I go through phases of wishing I had friends and then in a matter of weeks anything shows why people are awful.
My wife had a toxic friendship group. She fell out with them because her ‘bestfriend’ made me the scapegoat in an issue between them. Thankfully she saw through it and sided with me.
But this guy since the friendship ended has been posting horrible things about us online (my wife blocked him and he blocked me because he thinks he is still correct and dying on his high horse) which her mum can see, he has post pictures of us on instagram and scribbled them out and our mutual friends have told us, he is sending my wife emotionally manipulative emails. That’s fine, we are strong people who are just carrying on with our beautiful married life.
The bit that has enraged me is, my wife’s father sadly passed away a few weeks before we met. It’s still very raw for her, as you can imagine.
when we went to visit where he is resting recently, we noticed that the plot was missing an item the ‘bestfriend’ had placed there and it looked dug up.
Yesterday, my wife got an email off him saying he went to see her dad and asked him to ‘watch over her as he can’t anymore’ and it has completely fucked me off.
I don’t understand how people are like this and genuinely think it is okay to say to someone.
My wife is in bits and I have no support system i can talk about it with. Just needed a vent it. I just want to scream and yell but I know it’s what this narcissist wants and we have agreed to not give it any oxygen but christ alive i am not dealing with this angry well
TLDR; My wife’s ex best-friend has messed with her dead dad’s resting place and it’s fucked me off massively and people are gross and shit

So... I need opinions on how to deal with this in a non confrontational way...
Our familis are quite... Old school in parenting. My husband and I are trying to do better. The other day we were on the phone with my husbands auntie and my daughter (2yo) tripped and hurt herself (not a lot, but enough for her to stop and start crying). Over the phone I hear his auntie say "don't cry. Don't be an ugly child for crying". That took me by surprise and I didn't reply, I was more worried about cuddling my daughter and making sure she was okay.
That said, if those sort of comments happen again, what's the best non confrontational way to deal with them and coach our families that that's quite a cruel thing to say to a baby.
(I have examples on my side as well, with my mom saying "you're a mean baby" because my daughter didn't do something she was asking)
Thank you all!

So after months of feeling shitty and researching loads I've decided to just write what I feel in a day and hope that helps, hoping no one's sees this as it's just to help me makes sense of my awful intusive thoughts. So I have chronic fatigue to the point where some days I can hardly function, which bought on a bought of depression and regular panic attacks. I'm now on sertraline but I feel like it could be making things worse as I just feel numb which is not helping one particular instrube thought I'm getting. The first kinda one that's stuck around and making my life hell is that I'm gonna be like this forever, both the chronic fatigue and depression, which could happen but most likely isn't the case. The one that's causing me the biggest issue is that I don't love my girlfriend when I definetly do. There's a few moving parts to this so might take a while. Firstly me and my girlfriend are long distance so don't get to see her often, I'm struggling the the for mentioned cfs/me and depression so my emotions are not right atm it's fair to say. To go along with this I have a sub theme that id have been better off with a girl from a few years back who I had a crush on, shit happened but didn't work out and then had a rough time being in close contact with her for a year, but got over it or that I'd be better off with my ex from a few years ago who was very toxic and not a good person, and then since those intrusive thougts just those 2 ppl in general are stuck inside my head and it's hella annoying. This all started when I had a panic attack dropping my girlfriend off at the train station so my brain just went this ain't right not the right person which is dumb as I do love my girlfriend. Bouncing off this instruve thoughts is another one I hate, in which I think I fancy random ppl, on the street, ppl I see online or anywhere really including friends, and that I was to imagine them naked and having sex with them which again is just so not true and really distressing and I hate it and only adds to the depression I am facing right now, Hopefully no one will see this it's just a place for me to write down my feelings and terrible instrusive thoughts, I'm gonna do this every few days I think, See you then

Hello guys, I was called into the job centre today and saw the work coach. He had restart on the line and I had a phone interview from there. I’ve been referred as “mandatory” to work with them. I plan on not signing a thing they put in front of me as ive heard nothing but bad and nasty things from them. I don’t want to be applied to every random job so they can get a profit out of my misery. I want to search and help myself. Their having me in for an official interview with them in their office will they push the signing papers there? My questing is: what’s my best approach? I don’t want to work with them but I also don’t want to be sanctioned for not complying with whatever they say or tell me to do, can I be sanctioned for not signing with them? Need some advice thank you in advance

So basically my brother was permanently expelled from my school for incomplete work, not wearing a jacket in winters, and low grades. My brother had a small fight in the school with one kid(my brother was in 8th) who's parents demanded my brother's expulsion too, on the first day of 9th grade, my brother was fasting but was very happy to go to school, but he was stopped at the reception for hours saying "you're not going anywhere till your father comes" my father is a bit old, just turned 60. he went to the school and was told your son cannot attend this school because of his incomplete work and such things. They could have told this to my father on PTM day, but they waited till school reopening as the vacancies in other schools almost ends by then. They very well used this tactic, when my father mentioned this saying "no school can admit him now" the school incharge said "exactly "(this is well recorded conversation) My parents, when went to talk to school administration the second time were stopped from entering the school. We had financial lows in my brothers 8th grade so fees used to be a little late, for that reason my brother wasn't allowed to play sports. the school also bought this topic against him that he does not play anything, but he literally got a certificate when his fees was fine and he played. My brother, thankfully, after trying in almost 30 schools who said vacancy is full, is in a different school now but it absolutely breaks my heart to see such a thing. This school has a long history of PDA, vape possession, gangs running from inside the school, bloodshed, FIRs and police visiting the school...but these children have not recieved any such permanent expulsion. I dont want any other kid to face this. it's disturbing for me to see others having a perfect education there while my brother stayed at home for almost a month and faced mental trauma. I had someone ask a person they knew in education ministry, they simply said that no child is permanently suspended over such things in delhi. Coming to my question, that girl who tweeted and made it to news about SA on metro, idk whom she tagged but I'd need y'alls help! in framing a tweet and whom to tag! Please help this reach higher authorities.

New Players

• There's a ton of great resources out there, but the game has changed a lot, so you really want to make sure you are referencing the latest information on Reddit, YouTube, and Steam that you can find. The YouTube series that helped me learn the most to get started was MaxTheCatfish's "2022 Stellaris Beginner Tutorial" playlist. Despite the year, all the video titles now say 2023, so I imagine they were updated.
  
• For ship design, I referenced Mortu Play's ship design guides on YouTube, all were from 7 months ago and very recent and I noticed a huge improvement when I stopped using auto upgrade and auto generated designs.
  

The Rest Of It (please let me know if there are any achievement-friendly mods that fix these)

• Playing wide and playing late game is really frustrating. Also the computer when set to manage a planet works "well" when given a designation at doing that one thing, but has no idea how to be flexible, even when no more districts of the designation are left. I wouldn't even bother as much with auto designation if the Planets & Sectors window got redesigned to be more compact and allow me to manage, at the very least, several planets' build queues at once (for example).
  
• Why do I have to reference the top resource ribbon when determining how much immediate gain from a tech/perk/trait, etc. will be? It would be nice if there were tooltips or hovers that showed how much of an effect something is going to have besides just saying x% increase or decrease.
  
• The trade mechanic is... lacking in many regards. It doesn't seem very interesting to me (though I haven't tried a mega corporation yet). It seems powerful for the player, but spawning weak little pirates is pretty silly. Learning how trade works was really obscure, as well. Also, PS, why does a single corvette reduce more piracy than a giant battleship? Not that I would encourage that, but yeah just a lot about trade doesn't make sense to me.
  
• My first victory, while I really had a great time getting to it, was a little underwhelming seeing the end-game faction. An ally federation member walked up and cleaned it right as it spawned and then wiped out their units and that was that. I felt like I did nothing (other than create the federation itself). It did not feel like a crisis at all and then I was waiting 100 years of game time to finish to get the score victory.
  
• I like the idea behind the "skull" boss mobs on the map, but as you get closer to power in strength to them, it would be nice if there was some indication you might be ready to fight them. I had fleets at 50-80k+ power which I learned was a bit overkill. I wasted a lot of game time being afraid of something that offered some really interesting tech choices I could have taken advantage of earlier on.
  
• Star bases seem weak to me in many ways. I understand why having the cap is there, but it would be nice if they were revisited to be more interesting, especially in the mid-to-late game. Also, why is recruiting armies so obnoxious? And, in a game with so much depth in every system, why are armies super flat? It would be more interesting to me to design the transport ship and make those than have all the army stuff.
  
• Maybe consider rebalancing some of the really cool techs you can find or flesh them out a lot more. Having amoeboid (sp?) and Leviathan-infused ships sounds like a cool idea. Right now a lot of the techs just sit in my log because I don't think any of them are incredibly useful. I tried to do an Archaeostudies fleet, but I just don't generate enough artifacts to sustain that. Obviously The Rubicon is needed for that and I still think they are probably not that amazing compared to generic options. My assumption is a lot of things are balanced for PvE and PvP, but for us PvP players, just let them customize the game. Let archaestudies or whatever be OP in PvE and give PvP players the option to disable that tech in a game. Just an idea. (Same goes for making espionage interesting/useful).
  
• Lastly, there has to be a better way to handle early game with all the notifications for finding anomalies and whatnot. I love anomalies aside from getting the windows every time they are discovered, which happens a lot. I haven't read even close to half of them because I am just so used to instantly closing them as soon as I get them. That's not fair to your writers at Paradox who actually put a lot of lore and interesting stuff into those events. But it's not their fault that the system is so invasive that it actively discourages actually wanting to engage with them.
  

Anyway, that's more than enough. Back to playing again and learning more :)

Let me give some backstory. My partner and I have been together for the past just over four years. We are extremely close and have been for the duration of our relationship. For the past 6-8 months, things between us have been really rocky. She would get frustrated at things my friends would say - and then expect me to deal with it. An example of this would be watching the Superbowl. She came over and read her book while my 12 other friends were watching the game. I had no problem with this since she was spending time with me and my friends which I greatly appreciated but one my friends asked her, "Why are you here if you're going to read?" This upset her because she didn't like the sport and wanted to read instead (which again is fine by me). However, that same friend would make rude jokes to her that night like, "He (meaning me) should play the field" or something alluding to dating other people. It upset her that I didn't say something immediately to him but I wasn't paying attention to what he was saying and I was focused on cooking for 12 people so I missed it. I was also running in and out of rooms - this was hard because I felt like I couldn't do anything in that situation other than not spend more time with that friend or I should focus on her when I invite my friends over. If the latter is the case, I'd keep them separate but that isn't healthy and I know that.
Then comes our recent threesome. For the past year and half, my girlfriend has wanted to try a threesome. She is bisexual and wanted to bring in another woman into the bedroom. I was hesitant at first, because I didn't want to. I didn't really have any strong desire to see someone else. She kept asking me and eventually I just gave in thinking I might have a good time. I really hoped this could be a good experience for both of us. She found the person and we set up a date to meet. That night, we were all together in bed. I could not perform (get hard) and I was sitting there trying to get in the mood but it just never happened - my girlfriend got eaten out and vice versa. So they had a good time. I thought okay maybe it was first time jitters - I wanted to try it again to have a good experience. It wasn't till we met up again that everything clicked. The third person we met wasn't interested in me and I picked up on that. She wasn't interested in me the first time either, but I just didn't notice as much until this time. I recognized this and asked to leave. Girlfriend was getting eaten out, so I went to the bathroom. When I came back, I said it again - I was very annoyed, she was still getting eaten out. Not only that I asked to leave but that we agreed we wouldn't do things without the other one there (me being in the bathroom). We finally left after much needed urgency on my part. In the car, she was crying about how we left early without any aftercare for the third and here I was just miserable. I couldn't enjoy either experience but she got to enjoy both. This happened almost a month ago. I know I put myself into the situation twice but I'm just so disappointed how each time went. I'm uncomfortable with being sexual with her now. I am also extremely insecure, more now than I have been in years.
One more issue, we have very different opinions on what to do while sick. I come from a family of doctors who do things when we are sick. I trust these people - not only are they my family - but they are also specialists in their field who can tell me what to do to get healthy. My girlfriend on the other hand, does not trust my family with her health. I understand this - in the sense that you want to have your own doctors' take care of you - cool no problem. She believes my family is "bias" when it comes to treatment. My family aren't psychologists so not sure how that really applies with general treatment of illnesses. Nonetheless, we have a differing view of how to get better. She always tells me that it is her body her choice. 100% respect that. When it comes to my own health, I will, at least going forward, put my health first and not see her if she is sick. We don't live together. It's just stressful and anxiety producing. She claims that I come from a place of superiority and when I talk about health stuff and that I always talk with certainty. I agree with her, and I do because I am able to ask my family - who are medical professionals and specialists what to do. They are specialists who know how to handle illness. I am working on improving my communication and how I can better support her.
With all of these issues in our relationship, I have considered ending things with her. is my relationship salvageable? Greatly appreciate any feedback

I really thought my ex and I had love. We met only figuring to be fwbs with eachother. She is married and was allowed to hookup/have a fwb. Told me she fell in love..I was in love and totally smitten myself. Till things felt off, the way she talked to me changed..less frequent. Till she told me her husband was feeling jealous and wanted to close the relationship. It was incredibly painful, but what could I do. Hoped they could figure things out, and I'd always be here should they open again. We both said we still loved eachother.
So here's where it irks me and hurts all over again. Nevermind how, I find she met a new boyfriend in the same month she left me. When she said I'd be the first to contact and get together with.
Anyway I don't know why I'm posting or saying any of this to a bunch of strangers. I just needed to put these thoughts somewhere for my sanity. I thought we had love. In my mind if you love someone you communicate, you work through your issues together... you keep fighting to make it work. I'll never know the true reasons she left. I'm never going to contact and ask. Just trying to move on with the memories and pain of the best time of my life that she gave me.
Forgive me for my rambling..

So I've started working in a restaurant 4 months ago. I love my job but hate most my coworkers.
There's 1 person in particular I want to complain about. Terri. I've yet to meet someone so manipulative and hateful. She tried to set herself up as a mother figure for me at first. She's 60ish and would play sweet and caring to me and another girl my age. She'd offer life advice and compliment us on our school stuff like grades and sports. Then one day I crossed her.
There's a man named Joe who works with us. Joe is not liked by Terri. I honestly think it's because he's a man. Terri warned me about Joe my first day. Told me to watch him and not to get too comfortable with him. She set him up to a creep. Then I meet him and just a chill dude. I decided to get to know him myself.
Joe kinda acts like the class clown I'd say. He'd say almost anything for a laugh. I was to put more toilet paper in the restrooms and as I entered the men's room, Joe was coming out and joked "good thing ya knocked, you almost got bit by an anaconda." Other than myself 3 other people heard the joke. Terri, G (17f), and P (30m). Joe, G, P, and myself laughed. Terri didn't. When I went back to the back of the store I was kinda confronted by Terri. She asked me if I was good. She then asked if I knew what Joe was joking about. I felt awkward and just outright asked her what she was getting at.
She said what Joe did was sexual harassment and I should tell our shift lead. I had to pause and think. I didn't feel harassed. And I considered Joe a friend and didn't want to get him in any trouble. Plus I knew Terri hated Joe and has always plotted on him. So I told her to relax. It wasn't that serious and I wasn't mad, so she shouldn't be. Terri huffed and stormed back to work and worked 5 hours pissed off at everyone.
After work when my mom came to pick me up Terri practically ran outside to my mother's car. Terri told my mom about the perceived harassment and encouraged her to encourage me to tell on Joe. My mom questioned me about what happened and I told her I didn't think what Joe said required me to report him. She said it was my decision and that was it.
But Terri won't drop it. She sees this as a way to finally get rid of Joe. I've asked why she wants him gone and she just says he's immature and doesn't like him. He's never been in trouble for harassment. He's been at the restaurant for over a decade. I'm not trying get him in trouble or ruin his reputation. I don't feel like I got harassed. And, except for some of Terri's cronies, no one else thinks anything wrong happened.

Listening to CBC Radio this morning. Now I'm hearing that Hogan has backed off on threats to Francophone school districts, saying they're now following new provincial policy on pronoun use in schools. The Francophone DECs themselves say they aren't. He's still pursuing Anglophone East School District for doing exactly the same thing.
They've lost it, in my opinion.
* They're trampling on elected local school districts, which is almost always an election loser
* They're blatantly avoiding a constitutional argument on minority education rights by backing off on the Francophone school districts and telling an outright lie to save face.
* They're continuing to push this culture wars nonsense, which I still don't think plays in New Brunswick and has no basis in Canadian law. You cannot legally have rights over another person that supercedes their human rights. Parental rights are not a thing.
Can we get to the fall aready so we can turn the page and get back to our provincial sanity? I am not proud to live as a New Brunswicker under this government and have no respect for these people.
** Edited Post as previous post contained name-calling and that's not helpful **

So when I moved to Ireland I brought over my car, a 2017 Hyundai Tucson, and after looking at local options, decided to register it (I got exemption on paying the VRT since the car was owned by me before coming over) and keep it. It was (and still is) far better specced than local options, for example a brand new Tucson in top spec still doesn't have blind spot monitoring.
Anyway, I'm looking to change my car to a RHD hybrid model, and all the dealers I went to are moaning about the tradein as it is a LHD car and they're lowballing me or straight up saying they've no market for it (which is fair).
All of them bar none have told me to try and sell it privately but I don't know how to go about that. Would private buyers be interested in a low mileage (71k kms) 171 Tucson with all the premium features (177 hp engine, AWD, 19" wheels, self parking, sunroof, LED dipped beams etc.) and a single owner? Is there a place better than DoneDeal to put it up?

I'm not sure how helpful it will be to post here because I think my issue goes far beyond the usual conflicts one might find in a traditional dnd campaign. So before anyone reads this I wants to emphasise that 1. this was my very first dnd campaign and I joined it without any prior knowledge, and 2. this campaign was never intended to be a traditional "we're heroes and trying to save the world while fighting monsters left and right" campaign. I hope this answers any questions along the lines of "Well, why did you create this kind of character in the first place?" and "Why do your characters spend so much time talking about stuff, don't you have some beholders to fight?". I also cannot explain the whole situation without writing a literal 20 page long essay, so I'll try to keep it as short as possible and only give two examples. I'm definitely leaving a lot of details out here, so please let me know if clarifications or futher information is needed.
To preface what this is all about: I was a player in a very roleplay focused campaign and my character basically turned into the problem child of this campaign. I never intended for my character to be the focus, was never interested in him being the focus, but nothing I ever did suceeded in solving the issues at hand and taking the focus away from him. I constantly got accused of "making my character suffer", whereas from my perspective I was constantly trying to keep this character safe from the constant attacks he had to endure. It was like no matter what I did, no matter what I let this character do, it was never right. I think everyone in this group makes an effort to play their characters realistically, I defininitely do. And yet it was never me going "I know exactly what my character has to do to fix this but I'll REFUSE to do it because I don't like it" but me literally having no clue what people wanted from this character. The dm repeatedly said that nothing they tried to fix this character was helping. Whereas from my perspective these things that were supposed to "help" my character were the exact things that my character was struggling with. So it turned into a constant stream of something happening, my character then feeling bad, then everyone focusing on my character feeling bad, then my character trying to fix things, everyone telling him that he's doing it wrong, my character feeling even worse.... and me wondering why my character cannot just exist in peace, why we constantly have to focus on him instead of the "plot". I don't think anyone was interested in constantly discussing my character's mental state, I definitely wasn't interested in doing that, and yet we kept doing it. But I also did not know how to have him react differently to the constant shit getting thrown at him.
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So, basically:
Around three years ago a friend of mine told me about this new dnd campaign they were starting and asked me to join. I've known this friend for half my life but we never lived close to each other, maintaining loose contact over Twitter and me visisting them every two or three years. I had never played dnd before, which they didn't think would be a problem, calling the campaign "very beginner friendly". The whole point behind this campaign was that both this friend (the dm) and two of the players from the main campaign they were playing wanted to play more regularly, so my friend/dm came up with this campaign which was basically a prequel to that main campaign. That main campaign was a more "traditional" dnd campaign with a quest to save the world and regular combat. Meanwhile this new campaign was supposed to be focused on roleplay. There was no overarching plot or quest and the setting was an arcane school and our characters were supposed to be students at said school, just starting their first semester.
When creating our characters the dm asked us to include at least one character in the backstory that was important for our character, and also an objective for our character, something they wanted to achieve. The character I came up with was a young half-elf wizard specialising in abjuration. The gist of his story was that his parents had been arrested and executed for high treason when he was very young and that he grew up rather isolated with his older brother in a place they were not allowed to leave before coming off age. When my character was 14 he woke up one morning to find his brother gone. He had left him only a cryptic letter, hinting at wanting to find out what had really happened to their parents, telling my character that he was sorry and that he would come back. When his brother had not come back after several months, my character too ran away and made his way to Candlekeep, which he had visited many times with his parents (who had been scholars) as a child. He tried to find answers in Candlekeep and spent the following three years hiding in the library before something prompted him to leave and travel to the aforementioned arcane school in order to study there. His objective was to find out why his parents had to die, what happened to his brother, and adjusting to normal life after years of isolation.
Personality wise this character was supposed to be very kind, very gentle, quite naive, honest, and at the beginning of the campaign rather anxious. My assumption was that after growing up in isolation he would need some time to get acclimatised and would be anxious and overwhelmed in the beginning but would loosen up with time and become more self-confident. Some bad stuff happened early on in the campaign and he reacted to it in a rather not healthy way (withdrawing, refusing to eat, but also not talking about what was going on because he didn't want to put the focus on himself). I messed up here, I realised that later. I assumed the other characters would sit him down and ask him what was going on, leading to some kind of cathartic conversation, my character then revealing his past, and him becoming more confident and positive through it, completely resolving this issue. I didn't realise that introducing these kind of psychological issues into the story would be an issue, simply because I wasn't planning on making it a big thing. I thought it would be realistic for him to react this way and I thought it was something that could easily be resolved. Nowadays I would approach this completely differently: if I were to play this character now I would make this whole "accepting his past, becoming more self-confident and open" thing part of his backstory and would start him off as being confident and in tune with his emotions, instead of trying to quickly get through this development at the start of the campaign. So I think I know what I SHOULD have done to prevent this from escalating. What I am trying to figure out is what I could have done to fix it AFTER realising my mistake. Because we spent months and months trying to resolve this issue and never really got anywhere. Despite me trying my best to keep the focus away from my character, despite me trying to turn him into someone more confident and happy, despite me NOT WANTING him to be the focus of the story and doing my best to keep him out of the spotlight.
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Here is an example of the things going on in the story, to which my character reacted badly and me not knowing how else I could have had him react that would not have caused further conflict:
Over the course of the campaign L. figured out what his brother was up to after him and his friends getting intro trouble and a mysterious stranger helping them get out of there and that stranger then revealing himself to be A.'s husband (and therefore my character's brother-in-law). L. had a lenghty discussion with this person and after that I basically viewed L.'s conflict as resolved: he now knew why his brother had left, he knew that it had not been his fault, and he knew that his brother had found someone who loved him and was not alone. L. still hoped to be able to see his brother again to get to say goodbye properly. Because in L.'s mind there was no other possibility but this being a goodbye: his brother had a new life now that he, L., was not part of anymore. And L. accepted that. There was no anger, no resentment, only relief knowing that his brother was not alone, had someone by his side who loved him, and that he still cared about L. and that L. had not - as he had feared - done anything that had caused his brother to not want to be near him anymore. He had finally gotten the closure he had needed, he was feeling okay and I viewed this whole conflict as resolved.
Fast forward a few weeks: A. finally suceeded in doing what he had been working on these past few years and returned to L., just like he had promised in the letter he had left him all that time ago. When talking to him, L. realised that A. was not actually planning on leaving, like L. had assumed. Instead A. told him that he and his husband would stay and look for a new home near L.'s school. L. was very surprised by this but of course he was also happy. He hadn't even considered that his brother would stay. His biggest hope had been that his brother would occasionally send him a letter from whereever he was. Him actually wanting to stay was very unexpected for L. but of course he was very happy about it. They also had some good conversations during that time, which not only brought L. further closure but also revealed connections between several past plot points.
About a week after A.'s return L. went to visit him. He just wanted to spend some time with his brother and also ask him for advice. The semester was coming to an end and everyone was busy preparing for the final exams and L. also still needed to find an internship placement for the summer break. L. wanted to do his internship in Candlekeep but was unsure on how to approach this, who to contact, how to phrase his request, so he thought asking his eloquent and knowledgable brother for advice would be a good idea. This conversation quickly went downhill with A. accusing L. of not respecting the people working at Candlekeep enough to do proper research beforehand and L. ending up feeling like he didn't deserve doing an internship there and ending up feeling even more stressed out about the whole thing than he had already been beforehand. They changed the topic and at some point A. started to jokingly fighting L. and putting him in a headlock. L. had no interest in fighting his brother, even as a joke, and reacted by going limp so he could slip away. A. then asked something along the lines of "So that's how you react in a fight? You just give up?" and L. said "Well, I know you would never intentionally hurt me with no good reason". The next second L. was falling. He was up in the sky, the ground many meters below him, and he was falling. L. immediately deduced that this must be some kind of enchantment and tried to fight it, but neither acknowledging that this wasn't real nor trying to shake it off did anything. He did not know any flying or hovering spells, nothing that would help him stop the fall, and ended up crashing into the ground. The next moment he was in some kind of water pool inside a cave that he struggled to get out of. A. was waiting by the cave entrance and offered L. his hand when he got out. L. refused to take it. A. then left and L. eventually followed, finding himself back in the room they had been in before. Either in the cave or shortly afterwards A. asked L. why he hadn't just used a spell to stop his fall, being surprised by L.'s statement that he had not yet learned an appropriate spell. L. eventually sat down at the table and did some exam preparation. A. made some food and put some in front of L. which L. ignored. Eventually L. looked up and asked A. what his biggest fear was. A. had just put L. through several of his biggest fears - falling, drowning, not being able to trust the ones he loves, and getting his control taken away - so he wanted to know what A. was scared of most. A. the told L. that his biggest fear was someone using his abilities to do something bad. And then he explained to L. that he had come to the conclusion that he would not be able to stay after all. That while he was able to defend himself, L. was not, and anyone wanting to get to A. would have an easy time doing so through L. who was evidently not able to defend himself. L. did not take that well and asked A. why he couldn't just train L. so he would get better at defending himself but A. refused. A. then said he would take a walk and allowed L. to come with him. They walked for several hours without talking, ending up in the middle of a forest where some ancient creature appeared that A. had helped several years ago and that was now nearing the end of its life and had called A. there to say goodbye. A. also explained to L. that he did not actually want to stay. That he - A. - had been naive in thinking that he could just live a normal life and that it had been nothing but a dream and that he simply wasn't made for that kind of life. Some time during that conversation A. also told L. that he was convinced that he would end up in the Nine Hells for the things he had done. They spent the night in the woods and the next morning L. realised that all his things had been stolen by some fey creatures, including his spell book. After searching for several hours they were able to find his spellbook, which had been smeared with insults. A. managed to clean it up and they returned back home and L. was reuinted with the rest of the group. Before L. left A. also gifted him an undestructable spellbook. A few days after these events L. went to the temple and addressed Mystra, telling her how lost he was feeling and how worried he was about his brother. He told her that he wanted nothing more than to protect the ones around him but how he was constantly failing in doing so. And how he just wanted his brother to be safe and how he was worried he would really eventually end up in the Nine Hells and how he didn't think A. deserved that but that he didn't know how to prevent that from happening. The next morning L. found some strange piece of cloth on his face which after some examination was revealed to be an item belonging to Mystra which she had used to hide something in the past. The very condensed explanation of what that item does is that whe attuned to it one cannot be found through any kind of traditional divination magic, making one basically undetectable. The next time L. saw A. he told him about this item and A. was basically like "Oh cool, well in that case we can actually stay here". L.'s reaction was to start crying and A. asked him why he was so upset and why everything was always the end of the world to him.
The way I see this whole situation: I simply wanted L. to spend some time with his brother, hopefully get some advice from him regarding that internship and then going back to the rest of the group. Instead what happened was that A. first called him disrespectful for wanting to do an internship at a place and not having done enough research beforehand. Then taking L.'s statement "you wouldn't hurt me with no good reason" to assault L. Then telling L. that he would not stay after all due to L. apparently not being able to defend himself. Then explaining to him that "actually, I didn't want to stay in the first place", and then a few days later telling him he WILL stay after all. So basically, L. had accepted that his brother would not come back to him for good, he had accepted this and had found closure. Then his brother told him he WOULD stay and L. was of course happy about this surprising turn of events. Then his brother told him that due to L. he CANNOT stay. Then he tells him he doesn't WANT to stay anyway, confirming the exact reasoning behind L.'s initial assumption that A. would not stay. And then after realising the threat was eliminated, decided to stay afterall, despite having it made very clear that he did not actually WANT to stay... and apparently only staying because he thought that's what L. wants, despite L. repeatedly explaining that his priority is for A. to be happy and that he does not want A. to stay if that's not what makes him happy and A. just completely ignoring that? Am I really the only person who thinks that it's understandable why L. is confused and upset in this situation? Plus the constant "What do you mean, you don't know [this one simple thing]?" when L. is already barely able to get a regular long rest in between trying to keep up with school work and all the stuff that's going on at the side, like a literal war for example, and constantly feeling that no matter what he decides it's always wrong and he never has enough time to do the things he is supposed to do, let alone the things he wants to do? Plus him wanting to spend the afternoon with his brother turning into a 36 hour long event and him having to spend half a day looking for his spellbook, only to find it smeared with insults?
Am I being dense for not understanding what the whole point of this was? Trying to make it clear to L. that his brother is a powerful and dangerous person? He was already very aware of that and did not need a reminder. Proving to L. that he shouldn't trust his brother? Why even associate with him in the first place if you don't want him to trust you? Giving him the undestructable spellbook was nice. But was having some fey creatures steal his original one and smear insults all over it and him having to spend hours searching for it really necessary?
Whatever the hell it is the dm was trying to do here, I think a simple, calm conversation between those two would have been a lot more effective.
But maybe it's clearer from the outside, so if someone else understands what happened here, please help me understand.
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Another situation was that due to his struggles early on in the campaign my character was supposed to see the school's healer once a week so she could make sure that he was okay. My character went there once a week, feeling more or less okay when entering her office, and coming out feeling confused and upset after having his mental state analysed and picked apart. Neither did my character enjoy this nor did I think that any of the players (including myself) had any interest in listening to my character discuss his emotions every week. So eventually I had my character write a letter to the headmistress, explaning that he wanted to stop doing these weekly check-ins. Upon being asked why, he explained that these appointments actively made him feel bad and that he would do a lot better if he didn't constantly feel pressured into talking about things he didn't want to talk about. The reaction was that he was told that if he cannot handle simply being asked how he was doing once a week, then he wasn't stable enough to go to school, and consequently got kicked out. Leading to us spending two sessions trying to resolve this and my character eventually being allowed back into the school. ______
The situations I described are the kind of thing that constantly happened to my character.
We had a calendar where we wrote down short descriptions of what happened each day. I once went through this calendar with a friend (who does not play dnd) and it basically went like this: "So that day this traumatic thing happened to L., and the next day this happened, and two days later this happened, then the next day he almost died, then three days later he discovered this, the next day this other thing happened,....", and my friend just went "Holy shit, it's no surprise that this kid is losing his marmbles."
So I keep alternating between "I messed up this whole campaign by creating a problematic character" and the feeling that the dm had it out for specifically my character and it didn't matter what I did, nothing could have solved this.
Some constructive ideas on what I did wrong and what I could have done to fix things would be appreciated. (And yes, we did talk about this in the group. I eventually got tired of talking about it because it never lead anywhere.)

I (19F) and my boyfriend (21M) went to a club together, it has two floors, one floor (downstairs is disco floor, had 70s,80s and 90s music) and the top floor (2000s music). We both get quite drunk, he’s more drunk than I am, he meets these two strangers in the smoking area (1 male and 1 woman, both similar ages to us) he then brings them along to dance with us. The disco floor you can’t bring drinks on. We dance with them for a bit, i say i wanna be upstairs (i prefer the music) he then says he prefers downstairs. So i tell him okay i’ll drink my drink upstairs(as you can’t have it downstairs) and then come get me to go downstairs.
He never comes and gets me. I’m not familiar to the club, been to it once, also don’t know the area as I was visiting his house. He doesn’t check up on me for an hour and a half. I was dancing because i was drunk, but i was also getting hit on a lot and had these older men hitting on me, made me feel uncomfortable so i had to go to these random strangers for help. So i was dancing alone and he doesn’t come get me at any point, i was checking my phone every 10 mins or so to see if he has messaged me. He hasn’t. I go downstairs and try find him with some people i met, i couldn’t find him. And these people that were helping me said i should break up with him as he’s left me alone to be targeted on by men. After it being 2 hours of not seeing him and i was panicking as i don’t know the area and thought he had ditched me, i went outside to call my friend. He then finds me, his story was that he saw me alone and dancing and therefore thought i was fine to be alone as i’ve told him before that i like to be left alone (bare in mind this is when we’re at home and im not feeling very talkative, i want space, not at a club!!) that’s why he thought it was best to leave me. he then told me he was in the men’s bathroom and why didn’t i look for him?! I did but i can’t go in the men’s bathroom. i asked him why he didn’t look for me, he said he thought i was fine, i then explained to him, why did you think it was fine as i get hit on even when im with you, so why do you think it’s a good idea to leave me alone with creepy older men. He didn’t understand this. He then tells me that he has looked after me other times, making excuses on why he didn’t have too tonight. He also said i don’t wanna be asked if im okay all the time (again the context is us being at home and we’re just sat watching the tv, i don’t wanna be told if im okay thousands of times when im not doing anything like watching the tv but i wanna be asked if im okay at a club?!). I told him random strangers looked after me more than you have and i’m not their responsibility. Like they were more concerned than he was. And we go home he keeps going on and on about how of a shit boyfriend he is and saying he’s a failure, making me feel guilty and trying to make him feel better. Even though i think he’s in the wrong. We go to bed in separate rooms, the next day he buys my flowers and says he’s sorry. Should I forgive him or break up with him?
Like I don’t get how he could leave me for 2 hours in a place I don’t know very well, and I genuinely believed he left me, like i thought im going to have to find a hotel or something as i don’t have keys, and his life360 said he’s at home. I don’t know, maybe it was a honest mistake but why was he giving excuses like he saw me and i looked fine like that’s enough to leave me for 2 hours?? and not even a text?? and the fact that he’s looked after me loads of times and that gives him enough reason to leave me alone, like i haven’t had to look after him when he’s really drunk and have managed to get us both home.
I feel guilty every time i express my feelings to him as he just goes on and on about how shit he is, and that he never does anything right and says how shit of a boyfriend he is and then i’m left to forget how i felt and try and make him feel better.
Any Advice please
he also when we’re together, plays on his computer and ignores me and occasionally gets mad when i interrupt him. He doesn’t hear me cause he’s got a head set on, so i ask him to take out one ear, and he only does it slightly and he still struggles to hear me. He then complains that he feels distant from me, even though he’s the one that’s not making any effort to talk to me, he goes on his computer we watch tv, we go to bed etc etc

We've been friends for three years, chatting regularly online. Nya was in a bad place mentally, and I posted on a forum that's about making new friends. Meow seemed to lovebomb me for the first month or so, and then it gradually lessened after that, and now nya will often ghost me for a few days at a time on a pretty regular basis, which is different from when we first met, where we were chatting over Discord all day every day. Nya meowself has a busy work schedule, nya's a software engineer working fourty hours a week sometimes with overtime. Whenever nya finally replies back, nya says meow's sorry for not replying back, and things seem normal. Even on days where nya doesn't have any work, nya will be the same. I'm not sure if nya just isn't interested in talking to me anymore, or if there could be other reasons nya seems way more indifferent than compared to when we first met. Nya's almost like a different person now. I know it's been three ears, but still. I'd appreciate some advice here.
To summarise, I met a lonely person after posting on a forum about making friends. Nya love bombed me at first then it declined graduallyish and now nya seems to be giving me the cold shoulder, and meow's explanation that it's because nya's busy with work doesn't really hold up considering nya is ghosting me even when nya have extended periods of work free days. Not sure if I'm just overthinking things or if I'm being clingy.

while I am not diagnosed with BPD,I feel like alot can relate to it and perhaps even help me with it.
I get so jealous anytime my bsf calls someone else their bsf,though they have said some really sweet things to me none felt genuine and felt like lies so I stop feeling down, they've never called me their bsf.
I know I am not great,I can't comfort people since I always just ignore my emotions,so it's natural to seek help from others,but idk they're always saying amazing stuff about others but I never hear anything about me.
this caused me to have a huge episode yesterday (check my last post for reference) and I honestly kind of want to cut them off,I am putting in effort but it's just not enough I guess,I don't deserve them,they deserve someone better than me and I've known that for awhile,but now that there's someone better,I just feel jealous.
I feel like they never even liked me in the first place,they just put up with me for whatever reason,and we've been friends for over a year.
am I just having an episode and want to cut them off because of that,or am I being genuine.
another problem is I am kind of an affectionate person, but I just supress that cause I don't know how to show affection and even feel uncomfortable with it sometimes, especially when receiving,plus I have no one to give it to.

Are you going to design your home? It’s essential to know how much you should pay for interior design. When it comes to interior design costs, you need to pay attention to everything you want in your home, such as materials, lights, colors, textures, and decor. All these aspects play a significant role in defining the personality of your dreams. In this blog, you will read the determination cost of the interior of your home, which includes 2 BHK and 3 BHK flats interior design with different project sizes.
A sophisticated home is simply designed with smart technology and patterns, but what if I say interior design can change the complete look of a simple 2 BHK home with smart innovation and excellence? Budget plays a major role in designing and creating a 2 BHK interior design home, which is based on the client’s taste and the material they want to invest in.

Factors Influencing 2 BHK Interior Designs:

Before designing any space, a few factors should be analyzed, which helps the designer learn more about it. Here, HSAA- the best interior designers in Delhi guide you in describing some of the factors that are preferable for designing a 2 BHK interior design and their costs.

• Size — The first important factor is size; the larger the space, the higher the price of interior design. The interior designer will give you an estimated cost for designing 2-bedroom apartments. Example- If the size of the room is 700 sq ft, it does not cost much for interior design but on the other side, if the room is about 1200 sq ft, the project price will be costlier.
• Property Evaluation- The evaluation of property is crucial in interior design. The designer suspects every tiny space in a 2 BHK household with each detail.
• Materials — Every property owner wants to have the best quality materials in their home. Of course, the premium can be costly, but they provide long-lasting value and make the home more meaningful.
• Renovation- In some cases, you will need to renovate the home instead of designing a new house; for this, you will hire an interior designer. For example, if you need to upgrade the plumbing systems or mold the electrical projects in your 2 BHK household, then there will be an average cost of renovating. If you included the cost of both renovation and interior designing, you would have a higher budget.

Estimation Cost Of Interior Design

As an interior designer, every part of the space is first analyzed, and then the cost is estimated. However, it’s a long-lasting process involving each detail of design and creation in every possible aspect. The cost includes the labor cost, material cost, and much more which is highly mentioned in the interior design prospectus. Furthermore, there are different sizes of apartments; the minimum can be around 600 sqft, and the maximum can be up to 1000 sqft. But the interior design firm in Delhi says estimations can vary from a simple interior design to a high-class interior design, depending on which kind of materials they want to have in their household.

Let’s dive into the price value of interior design :

• Cost of 2 BHK interior design:

The cost of a 2 BHK flat for interior design will be approximately in the range of 3.5 lakhs to 7 lakhs for simple yet basic quality, and a premium design household can cost between 7 lakhs to 10 lakh. It all depends on the size of the home, the type of decor, the kind of materials, and more. The price of the interior will rise based on the style and formation.

• Cost of 3 BHK interior design:

The design cost of a 3 BHK flat interior design varies depending on the material, design, laminates, and finishes of the project. The price value can be between 7 lakh to 12 lakh for the primary quality, but if you are looking for premium and luxury quality, then it would cost up to 15 lakhs, including everything.
Furniture Cost: 2 BHK, 3 BHK flats interior design
No matter how great the interior design and decor are, they can’t replace the vibe of furniture. Furniture is the most important element for interior renovation and design, and it can be used in a wide range of spaces, such as the living room, drawing room, study room, lobby, and other working spaces.
Explore the premium-quality furniture at HSSA~ the interior design studio in Delhi, which will enhance your home’s beauty and elegance. Choosing the right furniture can provide the aesthetics and functionality that directly influence interior design. When choosing furniture with HSAA, you will not only get good designs but also a budget-friendly range that should be taken into consideration. Plus, our prices are so affordable that they can easily accommodate every household, whether it’s small, medium, or high.

Modular kitchen cost for 2 BHK and 3 BHK interior design

The kitchen is the heart of the home, the place where we create the most priceless memories by cooking meals with our family and friends. The functional kitchen has taken the place of the basic kitchen. By this time, the demand for modular kitchens is increasing day by day in Indian households. At HSAA~ the kitchen renovation service in Delhi, offers you a cost-effective and stylish modular kitchen based on the 2 BHK and 3 BHK flats and apartments, including several elements such as woodwork, countertops, hob, sink, etc.
Modular kitchens not only make your kitchens elegant and beautiful but also provide maximum storage and transform boring display spaces into aesthetic spaces; however, every great thing comes with a price tag, and this puts a stop to dreaming of our dream kitchen interiors. So, at HSAA, the home interior design company, we brought you the complete breakdown of the cost of the modular kitchen interior in a nominal expected budget to build a superior dream kitchen in your home.

The factors influencing the cost of kitchen interiors

• Size of the kitchen: The cost of the kitchen depends on its size. The larger the space, the more modules will be required, and vice versa.
• Kitchen Layout: The layout depends on how you want your kitchen to be molded; for example, a kitchen with simple shutter units will cost less than a kitchen with smart technology, and other features like stylish corners for deep storage will have a high value.
• Materials and finishes: The kitchen designed with materials like laminates is reasonably less expensive than acrylic or lacquered glass cabinets.
• Extra Elements: The extra features and elements, including gadgets, accessories, and lighting, will add up the cost.

Living Bedroom aesthetics cost: 2BHK and 3BHK home interior design.

The living bedroom is considered an elegant corner of the house that captures different styles, textures, and color schemes. A living room is defined as unique and different from others by comparing it to other rooms in a home. Besides this, the living room is decorated with paintings, ornaments, accessories, and other items that set the mood of the house and reflect the personality of the room.
In addition, vintage and stylish living bedrooms have taken their place. Here at HSAA, you can explore the unique collections of living bedrooms according to your customized taste. Whether you are looking for minimalist, bohemian, contemporary, luxurious, or many more styles, you can easily pick from the trending designs that come in a budget-friendly range. We have a one-stop solution for all the bedroom interior design for 2 BHK and 3 BHK households.

The factors influencing the cost of Bedroom interiors:

As we talked about 2 BHK and 3 BHK, you need to calculate according to the cost of 2 bedrooms and 3 bedrooms.

• Bed frames: Bed frames play a crucial role in furnishing the bedroom. The price of the bed frame depends on whether you opt for a king-size or a queen-size bed frame. However, contemporary metal bed frames match almost any home interior, giving a classy and elegant look. But if you are looking for bed frames with high storage facilities, you can choose wooden ones, which come in an economical range. Other than that, the cost can be varied depending on the size and material.
• Nightstand: Install a nightstand near your bed and outlet that offers both functionality and aesthetics. This furniture piece enhances the overall look and provides comfort and convenience in the bedroom. The price range depends upon the materials and finishes.
• Wardrobe: A wardrobe not only adds functional value to the bedroom but also provides an aesthetic vibe to the corner. The cost of the wardrobe and cupboards depends on the types of styles you choose, such as sliding, hinged, loft, corner, glass, and more. Explore the exclusive and premium collection of wardrobes at HSSA~interior design firm in Delhi at a reasonable price.
• Mattress: Last but not least, the quality of the mattress is very important; the size, the brand, and the material are very effective in enhancing the living bedroom interior.

CONCLUSION

Even if you have a low budget, hiring a great interior designer is a must, and HSAA is always ready to help you and guide you through the full design and creation of your home. Our team has 35+ years of experience and lots of industry contacts to complete your home interior design work, including top-notch materials, laminates, and furnishings within your specified budget. Get in touch with us today!

Had been talking to a guy I really liked at my new job and he asked me out. Went on a few dates, things were going super well but also got a bit physical kind of fast. We had planned for him to stay over and he messaged me saying he wanted to make sure neither of us had expectations of this because he likes me but is not ready for a relationship now. He wasn't mean about it and I can appreciate his honesty there but that hurt. He went on to say he does like me and maybe a relationship some day but not now, he's been hurt a lot.
I felt kind of used by this and really depressed and told him not to bother coming over there is no point because I actually really like him. I'm in a new city, don't really know anyone besides him and one friend I did make already moved away. I also got the news just prior to this happening that my estranged dad passed away. I hadn't told the guy about this but it felt like a lot of crushing things happening at once.
While talking to him I ended up getting pretty drunk and kind of going off on him. While I was really upset at him I think a lot of it was misdirected sadness and anger. I can't even remember some of what was said. This was one whole week ago and we haven't spoken since. I feel kind of terrible and work is awkward. I still like him quite a lot and feel bad that it went down like that.

I see a lot of people saying what she needs is to be deported because that’s the only thing that would “be a wake up call” at this point, but if she could deported I could see things getting much worse. She’s constantly trying to connect with her mother via messages and doing outrageous things to get her mothers attention, if she went back to her home country it wouldn’t be surprising if she went to live with her mom because Venus felt that it was her only option or simply because abused people often go back to their abusers (sad but true.)
I think contact with her mother would increase if she went home which would make her alcoholism much worse, even if that contact “small” like more regular phone calls or occasional visits.
Even with her mother out of the picture, having 0 contact with her, her going home wouldn’t stop her from drinking, alcohol is readily available in her home country and being deported would probably trigger a depressive episode that would end in binge drinking to try to deal with the emotions of being home again.
Just my thoughts. I don’t think there is anything that would be a “wake up” call to her expect possibly drinking till the point where doctors say she’s dying.