because what I learned it’s wasn’t helping. She told me, after a month she started talking to someone else broke it off with them and got with her ex a month later. Her sister stop speaking to me after I told her not to mention her sister.
April 23, I came back on social media. I felt better with myself, I was starting to feel comfortable with myself and being good without my ex. May 23, went to PR for a healing trip. I felt in peace but still thought about my ex. The whole reason I went to let her go but she was on mind. Ugh
She reached out to me after I came back from PR. Yes i responded back, but the thought of her doing what she did was there. I wanted to see her and we did. After 2 weeks talking we got back together, I know but why? I thought it would different, I know that’s stupid. (Found out she broke up with him on the night she reached out to me.)
It started good then we had our break up get back together, during that time my mind kept that thought about her ex either her reaching out or the ex does.
Nov23, we broke up after thanksgiving. We had an argument and it escalated to me saying “I don’t know why you waste people’s time if you go back to toxic”. I finally came to realizing I wasn’t over it, we didn’t speak for a couple weeks.
Dec23, I reached out. I wanted to see her but i also wanted to put everything to the side. I enjoyed her company and I told her “if we could just be friends and maybe with benefits”.
January 24, we were friends. Hung out and sleeping together it was fine without the title. But we started to get close where she was ready get back together and I wanted to take our time because I learned from the other times. It feels shitty on and off, like you want me or not.
Feb 24 we got back together. It was good we started talking about everything she showed that she was trying. My sister was accepting her after the first break up.
April 24 depression anxiety and bpd. My ex had all those, the whole month of April she was sick throwing up. Wasn’t eating and always sad. I kept asking what I could do but while having arguments about the past. I didn’t help, I never seen how badly someone can get deep in a dark place. Her ex reached out, she broke up the day he did. I’m pathetic, I begged for her to stay. Let’s be friends and maybe restore the relationship. Sunday- I found out they we in contact, he called her while I was in her car. I never scared so loud in my life at someone. I was heartbroken but not surprised. Her reason was “i responded back because they’re the one who knows me”. I know I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t deserve all that, I burned myself the second time.
Now. I’ve learned how strong a trauma bond can be and it’s crazy see it. I’ve been in my thoughts. happy, sad, angry All this feels is towards myself for allowing all those things because I thought it would be different. I thought I can save her but it made me get triggered and trauma. She got back with her ex. It hurts to know how someone can hurt someone and live life like they didn’t do anything. I know I’m going to move on from, meet someone who is going appreciate me and love me. I know I have issues and after learning what I learned. I want to do better. I don’t want lower myself on her level. I wish her the best. After writing this made me feel I can speak if that make sense.
Sorry if it doesn’t make sense
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We broke up , I started healing in dec 22. The first 3months was hard it, felt confusing and annoying . I started therapy, where I started to open my mind too. I never done that before, getting to understand who I was. I deactivated my social media.
Jan-March 23 my ex’s sister. I kept in touch with her sister.(now she hates me) Her sister would keep me updated on her. First it was like “I want know”. I had to stop it because what I learned it’s wasn’t helping. She told me, after a month she started talking to someone else broke it off with them and got with her ex a month later. Her sister stop speaking to me after I told her not to mention her sister.
April 23, I came back on social media. I felt better with myself, I was starting to feel comfortable with myself and being good without my ex. May 23, went to PR for a healing trip. I felt in peace but still thought about my ex. The whole reason I went to let her go but she was on mind. Ugh
She reached out to me after I came back from PR. Yes i responded back, but the thought of her doing what she did was there. I wanted to see her and we did. After 2 weeks talking we got back together, I know but why? I thought it would different, I know that’s stupid. (Found out she broke up with him on the night she reached out to me.)
It started good then we had our break up get back together, during that time my mind kept that thought about her ex either her reaching out or the ex does.
Nov23, we broke up after thanksgiving. We had an argument and it escalated to me saying “I don’t know why you waste people’s time if you go back to toxic”. I finally came to realizing I wasn’t over it, we didn’t speak for a couple weeks.
Dec23, I reached out. I wanted to see her but i also wanted to put everything to the side. I enjoyed her company and I told her “if we could just be friends and maybe with benefits”.
January 24, we were friends. Hung out and sleeping together it was fine without the title. But we started to get close where she was ready get back together and I wanted to take our time because I learned from the other times. It feels shitty on and off, like you want me or not.
Feb 24 we got back together. It was good we started talking about everything she showed that she was trying. My sister was accepting her after the first break up.
April 24 depression anxiety and bpd. My ex had all those, the whole month of April she was sick throwing up. Wasn’t eating and always sad. I kept asking what I could do but while having arguments about the past. I didn’t help, I never seen how badly someone can get deep in a dark place. Her ex reached out, she broke up the day he did. I’m pathetic, I begged for her to stay. Let’s be friends and maybe restore the relationship. Sunday- I found out they we in contact, he called her while I was in her car. I never scared so loud in my life at someone. I was heartbroken but not surprised. Her reason was “i responded back because they’re the one who knows me”. I know I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t deserve all that, I burned myself the second time.
Now. I’ve learned how strong a trauma bond can be and it’s crazy see it. I’ve been in my thoughts. happy, sad, angry All this feels is towards myself for allowing all those things because I thought it would be different. I thought I can save her but it made me get triggered and trauma. She got back with her ex. It hurts to know how someone can hurt someone and live life like they didn’t do anything. I know I’m going to move on from, meet someone who is going appreciate me and love me. I know I have issues and after learning what I learned. I want to do better. I don’t want lower myself on her level. I wish her the best. After writing this made me feel I can speak if that make sense.
Sorry if it doesn’t make sense
2024.06.04 23:05 Embarrassed_Story_72 Hurt people hurt others
I’m dealing with it right now to bear with me. It’s been a month i haven’t spoken to my ex. Until I broke contact, texting her for her birthday. I know why but I did. We meet 3years ago through a mutual friend(that’s the first I usually do apps) so it was weird when I meet someone in person. I didn’t see her until a year later at our friends baby shower, I asked her for her snap and after that we started talking. It was nice get to know someone new and get this attention. During the time in the relationship she was checking out. missing her ex, being ugly. We only lasted 3months after she contacted her ex, she said “I wanted to check up on him”. They have 10yrs on and off, cheating, lying and abuse. The best example of trauma bond. (I found out when I got her snap she was only was broken up with her ex for a week).
We broke up , I started healing in dec 22. The first 3months was hard it, felt confusing and annoying . I started therapy, where I started to open my mind too. I never done that before, getting to understand who I was. I deactivated my social media.
Jan-March 23 my ex’s sister. I kept in touch with her sister.(now she hates me) Her sister would keep me updated on her. First it was like “I want know”. I had to stop it because what I learned it’s wasn’t helping. She told me, after a month she started talking to someone else broke it off with them and got with her ex a month later. Her sister stop speaking to me after I told her not to mention her sister.
April 23, I came back on social media. I felt better with myself, I was starting to feel comfortable with myself and being good without my ex. May 23, went to PR for a healing trip. I felt in peace but still thought about my ex. The whole reason I went to let her go but she was on mind. Ugh
She reached out to me after I came back from PR. Yes i responded back, but the thought of her doing what she did was there. I wanted to see her and we did. After 2 weeks talking we got back together, I know but why? I thought it would different, I know that’s stupid. (Found out she broke up with him on the night she reached out to me.)
It started good then we had our break up get back together, during that time my mind kept that thought about her ex either her reaching out or the ex does.
Nov23, we broke up after thanksgiving. We had an argument and it escalated to me saying “I don’t know why you waste people’s time if you go back to toxic”. I finally came to realizing I wasn’t over it, we didn’t speak for a couple weeks.
Dec23, I reached out. I wanted to see her but i also wanted to put everything to the side. I enjoyed her company and I told her “if we could just be friends and maybe with benefits”.
January 24, we were friends. Hung out and sleeping together it was fine without the title. But we started to get close where she was ready get back together and I wanted to take our time because I learned from the other times. It feels shitty on and off, like you want me or not.
Feb 24 we got back together. It was good we started talking about everything she showed that she was trying. My sister was accepting her after the first break up.
April 24 depression anxiety and bpd. My ex had all those, the whole month of April she was sick throwing up. Wasn’t eating and always sad. I kept asking what I could do but while having arguments about the past. I didn’t help, I never seen how badly someone can get deep in a dark place. Her ex reached out, she broke up the day he did. I’m pathetic, I begged for her to stay. Let’s be friends and maybe restore the relationship. Sunday- I found out they we in contact, he called her while I was in her car. I never scared so loud in my life at someone. I was heartbroken but not surprised. Her reason was “i responded back because they’re the one who knows me”. I know I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t deserve all that, I burned myself the second time.
Now. I’ve learned how strong a trauma bond can be and it’s crazy see it. I’ve been in my thoughts. happy, sad, angry All this feels is towards myself for allowing all those things because I thought it would be different. I thought I can save her but it made me get triggered and trauma. She got back with her ex. It hurts to know how someone can hurt someone and live life like they didn’t do anything. I know I’m going to move on from, meet someone who is going appreciate me and love me. I know I have issues and after learning what I learned. I want to do better. I don’t want lower myself on her level. I wish her the best. After writing this made me feel I can speak if that make sense.
Sorry if it doesn’t make sense
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We broke up , I started healing in dec 22. The first 3months was hard it, felt confusing and annoying . I started therapy, where I started to open my mind too. I never done that before, getting to understand who I was. I deactivated my social media.
Jan-March 23 my ex’s sister. I kept in touch with her sister.(now she hates me) Her sister would keep me updated on her. First it was like “I want know”. I had to stop it because what I learned it’s wasn’t helping. She told me, after a month she started talking to someone else broke it off with them and got with her ex a month later. Her sister stop speaking to me after I told her not to mention her sister.
April 23, I came back on social media. I felt better with myself, I was starting to feel comfortable with myself and being good without my ex. May 23, went to PR for a healing trip. I felt in peace but still thought about my ex. The whole reason I went to let her go but she was on mind. Ugh
She reached out to me after I came back from PR. Yes i responded back, but the thought of her doing what she did was there. I wanted to see her and we did. After 2 weeks talking we got back together, I know but why? I thought it would different, I know that’s stupid. (Found out she broke up with him on the night she reached out to me.)
It started good then we had our break up get back together, during that time my mind kept that thought about her ex either her reaching out or the ex does.
Nov23, we broke up after thanksgiving. We had an argument and it escalated to me saying “I don’t know why you waste people’s time if you go back to toxic”. I finally came to realizing I wasn’t over it, we didn’t speak for a couple weeks.
Dec23, I reached out. I wanted to see her but i also wanted to put everything to the side. I enjoyed her company and I told her “if we could just be friends and maybe with benefits”.
January 24, we were friends. Hung out and sleeping together it was fine without the title. But we started to get close where she was ready get back together and I wanted to take our time because I learned from the other times. It feels shitty on and off, like you want me or not.
Feb 24 we got back together. It was good we started talking about everything she showed that she was trying. My sister was accepting her after the first break up.
April 24 depression anxiety and bpd. My ex had all those, the whole month of April she was sick throwing up. Wasn’t eating and always sad. I kept asking what I could do but while having arguments about the past. I didn’t help, I never seen how badly someone can get deep in a dark place. Her ex reached out, she broke up the day he did. I’m pathetic, I begged for her to stay. Let’s be friends and maybe restore the relationship. Sunday- I found out they we in contact, he called her while I was in her car. I never scared so loud in my life at someone. I was heartbroken but not surprised. Her reason was “i responded back because they’re the one who knows me”. I know I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t deserve all that, I burned myself the second time.
Now. I’ve learned how strong a trauma bond can be and it’s crazy see it. I’ve been in my thoughts. happy, sad, angry All this feels is towards myself for allowing all those things because I thought it would be different. I thought I can save her but it made me get triggered and trauma. She got back with her ex. It hurts to know how someone can hurt someone and live life like they didn’t do anything. I know I’m going to move on from, meet someone who is going appreciate me and love me. I know I have issues and after learning what I learned. I want to do better. I don’t want lower myself on her level. I wish her the best. After writing this made me feel I can speak if that make sense.
Sorry if it doesn’t make sense
2024.06.04 21:31 No-Inside4318 TDLR; What will I do? Will he come back?
Me (f, 27) Him (26 going 27 Thursday) We were together 3 years. We done long distance. He lived 3hrs drive from me but we made it work. We were like best friends. Hardly ever argued. Only thing was his communication wasn't the best at times. He hated serious conversations.
We went to visit his family and friends in Manchester last October. He was all over me, nothing out of the ordinary. He stayed at mine the Saturday night we came home to Ireland. All over me and intimate. Next morning I drop him to his bus home and he breaks up with me 10mins before his bus. I was in shock. Reasoning "we are too different."
During the two weeks after he left me, he gave me so many mixed signals. Texts at 4am "I hate myself for what I done. You deserve better." To then "No I don't think we should get back together, this is for the best." I eventually told him to leave me alone as the mixed signals hurt me. After a total of 3 weeks apart, he asks to see me. He drives 3hrs to my house to make amends, showering me with gifts and affection. Drove 3hrs home the same day.
Everything was looking up. However my anxiety got the better of me because of how he was so easily able to abandon me after 3 years. His parents weren't also the fondest of me, not sure why. In January I tell him I simply can't do this right now, I felt sick with anxiety all the time. I just needed time to heal from the initial breakup. He begs and pleaded me, saying he wanted to marry me and was going to give me a promise ring. All the words I've always wanted him to say. I told him I couldn't at the time.
I never ghosted him, I stayed in contact, even sent him a valentines gift. We agreed to meet in February but then he cancelled and said he needed 'space' as he was still hurting from me leaving. I tried to give space but found it hard. Eventually he got mad at me at the end of March and told me "I'm done. You keep doing this. You keep saying you'll give me space but then you message me." I said I was sorry that I just missed him so much and when I wanted no contact he didn't respect it either so why cut me off. He said "you're just better than me."
I heard nothing for weeks until my birthday in April. I told him specifically not to reach out because it'll only hurt me. He messages me at 1am the night after my birthday to wish me a belated one and goes on to tell me that his pet died. I thanked him and showed him sympathy and then he went ghost again. I'm still friends with his brother and mutual friend that both live in England, we game every night. I miss my ex so much and its his birthday Thursday. I am trying my best to find the courage to not say a thing. I am unsure whether he is only not trying again because when we did it got complicated with his family and my anxiety, or is he actually just genuinely done. . I haven't heard anything since my birthday.
I've been writing letters the last few weeks and I've them all in an envelope to send to him, would I look crazy to? I just want to fight for us. I don't want this to be the end for good. We were so good together. I think he's scared ill get anxious and leave again..Or maybe he is just genuinely done this time.
What do I do? Should I say happy birthday? Should I send him the letters I spent time writing in hopes he will realise what he let go of?
I just feel its never getting easier.
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We went to visit his family and friends in Manchester last October. He was all over me, nothing out of the ordinary. He stayed at mine the Saturday night we came home to Ireland. All over me and intimate. Next morning I drop him to his bus home and he breaks up with me 10mins before his bus. I was in shock. Reasoning "we are too different."
During the two weeks after he left me, he gave me so many mixed signals. Texts at 4am "I hate myself for what I done. You deserve better." To then "No I don't think we should get back together, this is for the best." I eventually told him to leave me alone as the mixed signals hurt me. After a total of 3 weeks apart, he asks to see me. He drives 3hrs to my house to make amends, showering me with gifts and affection. Drove 3hrs home the same day.
Everything was looking up. However my anxiety got the better of me because of how he was so easily able to abandon me after 3 years. His parents weren't also the fondest of me, not sure why. In January I tell him I simply can't do this right now, I felt sick with anxiety all the time. I just needed time to heal from the initial breakup. He begs and pleaded me, saying he wanted to marry me and was going to give me a promise ring. All the words I've always wanted him to say. I told him I couldn't at the time.
I never ghosted him, I stayed in contact, even sent him a valentines gift. We agreed to meet in February but then he cancelled and said he needed 'space' as he was still hurting from me leaving. I tried to give space but found it hard. Eventually he got mad at me at the end of March and told me "I'm done. You keep doing this. You keep saying you'll give me space but then you message me." I said I was sorry that I just missed him so much and when I wanted no contact he didn't respect it either so why cut me off. He said "you're just better than me."
I heard nothing for weeks until my birthday in April. I told him specifically not to reach out because it'll only hurt me. He messages me at 1am the night after my birthday to wish me a belated one and goes on to tell me that his pet died. I thanked him and showed him sympathy and then he went ghost again. I'm still friends with his brother and mutual friend that both live in England, we game every night. I miss my ex so much and its his birthday Thursday. I am trying my best to find the courage to not say a thing. I am unsure whether he is only not trying again because when we did it got complicated with his family and my anxiety, or is he actually just genuinely done. . I haven't heard anything since my birthday.
I've been writing letters the last few weeks and I've them all in an envelope to send to him, would I look crazy to? I just want to fight for us. I don't want this to be the end for good. We were so good together. I think he's scared ill get anxious and leave again..Or maybe he is just genuinely done this time.
What do I do? Should I say happy birthday? Should I send him the letters I spent time writing in hopes he will realise what he let go of?
I just feel its never getting easier.
2024.06.04 21:31 Gheritage [H] June '24 Choice, previous Choice Bundles, and 200+ other titles,[W] Pine Hearts, Len's Island, Surmount, ... Wishlist, offers
HAVE:
June '24 Humble Choice- Risk of Rain 2
- Knights of Honor II: Sovereign
- LEGO® 2K Drive Awesome Edition
- Warhammer 40,000: Battlesector
- Miasma Chronicles
- Stray Gods: The Roleplaying Musical
- A Guidebook Of Babel
- Empyrion – Galactic Survival
- HI-FI Rush
- Loddlenaut
- Kingof The Castle
- Bravery and Greed
- Amanda The Adventurer
- Mediterranea Inferno
- The Witch of Fern Island
- Immortal Life
- Cattails: Wildwood Story
- Ikonei Island
- No Place Like Home
- Victoria 3
- The Callisto Protocol
- Humankind Definitive Edition
- Fashion Police Squad
- Terraformers
- Symphony of War: The Niphilim Saga
- Coromon
- The Excavation of Hob's Barrow
- 112 Operator
- 12 is Better Than 6
- 911 Operator
- A Plague Tale: Innocence
- Adventures of Chris
- Afterimage
- Alt-Frequencies
- Among the Sleep - Enhanced Edition
- Apocalipsis
- Aragami 2
- Asdivine Hearts
- Atom RPG Trudograd
- Aurion: Legacy of the Kori-Odan
- Automachef
- Backbone
- BARRIER X
- Beacon Pines
- Black Skylands
- Blacksad: Under The Skin
- Blade Assault
- BlazBlue: Chronophantasma Extend
- Book of Demons
- Broken Age
- Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons
- Brunch Club
- Car Mechanic Simulator 2018
- Chicken Police: Paint The Town Red
- Children of Silentown
- Chorus
- Citizen Sleeper
- Conan Chop Chop
- Corridor Z
- Crown Trick
- Crying Suns
- Dagon: by H.P. Lovecraft - The Edlritch Box DLC
- Deadlight
- Deadlight Director's Cut
- Dear Esther: Landmark Edition
- Destroy All Humans 2: Reprobed
- Destroyer: The U-Boat Hunter
- Disciples: Liberation
- Disjunction
- Divekick
- Doodle Derby
- Doodle Derby
- Doom 64
- Doom Eternal
- Doorways: Holy Mountains of Flesh
- Draw Slasher
- Drawful 2
- Driftlands: The Magic Revival
- EarthX
- El Hijo - A Wild West Tale
- Eldest Souls
- Elex II
- Emily Is Away <3
- Encased
- Endless Space 2
- Epic Chef
- Evan's Remains
- Expedition Rome
- Expeditions: Vikings
- FAR: Lone Sails
- First Class Trouble
- Friends vs Friends
- From Space
- Fury Unleashed
- GamesGuru
- Garbage
- GemCraft - Frostborn Wrath
- Ghost 1.0
- Gloria Victis
- Glyph
- Going Under
- Going Under
- Golf Gang
- Gravewood High
- Hardspace Shipbreaker
- Hell Pie
- Hero's Hour
- Heroes of Hammerwatch
- Hexalogic
- Hokko Life
- HomeFront
- Impulsion
- Industria
- Inmost
- Iron Danger
- Jetboard Joust
- Jurassic World Evolution 2
- Kingdom Rush Frontiers
- Kingdom Two Crowns
- Kingdoms Of Amalur: Re-Reckoning Fate Edition
- Knights of Pen & Paper +1 Edition
- Lair of The Clockwork God
- Last Call BBS
- Lawn Mowing Simulator
- Legend of Keepers
- Legends of Tianding
- Leisure Suit Larry Collection - (1-7) Magna Cum Laude Uncut
- Life is Strange: True Colors
- LISA: Complete Edition
- Lorelai
- Lust for Darkness
- Lust from Beyond: M Edition
- Maid of sker
- Max Payne 3 (R* Social)
- Metal: Hellslinger
- Midnight Fight Express
- Monaco
- Monster Crown
- Monster Train (First Class)
- Monster's Den: Godfall
- Monument Builders - Alcatraz
- Moon Hunters
- Morbid: The Seven Acolytes
- Motorcycle Mechanic Simulator 2021
- Murder By Numbers
- N++
- Nation Red
- Nebuchadnezzar
- Necroworm
- Neverout
- Neversong
- Nex Machina
- Oaken
- Omen Exitio: Plague
- Omno
- Orbital Racer
- OTXO
- Out of Bounds
- Out of Reach: Treasure Royale
- Out of Space
- Out of The Box
- Pathway
- Payday 2
- Phoenix Point: Year One Edtion
- Pikuniku
- Pine
- Pixel Heroes: Byte & Magic
- Pixlode
- Please Don't Touch Anything
- Police Stories
- Post Void
- Pumpkin Jack
- Radio Commander
- Railroad Corporation
- Raji: An Ancient Epic
- Rebel Galaxy Outlaw
- Rebel Galaxy Outlaw
- Red Lantern
- Red Solstice 2
- Redout: Enhanced Edition
- Remothered: Tormented Fathers
- Ring of Pain
- Rise of Industry
- Risen 3 Complete Edition
- Roarr! Jurassic Edition
- Rogue Book
- Rogue Heroes: Ruins of Tasos
- RPG Maker VX
- Rustler
- Saints Row (2022)
- Saints Row 2
- Say No! More
- Scara Above
- Scorn
- SCP: Secret Files
- Shadow Tactics: Aiko's Choice
- Shadowhand: RPG Card Game
- Shapez
- Shapez Puzzle DLC
- Shing!
- Siege Survival Gloria Victis
- Slime-san
- Slinger VR
- Smile For Me
- Smile For Me
- Smoke and Sacrifice
- Snowtopia
- Soulbright
- Souldiers
- Soulstice
- Space Crew: Legendary Edition
- SPACECOM
- Spirit Hunter: Death Mark
- Sugar Story
- Super Magbot
- SUPERHOT
- SUPERHOT: Mind Control Delete
- Supraland
- Survivalist
- Survivalist: Invisible Strain
- System Shock: Enhanced Edition
- Tacoma
- Tales
- Tangledeep
- Telefrag VR
- The Amazing Circus
- The Ambassador: Fractured Timelines
- The Gunk
- The Pale Beyond
- The Sexy Brutale
- The Town of Light
- The USB Stick Found in the Grass
- There is No Light
- They Bleed Pixels
- This War of Mine
- Tooth and Tail
- Torchlight
- Torchlight II
- Treasure Hunter Simulator
- Tribes of Midgard
- Turnip Boy Commits Tax Evasion
- Twin Mirror
- Two Point Campus
- Unmetal
- Vagante
- Versus Squad
- Virgo Versus The Zodiac
- Void Destroyer
- VVVVVV
- Wandersong
- Warhammer Age of Sigmar
- Warhammer: Chaosbane - Slayer Edition
- WARSAW
- We Are Alright
- West of Dead
- Where The Water Tastes Like Wine
- Wizard of Legend
- X-Morph: Defense + European Assault, Survival of the Fittest, and Last Bastion DLC
- Yoku's Island Express
- Yono and the Celestial Elephants
- Yooka-Laylee and the Impossible Lair
- Ziggurat
Wishlist
- Aka
- American Arcadia
- Antivine
- Asterogues
- Atrio: The Dark Wild
- Backpack Hero
- Banishers: Ghosts of New Eden
- Bear and Breakfast
- Bilkins' Folly
- Birth
- Blacktail
- Blocky Dungeon
- Blood West
- Brewmaster: Beer Brewing Simulator
- Button City
- Camp Canyonwood
- Cardboard Town
- Cassette Beasts
- Catch & Cook: Fishing Adventures
- Chasing Static
- Crop Rotation
- Curse of The Deadwood
- Dave The Diver
- Days Gone
- Deadcraft
- Decimate Drive
- Defend the Bits TD
- Die After Sunset
- Diluvian Winds
- Dinkum
- Dome Keeper
- Doomed Lands
- Driftwood
- Dungeon Defenders: Going Rogue
- Dwerve
- Fall of Porcupine
- Fears To Fathom - Ironbark Lookout
- Fixfox
- Floodland
- Flutter Away
- Forest Fire
- Fort Solis
- Geodepths
- Gone Rogue
- Goobies
- Goodbye Volcano High
- Goons: Legends & Mayhem
- Grindstone
- Growing Up
- Gunbrella
- GYLT
- Havendock
- Hard West 2
- Hellboy: Web of Wyrd
- Highwater
- Hindsight
- Hydroneer
- I was A Teenage Exocolonist
- INDIKA
- Interference: Dead Air
- Killer Frequency
- Kynseed
- Lakeside
- Len's Island
- Life is Strange Remastered
- Lonesome Village
- Lumbearjack
- Magicraft
- Maniac
- Mars Base
- Mob Factory
- Moonstone Island
- News Tower
- Nova Lands
- One More Gate: A Wakfu Legend
- ORX
- Outpath
- Pacific Drive
- Paleo Pines
- Pepper Grinder
- Pine Heart
- Rogue Tower
- Roots of Pacha
- Rusted Moss
- Shadow Gambit: The Cursed Crew
- Sugar Shack
- Sunkenland
- Surmount: A Mountain Climbing Adventure
- Tape To Tape
- The Cub
- The Gardener and The Wild Vines
- The Last Craftsman
- The Last Hero of Nostalgaia
- The Last Worker
- The Necromancer Cometh
- The Night is Grey
- These Doomed Isles
- Thronefall
- Tower Escape
- Traveller's Rest
- Trifox
- Under The waves
- V Rising
- Vertical Kingdom
- Wall World
- Wizard With A Gun
- WrestleQuest
- Zelter
- ZERO Sievert
Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to look at my full post.
I am up for trading numerous titles for titles on my wishlist.
I do not do paypal or sells. Straight game trading. I do not do trades anywhere but here.
All these codes I purchased myself. There are not any games on this list from another trade.
I only trade for games I would personally want. Thank you.
2024.06.04 21:13 youretoosuspicious 6 weeks after LAL, my experience (long read)
51F, diagnosed last fall with a cortical cataract in my left eye (OS). This is my near vision eye, and vision in this eye has been poor my entire life, but it had progressed to the point where it was uncorrectable with lenses. I was experiencing glare in sun, near-blackouts going from sun to shade, and rainbow halos around lights during the night and day. I also realized, after having my surgery, that I had been avoiding reading and writing because of double vision caused by the cataract. Since I work in books and libraries, and some of my most enjoyed hobbies involve reading, writing, correspondence, and crafts including knitting, the cataract was strongly affecting my life.
My optometrist referred me to a local surgeon and I went for a consultation. He said that while I had developed cataracts in both eyes, the one on the left was 3+, what they consider severe, and he scheduled me for surgery the next month. I read all the materials they gave me and found this subreddit, which has been incredibly helpful throughout the process, so thank you to all who post and respond here!
I was uncertain whether I should go with the first referral (and posted as much here, and got a lot of great reflections from folks, thank you) because I'd read bad Yelp reviews of the office. But I read reviews of ALL the major surgery providers in town and they all had the same range of reviews, so I decided to stick with this doctor, deciding that being part of a "surgery farm" was a GOOD thing rather than a bad one. More surgeries = more expertise, hopefully.
I received satisfactory guidance from another surgeon at the practice after they did my biometry; she said I could get good results with either a monofocal or the LAL monofocal, and that it was up to me. Since this is my near eye, the one I depend on the most for most of my preferred activities, and since I have good insurance and could afford the additional out-of-pocket cost, I decided to go with the LAL. My insurance paid for all the basic parts of the surgery.
On the surgery day, I bussed over to the surgery office and they did intake, I waited for a while, and then was led into the pre-surgery area, a large circular hospital area with curtained cubicles all around the edges. All the people in the cubicles were at various stages of pre- or post-op, and nurses were circulating giving eye drops and checking in on people. I was given a gown to wear over my clothes, a surgical cap like a shower cap, and they started putting drops in my eyes. I knew they were giving me numbing and dilating drops, and other than that the surgery uses Versed for during the surgery. I chatted with the nurse, met the anesthesiologist (who cracked a lot of jokes about the efficiency of the surgeon - "it goes so fast, you won't even have time for a cocktail!"), and before long they had transferred me to a reclining rolling chair and took me in for the pre-op laser treatment. This was the most unpleasant part, as I had to stare unblinking into a bright light while the surgeon counted down. I could feel the anesthesiologist gently stroking my hand. As soon as that procedure was over, the anesthesiologist said "I'm starting the Versed now," and that was the last thing I can recall. In my dim memories I see some blobby colors moving around, like the oil projections at a hippie light show, but otherwise no memory of vision or any discomfort. The nurse gave me some apple juice, called my spouse to pick me up, and then I went home. My surgery had been scheduled for 11, and it was about 2pm.
I had a surgical bandage taped over my eye and was instructed to wear the clear eye shield at night. I felt a little woozy from the anesthetic, so I had chicken broth and some buttered pasta, and then rested in bed with the shades pulled for the rest of the day.
Next day I had a careful shower, hopped on the bus with my surgical bandage on (covered with sunglasses), and went to the clinic for my post-op. They removed the bandage and gave me a quick manual eye test, and handed over my LAL eyeglasses box.
At that point I had a lot of flashing and glare, from the implant, and I felt a bit wobbly in my vision as my eyes moved from side to side. In the days immediately after the surgery, while I noticed a distinct improvement in my vision, I also felt a bit off, and got frequent mild headaches. My old progressives were useless, so I used the LAL reader glasses to read or knit, but I could watch my laptop without any correction, which I hadn't been able to do for about 8 years!
By about a week out, I was noticing the artifacts from the lens less and less, except for when I was at a specific angle standing or sitting under overhead lights. The LAL glasses are ugly and inconvenient, but I wore them indoors and out for the full 5 weeks it took me to get adjusted. I called them my Bono Disguise because even people who knew me would fail to recognize me upon first glance. Sometimes I explained to people why I was wearing them, and sometimes I challenged myself not to explain it at all.
At my first correction (approximately 3 weeks after surgery), they tested my near vision at 20/20 and decided to correct only for astigmatism. In the week after that, I went back and forth about what I wanted to see the most clearly - things very close to my face, or things in the intermediate distance, like someone sitting across the table from me? Ultimately I decided that I could wear readers for close work and have "functional" vision the rest of the time. We decided to lock-in after only one treatment. After the treatment, and after each of the two lock-ins, I noticed a definite shift as my eyes and brain adjusted to the treatment.
The adjustment, involving a weird aluminum contact lens and an eye dilation that meant my iris was invisible, was odd and not pleasant but definitely bearable. Even the two lock-ins were not horrifying for me, but thanks u/texaserin for the warning about it. I joked to the nurse attending the lock-ins, "Oh hi, are you the one who holds my head in place?" Like others, I saw pink for about a week after the second lock-in, which was the brighter one for me. Pink, like millenial pink when looking at anything white with both eyes open, and when I'd close my untreated eye I'd see HOT pink.
What my functional near vision means is that I can focus clearly up to 12" from my face. Closer than that it's blurry, but I can read a book and use my laptop and drive without correction. With a bent arm, I can read the ingredients on a beverage can. I had to get a stick-on magnifying mirror for my bathroom so I could do eyebrow maintenance. Some days, when I'm short on sleep or the weather is very dry, I notice my vision is a bit more blurry, so I've been carrying PF eye drops (Systane PF) with me for touch-ups as needed.
Refraction BEFORE surgery (both eyes)
OD +0.75 sphere +0.50 cyl x046 axis +1.75 ADD
OS -7.50 sphere +1.50 cyl X144 axis +1.75 ADD
Refraction AFTER surgery (OS only)
OS -1.25 sphere, [noted as “sphere” but auto refraction reads +0.50] cyl x148 axis +2.00 ADD
They've listed my near vision now as J1+, or 20/20, which is wild!
submitted by youretoosuspicious to CataractSurgery [link] [comments]
My optometrist referred me to a local surgeon and I went for a consultation. He said that while I had developed cataracts in both eyes, the one on the left was 3+, what they consider severe, and he scheduled me for surgery the next month. I read all the materials they gave me and found this subreddit, which has been incredibly helpful throughout the process, so thank you to all who post and respond here!
I was uncertain whether I should go with the first referral (and posted as much here, and got a lot of great reflections from folks, thank you) because I'd read bad Yelp reviews of the office. But I read reviews of ALL the major surgery providers in town and they all had the same range of reviews, so I decided to stick with this doctor, deciding that being part of a "surgery farm" was a GOOD thing rather than a bad one. More surgeries = more expertise, hopefully.
I received satisfactory guidance from another surgeon at the practice after they did my biometry; she said I could get good results with either a monofocal or the LAL monofocal, and that it was up to me. Since this is my near eye, the one I depend on the most for most of my preferred activities, and since I have good insurance and could afford the additional out-of-pocket cost, I decided to go with the LAL. My insurance paid for all the basic parts of the surgery.
On the surgery day, I bussed over to the surgery office and they did intake, I waited for a while, and then was led into the pre-surgery area, a large circular hospital area with curtained cubicles all around the edges. All the people in the cubicles were at various stages of pre- or post-op, and nurses were circulating giving eye drops and checking in on people. I was given a gown to wear over my clothes, a surgical cap like a shower cap, and they started putting drops in my eyes. I knew they were giving me numbing and dilating drops, and other than that the surgery uses Versed for during the surgery. I chatted with the nurse, met the anesthesiologist (who cracked a lot of jokes about the efficiency of the surgeon - "it goes so fast, you won't even have time for a cocktail!"), and before long they had transferred me to a reclining rolling chair and took me in for the pre-op laser treatment. This was the most unpleasant part, as I had to stare unblinking into a bright light while the surgeon counted down. I could feel the anesthesiologist gently stroking my hand. As soon as that procedure was over, the anesthesiologist said "I'm starting the Versed now," and that was the last thing I can recall. In my dim memories I see some blobby colors moving around, like the oil projections at a hippie light show, but otherwise no memory of vision or any discomfort. The nurse gave me some apple juice, called my spouse to pick me up, and then I went home. My surgery had been scheduled for 11, and it was about 2pm.
I had a surgical bandage taped over my eye and was instructed to wear the clear eye shield at night. I felt a little woozy from the anesthetic, so I had chicken broth and some buttered pasta, and then rested in bed with the shades pulled for the rest of the day.
Next day I had a careful shower, hopped on the bus with my surgical bandage on (covered with sunglasses), and went to the clinic for my post-op. They removed the bandage and gave me a quick manual eye test, and handed over my LAL eyeglasses box.
At that point I had a lot of flashing and glare, from the implant, and I felt a bit wobbly in my vision as my eyes moved from side to side. In the days immediately after the surgery, while I noticed a distinct improvement in my vision, I also felt a bit off, and got frequent mild headaches. My old progressives were useless, so I used the LAL reader glasses to read or knit, but I could watch my laptop without any correction, which I hadn't been able to do for about 8 years!
By about a week out, I was noticing the artifacts from the lens less and less, except for when I was at a specific angle standing or sitting under overhead lights. The LAL glasses are ugly and inconvenient, but I wore them indoors and out for the full 5 weeks it took me to get adjusted. I called them my Bono Disguise because even people who knew me would fail to recognize me upon first glance. Sometimes I explained to people why I was wearing them, and sometimes I challenged myself not to explain it at all.
At my first correction (approximately 3 weeks after surgery), they tested my near vision at 20/20 and decided to correct only for astigmatism. In the week after that, I went back and forth about what I wanted to see the most clearly - things very close to my face, or things in the intermediate distance, like someone sitting across the table from me? Ultimately I decided that I could wear readers for close work and have "functional" vision the rest of the time. We decided to lock-in after only one treatment. After the treatment, and after each of the two lock-ins, I noticed a definite shift as my eyes and brain adjusted to the treatment.
The adjustment, involving a weird aluminum contact lens and an eye dilation that meant my iris was invisible, was odd and not pleasant but definitely bearable. Even the two lock-ins were not horrifying for me, but thanks u/texaserin for the warning about it. I joked to the nurse attending the lock-ins, "Oh hi, are you the one who holds my head in place?" Like others, I saw pink for about a week after the second lock-in, which was the brighter one for me. Pink, like millenial pink when looking at anything white with both eyes open, and when I'd close my untreated eye I'd see HOT pink.
What my functional near vision means is that I can focus clearly up to 12" from my face. Closer than that it's blurry, but I can read a book and use my laptop and drive without correction. With a bent arm, I can read the ingredients on a beverage can. I had to get a stick-on magnifying mirror for my bathroom so I could do eyebrow maintenance. Some days, when I'm short on sleep or the weather is very dry, I notice my vision is a bit more blurry, so I've been carrying PF eye drops (Systane PF) with me for touch-ups as needed.
Refraction BEFORE surgery (both eyes)
OD +0.75 sphere +0.50 cyl x046 axis +1.75 ADD
OS -7.50 sphere +1.50 cyl X144 axis +1.75 ADD
Refraction AFTER surgery (OS only)
OS -1.25 sphere, [noted as “sphere” but auto refraction reads +0.50] cyl x148 axis +2.00 ADD
They've listed my near vision now as J1+, or 20/20, which is wild!
2024.06.04 20:30 No-Inside4318 Will he ever come back? Will I wish him a happy birthday?
Me (f, 27) Him (26 going 27 Thursday) We were together 3 years. We done long distance. He lived 3hrs drive from me but we made it work. We were like best friends. Hardly ever argued. Only thing was his communication wasn't the best at times. He hated serious conversations.
We went to visit his family and friends in Manchester last October. He was all over me, nothing out of the ordinary. He stayed at mine the Saturday night we came home to Ireland. All over me and intimate. Next morning I drop him to his bus home and he breaks up with me 10mins before his bus. I was in shock. Reasoning "we are too different."
During the two weeks after he left me, he gave me so many mixed signals. Texts at 4am "I hate myself for what I done. You deserve better." To then "No I don't think we should get back together, this is for the best." I eventually told him to leave me alone as the mixed signals hurt me. After a total of 3 weeks apart, he asks to see me. He drives 3hrs to my house to make amends, showering me with gifts and affection. Drove 3hrs home the same day.
Everything was looking up. However my anxiety got the better of me because of how he was so easily able to abandon me after 3 years. His parents weren't also the fondest of me, not sure why. In January I tell him I simply can't do this right now, I felt sick with anxiety all the time. I just needed time to heal from the initial breakup. He begs and pleaded me, saying he wanted to marry me and was going to give me a promise ring. All the words I've always wanted him to say. I told him I couldn't at the time.
I never ghosted him, I stayed in contact, even sent him a valentines gift. We agreed to meet in February but then he cancelled and said he needed 'space' as he was still hurting from me leaving. I tried to give space but found it hard. Eventually he got mad at me at the end of March and told me "I'm done. You keep doing this. You keep saying you'll give me space but then you message me." I said I was sorry that I just missed him so much and when I wanted no contact he didn't respect it either so why cut me off. He said "you're just better than me."
I heard nothing for weeks until my birthday in April. I told him specifically not to reach out because it'll only hurt me. He messages me at 1am the night after my birthday to wish me a belated one and goes on to tell me that his pet died. I thanked him and showed him sympathy and then he went ghost again. I'm still friends with his brother and mutual friend that both live in England, we game every night. I miss my ex so much and its his birthday Thursday. I am trying my best to find the courage to not say a thing. I am unsure whether he is only not trying again because when we did it got complicated with his family and my anxiety, or is he actually just genuinely done. . I haven't heard anything since my birthday.
I've been writing letters the last few weeks and I've them all in an envelope to send to him, would I look crazy to? I just want to fight for us. I don't want this to be the end for good. We were so good together. I think he's scared ill get anxious and leave again..Or maybe he is just genuinely done this time.
What do I do? Should I say happy birthday? Should I send him the letters I spent time writing in hopes he will realise what he let go of?
I just feel its never getting easier.
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We went to visit his family and friends in Manchester last October. He was all over me, nothing out of the ordinary. He stayed at mine the Saturday night we came home to Ireland. All over me and intimate. Next morning I drop him to his bus home and he breaks up with me 10mins before his bus. I was in shock. Reasoning "we are too different."
During the two weeks after he left me, he gave me so many mixed signals. Texts at 4am "I hate myself for what I done. You deserve better." To then "No I don't think we should get back together, this is for the best." I eventually told him to leave me alone as the mixed signals hurt me. After a total of 3 weeks apart, he asks to see me. He drives 3hrs to my house to make amends, showering me with gifts and affection. Drove 3hrs home the same day.
Everything was looking up. However my anxiety got the better of me because of how he was so easily able to abandon me after 3 years. His parents weren't also the fondest of me, not sure why. In January I tell him I simply can't do this right now, I felt sick with anxiety all the time. I just needed time to heal from the initial breakup. He begs and pleaded me, saying he wanted to marry me and was going to give me a promise ring. All the words I've always wanted him to say. I told him I couldn't at the time.
I never ghosted him, I stayed in contact, even sent him a valentines gift. We agreed to meet in February but then he cancelled and said he needed 'space' as he was still hurting from me leaving. I tried to give space but found it hard. Eventually he got mad at me at the end of March and told me "I'm done. You keep doing this. You keep saying you'll give me space but then you message me." I said I was sorry that I just missed him so much and when I wanted no contact he didn't respect it either so why cut me off. He said "you're just better than me."
I heard nothing for weeks until my birthday in April. I told him specifically not to reach out because it'll only hurt me. He messages me at 1am the night after my birthday to wish me a belated one and goes on to tell me that his pet died. I thanked him and showed him sympathy and then he went ghost again. I'm still friends with his brother and mutual friend that both live in England, we game every night. I miss my ex so much and its his birthday Thursday. I am trying my best to find the courage to not say a thing. I am unsure whether he is only not trying again because when we did it got complicated with his family and my anxiety, or is he actually just genuinely done. . I haven't heard anything since my birthday.
I've been writing letters the last few weeks and I've them all in an envelope to send to him, would I look crazy to? I just want to fight for us. I don't want this to be the end for good. We were so good together. I think he's scared ill get anxious and leave again..Or maybe he is just genuinely done this time.
What do I do? Should I say happy birthday? Should I send him the letters I spent time writing in hopes he will realise what he let go of?
I just feel its never getting easier.