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2024.06.02 18:55 woechild91 Evil Narcissistic grandmother.
Narcissistic grandmother.
Where do i begin.... So my grandmother has always been abusive to me. For as long as i can remember.
As a child my mum and dad practically dumped me on my grandmother and grandfather's step. They took me in. My grandad was always my angel. He loved me so much and I was always the apple of his eye. Sadly in 2009 he died from leukaemia. He was diagnosed on his birthday. Died a year later on his birthday 😔 me and my grandmother never really got along. She always looked down her nose at me. Like I was a piece of shit under her shoe.
It was just me who got dumped on my grandparents step. My sisters went with my mum and my brother with my dad when they split up.
Now.... I don't know much about her upbringing because I literally can't speak to the woman. She is very... Undermining and passive agressive. So I just don't bother as its never pleasant to speak to her. Never has been.
So I have 2 sisters and a brother. My grandmother idolises them. Very openly, almost like it's done purposely to make me feel as low as possible. I am constantly left out of family outings, holidays, meals. You name it. It's making me resent my own siblings.
I became the black sheep very quickly. I have to watch my family doing things together, while I'm constantly left out. Watching from the sidelines, Unacknowledged, Forgotten about if you will.
Fast forward... At this point id had enough. So I moved in with my then boyfriend. I was obviously extremely happy to get away from my grandmother and family. I moved to a different city.
Things were great at first... Sadly he started to change after a while. He started to abuse me also and get violent towards me. I found out he had abused 2 women before me. I escaped with my life barely. But I had nowhere to live or any money as my ex had taken everything off me and used me for my money the entire time and I would like to add that this man also made me disabled. ( trauma induced fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue, ptsd, depression, the whole lot )
So I had to move back in with my evil grandmother, but this time... I'm disabled at this point 😔 the trauma and stress of previous life abuses and obviously the trauma of domestic violence had made me extremely ill. I couldn't even walk. I've been in and out of hospital and doctors you name it.
So now, my grandmother has an evil new tactic up her sleeve. Because I'm now disabled, she uses my illness as a weapon to abuse me. Saying "your brain has gone" " you're crazy " . And calling me and i quote a " fat tw*t " obviously because of my ptsd, I was terrified to leave the house and now my own grandmother is attacking my appearance and mental health and disability all at the same time. My illness has turned my life upside down.
She is taking nearly all my money from me, so I'm unable to save up to leave. Shelters are only offering me places half way across the country, alone, which would absolutely terrify me.
I have had a pretty lonely existence and still live a lonely existence. My pets are my everything and shelters also do not allow pets. So I feel trapped now. I cannot survive without my pets. They're all I have.
I'm trapped with a woman who causes a fight with me any time I leave my bedroom. She attacks my disibilty, my mental health, calls me names, she bins my belongings and throws my stuff around all over the floor. She purposely breaks my belongings. Then she gaslights me.
She literally says I'm imagining things when she does all this stuff to me. All while turning the rest of my family against me by telling them, I'm unruly. Because I'm defending myself and standing my ground on what I know to be true. I've even resorted to recording her when she starts these fights with me. But even when I show my siblings. They instantly side with her or say it's nothing to do with them. Even if I tell my mum. She doesn't care. My mum is a very selfish woman. She has a drug addiction. So she only cares about herself and herself only. My dad has just got a whole seperate life now and a new gf. Wants nothing to do with me or anyone else besides his gf.
I've been abused my entire life. I'm still being abused. I've had enough.
What do I even do about this? I feel like I'm getting more sick by the day because of all this trauma. I'm literally trapped. I'm tired. My soul is literally tired.
If I alert authorities. My entire family will turn on me. All but one. My grandmother's daughter. My auntie. Is also cast out by her. So I do speak to her about the abuse which helps.
But it doesn't help my situation. I'm still trapped here. My auntie has a full house and is also dealing with illness herself. So that's not an option unfortunately.
Has anyone experienced anything like this with their grandmother?
It makes me sick because everyone thinks she's a lovely old lady. She puts on this false image in public. But behind closed doors. She's a monster. An absolute monster. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff she says to me I can barely believe it myself. She's told me to unalive myself and that nobody loves me and she hates me.
I know it's awful to say. But I cant wait until she passes 😢 I can then be free of her abuse once and for all. I hate that I think this way about someone. But when theyve abused you your entire life, Belittled you, called you names, attack you, bullied you, destroys and bins your belongings and has trapped you, then blames you for it. You will think and feel the same way. All whilst rubbing how much she loves my siblings in my face.
She makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. Like I'm unlovable. What did I ever do to her!?!
I remember asking this question once and she said I'm imagining things and im being childish and told to grow up and stop being crazy and that I'm weak.
She loves calling me weak and keeps telling me I'm playing the victim. Well.... I am the victim. You're literally abusing me.
It's not crazy if it's reality right?
Sometimes I feel like Im just not from this family. Even my siblings have nothing in common with me and look down on me and don't bother with me. We are 100% from the same mother and father. I just can't understand how I'm cast out and treated like this. I've never done anything wrong to anyone 😔😔
I've asked many times what I've done to deserve this treatment and they just keep saying the same thing. Stop playing the victim or I'm imagining things and to grow up. My feelings are not valid.
I'm constantly just in my bedroom, because if I come out. I become a target. I barely even eat 😢😢 I have 2 meals a week if that and that's when my grandmother goes out. I go down and make something quick to eat. I tend to buy a lot of snacks online. Things I can keep in my bedroom to snack on when I get real hungry, just to avoid coming out of my bedroom.
Not sure how much more heartbreak I can take.
I've planned a day out at the weekend for the first time in 2 years to go see all my friends. To a rave. Because my legs have gained a bit of strength recently after being bed bound for over a year because I've been so ill. Obviously I'm extremely nervous about leaving my house, but I'm trying to force myself to try get myself out of this rut I'm in. My grandmother has done nothing but attack my image, calling me fat and basically trying to destroy my confidence, so I don't go out and calling me other horrible names because it's a rave I'm going to.
Now I used to rave a lot. So it's the only time I get to mix with like minded people. It's always the same people who go and i class them all as my rave family. I've been super excited and obviously nervous about this rave. I planned it just a week ago. My grandmother of course. Is doing everything in her power to try get me to not go. My friends all live dotted around the country, so i barely ever get to see anyone.
I'm not allowed to be happy. Or have a life or do anything for that matter.
I've been trying to exercise using my hula hoops and other flowtoys. Like my leviwand for example. It cost over 300 pound and my grandmother has gone into the tube it's kept in and binned the chargers and string for it. Rendering it useless and saying she's not touched it and im making stuff up and im going crazy!!!
I know she had done it as it was in her cupboard in her room. It had moved completely from where I actually put it. My room is very cluttered as I've had to cram me, my things and my pets all in here with me, due to having left my ex in such a hurry. I feel like I'm living in a closet. So I thought this one item would be safe in that cupboard as it was expensive. She had moved it and shoved something in its box that I know wasn't in there when I put it in there. She's lost all the attatchments, which I know was all together in that box. So now I can't use it at all. Of course.... It's all in my head and I'm the one who's lost these things even though i know for a fact I kept it all safe and together.
She's constantly sabataging me and saying it's all in my head.
I'm Quickly fading. Giving up. But then.... She will attack me for that too. Fcked if I do. Fcked if i don't. I can't win. No matter what I do.
Even if for example... Something has been on its way out... Breaking for a while and she's aware of it, if it breaks, it's automatically my fault.
According to her... Anything that breaks. Even if I haven't touched it. It's my fault. She will deliberately leave things to deteriorate and then blame me when it finally breaks completely. I'm at my wits end.
I'm so lost and just devastated at how horrible my life has been.
Can anyone give me any advice on what I should do about this situation?
submitted by woechild91 to raisedbynarcissists [link] [comments]
Where do i begin.... So my grandmother has always been abusive to me. For as long as i can remember.
As a child my mum and dad practically dumped me on my grandmother and grandfather's step. They took me in. My grandad was always my angel. He loved me so much and I was always the apple of his eye. Sadly in 2009 he died from leukaemia. He was diagnosed on his birthday. Died a year later on his birthday 😔 me and my grandmother never really got along. She always looked down her nose at me. Like I was a piece of shit under her shoe.
It was just me who got dumped on my grandparents step. My sisters went with my mum and my brother with my dad when they split up.
Now.... I don't know much about her upbringing because I literally can't speak to the woman. She is very... Undermining and passive agressive. So I just don't bother as its never pleasant to speak to her. Never has been.
So I have 2 sisters and a brother. My grandmother idolises them. Very openly, almost like it's done purposely to make me feel as low as possible. I am constantly left out of family outings, holidays, meals. You name it. It's making me resent my own siblings.
I became the black sheep very quickly. I have to watch my family doing things together, while I'm constantly left out. Watching from the sidelines, Unacknowledged, Forgotten about if you will.
Fast forward... At this point id had enough. So I moved in with my then boyfriend. I was obviously extremely happy to get away from my grandmother and family. I moved to a different city.
Things were great at first... Sadly he started to change after a while. He started to abuse me also and get violent towards me. I found out he had abused 2 women before me. I escaped with my life barely. But I had nowhere to live or any money as my ex had taken everything off me and used me for my money the entire time and I would like to add that this man also made me disabled. ( trauma induced fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue, ptsd, depression, the whole lot )
So I had to move back in with my evil grandmother, but this time... I'm disabled at this point 😔 the trauma and stress of previous life abuses and obviously the trauma of domestic violence had made me extremely ill. I couldn't even walk. I've been in and out of hospital and doctors you name it.
So now, my grandmother has an evil new tactic up her sleeve. Because I'm now disabled, she uses my illness as a weapon to abuse me. Saying "your brain has gone" " you're crazy " . And calling me and i quote a " fat tw*t " obviously because of my ptsd, I was terrified to leave the house and now my own grandmother is attacking my appearance and mental health and disability all at the same time. My illness has turned my life upside down.
She is taking nearly all my money from me, so I'm unable to save up to leave. Shelters are only offering me places half way across the country, alone, which would absolutely terrify me.
I have had a pretty lonely existence and still live a lonely existence. My pets are my everything and shelters also do not allow pets. So I feel trapped now. I cannot survive without my pets. They're all I have.
I'm trapped with a woman who causes a fight with me any time I leave my bedroom. She attacks my disibilty, my mental health, calls me names, she bins my belongings and throws my stuff around all over the floor. She purposely breaks my belongings. Then she gaslights me.
She literally says I'm imagining things when she does all this stuff to me. All while turning the rest of my family against me by telling them, I'm unruly. Because I'm defending myself and standing my ground on what I know to be true. I've even resorted to recording her when she starts these fights with me. But even when I show my siblings. They instantly side with her or say it's nothing to do with them. Even if I tell my mum. She doesn't care. My mum is a very selfish woman. She has a drug addiction. So she only cares about herself and herself only. My dad has just got a whole seperate life now and a new gf. Wants nothing to do with me or anyone else besides his gf.
I've been abused my entire life. I'm still being abused. I've had enough.
What do I even do about this? I feel like I'm getting more sick by the day because of all this trauma. I'm literally trapped. I'm tired. My soul is literally tired.
If I alert authorities. My entire family will turn on me. All but one. My grandmother's daughter. My auntie. Is also cast out by her. So I do speak to her about the abuse which helps.
But it doesn't help my situation. I'm still trapped here. My auntie has a full house and is also dealing with illness herself. So that's not an option unfortunately.
Has anyone experienced anything like this with their grandmother?
It makes me sick because everyone thinks she's a lovely old lady. She puts on this false image in public. But behind closed doors. She's a monster. An absolute monster. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff she says to me I can barely believe it myself. She's told me to unalive myself and that nobody loves me and she hates me.
I know it's awful to say. But I cant wait until she passes 😢 I can then be free of her abuse once and for all. I hate that I think this way about someone. But when theyve abused you your entire life, Belittled you, called you names, attack you, bullied you, destroys and bins your belongings and has trapped you, then blames you for it. You will think and feel the same way. All whilst rubbing how much she loves my siblings in my face.
She makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. Like I'm unlovable. What did I ever do to her!?!
I remember asking this question once and she said I'm imagining things and im being childish and told to grow up and stop being crazy and that I'm weak.
She loves calling me weak and keeps telling me I'm playing the victim. Well.... I am the victim. You're literally abusing me.
It's not crazy if it's reality right?
Sometimes I feel like Im just not from this family. Even my siblings have nothing in common with me and look down on me and don't bother with me. We are 100% from the same mother and father. I just can't understand how I'm cast out and treated like this. I've never done anything wrong to anyone 😔😔
I've asked many times what I've done to deserve this treatment and they just keep saying the same thing. Stop playing the victim or I'm imagining things and to grow up. My feelings are not valid.
I'm constantly just in my bedroom, because if I come out. I become a target. I barely even eat 😢😢 I have 2 meals a week if that and that's when my grandmother goes out. I go down and make something quick to eat. I tend to buy a lot of snacks online. Things I can keep in my bedroom to snack on when I get real hungry, just to avoid coming out of my bedroom.
Not sure how much more heartbreak I can take.
I've planned a day out at the weekend for the first time in 2 years to go see all my friends. To a rave. Because my legs have gained a bit of strength recently after being bed bound for over a year because I've been so ill. Obviously I'm extremely nervous about leaving my house, but I'm trying to force myself to try get myself out of this rut I'm in. My grandmother has done nothing but attack my image, calling me fat and basically trying to destroy my confidence, so I don't go out and calling me other horrible names because it's a rave I'm going to.
Now I used to rave a lot. So it's the only time I get to mix with like minded people. It's always the same people who go and i class them all as my rave family. I've been super excited and obviously nervous about this rave. I planned it just a week ago. My grandmother of course. Is doing everything in her power to try get me to not go. My friends all live dotted around the country, so i barely ever get to see anyone.
I'm not allowed to be happy. Or have a life or do anything for that matter.
I've been trying to exercise using my hula hoops and other flowtoys. Like my leviwand for example. It cost over 300 pound and my grandmother has gone into the tube it's kept in and binned the chargers and string for it. Rendering it useless and saying she's not touched it and im making stuff up and im going crazy!!!
I know she had done it as it was in her cupboard in her room. It had moved completely from where I actually put it. My room is very cluttered as I've had to cram me, my things and my pets all in here with me, due to having left my ex in such a hurry. I feel like I'm living in a closet. So I thought this one item would be safe in that cupboard as it was expensive. She had moved it and shoved something in its box that I know wasn't in there when I put it in there. She's lost all the attatchments, which I know was all together in that box. So now I can't use it at all. Of course.... It's all in my head and I'm the one who's lost these things even though i know for a fact I kept it all safe and together.
She's constantly sabataging me and saying it's all in my head.
I'm Quickly fading. Giving up. But then.... She will attack me for that too. Fcked if I do. Fcked if i don't. I can't win. No matter what I do.
Even if for example... Something has been on its way out... Breaking for a while and she's aware of it, if it breaks, it's automatically my fault.
According to her... Anything that breaks. Even if I haven't touched it. It's my fault. She will deliberately leave things to deteriorate and then blame me when it finally breaks completely. I'm at my wits end.
I'm so lost and just devastated at how horrible my life has been.
Can anyone give me any advice on what I should do about this situation?
2024.06.02 18:42 woechild91 Narcissistic evil grandmother
Narcissistic grandmother.
Where do i begin.... So my grandmother has always been abusive to me. For as long as i can remember.
As a child my mum and dad practically dumped me on my grandmother and grandfather's step. They took me in. My grandad was always my angel. He loved me so much and I was always the apple of his eye. Sadly in 2009 he died from leukaemia. He was diagnosed on his birthday. Died a year later on his birthday 😔 me and my grandmother never really got along. She always looked down her nose at me. Like I was a piece of shit under her shoe.
It was just me who got dumped on my grandparents step. My sisters went with my mum and my brother with my dad when they split up.
Now.... I don't know much about her upbringing because I literally can't speak to the woman. She is very... Undermining and passive agressive. So I just don't bother as its never pleasant to speak to her. Never has been.
So I have 2 sisters and a brother. My grandmother idolises them. Very openly, almost like it's done purposely to make me feel as low as possible. I am constantly left out of family outings, holidays, meals. You name it. It's making me resent my own siblings.
I became the black sheep very quickly. I have to watch my family doing things together, while I'm constantly left out. Watching from the sidelines, Unacknowledged, Forgotten about if you will.
Fast forward... At this point id had enough. So I moved in with my then boyfriend. I was obviously extremely happy to get away from my grandmother and family. I moved to a different city.
Things were great at first... Sadly he started to change after a while. He started to abuse me also and get violent towards me. I found out he had abused 2 women before me. I escaped with my life barely. But I had nowhere to live or any money as my ex had taken everything off me and used me for my money the entire time and I would like to add that this man also made me disabled. ( trauma induced fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue, ptsd, depression, the whole lot )
So I had to move back in with my evil grandmother, but this time... I'm disabled at this point 😔 the trauma and stress of previous life abuses and obviously the trauma of domestic violence had made me extremely ill. I couldn't even walk. I've been in and out of hospital and doctors you name it.
So now, my grandmother has an evil new tactic up her sleeve. Because I'm now disabled, she uses my illness as a weapon to abuse me. Saying "your brain has gone" " you're crazy " . And calling me and i quote a " fat tw*t " obviously because of my ptsd, I was terrified to leave the house and now my own grandmother is attacking my appearance and mental health and disability all at the same time. My illness has turned my life upside down.
She is taking nearly all my money from me, so I'm unable to save up to leave. Shelters are only offering me places half way across the country, alone, which would absolutely terrify me.
I have had a pretty lonely existence and still live a lonely existence. My pets are my everything and shelters also do not allow pets. So I feel trapped now. I cannot survive without my pets. They're all I have.
I'm trapped with a woman who causes a fight with me any time I leave my bedroom. She attacks my disibilty, my mental health, calls me names, she bins my belongings and throws my stuff around all over the floor. She purposely breaks my belongings. Then she gaslights me.
She literally says I'm imagining things when she does all this stuff to me. All while turning the rest of my family against me by telling them, I'm unruly. Because I'm defending myself and standing my ground on what I know to be true. I've even resorted to recording her when she starts these fights with me. But even when I show my siblings. They instantly side with her or say it's nothing to do with them. Even if I tell my mum. She doesn't care. My mum is a very selfish woman. She has a drug addiction. So she only cares about herself and herself only. My dad has just got a whole seperate life now and a new gf. Wants nothing to do with me or anyone else besides his gf.
I've been abused my entire life. I'm still being abused. I've had enough.
What do I even do about this? I feel like I'm getting more sick by the day because of all this trauma. I'm literally trapped. I'm tired. My soul is literally tired.
If I alert authorities. My entire family will turn on me. All but one. My grandmother's daughter. My auntie. Is also cast out by her. So I do speak to her about the abuse which helps.
But it doesn't help my situation. I'm still trapped here. My auntie has a full house and is also dealing with illness herself. So that's not an option unfortunately.
Has anyone experienced anything like this with their grandmother?
It makes me sick because everyone thinks she's a lovely old lady. She puts on this false image in public. But behind closed doors. She's a monster. An absolute monster. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff she says to me I can barely believe it myself. She's told me to unalive myself and that nobody loves me and she hates me.
I know it's awful to say. But I cant wait until she passes 😢 I can then be free of her abuse once and for all. I hate that I think this way about someone. But when theyve abused you your entire life, Belittled you, called you names, attack you, bullied you, destroys and bins your belongings and has trapped you, then blames you for it. You will think and feel the same way. All whilst rubbing how much she loves my siblings in my face.
She makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. Like I'm unlovable. What did I ever do to her!?!
I remember asking this question once and she said I'm imagining things and im being childish and told to grow up and stop being crazy and that I'm weak.
She loves calling me weak and keeps telling me I'm playing the victim. Well.... I am the victim. You're literally abusing me.
It's not crazy if it's reality right?
Sometimes I feel like Im just not from this family. Even my siblings have nothing in common with me and look down on me and don't bother with me. We are 100% from the same mother and father. I just can't understand how I'm cast out and treated like this. I've never done anything wrong to anyone 😔😔
I've asked many times what I've done to deserve this treatment and they just keep saying the same thing. Stop playing the victim or I'm imagining things and to grow up. My feelings are not valid.
I'm constantly just in my bedroom, because if I come out. I become a target. I barely even eat 😢😢 I have 2 meals a week if that and that's when my grandmother goes out. I go down and make something quick to eat. I tend to buy a lot of snacks online. Things I can keep in my bedroom to snack on when I get real hungry, just to avoid coming out of my bedroom.
Not sure how much more heartbreak I can take.
I've planned a day out at the weekend for the first time in 2 years to go see all my friends. To a rave. Because my legs have gained a bit of strength recently after being bed bound for over a year because I've been so ill. Obviously I'm extremely nervous about leaving my house, but I'm trying to force myself to try get myself out of this rut I'm in. My grandmother has done nothing but attack my image, calling me fat and basically trying to destroy my confidence, so I don't go out and calling me other horrible names because it's a rave I'm going to.
Now I used to rave a lot. So it's the only time I get to mix with like minded people. It's always the same people who go and i class them all as my rave family. I've been super excited and obviously nervous about this rave. I planned it just a week ago. My grandmother of course. Is doing everything in her power to try get me to not go. My friends all live dotted around the country, so i barely ever get to see anyone.
I'm not allowed to be happy. Or have a life or do anything for that matter.
I've been trying to exercise using my hula hoops and other flowtoys. Like my leviwand for example. It cost over 300 pound and my grandmother has gone into the tube it's kept in and binned the chargers and string for it. Rendering it useless and saying she's not touched it and im making stuff up and im going crazy!!!
I know she had done it as it was in her cupboard in her room. It had moved completely from where I actually put it. My room is very cluttered as I've had to cram me, my things and my pets all in here with me, due to having left my ex in such a hurry. I feel like I'm living in a closet. So I thought this one item would be safe in that cupboard as it was expensive. She had moved it and shoved something in its box that I know wasn't in there when I put it in there. She's lost all the attatchments, which I know was all together in that box. So now I can't use it at all. Of course.... It's all in my head and I'm the one who's lost these things even though i know for a fact I kept it all safe and together.
She's constantly sabataging me and saying it's all in my head.
I'm Quickly fading. Giving up. But then.... She will attack me for that too. Fcked if I do. Fcked if i don't. I can't win. No matter what I do.
Even if for example... Something has been on its way out... Breaking for a while and she's aware of it, if it breaks, it's automatically my fault.
According to her... Anything that breaks. Even if I haven't touched it. It's my fault. She will deliberately leave things to deteriorate and then blame me when it finally breaks completely. I'm at my wits end.
I'm so lost and just devastated at how horrible my life has been.
Can anyone give me any advice on what I should do about this situation?
submitted by woechild91 to raisedbynarcissists [link] [comments]
Where do i begin.... So my grandmother has always been abusive to me. For as long as i can remember.
As a child my mum and dad practically dumped me on my grandmother and grandfather's step. They took me in. My grandad was always my angel. He loved me so much and I was always the apple of his eye. Sadly in 2009 he died from leukaemia. He was diagnosed on his birthday. Died a year later on his birthday 😔 me and my grandmother never really got along. She always looked down her nose at me. Like I was a piece of shit under her shoe.
It was just me who got dumped on my grandparents step. My sisters went with my mum and my brother with my dad when they split up.
Now.... I don't know much about her upbringing because I literally can't speak to the woman. She is very... Undermining and passive agressive. So I just don't bother as its never pleasant to speak to her. Never has been.
So I have 2 sisters and a brother. My grandmother idolises them. Very openly, almost like it's done purposely to make me feel as low as possible. I am constantly left out of family outings, holidays, meals. You name it. It's making me resent my own siblings.
I became the black sheep very quickly. I have to watch my family doing things together, while I'm constantly left out. Watching from the sidelines, Unacknowledged, Forgotten about if you will.
Fast forward... At this point id had enough. So I moved in with my then boyfriend. I was obviously extremely happy to get away from my grandmother and family. I moved to a different city.
Things were great at first... Sadly he started to change after a while. He started to abuse me also and get violent towards me. I found out he had abused 2 women before me. I escaped with my life barely. But I had nowhere to live or any money as my ex had taken everything off me and used me for my money the entire time and I would like to add that this man also made me disabled. ( trauma induced fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue, ptsd, depression, the whole lot )
So I had to move back in with my evil grandmother, but this time... I'm disabled at this point 😔 the trauma and stress of previous life abuses and obviously the trauma of domestic violence had made me extremely ill. I couldn't even walk. I've been in and out of hospital and doctors you name it.
So now, my grandmother has an evil new tactic up her sleeve. Because I'm now disabled, she uses my illness as a weapon to abuse me. Saying "your brain has gone" " you're crazy " . And calling me and i quote a " fat tw*t " obviously because of my ptsd, I was terrified to leave the house and now my own grandmother is attacking my appearance and mental health and disability all at the same time. My illness has turned my life upside down.
She is taking nearly all my money from me, so I'm unable to save up to leave. Shelters are only offering me places half way across the country, alone, which would absolutely terrify me.
I have had a pretty lonely existence and still live a lonely existence. My pets are my everything and shelters also do not allow pets. So I feel trapped now. I cannot survive without my pets. They're all I have.
I'm trapped with a woman who causes a fight with me any time I leave my bedroom. She attacks my disibilty, my mental health, calls me names, she bins my belongings and throws my stuff around all over the floor. She purposely breaks my belongings. Then she gaslights me.
She literally says I'm imagining things when she does all this stuff to me. All while turning the rest of my family against me by telling them, I'm unruly. Because I'm defending myself and standing my ground on what I know to be true. I've even resorted to recording her when she starts these fights with me. But even when I show my siblings. They instantly side with her or say it's nothing to do with them. Even if I tell my mum. She doesn't care. My mum is a very selfish woman. She has a drug addiction. So she only cares about herself and herself only. My dad has just got a whole seperate life now and a new gf. Wants nothing to do with me or anyone else besides his gf.
I've been abused my entire life. I'm still being abused. I've had enough.
What do I even do about this? I feel like I'm getting more sick by the day because of all this trauma. I'm literally trapped. I'm tired. My soul is literally tired.
If I alert authorities. My entire family will turn on me. All but one. My grandmother's daughter. My auntie. Is also cast out by her. So I do speak to her about the abuse which helps.
But it doesn't help my situation. I'm still trapped here. My auntie has a full house and is also dealing with illness herself. So that's not an option unfortunately.
Has anyone experienced anything like this with their grandmother?
It makes me sick because everyone thinks she's a lovely old lady. She puts on this false image in public. But behind closed doors. She's a monster. An absolute monster. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff she says to me I can barely believe it myself. She's told me to unalive myself and that nobody loves me and she hates me.
I know it's awful to say. But I cant wait until she passes 😢 I can then be free of her abuse once and for all. I hate that I think this way about someone. But when theyve abused you your entire life, Belittled you, called you names, attack you, bullied you, destroys and bins your belongings and has trapped you, then blames you for it. You will think and feel the same way. All whilst rubbing how much she loves my siblings in my face.
She makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. Like I'm unlovable. What did I ever do to her!?!
I remember asking this question once and she said I'm imagining things and im being childish and told to grow up and stop being crazy and that I'm weak.
She loves calling me weak and keeps telling me I'm playing the victim. Well.... I am the victim. You're literally abusing me.
It's not crazy if it's reality right?
Sometimes I feel like Im just not from this family. Even my siblings have nothing in common with me and look down on me and don't bother with me. We are 100% from the same mother and father. I just can't understand how I'm cast out and treated like this. I've never done anything wrong to anyone 😔😔
I've asked many times what I've done to deserve this treatment and they just keep saying the same thing. Stop playing the victim or I'm imagining things and to grow up. My feelings are not valid.
I'm constantly just in my bedroom, because if I come out. I become a target. I barely even eat 😢😢 I have 2 meals a week if that and that's when my grandmother goes out. I go down and make something quick to eat. I tend to buy a lot of snacks online. Things I can keep in my bedroom to snack on when I get real hungry, just to avoid coming out of my bedroom.
Not sure how much more heartbreak I can take.
I've planned a day out at the weekend for the first time in 2 years to go see all my friends. To a rave. Because my legs have gained a bit of strength recently after being bed bound for over a year because I've been so ill. Obviously I'm extremely nervous about leaving my house, but I'm trying to force myself to try get myself out of this rut I'm in. My grandmother has done nothing but attack my image, calling me fat and basically trying to destroy my confidence, so I don't go out and calling me other horrible names because it's a rave I'm going to.
Now I used to rave a lot. So it's the only time I get to mix with like minded people. It's always the same people who go and i class them all as my rave family. I've been super excited and obviously nervous about this rave. I planned it just a week ago. My grandmother of course. Is doing everything in her power to try get me to not go. My friends all live dotted around the country, so i barely ever get to see anyone.
I'm not allowed to be happy. Or have a life or do anything for that matter.
I've been trying to exercise using my hula hoops and other flowtoys. Like my leviwand for example. It cost over 300 pound and my grandmother has gone into the tube it's kept in and binned the chargers and string for it. Rendering it useless and saying she's not touched it and im making stuff up and im going crazy!!!
I know she had done it as it was in her cupboard in her room. It had moved completely from where I actually put it. My room is very cluttered as I've had to cram me, my things and my pets all in here with me, due to having left my ex in such a hurry. I feel like I'm living in a closet. So I thought this one item would be safe in that cupboard as it was expensive. She had moved it and shoved something in its box that I know wasn't in there when I put it in there. She's lost all the attatchments, which I know was all together in that box. So now I can't use it at all. Of course.... It's all in my head and I'm the one who's lost these things even though i know for a fact I kept it all safe and together.
She's constantly sabataging me and saying it's all in my head.
I'm Quickly fading. Giving up. But then.... She will attack me for that too. Fcked if I do. Fcked if i don't. I can't win. No matter what I do.
Even if for example... Something has been on its way out... Breaking for a while and she's aware of it, if it breaks, it's automatically my fault.
According to her... Anything that breaks. Even if I haven't touched it. It's my fault. She will deliberately leave things to deteriorate and then blame me when it finally breaks completely. I'm at my wits end.
I'm so lost and just devastated at how horrible my life has been.
Can anyone give me any advice on what I should do about this situation?
2024.06.02 18:37 Available_Bake_4660 I get to play Cinderella in real life
First time posting on here, hoping it makes me feel better more than anything.
I am the eldest of 3 girls in my family. We have a pretty large age gap in between us all, but all of us are adults at this point. I am the only one so far with children. With my first marriage, we had two beautiful children together. I became a widow at 25, shortly after our youngest was born and that was a very hard part in my life to deal with (still is to be honest). Skip to present day. I have a husband that treats both children as his own. Working full time, I help run a family business that my mother owns while also juggling my two children with school/life stuff. Bills are paid. We are not rich by any means but we keep the kids happy and busy with savings just in case.
My two sisters still live at home. One is on a separate piece of the land while the other is still in the main part of the home. Neither one has had any kind of serious dating experiences or many social outings that they partake in. They go to work and come home to hang out at home. Recently they all decided to book a trip on a cruise. Initially I was super excited for them to all be going. Thinking more of what a great trip for my mom to finally have a break from the business, but as the actual departure date arrived, I feel more like the Cinderella child that got left behind.
Here are the few things that struck me the hardest. When telling people about the trip, my mother told people how it "Was so nice that the whole family was going.". Guess I am no longer part of the family. I wasn't even invited on this trip. My mother did iterate that my sisters were paying all parts of their trips, but found that to be not entirely truthful. My mother used her airline miles to get free airfare for them and got the group rate between everyone, so they MOSTLY paid for their trip. I am sure they figured I couldn't afford it or swing child care. Probably accurate to be honest. Still hurts. Then about a week before they left, I found out that they would be meeting up with quite a few members of family close to their departure spot for the cruise. They only let me know about it so I wouldn't be surprised by pictures posted on social media.
So they are on their cruise. I am minding the store with another employee (thank goodness for her) and watching their house, cleaning it, and tending to their animals. It is a smaller farm but it has farm animals that need tending to about 3 times a day. The kids are having fun just running around the property helping me feed everyone. I just keep feeling really empty wondering why I am the black sheep. What did I do to not be wanted around? I am trustworthy enough to watch their business, house, and animals. I just feel like because I moved out and had a life, I am no longer worthy of their family status. Am I reading too much into all this? I just hate feeling this sad and not loved like my sisters are. I am tired of feeling like I put so much effort into doing things for them and it just not being quite as good as what my siblings are doing.
I am the black sheep for whatever reason. Maybe one day they will tell me what the heck I did to earn the title.
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I am the eldest of 3 girls in my family. We have a pretty large age gap in between us all, but all of us are adults at this point. I am the only one so far with children. With my first marriage, we had two beautiful children together. I became a widow at 25, shortly after our youngest was born and that was a very hard part in my life to deal with (still is to be honest). Skip to present day. I have a husband that treats both children as his own. Working full time, I help run a family business that my mother owns while also juggling my two children with school/life stuff. Bills are paid. We are not rich by any means but we keep the kids happy and busy with savings just in case.
My two sisters still live at home. One is on a separate piece of the land while the other is still in the main part of the home. Neither one has had any kind of serious dating experiences or many social outings that they partake in. They go to work and come home to hang out at home. Recently they all decided to book a trip on a cruise. Initially I was super excited for them to all be going. Thinking more of what a great trip for my mom to finally have a break from the business, but as the actual departure date arrived, I feel more like the Cinderella child that got left behind.
Here are the few things that struck me the hardest. When telling people about the trip, my mother told people how it "Was so nice that the whole family was going.". Guess I am no longer part of the family. I wasn't even invited on this trip. My mother did iterate that my sisters were paying all parts of their trips, but found that to be not entirely truthful. My mother used her airline miles to get free airfare for them and got the group rate between everyone, so they MOSTLY paid for their trip. I am sure they figured I couldn't afford it or swing child care. Probably accurate to be honest. Still hurts. Then about a week before they left, I found out that they would be meeting up with quite a few members of family close to their departure spot for the cruise. They only let me know about it so I wouldn't be surprised by pictures posted on social media.
So they are on their cruise. I am minding the store with another employee (thank goodness for her) and watching their house, cleaning it, and tending to their animals. It is a smaller farm but it has farm animals that need tending to about 3 times a day. The kids are having fun just running around the property helping me feed everyone. I just keep feeling really empty wondering why I am the black sheep. What did I do to not be wanted around? I am trustworthy enough to watch their business, house, and animals. I just feel like because I moved out and had a life, I am no longer worthy of their family status. Am I reading too much into all this? I just hate feeling this sad and not loved like my sisters are. I am tired of feeling like I put so much effort into doing things for them and it just not being quite as good as what my siblings are doing.
I am the black sheep for whatever reason. Maybe one day they will tell me what the heck I did to earn the title.
2024.06.02 18:30 HauntingProposal564 POWERLESS UNDER A CRIPPLING POWER POLICY
Pakistanis are boiling. Not just from the scorching sun, but from paying the price for a broken energy systemhttps://tribune.com.pk/story/2469393/powerless-under-a-crippling-power-policy
Shaila Zain, a widow, lives in a small house just 60 sq yards in area, with two small rooms, a kitchen and a bathroom. She pays Rs20,000 in rent for the accommodation in New Karachi where she lives with her children. Three years ago when the family moved here, she also paid Rs800-Rs1,500 in electricity bills, varying from winters to summers. Since the past year, the electricity bill has shot up to Rs3,500-Rs6,000 depending on the season.
Pakistan is entering a dark age where basic amenities and utilities like electricity are not accessible to all citizens. As summer approaches, people have started feeling the heat of load shedding as usual. In fact, electricity has become a rare commodity for consumers, especially those living in remote areas of the country.
Incompetence promotes corruption, which is prevalent in power distribution companies (Discos). Politically motivated appointments of CEOs often result in these companies being run on an ad hoc basis, with boards taking executive control of Discos. Currently, most directors are close relatives of parliamentarians, more concerned with transfers, postings, and installing transformers than policy making. Discos also lack trained staff, facing a shortage of around 60,000 employees that require immediate appointments.
The primary reasons for high electricity bills are dependence on imported fuels, notably furnace oil and LNG, which are the lifeblood of Pakistan's power generation. These fuels account for around 60 per cent of total electricity production, leaving the sector vulnerable to international market fluctuations in energy prices.
2024.06.02 18:23 LyricalApathy [M4F] [M4M] [M4A] One-Sided Chit-Chat with a Lonely Vampire [Supernatural] [Vampire Speaker] [Human Listener] [Capture] [Yandere?] [Series] [Brief Mention of Violence]
Script Gallery along with my terms, please read before recording!
Link to Part 1!
Roughly 1300 words!
(Please notify about questions/concerns.)
(The listener is laying in bed, recovering from their blood loss. Dylan is sitting in a chair near them, as if he’s been waiting for them to wake up. There is a clock ticking in the background.)
Dylan:
“Looks like someone’s finally decided to wake up.”
Dylan:
“Believe it or not, it’s only been a few hours.”
Dylan:
“That’s right, no coma, no permanent damage, nothing. If I thought you were in a coma, I would’ve taken you to a hospital.”
Dylan:
“The closest hospital is roughly an hour away on foot, and I don’t have a car, so, I guess you’re quite lucky.”
Dylan:
“For the average human it would be two hours. Being a vampire has its advantages.”
Dylan:
“How did you sleep?”
Dylan:
“You were out cold, it had me a little worried. Eight hours passed and you hadn’t moved an inch..”
Dylan:
“I’ve just been sitting here, watching you. It’s not like I had any other preoccupations.”
Dylan:
“I’m sure you didn’t know that your resting breath rate is around 16 breaths per minute. That’s not all! Your resting heart rate is 80 beats per minute..!”
Dylan:
“There wasn’t much else to do.. I suppose I could’ve taken a little walk..”
Dylan:
“The evening sky does look beautiful.. Perhaps I can take you out for a stroll one day..?”
Dylan:
“One day, but not today, no, no.. You’d try running off, not that you would get very far.”
Dylan:
“I noticed you were wearing a necklace, I took it off for you so it wouldn't get damaged in your sleep. No need to thank me.”
Dylan:
“Oh.? What's with that look, it’s not important to you, is it?”
Dylan:
“Now that I know you have an attachment to it, I don’t think I want to give it back to you..”
Dylan:
“Is it some kind of heirloom? Perhaps a Valentine's day gift from a special someone?”
Dylan:
“Oh, I'm only teasing. It doesn’t really matter who you got it from; you won’t be seeing them again.”
Dylan:
“It’s on the table, just over there.”
(The listener attempts to get up.)
Dylan:
“Ah-ah, stay down. I don’t want you getting dizzy and falling. Then we’d have another problem on our hands.”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“You’re a rather quiet one. Are you contemplating something, like your mortality? Or are you just shy?”
Dylan:
“There’s no need to be shy, after all, I don’t bite.”
Dylan:
“Hm?”
(Evil chuckle.)
Dylan:
“Lying through my teeth, it’s what I do best.”
Dylan:
“On a serious note, come on, talk to me, it wouldn't hurt you to. You’re in good hands, so just relax and let yourself talk.”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“Do you need anything to eat, or drink? Is that why you’re so quiet?”
Dylan:
“Well, I can go get food tomorrow, but I do have some water. Hold on, I’ll be right back.”
Dylan:
“Before I go..”
(He grabs the necklace.)
Dylan:
“Just in case you try to run off, I’m taking this with me.”
Dylan:
“Stay there.”
(Fade to black, only a few minutes have passed when Dylan reenters the room, he sets the necklace down on the table, and places the water next to the listener.)
Dylan:
“Here’s your drink.”
Dylan:
“How are you feeling?”
Dylan:
“Disoriented? I’m sorry. You’ll be back to normal in a few hours, I’m sure of it.”
Dylan:
“I’m very sure, and considering my status as a vampire and former doctor, I’d trust my opinion on blood loss recovery if I were you.”
Dylan:
“I've seen many people recover from a bite, it barely hurts them in the long run.”
Dylan:
“Well, maybe many is an overstatement..”
Dylan:
“I may not have seen many people recover from a bite, but I’ve seen countless people recover from general blood loss completely unrelated to vampirism.”
Dylan:
“You’d be surprised by the stupid things people do that land them in a hospital bed.”
Dylan:
“There was a time where we had some very obviously drunk college students come in because of, and I quote, ‘bloodletting gone wrong’.”
Dylan:
“Yes, bloodletting. The historical medical practice.”
Dylan:
“I still remember my exact thoughts when they said that.. Bloodletting gone wrong? How could it possibly go right?”
Dylan:
“Don’t give me that look. That happened before I became a vampire.”
Dylan:
“No, I wasn’t born one.”
Dylan:
“Anyway, where was I..? Oh, right.. Most vampires, myself included, don’t bother to keep tabs on their victims after they feed, it’s just far too risky. Besides, there’s not much of a point. Why stick around to see how one little victim fares after a bite when it’s much safer to simply move on?”
Dylan:
“Well, there’s hunters out there. For all I know, you could be one of them, but you wouldn’t dare to harm me..”
Dylan:
“Right?”
Dylan:
“It doesn't look to me like you have any weapons..”
Dylan:
“As long as you aren’t planning to maim me with your bare hands, I should be fine.”
Dylan:
“Come to think of it, you're free right now, you have been since right before you passed out.”
Dylan:
“I untied you before I put you to bed, were you too woozy to notice?”
Dylan:
“Don’t-”
Dylan:
“...be getting any ideas.”
Dylan:
“I may have untied you, but that doesn’t mean I’m letting you leave.”
Dylan:
“Moving on, now that you’re clearly awake enough to speak.. Talk to me.”
Dylan:
“I don’t think you understand, I’m not giving you a choice.”
(He whispers into the listener’s ear.)
Dylan:
“You shouldn’t be so stubborn with someone who has your life in their hands.”
Dylan:
“Talk.”
Dylan:
“I have an idea. Let’s take baby steps, we’ll start with a yes-or-no question..”
Dylan:
“Are you a vampire hunter?”
Dylan:
“I'm not going to hurt you if you are, it’s just something I need to know in order to proceed.”
Dylan:
“Well, hunter or not, it's nice to have company around, someone to talk to, a reliable source of blood.. Another thing, if someone comes all the way up here and tries to kill me, I could always use your life as a bargaining chip for them to leave me alone.”
Dylan:
“Oh, don’t cry. I wouldn’t actually kill you. I already like you too much.”
Dylan:
“As I was saying, it doesn’t seem like you have any weapons, but you could always be hiding something up your sleeve..”
Dylan:
“So, look at me and tell me the truth.”
Dylan:
“Cat got your tongue?”
Dylan:
“Is it about that necklace?”
(He picks up the necklace from the table nearby.)
Dylan:
“It looks like there’s some compartments to this thing, I wonder what’s inside..”
Dylan:
“Oh? Apprehensive much? What’s the problem? I’m not going to break it.”
Dylan:
“It looks harmless enough.. I’m a little shocked that there’s no hidden knives, no tiny containers of holy water, nothing.”
Dylan:
“This seems like it’s made of some fine metals, where did you get this from?”
Dylan:
“‘A friend.’ Hm.”
(He sets the necklace back down.)
Dylan:
“You don’t seem like a hunter, and if you are, I’m assuming you’re brand new, because clearly you aren’t very good at your job.”
Dylan:
“If you were any good, I would be dead, and you would be miles away by now.”
Dylan:
“Aw, it’s ok.. If you weren’t such an uncoordinated hunter, I wouldn’t be having this conversation with you right now.”
Dylan:
“Still insisting you aren’t a hunter? Alright, whatever you say..”
Dylan:
“You seem to be rather interested in that clock over there.. We’re in no hurry. Now that I think about it, maybe I should take it down and hang it up in my room instead..”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“Looks like it’s almost 7:00 AM..”
Dylan:
“If I opened those curtains over there, the sun would probably blind me.. Which means.. it's probably time for bed.”
Dylan:
“I go to bed at sunrise, and you’ll be adopting that schedule as well.”
Dylan:
“How will I ever get the chance to talk to you if you’re always sound asleep while I’m awake?”
Dylan:
“You’ll get used to it in due time.”
Dylan:
“I'll be locking your door, so don't even think about sneaking off.”
Dylan:
“I.”
Dylan:
“Hear.”
Dylan:
“Everything.”
Dylan:
“I’ll get you some food at sundown.”
Dylan:
“Sweet dreams..”
(Dylan walks out and shuts the door behind him.)
(Part 2 end.)
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Link to Part 1!
Roughly 1300 words!
(Please notify about questions/concerns.)
(The listener is laying in bed, recovering from their blood loss. Dylan is sitting in a chair near them, as if he’s been waiting for them to wake up. There is a clock ticking in the background.)
Dylan:
“Looks like someone’s finally decided to wake up.”
Dylan:
“Believe it or not, it’s only been a few hours.”
Dylan:
“That’s right, no coma, no permanent damage, nothing. If I thought you were in a coma, I would’ve taken you to a hospital.”
Dylan:
“The closest hospital is roughly an hour away on foot, and I don’t have a car, so, I guess you’re quite lucky.”
Dylan:
“For the average human it would be two hours. Being a vampire has its advantages.”
Dylan:
“How did you sleep?”
Dylan:
“You were out cold, it had me a little worried. Eight hours passed and you hadn’t moved an inch..”
Dylan:
“I’ve just been sitting here, watching you. It’s not like I had any other preoccupations.”
Dylan:
“I’m sure you didn’t know that your resting breath rate is around 16 breaths per minute. That’s not all! Your resting heart rate is 80 beats per minute..!”
Dylan:
“There wasn’t much else to do.. I suppose I could’ve taken a little walk..”
Dylan:
“The evening sky does look beautiful.. Perhaps I can take you out for a stroll one day..?”
Dylan:
“One day, but not today, no, no.. You’d try running off, not that you would get very far.”
Dylan:
“I noticed you were wearing a necklace, I took it off for you so it wouldn't get damaged in your sleep. No need to thank me.”
Dylan:
“Oh.? What's with that look, it’s not important to you, is it?”
Dylan:
“Now that I know you have an attachment to it, I don’t think I want to give it back to you..”
Dylan:
“Is it some kind of heirloom? Perhaps a Valentine's day gift from a special someone?”
Dylan:
“Oh, I'm only teasing. It doesn’t really matter who you got it from; you won’t be seeing them again.”
Dylan:
“It’s on the table, just over there.”
(The listener attempts to get up.)
Dylan:
“Ah-ah, stay down. I don’t want you getting dizzy and falling. Then we’d have another problem on our hands.”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“You’re a rather quiet one. Are you contemplating something, like your mortality? Or are you just shy?”
Dylan:
“There’s no need to be shy, after all, I don’t bite.”
Dylan:
“Hm?”
(Evil chuckle.)
Dylan:
“Lying through my teeth, it’s what I do best.”
Dylan:
“On a serious note, come on, talk to me, it wouldn't hurt you to. You’re in good hands, so just relax and let yourself talk.”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“Do you need anything to eat, or drink? Is that why you’re so quiet?”
Dylan:
“Well, I can go get food tomorrow, but I do have some water. Hold on, I’ll be right back.”
Dylan:
“Before I go..”
(He grabs the necklace.)
Dylan:
“Just in case you try to run off, I’m taking this with me.”
Dylan:
“Stay there.”
(Fade to black, only a few minutes have passed when Dylan reenters the room, he sets the necklace down on the table, and places the water next to the listener.)
Dylan:
“Here’s your drink.”
Dylan:
“How are you feeling?”
Dylan:
“Disoriented? I’m sorry. You’ll be back to normal in a few hours, I’m sure of it.”
Dylan:
“I’m very sure, and considering my status as a vampire and former doctor, I’d trust my opinion on blood loss recovery if I were you.”
Dylan:
“I've seen many people recover from a bite, it barely hurts them in the long run.”
Dylan:
“Well, maybe many is an overstatement..”
Dylan:
“I may not have seen many people recover from a bite, but I’ve seen countless people recover from general blood loss completely unrelated to vampirism.”
Dylan:
“You’d be surprised by the stupid things people do that land them in a hospital bed.”
Dylan:
“There was a time where we had some very obviously drunk college students come in because of, and I quote, ‘bloodletting gone wrong’.”
Dylan:
“Yes, bloodletting. The historical medical practice.”
Dylan:
“I still remember my exact thoughts when they said that.. Bloodletting gone wrong? How could it possibly go right?”
Dylan:
“Don’t give me that look. That happened before I became a vampire.”
Dylan:
“No, I wasn’t born one.”
Dylan:
“Anyway, where was I..? Oh, right.. Most vampires, myself included, don’t bother to keep tabs on their victims after they feed, it’s just far too risky. Besides, there’s not much of a point. Why stick around to see how one little victim fares after a bite when it’s much safer to simply move on?”
Dylan:
“Well, there’s hunters out there. For all I know, you could be one of them, but you wouldn’t dare to harm me..”
Dylan:
“Right?”
Dylan:
“It doesn't look to me like you have any weapons..”
Dylan:
“As long as you aren’t planning to maim me with your bare hands, I should be fine.”
Dylan:
“Come to think of it, you're free right now, you have been since right before you passed out.”
Dylan:
“I untied you before I put you to bed, were you too woozy to notice?”
Dylan:
“Don’t-”
Dylan:
“...be getting any ideas.”
Dylan:
“I may have untied you, but that doesn’t mean I’m letting you leave.”
Dylan:
“Moving on, now that you’re clearly awake enough to speak.. Talk to me.”
Dylan:
“I don’t think you understand, I’m not giving you a choice.”
(He whispers into the listener’s ear.)
Dylan:
“You shouldn’t be so stubborn with someone who has your life in their hands.”
Dylan:
“Talk.”
Dylan:
“I have an idea. Let’s take baby steps, we’ll start with a yes-or-no question..”
Dylan:
“Are you a vampire hunter?”
Dylan:
“I'm not going to hurt you if you are, it’s just something I need to know in order to proceed.”
Dylan:
“Well, hunter or not, it's nice to have company around, someone to talk to, a reliable source of blood.. Another thing, if someone comes all the way up here and tries to kill me, I could always use your life as a bargaining chip for them to leave me alone.”
Dylan:
“Oh, don’t cry. I wouldn’t actually kill you. I already like you too much.”
Dylan:
“As I was saying, it doesn’t seem like you have any weapons, but you could always be hiding something up your sleeve..”
Dylan:
“So, look at me and tell me the truth.”
Dylan:
“Cat got your tongue?”
Dylan:
“Is it about that necklace?”
(He picks up the necklace from the table nearby.)
Dylan:
“It looks like there’s some compartments to this thing, I wonder what’s inside..”
Dylan:
“Oh? Apprehensive much? What’s the problem? I’m not going to break it.”
Dylan:
“It looks harmless enough.. I’m a little shocked that there’s no hidden knives, no tiny containers of holy water, nothing.”
Dylan:
“This seems like it’s made of some fine metals, where did you get this from?”
Dylan:
“‘A friend.’ Hm.”
(He sets the necklace back down.)
Dylan:
“You don’t seem like a hunter, and if you are, I’m assuming you’re brand new, because clearly you aren’t very good at your job.”
Dylan:
“If you were any good, I would be dead, and you would be miles away by now.”
Dylan:
“Aw, it’s ok.. If you weren’t such an uncoordinated hunter, I wouldn’t be having this conversation with you right now.”
Dylan:
“Still insisting you aren’t a hunter? Alright, whatever you say..”
Dylan:
“You seem to be rather interested in that clock over there.. We’re in no hurry. Now that I think about it, maybe I should take it down and hang it up in my room instead..”
(Sigh.)
Dylan:
“Looks like it’s almost 7:00 AM..”
Dylan:
“If I opened those curtains over there, the sun would probably blind me.. Which means.. it's probably time for bed.”
Dylan:
“I go to bed at sunrise, and you’ll be adopting that schedule as well.”
Dylan:
“How will I ever get the chance to talk to you if you’re always sound asleep while I’m awake?”
Dylan:
“You’ll get used to it in due time.”
Dylan:
“I'll be locking your door, so don't even think about sneaking off.”
Dylan:
“I.”
Dylan:
“Hear.”
Dylan:
“Everything.”
Dylan:
“I’ll get you some food at sundown.”
Dylan:
“Sweet dreams..”
(Dylan walks out and shuts the door behind him.)
(Part 2 end.)
2024.06.02 18:21 Karen037 I backed into my roommates car
I live in a basement with unhealthy living conditions, and what caused me to back into my roommates car might be a line of sight issue…
My parking space is supposed to be unobstructed, but my roommates has guests over and their children and guests children were playing in the yard when this happened…
I was preoccupied with taking a head count while heading to my car, one child was right next to my car sitting down while i was backing out. There is a hanging branch and a covered parking spot that is currently being used to store household items in the yard, so my view was obstructed on my path to my car and i did not see that one of my roommates had parked behind me and there was no way to get out of my parking space.
I was watching where my car was getting close to the child sitting by the tree i park next to and backed into the rear bumper of the roommates car. it was my fault but ultimately the damage was minimal, just a scratch and the bumper clips need replacing.
i felt awful and immediatly called my insurance and reassured my roommate that id make sure the damages are repaired.
last night, they went into my bedroom without my permission and turned off my bedroom light, but the reason i keep it on is due to the black widow infestation they didnt tell me about till i moved in… the place is full of hazards in the yard and it all just added up to the event… cramped spaces, children running around, dogs off leash, obstructed view due to untrimmed brush and personal items being stored in the parking space.
i know on paper it is my fault… but we all handled it civily, but them coming into my room last night worries me that they are planning something or maybe were trying to find something in my room to bring up or keep on record…
i dont do drugs, dont have pets, im on a month to month… so theres nothing in my room that could be a concern legally…
if they were to be uncivil, what am i potentially dealing with… and what are my options considering the living conditions?
There is no way for me and a different roommate to dispose of our accumulated recycle and garbage on a regular basis because the upstairs roommates will fill up both bins before we downstairs roommates get a chance to do so…
ive recently been struggling with scoliosis and could not get around to getting my waste to the dump… so the only thing in my room are garbage bags ready to go to the dump… but other than that ive kept things clean.
I have to sleep with a shooting range headset because my room does not have a sound barrier, the children sleep directly above me and my downstairs roommates chiwawas wake me up with their barking as well… so after a while the combination of not being able to sleep properly or have the resources to live appropriately have added up.
There is no laundry downstairs and we are not allowed to use the upstairs laundry. No access to proper garbage and recycling disposal, and as of recent, the blocked driveway was unexpected.
theres a lot of obsticles here and they keep piling up, im already considering moving but would like to keep things civil and will seek legal help if necessary, but in the meantime looking for suggestions.
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My parking space is supposed to be unobstructed, but my roommates has guests over and their children and guests children were playing in the yard when this happened…
I was preoccupied with taking a head count while heading to my car, one child was right next to my car sitting down while i was backing out. There is a hanging branch and a covered parking spot that is currently being used to store household items in the yard, so my view was obstructed on my path to my car and i did not see that one of my roommates had parked behind me and there was no way to get out of my parking space.
I was watching where my car was getting close to the child sitting by the tree i park next to and backed into the rear bumper of the roommates car. it was my fault but ultimately the damage was minimal, just a scratch and the bumper clips need replacing.
i felt awful and immediatly called my insurance and reassured my roommate that id make sure the damages are repaired.
last night, they went into my bedroom without my permission and turned off my bedroom light, but the reason i keep it on is due to the black widow infestation they didnt tell me about till i moved in… the place is full of hazards in the yard and it all just added up to the event… cramped spaces, children running around, dogs off leash, obstructed view due to untrimmed brush and personal items being stored in the parking space.
i know on paper it is my fault… but we all handled it civily, but them coming into my room last night worries me that they are planning something or maybe were trying to find something in my room to bring up or keep on record…
i dont do drugs, dont have pets, im on a month to month… so theres nothing in my room that could be a concern legally…
if they were to be uncivil, what am i potentially dealing with… and what are my options considering the living conditions?
There is no way for me and a different roommate to dispose of our accumulated recycle and garbage on a regular basis because the upstairs roommates will fill up both bins before we downstairs roommates get a chance to do so…
ive recently been struggling with scoliosis and could not get around to getting my waste to the dump… so the only thing in my room are garbage bags ready to go to the dump… but other than that ive kept things clean.
I have to sleep with a shooting range headset because my room does not have a sound barrier, the children sleep directly above me and my downstairs roommates chiwawas wake me up with their barking as well… so after a while the combination of not being able to sleep properly or have the resources to live appropriately have added up.
There is no laundry downstairs and we are not allowed to use the upstairs laundry. No access to proper garbage and recycling disposal, and as of recent, the blocked driveway was unexpected.
theres a lot of obsticles here and they keep piling up, im already considering moving but would like to keep things civil and will seek legal help if necessary, but in the meantime looking for suggestions.
2024.06.02 17:53 farscode Junge went clubbing
Inspired by this post (codename Junge is chosen as an omage to 'Baby') I finally popped my clubbing cherry yesterday. I understand much now. But also have follow-up questions.
TLDR: wow I totally get why now. Some questions about how: 1) Clubbing & drugs: what's a sustainable way to do it? 2) How do you solo outside of the dancefloor? 3) Coming soon
Backstory: Nerdy, but devilishly handsome (hi, I'm a Caucasian male, unearned confidence is the name of the game) 30M, moved to Berlin 2 years ago, spent the last 7 years in a beautiful loving relationship, which made me perfectly content and therefore not evolving much - probably why it fell apart a few months ago, but we're not here to analyse my breakup, this is just for context. Anyway, so I also wasn't going clubbing in my content, thinking like hell, I'd rather drop some MDMA here at home and spend some quality time with my girl, what could be better than that, what is the point?
Now I understand the point. It's insanely electric. Like wow guys I guess I just never heard good techno. You become so completely immersed, just like everyone around you, becoming one with the crowd. I see now why it is treated almost religiously around here. Before I was like 'well this repetitive music without words doesn't stimulate my brain much'. It doesn't need to. It hits the soul directly. Drugs help with that of course. Which brings me to my first question.
1) Is everyone on drugs? I myself was on LSD and weed, which is probably why I got so many thoughts haha, but 2 different random people I talked to were on MDMA, and I mean, also you can see it in the crowd of course. Dear people who go clubbing all the time, what is the deal here? Do you always go on drugs or do you alternate, and if so, how is the experience different? Do you drink instead or stay completely sober? Or do I just have too little faith in techno as a fresh convert, and you don't even need no drugs? But if so, why is everyone on them? I myself don't have any problem with drugs as you see, I just want to understand how do you make it sustainable :)
2) wtf are you talking about, solo clubbing? Like ok, on the dancefloor there is no 'I' anyway so who cares if you are solo or not. But what about everything else? The standing in line, or taking fresh air, or a smoke break, how do you spend it if not with your friends? Do you just talk to strangers? How do you know (especially if you are on drugs, see Q1) that you are not bothering anyone? Sure, my personal experience is that I love people and talking to them, but I can't just extrapolate that on others, can I? Is it just reading the body language? How do you do that reliably when everyone is on drugs? But beside these brakes, there is also, for example, a beautiful walk at sunrise after the party - having someone to share it with makes it so much better, doesn't it? And the general feeling of being safe next to someone you know and love - with or without drugs, that's pretty important, no? With emotions so heightened stuff can get overwhelming, what is your safe haven if not your friends? I myself went with a friend who was pretty hard to convince in the first place and even though he loved it, he's, quote, 'too old for this shit', so I don't imagine him joining me as often as I would want to go now, so hit me up if you are looking for a clubbing buddy! Apparently I have a gentle soul, if you are to believe one of the women on MDMA I talked to haha
Alright, this is already waay longer than I thought, 'if I had more time I would have written a shorter letter', right? Sorry for the rambling. Question 3 is so big it deserves its own post anyway, coming in a few hours/days.
Oh right, you probably want to know where I went. It was Club der Visionaere, not too big and with zero door policy, but you got to start somewhere, ok? I loved it. The tiny crowded dancefloor, the cool breeze of the canal, and the music, oh my God. Like I said, I am a believer now.
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TLDR: wow I totally get why now. Some questions about how: 1) Clubbing & drugs: what's a sustainable way to do it? 2) How do you solo outside of the dancefloor? 3) Coming soon
Backstory: Nerdy, but devilishly handsome (hi, I'm a Caucasian male, unearned confidence is the name of the game) 30M, moved to Berlin 2 years ago, spent the last 7 years in a beautiful loving relationship, which made me perfectly content and therefore not evolving much - probably why it fell apart a few months ago, but we're not here to analyse my breakup, this is just for context. Anyway, so I also wasn't going clubbing in my content, thinking like hell, I'd rather drop some MDMA here at home and spend some quality time with my girl, what could be better than that, what is the point?
Now I understand the point. It's insanely electric. Like wow guys I guess I just never heard good techno. You become so completely immersed, just like everyone around you, becoming one with the crowd. I see now why it is treated almost religiously around here. Before I was like 'well this repetitive music without words doesn't stimulate my brain much'. It doesn't need to. It hits the soul directly. Drugs help with that of course. Which brings me to my first question.
1) Is everyone on drugs? I myself was on LSD and weed, which is probably why I got so many thoughts haha, but 2 different random people I talked to were on MDMA, and I mean, also you can see it in the crowd of course. Dear people who go clubbing all the time, what is the deal here? Do you always go on drugs or do you alternate, and if so, how is the experience different? Do you drink instead or stay completely sober? Or do I just have too little faith in techno as a fresh convert, and you don't even need no drugs? But if so, why is everyone on them? I myself don't have any problem with drugs as you see, I just want to understand how do you make it sustainable :)
2) wtf are you talking about, solo clubbing? Like ok, on the dancefloor there is no 'I' anyway so who cares if you are solo or not. But what about everything else? The standing in line, or taking fresh air, or a smoke break, how do you spend it if not with your friends? Do you just talk to strangers? How do you know (especially if you are on drugs, see Q1) that you are not bothering anyone? Sure, my personal experience is that I love people and talking to them, but I can't just extrapolate that on others, can I? Is it just reading the body language? How do you do that reliably when everyone is on drugs? But beside these brakes, there is also, for example, a beautiful walk at sunrise after the party - having someone to share it with makes it so much better, doesn't it? And the general feeling of being safe next to someone you know and love - with or without drugs, that's pretty important, no? With emotions so heightened stuff can get overwhelming, what is your safe haven if not your friends? I myself went with a friend who was pretty hard to convince in the first place and even though he loved it, he's, quote, 'too old for this shit', so I don't imagine him joining me as often as I would want to go now, so hit me up if you are looking for a clubbing buddy! Apparently I have a gentle soul, if you are to believe one of the women on MDMA I talked to haha
Alright, this is already waay longer than I thought, 'if I had more time I would have written a shorter letter', right? Sorry for the rambling. Question 3 is so big it deserves its own post anyway, coming in a few hours/days.
Oh right, you probably want to know where I went. It was Club der Visionaere, not too big and with zero door policy, but you got to start somewhere, ok? I loved it. The tiny crowded dancefloor, the cool breeze of the canal, and the music, oh my God. Like I said, I am a believer now.
2024.06.02 17:35 james_d_rustles Half the country seems to think that the US is now a post-apocalyptic nightmare despite very little actually changing in their day to day lives
I moved to a somewhat more “conservative” (read: Trump-loving) area this summer for a job from a pretty moderate urban area. I put conservative in quotes because I don’t think shilling for a wannabe autocrat is conservative in any way, but they still call themselves conservatives. I’ll only be here for a few months, but this dynamic has cracked me up in interactions with seemingly ordinary strangers around town. It’s truly astounding how many people have had their brain completely warped by insane right wing media.
What I mean by this is that they’ll find any opportunity that usually doesn’t have anything to do with their grievance as something to complain about how the country is going to hell, everything is ruined, etc., despite the fact that literally nothing has changed about the thing they’re upset about. They get this forlorn, teary look in their eyes, stare off into the distance, and talk about the country as though we’re living in some apocalyptic hell-scape, ever since Biden came in and ended the before times… except they’ll do this in a totally mundane chic fil a parking lot or something next to their new Chevrolet, with their kids in the back of the car coming home from soccer practice.
Example: I’m getting gas, and some boomer notices it’s significantly cheaper than it was a few days ago. He points to it and starts a conversation by proclaiming “I can’t believe Biden thinks he can buy our vote with some cheap gas… it’s criminal what he’s done, destroyed all of our oil… China is laughing at us.”
Didn’t y’all complain about gas prices for years?? Like, even forgetting the fact that the President has very little control of gas prices, if you thought Biden could change gas prices with the wave of a finger, why aren’t you happy that it’s cheaper? How is this a sign of a destroyed country when you literally bring yo cheap gas brought about by the pandemic as evidence of trump’s greatness any chance you get??
Example 2: leaving a public library, see a mom coming out behind me with a couple of books. I hold the door open for her, think nothing of it as it’s something I’d do for anyone carrying stuff. She thanks me, and then goes off on a tangent - “young man, I’m glad some people still know what’s right - you know, with everything going on… They’re trying to destroy values, this woke stuff is here to make us all hate each other, make men into girls and get rid of chivalry, replace us with immigrants… I hate what this country has become…”
Lady - it’s a fucking library door. None of this is that deep. None of this has anything to do with Joe Biden, trans people, or the US as a whole. You’re carrying stuff, I did you a minuscule favor that took 0.5 seconds. Is it that hard to just say “thanks” and move on with our day?
I don’t know why they seem to assume that I believe in all this crap too, but for some reason I’ve had numerous people just start chit chatting about how the country is ruined out of nowhere. Maybe it’s just because in white and I’m usually wearing a somewhat traditional work outfit (khakis, polo shirt)? Maybe they’re just used to everyone believing that stuff in this particular area? Truly no clue, but either way I just find this attitude to be utterly bizarre, how there’s an entire population of people living in an alternate reality in which the United States is literally destroyed and ruined, despite personally experiencing zero changes to their personal lives.
For the record, I do understand that inflation hasn’t been great, some people were hit harder than others by covid, and there are legitimately plenty things to criticize the US about. I’m not arguing that we have it all figured out, it’s just the thought that we were literally perfect in 2020, everything is completely ruined in 2024 (and every single problem was maliciously caused by Joe Biden), that I find so insane.
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What I mean by this is that they’ll find any opportunity that usually doesn’t have anything to do with their grievance as something to complain about how the country is going to hell, everything is ruined, etc., despite the fact that literally nothing has changed about the thing they’re upset about. They get this forlorn, teary look in their eyes, stare off into the distance, and talk about the country as though we’re living in some apocalyptic hell-scape, ever since Biden came in and ended the before times… except they’ll do this in a totally mundane chic fil a parking lot or something next to their new Chevrolet, with their kids in the back of the car coming home from soccer practice.
Example: I’m getting gas, and some boomer notices it’s significantly cheaper than it was a few days ago. He points to it and starts a conversation by proclaiming “I can’t believe Biden thinks he can buy our vote with some cheap gas… it’s criminal what he’s done, destroyed all of our oil… China is laughing at us.”
Didn’t y’all complain about gas prices for years?? Like, even forgetting the fact that the President has very little control of gas prices, if you thought Biden could change gas prices with the wave of a finger, why aren’t you happy that it’s cheaper? How is this a sign of a destroyed country when you literally bring yo cheap gas brought about by the pandemic as evidence of trump’s greatness any chance you get??
Example 2: leaving a public library, see a mom coming out behind me with a couple of books. I hold the door open for her, think nothing of it as it’s something I’d do for anyone carrying stuff. She thanks me, and then goes off on a tangent - “young man, I’m glad some people still know what’s right - you know, with everything going on… They’re trying to destroy values, this woke stuff is here to make us all hate each other, make men into girls and get rid of chivalry, replace us with immigrants… I hate what this country has become…”
Lady - it’s a fucking library door. None of this is that deep. None of this has anything to do with Joe Biden, trans people, or the US as a whole. You’re carrying stuff, I did you a minuscule favor that took 0.5 seconds. Is it that hard to just say “thanks” and move on with our day?
I don’t know why they seem to assume that I believe in all this crap too, but for some reason I’ve had numerous people just start chit chatting about how the country is ruined out of nowhere. Maybe it’s just because in white and I’m usually wearing a somewhat traditional work outfit (khakis, polo shirt)? Maybe they’re just used to everyone believing that stuff in this particular area? Truly no clue, but either way I just find this attitude to be utterly bizarre, how there’s an entire population of people living in an alternate reality in which the United States is literally destroyed and ruined, despite personally experiencing zero changes to their personal lives.
For the record, I do understand that inflation hasn’t been great, some people were hit harder than others by covid, and there are legitimately plenty things to criticize the US about. I’m not arguing that we have it all figured out, it’s just the thought that we were literally perfect in 2020, everything is completely ruined in 2024 (and every single problem was maliciously caused by Joe Biden), that I find so insane.
2024.06.02 17:29 UnDead_Ted For It Is Written
 | Today's Verse1 Corinthians 2:9 (NIV) - However, as it is written: “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived”— the things God has prepared for those who love him.1) DesignKJV
2) DevelopIt is written/What the Scriptures mean:The word is trustworthy and true (Rev. 21:4)What no human mind has conceived/Entered into the heart of man: This phrase suggests that the wonders of God’s plans and blessings are beyond human sensory experience. No one has seen or heard the full extent of what God has prepared. This emphasizes that even the human imagination or understanding cannot fully grasp the greatness of what God has in store. It transcends our thoughts and expectations.Things God has prepared/Hath prepared: This part highlights that these extraordinary blessings and plans are specifically for those who love God. It underscores the relationship between God's love and human devotion. 3) ActionsWhat actions develop the story in this verse? What is happening? To whom?Answer: To understand the development and context of the story in 1 Corinthians 2:9, we need to look at the surrounding verses and the overall message of the chapter. Here’s a breakdown of the actions and the narrative flow: Context of 1 Corinthians 2
Actions and Development
What is Happening and To Whom?
SummaryIn 1 Corinthians 2:9, Paul is explaining that the amazing things God has prepared for those who love Him are beyond human comprehension and can only be revealed through the Spirit. The actions developing this story include Paul’s humble preaching approach, the contrast between human and divine wisdom, the quoting of scripture to illustrate the point, and the ultimate revelation by the Holy Spirit to believers. The recipients of this message are the Corinthian Christians, and the overarching theme is the reliance on spiritual wisdom over human wisdom.4) OutcomeWhat is God saying to you today? How can you apply this to your life?Answer: Reflecting on 1 Corinthians 2:9, the message God conveys is one of profound hope and assurance. The verse reminds us that God's plans for those who love Him are far greater than anything we can perceive or imagine. Here’s a personalized reflection and application of this message: God's Message to You Today
Application to Your Life
Verse Thoughts....
Practical Applications
Reflective QuestionsQ-1) How does recognizing the limits of your understanding change your perspective on current challenges?Answer: 1. Promotes Humility
2. Encourages Trust in God
3. Reduces Anxiety and Stress
4. Enhances Patience and Perseverance
5. Improves Relationships
6. Inspires Hope and Positivity
Practical Steps to Apply This Perspective
End Q-2) In what ways can you seek to deepen your relationship with God to better understand His plans for you?Answer:1. Prayer
2. Bible Study
3. Worship
4. Service and Ministry
5. Spiritual Disciplines
6. Guidance from Spiritual Mentors
7. Reflective Practices
8. Reading Christian Literature
9. Community and Fellowship
10. Attending Conferences and Seminars
ConclusionDeepening your relationship with God is an ongoing journey that involves intentionality, discipline, and openness to the Holy Spirit. By engaging in these practices, you create space for God to reveal His plans and guide you more clearly. It’s through a committed and growing relationship with Him that you can better understand His will and purpose for your life.End Q-3) How can you remind yourself of God’s promises during times of doubt or difficulty? Answer: Scripture Memorization
2. Prayer and Meditation
3. Journaling
4. Visual Reminders
5. Worship Music
6. Christian Community
7. Reading Devotionals and Christian Literature
8. Attending Church Services
9. Creative Expression
10. Personal Testimony
Scripture MemorizationEnd
2. Prayer and Meditation
3. Journaling
4. Visual Reminders
5. Worship Music
6. Christian Community
7. Reading Devotionals and Christian Literature
8. Attending Church Services
9. Creative Expression
10. Personal Testimony
End Q-4) Who in your life could benefit from hearing the message of this verse, and how can you share it with them? Answer: Reflecting on 1 Corinthians 2:9 and its message of hope and the incomprehensible nature of God's plans can be incredibly uplifting. Here are some ways to identify people who could benefit from this message and practical methods to share it with them: Identifying People Who Could Benefit
How to Share the Message
Example Scenarios
Reflecting on 1 Corinthians 2:9 and its message of hope and the incomprehensible nature of God's plans can be incredibly uplifting. Here are some ways to identify people who could benefit from this message and practical methods to share it with them:End Identifying People Who Could Benefit
How to Share the Message
Example Scenarios
Let's Pray: Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for Your incredible love and the promises You have given us. As Your Word says, "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him." We are in awe of Your plans, which surpass our understanding and imagination. Lord, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the assurance that You have great things prepared for us. Help us to trust in Your divine wisdom and timing, especially during moments of doubt and difficulty. Remind us that Your ways are higher than our ways and that Your thoughts are higher than our thoughts. When we face uncertainties and challenges, let us find comfort in Your promises. Strengthen our faith so that we may walk confidently, knowing that You are guiding our steps. Help us to be patient and to wait on You, trusting that Your plans for us are good and filled with hope and a future. Holy Spirit, fill our hearts with Your peace and joy. Open our eyes to see glimpses of Your marvelous works and our ears to hear Your gentle guidance. May we continually seek Your presence and be sensitive to Your leading in our lives. Lord, we lift up our loved ones who may be struggling or feeling lost. May they also come to know the depth of Your love and the greatness of Your plans for them. Use us to be a source of encouragement and hope, sharing Your promises and love with those around us. We surrender our worries and fears to You, trusting that You hold our future in Your hands. Thank You for Your faithfulness and the assurance that You are always with us. In Jesus' precious name, we pray. Amen. |
2024.06.02 17:23 TheApolloZ 23M, looking for long-term friendships
Hello, I hope you're having a good time! I'm looking for someone whom I can have conversations with in the long term but if you want to have a short conversation, that's okay as well. Who knows if we get along well and end up being in touch for years? I prefer talking to people within the age range of 18–25 as I have talked to older people all my life but it's fine if you're a bit older than the specified range.
Please read the post entirely before you decide to send a chat request or message. It will take about five minutes or more depending on your reading speed. You may skip this post if you can't bother reading it. This is only for people who love reading and typing lengthy messages, because that's the only way we can communicate with each other when we don't get enough time to have real-time conversations. I am mentioning this only to save your time; I don't mean to come off as rude. The messages I send can be way longer than this post if we happen to click, and people who can't read the post entirely won't bother reading my messages properly either, and that would be a waste of time and energy for both individuals. You might have seen my posts very often in case you visit this subreddit on a regular basis, but I assure you that I only post so frequently because I don't receive any responses—and when I do, they're from people who either can't hold a conversation for long or message me without reading the post at all.
A bit about me:
I'm interested in all types of visual and aural arts. Writing, drawing, listening and composing music, watching movies and photography (I'm an amateur though) are my interests and hobbies. I'm broke so I'm not a gamer. I do have a fairly powerful PC but with a low-end graphics card I play older games on. Nothing online though.
Speaking of music, I'm mostly interested in Jazz, Funk, Hip-Hop, R&B/Soul (both classic and modern). I like listening to The Weeknd, Prince, Michael Jackson, Bruno Mars, Sade, Aaliyah, The Isley Brothers and various artists from the 70s to late 2000s generally. I'm a movie buff so I can recommend you movies too if you're looking for something to watch. And yeah, I LOVE MEMES! Keep sending them all day and I won't complain!
I'm an ambivert (more of an introvert though). My MBTI is INFP-T if that matters. I'm looking for people who are willing to share the events which occur in everyday life, joy and sorrow, secrets, deepest fears, and build a genuine connection over the course of time. I'll be there for you throughout the good and bad times; I expect the same from you too. I am active on most social media platforms. We can move on to other platforms once you feel comfortable with me.
Now here's the important stuff:
I would appreciate it if you don't just send me a "Hi/Hello/Hey." Introduce yourself; the longer the introduction is, the better. Makes room for questions. Instead of simply stating that you like movies/music, mention what genres you prefer. Makes the conversation more interesting. Please put effort into maintaining the conversation. Ask plenty of questions with the data I have provided in this post so I know that you're actually interested in getting to know me as well rather than simply talking about yourself. I feel like an interviewer if the conversation is one-sided. Don't bother messaging me if you're not naturally inquisitive and just want to talk about yourself all the time. I won't respond to any short messages (4-8 lines). If you want to leave, don't ghost me without stating a reason if we've been talking for longer than two weeks. Just tell me that we can't get along if you think the conversation isn't going anywhere. I won't get offended.
Your gender, race, sexuality don't matter at all, but tell me your age and gender just so that I know who I am talking to and follow social etiquette. I absolutely love lengthy messages; I don't feel overwhelmed by them. So bonus points if you're capable of typing lengthy messages. I'm a person who would spend an hour(s) typing a well-thought lengthy message rather than having small talk in real time. I type as if I'm writing a letter. I can chat in real time as well, it's just that I don't get much time throughout the day and I'm active at odd hours. And time zones exist, unfortunately. Short messages or long messages, the amount of time and energy you have to spend will be the same anyway.
Please don't message me if you're just looking for people to kill your boredom and later abandon them. No, I'm not being rude. I have had enough. Those one word or one sentence responses lead nowhere. Also, if you're someone who wishes to stay anonymous forever even after talking for a considerable amount of time, I'm not the person you're looking for. This is an important thing to keep in mind. I am open to revealing my identity if we get along well so I would appreciate it if you're open minded as well. But that doesn't mean I want you to reveal your identity in the very beginning itself. However, I won't wait more than three months just for you to reveal your identity if we communicate regularly. In fact, it's a great feat to converse for longer than a month on the internet. I personally think that anonymity acts as a barrier in any kind of relationship. I would love to meet you in real life at some point in the future if we get along and stay in touch for a considerable amount of time.
In the past 12 years, I have talked to several people around the globe on different platforms who wished to stay anonymous. I had conversations with them for months and years, but they always considered me as a stranger and eventually left. I'm tired of being a disposable person. What's the point of having a friend without a name and a face? I have no reason to trust someone who doesn't trust me. You can call me picky; I indeed am. I don't want to have conversations where both parties only ask each other about hobbies and interests and leave once they feel there's nothing in common. That's the reason why I asked you to cover those topics when introducing yourself. And just because I have already talked about my interests and hobbies doesn't mean there's nothing more to know about me. Human connection is a lot more than mere interests and hobbies.
I would love to interact with someone who doesn't treat me like an AI chatbot and acknowledges the fact that I'm an actual human being with feelings and emotions beyond the digital screen who spends his valuable time and energy to communicate with people—precious time and energy that I'll never be able to get back. I understand that these connections over the internet are very fragile and I can't control things the way I want so if you're interested feel free to send me a message anyway. I enjoy having conversations with people even if only for a while. Sometimes people you expect to be in touch for years leave you while the ones you don't expect to be in touch for long end up staying for a long time. Nothing is set in stone. All I ask you is to not leave without notifying me. Yes, I know whatever I have expressed so far sounds contradictory, but that's how life works, right? Reminds me of this quote by Japanese author Haruki Murakami:
"Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?"
While I agree with the fact that it's not possible to get to know a person entirely, I think connecting with another human being is a beautiful experience in itself. In the end, we are just lost souls yearning for human connection; searching for people who will provide attention and affection and accept us as we are. If you're still reading this, it means you are a good listener and reader. Message me if we have similar interests or ideals and if you think we can be potential friends. It doesn't really matter whether we have similar interests or not though, I would love to have you as a friend.
There's a lot more to learn about me but I would rather tell you all that when we begin interacting with each rather than typing it all here. Feel free to ask me any questions. I'm open to having a conversation with people around the globe any time. I'm also very patient so I don't mind waiting for weeks or a month if the messages are lengthy. I understand that you might find all of this intimidating, but there's nothing about me to be afraid of. My messages can be lengthy, but only if you reciprocate my efforts and keep on adding stuff to the text. I know that this post sounds like a contract. I know I sound very serious but that's not entirely true. In fact, I can crack jokes sooo bad that will make you laugh. Thank you for spending your precious time reading this post. What are you waiting for? Text me right now! Feel free to message me even if you're seeing this several hours or days later.
Have a nice day/night and I hope you find someone to develop a strong bond with in case I'm not the person you're looking for. Take care of yourself and always stay hydrated!
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Please read the post entirely before you decide to send a chat request or message. It will take about five minutes or more depending on your reading speed. You may skip this post if you can't bother reading it. This is only for people who love reading and typing lengthy messages, because that's the only way we can communicate with each other when we don't get enough time to have real-time conversations. I am mentioning this only to save your time; I don't mean to come off as rude. The messages I send can be way longer than this post if we happen to click, and people who can't read the post entirely won't bother reading my messages properly either, and that would be a waste of time and energy for both individuals. You might have seen my posts very often in case you visit this subreddit on a regular basis, but I assure you that I only post so frequently because I don't receive any responses—and when I do, they're from people who either can't hold a conversation for long or message me without reading the post at all.
A bit about me:
I'm interested in all types of visual and aural arts. Writing, drawing, listening and composing music, watching movies and photography (I'm an amateur though) are my interests and hobbies. I'm broke so I'm not a gamer. I do have a fairly powerful PC but with a low-end graphics card I play older games on. Nothing online though.
Speaking of music, I'm mostly interested in Jazz, Funk, Hip-Hop, R&B/Soul (both classic and modern). I like listening to The Weeknd, Prince, Michael Jackson, Bruno Mars, Sade, Aaliyah, The Isley Brothers and various artists from the 70s to late 2000s generally. I'm a movie buff so I can recommend you movies too if you're looking for something to watch. And yeah, I LOVE MEMES! Keep sending them all day and I won't complain!
I'm an ambivert (more of an introvert though). My MBTI is INFP-T if that matters. I'm looking for people who are willing to share the events which occur in everyday life, joy and sorrow, secrets, deepest fears, and build a genuine connection over the course of time. I'll be there for you throughout the good and bad times; I expect the same from you too. I am active on most social media platforms. We can move on to other platforms once you feel comfortable with me.
Now here's the important stuff:
I would appreciate it if you don't just send me a "Hi/Hello/Hey." Introduce yourself; the longer the introduction is, the better. Makes room for questions. Instead of simply stating that you like movies/music, mention what genres you prefer. Makes the conversation more interesting. Please put effort into maintaining the conversation. Ask plenty of questions with the data I have provided in this post so I know that you're actually interested in getting to know me as well rather than simply talking about yourself. I feel like an interviewer if the conversation is one-sided. Don't bother messaging me if you're not naturally inquisitive and just want to talk about yourself all the time. I won't respond to any short messages (4-8 lines). If you want to leave, don't ghost me without stating a reason if we've been talking for longer than two weeks. Just tell me that we can't get along if you think the conversation isn't going anywhere. I won't get offended.
Your gender, race, sexuality don't matter at all, but tell me your age and gender just so that I know who I am talking to and follow social etiquette. I absolutely love lengthy messages; I don't feel overwhelmed by them. So bonus points if you're capable of typing lengthy messages. I'm a person who would spend an hour(s) typing a well-thought lengthy message rather than having small talk in real time. I type as if I'm writing a letter. I can chat in real time as well, it's just that I don't get much time throughout the day and I'm active at odd hours. And time zones exist, unfortunately. Short messages or long messages, the amount of time and energy you have to spend will be the same anyway.
Please don't message me if you're just looking for people to kill your boredom and later abandon them. No, I'm not being rude. I have had enough. Those one word or one sentence responses lead nowhere. Also, if you're someone who wishes to stay anonymous forever even after talking for a considerable amount of time, I'm not the person you're looking for. This is an important thing to keep in mind. I am open to revealing my identity if we get along well so I would appreciate it if you're open minded as well. But that doesn't mean I want you to reveal your identity in the very beginning itself. However, I won't wait more than three months just for you to reveal your identity if we communicate regularly. In fact, it's a great feat to converse for longer than a month on the internet. I personally think that anonymity acts as a barrier in any kind of relationship. I would love to meet you in real life at some point in the future if we get along and stay in touch for a considerable amount of time.
In the past 12 years, I have talked to several people around the globe on different platforms who wished to stay anonymous. I had conversations with them for months and years, but they always considered me as a stranger and eventually left. I'm tired of being a disposable person. What's the point of having a friend without a name and a face? I have no reason to trust someone who doesn't trust me. You can call me picky; I indeed am. I don't want to have conversations where both parties only ask each other about hobbies and interests and leave once they feel there's nothing in common. That's the reason why I asked you to cover those topics when introducing yourself. And just because I have already talked about my interests and hobbies doesn't mean there's nothing more to know about me. Human connection is a lot more than mere interests and hobbies.
I would love to interact with someone who doesn't treat me like an AI chatbot and acknowledges the fact that I'm an actual human being with feelings and emotions beyond the digital screen who spends his valuable time and energy to communicate with people—precious time and energy that I'll never be able to get back. I understand that these connections over the internet are very fragile and I can't control things the way I want so if you're interested feel free to send me a message anyway. I enjoy having conversations with people even if only for a while. Sometimes people you expect to be in touch for years leave you while the ones you don't expect to be in touch for long end up staying for a long time. Nothing is set in stone. All I ask you is to not leave without notifying me. Yes, I know whatever I have expressed so far sounds contradictory, but that's how life works, right? Reminds me of this quote by Japanese author Haruki Murakami:
"Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?"
While I agree with the fact that it's not possible to get to know a person entirely, I think connecting with another human being is a beautiful experience in itself. In the end, we are just lost souls yearning for human connection; searching for people who will provide attention and affection and accept us as we are. If you're still reading this, it means you are a good listener and reader. Message me if we have similar interests or ideals and if you think we can be potential friends. It doesn't really matter whether we have similar interests or not though, I would love to have you as a friend.
There's a lot more to learn about me but I would rather tell you all that when we begin interacting with each rather than typing it all here. Feel free to ask me any questions. I'm open to having a conversation with people around the globe any time. I'm also very patient so I don't mind waiting for weeks or a month if the messages are lengthy. I understand that you might find all of this intimidating, but there's nothing about me to be afraid of. My messages can be lengthy, but only if you reciprocate my efforts and keep on adding stuff to the text. I know that this post sounds like a contract. I know I sound very serious but that's not entirely true. In fact, I can crack jokes sooo bad that will make you laugh. Thank you for spending your precious time reading this post. What are you waiting for? Text me right now! Feel free to message me even if you're seeing this several hours or days later.
Have a nice day/night and I hope you find someone to develop a strong bond with in case I'm not the person you're looking for. Take care of yourself and always stay hydrated!
2024.06.02 16:19 Linchen86 My(38F)Stepmother(66) gifted her best Friend(69F)the PC from my deceased father without talking to me first. How can I move on from this?
Helly everyone first time I am writing here pls excuse any grammar mistakes. English is not my first language and I am not used to reddit, so pls bare with me. My(38F) father died recently and I am still in shock what happend during this time. But let me give you information about my fathers and my life before I explain the situation. And sorry for the wall of text but I have no one to talk about it.
My father(67m) and my mother were divorced since I was 7 years old. He had an affair with his now widow Mary(66F). They got married and during my teenagertime I lived with them because I was a Daddys Girl and I was often in fight with Mary because she always made clear that she didnt want me around. Her family and friends were always number one. My father didnt really intervene because he was financially dependent on her. For example she always went with the children of her friends on a shopping spree, watching movies and so on. And I was always left out. I really tried to suck it up but after a time living with them, I moved back to my mother and brother and had low contact, because she did everything that I cant see my father and he just took it.
As I got older perhaps I was about 28, I noticed that my fathers health condition was getting with every year worse, so I reconnect with them over the last 10 years. They bought a house together and lived their lives happily. During that time I also reconnected with Mary. I helped her taking care of the house and garden, went house sitting when they were on vacation, we cook together, I had many sleepovers there and for the first time I was so happy to have my father back in my life and get so well with Mary. This was like my second home.
Now what happend ? My father was dying and Mary just wrote a Message in the morning "Your father is dying please think of him" Unfortunately I didnt hear the notification and later I got a call from Marys best friend Susan(68F) she said "your father has now passed away, it was peacefully" I was shocked... I asked her "where is Mary ? why didnt she called me ? Susan just said that Mary cant talk right now - which I completely understand but why didnt she called me ? I couldnt be there for my fathers last moments. During this Mary didnt contacted me not a single time. So I talked to Susan and asked her if I could help ? Like doing the mails, helping in the house, and many other questions but everything was shut down by her. So I asked her just for curiostiy is there a last will ? And Susan went crazy. How dare that I asked that ? And that I am an inheritance sneaker ! I tried to calm her down that this is not my intention it was just a simple question and she went straight to Mary and told her how horrible I am and Mary believed her without doubt. I know this was kinda an inappropiate question but I just wanted to know it so that I can also try to help with correspondence, because Mary is very bad in making appointments and organizing.
Everything was now under Susans control. I had absolutely no right In the process of the funeral. I wasnt allowed to do a obituary, to book a cafe for after the funeral and I wasnt allowed to decide which urn my father will get and much more. On all decisions I was left out. I also wasnt allowed to contact Mary because Susan said everything is to hard for her. And Mary didnt reply to messages or calls. I cried every day and Mary and Susan didnt care. The whole funeral was a crapshow.. the eulogy for my father was so short and so little about him. All the talk was about Marys friends and family. How great they have helped her in the last few years. Guess who had a special part in the Eulogy ? Yep you guessed it ! Susan ! What a wonderful friend she is and was always there for my father and Mary. You wanna know if we children where mentioned ?Let me give you our part of it : "OPs Father left 2 Children behind. His daughter also lived with them for a while, Then the contact became less" Thats it. I was devastated... After the Funeral Mary walked to me and asked "what do you think ? The funeral was nice right ?" I just stared at her eyes mumbled something about "werent the 10 years I was there for you two nothing?" and leaved the place.
This whole situation with the funeral took a toll on me.. I almost cry every day but that was not the tip of the iceberg.. My father was a passionate Gamer and had a PC and guess who has it now ? You guessed it right again! Susan! I tried to talk with Mary to please give me the PC it has sentimental value for me, the PC is over 6 years old it is not Highend. I build the computer together with my father, I helped him all the time with it, I played with him online but she didnt care. I also tried to talk to Susan about it and she said right after I mentioned it "This is now MY PC your father gifted it to me 2 years ago you will not get it !" Again I was devastated and shocked. I now try to get a external harddrive out from it because this was mine so that I least have one memory. I also have to wait to get my compulsory share of inheritance. Mary didnt even contacted me once during the whole time. I am so sad and realize that maybe Mary still didnt liked me at all? And I dont wanna see both of them ever again.. And my attorney is involved. I feel just defeated and miss my father so much.
TLDR: My Stepmother who always had a problem with me gifted my deceased fathers pc to her best friend without talking to me first.
submitted by Linchen86 to relationship_advice [link] [comments]
My father(67m) and my mother were divorced since I was 7 years old. He had an affair with his now widow Mary(66F). They got married and during my teenagertime I lived with them because I was a Daddys Girl and I was often in fight with Mary because she always made clear that she didnt want me around. Her family and friends were always number one. My father didnt really intervene because he was financially dependent on her. For example she always went with the children of her friends on a shopping spree, watching movies and so on. And I was always left out. I really tried to suck it up but after a time living with them, I moved back to my mother and brother and had low contact, because she did everything that I cant see my father and he just took it.
As I got older perhaps I was about 28, I noticed that my fathers health condition was getting with every year worse, so I reconnect with them over the last 10 years. They bought a house together and lived their lives happily. During that time I also reconnected with Mary. I helped her taking care of the house and garden, went house sitting when they were on vacation, we cook together, I had many sleepovers there and for the first time I was so happy to have my father back in my life and get so well with Mary. This was like my second home.
Now what happend ? My father was dying and Mary just wrote a Message in the morning "Your father is dying please think of him" Unfortunately I didnt hear the notification and later I got a call from Marys best friend Susan(68F) she said "your father has now passed away, it was peacefully" I was shocked... I asked her "where is Mary ? why didnt she called me ? Susan just said that Mary cant talk right now - which I completely understand but why didnt she called me ? I couldnt be there for my fathers last moments. During this Mary didnt contacted me not a single time. So I talked to Susan and asked her if I could help ? Like doing the mails, helping in the house, and many other questions but everything was shut down by her. So I asked her just for curiostiy is there a last will ? And Susan went crazy. How dare that I asked that ? And that I am an inheritance sneaker ! I tried to calm her down that this is not my intention it was just a simple question and she went straight to Mary and told her how horrible I am and Mary believed her without doubt. I know this was kinda an inappropiate question but I just wanted to know it so that I can also try to help with correspondence, because Mary is very bad in making appointments and organizing.
Everything was now under Susans control. I had absolutely no right In the process of the funeral. I wasnt allowed to do a obituary, to book a cafe for after the funeral and I wasnt allowed to decide which urn my father will get and much more. On all decisions I was left out. I also wasnt allowed to contact Mary because Susan said everything is to hard for her. And Mary didnt reply to messages or calls. I cried every day and Mary and Susan didnt care. The whole funeral was a crapshow.. the eulogy for my father was so short and so little about him. All the talk was about Marys friends and family. How great they have helped her in the last few years. Guess who had a special part in the Eulogy ? Yep you guessed it ! Susan ! What a wonderful friend she is and was always there for my father and Mary. You wanna know if we children where mentioned ?Let me give you our part of it : "OPs Father left 2 Children behind. His daughter also lived with them for a while, Then the contact became less" Thats it. I was devastated... After the Funeral Mary walked to me and asked "what do you think ? The funeral was nice right ?" I just stared at her eyes mumbled something about "werent the 10 years I was there for you two nothing?" and leaved the place.
This whole situation with the funeral took a toll on me.. I almost cry every day but that was not the tip of the iceberg.. My father was a passionate Gamer and had a PC and guess who has it now ? You guessed it right again! Susan! I tried to talk with Mary to please give me the PC it has sentimental value for me, the PC is over 6 years old it is not Highend. I build the computer together with my father, I helped him all the time with it, I played with him online but she didnt care. I also tried to talk to Susan about it and she said right after I mentioned it "This is now MY PC your father gifted it to me 2 years ago you will not get it !" Again I was devastated and shocked. I now try to get a external harddrive out from it because this was mine so that I least have one memory. I also have to wait to get my compulsory share of inheritance. Mary didnt even contacted me once during the whole time. I am so sad and realize that maybe Mary still didnt liked me at all? And I dont wanna see both of them ever again.. And my attorney is involved. I feel just defeated and miss my father so much.
TLDR: My Stepmother who always had a problem with me gifted my deceased fathers pc to her best friend without talking to me first.
2024.06.02 16:17 mcm8279 [Opinion] INVERSE on Star Trek III - The Search for Spock: "Star Trek’s Most Infamous Retcon Looks Quaint Today" "Today’s motive to protect canon feels more cynical. Like an antique sports car, classic Trek must remain untouched to maintain its financial value. "
"A franchise is easier to sell if it has a strict sense of cohesion and uniformity, and Search for Spock reminds us of a simpler relationship between creatives and audiences. [...] The Search for Spock excels not because it says Spock cannot die, but that Star Trek’s characters wouldn’t let him."
Rory Doherty (Inverse)
Link:
https://www.inverse.com/entertainment/star-trek-the-search-for-spock-40-year-anniversary
Quotes:
"When Paramount greenlit a third Star Trek film the day after the second one opened in 1982, there was really only one goal: bring back Spock, whose noble sacrifice at the end of The Wrath of Khan sent shockwaves throughout pop culture. It was an audacious and emotional demise that fit perfectly with the operatic melodrama of Nicholas Meyer’s film. In fact, it was so dramatic, it felt incomplete without Spock’s grieving friends carrying out a daring, Federation-defying, friendship-first mission to take advantage of cosmic convolutions and resurrect him."
[...]
For all its heart-on-sleeve, swashbuckling emotions, The Search for Spock had a tepid reception, and amid the original run of Trek movies, even the reappraisal of Robert Wise’s The Motion Picture feels more full-bodied. The effects are creaky, the stakes less gripping, and the film turns to sentiment and spirituality with such zeal that it’s jarring to watch Vulcan mysticism win the day. But most egregiously, The Search for Spock revolves around a massive retcon of the bold move the series had just made.
But retcons mean something different today than they did in 1984, and there are many reasons why Search for Spock feels clean-cut and contained compared to other canon kerfuffles. Back then, there was only one Star Trek timeline and one batch of characters moving through the galaxy in a strictly linear fashion. There were no overlapping continuities like we’d see in the ’90s, where events from The Next Generation should have (but didn’t) impact Deep Space Nine, and continuity errors began to creep in.
In addition, Spock’s resurrection, achieved by a Vulcan ritual to meld his Genesis-reanimated body with his Bones-inhabiting katra, only has repercussions for Spock. The convoluted process can’t be replicated for anyone else on death’s door. It’s a far neater change than hoping audiences will quietly forget that warp speed is destroying the fabric of space.
The severity of any retcon is tied to the scope and function of a franchise. Trek continuity is now considered valuable to executives, and while the series has always deified its old stories and characters, today’s motive to protect canon feels more cynical. Like an antique sports car, classic Trek must remain untouched to maintain its financial value. The introduction of the alternate Kelvin Timeline in Star Trek, the 2009 reboot movie, felt like an attempt to give the new cast a chance out of the original’s spotlight, but it just affirmed the idea that The Original Series had to be honored, never challenged.
A franchise is easier to sell if it has a strict sense of cohesion and uniformity, and Search for Spock reminds us of a simpler relationship between creatives and audiences. It’s a wish-fulfillment exercise that centers the deep social bonds between the Enterprise crew that now supersedes their Starfleet duty, as they risk just as much as Spock did in trying to bring him back. There’s a rich romanticism that outshines any misgivings about the impermanence of dramatic storytelling choices. The Search for Spock excels not because it says Spock cannot die, but that Star Trek’s characters wouldn’t let him."
Rory Doherty (Inverse)
Link:
https://www.inverse.com/entertainment/star-trek-the-search-for-spock-40-year-anniversary
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Rory Doherty (Inverse)
Link:
https://www.inverse.com/entertainment/star-trek-the-search-for-spock-40-year-anniversary
Quotes:
"When Paramount greenlit a third Star Trek film the day after the second one opened in 1982, there was really only one goal: bring back Spock, whose noble sacrifice at the end of The Wrath of Khan sent shockwaves throughout pop culture. It was an audacious and emotional demise that fit perfectly with the operatic melodrama of Nicholas Meyer’s film. In fact, it was so dramatic, it felt incomplete without Spock’s grieving friends carrying out a daring, Federation-defying, friendship-first mission to take advantage of cosmic convolutions and resurrect him."
[...]
For all its heart-on-sleeve, swashbuckling emotions, The Search for Spock had a tepid reception, and amid the original run of Trek movies, even the reappraisal of Robert Wise’s The Motion Picture feels more full-bodied. The effects are creaky, the stakes less gripping, and the film turns to sentiment and spirituality with such zeal that it’s jarring to watch Vulcan mysticism win the day. But most egregiously, The Search for Spock revolves around a massive retcon of the bold move the series had just made.
But retcons mean something different today than they did in 1984, and there are many reasons why Search for Spock feels clean-cut and contained compared to other canon kerfuffles. Back then, there was only one Star Trek timeline and one batch of characters moving through the galaxy in a strictly linear fashion. There were no overlapping continuities like we’d see in the ’90s, where events from The Next Generation should have (but didn’t) impact Deep Space Nine, and continuity errors began to creep in.
In addition, Spock’s resurrection, achieved by a Vulcan ritual to meld his Genesis-reanimated body with his Bones-inhabiting katra, only has repercussions for Spock. The convoluted process can’t be replicated for anyone else on death’s door. It’s a far neater change than hoping audiences will quietly forget that warp speed is destroying the fabric of space.
The severity of any retcon is tied to the scope and function of a franchise. Trek continuity is now considered valuable to executives, and while the series has always deified its old stories and characters, today’s motive to protect canon feels more cynical. Like an antique sports car, classic Trek must remain untouched to maintain its financial value. The introduction of the alternate Kelvin Timeline in Star Trek, the 2009 reboot movie, felt like an attempt to give the new cast a chance out of the original’s spotlight, but it just affirmed the idea that The Original Series had to be honored, never challenged.
A franchise is easier to sell if it has a strict sense of cohesion and uniformity, and Search for Spock reminds us of a simpler relationship between creatives and audiences. It’s a wish-fulfillment exercise that centers the deep social bonds between the Enterprise crew that now supersedes their Starfleet duty, as they risk just as much as Spock did in trying to bring him back. There’s a rich romanticism that outshines any misgivings about the impermanence of dramatic storytelling choices. The Search for Spock excels not because it says Spock cannot die, but that Star Trek’s characters wouldn’t let him."
Rory Doherty (Inverse)
Link:
https://www.inverse.com/entertainment/star-trek-the-search-for-spock-40-year-anniversary
2024.06.02 16:09 ericscottf Need help - how do I change accounting platforms and preserve data?
Hi all,
I hope this is the right place to get help.
In early 2013, I started my small business, and we used a company called workingpoint for our accounting software. The landscape was a bit different back then, and it seemed like a good choice. Well, fast forward 10+ years, and the platform is in hospice. There have been so many outages and nobody there responds to emails, parts of the system are breaking, it really seems like it has weeks, maybe days left till it is totally down for good. I need to get off of it, but the thought of moving all our data is driving my anxiety up the wall. I've been meaning to get to a different platform for years, and just keep putting it off. Thanks to massive family issues (brain cancer for my wife, debilitating nerve pain due to a herniated disc for me), we extended our taxes this year, and i'm scared to death that the system will die before we get to file and we'll be nearly completely screwed.
We are a very small business, we need software that does inventory tracking, quotes, invoices, bills, purchase orders, packing slip printing, etc. We don't have employees - just 2 partners in an LLC, so at least no payroll, etc. We have about 6000 invoices/quotes, 6000 bank entries, our general journal shows about 16,200 entries.
I'm looking at xero, zoho, freshbooks. sage. open to any other recommendations. I'd like to keep costs down to below 80/month.
The question is this - how do I get my data to the new platform? I can download all my invoices in CSV from the current platform. I can download all my banking transactions. I can download all my bills. All these files are separate and unrelated to each other. So a paid invoice has a bank transaction associated with it.... but not once I download the separate CSV files, then it's all unrelated. I can manually download my general journal, 1500 entries at a time... maybe this is the way?
The various platforms I'm looking at will let you bulk upload data, you download their CSV template, adjust your data to match and upload, but that doesn't allow for relating the various things to each other. How do i get that to work?
I did speak with a rep at zoho and basically told them we'd go to their platform if they would transfer our data for us 100%, but i think the language barrier kept the rep from really understanding what i was asking for - he told me they would do it, but i did not get a good feeling that we would get what we are really looking for. Also, he insisted that this would require the highest tier of membership, which is way more than we need, and it was unclear if we would have to keep that indefinitely or only short term.
I'm also open to find some expert to just pay to do this for us, but I don't know who to ask or where. I asked our accountant, who just does our taxes, but they're a very large firm, mostly uninterested in doing it for us, and will only take us to quickbooks, which I don't want to go to. they also wanted a lot of $$$ for it.
Lastly, if I can't find any good solution soon, my plan is to manually add every single entry for 2023 and 2024 by hand, at least so we can get our taxes set and go forward from there. I'd really like to have all of our history and data in the new platform, but maybe getting at least the bare minimum to survive will get my anxiety down. and at least we'll have the CSV versions of our data so we are safe as far as laws surrounding data retention for 7+ years.
Can anyone here advise on how to go about doing this, or where to find some expert to do it for us?
Thank you!
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I hope this is the right place to get help.
In early 2013, I started my small business, and we used a company called workingpoint for our accounting software. The landscape was a bit different back then, and it seemed like a good choice. Well, fast forward 10+ years, and the platform is in hospice. There have been so many outages and nobody there responds to emails, parts of the system are breaking, it really seems like it has weeks, maybe days left till it is totally down for good. I need to get off of it, but the thought of moving all our data is driving my anxiety up the wall. I've been meaning to get to a different platform for years, and just keep putting it off. Thanks to massive family issues (brain cancer for my wife, debilitating nerve pain due to a herniated disc for me), we extended our taxes this year, and i'm scared to death that the system will die before we get to file and we'll be nearly completely screwed.
We are a very small business, we need software that does inventory tracking, quotes, invoices, bills, purchase orders, packing slip printing, etc. We don't have employees - just 2 partners in an LLC, so at least no payroll, etc. We have about 6000 invoices/quotes, 6000 bank entries, our general journal shows about 16,200 entries.
I'm looking at xero, zoho, freshbooks. sage. open to any other recommendations. I'd like to keep costs down to below 80/month.
The question is this - how do I get my data to the new platform? I can download all my invoices in CSV from the current platform. I can download all my banking transactions. I can download all my bills. All these files are separate and unrelated to each other. So a paid invoice has a bank transaction associated with it.... but not once I download the separate CSV files, then it's all unrelated. I can manually download my general journal, 1500 entries at a time... maybe this is the way?
The various platforms I'm looking at will let you bulk upload data, you download their CSV template, adjust your data to match and upload, but that doesn't allow for relating the various things to each other. How do i get that to work?
I did speak with a rep at zoho and basically told them we'd go to their platform if they would transfer our data for us 100%, but i think the language barrier kept the rep from really understanding what i was asking for - he told me they would do it, but i did not get a good feeling that we would get what we are really looking for. Also, he insisted that this would require the highest tier of membership, which is way more than we need, and it was unclear if we would have to keep that indefinitely or only short term.
I'm also open to find some expert to just pay to do this for us, but I don't know who to ask or where. I asked our accountant, who just does our taxes, but they're a very large firm, mostly uninterested in doing it for us, and will only take us to quickbooks, which I don't want to go to. they also wanted a lot of $$$ for it.
Lastly, if I can't find any good solution soon, my plan is to manually add every single entry for 2023 and 2024 by hand, at least so we can get our taxes set and go forward from there. I'd really like to have all of our history and data in the new platform, but maybe getting at least the bare minimum to survive will get my anxiety down. and at least we'll have the CSV versions of our data so we are safe as far as laws surrounding data retention for 7+ years.
Can anyone here advise on how to go about doing this, or where to find some expert to do it for us?
Thank you!
2024.06.02 16:07 brod333 Responding to Exion’s response pt 2
Exion has a second response to my posts rebutting him. I’ll address that now. My my previous posts see https://www.reddit.com/Quraniyoon/s/uNMhn0XUpS. For his post I’m responding to see https://www.reddit.com/Quraniyoon/s/uUdbqbc7qs.
Once again Exion doesn’t link my post that he is responding to within his post. He should so everyone can see my full post that he’s responding to, not just the parts he quotes.
Also Exion doesn’t address the verb tense issue I brought up. The verb tense is the active particle. This indicates either a continuing or imminent future action. Islam was about 1200 years after the prophecy which is too long to be considered continuing or imminent future. In my part 4 I note a point where Exion accepts a translation where the temporal succession from the vav-relative is explicit in the English translations showing an inconsistency in Exion’s interpretation.
Furthermore Daniel 9 also mentions the abomination of desolation that is mentioned in Daniel 11. This links the prophecies together. It doesn’t make sense to break that link and have Daniel 11 randomly jump to a prophecy about early Islam.
Daniel also isn’t the only prophet to make prophecies about other nations. Check out Isaiah 11-24. Those chapters cover a lot of prophecies about secular nations.
Second he mentions the Klein Dictionary. There is an online version here where you can search words, https://www.sefaria.org/Klein_Dictionary,_%D7%A0%D6%B4%D7%A6%D6%B0%D7%A8%D6%B8%D7%94.1. The first word has sprout/shoot, while the second has root/source,origin/bottom,lowest part/root,stem.
Third he mentions Jastrow Dictionary. An online version with word search is here, https://www.sefaria.org/Jastrow,_%D7%A9%D6%B9%D7%81%D7%A8%D6%B6%D7%A9%D7%81.1. The first word has sprout/offshoot and second word has root.
Each of these dictionaries agrees with what I found in the BDB. The first word is referring to the upper exposed part of the tree, i.e. the sprouts/branches, while the second word refers to the bottom of the tree, i.e. the root. He tries to bold a part of the last dictionary to emphasize the second word has an analogous meaning to the first. Let’s look at it carefully.
If we can trust the historical sources for the other historical claims he makes then we should be able to trust it for the case of Aisha being Mohammed’s wife. If we can’t trust it for the latter then we shouldn’t trust it for the former. Unless independent reason can be given to trust them for one over the other he’s cherry picking his history to fit the prophecy.
u/TheQuranicMumin I said in my last post ‘you said “If he fails/refuses to do this, we will remove his posts for misinformation.” Can we agree already this counts as a failure to respond and consider his posts misinformation or do I really need to continue addressing his posts/responses?’ After going through his second response I’ll ask this again. Do I need to keep going through these or do you agree his posts are misinformation?
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Once again Exion doesn’t link my post that he is responding to within his post. He should so everyone can see my full post that he’s responding to, not just the parts he quotes.
But it doesn’t. Not even close. The chapter is about a prophet/messenger of God who brought a Holy Covenant.At I point out in part 4 of my rebuttals while there are parts of the chapter that mention the holy covenant in the context that’s best understood as the covenant with Israel, which Exion acknowledges as a holy covenant. Also no where in the chapter does it indicate any of the individuals mentions are the ones bringing the holy covenant, and it especially doesn’t say the king on verses 3-4 is the one that brings it. Exion has inserted this meaning into the chapter but his analysis of every verse in the chapter doesn’t cover any verse which says this.
I found it here: biblehub - Pulpit's commentary. Literally a direct copy and paste. Not sure how he missed it.I missed it because Exion didn’t previously cite this source and this source isn’t a translation of the LXX. Rather it’s a commentary which on some occasions includes a translation of a verse in the LXX. It not something that shows up when looking for the original Greek and corresponding English translations. I’m not sure how he expected anyone to find that when he didn’t cite the source. I also still stand by that translation as being wrong. I linked to the original Greek to show it does have the phrase “in Persia”.
Regarding the "The prophecy describes a sequence of events" thing he pointed out, I had already revised each verse from part 1 in part 2, and it now makes perfect sense. He should read part 2.I did read part 2 and responded to it. It still has 3 problems. First it’s an admission the original was wrong and not just by a minor mistake. If we look at just all the cases where he admits to being wrong there are enough cases that no one should trust him as a reliable source of information. The more of these cases he admits to the more reason everyone has to doubt him. Second as I noted in my original rebuttals the switch involves a case where he changed his claim about the historical facts based on his interpretation of the prophecy showing he is willing to misrepresent the historical facts to fit his interpretation. Third it doesn’t solve the problem of the sequence of events. Daniel 11:3 begins with a vav-relative, which I explain in my previous posts. This indicates temporal succession so if the kings in verse 2 are the first Caliphs the king in verse 3 must be someone who arose to power after those Caliphs. That rules out it being Mohammed who came before those Caliphs. However, his revision still claims verse 3 is about Mohammed so his revision still doesn’t fix his wrong sequence of events.
"This 'rising' could either be in support of Persia or in opposition to it. Remarkably, this aligns perfectly with the historical narrative of Islam, and here's why:..."The point is to show an inconsistency with his interpretation of that Hebrew phrase with other similar cases in the very same chapter.
Also Exion doesn’t address the verb tense issue I brought up. The verb tense is the active particle. This indicates either a continuing or imminent future action. Islam was about 1200 years after the prophecy which is too long to be considered continuing or imminent future. In my part 4 I note a point where Exion accepts a translation where the temporal succession from the vav-relative is explicit in the English translations showing an inconsistency in Exion’s interpretation.
The Holy Covenant was brought by the mighty king, of course.Too bad nothing in the verse cited says the king of verse 4 brought the holy covenant mentioned and the context of the verse indicates it’s the convent with the Jews. Again in my part 4 I address this in more detail.
However, he completely missed this point and is portraying the Bible as if it prophesies random historical secular events and secular kings, like a history book, rather than a Holy Book foretelling the era of a prophet and a king, much like King David.In Daniel 2 there is a prophecy of a statue which from head to toe have 4 different mental. These are explicitly stated to refer to 4 kingdoms that would be in power one after the other before God destroys them all and establishes his kingdom. The first is explicitly stated to be Babylon at the time of king Nebuchadnezzar. In Daniel 5 there is a prophecy where it explicitly states the kingdom of Babylon will be given over to the Medes and Persians. In Daniel 7 there is a parallel prophecy where the 4 kingdoms are represented by 4 beasts. In Daniel 8 there is a prophecy about a Ram and Goat where it explicitly states the Ram is the Medes and Persians while the goat is Greece. Daniel 9 has a prophecy about a period of 490 years starting from the decree to rebuild Jerusalem which occurred during the kingdom of Persia. That’s 5 prophecies about the secular kingdoms of that general time period. Is it that surprising Daniel 11 would also be about the kingdoms of that same time period?
Furthermore Daniel 9 also mentions the abomination of desolation that is mentioned in Daniel 11. This links the prophecies together. It doesn’t make sense to break that link and have Daniel 11 randomly jump to a prophecy about early Islam.
Daniel also isn’t the only prophet to make prophecies about other nations. Check out Isaiah 11-24. Those chapters cover a lot of prophecies about secular nations.
He claims that secular scholars date Daniel to just after these events and believe the book is recording history while pretending to present prophecy. What a silly assertion. Don’t you think people would generally reject such false "prophecy" and declare them deviant liars, especially if they depicted events that had recently happened and everyone knew about? Both you and these secular scholars need to rethink your position because it is very unlikely (almost impossible to be true) and rather ridiculous, if I'm being very frank.I never said the dating given by the scholars is right. The point was to show that even scholars biased against genuine prophecy recognize this very closely matches the events involving those secular kings. To show I’m not making this up here is The Oxford Bible Commentary, https://imgur.com/a/75vxAEJ.
The chapter is about a prophet who brought a Holy Covenant from GodAgain where in the chapter does it say the holy covenant is a future covenant that will be brought about by the king in verses 3-4? It doesn’t say that, Exion is just inserting that interpretation onto the chapter.
Your interpretation that it is saying "as soon as he has risen" adds a temporal nuance that is contextually based rather than explicitly stated in the preposition and verb form. My translation aims for a more direct rendering of "when he stood" or "as he stood," which also respects the grammatical structure without adding interpretative elements not present in the original text.Two issues here. First “as soon as” and “when” are synonymous. Both indicate that the subsequent fall occurs at the time the king will stand. Second the phrasing here is misleading. It gives the impression that his translation always included a temporal aspect coming from the preposition. However, this is what he originally said ‘The Hebrew doesn’t say “as soon as he has risen,” but only “There stood”‘. His original translation stripped the temporal part from the preposition. He’s changed his translation to add that temporal part. This is another example of where he either explicitly or implicitly acknowledges he was originally wrong. Again just looking at those examples there are enough to show we shouldn’t trust him.
No, it can't, because this is about a Holy Covenant.Again where does it say that? Sure there are some references to the holy covenant but none state it’s the focus of the chapter or that it’s a new covenant brought by the king in verses 3-4. Rather the references to the holy covenant are about the events that happened between the Jews and those secular kings, like when the temple was invaded, the daily sacrifice stopped, and idol to Zeus set up, and unclean sacrifices made on the alter. Exion acknowledges the covenant with the Jews as a holy covenant in his 3rd part of Daniel 11 but never gives any reason to think the holy covenant in Daniel 11 is not the covenant of the Jews. I on the other hand have given reasons to think it is the covenant of Jews.
Neither Alexander the Great nor anyone else you mention (or anyone related to Alexander) anything to do with a Holy Covenant.Ya they do like in the events about the temple I just mentioned.
What makes you think that the mighty king came after the 4 kings? The 3rd verse only said:In the Hebrew it’s the vav-relative indicating temporal succession.
Are you claiming that this must be in chronological order just because the four kings were mentioned before the mighty king? If so, this is the first time I've heard such a claim. Please provide your proof for this supposed Biblical rule; I'd like to read it :). You won't provide any because none exist. But claiming that it does gives you something to "expose," so I understand your motive. However, in the real world, you're just making statements that aren't true.That’s not my reason. Again it’s because verse 3 starts with a vav-relative indicating temporal succession.
The posterity refers to the Rashidun Caliphs, while "to others besides those" refers to Mu'awiyah and those who followed him. Do you know what "posterity" even means? Posterity literally means future followers or descendants. Lol. The mighty king is the one with the followers, which is why he is the one who brought the Holy Covenant from God, not the four other kings. Had you known what posterity means, you would never have written this in the first place, but we will look past this mistake. Now you know a new word and won't repeat this mistake again. Let's move on.I know what posterity means. When Alexander the Great died his kingdom was divided into 4 and given to 4 of his generals none of which were his descendants, i.e. they weren’t of his posterity.
Regarding "The king of the south is prophet Muhammad" I had revisited this verse in part 2.Another case to add to the list where Exion acknowledges he is wrong. Again throwing everything else away and just focusing on those cases it’s evident he is not a reliable source of information.
I don't know if you know this, but stem and branch are synonymous words, they essentially mean the same thing. And lowest part, bottom could also mean stem. Dictionaries define both words similarly:Exion gives 3 different sources. Let’s examine each more carefully. First he links the strongs source, http://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm?Strongs=H5342&t=WLC. That link shows the strong meaning as a shoot/branch. Here is the same source for the second word, H8328 - šereš - Strong's Hebrew Lexicon (wlc). It says root/bottom/deep/heel.
Second he mentions the Klein Dictionary. There is an online version here where you can search words, https://www.sefaria.org/Klein_Dictionary,_%D7%A0%D6%B4%D7%A6%D6%B0%D7%A8%D6%B8%D7%94.1. The first word has sprout/shoot, while the second has root/source,origin/bottom,lowest part/root,stem.
Third he mentions Jastrow Dictionary. An online version with word search is here, https://www.sefaria.org/Jastrow,_%D7%A9%D6%B9%D7%81%D7%A8%D6%B6%D7%A9%D7%81.1. The first word has sprout/offshoot and second word has root.
Each of these dictionaries agrees with what I found in the BDB. The first word is referring to the upper exposed part of the tree, i.e. the sprouts/branches, while the second word refers to the bottom of the tree, i.e. the root. He tries to bold a part of the last dictionary to emphasize the second word has an analogous meaning to the first. Let’s look at it carefully.
, v. שָׁרָר) [chain, knot,] root. — Pl. שֳׁרָשִׁים, שֳׁרָשִׁין; constr. שָׁרְשֵׁי, שׁוֹרְשֵׁי. B. Bath. V, 4 העולה … ומן הש׳ וכ׳ that which shoots forth out of the trunk, or out of the roots, belongs to the landowner (v. גֶּזַע), expl. ib. 82ᵃ כל שאינו … זהו מן הש׳ that which does not see the light of day (when it shoots forth) is out of the roots’. Y. Ab. Zar. III, 43ᵃ top; Y. Taan. I, 64ᵇ ש׳ חטה the roots of wheat; ש׳ תאנה of fig-trees. Tosef. Shebi. VII, 17; ‘Uktsin I, 4, v. קוֹלָס. Ab. III, 17 וְשֳׁרָשָׁיו מרובין whose roots are many; a. fr.Notice what appears immediately before the bolded part, it’s a Hebrew sentence. The bolded part is not the definition. The definition is given at the beginning and just says root. It then gives an example of a Hebrew sentence with that word. The bolded part is a translation of that previous Hebrew sentence not the definition of the word. This is another case of Exion misrepresenting his sources. That bolded part actually supports my point since it shows the root is the part where the rest shoots out of it, i.e. the root is the bottom part.
Either way, let's pretend you're right (even though you're not) it still doesn't matter because a branch out of her roots did sprout, which came to be a sect called Khawarij.It does matter since he spends effort trying to show this is actual Aisha by name. The fact that it’s not casts doubt on his reliability of translating Hebrew and undercuts an important part of his argument for saying this is about Aisha.
Revised in part 2 already.Which is one more mistake to add to the list of ones he’s acknowledged. Again just counting the ones he’s acknowledged we can’t trust him as a source of information.
This is just your faulty conclusion and presumption. I speculated that they might have lied about 'Aishah being his wife. However, I'm not satisfied with speculations, so I revised the entire post of part 1, and it turned out to be even more accurate.It was more than speculation. He went on in the comments to try and defend his claim about Aisha being the daughter of Mohammed and even said “I didn't deny her existence, I denied her role in the life of our prophet, based on Daniel 11. It wouldn't say "daughter" if she wasn't his daughter. I mean, I trust the Books of God more than history books that are based on Sunni Hadiths... the same Hadiths that say that our prophet married a 6 year old child.” https://www.reddit.com/Quraniyoon/s/Ig6OsvEQy8. It’s pretty clear his only basis for his view of the historical facts what what he thought the prophecy said. He only changed his view of the historical facts after his interpretation of the prophecy changed. He’s not establishing historical facts and showing they fit the prophecy, he’s forming an opinion on the prophecy and forcing the historical facts to fit it.
If we can trust the historical sources for the other historical claims he makes then we should be able to trust it for the case of Aisha being Mohammed’s wife. If we can’t trust it for the latter then we shouldn’t trust it for the former. Unless independent reason can be given to trust them for one over the other he’s cherry picking his history to fit the prophecy.
u/TheQuranicMumin I said in my last post ‘you said “If he fails/refuses to do this, we will remove his posts for misinformation.” Can we agree already this counts as a failure to respond and consider his posts misinformation or do I really need to continue addressing his posts/responses?’ After going through his second response I’ll ask this again. Do I need to keep going through these or do you agree his posts are misinformation?
2024.06.02 15:52 Mark-Leyner Point Omega Week Four Capstone
Sometimes a wind comes before the rain and sends birds sailing past the window, spirit birds that ride the night, stranger than dreams.Welcome all. I have the honor of writing the capstone for this group read. First, I'd like to thank u/Old-Monk-7766 for organizing and leading the group. I'd also like to thank u/SwampRaiderTTU and u/No-Improvement-3862 for volunteering and leading weeks 2 and 3, respectively. I'd also like to thank all of the contributors to the weekly posts.
The Intro post did a fine job of introducing two themes salient to the novel, the "haiku war" or "war in three lines" and the relationship of film to time, perception, and consciousness. I read the former as a metaphor for human brains imposing structure or logic on objective reality in order to "make sense" of life. Of course, this includes the attendant risk of distorting that objective reality in the service of other human needs, especially our needs for self-importance and control. The A and B plots also mirror the 24 Hour Psycho installation bookends in that Finley and Elster are moving frame by frame in slow motion while Jessie and Dennis are moving in something closer to real time.
The Week Two post introduced the novel and asked several questions. Clearly following DeLillo's lead as he sets the stage with characters and themes, concluding with the introduction of the most tragic figure in the novel, Jessie. The A plot supported by Finley's project provides motivation for Elster's philosophy with commentary by Finley. These scenes support the themes introduced in the Introductory post. Namely, our desire to classify events retrospectively and to control that narrative, providing some illusion of control over the events. There is a parallel to the 24 Hour Psycho installation here - where one of the most iconic films of all time is manipulated in an incredibly simple and obvious way, and how that manipulation significantly transforms our relationship to film, and by extension, to events. This is obviously highlighted by the impact the installation makes upon Dennis, the antagonist of the B plot.
The Week Three post highlighted the influence of French thought on both DeLillo and the novel, particularly Baudrillard. The post followed the novel in shifting focus from the A plot to the B plot, primarily through the disruptive introduction of Jessie. Elster's relationship with Jessie has some parallels to his relationship with the war and objective reality in that he describes her in fragments and attributes her with mystery. That supports her purpose in the novel - her abrupt appearance breaks the A plot and her abrupt disappearance merges the A and B plots.
The Week Four post covers the resolution of the novel and the conclusion to the bookend Anonymity chapter. True to form, Elster and Finley approach the disappearance from perspectives consistent with their respective approaches earlier in the novel. The mystery of Jessie's disappearance isn't explicitly resolved. However, DeLillo provides enough information to piece together what actually happens. The reader has an advantage over both Elster and Finley because we have an omniscient presence in the Anonymity sections. However, the limits of both Elster's and Finley's approach to navigating objective reality create blind spots that prevent both men from putting the puzzle together. The reader's experience is parallel to the A plot. Many reviews praise Point Omega for it's prose and atmosphere, but make false claims about the lack of any real plot or underlying narrative. There is an incredibly tightly woven plot, leading to death, as is DeLillo's custom. A close read that keeps track of the trail of bread crumbs dispersed throughout the non-linear narrative of the novel links the A and B plots and definitively points to Denis as Jessie's murderer. That Elster and Finley fail to resolve the novel's plot is also consistent with their respective characters, i.e. - a man attempting to justify the inhumane as an abstraction serving a greater good compared to a man attempting to document such an effort, with perhaps the intention to undermine that narrative to serve his own personal goals.
Which brings me to the quote with which I started this post. The spirit birds riding the night, stranger than dreams may represent the lies we tell ourselves so that may live with the consequences of our actions. Or, they may represent the unknowable objective reality, which we have opportunities to witness, but may never fully understand.
2024.06.02 15:49 thrownawayaftred AITA For wanting nothing to do with my mother...
This is kind of long, I'm (m38) my mother (f65) had always been close, until I met my gf(f41). Three years ago, My gf and I were redoing our dock home on the water in florida. My mother, when I was younger, always talked about doing RE together. The first time my mother and gf FaceTimed (mom lives on the west coast) my mother insulted her, by saying, she was using me for free construction work ( my gf had hired plenty of contractors to do the work ) I was doing the easy stuff, painting, dry wall repair, demo the kitchen, etc. And my gf and I were really enjoying the work together. We were young into the relationship, and we were finding out if we were compatible... it wasn't work to us, it was fun. We ended up selling the house together, we did VERY well, we ended up buying a house in the beaches area of Jacksonville where she wanted to go, we currently reside here. My mother, a nurse, over the last 20 years, has always had a friend who has cancer, the first was a close friend from Florida- but as her cancer got worse, my mother was closer and closer to her. When she died, the cringiest experience of my life, was the next day my mother asked me to go to the bank with her, she walked into the bank, and gave an account number to the bank manager, apparently the friend said she would have access to a checking account. I remember the bank manager telling my mother, she was not on the account and she had no access to it. I remember my mother was pleading to the guy- she's my best friend, she told me to come to the bank, etc.... that's the first time I looked at my mother differently. The lady died less than 24 hours ago. Fast forward my gf and I moved to Jacksonville ( a lot of hospitals ) my mother has another friend with cancer, and starts flying across country to be with her, now "bf" and she takes her to Jacksonville, my gf and I didn't find out she was driving up to Jacksonville a few times a year until she had done so for probably already a year or so. The hospital is less than 5 miles from our house. One time my mother is in the town my family lives visiting and decided she was going to come up and visit us, july 4th weekend. My gf who is very organized texts my mother and gives her a detailed plan of what we are going to do, which included riding our golf cart to the beach, grilling out at her parents house, having some drinks, watching fireworks, she invited my mother to stay in our guest room. My mother responded back, "I will handle plans with my son, thank you" my gf didn't respond. My gfs sister, BiL, niece, friends, and my gfs mother go to the beach, her mother specifically went to the beach to meet my mother, my gf father went to the store to buy to hotdogs and hamburgers in anticipation my mother was coming to town. My mother was driving up to Jax, I take my gf and the beach chairs to the beach.... that's about the time my mother pulls up to the house... I get a phone call, my mother is irate, and says she is leaving since no one was at the house when she arrived. And she leaves this little card, something to do with a mother and son's relationship on our door sill. I get back to the house my mother is pissing vinegar. I tell my mother, that I took my gf to the beach, and her family is there. My mother fires back, I should've been there waiting she flew across the country to come to an empty house ( not the case ). I told my mother, that her family, is at the beach waiting to meet her, her father is at the store buying skyline chili for her ( we are originally from Cincinnati ) and she needs to realize all these people are doing things for her arrival. She stopped talking, you could tell she felt like an ass. She immediately tells me she doesn't have a swimsuit - she knew we were going to the beach, she was in an outfit you should never wear to the beach. We get to the beach, she has this attitude and although my gfs mother is being friendly, she has these snarky one word answers. We go to the house for the cook out my mother starts talking about the money we had when my parents were still married..my gfs family wasn't having any of this, you could cut the tension with a knife... after we eat, my mother makes a statement that now she needs to leave to get back to Daytona immediately. She leaves, and then it turned into a great day. Fast forward to the beginning of this year, my mother and I hardly talk. She has gone off on my gf a few times, at this point my gf doesn't hold back, and refuses to talk to her, especially after my mother made a comment about her weight. In the beginning of the year, I told my mother I would paint the house she bought 90 miles away from Jacksonville, since I owed her some money, the walls turned into the ceiling, the ceiling turned into ceiling fan installation, that turned into refinishing floors, that turned into moving some walls. What started as a week worth of work, turned into about 2 months, I may have been in jax 3 nights in 2 months. My gf and I had a family party and my gf said, if I didn't come up, it would be a problem as at this point her family was starting to ask why I wasn't around... I went to the party, I told my mother, I was going- that's when an emergency came up at the house and I needed to be there, I obliged. Two weeks later, things were okay between my mom and I, and one night we were talking, and she venmos me 2k for the work, while we were on the phone. It was a pleasant surprise until I told h er we had a wedding this coming weekend, it was non- negotiable I was to be there. I told my mother, I was going to be gone that entire weekend. She insisted that she gave me money and to quote, if I'm going to take that money and be footloose and fancy free on her dime, give me the money back- I immediately venmoed her money back and said Do not think I'll be at you house, I will not be there until Monday, I am leaving Friday, wedding on Saturday night. That saturday, My mother texts me and says, I need help, furniture is be delivered on Sunday at 8am. I went to the wedding, didn't drink, had fun, went home at midnight, left my house at 6am only to get to mom's house to find out furniture got delayed won't be delivered until 4pm later today. My mother decided that she was going to show up that following week, since the contractor I found, she could work with directly while working her job remotely. Now my debt was paid, I found this contractor, who my mother loved, she hasn't paid me, requested the money she gave me I give back since I went to a wedding with my gf. My mother tells me that the contractor I found, is willing to pay me to help her do work- I'm furious, so my mother is paying a lady, who is going to make money off me for working for her. Sidebar, I found this contractor who had done work for other clients of mine and her work is good, but she doesn't know her capabilities, but oh well, mom is running the show. I tell my mother absolutely not, will the contractor I found, she hired, pay me an hourly rate, that my mother is paying, that she is going to make money off of. My mother claimed, that my money was going to be made, when I sold the house and I would get the listing- I have my real estate license. I'm about done with my mother and her non sense at this point and I'm seeing right through it. As my mother was staying in the house, I didn't want her to be alone, so I would stay with her at night. Both my mother and I are big drinkers, and my sister is in recovery ( who lives with my father and doesnt come around at night because she knows wed be drinking ), so while i have beer in the fridge, my mother is staunchly not drinking and making a big deal about how she doesn't drink, and all I want to do is drink... at this point I'm letting it pile on. Until the straw that broke the camels back, one morning back in March- its around 7am, I drank 12 beers the night before, I'm awake, laying in my bed watching YouTube videos...as I just woke up, my mother knocks on my door and says we need to have a discussion. We go outside and she says do I think it's fair that she is outside doing yard work while I am laying in bed watching TV. I said, yes, it's 7am and there is no reason she should be doing yard work, unless she is looking to fight. She fires back and says, you are living in my house and haven't done a fucking thing.... I stood up and said I AM DONE, I will never step foot in this house, she gets up an walks away, and I yell go call whoever the fuck you need to call and tell them what a piece of shit I am- i have literally walked in on her talking to my aunt saying I shitty person, and wonders why I wont go around her family ( my aunts and uncles ). I go in to the house get my air mattress and what little clothes I had there and left. Now, there was a remote to one of her fans in my car, I grabbed it and put it on the tool bench in th garage, and it fell as I'm walking out...she says- did you really throw that into the garage. I said no, which that's not my personality anyways I wouldn't do that. She says this dramatic "best of luck to you" and I get in the car and leave. I sent her a card for mother's day, but I haven't spoke to her since, and I don't plan too. She fired the contractor, of course is blaming me for the fact that she is completely underwater in this house. And now when she talks to my sister she says I'm out of her will and I am a terrible person, etc.... AITA For wanting nothing to do with her, and happy with her not in my life?
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2024.06.02 15:41 cloudysquidink Why did she get to walk away from everything, when I had to stay?
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I don’t tend to think about this too often, but god it sucks when I do, because what if she’s doing fine? What if after she moved she just carried on in life? And she probably fucking did, god she probably never even thinks about thinking about me, and that’s what so fucking sad about it, she’s probably doing…ok maybe not better than me because of her parents, but still! Fuck now that I think I about it, I don’t even think we got to say goodbye to eachother, because I vaguely remember my friend telling me that she moved suddenly one day, and that was it.
I know I sound like a little kid when I say this but, it doesn’t feel fair. It doesn’t feel fair when I told my Mom what happened, she screamed at me for 10 minutes straight, or when that whole night happened, I didn’t get any support or comfort at all, wanna know what my parents did to make me feel better? They just bought me fucking pizza. And it doesn’t feel fair that even after everything, I was never allowed to talk about it, or even ask about it, because it always triggered my Mom when I even just say her name. I had to “play by her rules” and never ever talk or even mention her, or else somehow how I’m the asshole. It doesn’t feel fair that nobody even taught me about consent and safe sex, and all that fun stuff, all my knowledge came from dirty websites, that I still used, even after everything! And finally, it doesn’t feel fair that it took 10 years, a whole ass decade, for someone to finally go, “hmmm that’s actually not really good”, and it’s from someone who also keeps defending her, confusing right?
I miss her so much, and yet I’m terrified of seeing her again, why is that? I know it’s a common thing to think, but why? I hate to admit this but, I literally think about her every night before I fall asleep, and when I hate myself, I imagine her hurting me instead of myself. God I wanna beat the ever loving shit out of her, and yet I also want to just hug her at the same time. I honestly could’ve just summarized this as a meme and just post that, but I do like to talk. I will say though sometimes when I’m angry I’ll just start quoting vines and memes that are just basically “you better watch out”. It’s very stupid but also funny.
I know that this is never a good thing to do but, I just wish I could know how she’s doing on her side of life, if she’s struggling as well, or is doing perfectly fine. Idk, I have more thoughts and words about this, but I’m starting to get tired again, so I might just sleep instead. So uh, good morning everyone lol
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I don’t tend to think about this too often, but god it sucks when I do, because what if she’s doing fine? What if after she moved she just carried on in life? And she probably fucking did, god she probably never even thinks about thinking about me, and that’s what so fucking sad about it, she’s probably doing…ok maybe not better than me because of her parents, but still! Fuck now that I think I about it, I don’t even think we got to say goodbye to eachother, because I vaguely remember my friend telling me that she moved suddenly one day, and that was it.
I know I sound like a little kid when I say this but, it doesn’t feel fair. It doesn’t feel fair when I told my Mom what happened, she screamed at me for 10 minutes straight, or when that whole night happened, I didn’t get any support or comfort at all, wanna know what my parents did to make me feel better? They just bought me fucking pizza. And it doesn’t feel fair that even after everything, I was never allowed to talk about it, or even ask about it, because it always triggered my Mom when I even just say her name. I had to “play by her rules” and never ever talk or even mention her, or else somehow how I’m the asshole. It doesn’t feel fair that nobody even taught me about consent and safe sex, and all that fun stuff, all my knowledge came from dirty websites, that I still used, even after everything! And finally, it doesn’t feel fair that it took 10 years, a whole ass decade, for someone to finally go, “hmmm that’s actually not really good”, and it’s from someone who also keeps defending her, confusing right?
I miss her so much, and yet I’m terrified of seeing her again, why is that? I know it’s a common thing to think, but why? I hate to admit this but, I literally think about her every night before I fall asleep, and when I hate myself, I imagine her hurting me instead of myself. God I wanna beat the ever loving shit out of her, and yet I also want to just hug her at the same time. I honestly could’ve just summarized this as a meme and just post that, but I do like to talk. I will say though sometimes when I’m angry I’ll just start quoting vines and memes that are just basically “you better watch out”. It’s very stupid but also funny.
I know that this is never a good thing to do but, I just wish I could know how she’s doing on her side of life, if she’s struggling as well, or is doing perfectly fine. Idk, I have more thoughts and words about this, but I’m starting to get tired again, so I might just sleep instead. So uh, good morning everyone lol
2024.06.02 15:28 xfallenangelx95 28/F [L] [O] Seeking emotional support and highly empathetic people.I would love to find someone who doesn't judge others or make fun of them.It's very Important to have someone to rely on :) I'm here for conversations with emotionally mature people who don't have friends and need someone to talk to
(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊
2024.06.02 15:26 xfallenangelx95 [28/F] It's not easy to find someone to get along with because not all personalities match - I'm looking for someone to talk to on a daily basis - someone friendless, honest,kind and talkative. I'm looking for like minded people - in the same situation as mine. Let everyone be Happy 🍀 [Friendship]
(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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No comments please.Only Private messages and chat requests 🌺
I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• Don’t ask me “Can you tell me something about yourself?” If you really want to get to know me - you can ask me questions :) I'm an open book.
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet assertive people who know what they want and always stand up for their friends
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊
2024.06.02 14:16 YamGroundbreaking956 [LEGACY] What are your insights from "the philosophy of fire" article
Hello there, I have decided that I want to become a "good" Legacy burn pilot.
I've seen in a post in this sub reddit that two articles were recommended: "who's the beatdown?" and "the philosophy of fire"
I guess the latter refers to this article here on star city games: https://articles.starcitygames.com/articles/the-philosophy-of-fire/
I have to admit that I struggle to get insights from the cautionnary tale at the end of it: the references to a meta I don't know about adds friction.
I'd like to ask you what you think are the takeaways from this article's cautionnary tale?
Also I'd like to share what I think I learned from my meager understanding of this part of the piece:
Learning (A.)
The breakdown the author is having in the end of the piece seems to be related with a misunderstanding in the role they should be having (should they control the board or go face), this materializes by playing cards that allows to win big in the face but are too slow against other fast decks in their format. They end up selecting a goblin fast aggro deck while having the feeling a burn deck could exist. I don't know their meta but could we be saying they were just pointing too much damage face and not controlling the game when they should have?
Learning (B.)
They tried to be cute and clever with their decklist instead, which materiazes in a less consistent burn list. Instead of cleaning up their list, they get too emotionally involve in trying to make their pet idea work, which robs them of the reps they could have had playing a cleaner list. In the end they didn't learn how to deploy their resources effectively on time for their event because they kept trying to make an ever changing pet list work.
Learning (C.)
From the warning in the bonus section : sometimes risky plays are tempting. One should track the data to decide if those risky plays are good or bad. And if bad is the verdict, refrain from the temptation moving on.
Applicable insights :
When I notice I am a thinking about which undiscovered card could be a magical card that make me win easily with burn INSTEAD use this brain juice to reflect back on past games and what other ways I could have deployed my resources (i.e. Reflecting on looking for misplay, evaluate side boarding, role assessment, opening hand) OR just don't and play a clean list instead.
If I attempted a risky tempting play like something that negates some of their resources. Was it really worth it? Did I got lucky and won but should have lost. Was it the good play but I stil lost.
Questions that spawned after thinking about this piece:
how does one pilot compare two different burn lists? What's the procedure? What are the metrics? What should the good pilot
converserly what should be the sign that the same list is getting worse or better as days passed (ie. because the meta changes)
Strong quotes from the article before the cautionary tale:
"The really great thing about the Philosophy of Fire is that it forces you to play much tighter Magic than you may be accustomed to. In many cases, your cards are”objectively” inferior to your opponent’s. You are forced to make tough decisions and think each action through before making a play."
" We know that with our backs to the wall, we will think through our plays and try to formulate a strategy that will let us exploit those outs when they finally come up. At the same time, when we are ahead, we both tend to get sloppy. Give us an advantage, and we will find every way in the world to let it slip away. When you play focused on the Philosophy of Fire, your deck won’t let you fall into those patterns. You have limited resources and have to manage them precisely in the face of your opponent’s qualitative and developmental advantages. You can’t make lazy plays. Just look at the board and you will see the impending loss if you don’t think your taps, casts, and declarations through. Conversely, when you are ahead, you just tap all your mana and X-spell the face, denying your opponent the opportunity to out-play your careless ass. "
Would love to discuss this with you fellow burn players :)
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I've seen in a post in this sub reddit that two articles were recommended: "who's the beatdown?" and "the philosophy of fire"
I guess the latter refers to this article here on star city games: https://articles.starcitygames.com/articles/the-philosophy-of-fire/
I have to admit that I struggle to get insights from the cautionnary tale at the end of it: the references to a meta I don't know about adds friction.
I'd like to ask you what you think are the takeaways from this article's cautionnary tale?
Also I'd like to share what I think I learned from my meager understanding of this part of the piece:
Learning (A.)
The breakdown the author is having in the end of the piece seems to be related with a misunderstanding in the role they should be having (should they control the board or go face), this materializes by playing cards that allows to win big in the face but are too slow against other fast decks in their format. They end up selecting a goblin fast aggro deck while having the feeling a burn deck could exist. I don't know their meta but could we be saying they were just pointing too much damage face and not controlling the game when they should have?
Learning (B.)
They tried to be cute and clever with their decklist instead, which materiazes in a less consistent burn list. Instead of cleaning up their list, they get too emotionally involve in trying to make their pet idea work, which robs them of the reps they could have had playing a cleaner list. In the end they didn't learn how to deploy their resources effectively on time for their event because they kept trying to make an ever changing pet list work.
Learning (C.)
From the warning in the bonus section : sometimes risky plays are tempting. One should track the data to decide if those risky plays are good or bad. And if bad is the verdict, refrain from the temptation moving on.
Applicable insights :
When I notice I am a thinking about which undiscovered card could be a magical card that make me win easily with burn INSTEAD use this brain juice to reflect back on past games and what other ways I could have deployed my resources (i.e. Reflecting on looking for misplay, evaluate side boarding, role assessment, opening hand) OR just don't and play a clean list instead.
If I attempted a risky tempting play like something that negates some of their resources. Was it really worth it? Did I got lucky and won but should have lost. Was it the good play but I stil lost.
Questions that spawned after thinking about this piece:
how does one pilot compare two different burn lists? What's the procedure? What are the metrics? What should the good pilot
converserly what should be the sign that the same list is getting worse or better as days passed (ie. because the meta changes)
Strong quotes from the article before the cautionary tale:
"The really great thing about the Philosophy of Fire is that it forces you to play much tighter Magic than you may be accustomed to. In many cases, your cards are”objectively” inferior to your opponent’s. You are forced to make tough decisions and think each action through before making a play."
" We know that with our backs to the wall, we will think through our plays and try to formulate a strategy that will let us exploit those outs when they finally come up. At the same time, when we are ahead, we both tend to get sloppy. Give us an advantage, and we will find every way in the world to let it slip away. When you play focused on the Philosophy of Fire, your deck won’t let you fall into those patterns. You have limited resources and have to manage them precisely in the face of your opponent’s qualitative and developmental advantages. You can’t make lazy plays. Just look at the board and you will see the impending loss if you don’t think your taps, casts, and declarations through. Conversely, when you are ahead, you just tap all your mana and X-spell the face, denying your opponent the opportunity to out-play your careless ass. "
Would love to discuss this with you fellow burn players :)
2024.06.02 13:17 yuuu_na Had a breakdown and mom decide to reprimand me, turned into an argument
 | In case you’re wondering, yes I’ve involved the cops and cps before. They closed the case on me because, and I quote, “you do not get beaten often enough”. I’m currently above 18, but the law requires me to be 21 in order to move out and live on my own. submitted by yuuu_na to insaneparents [link] [comments] |