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Hi so if anyone can help calm my nerves or just make me feel like i’m not the only one that this has happened to it would be greatly appreciated. I have been on birth control for almost a year (a year in July). It hasn’t been perfect but it kept my periods regular up until 4 months ago. 3 of those months I have bled on the last active pill. This month is what has scared me though. I started bleeding Tuesday with still 4 active pills. At first it was just brown and because of work I put a tampon in just incase it became a flow. It wasn’t enough to fill a tampon but there was dark red bleeding. It is now Sunday and I had a little bit of fresh blood, same with Saturday, but primarily today it’s been brown clots. I took a pregnancy test on Thursday and it was negative. I take my birth control on time, only the week before last I took it 45 minutes early on a few days because of school finals. Could this be just because of stress and should I completely trust the test? I know it’s likely I am just freaking out, but I wanted to be sure and hear it from somebody else.

Hello everyone
I lost my job a couple weeks ago, and yesterday I’ve got diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis (which definitely explains my heavy and painful periods), I was able to get some help from Food bank with the food, but I will be getting my period soon probably in a day or two
I already have back pain, and I would really appreciate any help with the products. All my underwear have literal holes in them however, the main preference right now is pads and the heating pad.
thank you so much
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Sorry if this is a bit disjointed and long, there's a TL;DR at the end. I just had my LEEP on Thursday and wanted to share my experience. Hopefully this soothes a fellow over-thinker.
Background: 30 yr old female, 130 lbs, 5'2". No moderate, severe or chronic health conditions.
I was diagnosed with high-risk (HR) HPV with LSIL/abnormal cells in February of this year. Not 16/18, but another HR strain. I got at least one shot of the HPV vaccine before I turned 26 so I was really shocked at this. I had a complete emotional breakdown because of the connection to HPV and cervical cancer, plus I just felt....dirty. I've gone through my sexually active years without getting as much as a yeast infection, and now I had just been hit with an STI, and the one that causes cancer. I went into a pretty deep depression and honestly I'm still in that depression zone but not nearly as much. I did a ton of research and my findings told me that even if it was cancer, it's one of the most curable ones especially given my age, health, etc.
My primary doctor referred me to a gyno's office connected to the hospital I go to, and I scheduled an appointment for March 1st. Gyno (who was actually not an OBGYN but an APRN/midwife?) basically did a slightly more advanced exam/questionnaire then I got another referral to an actual OBGYN for a colposcopy and scheduled it for April 1st. I thought I would have the colpo/biopsy with the APRN during my March appointment but I guess that's just a "yeah your primary is right you need a colpo" step. Idk, very confusing.
April 1st comes, the doctor that was available for that date (I wanted to get this done asap) had some less than favorable reviews on the internet so that made me a little uneasy. Between each appointment I was spending hours researching, redditing, googling, youtubing etc. so I wouldn't go into this completely ignorant and hopefully minimize the chance of any BS being pulled.
My doctor was, to my surprise, very chill, professional and knowledgeable. Took time to answer all my questions, we even had some laughs. Please ladies, find a doctor that makes you feel comfortable if you can. No question is a silly question and no doctor or nurse should make you feel like you're stupid for raising concerns or asking a lot of questions. If you feel something is off or a doc is being an a-hole, that's your sign to GTFO and find another doctor. Pleasant staff make this experience so much better.
The colpo: wasn't that bad. They crack you open like a pistachio with a speculum (like they would use for pap smear) and take a look at your cervix with this scope. A vinegar solution is applied to highlight the abnormal cells. My doc's colpo machine did have a screen that could show me what he was seeing, although it wasn't working and honestly I'm glad. I think seeing what was going on inside of me would make me worry more. So I just had to take my doctor's word for it when he said the area of abnormal cells was small.
I had a punch biopsy done during my colpo and oh man. It hurt. I wasn't instructed to take ibuprofen beforehand. I'm not sure if they didn't think I would need a biopsy or what but holy crap. 2 samples were taken, at 12 o'clock and 6 o'clock on my cervix, and I received a curettage as well. The curettage didn't hurt or was minor in comparison to the biopsy. After the biopsy, a "liquid bandage" was applied, this bandage is called Monsel's solution I believe. It's a mustard yellow paste.
The biopsy caused immediate moderate cramping and pain. The "6 o'clock" one, which was a larger sample, made me flinch and let out a little yelp. 6 o'clock hurt a lot. I will say that my doctor talked about what he was going to do before doing or as he was doing it so it's not like I was taken entirely by surprise. However, you don't realize how sensitive your cervix is until a chunk is taken from it.
After the biopsy, I felt this dull pain, nausea and cramping and apparently had excessive bleeding. Dribbles of blood were present on the procedure chair and floor, some of which had been cleaned up by the nurse/assistant prior to me sitting up so who knows how much was there. Doc confirmed this excessive bleeding in my after visit summary, but it wasn't so much so that it warranted some kind of emergency. I experienced some spotting for about 2 to 3 days after. I expected more blood in my pads but that never happened. I think seeing all this blood, knowing where it came from and why it was there made me even more nauseous.
The nausea and...weakness after the biopsy really had me messed up. I could barely focus as my doctor went into detail about what to possibly expect afterwards, what he saw (he even drew a little picture of my cervix), answered any questions I had. We said our goodbyes, I got dressed and made a mad dash to the waiting area's water cooler. I figured some cool water would calm my nerves and my stomach. I stupidly walked home after the procedure (I live in Chicago, very close to my doc's office). Nothing terrible happened but in hindsight, what if I passed out in the office, in the street? If you can ladies, have someone with you to get you home safely and for support. Or, at the very least, take an uber after.
After getting home I checked my pad, everything was good although I did have some "coffee grounds" in my pad from the Monsel's solution. The doc warned me about this and to expect it for a few days. I crashed on my couch for a little nap before going to a concert later that evening because I don't know how to take a day off.
The next month following my biopsy was largely uneventful, I did have intercourse about 2.5 weeks post-biopsy with no issues or pain, although the thought of infection and the whole process made it hard to enjoy sex (I healed up just fine so this was more unnecessary worrying). I didn't experience any pain, fever, or excessive bleeding, only some mild discomfort/cramping/lethargy (likely due to mentally stressing myself out) on day 2. I did however, experience one moment that freaked me out:
Day 3 post-biopsy: I got home from after work (my job requires me to be on my feet most of the day) and felt something in my vagina. It felt like a freshly inserted, regular sized tampon. I went to the bathroom, washed my hands and reached down to feel something coming out of me. Something was crowning and breaching my labial gates. I reached back down and slowly pulled out whatever object was in me. It felt like a horror movie. I knew I had inserted nothing.
Based on the feeling of said object, I thought my cervix was falling out of my body. I started panicking a bit. Panicking intensified after pulling out this...sac.
It looked alien. It was this membrane sac, about the size of a pitted date when rolled up. Within the sac contained those "coffee grounds." I knew it was the Monsel's solution and likely I had shed the liquid bandage. That logical thought didn't stop me from freaking out and gently wrapping my alien sac Starbucks trash baby in a piece of toilet paper and further sealing this HPV caused abomination into a Ziploc bag. My plan was to run to the ER and show them the freak I had given birth to.
Problem is, I had just lost my is insurance and was in process of getting a new plan, so a costly trip to the ER, waiting for hours for them to likely tell me I'm a panicky idiot wasn't really in the cards. So what does any overly anxious patient do? Turn to Dr. Google of course! I found a couple of reddit posts from women who had experienced the same thing but there wasn't much information on what had just slithered out of me. I found one of those "pay $5 for any kind of advice: legal, medical etc! Chat with an expert today!" sites that seemed legit enough. I got in chat with a doc quickly after some AI pre-chat prompts and he confirmed my suspicions: it was the Monsel's solution that I had expelled from my body. I was told this wasn't unusual and so long as I don't have an excessive bleeding, fever, pain, blah blah, I should be fine.
And I was fine. If you experience this and don't have any accompanying complications, you should be fine too. It is weird when it happens though.
My results came back about 2 weeks later. What was initially thought to be LSIL turned out to be HSIL/CIN-III, and my OBGYN told me I needed a LEEP sooner than later. My appointment was scheduled for next month and I still didn't have insurance. These month long waits between appointments were anxiety ridden depression fests, fueled by junk food and further exacerbated by internet research. The LEEP posts on Reddit had me so concerned, I reached out to my doctor to see if I could be put under general anesthesia for my LEEP, instead of receiving local anesthesia. Women on here described LEEPs as painful and traumatic. Just awful stuff. If you're reading this you've likely read those too. They described leg shaking after the shots, crying, etc. My doctor left me a detailed voice message and responded to my concerns with: "most women tolerate it well but if you're uncomfortable we'll send you to the hospital and put you under monitored sedation/anesthesia." I was still worried but was willing to see how I felt after local anesthesia. I was pleased he was open to working with me and my comfort level.
Fast forward to Wednesday last week:
The night before my LEEP, I got maybe an hour of sleep. I couldn't turn my mind off. My heart started racing an hour before my procedure and I had weird heart palpitations/irregular heart beat. I showered to calm myself down and be clean for my appointment, took 600 mg of ibuprofen as instructed, then headed out. Got a little snack from Starbucks (croissant for before since I was walking to my doc and some madeleines for after to help offset some potential nausea). For my LEEP I wore a big comfy sweater, some "period" leggings (leggings that aren't too tight and I don't care if they get blood on them) and brought a pad with me just in case. They should provide one for you but I'd rather be prepared. Got to the office, checked in, did the pregnancy urine test, got called in quickly, went through the whole height/weight/med history routine. About 5 mins later I sat down in my OBGYN's office. He described the lab findings (CIN-III), detailed the procedure, the tools and supplies they would use, aftercare and answered any questions I had. He then led me into a procedure room (pretty sure it was the same one I had my bloody biopsy in). I got undressed from the waist down like a pap, sat in the procedure chair, draped a little paper blanket over my bare bits and waited. The doctor came in with his nurse and went to work.
They again cracked me open with a speculum, this time it was rubberized on some parts. This is so your vagina doesn't get fried from the electrical current, otherwise your pubes and vulva will look like Marv in Home Alone. They also slapped a little rubber pad on my thigh to "ground" me like I'm some kind heavy duty machinery. Colpo machine comes forward so the doc can zoom in on your cervix. He applied 2 types of solution if I recall correctly: the normal vinegar solution to highlight abnormal cells and an iodine solution to highlight normal cells. Someone can correct me if that's wrong. The solutions and their uses were the least of my concerns.
He then went in with 4 lidocaine injections to numb the area, total of about 1 ml of lido I think. He used a very small needle and upon insertion, it felt like a little pinch. Now, for those afraid of needles, it is a long ish needle but the actual poke is minimal. Although some women report that the inject was the worst part. That was not the case here but the visual can be a bit alarming. After the first injection, I didn't feel the other 3. I felt comfortable going forward with the procedure, and my doc kept checking in with me to make sure I was ok. I did feel an increase in my heart rate post-lidocaine, but it wasn't concerning. I wasn't sure if this was from the "holy shit he's about to start zapping" or as a side effect of the lidocaine. Regardless, my heart rate came back down to a reasonable level given the circumstances in a few minutes. I was actually so comfortable at this point, I managed to relax my asscheeks after they were clamped together like a vise grip from the moment my derriere hit the chair.
I'm not really sure what happened after the injections, I knew he was using the LEEP machine but I don't know how long that lasted and when the wound was being created vs. cauterized as I didn't feel anything except some mild cramping/discomfort. I didn't flinch like I did with the biopsy. When the doc was finished, he applied a little bit of Monsel's, described how much he removed, went over aftercare again, we said our thank yous and goodbyes. I got dressed and went on my way, snacking on my madeleines on my way home (I walked again lol). I felt well post-procedure and even stopped at Target to do some shopping and smell some summer collection candles. I did feel myself bleeding but when I got home and checked the pad, there was a minimal amount of blood. Some women here have reported a distinct burning smell during their LEEP, I didn't smell anything but I also have sinus issues soooo maybe I just didn't pick up on it? My appointment was at 9 a.m. and I was out by 9:32.
When I got home I had some orange juice, water then slept for about 8 to 9 hours. I did have little cry sessions here and there after my procedure. But I was also sleep deprived and know I tend to get emotional. Regardless, take some time off after a LEEP, stay home around your own germs if possible. Get some of your favorite snacks, a face mask and a Nintendo switch or something. This is a good time for some self-care and rest, girlies.
Friday, day after LEEP: no bleeding, minor cramping/discomfort.
Saturday: Usual morning pee met with some blood in the toilet paper. Nothing in my pad though. Throughout the day I slept on and off, I've been more tired than usual. My body and mind has gone through some shit so I'm not mad at myself for being sleepy. I did experience some heavier bleeding throughout the day that was mostly dark colored. The blood level was about the same if not less than what I'd experience with a period. No unusual smell. I did shed the liquid bandage. Did have some mild cramping at certain points during the day but not debilitating or worth taking ibuprofen over.
Sunday: Energy levels finally back up to something normal, don't feel as tired. Still bleeding dark red blood/brown discharge but it's minor. Ran some errands today, I figured gravity would cause me to bleed more but it's about the same as yesterday if not less.
If there's interest, I'll check in at maybe the 2 week and 4 week mark, or whenever I remember since this is my throwaway account.
Overall the LEEP was way better than the biopsy in my experience. Reddit had me freaking out. I know I'm lucky, and this post isn't to dismiss any terrible or painful experience other women have had. I want to share my 'positive' experience, since most of my mental state surrounding my diagnosis, fears, the upgrade from LSIL to HSIL, has been negative.
Oh and I did get insurance literally a week before my LEEP, thank God.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask them below!
TL;DR: -Colpo: easy -Biopsy: sucks. Most pain I've ever felt and felt nauseous/uneasy after. Ask your doctor if you can take ibuprofen prior to a biopsy. Monsel's solution/liquid bandaid came out in sac-like alien baby about 36 to 48 hours later. Was able to have intercourse 2-2.5 weeks post-biopsy. No insertion of anything for about 3 days after. -LEEP: easy-ish? 600 mg ibuprofen 1 hour before procedure. Anxiety inducing but once I was numbed with local anesthesia, I felt nothing except some mild cramping. The injection didn't hurt and caused no serious side effects. No smell. No excessive bleeding. Felt fine post-LEEP but did experience some bleeding. It's been less than a week so I'll update if anything spooky happens, if no updates then expect everything went fine. No intercourse/tampons/etc for 3 to 6 weeks.
Tips: -Prioritize self care throughout this experience especially. It'll help you stay calm and heal. -Dress comfy for procedures -Take some snacks and water to your appointments for post-procedure ick -Do your research. Knowledge is power even if it makes you uncomfortable. Youtube was a great resource for me, I like to see what's going to happen before it does. Just try not to get worked up like I did. -Ask questions. If a doctor makes you feel stupid, see another doctor if possible. -Have someone with you for support and to make sure you get home ok -If you experience fever, intense pain, soaking through pads, or notice any weird smell: GO TO A DOCTOR

I have a 100.4 fever but I do not know the accuracy of these thermometers one says 100.4 (vicks brand) and the other says 99.5 (boncare brand) consistent in their readings.
I am sweating and just feel unwell. I'm worried about this because I have an infection in one of upper molars that has a root canal. According to a dentist, it was done poorly (last summer) and needs retreatment but I can't afford that right now.
It's also starting to get hot here where I live in the Midwest 86F and I wonder if that could significantly affect my temperature since I don't have an A.C in my place, just a fan. I also had my period start around 5/8 and I wonder if this fever could be a sign of ovulation.
Should I go get checked at the E.R knowing that I have this infection in my upper molar (#3) or should I wait it out? I never took antibiotics for it because the dentist said if it didn't cause me pain it wasn't necessary. It does not hurt but the x-ray showed a significant infection and the dentist was surprised it didn't hurt. I am just nervous it's going to spread or get worse (the infection in my upper molar). How likely is that in an otherwise healthy 27yr old?
Stats: 27f 175lbs generally healthy, Hispanic
symptoms : fever, sweats, nausea, fatigue, feeling unwell in general, occasional pelvic pain and IBS flare-up

I’m not sure what to make of my situation.. 28(F) Had miscarriage July 2023. Been TTC since December 2023. Since my MC, I sometimes get twinges and pains in the pelvic area. The amount of days I bleed during my period has gone from 4 to 3 (2 days of consistent bleeding and the 3rd is mainly spotting.) I get positive LH tests but I haven’t started temping yet as I don’t want to overcomplicate and stress myself out.
Details of MC: Lost pregnancy at 9 weeks. Had subchorionic hematoma, saw heartbeat, Miscarried the next day. I have a tilted uterus, went home to pass pregnancy without medical intervention- took multiple days for everything to clear due to uterus being tilted. I got my period back quickly after but cycles were a bit wonky: 32D, 31D, 35D, 30D, 29D, 31D, 37D.
Before my MC, my cycles were never as long as 37 days. That was last month. I got a transvaginal ultrasound and this was the report: IMPRESSION: No pelvic masses are seen. PROCEDURE: US PELVIC TRANSABDOMINAL AND TRANSVAGINAL HISTORY: Pelvic pain TECHNIQUE: Transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound of the pelvis. COMPARISON: none FINDINGS: MEASUREMENTS: Uterus: 6.7 x 3.4 x 5.3 cm (Length x Height x Width) Endometrium: 10 mm in thickness Right Ovary: 2.1 x 1.4 x 1.4 cm. (Length x Height x Width) Left Ovary: 3.6 x 3.1 x 2.8 cm (Length x Height x Width) UTERUS: The uterus appears normal. ADNEXA: No adnexal masses are seen. MISC: There is some free fluid in the pelvic cul-de-sac.
I’m wondering if anything seems to be indicative of silent endometriosis? With my tilted uterus and the free fluid, I am worried I could be dealing with endo.

TLDR; Has anyone had experience with Elmiron instills? I want to give Elmiron a shot as it’s so helpful for a lot of people, but I’m very cautious about the eye side effects of the oral pill. I’ve heard of people doing instills with it instead, anyone know if the side effects can still occur with this delivery route?
22F Hi guys, havent posted on this sub in a bit. I’ve gotten a decent amount better with the addition of 300mg gabapentin, but I’m still flaring kind of randomly. I felt super good for a few days, then I ate auntie anns brown sugar cinnamon pretzel bites (with prelief) and my bladders been mad for a few days now. I think one of my main triggers is probably sugar. Other than that its hard to determine what my triggers are. Sometimes I can have sex no problem, other times it flares me. Sometimes I can eat chocolate, other times it flares me. Sometimes I flare the week before/during my period, sometimes I actually feel better then. Consistently though, I feel pretty good when lying on my stomach. Weird. I’ve already had PTs tell me my PF isnt anything crazy, so its prob not that. I try to follow the IC diet as closely as I can, but it’s really difficult to do as a college student in the US.
I’ve tried a lot of meds, some working good, others not so much. Vesicare 5mg (helps a bit, I’ve been on it from the start), Hydroxyzine 25mg 3x a day (idk if this helps or not helps a bit maybe, have also been on this since the start), nortriptyline 75mg (have been on this at 50mg since childhood, just upped it), aloe vera caps, bladder builder, marshmallow root caps (maybe they help?), birth control minipill (took once and flared terribly), and recently gabapentin 300mg (I thought this was helping but then I got a several long day flare). Pain meds do nothing to touch it. I did one “rescue” instill that either didnt work or started to work two days later. The cath was very painful to insert.
Everything started being consistently painful for me after a night of drinking a ton and blacking out. Previously I’d get some random slight burning here and there that would go away fast after drinking some water. I’d get a little exterior burning on occasion before my period.
With my health history (POTS, hypermobility, EoE, migraines, possible MCAS) I have no clue what to do or try now. While my symptoms are significantly better than 8 months ago when all this started, I’m still flaring for seemingly no reason most of the time. While I do have some almost pain free days, I am paranoid of triggering myself. Has anyone had experience with Elmiron instills? I want to give Elmiron a shot as it’s so helpful for a lot of people, but I’m very cautious about the eye side effects of the oral pill. I’ve heard of people doing instills with it instead, anyone know if the side effects can still occur with this delivery route?
I have a laparoscopy scheduled for the end of June to physically see whats going on in there, as well as to rule out endo. My periods have never been too bad, I’ll just get very bad lower back pain during, or abdominal cramps that hurt so bad that they wind me anytime in the month. I also bleed almost every time I go #2. Along with the lap, they plan on doing my first ever bladder scope to see whats going on in there while I’m under anesthesia. My Endo specialist doc and Urogyno doc are both going to be there, so they can excise or cauterize anything they may find.
I am so so so tired of whatever is going on with me and I just want to get back to a pretty normal life. I want to know exactly what my triggers are which seems impossible. Even while I’m doing my best to have an IC friendly diet I still get 10/10 flares. I’m so sick of being to afraid to eat anything.

my pelvic tension is focused in my perineum. that’s my subjective feeling and also something my PT told me. i don’t have pain and don’t subscribe to the theory that sometimes pain doesn’t feel like pain because that makes no sense. it’s just tension and it squeezes my prostate and urethra giving me a weak stream, ED, and a sense of having to pee that is almost constant. it’s like hell. i’ve been stretching every day, usually 2-3 sometimes more times a day, usually after a hot bath. doing this six months now. this started two years ago and i have had periods where it was much milder, i only started PT six months ago after a bad flare that never went away and still hasn’t really. i don’t think it can be a nerve issue because there isn’t pain. my PT was only willing to give me stretches to do, no one else near me sees male patients and no one does dry needling or botox or anything helpful. in the last month i was starting to feel some relief (as in i could at least sit and relax for an hour or two at a time without having to pee, as long as i only drink water and keep stretching daily (but being very careful and not stretching too far or it gets worse) then a week ago i triggered it and it’s like i’m back at square one. how is that even possible? like scientifically what is so special about the perineum that it can be so impossible to loosen long term? i’ve had issues with tight muscles elsewhere before and it took maybe a few weeks every time to stretch it out. it makes no sense. i’ve been religious with doing what i was told to do for it, just for a very precarious and slight recovery.
seriously what am i supposed to do? am i just fucked? living my life like this is completely out of the question. i can see myself struggling with this for maybe another year because i still hope i can recover but i refuse to be someone posting on here about how they’ve dealt with it for six years or something. there is literally no point in being alive when you are stuck with this and the only thing that has kept me going is the possibility of recovery

I have a question for you ladies I do have a obgyn appt soon but wondering if you ladies could help. I had a hysterectomy 6 months ago removed everything but my ovaries… I have noticed that my pain in back focusing on my right lower side like it has been before the hysterectomy, the pain isn’t as bad but I’m still having to take 1,000 mg Tylenol.. this happened to anyone?

My 12 week old Westie puppy plays with my cat often. My cat is usually very gentle and only pets the puppy without using his claws, but today when they were playing I heard the puppy yelp. I went to check and saw the cat's paw around the puppy's nose, so I think the cat probably has scratched her. The puppy also kinda wiped her face with her paws a couple times after I removed the cat. However I didn't find any bleeding or visible wounds when I checked her face and her eyes also seem fine without any squinting. She doesn't look like she's in any pain either. I did some research and am paranoid right now since I found that sometimes the dog appears fine but can't open their eyes the next day. I'm considering taking her to the vet just to be sure but not sure that it would be necessary. Should I take her to the vet and if not, is there anything I should watch for that indicates possible injury? I'm a first time dog owner so I tend to be paranoid :(

My(23 F) former Irish partner (29 M) broke up with me after being in a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years. His reason was that it was not working for him anymore and could not see a way for me to be there with him ASAP because of how complicated our situation was. He also told me about how miserable he was and the only remedy that he could think of was to find someone nearer that would make him happy. After hearing that, it felt like my heart had been stabbed multiple times. It was too painful.
He opened the idea of staying as friends and mentioned his desire to date his coworker. He said she has a nice personality and they're a lot more closer in age. Well, I had mixed emotions about what he said. And for sure, it's all negative. I felt extremely insecure, jealous, and upset. We had a fight about it when I just wanted to clarify certain things . But he went on saying that I could not even respect his decision and called me names like "insecure idiot", "spineless coward", "pathetic loser", etc. He also yelled at me on the phone. So, I refused the friendship offer and removed his access to me.
In our past arguments, this person would refuse to talk to me for about 2 days min -1 week max, as his own way of taking "space".
I am aware of the differences in conflict resolution styles for individualistic vs collectivistic cultures so I just want to ask if it's a thing here? Or maybe there is a bigger factor here like being an emotionally abusive person?

Hi M20 here
Me and my Mother have always had a very unstable relationship throughout my childhood and teenage years.
When I was very young me and my mother had a good relationship until I turned around 8 years old and then something changed, I am not sure what but she become this increasingly volatile individual.
As a kid, my mother would never let me leave her side, and this sounds like goof parenting but my mother took this to the extreme, she never let me have a sleepover and never let me go to a friends for tea. In the same way she never let me invite anyone around as she didn't want to let people into our house.
This continued throughout my teenage years also, I never had friends around was never allowed to go and meet up with friends and so I become a recluse during my secondary school years. My mother would control who I was friends with and so when I finally made some friends she forced me to drop them when she suspected that some of them were gay and that they might be influencing me (which is absolutely bizarre as I am not sure why she was bothered about 13/14 year old's sexualities ). I didn't drop them as they were amazing friends and she eventually found out about this at parents evening as one of my teachers mentioned one of the students names and she was ranting and raving about how they were a bad influence on me and I disrespected her.
Then I had struggles with my sexuality around this age regardless of my friendship with these people and then she made disgusting accusations against me which permanently effected my relationship with her, when I told my dad, he was absolutely disgusted and shouted at her and then she cried and said she was a terrible mother, I don't want to go to into depth on this part of the matter due to the fact that It is very upsetting for me to talk about. However wanted it to be mentioned as I felt that it was relevant to my mothers actions
She kind of chilled out for a few years and then she ramped it back up again when I went into sixth form, mainly as when I was in sixth form I was allowed to leave the school site during free periods and lunch and break time, I called her one time and told her that I was on my way down to meet my friend in a town by my school (like a five minute walk give or take) and she lost her shit down the phone saying that I was disrespectful and 'naughty' for not telling her that I was walking down to the park with my friend and that I could be kidnapped and killed and she would never know where I was if the school went on fire.
I then one evening went down to the beach with my friends at the end of the summer term and she then forced me to put my location on my phone so she knows where I was - she knew where I was as she dropped me there ? and she then forced me to keep it on but then she started getting far to controlling with it, for example when I was sat in a classroom examination she started repeatedly activating the lost mode on the phone and playing sounds on it as my location was not updating, and she was texting me saying put your location on now where are you? IN A LESSON ? ? ?
This then chilled out until I was applying for Universities and she wanted me to apply for the universities within a 30 minute drive to where we live, however due to me feeling so depressed at this time and wanting to leave home I applied for a University 1hr 20 min away and she blew her lid at me and said why would I do this when I can stay at home with her and that she didn't want me to move away and that she did not want to let me move away as I never asked her if this was something that I would be allowed to do, bear in mind I was 18 years old at this point and she was still treating me as if I was 8 years old.
She then forced me to transfer to one of the universities closer home due to manipulating me over the summer, I was diagnosed with a long term health condition and due to pain I gained some weight and a few years earlier I had started vaping (bad I know however I was trying to fit in, weak mindset core I just wanted some friends) she was also being very strict with what I was allowed to eat during this time and not allowing me to leave the house in an attempt to not let me vape - I was 19 at this point and yet again I can make my own decisions. This carried on for a while and due to her constant comments about my weight (she made comments like 'you are developing a shelf and a pouch) and the fact that I was s*xually assaulted at University I developed Bulimia as I felt inadequate due to her constant comments as as I was already mentally so low I coped in an unhealthy way and still to this day have an extremely unhealthy relationship with food (bingeing, purging ect ect) and this took a toll on my mental health as I found myself becoming dysregulated emotionally quite frequently and so I was trying to go on medication but she tried to convince me to not take them
My mother now is equally just as nasty, she comments about my weight frequently (I am not overweight for one and two I have told her I have a eating disorder but she said to my face that she doesn't believe me or in them). I got given money for support with my condition and have student finance for money and she keeps forcing me to pay off her overdraft amounts I have given her around 6k this year as she is not financially stable, she has paid me part back so that not an issue but I feel like its so inappropriate to be asking your child for so much money and being nasty and abusive as a means to get it (throwing me out screaming in my face ect ect )
Can anyone give advice on what to do because I am at the end of my tether with this woman, I say woman as I no longer see her as a parent but purely someone who lives in my house who likes to have an extreme amount of control over me
Thanks

House in Dallas. Built in 1985. Probably not the original hose bib, but at least 22 years old. I’ve removed the stem on a few occasions and replaced the rubber seal at the end. But it leaks, unless I crank down on it with a wrench. Which I shouldn’t have to do. Kind of a pain.
Does it likely thread into a fitting up in the wall? Is there some way to tell? The other end of it would be in my kitchen wall behind a cabinet, as I considered cutting a small hole in the wall to see if it is threaded in or soldered in. But that would be last resort.
Anyway, thanks for any input/advice.

Hey all, my wife is having great pain for a while turns out she has a 11mm stone and her bladder is covered with sludge. Most likely it will be removed this week.
So is there a way to relieve her pain during this attacks other than painkillers -which they dont kill pain? Like a massage or drinking some speaific drink etc?

Around two months ago, I began to notice crowding in my teeth and pain in the back of my mouth from my wisdom teeth emerging. One night, the pain became unbearable, and I felt a popping sensation in my jaw, prompting a trip to the hospital. The hospital staff advised me to visit a dentist for X-rays, as they were unable to perform the necessary imaging.
The next day, the dentist confirmed that my wisdom teeth were impacted and recommended extraction. I scheduled an appointment for a month later to have all four teeth removed under general anesthesia. Concerned about potential changes to my facial appearance, I asked the dentist, who assured me there would be no noticeable changes.
As the surgery date approached, my bottom right and top left wisdom teeth started to poke through my gums, and I could feel the tops of them in the back corners of my mouth. On the day of the extraction, I took all the necessary precautions. In the operating room, I asked the surgeon and his assistant if the surgery would alter my facial appearance. Both dismissed my concerns, claiming it was highly unlikely and they had never heard of that before.
Before the anesthesia took effect, I questioned the need for extracting the teeth that had already erupted. The surgeon brushed off my concern and said he would explain why momentarily, and the assistant quickly administered the anesthesia while he wasn’t in the room, leaving my question unanswered. I lost consciousness before the surgeon re-entered the room.
Post-surgery, I felt disoriented which is normal. The staff asked about my well-being and quickly discharged me. Unfortunately, they failed to instruct me to keep the gauze clamped down with my teeth, resulting in a dry socket. Over the next few days, my face and jaw swelled significantly, which I understood to be normal. The bleeding stopped after an hour, but I could feel large holes where my wisdom teeth had been with no blood clot.
By the second day of recovery, my gums felt like they were closing in on themselves where my teeth once were. Contrary to what my dentist and mom had told me—that new gum and bone would fill the spaces—my gums seemed to collapse into the empty sockets, altering my breathing, posture, and profile.
My head posture shifted forward, worsening my resting posture. Breathing through my left nostril became difficult, accompanied by noises when trying to sleep. I suspect I experienced ridge resorption or a similar condition. My face appeared narrower, and it seemed like I had lost significant jaw mass.
I was prescribed Tylenol-3 for pain relief, which I took for the first four days. However, the bottom right extraction site remained painful. This was one of the teeth I questioned the necessity of removing before the surgery. It seemed the surgeon might have known it didn't need removal and that it could cause health issues. I can feel the difference in bone mass compared to before the surgery in the outer backs of my jaw and the right side looks marginally different than my left now. The change looks identical to the diagrams showing forward vs. downward growth of the maxilla.
Now, I deeply regret the decision to undergo the extraction. Being under anesthesia left me vulnerable and uninformed, and I worry about the potential damage done during the procedure. I plan to get new X-rays to assess and compare the extent of the changes and damage to my jaw but am unsure of what my next steps should be to try and fix or reverse this damage.
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Hi everyone! I have started humira for my AS (and two past uveitis episodes) in the beginning of April. After only two shots I saw a reduction in pain, which got me excited about further improvements. However, between my 3rd and 4th shoot, I started to have crazy GI symptoms which have mostly persisted until now, including bloating, persistent diahrrea and stomach pain. I am now trying to manage without NSDAIs and visited a GI doctor which prescribed colonoscopy and endoscopy. I've always had some sort of inflammation in my gut with some lose stools from time to time, and i also had a recent fecal calprotectin test that showed slightly raised values, indicating a bit of gut inflmmation, but my rheum said it was not very relevant and quite common for AS patiens (indeed, multiple studies clearly show this). As I am experiencing my symptoms for such a long period, I am considering if they are actually driven by humira rather than by inflammation. Can you please share your experience?

late twenties female located in the US, and have been experiencing hip and back pain. Went in for MRI for that and found an ovarian teratoma (also known as dermoid cyst apparently) that is about 6cm in diameter.
Will be needing surgery for removal, and am trying to locate a surgeon for that. Does anyone have any experience with this?
Was your ovary able to be saved? How long is the recovery period/how long should I take off of work? My work is primarily on the computer and very little physical movement is required. thank you!

3 months postpartum here (from second child)! Have had two periods since giving birth and bleeding stopped. Heavy heavy periods and cramping. Gynocologist recommended Slynd to help with the periods/pain (despite me not wanting to be on the pill). Contemplating taking it, but may wait another few months or so for my body to regulate and get bit back to normal.
I’ve never heard of Slynd though and would love to hear from some other moms if they have used Slynd, found it be helpful with cramping and pain, side effects, etc.? Thank you!

29F - Had a rhinoplasty done in 2016, so a long time ago. I'm very late addressing this, but within a couple years after the procedure, I developed a small bump on the tip of my nose. It's no bigger than a small pimple, not painful, and general just feels like a tiny hard-ish lump on the surface of the skin. I has not grown whatsoever since it initially developed. It's really not noticable to others unless I point it out, but I'm curious if anyone has any idea on what this is and if there's any options for removal or remedy.
Some probably unhelpful photos but the most-up close I could get w/out full blurriness: https://postimg.cc/gallery/VSSDSj9

Well, another day, another visit to the ER!
Sometime during the night, my catheter got blocked. But still, about 700 ml had been collected. By 930 or so this morning, I started to feel uncomfortable and by 10 I was in pain. Spoke to the medical hotline that the facility offers, and I was directed to head back to the ER.
The ER doctor could feel my distended bladder and called for a scan. (Sonogram?) Appeared to have about 800 ml or so of urine backed up. Their plan of attack was to remove the current catheter and replace it with a 3-way catheter that can allow for flushing.
Upon removing the original catheter, some blood and clots came out along with some urine. They then inserted the new 3-way catheter and the urine and more blood and pieces of clots began to drain. Thankfully, after just a bit, it was just urine with a hint of pink, no more clots.
I also got some morphine along the way. Not sure what was responsible - the draining or the morphine - but i felt better very quickly.
Thanks to this group for implanting in my head that you don’t ef around when you’re unable to pass your urine.

"I am going to be 48 years old in a few weeks. I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder since I was twenty years old. Much of my life, I have met all of the criteria of this disorder, and I have had a long, hard road ahead once it dawned on me that it was true. I have a fundamental dysfunction in my personality. I cannot cope with the world because at my core, I am unable to maintain stability as a functional adult for long periods of time due to my impulsive nature and my ability to forgive and love unconditionally. I don't know how to reconcile those traits with a healthy and successful life. My relationships are 'ride or die,' with me as the enabledoormat/reactionary drama queen. I tend to date men who need constant, obsessive attention and servitude, with them being the dominant to my submissive, their ego to my down-to-earth, and they are the Narcissist to my Borderline. I don't want to romanticize like so many JokeHarley memes, but this has been the way that it has gone for far too long.
My upbringing wasn't even close to being abusive. I was the only child, and my parents stayed married. I was sheltered, with no physical or sexual abuse; both of my parents were good people who loved me. It wasn't easy; we lacked money but never love. We struggled, but there were so many things that were different than for most people, in cool ways and in ways that were not cool. But never was I considered 'normal.'
One of the challenges of being Borderline is the difficulty in being our own therapist. Not because of this new 'favorite person' misinformation, but because we struggle with justifying anything. We see very little wrong with the way we are; we just need to know how we can make others understand that it's okay that we are intense, unpredictable in a predictable way, and humanly sensitive to everything that affects us. We insert ourselves into everything so we can let it all affect us. We claim that we didn't realize that we're supposed to change because we see no problem with the way we are; it's other people who are concerned, and we are not concerned with what people think (except when we are). So why do we have to change? It's our life, the one that is unmanageable and dysfunctional, and giving us unhoused vibes. This is still our life, and it's not easy to get through that we need to act accordingly because we don't care about your self-esteem; why do you care about ours?
So, we are often pushed into admitting that we can potentially be a little bit much. We are painted into the roles of the serial killer and the horrible Narcissistic Personality Disorder twin flame that nobody trusts because we follow our hearts (and we tend to hold grudges). Our dynamics are different, but we all follow astrology. Our sign is 'complete psycho' most of the time. I have been trying to figure out how to make it so we can get along with the world and it is not our enemy...but people keep messing up the whole situation.
People with borderline personality disorder may exhibit fear of abandonment through intense and unstable relationships. They might go to great lengths to avoid real or perceived abandonment, such as clinging to others, becoming quickly and intensely attached, or displaying extreme reactions (anger, panic, or depression) when they anticipate abandonment.
Abandonment fears can lead to impulsive actions to prevent separation or worse, therefore it's important to seek professional help for a comprehensive understanding and support. Additionally, individuals with BPD may engage in frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, such as making frantic, impulsive gestures to maintain a connection, even if those actions are not in their best interest. They might experience intense feelings of emptiness when alone and may go to extremes to fill that void. These behaviors can strain relationships, making it challenging for individuals with BPD to establish and maintain stable connections with others. Therapy, particularly dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), is often recommended to help manage and address these challenges.
Patterns of instability in borderline personality disorder (BPD) refer to consistent and recurring disruptions in various aspects of a person's life. This instability typically manifests in the following areas:

1. Relationships: Individuals with BPD often experience tumultuous relationships marked by extremes of idealization and devaluation. Their attitudes and feelings toward others may change rapidly, contributing to a cycle of intense, yet unstable, interpersonal connections.
   
2. Self-Image: BPD can involve an unstable sense of self. Individuals may struggle with a fluctuating self-identity, feeling uncertain about who they are, their values, and their life goals. This instability in self-perception can lead to a lack of direction and purpose.
   
3. Emotions: Emotional instability is a hallmark of BPD. Intense and rapidly shifting emotions, such as anger, anxiety, and sadness, can be challenging to regulate. Mood swings may occur in response to external events or perceived threats to relationships.
   
4. Impulsivity: Impulsive behaviors in areas like spending, substance abuse, reckless driving, or unsafe sexual practices are common in individuals with BPD. These actions often stem from a desire to alleviate emotional distress or avoid perceived abandonment.
   

These patterns of instability can significantly impact a person's daily functioning and relationships, making it crucial for individuals with BPD to seek professional help for effective management and support. In the context of borderline personality disorder (BPD), impulsivity refers to engaging in behaviors without careful consideration of the consequences. Individuals with BPD may display impulsive actions in various areas of their lives, such as:

1. Spending: Reckless and impulsive spending, often beyond one's means, is common in individuals with BPD.
   
2. Substance Abuse: Engaging in impulsive and risky behaviors related to substance use, including alcohol and drugs.
   
3. Sexual Behavior: Unplanned and impulsive sexual encounters, sometimes without regard for potential consequences, can occur.
   
4. Reckless Driving: Impulsive and risky driving behaviors, such as speeding or dangerous maneuvers.
   
5. Self-Harm: Engaging in impulsive self-harming behaviors as a way to cope with intense emotions.
   

Impulsivity in BPD can be driven by a desire to alleviate emotional pain, boredom, or to avoid perceived abandonment. Developing coping strategies and emotional regulation skills through therapy, particularly dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), can be beneficial in managing impulsive behaviors associated with BPD.
Identity disturbance in borderline personality disorder (BPD) refers to a pervasive and unstable sense of self. Individuals with BPD may struggle with a coherent and consistent understanding of who they are, which can manifest in several ways:

1. Self-Image Fluctuations: A person with BPD may experience rapid shifts in self-perception, ranging from feeling exceptionally positive to extremely negative about themselves. This can occur within short periods.
   
2. Uncertainty About Goals and Values: Individuals with identity disturbance may have difficulty establishing and maintaining long-term goals or consistent values. They might struggle with defining their life direction and purpose.
   
3. Chameleon-Like Adaptation: Some individuals with BPD may adopt different personas or behaviors in different social situations, often as a means to fit in or avoid rejection. This can lead to a lack of stable and authentic self-expression. Intense Fear of Abandonment: The fear of abandonment can exacerbate identity issues, as individuals may shape their identity based on the perceived expectations or desires of others, leading to a lack of a stable core sense of self.
   

Addressing identity disturbance in BPD often involves therapeutic interventions, such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) or psychodynamic therapy. These approaches aim to help individuals explore and develop a more stable and authentic sense of self.
Dissociation in borderline personality disorder (BPD) refers to a coping mechanism where individuals disconnect from their thoughts, feelings, memories, or sense of identity. This disconnection can occur as a response to stress, trauma, or overwhelming emotions. Dissociative experiences in BPD may include:

1. Depersonalization: Feeling detached from oneself, as if observing from outside the body.
   
2. Derealization: Perceiving the external environment as unreal or distorted.
   
3. Amnesia: Gaps in memory, especially related to stressful events or periods of intense emotion.
   
4. Identity Confusion: Momentary lapses in awareness of one's identity or feeling unsure about who they are.
   

Dissociation serves as a way for individuals with BPD to manage distress, particularly when emotions become too overwhelming. However, it can interfere with daily functioning and contribute to difficulties in relationships. Therapy, especially approaches like dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and trauma-focused therapy, may help individuals develop healthier coping mechanisms and address dissociative experiences.
Certainly, here are some examples of dissociative experiences that individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may encounter:

1. Depersonalization: Feeling as though you are watching yourself from a distance, almost like being an observer rather than an active participant in your own life.
   
2. Derealization: Perceiving the external world as strange, unreal, or distorted. You may be on a heavy trip off mushrooms and wandering around the closet park in the middle of the night feels different when you are over 40. It hits different, and you can get in a lot more trouble than experimenting teenagers. You're not holding a job long under these circumstances.
   
3. Amnesia: Having periods of time where you cannot recall significant details or events, especially those associated with heightened emotional states or trauma. If you are being sedated for trying to call the same number over and over at three am because you desperately need to move to
   
4. Identity Confusion: Brief moments of not recognizing oneself or feeling uncertain about personal identity, values, or goals. Taking in the attributes of your signiotg
   

It's important to note that dissociative experiences can vary widely among individuals, and not everyone with BPD will necessarily experience these examples. If you or someone you know is experiencing dissociation or other symptoms associated with BPD, seeking professional help from a mental health practitioner is crucial for appropriate diagnosis and support.
Suicidal ideation in borderline personality disorder (BPD) involves persistent thoughts about death, dying, or the desire to end one's life. Individuals with BPD may experience varying degrees of suicidal thoughts, ranging from fleeting notions to detailed plans. Some aspects of suicidal ideation in BPD include:

1. Frequency and Intensity: Suicidal ideation can be a chronic feature, with thoughts occurring regularly or intermittently. The intensity can range from vague thoughts to detailed plans.
   
2. Impulsivity: Individuals with BPD may be prone to impulsive behaviors, and this impulsivity can extend to suicidal acts or self-harming behaviors during periods of emotional distress.
   
3. Sense of Hopelessness: Suicidal thoughts in BPD can be linked to a pervasive sense of hopelessness, often fueled by challenges in relationships, identity, and emotional regulation.
   
4. Coping Mechanism: For some, suicidal ideation may serve as a coping mechanism, providing a perceived escape from emotional pain or a means to regain control.
   

Addressing suicidal ideation in BPD requires immediate attention from mental health professionals. Therapeutic interventions, such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be effective in helping individuals manage intense emotions and develop healthier coping strategies. If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, it's crucial to seek help from a mental health professional or a crisis hotline immediately.
Mood swings in borderline personality disorder (BPD) are characterized by rapid and intense changes in emotional states. These fluctuations can occur in response to various triggers or even without apparent cause. Key aspects of mood swings in BPD include:

1. Intensity: Emotions can shift from one extreme to another rapidly, with individuals experiencing intense feelings of joy, anger, sadness, or anxiety.
   
2. Instability: The duration of mood swings can be brief, lasting only a few hours or days. This instability contributes to the challenge of predicting or managing emotional states.
   
3. Triggered by Interpersonal Events: Mood swings in BPD often correlate with interpersonal stressors, such as perceived rejection, criticism, or the fear of abandonment.
   
4. Impact on Relationships: The intensity and unpredictability of mood swings can strain relationships, as others may find it challenging to understand or respond to the rapidly changing emotional landscape.
   

Therapeutic approaches, particularly dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), focus on helping individuals with BPD recognize and regulate their emotions, providing skills to manage mood swings effectively.
The term "Cluster B" refers to one of the four personality disorder clusters outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Cluster B personality disorders share certain features, including dramatic, emotional, and erratic behaviors. This grouping includes the following personality disorders:

1. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): Characterized by instability in relationships, self-image, and emotions, along with impulsive and self-destructive behaviors.
   
2. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): Involves an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, and a lack of empathy for others.
   
3. Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD): Characterized by a disregard for the rights of others, impulsivity, deceitfulness, and a lack of remorse after harming others.
   
4. Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD): Involves a need for attention, dramatic and seductive behavior, and intense emotions that may be perceived as shallow.
   

These personality disorders within Cluster B share some common traits, such as difficulties in forming and maintaining relationships, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation. However, each disorder within the cluster has distinct features and diagnostic criteria. The clustering is a way to organize and understand patterns of personality pathology for diagnostic and treatment purposes.
Diagnosing borderline personality disorder (BPD) typically involves a comprehensive assessment by a mental health professional. Several tools and methods are used to gather information, including:

1. Clinical Interviews: A mental health professional conducts thorough interviews to assess the individual's symptoms, emotional experiences, and history of relationships. These interviews may involve discussions about mood, identity, impulsivity, and interpersonal difficulties.
   
2. Diagnostic Criteria: The assessment often involves evaluating the individual against established diagnostic criteria, such as those outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Meeting specific criteria is essential for a formal diagnosis.
   
3. Structured Interviews: Mental health professionals may use structured interviews designed to elicit specific information related to BPD symptoms. These interviews help standard ize the diagnostic process.
   
4. Self-Report Questionnaires: Individuals may be asked to complete self-report questionnaires designed to assess various aspects of personality, emotional experiences, and interpersonal functioning.
   
5. Collateral Information: Information from family members, close friends, or other relevant sources may be considered to gain a more comprehensive understanding of the individual's behavior and relationships.
   

It's important to note that a diagnosis of BPD should be made by a qualified mental health professional based on a thorough assessment. Early diagnosis and intervention are crucial for individuals with BPD to receive appropriate treatment and support.
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