Good vs evil sayings

TL;DR: No poo used to work for a year perfectly fine but I stopped, 2 years passed and now I am trying again. It's been 7-8 months and it's not working. But shampoo makes me brittle. Suggest something that would be inbetween complete no poo and shampoo? Would sulfate free shampoo be something that wouldn't fuck up the balance of the natural oils too much?
I don't know what happened because I did nopoo two years ago until I dyed it and got stuck on the shampooing cycle again until last fall when I started again. During the first time it looked smooth and healthy. The only things that changed were 1. I started with a buzzcut of like 4mm vs this time I shaved my head to almost 2 inches. And 2. The source of the water is different as I moved cities since (water hardness?).
My hair texture is straight, typical white european hair, but holds all kinds of shapes if it dries in an odd position. I have always hated the frizz, it makes it look dead since it's straight and gets thinner at the ends, if it is long. If it was wavy and thick all the way, I wouldn't mind a frizz.
But anyway I don't want to do no-poo anymore. Maybe a very close buzzcut again could be a worth a shot some day with the combination of no poo but I am sick of growing it out, it looks awkward and in any case I want long hair down to my back I don't want to keep it short. So for now I would rather change the way I wash it. No poo hair also feels kinda greasy and waxy even when it doesn't look like it, I don't like it much...
I don't want to use shampoos either, nor conditoners really. Everytime I use conditioner with shampoo my hair would get oilier faster than with just shampoo or no poo. Something about shampoo kills my hair. It's embarrassing to shed like crazy after a shower.
What would you say is between nopoo and shampoo? Sulfate free shampoo? I tried it on another attempt of no poo with long hair, it was alright, much better than nothing at all two weeks into nopoo. I get migraines from dry shampoos and I would rather not put egg yolk in my hair, if yall say it works I trust you but I hate the smell and texture, I can't.

I absolutely love Last Order.
But everything about her character SHOULD be unlikeable and annoying
She is:

• An overly loud child character (Something like Index or Asta in the beginning of Black Clover)
• Does not contribute or have any agency to the plot outside of being a morality chain to accelerator
• Gets Kidnapped or is in the way a bunch of times (Ashley from RE4)
• She is somewhat like Index which this subreddit isn't so fond of

And a bunch of other stuff that I can't think of.
But she is adored and is what I consider a good side character.
So what about her character would you say that makes it work despite so much going against it

My girlfriends family tend to meet up twice a year for a catch up. They'll book out a part of a pub nearby and we'll go for a drink and a meal and catch up and mingle. It's quite an informal event. Earlier in the year I was in hospital for just under a month. I'm okay now and still receiving treatment but I'm otherwise healthy and well.
My girlfriend and her parents know what was wrong with me and visited me but the rest of the family didn't know what was wrong. They asked if I was okay when I was in hospital and said they hope I'm better soon etc which I found nice.
Last weekend was her family's get together and since I was feeling up for it, I went with my gf. Once there a few of her family members said it was good to see me and that they're glad I was well etc, a couple of them bought me a drink and things were going well. My gfs uncle then comes over and asks how things are. He then asks what I was in hospital for and I tell him I'd rather not talk about it but that I'm alright now.
We start talking about something else and then he asks again what was wrong. I remind him I don't want to talk about it. I ask him about his work and he talk about that for a while then says that it must have been serious since I was in for a while. I just told him if he mentions my time in the hospital again then the conversation is over since I've told him repeatedly I'm not talking about it.
He keeps going so I tell him I'm done and walk off and get a drink at the bar and re-join my gf. After the evening my gfs mum mentions that my gfs uncle wants an apology and said I was rude to him. I explained what happened but my gf said it would just be easier to apologise to him. I refused and pointed out he was the one being rude and he's the one who should be apologising to me.
My gf said I was being awkward for no reason and should just apologise but I refused.
AIW for "being rude" to my girlfriends family?

As the title says
I consider myself good at IT but only in the aspect that I’ve built my own PC and fixed stuff for myself and help people with technical problems at work at my current job (marketing). I’m considering making the move to IT as I’ve always enjoyed working with computers and I’m not enjoying marketing right now, so I’m just wondering how realistic would it be for me to get a job by doing certifications in my free time and not having to go through an apprenticeship.

Hi, I know this is mostly for couple relationships. But I don't know where else to post this. I can't post in aith as mostly foreigners are there
I'm 29M. I have some trouble in my family would be a major understatement. The situation is so worse that I can't explain to anyone in my real life. Situation became so dire, I left my house and staying away and my parents calling me failure and abandoner. Its a toxic household. My brother hits my parents and I end up leaving the house while my parents defend him.
3 weeks back my brother hit my father, my father started crying profusely and started to scream and saying he'll call police. I asked my brother to leave. He does but comes back and starts acting lunatically, saying he's ready to go to Jail and loose his job but he'll expose my father for what he is. They had an argument coz he's not marrying and he has a girlfriend from work living not less 200 m away in a separate society. Which has come to our house and met my parents as well. My father had a agreement with him to get married by March this year. But such a manipulator and liar he is that was another one of his delaying tactics. Or maybe he said one two many lies and this caught up to him. When my father out of anger said to him to leave the house, he shamelessly said he won't he also contributed to it. The reason behind his fearlessness was my mother as she supported it. She actually supported him hitting him and later tried to justified by saying it was a minor hit and it didn't break his bone or something.
My brother has a history, he broke my mother's hand when I was in school and he was in college first year. He wanted to stay in hostel and my parents didn't let him. I come back from tuition and witness that. Looking back at it, this fueled his shamelessness and fearlessness as all the relatives knew this and it didn't bother him later on.
My family quite disfunctional since very beginning. We have lived in major cities for most part, my father was working in government service and got transferred a lot. My elder brother (4 years elder) and I work both in metro city and lived with my family here. Father retired last year. Mother a housewife.
Now here's the issue part. My father has been a wifebeater and sole earner. Him and my mother had issues since beginning. And they generally didn't have any understanding is what I saw. Trust was less as well. Mother used to bitch about him which my elder brother took quite well and to certain extent me too, but I started to see through it few times and ramblings of a frustrated woman as my father used to like being reveled by relatives so she feared him being more involved there.
One other side of this also the relationship of my mother and elder brother, they both grew some sort of symbiotic relationship where they each were masking each other's shortcomings by excuses and became each other's support system.
So that was in past then as we grew up our father also matured a bit in past few years but not a lot.
Now, so far it seems like every other family's trouble. Here's the main issue, I started observing certain things since past few years which made me really irked and start to distrust my family.
I don't trust my elder brother since few years 6-7 to be precise. And he has a history of beating me as well. Something in him makes me tick. Like he's trying to treat us like he treats outsiders, for profit of his own. I don't consider him my elder brother either. While my parents always try to shame me by saying I hit him as he is my elder brother, while they themselves flaunt society's rules as they like.
Last few years, I saw some issues with myself and loneliness, one time parents asked me and my brother to come to my father's posted place as he was getting retired and help shift. When I reached I'm told they have planned(my brother and them) a trip and invited me. I hadn't taken any leaves and this was extreme short notice so I couldn't get leaves. They just thought it would be very easy for me to get it. Like I was really pissed. I stayed there alone for 1 week while taking care of their stuff.
When they came back I broke down, and cried and told about my struggles with depression, my mother at that time cried. I suggested them to start searching for a bride for me. Before all this, some stuff was already happening with regards to my brother's marriage since that past year and I wasn't on speaking terms with my brother. But I saw them berating him by saying if he doesn't get married, it will be issue for me. So I tried to calm them separately by telling them to start searching for me if he's not cooperating. Mind you I was settled financially and of age, only thing stopping them was my brother was unmarried then. I thought I had managed to make a breakthrough, and could get some support with my issues but no.
My brother had a girlfriend whom I had met and had visited my house met my parents. She ditched him for reasons only he knows and from then onwards I only saw his hippocrit facade like the way he manipulated lied to my parents about meeting with prospects and finding excuses to not get married. He wasn't interested, just kept delaying and this kept frustrating my parents. He also blamed his failed relationship on my father as he said something angrily along the lines of him hitting his girlfriend when he was angry as he witnessed his father do that all his life.
This caused fights too, sometime I got involved as well. Like he threw food plate at my mother and I intervened. I had to say some harsh stuff and fight ensued. Physical too. This has been an recurring phenomenon.
My parents are no saint either. My father last year beat my mother at age of 60 no less. Like I said very disfunctional family.
After my heart to heart with my parents, they completely forgot about it. They say they didn't but they did. They never mentioned one girl, didn't even make JS/Shaadi profile for me. Look the issue is not that marriage was biggest priority for me. But that it wasn't even a priority for them when I specifically said about it.
Now another tragedy happened. I got laid off. I didn't utter a word. Then in between 6 months later from that talk they stuck me with the most shameless question ever asked by them. They tell me they had it enough with my brother's bullshit and wanted to search for me. I was almost about to lose it. But at that point I was at very low coz of my job situation and was seriously doubting my luck. Still am. Been doubting since Covid. I made up some excuse to make them lose interest in it.
Then some months later in another fight I brought it up and gave them an earful.
During all this I tried leaving my house twice for good. One time I actually rented a place. One time I gave an ultimatum that he leaves or I leave but my parents somehow convinced me to stay. Toxicity was through the roof. Parents fighting often, quite on the edge of physicality, my mother doesn't hold bapck a bit if we are around. My father is I feel is semi bipolar always on ego trip. And my brother a lying manipulator angling for his gains.
This time I couldn't hold back and decided to leavd I won't come back at all. I offered to take my father too. I declared my mother's case hopeless as the way she behaved after my brother hit my father and proudly berated him shamelessly like she felt someone took revenge of all those years of beatings and shame she got. While I held my head in shame by looking at what was unfolding. I couldn't hold back and abused them for their behavior. These shameless people started coming at me.
I was irked at the fact that my brother had his girlfriend living in the neighborhood and she used to come and visit and my folks weren't least bit bothered as they thought these guys were getting married. When in fact my folks had not even talked with her parents. Only with her elder sister who was doing a love marriage inter caste after threatening to take poison. So my mother was like believe in love an all that crap and talk about social and family values too. I am not conservative I met his first girlfriend before anyone else in family. But this was too much, if you are such big into love and family values and keeping appearance in society then marry and end it. Apparently the girl wanted to marry only after elder sister marries, so society rules exist for her but not for my family.
All this combined I stated my discomfort shared an ultimatum that he should leave and stay separately till his matter is resolved. My mother and brother came at me. They called me failure and said I was jealous of him cause of my failures to secure a person in my life. So I realised my mother was with him
I know this is too much but coz of this I left and this time I thought I was leaving with my father's blessings, but I was wrong that was just momentary coz of his anger after getting beaten by my brother.
I have been living away now for few weeks just few km away. So that I can go back if required but now the tune of my parents have changed completely. They are calling me deserter coz I left house. How can I live in that toxic family household ? And a lot of other things, as I can't help but scream at their shamelessness.
I wish old age days come back coz then you could call few relatives to sort things out. Or atleast discuss who's wrong, here they justify their doings as everyone is doing it in society, everyone fights, everyone's a little shameless so its fine. While I can't just become ostrich and deal with things when it strictly affects me. My brother's actions deeply affected me. I was depressed and had to deal with it alone, coz my parents were too busy with his bullshit and then I saw their real self. Lots of stuff I haven't mentioned here. Like how my own father defended him getting beaten as his own fruits of his deeds to defend my brother. That broke the straw for me and made me realise he was the favorite son for both of them. No amount of his shameful deeds can change it. And they will bend backwards to justify it.
Worst part is which I can't shake off, I called them selfish, shameless, mental and stupid fools who got cheated by their own son. They are equating it with my brother's beatings. Saying I'm equally as deplorable as him, as its equal as beating. In which world ?
Am I the asshole ? Should I continue on my path. Discussions and talks with my parents result in screamings as I need a neutral party as they changed the rules of civil society to fit their narrative as society has changed so its fine as everyone does it. I told them if they can find even one person their age group who thinks I'm wrong I'll come back and apologise. They told me they have no interest in getting laughed at and this happens everywhere. And I am equally guilty for abusing them. I can't take it any more. Is staying in family means becoming like then ? Is that the rule ?
My family is saying to come back and stay there and my brother will leave after getting married, saying I'm equally guilty in this as I also said harsh stuff. How is happening in this shitty world ?
TLDR: Left toxic family where brother hits father. Has history of hitting me and mother too. Parents fight too physically and defend him and his actions. And asking me to stay in that environment.

TLDR: I've been seeing this guy for 3.5 months. I said something offensive and now I'm considering to leave him because I think he'd be better off without me.
Long version
Let me tell you a bit about myself first. I'm 26F, senior at college. I've been in a long relationship that ended last year. We lived together pretty much the entire time. But I was mentally checked out for the last year or two. When we finally broke up and he left the apartment, I didn't want a relationship for a long time. I was ok flirting a bit here and there, but in the end I didn't want anything serious. Fast forward to February 2024. Finals were over, my friends went back to their hometowns to visit their families. I had to stay in town for a bit longer for some paperwork. I've been all alone almost for a couple weeks. So I posted on a reddit sub, looking for a friend to get a cup of coffee and chat.
I met with someone who reached out. He's 4 years younger than me, but studying a similar subject. He's kind, funny, educated himself in so many areas. He's not "omg look at that hottie" kind but more like "wow, he's kinda got a charm" kinda looking guy, to me at least. I didn't think or want anything other than friendship when we met up. We had the best time ever. We parted and next morning he immediately hit me up with a date request. I was shocked and panicked. I told him I wasn't looking for a relationship and he said "it's okay, I just want to get to know you"
We went on the date, it was kinda awkward since I hadn't been on a date for literally years lol but I guess it was alright. We went to see a play and had dinner after. After that night he told me he liked me. I said it's too soon. He gave me some space since he was gonna be out of town for a couple weeks, but we kept texting. The day he got back, he immediately asked to meet up for a coffee. I accepted since I didn't have anything else to do. He's easy to talk to and he can lead the conversation pretty smoothly. He's definitely charming, I'm never bored with him. We laugh and talk. We spent a month like that and we finally became closer, not really a couple but just close. Right before I left, we became intimate and it wasn't really what I expected... But I didn't lose attraction to him, we both weren't very experienced anyway. We finally cuddled and I fell asleep for a minute, then I woke up to the sound from the movie. He was whispering to me that he loves me and I'm so beautiful, thinking I'm still sleeping. I pretended to be asleep because I didn't want to say I love him too. It was too soon for me.
I thought we would lose contact when I left town but we kept talking and we became even much closer. He keeps me informed like where he is, who he is with, stuff like that etc like we're a couple. I wasn't quite ready to be there yet. I let him know that I want to spend more time together and make sure how I feel but I told him that I liked him and cared about him. He was okay with waiting. We spent weeks like this, kinda like LDR. He's always kind and funny and charming. I have my doubts time to time since he's a bit younger and sometimes he can be a little childish as well but not in an annoying way.
Fast forward to last night, we were on the phone and we were talking about something and laughing. Then I reminded him a conversation we had and that I sent him a youtube video, and said "it was like I was making a child watch a video to keep them busy", we have an inside running joke that he's a child because he's younger than me. It's definitely a joke, he calls me milf if you wanna know. We both have inside jokes like that.
But he was really offended by it and giving me the cold shoulder since. He was really calm and sad the whole conversation. It broke my heart that knowing I hurt him. He's a good person and I don't think he deserves this. I didn't even think it was a big deal until he said it was heartbreaking that I even thought of this, let alone saying it.
So my question is, even though it's not an established relationship, should I leave him and let him be happier with someone who won't hurt him?
This man absolutely adored and worshipped me and made me feel like I was important. Ofc there were times I didn't feel like it but it was still better than anything I had. And I can't believe I hurt him for something so stupid.
Tell me what to do reddit?

After 250 rounds though my gen 5 Glock 19, I would say the performance trigger is a definite improvement over the stock trigger. But is it worth the money, it is in my opinion. Very easy to install. The new trigger has none of the squishy ness the old trigger had. Has a nice clean break and good reset. I would recommend if you are looking to upgrade your trigger but want to “keep it stock”

This is a throw away account to avoid any identification for sensitive questions regarding going to therapy.
My SO has a diagnosis of bipolar 2. It has been well over a decade since the diagnosis. They are finally willing to go to therapy and be honest after the latest manic episode of bad behavior.
I have looked, search and read so much about bipolar 2 over the years. I see a lot of articles about being supportive and things to not say but I cannot find anything specific about talking with the persons therapist about behaviors or concerns.
They have allowed me to be part of the therapy process. I have read it is good to be supportive and involved with doctors and therapists. In the past, they have tried therapy before but never went to actually deal with any issues. They always approached therapy as 'I'm ok, everything is good' then quitting therapy.
I worry that any little thing will make them back out of therapy if I am not careful.
How do I address issues I believe they need to address with the their therapist? Impulse control, manipulation, lying, being secretive, grieving, guilt and behaviors that I see happening before and leading up to an incoming episode. I understand that it's crazy to think in one go to do a complete dump of all this information on a first or 2nd visit. So I am talking about letting them know things I think need to eventually get addressed as their comfort level grows.
How do I address the therapist without sounding like I am complaining?
For instance, a big issue is impulse control during an episode. Or what I see that they are doing that I notice triggers them. Them having a hard time with grief/death in general. The guilt of past actions and self loathing and negative talk.
I want to be supportive and not come off as overbearing. I have a lot of hurt to get through myself but I feel comfortable with therapy and have no issues sharing and trusting a therapist for myself.

I've been thinking of going Blueprint for a little while now. I've been comparing prices to my food and supplement stack now vs on Blueprint protocol and there are some things I've noticed.
NR: Before he took it 750mg 6/week, but now it's everyday. 300mg his Blueprint Essentials and 450mg NR or 500mg NMN w/dinner. It doesn't specify what band in the new stack but I could assume it's True Niagen for NR and Jinfiniti for NMN as that's what he used in his old stack. I think 750mg/day is too high.
NAC: First off, at what age should one start taking NAC? Dr. Brad Stanfield states that there is no need to take it before at around 45 years of age. And Bryan takes very high does. There are 1200mg in his Blueprint NAC + Ginger + Curcumin supplement. But he also takes an additional 1800mg from LE at dinner time. Is this too much, at least for a M31 like me?
Garlic: He also supplements with two types of garlic. 100mg of orderless garlic in his Blueprint Red Yeast Rice + odor free garlic and also 1,2g of aged garlic from Kyolic. There is also fresh garlic in his super veggie. So 3 types of garlic on the daily, why? Do they have different properties?
Magnesium: I'm glad to see there is added magnesium to the new stack, but why citrate? Why not L-Threonate? Too expensive? Glad to see he changed Zinc citrate to Bisglycinate though.
Collagen peptides: He uses a superb brand of collagen peptides with Fortigel®, Fortibone® and Verisol®. But idk if there is a typo or not. He uses it in his normal daily dose in the morning, but now it says that he also adds it to Nutty pudding, so two doeses each day? I though he normally just added pea protein to his Nutty pudding along with Nutty mix and EVOO.
Cocoa: Is says he uses 6g/day of his Cocoa powder. And on the product site it says Mix one scoop with (nut) milk, coffee, or Nutty Butter. Where does this come into his protocol? Super veggie uses chocolate and not cocoa powder, nutty pudding already has cocoa added. So how does he consume these 6 daily grams?
Pea protein: 29g/day it says. The Nutty pudding product already contains pea protein but if you make it yourself you are supposed to add 30-60 grams. So in his new stack he adds 29g pea protein alongside 12,5g collagen peptides to his Nutty pudding?
Iron: He uses Proferrin for his iron supplement. I was thinking of eating Super veggie, Nutty putting and taking the supplements. But also add 2 more meals each day that most likely would contain meat. Iron supplement shouldn't really be necessary then should it?
I've been using Möller's Tran for ages (Cod liver oil), it's the same Norwegian brand that also produces Carlson's omega-3 products. But with Vit D and E already in Blueprint Essentials I feel like it's overkill to still use Cold liver oil that also contains these vitamines.
Do you follow Bryan's protocol? What have you changed and adjusted? Feel any different? Happy with the results and the cost?

Say a friend is repairing his car and needs a particular tool. Let's called it A (yes I'm that good at English when it comes to cars) and he wants me to go fetch it but I don't find it so I give him something else that resembles it. Should he say as I hand it to him:
-Ok will do
OR
-Ok will do it
To mean it will do the trick.
Thanks!

Bear with me as I describe what amounts to an almost religious experience after finishing the game for the first time. SPOILERS and nigh-rambling. But I just have to share. I hope you'll stay a while a listen. :)
I tried playing Cyberpunk a couple months ago. Corpo Male, strong roleplaying. When the Johnny Silverhand stuff started, I got really frustrated and quit. I didn't like how the game saw fit to ramrod me into this extremely narrow story when I thought the experience was going to be more open than that. I wanted to play a character who tried to rise to the top of Night City's corporate world through double-dealing and backstabbery...and now all the sudden my character is dying and has this voice in his head.
I was not going to be able to tell the story I wanted to tell.
It was that ludonarrative dissonance thing, like in the Witcher 3, I always struggled to justify doing too many side missions, given that Geralt (as I was playing him) was very concerned about finding Ciri, so there just didn't seem to be time to get embroiled in all these other adventures.
But then I saw this randomly come across my YouTube feed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0gR_C0Pd1k&ab_channel=JekavacTV
Dude. I don't care how linear your story is...that's incredible. And dark.
I've been on hard times lately. While I was never serious about unaliving myself, it was a thought that bounced around in my head here and there at my lowest moments...and this clip just...it hit me. I always believed that self-deletion was deeply wrong, if only because of the harm it did to others who loved you. Whatever was on the table, that solution could never be entertained seriously. I just couldn't do it to my loved ones.
But I've also been struggling with who I am, who I'm supposed to be, what my purpose is. LOL big club I know.
But that video convinced me to give 2077 another try. If an ending could be that hardcore and meaningful...there must be something worthwhile in this game. So I rolled a Nomad Male, and began my love affair with this game. I didn't try to concoct a character so much as just try to play V as myself. I really related to his leaving the Bakkers, and going it alone. Also I moved around a lot as a kid, and my Dad was a hippie biker in his heyday, and a mechanic. So it felt true to form.
And then when you meet Jackie...I mean c'mon, who's more loveable than Jackie?
I really started to get into the game then. And it finally started to dawn on me what the game's story is trying to communicate.
I figured 2077 would devolve into a lot of cynicism, and exploit the violence and sex for cheap thrills. Or maybe it would lean on shock value and become doomeblackpill fodder. But CDPR ain't no slouches. Night City is an exaggerated snapshot of where we are now. And V's predicament is one many of us are facing: we want to make our mark on the world, but is it worth it to step on everyone along the way? Even if we're trying not to die? Or worse, just be erased. Many of us struggle with a voice in our head telling us we're fuckups. We're pussies. We're slaves. We're not worth the trouble.
At first I took Silverhand for an antagonist, essentially. A nasty SOB I had to keep at bay, given that my V was a mostly good guy who just wanted a family again. Especially after Jackie died...man his wake, and helping Misty sort through his things? That got to me.
And of course there's that lingering fear that, no matter how much Silverhand may begin to charm you or appear like he's on your side - he's going to take over. V is actually warned that eventually, Silverhand will just make a play to do just that.
So I was careful with him, but I wanted to know more, because he was such an intriguing character, and its easily one of Reeves' best performances. Period. So I invested in his conversations and eventually his sidequests. I also did what I could to help others in Night City who helped me. I was dying, so...it felt like a good time to be generous. Even if sometimes I had to off a bunch of gangoons with a shotgun. XD
Then as the story developed, I began to see that Silverhand wasn't quite the legend everyone thought. He was a man who had sorely, sorely screwed his life up - as well as the lives of many others. He even seemed to regret it.
I even told Silverhand I'd take a bullet for him, after receiving his dog tags. I never expected that kind of a scene between those two.
It became clear that Silverhand was a ghost, stuck between life and death, looking for absolution, trying to do something right for once. And V could help. So I did. We found Alt Cunningham. We took Rogue on a date. We got Samurai together for one last gig. We tried to track Adam Smasher down. I was putting trust in Johnny, and it was clear that he wasn't really wanting to kill V after all. But he had no choice.
I also met Panam, fell in love, and became a de-facto Aldecaldo. Was never sure about Saul, but Mitch and the others were just salt of the earth man. Great little storyline.
I helped Judy, all the way until she finally left Night City, and was glad of it. I do wish she was romanceable by dudes, but...she was still just too precious, I couldn't turn a blind eye to her problems, or her kindness. Her little story with the underwater town was so moving and unique...I just wanted to give that girl a hug man. What a sweetheart.
Then it all came to a head. V is on his last leg. That fateful scene where you make your big choice. Silverhand pushing me to just take the orange pill and let him do his thing, since he's almost in control anyway. Or I could testify against Yorinobu, and put my trust in Arasaka. OR, I could call on my new family in Panam and the Aldecaldos, but put them at risk.
This entire game I felt like every choice was vital. I felt like one slip up and I could mess up my chances of living, or even worse, do wrong by the people I cared about, just like Jackie. But I stuck to my guns, helped who I could...
Which is why I chose to lean on the Aldecaldos for help. Yes, I was putting them at risk. But even though I was beginning to trust Johnny, this wasn't his fight anymore. Much as Johnny might have a shot, I couldn't just give up now. And I certainly wasn't going to trust anyone at Arasaka.
The raid on Arasaka HQ with the clan was rough. Felt like all my choices had led here, and I worried that CDPR was going to punish me for my past choices, given that Night City takes no prisoners and few get out alive. I also knew that Adam Smasher was bound to appear. And having seen Edgerunners...I knew that wasn't going to be pretty. I saw how Johnny's story ended, for example.
There were rumblings about Saul and Panam still being at odds, and I figured the game was priming me for a betrayal or a horrific upset somehow. But I forged ahead anyway, because I was with my family. I didn't want power. I didn't even want to be a legend. I just wanted to live.
I watched Adam Smasher kill Saul horrifically, heard Panam scream in horror...and I zeroed that MFer. XD
Protip: even on Hard Diff, if you have the right perks and implants, you can be virtually unkillable. Only died once. Not sure if that's impressive, but it felt impressive. XD
My V wasn't sophisticated, but he was tough as nails and determined. I wasn't about to let everyone's sacrifice be in vain. Not Saul's. Not Jackie's. Not Goro's. Not Johnny's.
I informed Smasher of Johnny's resurrection just before blowing his brains out with Johnny's own signature gun. Even though Johnny was subdued by the bluepill, it felt like my last gift to him...even as I was moments from death.
Then the moment of truth...Mikoshi. I asked Panam for parting advice. She said "Just be yourself." Normally I'd roll my eyes at that advice but, something about it felt prophetic.
The final choice. Alt had used Soulkiller on me, in order to save me, but now it seemed I wasn't going to get my happy ending. I could go with her beyond the Blackwall, and finally let Johnny have my body - or I could return, but only have about six months, since the Relic had just caused too much damage.
It wasn't that hard of a choice. Leave everything and everyone I had grown to love behind for some bizarre virtual afterlife? Or let Johnny finally rest, and let V return to the world, Panam and the Aldecaldos? I chose life. As Johnny laid me down in the 'well', gently, he said "Goodbye V." And it felt like two friends parting ways. It felt like he'd made a change, and I helped him get there.
And boy was I rewarded. Even though I didn't have long, I had a chance to start again, and maybe even find another way to live. I had Panam, I had the Caldos, and I could finally leave Night City in the dust. "I have everything I need", V said.
This game absolutely SLAPS with hard choices. Over and over and over, you're reminded about how unfair the world is. But if you keep your head on, and ignore the power plays, stay true to your friends, and don't take no shit - you can get out alive. And not just you. The ones you love can too.
Of course, many of you already know all of this. So why did I bother posting?
All my life I've felt like maybe I've been too nice, or too careful, or too unwilling to take life by the balls. But one thing I've always been good at is helping people in need when I can, and always being available to my friends. But for some reason I always looked down on myself for it. I never felt like I was worth anything. I never felt like I was making a difference in the world. There were so many hard choices, and I felt like I never made the right ones. And that I'd just die one day, and be forgotten. Never having made my mark. Just like so many in Night City...
Some days I'd think "Maybe it'd just be better if I was never born." Because I was such a fuckup. A loser. A nobody.
But the person who helps people, who's there for others even when its inconvenient? That's the kind of person who can make a REAL difference. Fuck money. Fuck politics. Fuck fame. None of its worth a damn if you aren't doing right by others.
And that really came through in the end credits. I'm not ashamed to say I was in tears as all these people from my playthrough reminded me how much I meant to them. How much they cared, and that I mattered. All these people had happy endings because of me. I never let them down, not even when the grim reaper himself was breathing down my neck.
It was like all my IRL friends and family were speaking to me in those moments. And finally, FINALLY, I could see myself as they saw me: a man who cared and was trying to be there for them. A man that made a difference in their lives.
Yeah I didn't save the world, per se. But, really, that's how we save the world for real, lame as it may sound. The sheer contrast between the ending I had earned by just trying to do right by all the people in V's life, and that horrific ending I posted earlier was...stark. If you give up, then everyone suffers, not just you.
This game saw me, and reminded me who I was. It rewarded me for it, and I'll never forget it. For all its flaws, all its quirks and failings, I adored this game and all the effort that went into it. It's clear CDPR were trying to say something with this work of art, and boy was the message received on my end.
I can safely say I'm less likely to despair now because of it. I feel more alive because of it. I feel more prepared for the real world because of it. And I wanted to share my experience, if only to remind one person that:
We can all make a difference. Live for others, not yourself. It pays off. Even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. It's the only legacy worth leaving in this fallen world.

I’m not sure which it is at this point. I just started going to school this week. My transcripts from before are being evaluated to see what I already have that will transfer in. One is still in process since attendance was before the implementation of the electronic records at the school.
Logically I know it’s a good thing so I can retrain for something I can physically do since I have another 18 years before I reach “retirement age”. The rest of me is saying “you’re 54 and lost your husband 17 months ago, what are you thinking?”
I was injured at work a few years ago and when I was told my new permanent restrictions it was obvious that my career was over. You can’t properly run a food service operation from sitting at a desk. This made my degree basically worthless. I took a lower paying job I can physically do thinking I’d bide my time until retirement. It’s a nice place to work and the people are great. Then my husband died unexpectedly. Suddenly I need to make more money again. I tried the gig apps and found DoorDash isn’t reliable enough to help, and Uber is out of the question after I was held at gunpoint. At least DoorDash I can avoid areas I don’t want to be in. I saw an ad for online bookkeeping help and tried that. I did pretty well, but the person I was working for wasn’t reliable and lacked communication with me and her clients. In looking for similar jobs they all want an accounting degree. My advisor was looking at the transcripts and unofficially is guessing I’ll have most of my general and elective courses done from transfer credits and could finish the degree in 2 years or less. Probably less with what I already have scheduled.
I’m second guessing myself, haven’t told my adult daughters I’m doing it yet, and at the same time I keep hearing my husband’s voice telling me “you got this” and he’s proud of me. I have his gun cabinet beside my computer desk with a shelf inside that I added. It holds his ashes, his picture, a few small things, and his graduation gear including his Phi Betta Kappa (honor society) stole. I keep telling myself to breathe and that I’ve done this before, that I’ve always been good with school and multitasking and I’ll be fine. I don’t quite believe it yet, and the last time I took courses without my partner in crime was the early 1990s.

I have heard both sides some saying its not reliable and some saying it is. Any clue if this is good or not?
Dell Latitude 7000 13.3" FHD Touchscreen Laptop, Intel Core i7-8650U, 16GB DDR4 RAM, 512GB NVMe M.2 SSD, CAM, Comes With Laptop Stand, Wire Mouse & Bag Windows 11 PRO (RENEWED) https://amzn.eu/d/a4QjiQU

Let me explain better. I am a guy, 28 years old. I am good-looking, 6 feet tall, athletic (I do sport, I have a "fit" body but no muscles because I do not like the gym), interested in many things, and I also have a good job (not sure if this info is necessary, but better to specify). Let's say on a scale from 1 to 10, I would rate myself a 7 in terms of physical appearance. In life, I've never had big problems having girls around, both for relationships and casual things. But I've realized that I've always had very average girls. I don't know how to explain it, but here's the typical girl you say: "yes, she's cute," but I've never had success (even for something casual) with a girl who would generally be considered a "beautiful" girl. I'm not aiming for supermodels or girls who would never notice me. Simply girls I would rate a 7 or an 8 (I know these number ratings don't make much sense, but it's a good way to explain myself). Am I the only one? Is really one of the few ways to get noticed going to the gym and building big biceps and abs? Any advice?

Bought my third ever item on depop, a vintage jacket. Little to no description other than to say no holes.
The jacket is nice and after depilling it for 30 mins looking good.
However the pocket liners are basically torn rags, not usable at all and there was a lot of debris inside including plastic packaging and human nails.
I politely told the seller before I leave a review I wanted to contact them first to say they’ve been super helpful, jackets great but a shame about the above issues as I’d personally have checked and mentioned that. Seller apologised and said they’re a new seller and didn’t really like the jacket so never checked the pockets but they should’ve checked and mentioned it. They also said a few times how gross that is. No offer of any partial refund.
I’m going to have to sew new pocket liners in which I have no idea how to do but professional costs will presumably be more than the jackets worth.
Should I ask for a partial refund or just accept the apology? If it was a business I’d 100% be asking for a partial refund but I don’t buy many used clothes, idk if etiquette for private sellers is different? I also wouldn’t really wanna return it at this point as I’ve done all the hard work cleaning it, depilling it etc.

We have a lot of guys on the roster that carried over from Rivera where it's somewhat unclear if they're actually shitty players or if they just looked like that due to the circumstances they were surrounded by. I was wondering about some of them earlier:
Jamin Davis: We all know he was a reach, and we've been upset since he was drafted because there were better options and Ron Rivera is a moron. He has great physical traits though - he's huge for a LB and very fast/athletic. The question was always whether or not he could get properly coached up and "get it", which we assumed was happening because fucking Ron Rivera and Jack Del Rio were linebackers, and Ron coached one of the best linebackers in recent memory down in Carolina. His first two seasons were rough, but the entire defense was dogshit last season and Jamin looked actually pretty decent in a lot of situations. He was smarter in coverage, smarter in run support, and actually got to showcase his athleticism on a handful of occasions. He's going to be playing next to Luvu who is the opposite of him - a guy without major physical gifts who managed to grind his way to being a good NFL starter with high motor plays and intelligent positioning, and a future hall of famer in Bobby Wagner. We didn't pick up his rookie contract options, and that was intentional to motivate him to show this new staff something. I think that he has a chance to actually be used as a disruptive player and get him into the backfield where he belongs, I think he will have a surprisingly good season this year.
Forbes: He's been sort of talked to death. Does he even have the size necessary to play on the outside at this level? Does he have the skill? Can we un-do whatever the fuck that high school DB coach "taught" him last season and put him into positions where he can succeed, preferably where he can ball hawk and not where he's matched up with a 230 pound physical monster of a WR who kicks his ass all over the field? I'm not so sure on this guy. I don't think there's really a place for him at this level or with what I expect our defensive staff to want to do in the secondary. He's not nearly good enough of a tackler to use him as a FS and let him ball hawk, he's not big enough to play man coverage. If I had to guess, I'd say he's probably going to have a rough year and be a rotational guy, but I'd be ecstatic to be proven wrong about that. Dan Quinn's defenses have always screamed "physical" in the secondary, and this guy is the opposite of that. I don't know if they're expecting to use him as the 2nd CB and put him in those outside situations opposite St-Juste, but I don't really envision that going particularly well if they do. I don't know who you go with if it's obvious in camp that he's not panning out. Sainristil is a tad on the small side to put on an island outside (though I think he'd handle it better than Forbes at least). Maybe they see Michael Davis doing that and will only use Forbes and Sainristil inside? I have no idea.
St-Juste: I think this guy could have a better upswing than anyone else in the secondary because of his size and the way he plays. He's the most physical corner we carried over, and I expect to see him put in a lot of situations close to the LOS in man coverage, which is how a guy like him should be used. I don't know if he can actually lock a #1 WR down consistently, but I think with his traits he has the potential to have a much better season than we've seen out of him in the previous 3.
Quan Martin: I expect him to really take a step at safety. I really liked what I saw out of him, but I also hated the idea of taking a guy who was a very solid college safety and trying to turn him into a CB. I see him as the deep cover safety who roams and supports over the top vs. Chinn who is clearly here to get in the box and hit. I see him in the Kam Chancellor role vs. Chinn's Earl Thomas mostly because he has a good nose for the ball. I think he has a chance to surprise a lot of people.
Jahan Dotson: He's an odd case. His rookie season where he caught 35 passes for 523 yards and 7 TDs was seen as excellent, which it should have been. He really ran crisp routes and looked awesome in space. We all understood that he was doing especially well considering he was catching balls from Carson Wentz and Taylor Heinicke. Then this past season he caught 49 for 518 and 4 TDs and it's seen as a catastrophe outside the fanbase. I think that most of us believe that something weird went on with him and Howell and Bieniemy. His production was pretty much the same, in fact, contrary to popular opinion that Sam Howell didn't look for him, or Bieniemy neglected to design plays for him, in 2022 we threw the ball 531 times, and he was targeted 61 of those times (11.4% of all passing coming his way). In 2023, we threw the ball 601 times, and he was targeted 83 of them (13.8% of all passing). His receptions went up, his yardage and TDs went down. Was this because of poor play design? Did Bieniemy send him on routes that just didn't make a lot of sense for the type of receiver he is? Did he have trouble getting open? When he was open, did Sam Howell hold on to the ball or have a hard time finding him? I can't really say. I want to believe that he's going to progress into an 800-900 yard deep threat and or YAC machine, because he looked like he was going to become that guy after his first two seasons. He could just be a single competent quarterback or OC away from a breakout year, or maybe he's just that 500 yards and 4-6 TD kind of guy and that's all he'll ever be. I really have no idea. My wishful thinking and hope says he's going to break out and Kingsbury will utilize him correctly. There isn't a great analogue to Jahan's situation from his time in Arizona.
That's just the stuff off the top of my head, feel free to add, disagree, or fill in some blanks. I know it's all just pointless speculation, but what else are we here for?

Hey everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old guy, and I’ve been dating my 20-year-old girlfriend for about 4 months now. I know it’s still early in our relationship, but we’ve really bonded and things have been going great overall. However, I’m facing a bit of a dilemma and could really use some advice.
Here’s the situation: I have a very busy work schedule, and I rarely have time to cook at home. As a result, I eat almost all my meals at restaurants or fast food places. It’s not the healthiest choice, but I work out regularly and manage to stay in good shape. This lifestyle has been my norm for the past year or so.
My girlfriend, on the other hand, used to rarely eat out before we started dating. She has more breaks and time to cook, and she used to make her own meals. Since we’ve been together, she’s stopped cooking and waits for me to come get her so we can eat out. Initially, this wasn’t an issue, but she’s gained a lot of weight recently – around 20kg (44lbs) in the past three months. She was fit before, and this rapid weight gain has me worried about her health.
We used to go on hikes together without any problems, but on our last hike a week ago, she really struggled to keep up, and we had to cut it short. I’ve tried suggesting that we work out together, but she’s not interested and says she doesn’t like sports. I’ve also mentioned that she could cook at home while waiting for me, and we could eat together there – it’s healthier and cheaper – but she prefers eating out.
I’m in a bit of a bind. I don’t like the weight she’s gained from a physical attraction standpoint, but more importantly, I’m concerned about her health. I’m unsure how to bring this up without hurting her feelings or making her feel bad. I also feel somewhat responsible since my eating habits have influenced her.
WIBTA for bringing her weight gain up ?

ok so im from dsa and doing a upip next sem and the admin said that max number of the mods i can take is 2 but then we need to submit some proposal detailing the workload + how to manage time bla bla….
isit very hard to get approval to take mods??? the email made it seemed like i have to fully justify my choice … can i just say “if i dont take i cant grad on time” or is that not a good enough reason?

I'm 23 year old guy from Germany working for a US company. I'm a CNC Operator with 2 years of experience only in CNC lathe. So we have 3 Departments with CNC lathe and my main department is 1 of them. My boss wants me to help and learn the 2 as well, I like my job so for me it's fine. But my teammates always say don't work so much, later they except that always from you, you will get burned out if you work so much and learn everything... And it's frustrated me. I really like to measure and change tools, to make everything good. But they are always like don't be so precise. We have parts where the tolerance is +-0,03mm and we measure them with an old measure thing which can only show 0,01... So technically it's not right. I told the boss, I told the people who do that stuff they say oh we'll look for it, we have done it years like that. But it's not right, I feel bad but they just don't care, we have pieces which are not have a radius they say it doesn't matter. Like for them it doesn't matter, as long as they are fast. Which is my main problem. When I operate, change the tools, change the Material, load the program and correct the values ​​in the offset. I take my time I always look for everything if the tools are clean, how the Screws are whether the plates are through. So I take my time, It takes for me 3 or 4 hours for complex pieces and they do it in 2 hours and they say I'm slow. I tell them I do it right, I look for everything they just ignore it and still say I have to be faster. That is in my opinion my main problem where I just get upset. I like to learn new things, so I question myself should I learn programming too? Is it worth it? How long does it take? What I see we have 4 programmers for 27 machines... So they are overwhelmed and everyone wants something from them, but I think for the future it's the right step and they need more programmers so if I could learn it somehow it would be good. I know it's a lot but I just want to ask for advice if I should ignore my teammates keep learning as much as possible and maybe even become a programmer or if I should slow down? Thank you already for all the comments I really hope you can all help me