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Just got the thing a few days ago NIB, and "discovered" what the kitty likes....to come back to tune after a trem: one nice up pull on the bar. If I don't, she comes in low.
I'm running Chrome flats 12-52. I'd read just strings like these calm down trem issues. They sound fantastic and are a cool change to various ultra lights I have on some other rigs.
I'm such an idiot I did not even know the trem went both ways so nice. When she came back low, but to the same spot, keeping the overall tune but not 440...it jumped into my head: Pull up man!
Seems to work every time...knock on Indonesian wood ;)
At the moment I'm in no need of a trem upgrade! Early days though ;) I accidentally discovered the Johnny Marr version on YT......that is a distraction....but really...I'm digging this one so much. Action is settling down nicely, and I love the neck. It makes so many different tones....
Best 400 hun I've spent on any guitar. The only electric I have that cost me more is a Danelectro 59x12...which is really cool but not as easy to play LOL.
I like the Jag so much I went looking for a Mustang....and found a IYV clone identical to the HB for really cheap....we'll see if I get lucky, as it's not here yet. Two Squiers might effect my self-image ;)

I graduate tomorrow with my twin. I may not be a valedictorian or anything, but I’m still proud of myself for all of my hard work and perseverance throughout the years. I managed to graduate with honors: magna cum laude, and I think it’s a pretty great achievement. I will also be going to a pretty good university with a 45% acceptance rate, which I also think is a pretty good achievement. But during a time that should be about me and my twin, my family decides to feud and I keep getting screwed over.
Starting off, I just need to vent about how unfair it is for twins during graduation season. I’m about to graduate. I don’t need “congrats grad” merchandise, especially with my grad year on it. At least I can pass down the stuff without a glaring “2024” printed on the front. I can’t speak for all grads, but all I want is money to save or spend for my dorm decor. I don’t mean to sound selfish, but all I have gotten was a $5 makeup bag, 6 water bottles with some saying indicating I’m a 2024 grad on it, and some random gift card for $15 for a bunch of places that aren’t even in my local area. Like??? I get I’m a twin and paying double gets expensive, but my parents gave your child and their older sibling $50. On top of that, college tuition is not cheap. No one who isn’t a twin will never understand. I have been screwed over my entire life, and when I finally thought I was gaining independence, people go and do this.
Now to the juicy stuff: family drama!! My life is not the best, but I am grateful for the people in it that actually care for me. Then you have people like my brother, who is ten years older than me, married, has a kid that I haven’t seen in over a year, and still acts like a child. I swear he has some dominance fetish because he is always looking for people to play “following the leader” with. He likes submissive people that essentially bow down to him at every whim and feel grateful when he graces them with forgiveness. When you are graced with his forgiveness after apologizing for something you didn’t do or after being deemed worthy, you can go skip with him in the flower field and pretend like nothing happened. He is arrogant, selfish, and the ultimate narcissist. If you can’t tell, I somewhat hate him, though it wasn’t always like this. My twin and I actually used to adore him before he went psycho, which probably fed his fetish. The reason for his current behaviors is a long story I shall save for another time. Basically, he hates me because I’m not submissive and he doesn’t like that, which is why he likes my twin more because she is very shy and can be taken advantage of very easily. I don’t put up with that, but I am still a girl that can experience emotions of sensitivity and such. Recently, I have actually thrown up after deliberating over this whole situation on repeat on top of graduating, finding a roommate, having feelings that I can’t imagine myself in the future, financial issues, my already present anxiety and depression, having my family constantly confide in me as the “calm one,” etc. It all piles up and it is so mentally draining that I broke. To top it all off, my twin invited this monster to our graduation without my consent. But of course I would have no say. He actually called her today after she told him that she wanted to move forward from this pettiness and visit him with our mom, dad, and me. He had a stipulation: it was either us, the twins, or no one. He is such a coward. Claiming that our poor mother is brainwashing us without even considering the fact that I’m perfectly capable of forming my own beliefs. Our mother loves us all to a fault, and he loves to take advantage of her on repeat by constantly toying with her emotions (for example, he would only unblock her on social media if he wanted her to see something then block her again; he would claim that she is brainwashing us; he called her a narcissist and monster that abused him when he was a kid - total and complete lie by the way. He lived a perfectly comfortable life and had his Xbox taken away once but I digress). Anyways, he basically does not want to come to our graduation, and I am so tempted to send him a very angry message. The only thing that is stopping me are the consequences of my actions in a heated moment since I don’t know if this text will negatively impact my future. But I do know that my brother will have to face the consequences of his actions for being the only one who didn’t attend our graduation, and you bet I am going to hold that over him for the rest of my damn life. I’m going to wave it high and proud like an American flag on the 4th of July because my own brother, that I once had a close relationship with, decided to be a coward just because he wants control and my parents won’t let him. I don’t care if I ever see him again since I know the brother I knew and loved is king gone in all of his hatred. Even during the time I was close to him, he was not who I thought he was. I am now hearing all of these terrible things as I grow older, and he is and was a terrible person, a bully above all else. You so badly want to believe the person you love, especially someone who shares your blood, is inherently good. Now that my rose-tinted glasses were shattered the day he told me to “get the fuck out of my house,” I can now see him for who he truly is. I wish he would just get over himself and finally admit that he isn’t all-knowing or all-dominant. That he needs his family.

I’ve been on a journey to fix my productivity and focus on writing. Along the way, I learned I have ADHD. For people with ADHD, typical approaches to productivity simply don’t work. In this article, I discuss ways that we can work with ADHD as opposed to working against it
https://medium.com/@jacksonluce/5-things-to-remember-when-writing-with-adhd-d1f9c04363c2

I (28F) and my boyfriend (28M) have had a rocky relationship to say the least. I have borderline personality disorder (in both CBT and DBT and on medication for almost 5 years) and an eating disorder (in outpatient treatment for nearly 3 years), so I am well aware that I am not always easy to be with and that I have done/said things that have hurt him. He is an addict, on the spectrum, and bipolar with MAYBE a year of treatment and a couple months of clean time under his belt.
In the past I’ve struggled in our relationship with the idea presented to me by friends (primarily mine), family (both his and mine), and my mental health professionals that the relationship is at best toxic and at worst abusive. He has left me a total of 5 times in the span of three years.
The first time he left was to go on a drug binge with a 19 year old coworker who he was cheating on me with in my own home. Girls have always been a problem in our relationship, but as far as I know he’s only physically cheated with one girl. Typically the issues would be talking to exs, talking to girls he never really dated but did have romantic or sexual history with, doing drugs with girls, or talking badly about me to another girl. With the long history of these issues, I’ve frequently been distant or cold towards him or did things to hide ED slip ups which he says had pushed him to the actual act of physically cheating.
He spent most of our relationship writing off my concerns about a couple girls because they were also long standing friends despite having a sexual or romantic history with them. Because of this, I (drunkenly) reached out to catch up with an old friend who I used to sleep with very casually when we were both single. I only spoke to him for one night and then never again because I knew my boyfriend would be mad and hurt. He found out and broke up with me.
We have since gotten back together, and my friends and family are sort of coming around- almost against their will. In an effort to be honest I told him that while we were broken up a guy friend of over 10 years asked me out (which I declined, and he was ok with).
Fast forward to a couple months later, I didn’t block that guy, and I shared something stupid on Facebook which that guy friend commented on. My boyfriend flipped out.
I asked him to bring up concerns in a more constructive and communicative way, but we spent two days being (as he put it) “not ok”. I had plans with my family that weekend and spent the whole time trying to hold it together while feeling sick and hurt and confused because of how the text/call exchanges ended up. He told me that having that guy trying to flirt with me online “looks shady” and that I always brush off his concerns. I kept asking what I did wrong and he’d tell me nothing. By the end of the weekend I left my family’s house early and had a panic attack on the phone while he yelled at me.
I pointed out that he still has girls that have been a concern for me on Facebook and currently works with someone that he says flirts with him on the clock but I’m trying to rebuild trust and communicate with I’m uncomfortable without blowing up. He said I was deflecting and invalidating his feelings.
I’m so confused how I ended up being the one begging for forgiveness, blocking and deleting people on social media, and asking him to point blank lay out how he would like me to act in the future.
This is the first time since getting back together that I see his old mask slipping back. I had to beg him to speak to me like a human being. I had to ask him to have empathy for me- in those words. I don’t feel like I can talk to my friends and family about this without them immediately hating him again. Now I have everyone blocked that I think he could possibly have a problem with, and he seems to have calmed down.
I guess what I’m wondering at this point is… AITA for not immediately blocking that guy, and am I being manipulative and invalidating?

The firm Nomad putter is the best disc of all time and I will explain why. The firmness of a putter like a KC Pro Aviar or Medium flex Wizard with the rubber rim of a Soft Putter. It is truly two discs in one.
Why did Simon come out with a Pixel in which the flight plate and the rim are the same material? I am confused as to why overmold technology is not being utilized. The Tire and the rim of a vehicle are made out of different materials for a reason.
It started when I fell in love with the rubber blend Luna. Once It got above 80 degrees the putter started dropping at hitting the front of the rim when I realized the material was becoming gummy and heavy. I switched to hard putters every summer but hated the way they did not flex with chain contact and would spit/slide out. One day I was browsing my local MVP dealer stock (Grip Lock Disc golf) at my favorite course when I saw three max weight firm Nomads and the idea clicked. The best of Winter and Summer putters in one Disc!
To further illustrate my point of future disc technology, after Overmolding started becoming popular, other manufacturers started offering discs with different color rims (Halo, etc...) which does absolutely nothing for the flight other than look cool. As mentioned above, why make the rim and the flight plate the same material? Why rubber on Ultra Long Drivers, they are not going to hit Chains often.
Is the future having different types of rubbeplastic in different parts of the disc? Will there be a soft Disc with a hard plastic rim? As someone who started in the era of DX/Pro D plastic I am excited to see where this goes.

I am half-Thai/Half-Mexican. My mom is an immigrant, and my dad's parent's immigrated but he spent a large time of his childhood in Mexico as we lived on the border. When my parent's had us, my dad was worried we would have a hard time with English (when he was a kid, our hometown was still dealing with racism against Mexicans so his family faced their own trials growing up), so my sister and I were never taught Spanish or Thai and we lack an accent when speaking English. I still experienced the culture of both sides and visited Mexico a lot as a kid though. Now that I am older, I have been learning Thai and Spanish. I feel proud that I can now understand my grandma on my dad's side. I get to understand stories in her own words instead of my dad translating. I can also now read in Thai and write short letters to my loved ones.
Despite all of this, I have still been told I am white-washed, not Asian/Mexican enough, called a mutt, and have had racial jokes told to me because since I am not full, they don't think I will be bothered. They never speak in a hateful tone and it's always been friends, co-workers, and acquaintances. No matter what I do, because of how I look on the outside, and due to my lack of accent when I speak English, people are comfortable making these types of comments to me. These comments have come from a variety of people of different backgrounds and races.
It didn't start affecting me physically until recently when a friend started joking about Mexican people and then when a co-worker who I barely know joked about a struggle I was having, saying something along the lines of, "I thought you'd be a harder worker because of your two backgrounds". I used to just get frustrated in the moment but brush it off, but now I started to get this weird feeling. My stomach feels like it drops, my face feels warm, and my hands feel tingly. I get stuck thinking about those comments for days. I have been still trying to process the feeling with my therapist because I cannot find the right word to explain how I feel, but I know it makes me uncomfortable and upset.
I know a lot of it is ignorance and they don't mean to be cruel, but I still want to be able to talk to people about how it makes me feel and how harmful it can be to others. How do you handle people who believe because you are not full, they can make these types of statements to you? How do you practice keeping composure when confronting people who make racial comments to you?

LOST is my all time favorite TV show. I was recently pondering who the closest characters on LOST are to characters on Supernatural. Like who on LOST would most closely resemble Dean, etc. from a character standpoint.
I'll give some of mine and then thought it would be cool to see if anyone had characters from different shows (Or LOST) etc. that they could mix and match with Supernatural characters.
If you haven't seen LOST or all of Supernatural, spoilers ahead.
Dean = Sawyer
Both good looking, both assholes with traumatic childhoods. Both still care, despite their assohle-ish attitudes and behaviors.
Bobby = John Locke
Ugh. This was tough. There is no true comparison to John Locke in Supernatural. That was one of the best written character arc/tragedies ever written in T.V. history imo. But, if we go with the "older guy who acts as a mentor and helps guide the protagonists" I can see it kinda.
Prophet / God Chuck = Jacob
Referred to as an Island deity. Has supernatural powers/abilities, theoretically could have lived forever. Hilariously played by the same actor who played Lucifer on Supernatural.
Lucifer = Man in Black
Man in Black has a bit of a different back story and I honestly feel kinda bad for him, but he was referred to as Evil Incarnate and was definitely the series major villain. Played partially by the same actor that played the Horseman War on Supernatural.
Crowley = Ben Linus
I know that Crowley kind of turned into a joke, but he had a really good run of being the clever bad guy puppeteer that reluctantly worked with the boys on occasion. This is the closest comparison I can think of for these two.
Castiel = Sayid
This was tough for me because there's nothing supernatural about Sayid (at least before season 6), but... he's a total badass that helps the people of the island out in many different ways. He's one of the best fighters in the group, had a period where he did some really bad shit, and ultimately makes a sacrifice for everyone else.
Dick Roman = Charles Widmore
Sure, one is a mortal man and the other is a Leviathan from Purgatory.. but what can I say? Both rich. Both assholes. Both extremely selfish and wanting to murder our good guys. Widmore's arc definitely played out differently, but this works for me.
Baby = Dharma Van
Just saying this to rile you guys up and see if anyone is paying attention still.
I honestly couldn't match up anyone else.. Like, there's no equivalent to Jack from LOST on Supernatural. I couldn't think of anyone from Supernatural that would match up with Kate. Maybe Bella? Sam? Nope. Sun and Jin forget about it. Hurley? Maybe Garth? (Who funny enough was also on LOST and played Hugos best friend in an episode) But not really..

Last month was my friend's birthday, and I made her a crochet cat modeled after her cat. I tried my best but it ended up looking kinda crusty as I am a beginner at crochet, and overestimated my abilities. She said she liked it but i feel like it still looked really bad. :(
This month, my friend gifted me 1. a crocheted thingy of my favorite animal that is NOT crusty and 2. $25 in the birthday card.
Which is better than my gift both thoughtfulness + monetarily.
Im just really confused as to what im supposed to do.
Am i supposed to just do better at christmas/next available?? Give her more crocheted cats (that isn't that crusty)???? Build a time machine and travel back in time and make it better??? Do i write a super long letter of apology/appreciation?? Return the $25 and make things akward af??
TLDR: How do I not be a shitty friend if my gifts aren't that good?

Inscryption x Dead By Daylight
Just played Inscryption for the first time and thought it was an absolutely incredible game. If you haven’t played the game and you’re even slightly interested, do it right now and don’t read anything about this post, go in as blind as you can. If you don’t care, read up then.
Marking as spoiler since technically this spoils a lot of cool stuff about this game, seriously check it out if you’re interested
New killer - The Scrybes New Survivor - Luke Carder
Height - Tall Move speed - 4.6 Terror Radius - 32
Power - Methods of Inscryption Press the power button to equip a power wheel. Whatever power you select changes your current killer to the scrybe the power is associated with.
Up- Leshy’s camera Equip Leshy’s camera. The camera fires a large cone in a bright flash. Survivors hit by the flash are unable to drop pallets or vault windows and gain a stack of Inscribed.
CD - 15 seconds
Right - P03’s Particle scanner Equip P03’s Particle scanner. P03’s scanner creates an incredibly large field in front of you. The first healthy survivor caught in the field enters The Factory. The Factory is a small area with one window and a pallet gym. While in this area, all perks are disabled, they gain a stack of Inscribed, and P03 gains 20% increased lunge range while inside The Factory. If the survivor is downed, P03 gains the same buff for the next 45 seconds afterwards, and all generators lose 10% progress. If the survivor escapes, both players return to the initial position where the power began.
CD - 130 seconds
Down - Grimora’s quill Equip Grimora’s epitaph and quill. Summon a skeleton which will patrol the trial, and chase after the first survivor it sees. When it hits a survivor, it instantly perishes and takes a health state of that survivor. Survivors who have a Skeleton summoned within 16 meters of them gain the hindered status effect and gain a stack of Inscribed. The same effects are applied if a survivor is hit by a skeleton.
CD - 60 seconds
Left - Magicus’ brush Equip a paintbrush. While holding the power button, begin painting. Each stroke of the brush increases the brushes power. Each brush increases the range of the Paint Throw attack, to an eventual maximum. After releasing the button, 5 globs of paint is launched in a wave shape and injures survivors hit by the wave, and gives them the Inscribed status effect.
CD - 15 seconds
Inscribed status effect A survivor can have up to 5 stacks of the Inscribed effect. At 5 stacks, the killer is given a card of that survivor. The card reveals that survivors solo q icon to the killer, and shows their perk loadout on the UI. This effect cannot be removed by any means.
Addons - Brown
Starving man card - Powers no longer give the Inscribed status effect. Gain 100% bonus bp for using powers
Gravedigger card - Increase the field of vision and detection range of the skeleton by 10%
Orange Mox Card - increases the spacing out of the Paint attack’s projectiles by 4 meters
Empty Cell Card - removes the brief move speed penalty after ending early or failing The Factory chase
Yellow
Geck Card - Leshy’s camera is instantly recharged if it doesn’t connect with a survivor
Necromancer Card - summoning a skeleton gives the Scrybes a 4% haste effect for 3 seconds
49er Card - Using the Particle Scanner causes all other survivors not brought to The Factory survivors to scream and gives them the blindness status effect for 60 seconds
Mage Knight Card - Paint from a paint attack bounces off the environment once
Squirrel Card - Hitting a Camera Flash reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15 %
Blue Mox Card - Hitting a Paint Attack reduces the cooldowns of all powers by 15%
Green
Cockroach Card - Getting stunned by any means reduces all current power cooldowns by 50%
Double Gunner Card - the amount of time a survivor spends in the factory is increased by 3 seconds when they get hit with a basic attack
Bone Heap Card - Each time you down a survivor, instantly recharge the Quill and Epitaph
Green Mox Card - Paint attacks inflict Exhausted on survivors for 15 seconds
Strange Larvae Card - Survivors who complete a generator gain one stack of Inscribed “A largely unimpressive specimen” - Leshy
Purple
Urayuli Card - Flashes from Leshy’s camera deal one health state, and no longer removes the ability to vault pallets or windows
Increase the cooldown of Leshy’s camera by 15 seconds “The level of strength needs no explanation.” - Leshy
Stinkbug Card - When summoning a skeleton, spawn a second random skeleton at least 32 meters away from the killer “It’s me.” - Stinkbug
Stoat Card - Survivors have their aura revealed for the entire duration of the Factory chase “Bad move.” - Stoat
Stunted Wolf Card - after standing still for 3 and charging a Paint Attack, the Paint Attack ignores all walls for its entire duration. “Use me well.” - Stunted Wolf
Iridescent
Iridescent Inscryption Floppy Disk An entity created copy of the accursed game Inscryption
Flashes from Leshy’s camera briefly blind survivors Survivors who destroy a skeleton with a pallet lose a health state The Factory blocks all generators while in a chase in The Factory, but no longer regresses them upon downing the survivor Paint Attack projectiles pierce survivors
“I think I just beat him!” - Luke Carder
OLD_DATA Card - When a survivor reaches maximum stacks of Inscribed, their aura is revealed when not in chase until they are downed next. “Weak deck. Total lack of synergy.” - P03

Hey everyone. I am a seasoned cupcake and cookie baker, but I have been asked about cake pops. I have followed this group trying to pay attention to eventually try them out. If anyone can help,regular-sized I have a few questions.

1. How many cake pops can you get out of one regular sized cake recipe?
2. Do you prefer to start with a super light, moist cake or a more dense cake?
3. Do you mix frosting in with the cake before rolling or not? What are the benefits either way?
4. Typically when I make anything chocolate coated I use Ghiradelli melts from the grocery store and thin that with Crisco. Will this method work for cake pops and do you recommend something other than a melt (I have worked with Merkins and that's good too. It's just that I can get Gheradelli at several local grocery stores).5. I have never looked into costing cake pops. This would basically be a donation to a local event handing out school supplies in under privileged areas. They are looking to have all vendors at no more than $1.00 per item. So I'm wondering if it is possible to make a cake pop for less than $1 in ingredients. The time is donated. This is a super small town and this is the downtown 2-block strip of store owners putting the event on. My mom owns 2 of those stores and is the one inquiring, so I'm hoping to do anything possible to help.
5. I have never looked into pricing cake pops. This would basically be a donation to a local event that would hand out school supplies in underprivileged areas. They are looking to have all vendors at no more than $1.00 per item. This is a super small town and this is the downtown 2-block strip of store owners putting the event on. My mom owns 2 of those stores and is the one inquiring, so I'm hoping to do anything possible to help.
6. If you have a recipe that makes a lot of cake pops please share.

I know that's a lot of questions but I thought it would be easier to keep track of all of them in the same post.
TIA

know it's long but I appreciate every read and skip-read, thanks!!
(first part until line could prolly be skipped)
So as the title says I (m19) feel pretty lonely bcs I realised I never really "had anybody", which I think is really more the problem ig?
Quick situation: I'm deep in Uni applications for fine arts, so lots of portfolio's, A LOT to do, as I REALLY need to get accepted somewhere this yr. . Finished my Highschool/A-levels in arts last year; and am now doing a voluntary year which, incl. commute, takes about 36 hrs of my week.
I wanna move away end of summer, "as far" as possible, bcs I kinda want a fresh start.
Social situation: So my parents spereated when I was 5, but, as i heard soon enough, they technically did "5" yrs before that and just lived together for my sake; which I realise as I'm writing this, I actually changed my mind and think that was a shit idea and they handled it very poorly.
In General:To put it shortly they both kinda fucked about about how they ..were? I think I was more of a best friend/therapist for him after all that; and my mother actually behaved like a mother, just very cold? like not comically so, but she just really isn't like that. It just sucks when she is The person in your life. (I'm kinda like that too so I don't even really blame her, but also I don't plan on having children so..). As for the rest of my family; can automatically ignore my father's side, except for a few but I don't really know them anyways. My mothers side, I all love them very dearly, you got your problems but all very normal and nice.
I just always had a kind of social anxiety towards those closest to me, ESPECIALLY family bcs, well they're probably gonna know you forever, which is very scary, more so than with a person/s you "choose".
I've got "lots" of friends, and one ore two close people (f21) i could even really talk to if needed to I'm sure? (100%!) And my two "✨besties✨" (2x f20), i really like them, and we are a fun group, don't really see eachother that often bcs of distance. But we aren't really the feelings kinda gals, more like gossip and life update, and a good vacation/sleepover. It'd be "weird" to be all emotionally with them, bcs we just aren't like that (not a no-go tho!), which works for us, one of them is even "cold/distant" in the same way as me, which i think is actually quite fun and bond-y sometimes. so all good there. (** I'm not really cold or distant more like "oh yeah he's the sarcastic/dry one" or something like that ig, it just feels kinda cold and empty sometimes)
I'm not in therapy rn, which obviously is something that needs doing, but I don't think that's the main problem, or that's what's actually missing. * I don't really need to talk it out or anything, I just need someone that's like there? i know that sounds so desperate but I'm afraid it's just what it is. I haven't had a succesful realtionship since 2020, which ended really fucking poorly, but it's just about this warm feeling before that. He was my best friends since 6th grade before that so I don't really have another example of that feeling but a good handful of short lived ones. I don't think it was HIM tho, we didn't really talk like that either, so it's not that or anything.
I don't even need a partner or something like that, just a good, warm friend, as sad as that sounds.
But even that I don't really feel like doing bcs I mean I don't even really have the time anyways which just sucks for everybody, and most for my portfolios.
But also I really, really want some male friends? that sounds awful and lonely but I don't really have a lot, and none close to me. But anyone would be fine really
(But also I really need some guy friends, bcs my b-day is in july and it's not exactly perfect to be the only guy at your own 20 person party)
As I said, I really don't know what to do with myself rn, I would really welcome some advice, as I think i really need some, and it's not like I can go to, even my most emotionally supportive, friends and be like '' yeah so I dont really feel close and homely with anybody not even you, sorry darling''
I'm really lost, but also I don't feel like opening any new barrels (??) "right before" I move away and meet new people, but also also until sept/oct is still quiet a long time.
I just want to meet some new people, which also seems kinda annoying to me, bcs I don't wanna waste any of my time as the "gay best friend" or being some flimsy whimsy weirdo to some Dude
* I don't want someone new to fill a void and fix all my problems or make up for 20 years of whatever this is or anything, I'm actually quiet well regulated, even if it doesn't sounds like it. There just is like a slot that shouldn't be empty and that probably shouldn't be bcs it makes like happy social hormones in your brain, which your brain needs to be regulated?? Idek I'm so tired and at my wits end at this point
I kinda realised this only today in the hard way, always kinda knew of course, and had small realisations, but as it happens it just really hit me and i feel super cornered
I'm in Germany, near the middle ig so no grant homophobia or anything but tbh i do feel kinda weird around most straight guys? But ig people are getting better so it's really just about their personality
Sorry for all the text i know it's A LOT, but in case anybody actually makes the effort to read it, thank you, and any thought from you is deeply appreciated!!
(I know it's always annoying to read; but english isn't my first language, in case some wording or spelling is off/wrong)

I graduated from high school last year and took a gap year to travel around Europe. Before I graduated I went and toured a bunch of schools during my senior year and only further confirmed the fact that I really want to be in a city. Traveling and getting to spend over 6 months outside of my town mostly staying in cities was the happiest I’ve ever been. (I know that a lot of that was not having school or a real job but it was also the feeling of having so much around me. Even when I was in smaller towns though I was so connected through public transit and cheap travel options that I never felt trapped like I do in such a car dependent country… and I have a car)
Although new York or Chicago would’ve been my ideal situations, I went ahead and applied to schools in Boston, Philadelphia, Ann Arbor, and a couple other smaller cities. Long story short, I got rejected from most of them and those I did get into were way too much money for me to even consider. The only school that I could seriously considered was Fordham since it was the only school in a big city I was accepted into. Ultimately they rejected my financial aid appeal and it was quite literally not possible for me to afford it.
This brings me to my last and only feasible option aside from taking another gap year. UNC Chapel hill. I know that I shouldn’t be complaining about attending such an incredible school but I really want to leave North Carolina and be in an actual city. They are also severely lacking in museum and art history internships which is what I am looking for. I know that I will be fairly swamped by my classes and am hoping to join clubs/meet some cool people, but it’s hard to not feel really defeated and overwhelmed after working so hard to end up at a school I almost didn’t apply to because I didn’t want to go so badly.
Does anyone have any tips to make living in a college town easier and how to eventually transition to a big city on a fairly low salary…

I live in one of those 4 apt to a building type places and Some of the apartments in our building have AC but most do not. They pay water and I pay electricity so i don't see a reason why everyone wouldn't have AC? I've bought a window AC unit but its made for windows that open bottom to top, and our windows open left to right, so we've had to jerryrig a set up to fit our window. plus it can only be used in one of the bedrooms and isn't powerful enough to cool the whole apt.
I looked it up and landlords arent required by law to install ACs in NY, so what are my options for getting our landlord to fit the apt with AC?
I have an upstairs neighbour who is going to give birth soon and they have no way to beat the heat, so this is a rather important issue, any input is appreciated!

Hey everyone. I am a seasoned cupcake and cookie baker, but I have been asked about cake pops. I have followed this group trying to pay attention to eventually try them out. If anyone can help,regular-sized I have a few questions.

1. How many cake pops can you get out of one regular sized cake recipe?
   
2. Do you prefer to start with a super light, moist cake or a more dense cake?
   
3. Do you mix frosting in with the cake before rolling or not? What are the benefits either way?
   
4. Typically when I make anything chocolate coated I use Ghiradelli melts from the grocery store and thin that with Crisco. Will this method work for cake pops and do you recommend something other than a melt (I have worked with Merkins and that's good too. It's just that I can get Gheradelli at several local grocery stores).5. I have never looked into costing cake pops. This would basically be a donation to a local event handing out school supplies in under privileged areas. They are looking to have all vendors at no more than $1.00 per item. So I'm wondering if it is possible to make a cake pop for less than $1 in ingredients. The time is donated. This is a super small town and this is the downtown 2-block strip of store owners putting the event on. My mom owns 2 of those stores and is the one inquiring, so I'm hoping to do anything possible to help.
   
5. I have never looked into pricing cake pops. This would basically be a donation to a local event that would hand out school supplies in underprivileged areas. They are looking to have all vendors at no more than $1.00 per item. This is a super small town and this is the downtown 2-block strip of store owners putting the event on. My mom owns 2 of those stores and is the one inquiring, so I'm hoping to do anything possible to help.
   
6. If you have a recipe that makes a lot of cake pops please share.
   

I know that's a lot of questions but I thought it would be easier to keep track of all of them in the same post.
TIA

my god i am sick and TIRED of these neighbors, for context they’re the same neighbors who tore down our fence that divided our properties without permission two years ago and came onto our property to cut down trees because “they were ugly”(yes police was involved)they moved in during 2020 from another state and they were nice at first but once they realized they couldn’t just get their way with us with “get a new fence that one is old and ugly” “cut those trees in your yard they’re super dry and ugly” etc. that’s when they began to harass us and even tried to get our neighbors to go against us which didn’t work, we’ve lived here for 15 years and we’ve always got along with our neighbors so that didn’t go well for them.
they constantly harass my dogs and have tried to harm them multiple times, have made HUNDREDS of complaints against us, whether it’s waste complaints, noise complaints, they’ve accused us of everything in the book but of course we’ve never been fined or it’s never gone to court because they never have proof of what they accuse us of. they’re all just warning letters we get from the city or animal control saying “we got a complaint from this neighbor about this” we constantly get them in the mail or animal control showing up at our doorstep it’s just ANNOYING.
we’ve had animal control come over multiple times and they’ve seen everything is fine, no proof of what they’re accusing us of so they leave, we have already told them those specific neighbors are constantly harassing us and my dogs with false complaints so they said they would keep that in mind and i think they stopped taking them seriously for a couple of months but they started AGAIN last week.
they’ve tried poisoning my dogs, they constantly throw stuff at them through the makeshift fence they made, they wet them and constantly stand near them when they’re outside to antagonize them. they literally stand near them on their side of the property and whistle at them and laugh and throw rocks and spray water at them and obviously my dogs bark at them. i’m just so TIRED of them. i don’t know what to do anymore, there have been police reports made against them for harassing us constantly with false reports, harming my dogs, stealing from us, but they never stop. it’s like they do it purposefully to annoy us and i’ll admit it, it really is fucking annoying.
i wonder if getting a restraining order against them would make them leave us alone lol

im new to Reddit so I apologize if im doing this wrong, i think im asking for advice/opinions.. im 21f and two or three years ago i started hanging out with an old friend again after a few years, it was right after a serious relationship for me so honestly i was just rebounding and having fun with an old friend. Anyways.. after about a month of hanging out everyday with him and his friends, and three hookups later, hes driving me home and says “ive started talking to this one girl recently and id feel bad if we kept seeing each other while I pursued her”. Very understandable, i told him thats no problem, no worries and that were all good. That was the last i heard of him until a year later. 

After about a year, im back together with the ex i was hung up on while rebounding with (well call him jake). Im at the mall with my friend and i get a “hey girly” text from a girl well call sara. Anyways, sara proceededs to say that her and jake were dating and she thinks jake was cheating on her with me, she then said when she found out abt the cheating he cried and said that while he tried to break it off with me, i “screamed and cried” and said “i love you, ill off myself if you leave… that I assaulted him during one of our hookups. I was blown away.

Sara clarifies and assures me she knows the truth and that hes a lying cheating loser and i fill her in on what really happened between us, keep in mind, I know woman can hurt men like that, but the three times we hooked up I was stomach down face down the whole time and it was during a very sickly time in my life, I was under 90lbs. It just wasn’t possible unless i drugged the mf somehow, he was very big… anyways, after that jake tried reaching out to me to hang out again and i literally said “if i assaulted you why would u wanna hang w ur abuser?” And blocked him after that. 

For the next year n half Sara and I aren’t close friends but we are mutuals and frequently interacted via instagram, the typical liking posts and replying to stories… i didnt start noticing anything off about Sara until it was basically too late, essentially it started with a TikTok she reposted on instagram saying something like “when she copy’s you” idk just something along those lines. I cant tell you why i had a feeling it was about me, but i did.. i ignored it and immediately pushed down the idea that she posted that directed towards me, i remember thinking to myself “there’s no way, i mean we’ve had literally no issues lol”.. and i mean her and i are still interacting completely normal still atp.

i cant remember how long after the TikTok repost till the indirect, direct posts, started getting really personal. Things like “the girl they cheat with is always uglier.” But it really started going downhill till i noticed.. no matter what time it is.. 4am..1pm.. she was my first instagram story viewer, without fail, everytime. 

In my head at this point im just thinking like “yk i post a lot, its not weird, maybe she’s just really active like me” during this time im really just trying to avoid the truth which is, that girl isn’t my friend, her and I weren’t close but i hold friends more dear than anything and i always have, she went through something hurtful that i was involved with and although i didnt know she and jake were together i felt i owed her loyalty and at least someone that’ll be real with her.
Now im getting to the main event.. i know.. this is already insane enough. Trust me. Anyways very very soon after i clock it that Sara is always my first viewer, thats when the eerily similar post come up. It started with random little things, and maybe thats why it took me so long to notice but it started with me posting a picture of a bush outside and, im not joking, two minutes later after being my first viewer, posts a SOMEHOW “prettier” (subjectively) bush than i posted. Then id post a selfie in a certain pose and minutes later shed post the same exact thing of herself. By this time ive NOTICED what’s slowly happening but I truly didnt want to believe this shit again im thinking to myself “youre not that bitch, why would someone COPY you” i mean this girl is pretty! Smart! Insane daddy’s money! Why tf would she be pressed over me, at the time i was sick and depressed and lowkey Emo.

the basically blatant copying continued for a few months, i really didnt want to bring it up and it had gotten to a point where i was thinking of this situation pretty often, it made me feel gross and weird and mean, i felt mean thinking she’d copy me. It was horrible. I had gotten Into a new Relationship at this time and i was just ignoring it until one day i lost a picture of a hummingbird and the caption says “omg a hummingbird has never been so close to me” those birds are very important to me they remind me of my grandmas old cottage. NOT EVEN A WHOLE 2 MINUTES GO BY and she posts a video of a hummingbird flying CLOSER to her. 

That was the breaking point for me honestly, i didn’t say anything to her nor post anything bout her, i simply unfollowed her on instagram and that was that, I unfollowed her and refreshed her account 5 seconds later SHE BLOCKED ME. It had all clicked, she was on my account all day. Everyday refreshing my account, always my first viewer, post exact lookalikes to what im postng, purchasing clothes and random things i own. It was all on purpose and she knew what she was doing. But that was that, what’s done was done and i moved on, literally forgot about her existence.
UNTIL THREE MONTHS LATER i get a. Message from one of those fake phone numbers saying “come get ur man girl” and sends a photo of my bf at the time liking a body photo of Sara’s on instagram. Now I wasn’t mad at the obviously photoshopped screenshot, like that shit was fucking stupidly photoshopped the fonts were completely different, i was mad about her HUNG UP on me. I replied saying stuff like youre nothing but a spoiled brat who cries when she doesnt get her way, i said she complains about these things in her life that she causes herself, all the drama she was in and i blindly defend her, somehow she was always in beef with ppl that stalked her and copy’s her an all these People want to be as rich and pretty and smart and funny her and they cant so they hate her, i said you are the evil one and now i see it, you cause these issues and when people defend themselves or disengage with you because of your behavior towards them and blast them on social media painting them as the bag guy because you know people will blindly believe you. I said much more in much better wording but thats basically that.. AND BOY DID SHE NOT LIKE THAT

here begins the relentless posting of me, she’s posted blatant insane lies like im a pedo and a racist,, that i support mass genocide and im a rapist, im a stalker who wants to be her so bad but ill never be as educated and wealthy and ill never have a good job and will be a lifeless loser my whole life. INSANE SHIT LMAOO, i entertained it for a while, shed post lies and id post “un actually here’s what happened” and she’s post my post and cover out the parts she sounds bad and only post the parts where I admittedly went wrong, but like i willl literally admit Where i said sum I shouldn’t have so wtf. 

This cycle goes on for months, she contacts these older girls who previously had beef with me and had them give her all my information so now she’s signing my phone number up for the national guard, my address, my full name and family’s name. She’s actually lost her mind atp, it’s been two years and biweekly she Post about. me, pushing this narrative that im all these things yet has no proof to back up anything, even tho i have timeline proof of my posts then hers, i buy something then she buys it after, saying Vietnamese noses are ugly. Proof of her asking for my information. She has her army of blinded losers constantly stalking me along with her and talking about me, texting me talking all this ignorant shit and ive sat here all by myself just flabbergasted, for the first year it really did get to me, id feel sick, i felt the need to prove to her and her instagram followers that im not who she’s saying i am, and even she herself knows that. I eventually just stopped fighting back, i stopped trying to clear my name and clear the air.. i learned she’s a Narcissist , no matter the response. She’s going to feed off of it, i’ve been nice, i’ve been rude, i’’ve been empathetic, and ive been cruel. nothing stopped her and im afraid nothing but time will.

This started when i was 19 and i’m now 21, i’’ve called the cops but since this is classified as “cyber bullying” there’s no laws and nothing they can do, after learning i called the cops on her she started posting about a case she’s making against me for defamation which is confusing bc i never told a lie, she did. I notice After two years she just projects everything, her deepest insecurities are right there if you look, it’s what she brags, and shows off the most, herself. She has everything, anyone could want and need yet she’s still so Miserable, yet me, broke as fuck, pretty but nothing to brag abt, i don’’t materially have what she has and she thinks because of that i created this whole mess, but ive always been richer,, im happy with myself, im content most days and thats incredible, i have the most beautiful friends who love me. And would die for me, family i adore. I have everything. The great job, the loads of money and gucci purse can fucking wait, thats my even what i want truly, i want to be a mother. there’s much more detail but this post is already so long and draining, i honestly dont know what to say, I haven’t gone on her account in months but ill still hear and see screenshots every now and then of what she says, the most recent one was yesterday and its that i apparently have been calling her little brothers phone, who’s also a minor. Just untrue, honestly sinister, evil shit. Evil person. And i regret befriending her.. 

I (23 F) just cut off my now ex-friend/teammate/student (19 F) (we’ll call her M) of 12 years. For some context, we were teammates and a dance team for years, we met when we were kids. M and I never really got along, but we were never harsh to one another. M suffers from various mental health issues and uses it as a crutch for everything. I think I finally started to get fed up with using her shortcomings as an excuse for bad behaviour about five or six years ago. i’m not holding anything against her because of her mental health struggles. I think she’s very strong for admitting that to me. but it shouldn’t be the singular reason why everything in your life is not going your way.
we’ve never had any real problems, we would have normal teenage girls spats, and say stupid teenage girl stuff, until about a year ago. at a competition, she started attacking me in front of all of the parents present for the competition. we were literally on the dance floor as she was coming for me. saying stuff like “You treat me like trash, you’ve always been an asshole to me, and I don’t want to talk to you”. it made an entire scene and everyone was watching it play out. I’m a dance teacher now, so that was super scary and embarrassing to have happened in front of the parents of the kids that I’m responsible for. I managed to convince her to talk outside, where she began to go off and trauma dump on me about her past experiences with dance teachers, and bullying, and then no one understood her because of her ADHD.
we had a long-winded conversation about what we could do to make each other feel seen and heard, and what solutions might be. really trying to have an adult conversation about the whole situation. We hugged it out. I told her I loved her and that I would always be there for her if she ever needed me. I even texted her after thanking her for taking the time to talk it out with me. and she wished me safe travels home.
we haven’t spoken since then, but I reached out recently. I was trying to congratulate her on a project that she worked on. Saying “I hope you are proud of how it came out. looks like a great experience for you!” M replied, “Nice.” and then didn’t reply to any of my messages after that.
I don’t even really know what I did wrong, and I don’t know how to make it better, or even if I should make it better. I blocked her on absolutely everything. Her phone number, Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok too. I did it to protect my peace. but I’m starting to feel like an asshole.
need some outside perspectives or advice .. am I the asshole?

For context I (m60) raised my step daughter (f21) since she was 11 and have been married to her mom (f60) for 5 yrs. I know that my stepdaughter doesn’t have the best relationship with her bio dad & doesn’t like to talk about him much. But anyway she was telling me and her mom this morning that her friends have never seen a pic of her dad & that she decided to post a pic of her and her dad on her Instagram account yesterday.
I felt kind of off about it because I don’t want her to post anything that’s gonna start something since everyone thinks I’m her biological father. But we all go to church and my step daughter’s friends have heard about her dad but never seen a photo of him and she felt that it was time for them to see.
Anyway back to the story, I told my stepdaughter that she shouldn’t have posted the picture of her and her dad because it’s gonna stir conflict and that she’s gonna start nothing but drama. She tried telling me that it doesn’t matter because that’s still her dad and she still loves him. I tried to tell her that not everyone needs to know all the stuff that goes on between her and her dad. She said she wasn’t gonna tell anyone about their estranged relationship, that she just wanted to post a picture. But I think otherwise.
She tried telling me “it’s literally my dad. Why is that such a problem to you? I don’t see you getting so defensive when I post pictures of me and you? Why can’t you just understand that? What is so hard about this?? The church isn’t going to judge. At least I post about you online, I don’t ever see your 4 bio kids posting about you at all. They don’t even want to talk to you!!”
I got in self defense mode and told her “that’s different and you KNOW that. You seriously need to stop causing all this drama. You need to GROW UP! Maybe this is why you don’t have a lot of friends because you run your mouth too much and try to start something stupid every single time. It’s pathetic that you’re almost 22 yrs old and still act like a freaking child. Grow up man and go get a stupid job. I’m so tired of this. I don’t even know why you want to post about your dad after all the crap he’s said and done to you and when your relationship is barely making ends meet.”
There’s no way she’s gonna talk about my 4 kids like that and butt in like that. So I told her off and said that I said and walked out the door to my back yard to cool off. When I came back inside I could see that she had been crying and noticed tissues in the trash can. Her mom tried telling me that I crossed a major line and had no business to tell her daughter who is an adult what to & what not to post on her social media profiles especially when it comes to her dad. Now I feel pretty bad because of what my wife said but I dont feel bad about what I said, even though she told me I should be. AITAH??

My egg donor has finally done the last thing she will ever do to me. My child is sleeping over at her house this weekend. She’s always been nice to him in a way she never was with me, I think to try and hurt me but anyway I’ve allowed them to have a relationship and I’ve been “low contact” But my son sent me a panic text tonight saying she was talking bad about me to my stepfather. My son recorded them. Not only did narc egg donor tell my son I was “mentally ill” and “had bipolar” she was scheming to try to find a way to get custody of him. This is so next level. I am a mental health provider! I have a doctorate! I don’t even drink alcohol! He goes to the best school and I work my butt off to give him the best life as a single parent. I must be doing something right because I was granted sole legal and physical custody. I am an amazing mother! I am the most non-bipolar person yet this pathetic excuse for a “mother” is trying to poison my own son against me. No, never again. I will never look at her face again. My son will not be allowed to talk to her ever again. She will never hear me utter a single syllable in her direction. I am going FULL no contact for good and I hope she rots in hell. Even if I did struggle with mental health issues and trust me I do but mostly in the “I’m not lovable because my egg donor is a narc” kind of way, (and overcompensate by being an overachiever) she shouldn’t have been telling my 10 year this and she should call me to ask me if I am bipolar or why she thinks I am. I am very confused as to why she thinks this. My son told me she was as saying something about when I was 16 I stayed out all night with a guy. I guess that makes me bipolar 27 years later! I am blocking her numbers. We will do our own Holidays. I look forward to a new life. I’ve felt like an orphan for a long time and that’s what I will tell people. She got pregnant by accident and I never knew my Fathers side and I’m not close with my Stepfather. So I’m utterly alone single orphan parent with a 10 year old. It’s better than pretending any longer.

I think I need to recenter, take a break from the internet.
I’m scarred in a way I can’t express to anyone, there’s something within me that hurts over you, and I can’t forget it.
I wish I could pick up my phone and have it send everything inside my brain to yours. Honestly, if we could read minds there’s no doubt in my mind that we’d still be together.
You’d know every last detail as to why I felt how I did, and why I now feel the opposite.
I thought I was preventing you from hurting. I’ve never had a ton of faith in myself, and assumed I’d end up losing out on an opportunity that would result in you seeing me as unworthy or a failure in my ability to provide for you.
I know you. Someday you’ll reach out for me.
Someday you’ll seek out this account, and these letters. And the other account, and those letters.
I know how this all works because I have the emails you sent two years ago.
All it takes for us is a single spark, and we ignite this flame all over again.
Let’s just not let it all go up in smoke this time, yeah?
Forever and always, Fire? Fire, I guess.
(Yours).