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Question about Shi Qingxuan

2024.05.19 22:13 Starmixs Question about Shi Qingxuan

Did Shi Qingxuan dress femininely before they became a god or did they transform into a woman and dress femininely just because they had the option to do so? I'm really interested in the gender interpretation in Heaven Officials Blessing, I'd love to see some Gender fluid representation through the characters!
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2024.05.19 22:12 Yahoo-ShaQ Looking for trans g/friend

Looking to meet someone in wales who is a trans girl who wants to date and maybe more I love girls with a surprise. Good looking professional guy and not a shy or shallow type either
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2024.05.19 22:11 IsopodEuphoric1412 daycare placing ankle weights on my child

TL; DR at the bottom. It’s a long one but context is important. Also shared in legaladvice
My child (2m) attends a DCFS-licensed daycare program full-time. When I went to pick him up early on Friday, he had ankle weights attached to him!
My son has no medical diagnosis or known neurodivergence. He’s never exhibited aggressive behavior. Quite the opposite - he’s shy and fairly anti-social. He is being treated by a Developmental Therapist (DT) and a Speech Therapist (ST).
The assistant director at his school (Katie) has told us many times that our child is a poor listener. Other teachers have noted he doesn’t listen when told to stop running. Katie also uses a lot of buzz words hinting at a diagnosis such as “stemming,” “non-verbal,” and “sensory processing stuff”. He says 80-100 words. A little behind for 27 months old, but that’s why we’re getting ST.
Back to Friday - I was shocked to see the ankle weights and the teacher commented that these were needed to slow him down and keep him from hurting himself/others.
Katie soon came into the room and explained that the weights were used on another “big kid with sensory issues” and they thought it would help slow down my child. Important to note kids in this room are age 2-3. My kid is big but middle of the pack in his classroom. He’s never hurt anyone- no biting, hitting, kicking. He’s thrown 1 car in his 1.5 years at day car. That’s the only “incident” we’ve ever been made aware of.
Katie also commented that the weights were “only used in the morning”. My child arrives at 7am. These were still on at 12pm.
We are meeting with the director tomorrow and the DT plans to counsel staff and management on the proper use of weights (under supervision and only as part of a treatment plan + training). I have expressed in writing that I am not comfortable with weights/restraints/compression being used without the direction and supervision of an Occupational Therapist or certified medical professional. I did get a swift reply acknowledging they should have told us first and won’t do it again.
From what I’ve read, ankle weights are not at all developmentally appropriate or safe for a 2 y/o. They force children to use quads instead of hamstrings and can do serious damage to their developing muscles.
I have so many more questions I forgot to ask. I was so taken aback and horrified. Who directed this treatment/interventon? How long has it been occurring? Do other children wear them if they’re running too much? Does any teacher have discretion to use them or just Katie? What’s the process for determining weights are needed and for putting them on?
What is my recourse here? We’re considering having my husband leave his job and try the stay-at-home-parent route. I don’t know how we can trust that they aren’t doing worse things behind our backs. Or how we can trust they won’t retaliate against my child if we make trouble for them. Part of me wants to stand outside and warn every incoming parent about this. Part of me wants to demand Katie never be allowed near my child (I’m speculating she is the one “ordering” the use of the weights) or resign.
Should I make a DCFS complaint? What would you do? Would love to hear from anyone who’s navigated something similar.
TL;DR - my IL licensed day care center applied therapeutic and potentially dangerous interventions on my child. Without a treatment plan, without my knowledge or consent, and without the necessary training/certification.
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2024.05.19 22:11 Full_Individual_2222 i want to talk to someone

(LONG POST)
I will start off by saying that i dont even feel like i have the right to complain, i just feel like seeking atention right now, but i just want to talk with someone that wont judge me.
I have a lot of "friends", most of them i consider acquaintances, even if i dont trust them or feel a connection with them i still make sure to include everyone and make everyone feel welcomed and wanted, but somehow, when it comes to me no one ever asks how I'm doing or asks me to be with them. I feel so unwanted and i started to realise this just now. Im always the last choice, im invited somewhere only when their friends cant come or they need another person.
This hurts me a lot acc and i dont understand why, or mabye i do. Ive never cared about these typa things, i dont really care in general about a lot of things, and i dont want people to know how i feel. Thats why i came to yall for help.
I have a friend group that i used to spent a lot of time with just bc we used to play videogames togheter and we used to go out, and for 4 months now i started to really like a boy from that friend group. Like i really like him, ill do anything to know that hes alright, ill do anything for him. But since some time ive noticed that im not invited where they go no more. These things happened before that,but only now i started to notice. They preffer to go without me anywhere, they talk about their plans in my face without even bothering to ask me, just to show off or sum. The boy that i like was the only one that was asking me to go out and made me feel wanted and now hes like the rest of them.
Why? Why is he acting like this? I started to love him blindly without even knowing what he thinks about me, but this shi love that i have for him made me realise that most of the people in my life dont even care a bit ab me, and it hurts really bad, him starting to be one of them makes this pain even worse.
I start to feel like im going insane, i just want him to be like before and i want to stop carring so much man. why do i care ab these things? its not that deep, why it hurts me? i just want to feel wanted by people that i care about. i want him to notice me, to give me a chance so i can show him how much i can do for him. Why i am even atracted to him? Its not like we were togheter, but still, somehow, his behavoir hurts my soul so much. i just want it to end.
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2024.05.19 22:10 Xx-_-Tokyo-_-xX Buying the following + prices for some: (mainly wings)

KEEP IN MIND THAT PRICES AREN'T FINAL, JUST MY IA PRICES!! <3
(not paying over 10k for wings 💔)
Bunny Slippers (50k)
Vampire's Bride (7k)
Frost Keeper (5k)
Goddess Aphrodite (7k)
Ice Empress (10k)
Sun Goddess (3k)
Sundew Sparkle (3k)
Fly Through a Rainbow (7k)
Shooting Stars (8k)
Gold Keeper (10k)
Deep Sea of Sirens (3k)
Lovely Bat Charms (4k)
Phoenix Embrace (10k)
Soul Scavenger (6k)
Dragon Blaze (5k)
Heaven's Etoile (3k)
Golden Guardian of Rainbows (10k)
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2024.05.19 22:07 Glittering-Whatever Finally got my grail doll!

Finally got my grail doll!
It took many years but I finally got my favorite doll from my childhood. She's mint condition, in a never opened box from 1987. Lady Lovely Locks!
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2024.05.19 22:01 Swim_Spadey 24M - Need another person so I can commit tax fraud

You know when you have like a moment of inspiration and know exactly what you want to write in a post and then when you get to doing it your mind just goes blank? Yeah that just happened to me cause that's just my luck lmao
I'm not gonna try and be "quirky" or use the trope of using my nationality in the title of the post like it's a unique thing, like ah yes Barry the fact you where born in your country of origin without having a choice in the matter is soooooo special, just shut up you melt.
But yeah if you couldn't tell I'm a pretty dry person but will get slightly damp if we talk for a while (does that sound weird? Ah who cares it funny). Gonna state I'm not a big fan of anime so be warned, doesn't mean I won't listen to you talk about it but I'm not gonna watch it or have much to add to that conversation.
I also always seem to get into dumb situations or injure myself and no I don't do it on purpose I'm not like "me angry, me punch wall cause i tough and no hurt" I'm just a dumbass who falls upstairs and headbutts a courner of a step.
But yeah thank you for taking the small bit of time to read this post and please for the love of all that is sacred don't just send a DM saying hi, like fair if you're shy that's understandable but don't just do that cause you're lazy, you dm'd me not the other way around.
Anyway send a 🦞if you read all this, not cause I'm a pick me im Just curious to see how many make it to the end.
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2024.05.19 21:58 mysterious45670 Pick a character to rate your oc

Pick a character to rate your oc
Left to right:
Lavender, 18, owns a cat, plays soccer
Melanie, 22, author and artist
Ester, 20, nonbinary, comic geek
Luna, 19, huggable, loves nature
Benjamin, 19, Luna's brother, shy, makes music sometimes
June, 21, sassy, excellent cook
Natasha, 21, June's girlfriend, former dance captain
Tiramisu, 23, Natasha's brother, mechanical expert
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2024.05.19 21:56 sillylittlewriter Long term partner search

Hey! I’m on the hunt for a long-term roleplay partner. I’m in the GMT timezone(UK/Ireland) and I have been roleplaying for years now. I write in third person past tense and my replies usually range from 2+ paragraphs. I am usually very active other than when I’m in work, but expect multiple replies per day!
I am open to non fandom roleplays( SOL/Historical plays etc). If you have any original ideas please let me know! I sometimes shy away from fantasy if the idea of too obscure so just a warning but fully open to slice of life or hearing any ideas you have! Happy to explore simply plots and world build to came then something fun for both of us! 🫶🏻
For my fandom writers; I am happy to write canon and OC’s, male and female characters but I do stick to mxf pairings. I am open to any ideas you have and want to world build and plot with you! Let’s get invested in our characters and our story and post reference pics etc. I love getting engrossed in the writing.
Now for my fandom writers I write the following fandoms: * Harry Potter (All Gens) * Bridgerton * Marvel/DC * Hunger Games(including Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes) * The Artful Dodger * Peaky Blinders
If you have any other plots or fandoms in mind let me know! I might have just forgotten to list them! I hope to hear from you, have a lovely day :)
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2024.05.19 21:52 girl-unknown [16F] Looking for friends. I speak 3 languages, and I love to get to know other people. I might be a bit shy at first, but after a while i literally never stop talking! I love music & movies. Also can someone guess my ethnicity & nationality?😉

[16F] Looking for friends. I speak 3 languages, and I love to get to know other people. I might be a bit shy at first, but after a while i literally never stop talking! I love music & movies. Also can someone guess my ethnicity & nationality?😉 submitted by girl-unknown to TeensMeetTeens [link] [comments]


2024.05.19 21:49 agloew_writes Bonding piggies!

Hi everyone! Just joined this page as I’m looking for a bit of advice regarding the new guinea pig I just took in.
I’ve had guineas all my life but always in pairs (always brothers funnily enough!) but after my twin boys (Korg and Meik) passed away earlier this year, our neighbour (whom I’ve piggy-sitted for in the past) asked if I wanted to take her guinea pig Blossom in. They’d originally had her for their children who just ended up not taking much care of her, and she knew I’d give her lots of veggies and cuddles!
Now (sorry for the backstory😅) but I’ve had her for about a month now and as much love and attention as I give her, I know she needs another piggy friend.
I’ve found someone looking to rehome their 3 bonded female guinea pigs near me, and was wondering if this is a good match? I’ve never taken in unrelated piggies or adult piggies before, so this is all new to me!
Some Blossom back story: - Is about 3 - Was caged with male whom passed away about a year ago I think? And has been alone since - Shy, but does warm up quickly and is quite laid back.
Would this be an okay set up for her? Or would introducing her to a baby female be better?
Any advice would be so appreciated! This is new territory for me so apologies if I’m suggesting a really bad idea 😅
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2024.05.19 21:49 acorns_in_the_grass Just another bottle lost in the oceans of time

Hey KB,
Do you ever find yourself looking out the window at a familiar yet unrecognizable world, like you're not sure whose eyes you are seeing it through? Do the smells of summer ever wash away those hours past noon and blot out the crescendo of time, as if the clouds had swam past and scoffed at the contours of their own shadows?
It's strange, on warm sunny days like this where the wind is muffled by my reminiscence of our days gone by, the blue of the skies is tethered to a reflection of your smile that's barely tangible in memory and it's as if the lens I see the world through is whetted by the dichotomy of past and present.
It's as if we reconcile the mistakes of our past in our own meaningless ways and continue bearing scars that refuse to heal so that whenever we look through the pond of forgetfulness we wonder how it is these spots in our hearts still ache.
When we chat as we still do and carry on this thin façade of nonchalance, I wish you well and hope you are as happy as I am not, but when you recall our end I selfishly find solace in the bitterness of your words as an indication of the tangential wake of our separation--as if the measure of your ordeal betrays the weight of my presence on your mind.
I wish I could just crest this wall of unspoken thoughts between us and ask if you ever miss us like I do, if you ever think of me before you go to sleep and wish I were there instead of in my own bed. I wish I could ask if you ever make up stories in your head of where we'd be now if we never went our separate ways and if you ever imagine the adventures and tales we would tell our grandchildren.
I wonder, in the deepest shadows of my contrition, if you ever secretly pine for the intimacy we had, if you ever wish for another journey down the untrodden paths of time--one that wouldn't end so abruptly. I wonder if I had never shifted my gaze from those dark comforting hues swirling in your eyes, if I had insisted against your will and not given up the fruit of my pursuit, would we now be in a happily-ever-after? Would I not be lost in this vast ocean of uncertainty swimming against the currents of the past and caught in a bottomless churn of vacillation between neither here nor there?
I wonder if the gravity of Jupiter would be enough to pull you back to me or at least coerce a dream or two of our past love--or, I wonder, if that too would succumb to the momentum of our ricocheted trajectories.
There is so much I would like to tell you, all the words caught in the bottom of empty bottles and the moments lost without your witness--the undulating joys and self-inflicted miseries caught in the folds of our remembered love. I wonder how things would be different had I seen through the rough waters ahead and could bear a better future that kept you by my side. But with each inhale I breathed of us, it was as if I could taste the brevity of our time and simply painted a mural with the audacity that we spent it with, as if I was merely crashing in slow-motion and falling through an ephemeral dream of you. You were a flame so bright upon my canvas that I am still cast in your shadows, enshrouded by this souvenir of recollection I never asked for. My memory insists we aren't meant to be past-tense and that it was only yesterday I could feel the weight of your hand in mine, that the present is but an unscripted interlude, and yet here we are years grown apart and as distant as newly met strangers.
In hindsight, we burned for the moon and stretched for the stars but abandoned the fortitude to appreciate one another in fullness. Our destinations managed to diverge on a one way street, forkless yet fractured, and now despite these long years I've spent inching further away from you in our aftermath, I'm still haunted by the absent chance to do it better a second time, to drink every last drop of your smile and soak in the warmth of your skin against mine. Some part of me still foolishly preserves a tract of my heart for the infinitesimal chance of you in my forecast, hoarding opportunities and future narratives so that I may have another chance to spin their webs with you. I know how inexplicably silly it is to still be clutching on to this shred of unreasonable hope for our reunion in this lifetime, to interlock fingers once again and share a glass of wine overlooking the sunset in foreign lands. I wish I could travel back in time, trade every ounce of forward momentum for a hiatus with you in this misguided sentimental vice, this emotional blunder of a lesson I still haven't realized. It feels as if I am constantly falling backwards, stumbling upon my own footsteps and plummeting into memories that have long forgotten themselves and hang on to existence only by a single thread leading back to my heart. It is as if I am shackled to our yesterdays and am drowning in the dark skies above, willfully blind to a future without a prospect of you.
Perhaps one day I will be able to translate the weight of these half cocked years into a new journey. Perhaps one day in another timeline we'll be given another chance to endure the impermanence of our union, and maybe one day beyond the drift of time and our departures from ourselves, you will come to know the fragility of each passing lifetime against your impression on me.
I recognize that what feels so heavy and cumbersome now is just a flicker of life, a symptom of having lived a collection of events between two people, and my emotions are simply in the process of washing away with the gentle waning of the stars. Somewhere in those moments you shared with me must live a remotely tangible lesson buried in transience, shy to my presence and begging for attention. Is this the essence of having lived or is it merely a mischievous blight on the botanicals of my folly?
To think that seven years is but a speck in the immortality of time, it seems more forgivable that I still wish to sink back into your arms whenever I close my eyes. How many more years will be enough to forget your presence in my heart, to forget the feeling of home in your embrace? Are these remnant feelings not to be measured by the cadence of days but by pure tension on the soul?
How much longer must I think of you almost every day and agonize over the fabric of this former love? How many more oscillations of the sun will it take to erode my lingering attachment--these emotional fetters bridling my promise of the future? It should have all faded with each passing second, blown away like dust carried on astral winds. These feelings should have perished along with the shards of us scintillating into the catastrophe of time.
I wonder if your dreams are quiet at night, if our embers have long been extinguished in your slumber? I wonder if you ever cry when you think of how I could have let go of you, or if those tears have since evaporated along with your thoughts of me. I wonder what your days are like, if you are happier without me now, and if you would trade anything to think of me more or less.
I wonder how often you remember me still and if the splash I made in your waters was as staggering as yours in mine--if I still wash upon your shores like your tidal swells that continue shaping my sands.
I want to know if you ever see me in his eyes, or if any part of him reminds you of me and makes you love him a little more. I wonder if you'll ever chase my shadows in waking dreams like I continue to chase yours even after all these years and for years to come. Will your future have forgotten my name or will you still remember the sound of my voice?
Is a piece of me forever lost in you or just lost forever?
I wonder if I should have given you that ring.
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2024.05.19 21:46 No-Moose8864 I miss my bunny

Yesterday morning my bunny got out of his room some how and my dog got him and killed him. I didn’t see it cause my mom and boyfriend got to it before i did got there before me and didn’t want me to see my dead pet. But I hate my dog, I don’t wanna hate the dog, I loved my dog before so much but now I want nothing to do with him and every time I see him I just remember my mom screaming and my boyfriend screaming no no no. How do I move on from this. How do I forgive Earl(the dog) I don’t wanna hate him I feel bad for hating him because he clearly wants my attention and my love. I can’t stop blaming my self too. I shut the door to his room but some how it got opened maybe I didn’t shut it good enough. My bunny was 9 I had him since he was born. I miss him so much and I feel so terrible for how he went. How do I move on and forgive my self and Earl. I just wanna be okay
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2024.05.19 21:46 Tigercherrypeach Love chatting and role play very kinky

Hi I’m 18f this is just a throwaway chatting account, very open and love kinky stuff so don’t be shy
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2024.05.19 21:33 Trencher4ever90 Awkward 33 f looking for friends.

Hello! I am a 33 female who is a mom to 2 boys, i am married! I live in the USA. I am shy and kinda awkward. I have hyperfixations. I do have ADHD and a learning disability and probably dyscalculia.
I love cartoons (some of my favorites are invader zim, rugrats, Angry Beavers, jimmy Neutron, grim adventures of Billy and mandy, Code Lyoko, Ed edd n eddy and etc! (I do love 90s- 2004 cartoons), anime (Bleach is my favorite but I like yu yu hakusho, death note, high school of the dead, Dr stone and etc) music (my favorite Band is Marianas Trench but I listen to pretty much everything) disney (my all time favorite disney movie is A Goofy movie but I love coco and encanto alot and others)
If you have anything in common, you are welcome to message me!
I am shy and awkward and will try to message you back.
Please be 18+, please, and please be respectful that I'm only looking for friends.
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2024.05.19 21:30 D00M-GIRL Nerdy 26-year-old female looking for a friend!

Hello! I'm a 26 year old female looking for someone to chat with! I'm a rather shy person when it comes to making friends so I believe doing this will help me break out of my shell and loneliness. I enjoy listening to and helping others through their hardships because I know how hard it can be not having anyone there for you, I also enjoy talking about random things no matter how 'silly' others may see it as, I will never judge anyone for their interest or person. I love drawing, crafting, cosplaying and playing games; I'm a bit of a nerd and can talk your ears off. Conversations may start off anonymous until you're comfortable which is completely fine with me! I've also had friendships I created through messaging last for more than 12 years and are still strong to this day! If this post speaks to you please message me and maybe we can exchange contacts! Thank you, take care!
My interest include; Writing, cosplaying, prop making, collecting airsoft guns, drawing and I'm into multiple fandoms!
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2024.05.19 21:28 Clean_Position6783 23 [M4F] #Zürich / Europe

Hey there! I am looking for a woman who shares my dream to have a family. My dream is to find a woman for marrage, who also wants kids.
I dont care about looks, age (18+ obviousley), religion, skin collour or anything like it. What i am looking for is kindness, generosity, honesty, loyalty and a big heart.
I woud be willing to move for the rigth woman, but i woud preffer to stay in Switzerland.
About me: I'm m23 from Switzerland, and I'll start by saying I'm a country man through and through, with a deep love for animals, the great outdoors and all things adventurous. Whether it's revving engines, fireworks, fire, chopping wood, or anything that gets the adrenaline pumping, count me in! I'm drawn to anything that makes noise, goes fast, spins quickly, or has an element of exitement and danger to it. You will often find me working away in my workshop, where create things out of wood or metal.
On top of that, I'm also a bit of a nerd and a passionate gamer, particularly when it comes to multiplayer shooters or Games like Doom, Wolfenstein and God of War. I love to listen to metal, rock and hardcore techno while i do sll these things.
I also have a other side that wants peace and quiet. There's nothing quite like escaping into nature, whether it's taking walks through the woods, relaxing by a river or lake, or simply in my garden with a cup of coffee or Whisky. In those moments, you might catch me listening to classical music, playing chess, reading a good book or cook a delicious meal.
If you woud like to know more about me, just DM me, dont be shy :) I am looking forward to hear from you!
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2024.05.19 21:26 Remarkable-Race-3492 Bunny Ranch

Bunny Ranch
I wanna squad up with other players who have these character skins!
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2024.05.19 21:19 Available-Molasses95 Aww, they sent me a package with Valentino merch. It's all so beautiful🥺✨️

Aww, they sent me a package with Valentino merch. It's all so beautiful🥺✨️
I especially love these drawings, they're cute hehe.
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2024.05.19 21:12 the_wandering_dream 31 [F4R] Washington #online You're weird, I'm weird. Let's be friends.

G'day to ya! I'm spunky pnw born & raised weirdo (not too weird, though!) on the hunt for other silly alt lifestyle friends to break up the daily monotony and put a little zest back in it.
Preferably you're between 28-36yrs, open minded and free spirited.
-Bonus points if you've seen some shit in your time-
I'm a crass little thing with a mouth that could embarrass a sailor most days. I clean up nice, though. An equally balanced blend of sweet and spice with the self awareness to know when the flip the switch.
I'm fit - just not muscular - and appreciate someone who's health conscious but not shy about eating cake for breakfast. I have a few tattoos and piercings as well and love chatting/learning about body mods of all kinds (what's the next one you're planning for right now?) While I'd consider myself of the alternative aesthetic, it's more akin to "your local librarian after-hours."
I'm a chronic starter of hobbies, a mild console gamer, and a consumer of the devil's lettuce. I spend a large chunk of time gardening or taking my dog on too long of walks when the weather's nice.
Im looking for dark humor and sassy banter just as much as I'm interested in pondering the oddities of the universe and all its intangible forces at play. Recently, I'm on an "astral travel" kick because... why not? It's fun to think about. But we can share pictures, music, or intrusive thoughts too.
My recent watches range from Bee and Puppycat to Poor Things, Baby Reindeer, 1883 and other random shit. I'm also stoked to see Metalocalypse and SuperJail on Netflix - long forgotten guilty pleasures I'm excited to revisit ^
Anywho, I gotta wrap this up and leave something for you to discover, right?!
P.s. I'm posting today but am usually a m-f conversationalist just a heads up!
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2024.05.19 21:10 explodingknees_ Trapped with no way out

37F - Poland, country with zero knowledge and tolerance for this disease
Sometimes when I'm down I try to cheer myself up thinking "others have it worse"
But not really, except for people who are very ill or physically tortured, not ones with social anxiety. Every time I read a story here I'm kinda jealous of the person who is at least young, has a life before them and schoolmates or colleagues to be afraid of.
I've always had SA and I've always been antisocial. Dorky, chubby and awkward until adulthood. Lost contact with everyone I ever knew because I never reach out, so friendships faded away quickly. Got a major degree but in my country a woman always has to start her work experience as a secretary. Talking to strangers, answering phones. After years of failed interviews they started asking me what's with the gap between my graduation and now. Lying made my somatic reactions even worse. I tried in retail but I was either overqualified or too shy. I only had 2 "boyfriends", but I made all the dating mistakes (being too invested, providing free therapy, ignoring red flags). Both showered me with compliments but never got me anything, never wanted to hang out, "didn't do" valentines day or birthdays, yet expected to lose virginity with me. When I said no because it's a big deal to me they simply lost interest. The last failure made my anxiety turn into a full blown phobia. I had to stop trying to get a job. It was 8 years ago.
I'm an amateur digital artist and ever since all the art communities went down the shitter with the AI I don't get involved in any fandoms and have fun like I used to, I just draw commissions quietly.
Now I only have my mom. She partially understands because she's antisocial too but she refuses to believe in mental disorders.
Lately I'm being crushed by overwhelming loneliness, I'd like to find someone to love but I am completely isolated. There is no public stuff to attend around here, I can't sit around and wink at men. I'm pretty good looking, maybe even hot but due to my style and interests people think I'm a lot younger. I created a facebook account but with no friends I'm invisible. There's nobody my age I could relate to. Millenials who share the same interests are all from overseas. FB groups for finding adult friends are filled with whores, horny dudes and horribly ugly weirdos. I don't think there's any advice for me because I feel like I'm the only one in this situation.
It's too late for me and there is no hope anymore. Therapy is out of the question, I can't afford it. What's the point either? Even if I got meds nobody in this country would hire a 37year old woman with no experience anyway. So I'd still be isolated from people. I have failed as a woman, as a daughter, as a person. Sometimes I keep ignoring this but other times, like now I have the worst thoughts. I only keep it together for my mom. Maybe it will pass when menopause hits, that's all I can look forward to, aside from the end.
So yeah back to what I said at the beginning. At least you've got people to be afraid of. Do what you can, don't waste your chances, don't end up like me. I may be jealous but I'm cheering for you.
Thank you for reading, wishing you guys luck every day
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2024.05.19 21:03 apop2299 How to date as a virgin in your 20s

Hi,
I'm male, 24 and work as a programmer. I have almost zero experience when it comes to girls, I've never held hands, kissed, had sex or been in a relationship and I think it really affects my life right now. I've only been on a few dates over the years.
Most of my friends are in relationships since high school, I just happened to be really shy, sometimes awkward, dumb, had low self-esteem, so no girl was ever interested in me. I thought that studying is more important and that good grades and a good career would bring me a girl later. Turns out I was wrong and when I realised this and started working on myself (fitness, style, money, skills), then the pandemic happened and now I find myself in a catch-22 situation.
I'm a pretty empathetic and somewhat emotional person and I sometimes feel very sad inside when I see younger couples, knowing that I never have and never will experience teenage love, but that's life.
I asked my parents for advice about what to do now, but my father is really uninterested and doesn't believe me that I have never been with a girl, while my mother just tells me that God has a girl set aside for me.
To be honest, I think my chances of finding someone that is going to take his time with me and not care about my clumsiness and my inexperience are slim to none. I don't think girls (especially the ones on dating apps) really have the patience for guys like me. And I know people would say that if they like me enough, they shouldn't care about this stuff, but I just don't think that's true. They can just go online on social media or on a dating app and find 100 guys like me, but with more experience. I don't think I'm that special so that she would overlook such a red flag.
And it's not like I tell them I'm a virgin or something. I met some girls at university or online and went on a few dates (probably 10). Some of them asked me what was my longest relationship, some of them did not, I sometimes told the truth, I sometimes lied, but I think they could sense I was inexperienced or something, because they lost interest after the dates. I asked two of them out of curiosity why they didn't want to continue and they told me that I'm a great guy, but they are looking for someone more mature and experienced. Right now I only meet women through online dating or at the gym sometimes.
I think my only chance is to find someone as unexperienced as me, so I just can be myself, but I just don't know where I can find such a girl. And I believe that the older I get the harder it is going to be, that's why I'm somewhat desperate now.
I consider myself a traditionalist and have a profound dislike for hook-up culture and would never see myself going to bars and clubs and picking-up girls. I want to find someone suitable for a long-term relationship.
Can someone give me some advice on how to approach this situation?
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