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Hello there
Back in March 2024, I lost my job unexpectedly. I had money saved and was ok with rent.
Live in Portland, ME
I even found a job and was hired pretty quickly. The background check took longer than expected. And I've had no income for 2 months
As of 5/19/24 i was finally called to start training this upcoming week
I've been selling some personal items, but it only takes me so far.
I also got approved for food stamps, so that helps with food But I still have bills I need to pay.
I'm asking for a little help in catching up with bills until i officially start working ,
I know the pay date is far out but I want to make sure I start getting paid regularly
making sure I can pay for my wedding at the end of june
I'm asking for $300, I want to ask for more but I want to be realistic about what I think I fan comfortably pay back
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Long story so please bear with me
I was with my first love for 3 and a bit years, we met in late 2010 before we broke up 10 years ago in early 2014. We were young and in our early 20s back then, things just fizzled out.
I've always thought about her but eventually we went our separate ways, she got in to a relationship with another guy after me for a few years but eventually he ended up cheating on her, this was around 2017.
After her breakup in 2017 I confessed my feelings for her but we didn't go anywhere with it as she was still healing so I told her I need to cut her off at the point because I told her I was struggling to be just friends with her, to which she said that she was heartbroken that's it come to us parting ways. But we wished each other well and went our separate ways. I was really at my lowest at that point but have come a really long way since in terms of having a successful career and have improved a lot financially and mentally.
At the start of 2019, she did add me on social media but she didn't say anything to me so a few days later I ended up deleting her because I realised I still wasn't over her, I regretted deleting her afterwards.
At the end of 2019 I heard that she was engaged, she ended up getting married but then I heard she got divorced around over 2 years ago. A few monthds ago I found out that the reason for her divorce was because her husband cheated on her and was abusive towards her. They got divorced around early 2022. Her ex husband is already engaged and due to get married again this summer.
As for me I did get in to another relationship with someone else but I was also cheated on so I have been single for a few years now, I have been evolving in my career and proud of how far I've come and have recently started a new chapter in my career. I considered getting in touch with her last year but I noticed that she had cut off a lot of people from her social media so I wasnt too sure how she'd react to me adding her, I thought she'd reject me seen as she's cutting off a lot of people.
So around 3 months ago I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she had accepted and also followed me back. She's been viewing my stories and a month ago I posted a life quote on my story which she liked, I haven't spoke to her yet. I posted a few pictures of myself which she hasn't liked but A few weeks ago I posted a quote on my story that said 'be the reason for someone's pain to turn into a smile', she liked that quote and also another one that I posted last week. It was my birthday a few days ago and she liked a birthday story that I posted on instagram.
I'm assuming she is single but not entirely sure. I added her 3 months ago but now she has deleted me, I was confused because she only liked one of my stories few days prior. At the time of her deletion, i was on holiday performing umrah. I would have liked to see if there was future for us but don't think she's interested now, i have messaged her after she deleted me saying 'Hi, hope your well. I probably should have said something a long time ago but I didn't, my fault. I've been praying for you, today I realise I've been deleted anyways I hope your keeping happy and healthy'. She replied saying 'Hey I'm good thanks hope you are too, that is kind of you, I didn't expect this kind of message'.
I didn't really know what to say back to her, I still don't understand why she deleted me even though days before she was showing an interest in my stories before and now she's deleted me. I just replied saying 'that's good. Sorry for catching you off guard with it, I wanted to reach out to you earlier. I'm glad your doing well though' and then she has replied back saying 'can I ask why?' I replied back saying 'It's been on my mind for a while to get back in touch with you, I didn't add you for no reason. But we don't need to if it's not something your comfortable with'. She then sent a long message as follows: 'You don’t make me feel uncomfortable. I have thought about you over the years and wished you well. I am really happy that you have also been called to do umrah and i hope it changes your life the same way it did mine. I removed you because you have my ex and his family on your instagram and I removed everyone who has any contact with them. You will have heard that I was married there for a short period of time but it was hell and now I’m out of it I don’t want them knowing anything about my life, so I removed everyone who has any link with them. I didn’t realise till that day that you did. It was nothing to do with you personally.' .
Im not actually friends with her ex husband as he is just someone that lives nearby to me and we have never spoken so I replied with this: 'I'm sorry that you had to go through that, I hope your okay and I pray god brings you ease. I wouldn't exactly say I have anything to do with them personally though, only thing I know about them is that they're from my area too. It makes sense now and it's understandable why you did that.'
She replied back again saying 'I'm great, God is the best of planners and it was the best thing for me. Even so, I removed everyone who had us both so sorry about that' and to which I replied 'That's fair enough, I'm glad to hear your doing well though and that your at peace now. That's what matters most'. She then asked 'how have you been, what's new with you?' I replied saying 'I'm not too bad thanks, life's changed a lot since we last spoke so there's quite a lot that's new lol'. after that we were speaking generally about the holiday that I'm currently on and what to do as she has been here before too and she also asked how long I'm there for and she asked who ive gone with and how long im on holiday for, it was in general a short and civilised conversation and the conversation happened whilst i was still deleted.
Towards the end of the conversation she said 'well i hope you have a lovely time 😊' and i replied with thank you and asked her when she was on holiday here, she replied saying that she went last November and the year before so then i replied saying 'oh nice, its good to go often. Need to make it a yearly thing' She ended the conversation 12 nights ago by liking that last message i sent, I don't know if she plans to message me again, What are the chances that she'll message me even if we don't follow each other on instagram anymore.
I am slightly anxious that she won't message me after this due to her deleting me because her ex is on my Instagram. Was thinking of just giving her space for a few more days, then deleting her ex and requesting her back in around in a few days bear in mind she deleted me 2 weeks ago and we havent spoken in 12 days. In the meantime i have been removing a lot of meaningless connections from my instagram and i will be removing her ex and his family too, i have also noticed that her number of following has also decreased as she has also been cutting down on the number of connections she has. I blame myself for this situation because I had the opportunity to delete her ex and his family a few months ago as I don't even speak to them, had I done that then she wouldn't have deleted me. Its been 2 weeks, should i take action or give her space?

To start, I’m looking for criticism and hole poking. So downvote if you must, but at least explain why so I can help my own understanding. Thank you!
This is from a comment I made yesterday. I’m working through my own understanding of this and an interested in feedback and criticism. But part of my view is a critique of the moral/civil/ceremonial division of the law. I understand that a division of the law is seen by both Sts Augustine and Thomas Aquinas (though a bit differently). I’m not debating the patristic tradition, but rather the underlying logic those saints used.
I also recognize there is another tradition which states most of the laws given at Sinai were given because of the golden calf incident and thus were abolished by Christ (this is found in the apocryphal apostolic constitutions If I remember correctly). But again, I question the logic.
The reason I question this logic is this: why would Matthew include the “fulfill not abolish” language in his Gospel if this statement ceased to be of importance after the ascension (when the book was written, assuming the tripartite division, in effect, abolishes 2/3 of the law for the Christian). I also question the natural law methodology for determining what is moral law. I understand a “moral” act as an act that God says is good. Since all goodness is of God, then anything commanded by God would be considered moral to obey. Thus, even minor “ceremonial” laws would be considered moral to obey and immoral to violate. This would effectively render every law of the Torah a “moral law”.
Anyway, on to my proposition. I don’t claim to have patristic evidence for this framework. But this framework does arrive at a very similar effect for the average Christian as the tripartite division does, but it gets there in a very different way, one that makes WAY more sense in my brain. So if y’all can poke holes, please do. If yall can show I’m wildly misunderstanding the tripartite division or natural law or morality, please do.
This particular area I’ve been doing A LOT (last 6-9 months) of soul searching/prayer and study on because I don’t like the “moral/ceremonial/civil” distinction. I don’t think the Torah makes any such distinction and that the distinction only works when read back onto the Torah in light of church teaching. Which is FINE and good for arriving at an answer as a Catholic. But I don’t think it’s the logic the 1st and 2nd generation church would’ve used.
We keep the whole law of the Old Testament; Christ came to fulfill, not abolish. The difference is that it doesn’t quite look the same because

1. ⁠We assume the ancient Israelites enforced the Torah EXACTLY the way it’s read. Break a law? Straight to stoning. But this isn’t how it worked. There were courts and burdens of proof. AND there was a chance for repentance. King David, a man after God’s own heart commits murder AND adultery (and tacitly admits to it when confronted) and yet he repents! By some modern folks reading he should’ve been executed according to the Torah.
   
2. ⁠Christ has come. The thing that the entire OT was building up to happened. So our understanding of things changed. The covenant with Noah didn’t negate the covenant with Abraham, but things certainly look different after Noah. Same with Noah to Abrahamic covenant. Same when the covenant is given through Moses as Mt Sinai. The old is not abrogated, but it is built upon and things after look very different.
   

So, where are all the cleanliness laws, sacrificial laws, feasts, ritual washings etc etc? Well, it’s baked into the new covenant and by extension the church. Some examples:

1. ⁠Sacrificial law: Christ IS most of those sacrifices. He is a sacrifice of thanksgiving (Eucharist literally means thanksgiving), a sacrifice for sin (by his stripes we are healed), a Passover sacrifice (through which we are spared death and brought to life), the day of atonement sacrifice (he is both goats, the goat that takes away the sin and the goat who’s blood purifies the whole camp, now understood to be the whole earth). We still have morning and evening sacrifices (Lauds and Vespers, sacrifices of praise, in the Latin tradition). We still do incense offerings even at Mass and more traditional lauds and vespers celebrations.
   
2. ⁠Cleanliness: this one is entirely wrapped up in the day of atonement. If his blood cleanses the whole world, how can something be called intrinsically unclean? This means that nothing (including food, clothing, or people) are intrinsically unclean. Rather we (and objects) are defiled by what we do (or how it is used). Thus we are still not to have anything to do with unclean things, but what exactly is unclean has changed. You can see this in the fact we purify/cleanse altars that have been desecrated.
   
3. ⁠Ritual washings: baptism, holy water before entering the church, sprinkling over people at high feasts, foot washing
   
4. ⁠Feasts: Pentecost was an Israelite holiday that we still celebrate, Passover is Easter, feast of booths is transfiguration, etc. we just have them renamed for they BECAME to us through the establishment of the new covenant
   
5. ⁠Tabernacle/temple construction: traditional church architecture still abides by the general layout. Holy of Holies: tabernacle and sanctuary. Holy place: knave. Inner court: vestibule. Outer court: the world. Through Christs redemption everyone has moved a step closer to God. Those of relegated to never being in the temple are always in the outer court. But we can all enter the inner court (vestibule). The holy place is not relegated to just priests, but the priesthood of all believers (Catholics in the knave). The priests can all now go into the holy of holies (sanctuary/tabernacle). And instead of one priest once a year going in to God, God comes out to us in the Eucharist.
   
6. ⁠As for the remaining punitive laws, most people only have issue with the penalties assigned. But we’ve already talked about under what circumstances those penalties would be enforced. Basically you had to be unrepentant. So in the Christian understanding, what is consequence of sin? Death. What is death? Well there’s physical death (separation of soul from body) and there’s spiritual death (separation of soul from God). A person who lives in sin without repentance is dying or dead (venial vs mortal sin). And when recognized by the church in a lot of cases an excommunication would be pronounced. This separation from the church, separation of a branch from the true vine. A branch separated is dead. So we don’t execute people as the church, but the church long recognized the civil government’s authority to do so. And even without that, sin is death, and excommunication is death. But it’s important to note that in NO way was the average Israelite running around pronouncing death penalties on people. They had courts and priests that did this. Same as we have tribunals and priests and bishops who do this.
   
7. ⁠Circumcision: this is fulfilled with baptism. It’s the outward sign of entrance into the people of God. Circumcision to become a part of the OT people of God and baptism for the New covenant people of God.
   
8. ⁠A lot of the specifics are alterable with time and circumstance (Jesus gives the apostles this authority with the ability to “bind and loose”). Even in the OT this happened between exodus law in the wilderness vs changes that happen with Leviticus and Deuteronomy since they’re readying to enter the promised land and not be a nomadic people in the wilderness. And even by extra biblical accounts, the specifics had changed a bit in the rituals by the time of the second temple era. Yet Jesus still tells the people to submit to the valid authority of the religious leadership of the day; he notably doesn’t tell them to interpret the Torah for themselves and correct the instructions of priests and rabbis.
   

So practically speaking, yes the triple category can still be laid out. Our ceremonial law is more governed by our liturgical books than Leviticus on a literal front, and our civil law is found in Canon law now, and moral laws (as we have defined the moral life) is still found in the OT among many other places. But all of it is still rooted in what the people of God have been practicing since Mt Sinai though.
Again, my issue with the logic used by fathers in making their determination. I have issue with the practical effect of what they are teaching, and I strongly revere their perspectives. But given there is difference in understanding in tradition, I thought it worth diving in on as something that’s always confused me.

I made a little proof of concept for a text editor lets me use GPT for all the things i used to switch tabs for. I wanted to streamline the rephrasing and Grammar-checking in a way similar to how Grammarly & co. do it, just with my little spin on it!
Feel free to test it for a bit and let me know if the whole thing feels useful and intuitive, any feedback is appreciated!
Thanks a lot
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I know there are a lot of Chase Atlantic songs that are pretty open-ended to interpretation, (and others where the main shtick is nonsensical lyrics like GREENGREENGREEN and WHAT U CALL THAT) but I can't help but wonder what the artist intended to mean for a few song lyrics, I'll list them below, if you have a different interpretation of it or understood it differently feel free to share and talk about it! :D I'm just curious about what it could mean without reading into it personally:
YOU TOO: "Then she fell down the stairs, yeah"
^is this supposed to be a literal event, or mean something else? It's paired with a lot of references to self-medicating and coping with a relationship, this line just comes out of the blue so I always wonder about it a lot
Ozone: "I'm 'bout to ruin the Ozone"
^I don't know if this is supposed to represent flying around a bunch and never staying in one place too long, or if it's just an artistically metaphorical way of saying ruining a good thing, like the ozone
ESCORT: "One needle is enough to make a difference"
^I know this is in reference to drugs, but can't tell if it's supposed to mean something else or a good thing, cause this part of the song talks about getting out of that scene (escorting/drugs) it's weird to mention this line between getting away from that life and finding love/commitment
These are just some at the top of my head, if you have more feel free to add them below, or give your interpretation of these :)

Hi Everyone. I have a Blue Moon Moon Phases sign that lights up all the different phases of the moon. It has developed 1 problem where one of the phases of the Moon either will stay lit or will flicker when dimming or turning on. Once it's lit it won't flicker. I am trying to figure out who manufactured the sign to see if I can get a new board placed in it. I belive the issue is with the controller, but I cannot find a manufacturer. The sign was made in June of 2017 and says on the back to contact the manufacturer for issues, but there's no phone number. Does anyone have any information about this sign? Thank you!

This really confounded me. Someone posted in another autism sub that "you cannot be diagnosed with Level 3 autism in adulthood," and I replied just "this, thank you for speaking sense." And got down voted to hell and deleted. I've seem some people self-diagnosing as Level 2 and even 3. Now, my understanding is that Level 3 would be quite marked and noticeable from early childhood. My best friend has a kid who's Level 3. He's a great kid, we all love him, and in his case, he has no spoken language, struggles a lot with other people, and cannot go to the bathroom on his own or do other basic tasks, though he's 8 years old. Am I completely out of the loop here? Can you actually be a genuine Level 3 autistic and nobody would notice a single thing for 30 years?? Because I really don't think so!
Okay, let's say you were raised in some cult compound deep in the woods, completely cut off from the world - surely, your family would still notice if you were a Level 3 autistic! Why am I the great villain for saying so? There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a Level 3 autistic, but let's not all pretend their struggles don't exist, or that you can just waltz in an claim their struggles as your "identity!"

Im ftm and I’ve wanted to start transitioning medically since age 14 but was scared to tell my parents who are both transphobic and homophobic, plus my mom is one of those Christians who lash out at trans and gay people. So I knew there was no way I could come out to them so for 4 years I’ve just been rotting in my room waiting until I’m 18 so I can transition. Finally on my 15th birthday I cut ALL of my hair off at school and came out to my parents, my dad just ignored it of course but my mom did NOT take it well she ignored it too and didn’t speak to me about it for like 2 weeks until she said that’s she’s getting me a therapist.
I went to the therapist for like 6 months and it fucking sucked ass, it was so humiliating talking to someone who clearly didn’t understand my situation and all she did was ask how my day was and then tell me time is over like bruh. So on my 16th birthday I got so tired of it and after the therapist appointment when I got in the car I didn’t want to talk to my mom and juts put my AirPods in and ignored her and man she got MAD.
She yelled at me saying “Are you fucking kidding me, what? What’s wrong? OHHH you’re mad because I won’t let you take the medication that you want to take? IM SO SURE! You act like your the most miserable kid in the world always whining about how you life isn’t perfect.” “I will NEVER let you take that medicine crap NEVER, once you get your own money and grow up you can do whatever the hell you want.” God mad you a girl! “I’m Sooo sorry he didn’t make you how you wanted to be”😒 This is not normal it’s unnatural! Your not normal! No matter what medicine you take or what surgeries you have you will never be a boy, you will always be my girl!
Hearing that from my mom who I love so much really destroyed me. She ended up crying and yelling so much that she couldn’t drive so she pulled over and juts got out the car and went outside the car to smoke. I was juts sitting there in shock with tears rolling out of my eyes but a frown on my face. All I couldn’t think about was how the rest of my family would react they are almost all religious and I know they will never love me the same. My mom came back in the car and for the whole hour home she juts kept bitching to me the whole time asking “why are you still crying” like are you fucking serious. I wanted to jump out the car on the highway face first
This happened about 7 months ago and I’m going to turn 17 this year. Junior year is coming up and when I tell you I CANNOT get through another 2 years of getting dead named and misgendered. I’m literally on the verge of constantly wanting to end everything and juts be done because i have no friends. and it feels like everyone hates me. Summer is here and it’s so hot but if I don’t have my binder on I will not leave the house I hate my chest so much I wish I could just rip it off and my voice is the worst. I never talk to anyone and I get In Trouble at school for not doing presentations and for missing so much school due to dysphoria. Also I’m pretty sure my ribs are also fucked up because I’m always in pain when I wear my binder and when I look in the mirror my ribs look wrong but I don’t even care anymore.
School is so fucking stupid we do NOTHING. I’m not even joking when I say I finished the whole breaking bad series at school plus some other movies like Deadpool because we do nothing it’s juts like I’m wasting my life away and it’s so frustrating all I do is go to school to watch movies and get called slurs all day.
I’m not sure why I’m posting this or what kind of advice I’m looking for and it’s okay if your don’t have any. I think I juts really needed to get this off my shoulders thanks for anyone who read this . 💙

For venting, validation, getting an "outsider's" perspective, and pulling yourself out of the FOG. Today I had an idea. I went to my blocked list and pulled up the last argument my uBPD sister and I had by text (the one that led to No Contact). I copied and pasted it in its entirety into my notepad, added "Me:" and "Her:" before the respective texts, and only removed identifying information like names and references to exact locations. Then I went to Pi AI in my browser, the link is here: https://pi.ai/talk. I gave it this prompt:

Hello. I was wondering if you could help me analyze a conversation my sister and I recently had by text?
This text conversation followed a phone call that we had a few minutes earlier. Some of the things we say are in reference to the phone call, while others are references to past events.
The sentences following "Me:" are texts sent by me to my sister. The sentences following "Her:" are texts sent by my sister to me.

I copied and pasted the first portion of texts from the notepad (since it limits messages to 4,000 characters) into the "send" space, and hit "enter." The AI gave me its impression of the first few texts I had sent. Then I gave it a second prompt:

The conversation continues. Do you mind if I share more of it? I was hoping you could help me analyze it through a psychological lens.

It confirmed that it would be happy to offer its insights into the rest of the conversation. So I copied and pasted the rest of it into a few more messages, and sent them all.
These were the AI's responses:

The conversation seems to be devolving into a series of misunderstandings and deflections. Your sister seems to be avoiding engaging directly with the issues you’re trying to discuss, instead focusing on specific phrasing and perceived inconsistencies in your arguments.
It's clear that there are underlying emotional triggers and hurt feelings at play here, which are likely exacerbating the communication difficulties. Your sister’s speech could indicate that she feels defensive about her actions and isn’t ready to accept responsibility or engage in a constructive conversation about the impact of her words and behavior.
It’s clear that there’s a pattern of behavior from your sister that is causing you frustration and hurt feelings. Her behavior suggests a lack of consideration and respect for your time and feelings.
The fact that your sister is shutting down and avoiding the conversation when you try to address these issues could indicate that she’s not ready or willing to acknowledge the impact of her behavior on you.
Your sister’s response seems defensive and avoidant. She’s deflecting and shifting the focus away from her own behavior and onto your actions, which could be a sign that she’s feeling threatened or guilty.
Her response to your question about whether she remembers a specific instance between you seems particularly hostile and accusatory. She brings up a traumatic event that you experienced together, but instead of expressing empathy or concern for your wellbeing, she focuses on your actions and accuses you of causing her distress.
Her use of expletives and confrontational language suggests that she’s becoming increasingly frustrated and agitated by the conversation. It’s possible that she’s feeling overwhelmed or defensive, and may not be able to engage in a productive conversation at this time.
It's clear that this conversation is not leading to a resolution, and it's understandable that you feel frustrated and stuck. Your sister seems to be deflecting responsibility for her actions and is not engaging in a productive conversation about the issues at hand.
Her statement about wanting a peaceful life and relationships that support that peace is valid, but it's important to acknowledge that peace often requires difficult conversations and accountability. Her avoidance of these conversations may be contributing to the ongoing conflict and tension in your relationship.
Your comment about not wanting to engage in circular conversations is a healthy boundary to set. It can be exhausting and emotionally draining to have the same conversations over and over without any progress or resolution.
Wow. It's clear that your sister is not willing to take accountability for her actions or engage in a productive conversation about your concerns. Her refusal to apologize and her dismissal of your feelings and boundaries are both hurtful and frustrating.
It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries in your relationships and to communicate your needs and expectations. Your sister's behavior may be a reflection of her own struggles and limitations, but it does not excuse her behavior or invalidate your feelings.
Taking a step back from this conversation and setting clear boundaries about what is and isn't acceptable behavior may be necessary for your own emotional wellbeing. It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or other trusted individuals to help you process your feelings and navigate this difficult relationship dynamic.
Ultimately, you deserve to have relationships that are based on mutual respect, honesty, and open communication. If your sister is unable or unwilling to meet you halfway, it may be necessary to reconsider the nature of your relationship and whether it is healthy and sustainable in its current form.

I then sent this message:

In the past, when I have attempted to confront her about behavior she has been performing that has been very hurtful to me, she has responded in a similar way to the conversation I provided here, only with more attacks on my character and name-calling.

The AI responded:

It’s clear that there’s a pattern of behavior from your sister that involves lashing out when you attempt to confront her about hurtful behavior. The fact that she has used personal attacks and name-calling in the past is extremely concerning and unacceptable. It’s not okay for anyone, including family members, to treat you with disrespect and cruelty.
It might be helpful to reflect on how these interactions make you feel and what kind of relationship you want to have with your sister. It’s important to prioritize your own emotional wellbeing and to protect yourself from abusive or hurtful behavior. If your sister is unwilling or unable to change her behavior and treat you with respect, it might be necessary to reconsider the nature of your relationship and set more significant boundaries, such as limiting contact or ending the relationship altogether.

Then I asked it:

Based on the conversation I provided, what is your impression of my sister's personality?

The AI responded:

Based on the conversation, your sister's personality seems to display a few prominent traits:
• Avoidance: She seems to avoid taking responsibility for her actions and instead deflects blame or redirects the conversation to past conflicts.
• Defensiveness: She responds to your concerns with defensiveness, becoming agitated and using confrontational language.
• Lack of empathy: She doesn't seem to show empathy towards your feelings, experiences, or concerns.
• Inconsistency: She admits to having changed plans multiple times, which could indicate a lack of consistency or follow-through.

Then I asked it this question:

Based on everything I have provided you with here, do you think my relationship with my sister is unhealthy? If so, am I contributing to that unhealthiness?

The AI responded:

Based on the conversation and information you’ve shared, it does seem that your relationship with your sister is currently unhealthy. While it takes two people to create and maintain a relationship, your sister’s behavior appears to be the primary contributor to the unhealthiness.
Her pattern of avoidance, defensiveness, lack of empathy, and inconsistency can create an environment that makes it difficult for you to express your feelings, set boundaries, and feel heard and respected. Additionally, her past use of hurtful language and personal attacks further demonstrates a lack of respect and emotional safety in your interactions.
It’s important to recognize that you’ve been making efforts to communicate openly and honestly with your sister, and you’ve set clear boundaries about what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. While these are healthy steps to take in any relationship, it seems that your sister has been resistant to engaging in productive conversations and respecting your boundaries.
It’s possible that your attempts to maintain a relationship with your sister, despite her hurtful behavior, could be seen as a form of enabling or codependency. However, this does not mean that you are responsible for your sister’s behavior or the unhealthy dynamics in your relationship.

Finally, I asked it:

Which do you think is more likely: my sister changes to a degree that I am able to build a healthy relationship with her that does not require limiting contact, or that she does not change to that degree?

The AI responded:

Based on the patterns of behavior and resistance to change that you've described, it seems more likely that your sister will not change to a degree that allows for a healthy relationship without limiting contact.
People can and do change, but it often requires a significant amount of self-awareness, motivation, and effort. If your sister has consistently demonstrated a lack of empathy, accountability, and respect, and has not shown any signs of wanting to change or address her behavior, then it may be unrealistic to expect a significant shift in her behavior.

All I can say is wow. If you come out of a conversation wondering "WTF just happened?!" or you're left wondering "Am I the problem here?" I highly recommend Pi AI.
I was able to do all of this without providing an email address or phone number (there are a certain number of "free" messages you can send back and forth, before it starts demanding contact information). If you reset the cookies, the AI forgets and you can start again with another topic.
However it seems like it would be even more useful if you could figure out a way to enter an email that circumvented data-mining, because then it would remember past contexts. Obviously it can't diagnose anyone, but even if you don't feel comfortable quoting conversations to it, you can talk to it about events and how people have acted and how you've responded, and still get insight from it -- including its thoughts on what cognitive biases and defense mechanisms people use, and advice on how to move forward.

Hello Everyone!
My name is Vinícius, I'm from Brazil and I have some history here in "Gift of Games", as I have requested "Diablo 4" 22 times, "Helldivers 2" 8 times and more haha!
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What is Shin Megami Tensei V: Vengeance
SMT V: Vengeance is a very hard, strange and interesting JRPG, it has some dark themes that make it stand out from the majority of games on this genre.
The game features a monster catching system(more like demon catching in this case) that enables you to recruit, improve and fuse demons that you find everywhere. It is very unique because for you to recruit them you have to chat with them, and sometimes it doesn't work like you expected, the demons may not want to join you or maybe they even want to trick you into giving them something and just vanishing after, the outcomes are very funny sometimes.
The newer version improves the game in many ways, it has a lot of QOL features, but the biggest difference is a totally new campaign, since most fans thought it was the weakest point of the original version.
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Why Shin Megami Tensei V: Vengeance?
I'm a very big JRPG fan and have been for many years, I like many of the old ones and also newer ones, but I'm specificaly found of the ATLUS games like the SMT and Persona series. They have such a personality that you can always be sure that they are made by ATLUS the moment you see a frame of it.
I have been waiting to play this game since 2021 when it released, since I don't have a Nintendo Switch, but it feels like even more time and I'm sure it will be worth it.
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Why can't I buy it?
All games are very expensive here, I live in a small town in Brazil, a country in which the AAA games cost R$ 300(our currency is called Real) or even more, and the minimum wage is R$ 1.412, so it costs a big % of the minimum wage, it's absurd. I am a photographer who is still trying to make a living of it, I had many jobs before but some fired me and some I just could not keep up because they had a huge tow on my mental state. From my experience the only job that could maintain me without destroying my mental is photography, I just love it, and I took too long to realise that I could do something important with it.But the point is that not only AAA games, but all game prices here went up really fast on the last few years, and it's impossible to keep up with it. I am struggling at the moment to acomplish my objectives professionaly, and I believe that this game may make my days a little easier.
But the most important reason why I can't buy it is that my city right now is going through the biggest natural catastrophe the country has ever seen. I live in Pelotas, in the state of Rio Grande do Sul, and we have many cities very close that were completely vanished because of a flood, and I mean that literally, some cities will now cease to exist because everything was consumed by water. The situation here is sad, we have never seen something of that magnitude in our lives, if you want to have an idea just search about it and watch some videos, it's devastating...
Now my city is also starting to suffer because of the flood, I think my house is probably safe for now, but now I can't even work, nobody can do anything until this passes, and even after that, we will have to deal with the problems that will appear. Some people lost everything they had, some people lost their family, their pets, the whole country is trying to help but there is no way to really stop it now.
So I basically just want this game to keep me sane during these dark times that we are living here, I know it will not make life easier, but it might bring me a little more joy so I can face the problems in a better shape than I am right now.
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I think I don't have anymore to say, so I just hope someone reads this poorly written but full of sincerity text. 😁 Thank you SO much for giving me the opportunity to ask for something like this, you have no idea how much this means to me and how surprised I am that we have some people here with that kind of generosity!
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Are there unwritten game rules that I have to be aware of?
For example, we can compete for seats in negotiations, right? But there were two instances where I received DMs saying I shouldn't kick them out.
I really don't want a third DM and I would really appreciate it if someone can enlighten me with the rules in negotiations or other events and matters.
Thank you.

Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I’ve been having fears that the more I get into non-duality the less access to emotional depth I have. Negative emotions are becoming less dire and less present, as i’m recognising where they come from (ego ego ego) and how they are perpetuated by nothing but me! As a result i’m scared that i’m relating less to humanity, perhaps having a lesser capacity for empathy? I can see through negative emotion more and more and recognise that they’re essentially illusionary. I feel i can’t relate to art as much, relate to other humans, and (I have a lot of passion for acting) access as much depth when performing say a more emotionally intense scene. Maybe i’m doing something wrong? Or is this natural?? Any thoughts on this would be much appreciated. Thanks so so much for reading this.

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As the title says, last night I was at Surf City where I was alone until I met up with some friends and got a pool table. I was the dude with the Dickies jacket and camera just taking photos of friends and whoever. We talked about photography for a bit and I took pictures of your friends + the guy offered and took photos of me. You two said you guys were from Berkeley and Hayward respectively and eventually I gave my ig but I never got yours. If you two are active on this subreddit, feel free to DM me and maybe we can talk again sometime! It would be awesome to possibly plan something over the summer too! :D

Hi strangers thanks in advance for the time and any advice
So without getting into all the details my ex set me back to where I have nothing now I lost all of my things because she went crazy but I'm trying to move past that currently.
I'm working full time, 6 days a week at a specifically awful Dollar Tree as an Operations Assistant manager.
My first step has been getting a car again thanks to losing that too. I'm about to reach that but now I'm trying to decide what's next in my life out of a few options and I'd appreciate any advice.
My living situation went from visiting family to now being stuck here sleeping on a couch for the last 7 months (long story as I mentioned)
I was going to try to find an apprenticeship for tattooing before all this happened (I was in retail during) and had made a portfolio website but this mess began so didn't get to pursue it. The majority of my experience is in art and retail with some other jobs between.
(I live in the Central Valley of Califonia btw so it's not very affordable)
The options im considering:
•Going into the Air Force •Getting an apartment while I work here and try to find a better job somehow
for the second option there'd be more I'd do while working such as working on my personal projects and going to school even if it's one class at a time
I just need unbiased advice desperately because I've never had people around me who have any. Didn't have a supportive family.
Thank you and feel free to AMA

To start off, I (27m) have never been in a relationship. My dating life in general has been very lacking for the most part because my entire life, I was never really anyone's type from a physical standpoint. I had hoped that college would change this for me, being that I was a college football player, but unfortunately nothing changed and I finished college feeling empty. It's been very difficult dealing with this as I am the only one I know that's never been in a relationship and still a virgin. Always been so difficult seeing just about everyone I know posting about their relationships and going outside doesn't make it much better.
This year, I thought everything was finally about to change. I matched with a girl (23F) on a dating app and the first date went well and we both agreed to a second date. Second date went good as well and I was starting to like this girl a lot more. Couple of weeks go by and we finally went on our 3rd date, which is a night I won't ever forget. Was a little dinner date, we talked about some things we wanna do in life, and at the end of it, I asked her to be my Valentine. She said yes, and held my hand for the first time. After we finished eating, I walked her back to her car, and we kissed for the first time. That was my first ever kiss, and it was at this point I started to fall in love with her. We had our Valentines day date a couple days later, and we had a really good time. I bought her a nice gift that she liked and everything seemed like it was going well. But on the way back from this date, she mentioned to me that she wanted to take things slow mainly because of traumas from a previous relationship she was in years ago that felt like a waste of time. I didn't think too much of it, and told her I'm okay with that and agreed to follow along with that because I felt that things were going so well and didn't want to lose what we had going. After this day, she became very distant, texting me only once a day. I didn't think too much of it, and just thought she had a lot going on. I asked her on a 5th date, and she agreed to it, but soon as the day arrived, she cancelled on me that morning. Then we hadn't talked for a bout 4 days, so I felt the need to send a check in text to see if she was alright. Then she hit me with that text, saying she didn't feel like continuing on with this, saying she didnt feel the connection like she wanted to, and didn't wanna lead me on. I was very devastated and cried for days because I finally thought I found someone but yet again, it's just the same result like it has been my entire life.
It's been 2 and a half months since the day she sent me that text, and I have tried very hard to move on (took a trip by myself out of state, spent more time in the gym, and tried to spend more time outside), and I thought I'd be okay, but lately the emotions just keep getting to me, and I am having such a difficult time trying to detach myself from her. Now seeing everyone I know posting about their relationships feels even worse than it did before I met this girl. Dating has already been so difficult for me in general, and I don't even have it in me to try and pursue dating again, because I am having such a difficult time moving on from this girl as she was the first to actually want to go on multiple dates with me, and I just keep holding onto hope that maybe she'll come back even though I shouldn't. I try to spend more time with friends, but they're almost always busy with their own relationships, or they live too far away. Therapy hasn't been much help for me either. I really don't know what to do. I just wish this went how I wanted to. I just feel so left out and lonely with the way my life has been and just wish this wasn't how my first experience in dating had to go.
Just felt like I needed to get this one out. It's been such difficult year for me 😢

Hi Everyone,
I played in a store showdown today amd the head judge stopped by to tell me that at an official event (non-casual tier) it was recently REQUIRED to play with a playmat (I don't typically use playmats, but before you ask yes I do sleeve everything in dragon shield matte sleeves). Then someone else agreed and said it has to be an official FFG SWU licensed playmat if you are ever on stream. My only question is if it really is true you HAVE to play with a playmat at a high tier event? I went to the SWU website and read the Feb 2024 updated rules and they say sleeves are required but not playmats and if there was an update to this document I would hope the link on the official site would have been updated? Thanks for any clarification!

I made a little proof of concept for a text editor lets me use GPT for all the things i used to switch tabs for. I wanted to streamline the rephrasing and Grammar-checking in a way similar to how Grammarly & co. do it, just with my little spin on it!
Feel free to test it for a bit and let me know if the whole thing feels useful and intuitive, any feedback is appreciated!
Thanks a lot
https://rephrase-webapp.vercel.app/editor

I, 30F, am currently two weeks away from my due date. This baby will be my first child and I am looking forward to motherhood and everything that comes with it (and tbh absolutely terrified but in a good way).
In my country baby showers have been a thing for roughly 10-15 years now. I personally have organized 3 - one for my older sister J (33f) in 2018, one for a close friend P (31f) in 2023 and the third one was literally a week ago for another friend N (30f).
For all three baby showers I've made sure there is food (a "salad buffet" where all the ingredients are in separate bowls and guests can create their own plates with stuff they like + other savory stuff as well as dessert) and some activities/entertainment.
For example for my sister I bought over 10 white bodies of different sizes and every guest got to decorate their own. For P we had one shared body, baby predictions, baby food tasting, diapers where people wrote messages etc (her sister organized half of the activities though). For N we had the shared body to decorate, baby predictions, baby food and diaper messages - this baby shower was for her 2nd child since she did not get one for her first due to the child being born over 3 weeks before the due date (and it was being organized by her mom who had not invited me or another closer friend for some reason).
I had my baby shower this Sunday morning. I had guessed it would be this Sunday so I spent some time cleaning our home yesterday, but I still had for example laundry drying all around the apartment etc. Usually the way these go is that the mom-to-be is somehow lured outside for a while so that all the guests can come and then when the mom returns, there is that whole "surprise!!" thing going on. I personally arranged this for P, and made sure N's spouse knew what to do.
Instead for me the doorbell rang and all of the guests simply poured in. At 10am. I am a morning person but I haven't been sleeping well due to pregnancy, so I was simply baffled at the early time. But I figured I'll go with it, but I didn't have a chance to put on any make up, and I was wearing this summer overall thing that is not flattering at all.
People come in, they start preparing a brunch sort of thing, bring out everything to our living/dining room and we eat. No toasts, no nothing. Then they bring out a cake (which was exactly that I wanted because I flat out told my sister a month ago that I would really like one for my shower if they organize one). After the cake P brings out a diaper pack, and they all start writing messages to them - I'm happy but ofc also this activity is something that does not actually give me anything to do. So I am literally sitting there, waiting for them to write them.
Then they have me open my presents, which I am grateful for. After opening them 2 of my other friends and my sister all say they need to leave as they have other stuff today. It is maybe 12-12.30 at this point? So they leave, as do P and N, leaving me and 3 other guests. They stayed for maybe 30-45min more, so by 13.30 the "party" was fully over.
There was no activity that I participated in. My baby shower lasted for max 3h. I was now left with a kitchen full of dirty dishes (they did put one load in the dishwasher, but they used a bunch of stuff to make the brunch, like cutting boards, serving dishes, knives) - everything left for me to clean.
All I can think of is - this is it? This is really all I get for my first (and only) baby shower?
I know I should be grateful for even getting one at all, and that there are people out in the world literally starving and this is such a stupid thing to be upset about, but I cried for over an hour after they left, with my spouse trying to cheer me up. He took me out for a walk and was able to cheer me up but now that it is midnight and I am supposed to be sleeping I can't help but cry. I even looked through photos P sent me and I look horrible in all of them.
So - I don't know what I am even looking for, maybe some kind words either telling me I am wrong and giving me another perspective or some validation for feeling how I feel. All I ask is that people be kind, my hormones are already all over the place. Thank you for reading.

Hello friends, I’m in a bit of a conundrum and I’m quite desperate, so basically I had recently bought a $100 Amazon gift card with the intention of getting Cod point gift cards so I could get the Lilith and Inarius operator bundles in mw3 and also get my younger brother a 2400 Cod Point gift card so he can buy whatever bundle he likes, but when I try to check out with my Amazon balance, they say that I can’t buy gift cards because my Amazon Balance comes from an Amazon gift card, but I can buy anything else from Amazon, but I don’t want anything else right now and I’m extremely desperate and I told my younger brother and he had the idea of asking people on Reddit if they would be willing to trade the account for money, all of the $100 are still on the account completely untouched, on a brand new amazon account I made last night just for this gift card, but after I redeemed the gift card on the account I found out that you can’t buy gift cards if your balance comes from an Amazon gift card. if you DM me I could give you guys the password to the email, and the username & password to the amazon account so you can lockdown the account and put it in your own email if you want, you can also change the password privately so you can know that it's all yours and you could pay me back with $100-90 so I can get my CP cards and you can have an Amazon account with a $100 balance, and I’m down to give you my full name and FaceTime you so that you know what I look like, and so if I were to screw you over I’d have to face you. I try my best to be a good and honest person and so if someone were to take a chance on me I would 100% deliver and seriously appreciate it although there’s no way you could 100% know cause I’m just a random dude on the internet but I would hate to get scammed and so if we could figure out a way to make the trade to where both people are safe from getting scammed I’m completely down, I’m extremely desperate
honestly, I’d love to FaceTime you afterwards to thank you face-to-face Annnnnd if you’re down we could squad up and throw down in Warzone :) I’m not crazy good but I can handle myself
TLDR: Bought $100 Amazon gift card to buy Cod Points and just found out that Amazon won’t let me buy them because the balance came from a gift card so now I’m looking to see if anyone will buy my $100 Amazon account for $100-90

Hi all!
My name is Jena! I am female, 30 years old, I am an Aquarius, and I never done something like this before. I have been a gamer for about as long as I could get my hands on a game, however growing up in a family that was not particularly into video games made that fairly difficult. I grew up playing Neopets, Runescape, The Sims, and other old classics on my computer. I didn't get my first gaming console until I was 18. Unfortunately, at 18 I had to try and be an adult and that left little time or money to play and build up a game library, but I started. 12 years later I am out of a controlling relationship (part of what he controlled was my spending habits) and I am still slowly trying to build up my collection of games. I was unfortunately left with all the shared debt between us, so despite working full time, all my money goes to bills and debts for the next few years until I can dig my way out. It means a lot to me to be able to relax and enjoy myself on my days off, and playing games is one of my favorite ways to do that.
About the game V Rising
First of all, if you don't have this game maybe you should get it for yourself. V Rising is described on steam as "Awaken as a Vampire. Hunt for blood in nearby settlements to regain your strength and evade the scorching sun to survive. Raise your castle and thrive in an ever-changing, open world full of mystery. Gain allies online and conquer the land of the living." It is a multiplayer, open world survival, base building game. I am a huge RPG fan and love open world survival games. I have more recently expanded into base building games, and man I wish I had known those were a thing a long time ago. I also love Vampires and a game with all of these elements has me extremely interested in playing, which is how I ended up here. I have actually tried to limit what I know about this game as I very much enjoy immersing myself in the lore and learning the story as I go. I have watched a limited few videos on gameplay but I am always weary of spoilers, so I didn't want to watch anything too in depth.
Thank you so much for learning a bit more about me and V Rising, and if I didn't convince you to gift me V Rising, I hope you will at least consider trying it for yourself, lol. :) Seriously though, thank you for taking the time to read this, and have a fantastic day. <3
[V Rising Link](https://store.steampowered.com/app/1604030/V_Rising/)
[My Steam Page](https://steamcommunity.com/id/crazycatsiste)