Canadian tire electric sweepers
Apparently I Buy Cheap Flatware...
2024.05.23 09:36 Famous_Metal9860 Apparently I Buy Cheap Flatware...
JNMIL is obsessed - OBSESSED - with using a stainless steel scrubbie that I had at my house.
The stainless steel scrubbie was introduced to her, because she found it - of course - under my kitchen sink, as being for scrubbing my stainless steel cookware. She asked if she could use it for other items, and I let her know it's for my stainless steel pots and saucepan. She asked if she could use it for more, and I said if it seemed okay for other stuff then okay, to make it easier for her to clean my dishes as she felt she HAD to do them. It was designed to be safe for non-stick products if used gently.
She does not have arthritis, or any other issue to cause a need for a dish washing assistant such as a stainless steel scrubbie. This woman has broken our metal front screen door lock, and bent a window frame to cause the window to be stuck and not slide. We could only fix the window by going outside and bending the metal frame back in.
My own Mom has always gifted me things I didn't want, like flatware, dish sets, tea towels, and more. I've told her I don't want her to send me this stuff, but she insists. Sigh. All I want is my own stuff in my own home.
So my buying my own things is a very big deal for me. I earned my money and got myself my own stuff. And my JNMIL has wrecked most of it for me.
Over the years JNMIL's stripped our perfectly good, until she touched it, rice cooker - the whole unit became unusable because she stripped the non-stick surface of the cooking pot. She's also removed most of the non-stick finish on my cookie sheets. She's missed my sarcasm of "sure, might as well remove the whole finish now that you've taken it this far". So she tried to do so with her last stint living with us. Same with travel mugs, they are all victims of her cleaning off the "dirt" of the finish. Sigh - all with my permission because she started wrecking them in the first place. Might as well have her finish the job right? Except of course she didn't - so everything looks like sh*t.
My stainless steel flatware turned purple from her ministrations, but she insisted it was because I bought cheap. My flatware settled back to normal once she was no longer washing them. I have various ages and brand of flatware, so why circa 1994 Canadian Tire flatware and 2013 IKEA flatware are all having issues only when she washes them - I would think it might be how they are being washed...
Stainless steel knives have scratches all over them.
All of the silicone utensils I bought for myself now have chewed edges to them. Chunks taken out.
The multiple NOW brand dishclothes she sawed holes in because I took her scrubbie away - *revenge* as she could no longer clean the steak knives and other serrated edged knives the way she wanted to, at least at my house.
BTW - JNMIL resorted to using Mr. Clean Magic Erasers for washing dishes at my BIL/SIL house.
This woman owes me a good thousand+ dollars with the amount of damage she's done to my kitchenware. And will never have to pay for it, because she was "just helping out while we had her living at our place" - rent free. Just like she's done to family/friends/relations for over the past 30+ years.
Anyhoo, JMNIL has her own place now, Finally pulled up her big girl panties because she realized she no longer had any family/friends to move in on.
She has - yep - dishcloths - at her own place. No scrubbies of any kind. As my children have reported to me. No stainless steel scrubbies in sight, and definately no Mr. Clean Magic Erasers.
Amazing what hot water, dishsoap, and a dishcloth can do.
submitted by Famous_Metal9860 to JUSTNOMIL [link] [comments]
The stainless steel scrubbie was introduced to her, because she found it - of course - under my kitchen sink, as being for scrubbing my stainless steel cookware. She asked if she could use it for other items, and I let her know it's for my stainless steel pots and saucepan. She asked if she could use it for more, and I said if it seemed okay for other stuff then okay, to make it easier for her to clean my dishes as she felt she HAD to do them. It was designed to be safe for non-stick products if used gently.
She does not have arthritis, or any other issue to cause a need for a dish washing assistant such as a stainless steel scrubbie. This woman has broken our metal front screen door lock, and bent a window frame to cause the window to be stuck and not slide. We could only fix the window by going outside and bending the metal frame back in.
My own Mom has always gifted me things I didn't want, like flatware, dish sets, tea towels, and more. I've told her I don't want her to send me this stuff, but she insists. Sigh. All I want is my own stuff in my own home.
So my buying my own things is a very big deal for me. I earned my money and got myself my own stuff. And my JNMIL has wrecked most of it for me.
Over the years JNMIL's stripped our perfectly good, until she touched it, rice cooker - the whole unit became unusable because she stripped the non-stick surface of the cooking pot. She's also removed most of the non-stick finish on my cookie sheets. She's missed my sarcasm of "sure, might as well remove the whole finish now that you've taken it this far". So she tried to do so with her last stint living with us. Same with travel mugs, they are all victims of her cleaning off the "dirt" of the finish. Sigh - all with my permission because she started wrecking them in the first place. Might as well have her finish the job right? Except of course she didn't - so everything looks like sh*t.
My stainless steel flatware turned purple from her ministrations, but she insisted it was because I bought cheap. My flatware settled back to normal once she was no longer washing them. I have various ages and brand of flatware, so why circa 1994 Canadian Tire flatware and 2013 IKEA flatware are all having issues only when she washes them - I would think it might be how they are being washed...
Stainless steel knives have scratches all over them.
All of the silicone utensils I bought for myself now have chewed edges to them. Chunks taken out.
The multiple NOW brand dishclothes she sawed holes in because I took her scrubbie away - *revenge* as she could no longer clean the steak knives and other serrated edged knives the way she wanted to, at least at my house.
BTW - JNMIL resorted to using Mr. Clean Magic Erasers for washing dishes at my BIL/SIL house.
This woman owes me a good thousand+ dollars with the amount of damage she's done to my kitchenware. And will never have to pay for it, because she was "just helping out while we had her living at our place" - rent free. Just like she's done to family/friends/relations for over the past 30+ years.
Anyhoo, JMNIL has her own place now, Finally pulled up her big girl panties because she realized she no longer had any family/friends to move in on.
She has - yep - dishcloths - at her own place. No scrubbies of any kind. As my children have reported to me. No stainless steel scrubbies in sight, and definately no Mr. Clean Magic Erasers.
Amazing what hot water, dishsoap, and a dishcloth can do.
2024.05.23 09:24 GlitchyBoi11 Stay with me now, it might not be over
Consider this, while Yuta is fighting Sukuna in Gojo's body 1. Shoko stiches up his body so Yuta can come back to it 2.She takes Gojo's brain, puts it in a jar and uses all RCT she has to heal it's brain damage
If everything goes right, Yuta will fight Sukuna for 4 minutes and 50something seconds dealing massive damage to him, but then he will have to dip to come back to his body, leaving Wuji to land the final blow. Yuta comes back to Shoko uses Kenny'a CT to come back to his body and Shoko puts Gojo's healed brain in his body. Then someone calls out to Gojo and Gojo's body responds (like Geto's in Shibuya) and instincively uses RCT to fully reattach his brain to his body. Then all it takes is a deffibrilator (or someone with electric powers? Yeah right keep dreaming Femboy fans)
Bad scenario: after Yuji is left to finish off Sukuna before he can land the blow Gege intervenes (of course he does) and somehow makes Uraume offscreen Hakari and come to attack Yuji and Save Sukuna. Then Yuji gets reverse Jump Kaisen'd by Uraume and Sukuna.
But then Gojo comes to help him, turns out to restore most of his power he made a binding vow sacrificing onr of the six eyes, and now The Strongest is dead but Gojo Satoru is alive meaning Gojo now has the answer to Geto's question.
Gojo one shots Uraume again and they rush Sukuna with the craziest Jump Kaisen of Today.Then everyone comes back, Maki, Yuta, Ino, Kusakabe, everyone else (and even Nobara because i said so) they all hand Sukuna the ones at once, Megumi sees how everyone is fighting to save him and regains the will to live weakenimg Sukuna even further. In the final clash Yiji lands a Soul hitting Black Flash that literally rips Sukuna of Megumi's body killing him for good. There's no Sukuna being scared of Yuji, he just dies and is gone (Yuji will eat his remains later but we'll get to that)
Unfortunately Sukuna activated the Merger right before he lost control of Megumi, Gojo and everyone are worn out and too tired to fight it, leaving only Yuji, Nobara and freshly awaken Megumi. No need to go into details, the beat it with the power of Kaisen (a.k.a. the friends we made along the way)
They come back to everyone, Yuji aproaches Sukuna's remains eats them and we have a final moment of Sukuna talking to Yuji in Yuji's brain. Sukuna still isn't accepting that Yuji won and teies to fight him for control of the body but gets cut instantly by Yuji's cleave making a throwback to chaper like 10 of something.
Yuji snaps back to reality surounder by everyone. They finally won. War is over. With everyone beside him Yuji stares at the sunset and on the final pabel he says: "THIS WAS TRULY OUR JUJUTSU KAISEN" cut to black
submitted by GlitchyBoi11 to Jujutsufolk [link] [comments]
If everything goes right, Yuta will fight Sukuna for 4 minutes and 50something seconds dealing massive damage to him, but then he will have to dip to come back to his body, leaving Wuji to land the final blow. Yuta comes back to Shoko uses Kenny'a CT to come back to his body and Shoko puts Gojo's healed brain in his body. Then someone calls out to Gojo and Gojo's body responds (like Geto's in Shibuya) and instincively uses RCT to fully reattach his brain to his body. Then all it takes is a deffibrilator (or someone with electric powers? Yeah right keep dreaming Femboy fans)
Bad scenario: after Yuji is left to finish off Sukuna before he can land the blow Gege intervenes (of course he does) and somehow makes Uraume offscreen Hakari and come to attack Yuji and Save Sukuna. Then Yuji gets reverse Jump Kaisen'd by Uraume and Sukuna.
But then Gojo comes to help him, turns out to restore most of his power he made a binding vow sacrificing onr of the six eyes, and now The Strongest is dead but Gojo Satoru is alive meaning Gojo now has the answer to Geto's question.
Gojo one shots Uraume again and they rush Sukuna with the craziest Jump Kaisen of Today.Then everyone comes back, Maki, Yuta, Ino, Kusakabe, everyone else (and even Nobara because i said so) they all hand Sukuna the ones at once, Megumi sees how everyone is fighting to save him and regains the will to live weakenimg Sukuna even further. In the final clash Yiji lands a Soul hitting Black Flash that literally rips Sukuna of Megumi's body killing him for good. There's no Sukuna being scared of Yuji, he just dies and is gone (Yuji will eat his remains later but we'll get to that)
Unfortunately Sukuna activated the Merger right before he lost control of Megumi, Gojo and everyone are worn out and too tired to fight it, leaving only Yuji, Nobara and freshly awaken Megumi. No need to go into details, the beat it with the power of Kaisen (a.k.a. the friends we made along the way)
They come back to everyone, Yuji aproaches Sukuna's remains eats them and we have a final moment of Sukuna talking to Yuji in Yuji's brain. Sukuna still isn't accepting that Yuji won and teies to fight him for control of the body but gets cut instantly by Yuji's cleave making a throwback to chaper like 10 of something.
Yuji snaps back to reality surounder by everyone. They finally won. War is over. With everyone beside him Yuji stares at the sunset and on the final pabel he says: "THIS WAS TRULY OUR JUJUTSU KAISEN" cut to black
2024.05.23 09:18 PerformanceMajestic5 Winter vs All Weather Tires for Tesla Model Y
Hi,
I have a model y awd long range and live in the suburbs of Vancouver, BC. I have a bit of dilemma for winter season here in Vancouver where it mostly rains with maybe a couple weeks of snow days. The temperature stays just above freezing most of winter here.
Before I got my tesla, I roamed around with all weather tires (NOT all season tires), but now that I have an electric car I am not so sure anymore. I heard winter tires are not good for rainy weather. Would winter tire or all weather tire be better for me?
submitted by PerformanceMajestic5 to tires [link] [comments]
I have a model y awd long range and live in the suburbs of Vancouver, BC. I have a bit of dilemma for winter season here in Vancouver where it mostly rains with maybe a couple weeks of snow days. The temperature stays just above freezing most of winter here.
Before I got my tesla, I roamed around with all weather tires (NOT all season tires), but now that I have an electric car I am not so sure anymore. I heard winter tires are not good for rainy weather. Would winter tire or all weather tire be better for me?
2024.05.23 08:24 Mysterious_Bell_5107 Car won’t start
I have a 2016 Ford Focus Se Hatchback that won’t start. I replaced the battery and the starter and it drove for two days before it just stopped turning on at all. It does crank but makes a weird noise almost like an electric sound. When I put the key in and just turn it once all the lights and ac work just fine just won’t start. Also to note whenever I try to turn it on the headlights turn off. I thought that was weird. If anyone can help that would be a blessing. I’m so tired of burning money at this thing.
submitted by Mysterious_Bell_5107 to MechanicAdvice [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 08:17 campbelltownhobbies Speed Demons: Exploring Fast Electric Remote Control Cars
 | Introduction to Fast Electric Remote Control CarsWhen choosing the ideal RC car for your needs, there are various key factors to take into account. These include the power source, size, construction quality, and brand reliability.Fast Electric Remote Control Cars Additionally, keep in mind that the intended use of the car - whether for on-road or off-road racing - greatly affects its overall speed and maneuverability. Here are a few other aspects to keep in mind.Although the excitement of racing RC cars at high speeds is unquestionable, prioritising safety should always be a priority.It is important to carefully select designated areas for operating these cars, keeping them away from crowded places to avoid potential accidents. Electric Remote Control Cars Additionally, ensuring that your RC car receives regular maintenance and inspections is crucial in guaranteeing safe and enjoyable use. By routinely cleaning, lubricating, and inspecting your car, you can prolong its lifespan and improve its performance. Upgrading key components such as the motor, battery, and tires can also enhance its speed and overall functionality, maximizing the value of your investment. Consider installing a more powerful motor, adjusting the gearing ratio, and opting for high-capacity batteries. Additionally, upgrading the tires and suspension can enhance the car’s grip and stability, leading to improved speed and performance. It’s essential to note that while modifications can enhance performance, they may also increase wear and tear on the vehicle. Therefore, regular maintenance and careful tuning are crucial to ensure both speed and longevity. Top Brands and Models in the Fast Electric RC Car MarketThe ARRMA Infraction 6S BLX Brushless 1/7 RTR Electric 4WD Street Bash Truck is capable of a top speed of 80+ mph.The LOST RC Car has a top speed of 52 kph or 32.3 mph. The Redcat Racing Lightning EPX Drift Car can reach speeds around 10-15 mph. The Arrma Infraction 1/7 scale can reach speeds up to 130 kph or 80.7 mph. The Traxxas Bandit VXL can reach top speeds of 70+ mph. The Team Associated RC10 B74 can reach top speeds of around 40+ mph. The Losi DBXL-E 2.0 can reach top speeds of up to 50+ mph. The Traxxas X-Maxx Monster Truck can hit top speeds of up to 45+ mph. The Kyosho Inferno GT2 can hit top speeds of up to 50+ mph. The Maisto Rock Crawler can reach top speeds around 10-15 mph. The ARRMA SENTON 4X4 3S BLX Brushless 1/10 RTR Short Course Truck has a top speed of 50+ mph. The WLtoys 14401 RC car can reach speeds up to 60 kph or 37.2 mph. The Redcat Volcano EPX can reach top speeds of 20+ mph. Maintenance and Care for High-Speed RC VehiclesRegular maintenance and servicing are essential for maintaining optimal performance of any RC car.Despite their sturdy design, proper upkeep is necessary for these cars. This includes basic tasks such as cleaning, checking screws and bearings, greasing them, and replacing worn out parts. Remote Control Cars After driving, it is crucial to clean the car thoroughly. For dusty conditions, compressed air or a soft brush and damp cloth can be used. Extra care should be taken when cleaning around the bearings to prevent faster wear and tear caused by dirt and dust. Please note: Do not clean the car with running water. Once finished, be sure to inspect all components for any looseness, particularly the screws on the servo arm, steering linkage, lower shock absorbers, suspension arms, and upper links. These screws are subject to movement while driving and may become loose. Gently tighten them using the appropriate tool - over-tightening can cause damage to the threads. After inspecting the bearings, it is important to also check their condition. Pay attention to any excess play in the wheel bearings, as this can cause the tires to wobble. RC Cars If you notice an increase in play after driving, it may be a sign of wear and tear on the bearings. This can lead to decreased spinning of the wheels and put strain on the motor. To prolong the life of your bearings, make sure to regularly clean and lubricate them, especially after wet driving conditions. A few drops of oil is all that is needed for proper greasing. Keep in mind that outer bearings tend to wear out quickly and should be replaced promptly when necessary. Additionally, you can test the drive train bearings by gently wiggling the outdrive and observing any play between them. Rolling the chassis on a desk should also be smooth and quiet without any resistance or noise. Superficial cleaning and inspection are enough with the electric components. It’s good to check that the speed controller’s fan works and can spin freely. Also check that all the components are not coming loose. Check that all the wires are undamaged and that they’re not getting in the way of the drivetrain. Wrapping UpAt Campbelltown Hobbies, we are dedicated to fueling your passion for speed and performance with our extensive range of fast electric remote control cars. Whether you're a seasoned RC enthusiast or a newcomer to the hobby, our expert team is here to help you find the perfect vehicle to match your needs.Visit us today and experience the thrill of high-speed racing with the best RC cars on the market. At Campbelltown Hobbies, your journey to becoming a speed demon starts here! |
2024.05.23 08:08 Heliophobe_ I’ve been treading water on cc payments for months. Should I file bankruptcy?
I(24F) was convinced to get a credit card 4 years ago, and because of life circumstances/injury/changing homes/jobs over the years I’m now $7700 in debt over 4 cards. I’m a barista/bartender and atm I’m pulling in about $2000 a month, but hours and tips are inconsistent and some slower months I’ve pulled in as low as $1500. My rent is $1050, electricity $30-40. For several months now I’ve only been able to afford the minimum payments on my cards, which are immediately eaten back up by interest. I tried to apply for food stamps but just barely didn’t make the cut.
If I file bankruptcy it’ll be a little less than $2000, so $650 a month for three months which I can handle if I really tighten my belt(off and on I’ve been living off of daily cash tips, pooling up enough for tofu or potatoes). If I do that for a year and a half longer I can get my cards paid down, but I don’t know if it would be worth it to live like that for so long. It would be nice to buy a house someday but at this point that’s a pipe dream, and I’ve heard that as long as you build your credit back up a bankruptcy isn’t that big a stain once the 3 years have elapsed.
I’m so tired of this $7.7k noose that’s been around my neck for so long. I’ve lived in constant overwhelming anxiety about finances. I used to have savings in the bank. I want to have a cushion of my own money again but these credit cards are making saving money impossible. Is bankruptcy my best bet?
Any help/advice is appreciated
submitted by Heliophobe_ to personalfinance [link] [comments]
If I file bankruptcy it’ll be a little less than $2000, so $650 a month for three months which I can handle if I really tighten my belt(off and on I’ve been living off of daily cash tips, pooling up enough for tofu or potatoes). If I do that for a year and a half longer I can get my cards paid down, but I don’t know if it would be worth it to live like that for so long. It would be nice to buy a house someday but at this point that’s a pipe dream, and I’ve heard that as long as you build your credit back up a bankruptcy isn’t that big a stain once the 3 years have elapsed.
I’m so tired of this $7.7k noose that’s been around my neck for so long. I’ve lived in constant overwhelming anxiety about finances. I used to have savings in the bank. I want to have a cushion of my own money again but these credit cards are making saving money impossible. Is bankruptcy my best bet?
Any help/advice is appreciated
2024.05.23 07:18 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to lonely [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 07:14 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to InternetFriends [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 07:13 AnyIncident9852 r/CanadaHousing2 discusses India's colonization of Canada
A sub dedicated to discussing the Canadian housing crisis discusses an article titled, "Prince Edward Island to Indian Immigrants: "We're full.''"
I just turned on cbc and there was an Indian dance being played for 10 minutes. Not sure how that is Canadian content. Pathetic how quickly this country js turning to shit. (+66)
CBC is a lost cause, like BBC in the UK. I stopped listening when every time I turned on CBC Radio 1 the vast majority of current affairs and general interest topics had to have a minorities slant, fucking tiresome woke BS. (+15)
Most of these fake students are from India, but from ONE PLACE in India, the same village.. Punjab India. We see cities completely destroyed & turned into India. Indians hire their own, rent to their own and will only VOTE for their own. You see white people , asian people voting for who they like the most. That's why Jagoff is laughing. Wait until all these Indians are able to vote, it will be the destruction of Canada. We need mass deportation & to cancel all these fake PR's. (+14)
Does no one think it is racist that India a country that doesn’t even make up 20% of the worlds population gets more than 40% of all Canadian student visas, more than 30% of all PR’s worldwide. Who is influencing our government to prioritize Indians over the rest of the world. We’re Canada the entire world wants to come here. Why do Indians get priority over the rest of the world? At what point do we start recognizing we’ve brought in so many Punjabis it may affect demographics going forward. I’m all for diversity but there’s nothing diverse about this (+1.1k)
An invasion. Very well thought of invasion (+29)
Deportations need to happen. No fast tracks to PR. Deportations.
“Once they get in HR you’re fucked” - yupppp.. friend of mine (who is Canadian born Filipino) his boss just retired in April and the new manager is an Indian dude and he’s bringing in just random Indian temps “for backup” even though they aren’t busy. My theory is he’s gonna fire all the non Indians for bullshit reasons and make the temp Indian guys permanent. I told him don’t wait, send out your resume. Trying to get him a job at my place as well. (+38)
Because they prioritized india Canada would likely introduce a disgusting caste system and predictably the “old stock Canadians” will be at the absolute bottom of the totem pole
Anne of Green Gables is gonna be a different color very soon (+110)
I dont care if it sounds racist. The whole country is full and im tired of being told its racist to say so. (+39)
As an American in California, I feel the same way. We have so many Indians in this state that it's becoming increasingly less and less diverse and more and more Indian. I have no problem with people wanting to have a better life but something needs to be done with how many immigrants are coming into the US and Canada. (+5)
There are far too many of them and they are destroying the cultural fabric of this country. I don't live in this country to be surrounded by Indian culture and people. If I wanted that I would've moved to India.
Dated an Indian girl from Toronto. She was the most entitled spoiled brat and lowkey racist. Beautiful but really a terrible a person. Her family wasn’t better
Sad head bobble
I'm a US citizen, born in the US, and a White person, although that shouldn't matter (but does). My wife and I both have master's degrees, mine in a STEM field and hers in environmental policy. We have been considering places to move for the last few years, as we want to raise our child somewhere safer than the US. Canada was one of our first options, but based on what I've been reading lately, it seems like we would have a much harder time emigrating than if we were Indians with no skills, degrees, or functional English. It's really too bad. And I'm in an area of the US with thousands of H1B Indian immigrants, many who are making much more than me working at the big tech companies and driving the housing market to insane prices, so I literally get it coming and going. Pretty infuriating, although of course I'm the racist asshole for pointing it out according to some people...
submitted by AnyIncident9852 to SubredditDrama [link] [comments]
I just turned on cbc and there was an Indian dance being played for 10 minutes. Not sure how that is Canadian content. Pathetic how quickly this country js turning to shit. (+66)
CBC is a lost cause, like BBC in the UK. I stopped listening when every time I turned on CBC Radio 1 the vast majority of current affairs and general interest topics had to have a minorities slant, fucking tiresome woke BS. (+15)
Most of these fake students are from India, but from ONE PLACE in India, the same village.. Punjab India. We see cities completely destroyed & turned into India. Indians hire their own, rent to their own and will only VOTE for their own. You see white people , asian people voting for who they like the most. That's why Jagoff is laughing. Wait until all these Indians are able to vote, it will be the destruction of Canada. We need mass deportation & to cancel all these fake PR's. (+14)
Does no one think it is racist that India a country that doesn’t even make up 20% of the worlds population gets more than 40% of all Canadian student visas, more than 30% of all PR’s worldwide. Who is influencing our government to prioritize Indians over the rest of the world. We’re Canada the entire world wants to come here. Why do Indians get priority over the rest of the world? At what point do we start recognizing we’ve brought in so many Punjabis it may affect demographics going forward. I’m all for diversity but there’s nothing diverse about this (+1.1k)
An invasion. Very well thought of invasion (+29)
The crazy part is that it's more directly demogracide. Birth rates are collapsing because of housing costs and Trudeau's plan is to increase housing costs by bringing in replacements. I was with my mom and pointed to some student visa folk and told her that's her grandchildren. (+4)Exactly. It’s colonization. Except the type that is apparently acceptable because they’re not white. (+213)
Deportations need to happen. No fast tracks to PR. Deportations.
“Once they get in HR you’re fucked” - yupppp.. friend of mine (who is Canadian born Filipino) his boss just retired in April and the new manager is an Indian dude and he’s bringing in just random Indian temps “for backup” even though they aren’t busy. My theory is he’s gonna fire all the non Indians for bullshit reasons and make the temp Indian guys permanent. I told him don’t wait, send out your resume. Trying to get him a job at my place as well. (+38)
Because they prioritized india Canada would likely introduce a disgusting caste system and predictably the “old stock Canadians” will be at the absolute bottom of the totem pole
Anne of Green Gables is gonna be a different color very soon (+110)
I dont care if it sounds racist. The whole country is full and im tired of being told its racist to say so. (+39)
As an American in California, I feel the same way. We have so many Indians in this state that it's becoming increasingly less and less diverse and more and more Indian. I have no problem with people wanting to have a better life but something needs to be done with how many immigrants are coming into the US and Canada. (+5)
There are far too many of them and they are destroying the cultural fabric of this country. I don't live in this country to be surrounded by Indian culture and people. If I wanted that I would've moved to India.
Dated an Indian girl from Toronto. She was the most entitled spoiled brat and lowkey racist. Beautiful but really a terrible a person. Her family wasn’t better
Sad head bobble
I'm a US citizen, born in the US, and a White person, although that shouldn't matter (but does). My wife and I both have master's degrees, mine in a STEM field and hers in environmental policy. We have been considering places to move for the last few years, as we want to raise our child somewhere safer than the US. Canada was one of our first options, but based on what I've been reading lately, it seems like we would have a much harder time emigrating than if we were Indians with no skills, degrees, or functional English. It's really too bad. And I'm in an area of the US with thousands of H1B Indian immigrants, many who are making much more than me working at the big tech companies and driving the housing market to insane prices, so I literally get it coming and going. Pretty infuriating, although of course I'm the racist asshole for pointing it out according to some people...
2024.05.23 06:49 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to chat [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 06:47 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to MakeNewFriendsHere [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 06:46 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to lonely [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 06:45 BedheadRockstar 19m another slow week but we making it through ain’t we
Hi hello peeps very bored waiting for text back. It makes me so badly anxious but besides the point. I text back fast for my own good but yk I hate to forget to text back. Nightmare before Christmas obsession and I’m a big post Malone fan. I have a pet frog. Very much obsessed with all music and I can play guitar both acoustic and electric. I guess I’m an emo grunge so if that peeks your ingresses text me. I also workout so I’m built pretty nicely. I’m not those creepy dudes you all expect every guy to be, please I’m so tired of trying to carry a convo even if their not interested 🥲🥲. Just ask me anything in an open book I don’t judge I will listen to you and all that jazz. All ages I do not mind at all happy to get a text at all!!
submitted by BedheadRockstar to MeetNewPeopleHere [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 06:15 sackofcigars_8956 Looking into getting my first volvo
 | Hi everyone, I Found a 2012 s60 T6 R-Design with 180k miles. The asking price is 8k which to me seems a but much for the miles. I know this s60 with a T6 is a strong powertrain. The owner shows some of the recent work done. The Car is from Texas and has "no issues". submitted by sackofcigars_8956 to Volvo [link] [comments] I was wondering what you guys think if it's a good deal or not. I will be paying cash up front for it if I decide to buy. Seeking advice on this one thanks. |
2024.05.23 06:10 Masquerade1156 Update! Exposing Ex-Husband Coming Soon - Context and My Story
For the original post, visit here: https://www.reddit.com/CharlotteDobreYouTube/comments/1cfl5w1/exposing_exhusband_coming_soon/
Hello everyone, we have some major updates to this coming Petty Revenge story that will involve exposing my ex-husband for who he is and trying to protect the next person from falling into his trap. They will be coming in a separate post once I get everything together.
This is my story for context with the ex-husband. It will be a longer post, to be warned. Trigger warning for those who may be sensitive to stories about abuse and self-harm
Since my original post, the woman who is currently with my ex-husband, (not with as in together, anymore. With as in living with currently until she can find a new place for her and her kids), we have continued to stay in contact, and boy is this the drama intensifying. In short, the ex-husband is still playing his horrible games and turning her life into an ever-living hell.
Some backstory on my side. I will shorten my ex-husband to EH.
I (28F) and EH (36 M) met when I was 18 and he was 26, so there was a bit of an age gap, but that did not matter to either of us. We got engaged roughly 4 or 5 months after we started officially dating and we moved in together at the request of my parents as we could not fit everyone into the same home we were renting at the time. Things of course started off great. He seemed like a decent man who had his life at least somewhat figured out. He loved to cook and usually worked in some form of cooking-related job. However, never really seemed to be able to keep a job for too long but at the time, I didn't think much of it, given I was 19 and wearing rose-tinted glasses.
Since he couldn't hold a job and we usually had to ask his grandmother for money to keep up with the rent (both worked basically minimum wage jobs at the time) so after a year out of the house, we had to move back in with my parents.
Once we got settled back in there, I started a better-paying job and he had started a new job that was at least okay paying as well so for a bit we were doing okay. We made enough that we adopted 2 horses together and boarded them at a nearby facility. One came in late spring, the other in the summer of about 2016. So after 2 years of being together.
We got married that same year in the fall. Everything seemed perfect. Then came the wedding night... What I thought was my monthly woke me in the middle of the night before it was time to get up to leave for our honeymoon because I was suddenly bleeding very heavily, it freaked me out and we silently went to the ER without telling my family to not cause alarm. Come to find out, I was having a miscarriage. I was a little over 6 weeks pregnant and did not know. Needless to say, not exactly the best way to start your marriage, and did not go on our honeymoon. We never told my parents it happened and very few people know.
We held off until the following year, 2017, to go on our honeymoon. While we were on our honeymoon, I got a call that my mare had come down with a fever and the stable owner was calling vets out to see what was wrong. The first vet played it off saying it was just minor, gave her penicillin, and told the stable owner to give her a cool bath to help her cool down and see if it helped. It did not. They called a 2nd vet after that was not working for a second opinion, and my mare was diagnosed with Potomac Fever. Since it had been a few days since she started her fever, giving her the correct medicines at that point as she was getting very poorly was a 50/50 chance of whether they would help or not. We did cut our vacation as short as we could, but we ended up having to wait to come home as our board check removed what we had left to come home on so we had no money until we got paid again, luckily that same week.
The day before we were able to return, my favorite singer, Chester Bennington passed away. I was devasted. When we did get to the stable, we bought some supplies the stable owner advised us to get, mainly wraps and bags of ice to help ice my mare's feet to try to help keep her fever at bay. We were advised by the vet when they stopped by the check on her that the next day they would bring out an x-ray machine to see if the bones in her feet had turned down or not. If they had not, then she had a chance of making a full recovery and staying sound, and everything would be okay. If they had, then she would likely never be able to be ridden again and need a lot of corrective shoeing and therapy which would be very expensive. We were also trying to keep her on her feet as if she went down and we could not get her back up, it would be a death sentence.
The next morning I went to the stable as early as I was able and.. disaster. I was met by the stable owner and he had advised that my mare had been down when he checked on her sometime in the early morning, around 3 or 4 AM. He was able to get her up then but wasn't able to tell how long she had been down before he found her and got her up, however, she had gone down again and had refused to get up. I was so heartbroken and went to her and tried for a good hour or so while my parents showed up. I was in tears telling them we'd probably be putting her down because she was down. We did get her up, but the damage at that point was done. She was down way too long and she has very noticeable nerve damage. Hardly able to walk, went to the bathroom in spurts, and was so unsteady on her feet that she could barely stay up. When the vet came, we let her know what was going on. They looked her over and advised that her fever was gone, but the damage would probably be permanent without very expensive therapy throughout the years and would never be the same again. It was the humane choice to let her go and she crossed the rainbow bridge that day. I only had her a year and 2 weeks on the nose, but she was my best friend, my heart horse, and I miss her terribly to this day, soon to be 7 years later come July.
After this happened, EH and I went through a bit of a rocky patch. For a week or so he was supportive and seemed to care that I was grieving the loss of my mare, but after a little while it turned into arguments about how I could still be upset, time had passed we still had our other horse so I should be fine, all sorts of crazy things. I couldn't understand how he could say those things to me, especially when he knew I was so close with my mare and had many great plans with and for her that were now of course, not possible. He didn't care so I just stopped going to him when I was upset about it.
Fast forward to late fall of 2018, we decided to move out of the home we were living with my brother in and move into a house owned by his grandmother for a work opportunity for my EH. He ended up getting the job which solidified us moving. Moving didn't go so bad, however, I had to leave my job to move so I was without for a bit until I got a job at the same place he was working at, which was a casino. Usually, we worked separately as he was a cook and I was a cashier for the different food areas, but sometimes we worked in the same area. I much preferred to be in a different area than him cause if we worked in the same restaurant that night, it would get exhausting with him trying to joke around and make passes at me in front of people and joke around that it was the husband and wife team and everything was great. The first few times it happened, sure it was actually kind of funny because we had worked through some stuff and were doing okay at that point, but it did get a bit old and repetitive at some point, and never had any personal space. Plus, I was the one driving because he had a suspended license at the time so I was stuck with him most of the time after the new food court opened. We got our first puppy together for my 22nd birthday the day after New Years, 2019.
We moved on to work with a co-worker at a duck farm in the area we lived which was kind of a fun job. He was hired full-time and I was part-time. We took care of thousands of ducks every day doing whatever needed to be done from farm maintenance, giving them vaccines, sorting them, tagging them, etc. I kind of miss that job as it was an interesting one to have. All was well during these times, but we did sometimes have arguments because he felt since I didn't work as much that this somehow meant I was being lazy around the house and could stand to do more cooking and cleaning (which I was already doing a majority of anyway). It turned into a lot of gaslighting arguments that made me feel like maybe I was not doing enough so I took on more than what I was already doing. With the new puppy and at that time 7 fish tanks ranging from 5 gallons to 150 gallons with over 100 total fish and the entire house to clean and outside work to do, I was busy most of the time he was not home. Of course, as soon as he got home, he would find 1 dirty little thing that I didn't get to or something that wasn't to his standards and he'd excuse me for doing nothing or not knowing how to do anything right. We got jobs working for the same place after the duck farm mysteriously let him go for unknown reasons, which I can now only assume were his fault. We met some nice co-workers and got our second puppy from one in late fall of 2019. My dogs could be Irish twins because their birthdays are a little over 9 months apart.
Things started to decline after this, especially during covid, 2020. I got it very early on when they didn't know what it was and was bad enough that I could not work at all because I was struggling to breathe and function most of the time for months afterward. He did help me some but not much more than getting cough medicine and checking on me every once in a while other than that, he wasn't around me much due to having to work or just not coming around me when he was home, which fair, didn't want to bring sickness to the workplace. We were laid off from that job though in the downsizing.
In that time, he started abusing online slot games, and the extra money we had that we had previously discussed was to be saved for either a newer vehicle or even maybe a home of our own down the road he used to get coins or boosts in his games. They were not the ones you could win actual money from so he was just purely wasting hundreds of dollars pretty much every week or every couple of weeks on these games. I also found he had been spending money online on sites such as OF and other smut websites and paying for NSFW stuff online. Also found he was cheating on me with one person on OF when I got a pinged message from his email chats on my laptop. I, of course, wanted to see what was happening and found everything he had been saying to this girl.
He was telling her around times we'd go visit my parents for the weekend that he was going out of town to his family but didn't say with whom. They would ask him how he was single and he would just say "Oh I don't know, just unlucky I guess" and things along these longs. I wasn't even given roommate status, He stated he lived alone. Had the 2 dogs, all the fish, was woah is me with it all. I confronted him about it and of course, he tried to deny everything, tried to say I was probably the one cheating, and was just trying to blame him, you know, totally normal sane reaction... not. We got into it pretty good, nothing physical, but we did not talk to each other for a bit, I had considered leaving to be with my best friend at that time, but ultimately we started talking and wanted to attempt to work things out. He of course promised not to do it again, he'd be better, all that good stuff so I decided to give him another chance. Of course, I realize that was a major mistake now, but you live and learn, unfortunately.
Things smoothed out for a bit and went back to being okay again. We had a chance to expand our animals so we took it, it was kind of an apology gift in all honesty. We gained 4 rabbits from my best friend in the late-ish summer of 2020. I met her for the first time in the at the time 8 years we had been talking (we met online) so that was great. I am coming to realize that gaining all the animals we did in our time together may have been a coping mechanism for me because I had something that was depending on me and loved on me so in some ways I realize I do have a lot of animals due to this, but I am also an animal lover and love all of my animals and they are very much spoiled rotten every day. They still bring me immense joy and are a highlight of my life even if they were gained with EH. We still had our other horse, a gelding, at this time yet as well and he had been moved to a new boarding facility that was close to where we had moved to. So things were great at this time. In 2021 in the summer I gained a leopard gecko, and in the fall I gained a Russian tortoise as well.
Backtracking a little to around the end of August 2020, I gained my current job and I was excited to start a new at-home job so I could work and not have to worry about going out and potentially getting deathly sick again. I do have RA so I do have a compromised immune system. He started back to work where we were working as they had started hiring people back, so I was happy to have a quiet background which was needed for my job. Well, that did not last long. 2 weeks after going back, he didn't go to work for a day or 2 and I asked him if he was going to work. He stated he was using his paid vacation time and had taken the next 2 weeks off because he "needed a break" from work because he was feeling burnt out even though he had only been back 2 weeks and wanted some time to do stuff around the house. I thought this was odd and he never asked if this was okay... I only found out when he stayed home instead of going to work as scheduled.
He did go back after those 2 weeks off but he only stayed about another month and it happened again that he did not go in for a day or 2 when he was supposed to be working so I asked him what was going on. He told me he had quit the job because it was burning him out and he did not enjoy the job anymore. I found this odd yet again because he did not express any of these feelings before doing so and never asked me. I was furious and asked him how he thought this was okay because in our budget I had made up for us (because he wouldn't) there was no way for us to survive on my income alone for long and we would likely have to destroy our savings to stay afloat. He stated he would look for another job right away, he just wanted some time to figure out what he wanted to do. How, when he had only just gone back to work after about 5 months off, I don't know, but it was what it was, I made it clear he had to find work.
At that time, around the beginning of 2021 or so, maybe more coming into spring, he started his online slot spending again, and I had found he never deleted his OF account and was talking to another girl that I didn't know about saying the same things he was before, except he was talking to this girl the ENTIRE TIME he was talking to the other one. I just didn't catch it cause he had deleted messages so I didn't see it apparently when I found the first one. So not only had he lied about going to delete the OF and other smut stuff, but he had actively continued to talk to another girl for the entire year and a half almost that he claimed he was working on us and our relationship.
Needless to say, I exploded internally and waited for him to come home after helping his gram with something. I had a plan. When he got home, I played it cool like any other day. Asked him how his gram was, what he did at her house, and all that, normal. Then, I calmly asked him who the OF girl was. The color of his face went pale. Or paler anyway. At first asked, who? And acted confused. I reiterated my question of who OF girl was, this time, seriously to let him know the jig is up. He stated he didn't know who I was talking about and didn't know anyone by that name. I pulled up his OF account on my computer and was like, oh really? then explain all of this, and scrolled through the months of messages with this girl.
He had the AUDACITY to continue denying it was him and said he probably got hacked. I found a picture of him fully in the nude in the full-length mirror in the bathroom that he had sent her and said, "Oh yeah? Then how do you explain this picture?" and continued to more of his parts he was sending to the girl and continued to ask and this to all them. He had nowhere to hide. I had also already downloaded copies of everything and sent them to my best friend (the one we got the rabbits from) so in case he wanted to delete everything and call me crazy, I had the proof that I was not and he did these things.
Eventually, he admitted to continuing talking to her even though he said he had stopped. His reasoning? Apparently, he didn't feel the same spark in our marriage or relationship that he had originally felt and felt like I was distancing myself from him and it just wasn't the same between us. He also stated that he felt as if his efforts to make our relationship work weren't being seen by me and he didn't feel appreciated in the relationship. I, of course, asked him what he meant because at that point I had been just trusting his word that he wouldn't do anything else and would stop. He hadn't done anything else. No romantic gestures, no help around the house, offering to grab food when we needed it, take care of me while I was sick, offer to take over any form of bills or anything financial that I was solely doing at that point because he didn't want the responsibility of and had stated beforehand he didn't want the responsibility of.. nothing. Absolutely nothing. Everything was always on me, and I was the one burdening myself and driving myself crazy, even when I had another health scare thinking I had a DVT because I had sudden swelling in my left leg around my knee area and would get sudden bouts of breathlessness and was advised to take it easy and remove as much stress as possible for a bit in case I did have one to avoid a possible clot from going into my brain or lungs. Luckily, I did not have it, or any clots. I was under so much mental and physical stress that my body was reacting negatively.
This did not stop him from continuing my stresses at all. I also developed Vocal Cord Dysfunction when I had covid and stress makes it worse so on top of the sudden swelling and breathlessness, the stress was also activating the VCD and constantly making it feel like someone was choking me full force, which would trigger anxiety attacks because of course I felt like someone was choking me full force and like I couldn't breathe and wasn't breathing or at least wasn't breathing normally. It's an awful experience that I wouldn't wish even on my worst enemies.
Despite all the cheating, I never mentioned a word to my parents even up until that point, but they had a feeling something was going on because I was probably being a bit distant with them. I didn't want anyone to know at the time and thought I could fix things. Things only got worse. When he did finally get a job, not until mid-2021, so at that point he'd been out of work almost a year, he again picked up his gambling habits. What made things worse and started to spin more out of control was the pizza shop he had gotten a job at installed slot machines for their customers to play if they wished.
You can only guess what happened from there. While he was making decent money at the time, I saw hardly any of it because he would gamble most of his income at those slot machines. I would tell him what bills needed to go out of our joint account (I had a separate account for myself for my pay, but a portion went into the joint) from his pay, and he would say okay got it won't spend anything over that, won't play this week since we won't have a lot left over, etc etc etc... and magically pretty much all of the money would be gone and I would be forced to dip into our savings to save our bills from going out of date and overdue and gets fees we could not afford.
For context, the joint account was after I paid most of everything else out of my account before seeing what needed to go out of the joint account as well. Usually, the joint account would be needed to cover our rent to his gram, groceries, gas, vet appointments for the animals, medical or dental appointments for myself or him, and pretty much anything other than rent that was a necessity. I took care of the actual main bills out of my pay. As stated above, EH wanted nothing to do with the financial responsibility of ensuring all the bills such as our electricity, water, heat, phones, and internet were paid for on time because "I was better at keeping track of that stuff". I took that on because since I worked from home, I needed to make sure 100% I would have internet and electricity, or else I wouldn't have a job, and I couldn't lose my job over something so stupid as not paying my bills on time. I am not that irresponsible.
In about mid-fall 2021, he was at work and I had requested the day off to take our dogs, then 2 and 3, to the vet for their yearly check-ups and vaccinations so they were good for the coming year. He had just gotten paid the day before and I checked the joint account before I left the house with the dogs and saw that so far, he had not done anything with the money, so all was good and I proceeded to take the dogs to the vet. They did fine. It comes time to check out and pay for the vet visit and... the debit card for the joint account declines and says insufficient funds. Confused, I asked them to try it again before looking because I knew I saw that there was more than enough to cover their bill before I left. Nothing, same thing, it says it's declined due to insufficient funds.
I began to panic because, at this point, we had $0 in our savings because of his antics up until that point, and if I used my bank card, while it would go through, would put me into the negative until payday, which was not until the next week. I checked the joint account and low and behold, within the 2 or 3 hours I was gone, he somehow blew through almost $1,000 in withdrawals to gamble, pretty much his entire pay and I had less than $100 in that account. He had gambled his entire pay when he knew I was out to a vet appointment at that current moment. I paid with my bank card so I could leave, as at that vet clinic, you had to pay for the services before leaving or they would not let you leave, or not let you leave with your animals at the very least until the bill was paid in full. They had no bill me later options.
Needless to say, I was fuming the entire drive home and immediately messaged him about it when I got home and the dogs settled. He messaged me back right away with a BS excuse that he forgot that was what was happening that day even though right above those messages he could see I reminded him I was going to the vet, told him I was leaving for the vet, and was at the vet currently, all of which he replied to.
It of course ended up in an argument when he got home and after a long time arguing he stated he didn't understand what all the fuss was about since I had covered the bill just fine. He was using his pay the way he wanted and that's how it should be. He dared to say my pay went to what I wanted and it wasn't fair I was putting such a tight leash on him and his spending when I spent money on myself all the time, which is not true. I reminded him of this very quickly and showed him my bank account was in the negative because of today due to paying all of the necessary bills we needed, not because I was spending on myself and reminded him if I didn't pay the internet and electricity especially, I wouldn't be able to work which was not in the cards with how his spending was.
I forbade him from spending anything without my okay at this point and in a last-ditch effort, took away and cut up his bank cards and hid mine where he wouldn't find them. This did stop his spending because he didn't have a way to spend. I would only give him my bank card if he asked to get something we needed or he needed, and he was to give it back immediately after use or as soon as he could give it back if he took it to work to get something after work like smokes or something for the house. If any cash withdrawals went out, he wasn't allowed to take it again for a while. This continued into 2022 and it worked, I could relax a little as he was starting to earn trust. Say what you will, but it had to be done. At the end of 2021, 2 days before New Year 2022, we, unfortunately, lost our other horse to a long battle with sickness so we were down to just our dogs, the rabbits, reptiles, and 3 fish tanks because we decided to downgrade on the fish keeping. After all, water was getting expensive to maintain all 7 we had.
The loss of our gelding, unfortunately, turned out to be a good thing, as after we had him euthanized and I had allowed EH to have a bank card of his own again because he had been doing very well, it wasn't long before he was back to his old habits of draining his pays. Only, without the about $400 a month board for our gelding going out anymore, it was much worse. There would have been no way we would have been able to afford to keep him after that. It got to the point I again, took his card away, but then he started finding where I was hiding both of my cards and would drain not only the joint account but also my account. This led to us getting behind in rent especially, on some of my credit card payments which had by that time gotten completely maxed out, and on payments to loans I had taken out to try to get us back on track. Not good.
This continued to no avail throughout 2022. I had many conversations with friends trying to see if there was anything I could do. I was at my wits end with all the constant fighting over finances, continued accusations of cheating, making me feel like I was worthless and not doing enough to try to get him to see reason, wondering why I was not good enough for him to want to change and get his act together, mental and emotional abuse, manipulative actions, almost anything you can think of. I wanted it to stop and I was getting tired of trying. My mental and emotional health declined greatly. My friends of course wanted to support me in whatever I wanted to try to do, but they also didn't like seeing me decline as much as I was.
I had a mental breakdown one night and basically did a 2005 Brittany Spears to my hair. I didn't shave everything off, however, a good 90% of my hair was shaved off and what I did have left was very much chopped and looked horrible. I did get most of it fixed, but needed help with the back, so I asked him to try to fix it up so it didn't look so chopped off. I was already not the best mentally and my anxiety was through the roof. I had simply asked him to just be careful and not accidentally cut or nick me. Pretty simple. As I was anxious, I asked him a few times, and was a bit flinchy when he was close to me. He took this the wrong way and threw the scissors down and started screaming at me that if I wasn't going to calm down and hold still I could do it myself and blew past me out the bathroom door. The door almost hit me when he swung it open and I just completely lost it. I sobbed and was in such a bad state of mind that I ended up scratching my arms to the point I made them bleed and covered with scratches. He didn't care or do anything about it, he had gone outside and taken the car and drove up leaving me there alone. I bandaged up my arms. They stung for weeks and I still have a few light scars. Not a very proud moment, but one that drew me closer to knowing I had to leave. The stress I was under was too much.
My now current boyfriend, whom we'll call BF, (32 M) came into the mix towards the end of summer 2022, introduced to me by my best friend after she found him gaming in Fallout, mixed in with my friends, and took their stance as well that if I wanted to try to make things work, he would try to be as supportive as possible. Over time though, he and my friends slowly cracked and smashed through my rose-tinted glasses to help me see that what was happening was not my fault, and was not an okay situation to be in. My best friend then distanced herself thinking I was choosing BF over her after we started talking more and we were hanging out more playing games together. She decided to end our 11-year friendship amid things even though she knew I needed her and we were not replacing her with each other, we just happened to be growing closer. We attempted to include her in things but she chose to leave and distance herself, stating to me later she regretted ever introducing us.
My BF and other friends became my main support systems, and I decided enough was enough and it was time to let go. I had fallen out of love with my EH for some time but didn't want to admit to it. The marriage was over. I told EH I wanted a divorce but he did not believe me. He said I was being crazy for thinking we should end things, but I knew I was not.
While he was at work one night toward the end of October 2022, I went online and found a service that would assist me in getting the papers we needed to start the divorce process and bought them on the joint account so he could see I was serious.
When he came home, I was on the computer with my friends on Discord, playing a game together. He came in screaming with an anger I had never heard before... He had screamed at me before, but this was different. He was screaming at me to get out of the house, that I needed to get out now, he didn't want to see me in the morning, he didn't care if he wasn't allowed to do that cause he was doing it anyway, he was so angry and my friends and BF heard him through my headset. One of my friends told him to shut up and calm down and EF snapped and screamed at them to shut up and stay out of it.
He then came straight for me and slammed my laptop shut so hard I was afraid he broke it, ripped my headset off my head, and threw me from my chair, continuing to scream at the top of his lungs that he wanted me out right then and there if I wanted to me that way. It all happened so fast, I couldn't stop shaking and looking at him, not expecting this. He had never put his hands on me before. Ripping the headset off my head nearly caught on my industrial earring, which would have been horrible if it caught and ripped out. Luckily it didn't.
Once I got past the initial shock, I stood up and lit into him that he couldn't just kick me out because he was mad I was finally done with him and the relationship, and the audacity he had to lay his hands on me. I needed time to get a place to live because of my work. I needed to get my options figured out, get the animals we had sorted out if I could keep them all or not, everything. I needed to make sure I was sorted out and he would have to deal with the fact that I had to do these things before I could get out of the house.
His anger turned into tears and he began crying and pleading with me not to go and crying he'd do better and be a better person and all the things he promised beforehand. He couldn't believe what he saw when he saw the request for divorce papers, he was sorry for putting his hands on me, the works. It did not work. I assured him I was going and needed to get things sorted out.
The next day I called my parents and told them what had happened and that I needed a place to stay or at least help looking for a place to stay. My parents and brother agreed that they would take me in as they owned and lived in a house, and I could live in the basement of the house so I had a room to myself and had room for my animals as well. I did have to rehome 2 of the 4 rabbits, however, they went to a loving home with a cousin of my brother's girlfriend who was experienced with rabbits and currently had some that 2 could intermingle with. So that worked in my favor.
I didn't think I would have room for both dogs and rabbits remaining, so EH decided he wanted to keep 1 dog and 1 rabbit. He wanted our first dog (the one gotten for my 22nd birthday) and the original rabbit he chose from my now former best friend. I agreed and kept our 2nd dog and the original rabbit I chose from my former best friend. I also was keeping the leopard gecko, tortoise, and fish. However, my parents agreed that if in the future EH ever decided to get rid of or no longer wanted our first dog and the other rabbit, they would allow them to come as well (important in a bit).
I made the move to my parent's house in mid-November 2022 and started the process for divorce. While I was getting the first papers ready to go and sent to EH to start the process, EH would continuously text me and harass me even when I asked him to stop messaging me. He would continuously say he wanted me to stay with him, he would change, ask how I could do this to us as by that time we have been married 6 years and together for 8. Trying to manipulate me into coming back with promises of change.
My response was to send him the first official papers to start the divorce process. In my state, once you initiate the process and request for legal divorce, and the request is approved, you have to wait 90 days before you can then submit the final paperwork to request to make the divorce official because the relationship is not going to work, both parties want the divorce, etc.
I had to send the papers a second time because they were not done properly the first time, but the second try was approved so the 90-day waiting time to submit the final papers began.
He continued to harass and message me multiple times throughout the first month, and then his harassment to try to get me to stay turned into distasteful language and cursing me out, saying he didn't need me he already moved on and had someone else so didn't need me anymore. All ploys were more than likely to see if I would suddenly want him. I did not react other than to say good because I had also already moved on and was with someone, my BF, so I was looking forward to being rid of him so I could be with my BF in peace and not have to worry about him anymore.
At that, he stopped messaging me finally, and I moved all correspondence to email instead of text and messenger for more formal communications only when I had updates regarding our pending divorce.
In about April 2023, I had a bad feeling about the well-being of my first dog and other rabbit so in an update email to let him know we had reached the 90th day so the next day I could start getting the finalization paperwork in, I asked him how both were doing and if I may have a picture of them just to ease my mind that they were doing okay and was maybe just nerves about losing them for good.
He met this simple request with utter anger and venom, stating he didn't have to tell me how they were doing and wasn't going to send any pictures. I was being crazy, they were fine so I shouldn't be asking or worrying about anything. This set alarm bells off in my mind because it was just a simple request to see how they were doing, and so far, legally, still, partly my animals until the divorce was final. I advised him of this and this time demanded proof that both the dog and rabbit were doing well or I would be calling animal welfare as a precaution to ensure their well-being and would want them back ASAP if not met, as I wanted them back if he was not taking care of them.
He again refused stating he didn't have to prove anything and that if I asked again, he'd report me for harassment and false accusations of animal abuse. Not wanting any legal trouble with a pending divorce, I dropped it and didn't ask again.
However, 2 weeks later I got a nasty email saying if I wanted my other dog and rabbit back so badly I could have them, as the dog had been whining so much it was annoying him and he didn't want to deal with it anymore. His sister was getting married in 2 weeks, so I asked if he wanted to have them out before or after the wedding since I was attending the wedding along with my brother and his girlfriend and would be in the area, but could get them earlier if needed. He opted for the week before the wedding because he wanted her especially gone. I asked about the rabbit and he said he changed his mind and wanted to keep the rabbit, but if I wanted her too, I could take her as well. I kindly advised the rabbit would be coming back with me as well as I did not want her alone with him anymore. I told my parents what was up and they agreed they could come home much to my relief.
That weekend in May 2023, my brother and I went to EH's house to pick up my dog and rabbit. The moment I saw them, I was so heartbroken and angry. The rabbit was in a tiny hutch meant just to hold them while we cleaned their big enclosure that obviously had not been cleaned or taken care of in some time and dirty murky brown water to drink. It was obvious she had been couped up there for some time, as her enclosure wall panels were broken down and on the porch. My dog was completely emaciated and in horrible condition. Her nails were overgrown, and she was skin and bones. You could see her ribs, spine, and hip bones, and her face was sunken in. Neglected and not taken care of or fed in some time.
I was so angry I grabbed them and put them in the vehicle and let my brother take care of EH. He talked to him for a bit as I called my parents crying telling them what kind of state my animals were in. They were furious. When we got home, they had the dog I kept outside so he could see his sister come home and they wanted to film their reunion and also show what EH did to her. My mother broke into tears when I carefully got my dog out of the car. She was so excited to see my parents again and her brother. And he was so excited to finally see her again. He had been so depressed without her as he grew up with her of course. It was a beautiful reunion but so depressing and sad because of how deplorable of a condition she was in.
My rabbits immediately went to each other when I put the other into the enclosure with the one I kept. They knew who each other were as well and they started grooming each other and cuddling together like they used to like nothing happened. Both my dogs and my rabbits are inseparable now. They can't stand to be away from each other.
The divorce was finalized in June 2023 and I made sure I had no forms of contact with EH again, blocking him on everything.
I can say I have found a wonderful man in my BF and he has helped me so much and been with me through all of this, we couldn't be happier to be able to be together without people asking how we're together if I'm married to someone else even though I was getting a divorce and no longer with EH. Mainly very religious family members who made a fuss about it, but still was a bit ridiculous.
If you reached the end of this and read every bit, if you have any questions feel free to comment below. An update in a separate post will be coming within the next day or so about what's going on with the woman who is currently with the ex-husband.
This was my story in this, context you may or may not want as not everyone's stories gets told. I am telling mine now as everyone in these situations should.
submitted by Masquerade1156 to CharlotteDobreYouTube [link] [comments]
Hello everyone, we have some major updates to this coming Petty Revenge story that will involve exposing my ex-husband for who he is and trying to protect the next person from falling into his trap. They will be coming in a separate post once I get everything together.
This is my story for context with the ex-husband. It will be a longer post, to be warned. Trigger warning for those who may be sensitive to stories about abuse and self-harm
Since my original post, the woman who is currently with my ex-husband, (not with as in together, anymore. With as in living with currently until she can find a new place for her and her kids), we have continued to stay in contact, and boy is this the drama intensifying. In short, the ex-husband is still playing his horrible games and turning her life into an ever-living hell.
Some backstory on my side. I will shorten my ex-husband to EH.
I (28F) and EH (36 M) met when I was 18 and he was 26, so there was a bit of an age gap, but that did not matter to either of us. We got engaged roughly 4 or 5 months after we started officially dating and we moved in together at the request of my parents as we could not fit everyone into the same home we were renting at the time. Things of course started off great. He seemed like a decent man who had his life at least somewhat figured out. He loved to cook and usually worked in some form of cooking-related job. However, never really seemed to be able to keep a job for too long but at the time, I didn't think much of it, given I was 19 and wearing rose-tinted glasses.
Since he couldn't hold a job and we usually had to ask his grandmother for money to keep up with the rent (both worked basically minimum wage jobs at the time) so after a year out of the house, we had to move back in with my parents.
Once we got settled back in there, I started a better-paying job and he had started a new job that was at least okay paying as well so for a bit we were doing okay. We made enough that we adopted 2 horses together and boarded them at a nearby facility. One came in late spring, the other in the summer of about 2016. So after 2 years of being together.
We got married that same year in the fall. Everything seemed perfect. Then came the wedding night... What I thought was my monthly woke me in the middle of the night before it was time to get up to leave for our honeymoon because I was suddenly bleeding very heavily, it freaked me out and we silently went to the ER without telling my family to not cause alarm. Come to find out, I was having a miscarriage. I was a little over 6 weeks pregnant and did not know. Needless to say, not exactly the best way to start your marriage, and did not go on our honeymoon. We never told my parents it happened and very few people know.
We held off until the following year, 2017, to go on our honeymoon. While we were on our honeymoon, I got a call that my mare had come down with a fever and the stable owner was calling vets out to see what was wrong. The first vet played it off saying it was just minor, gave her penicillin, and told the stable owner to give her a cool bath to help her cool down and see if it helped. It did not. They called a 2nd vet after that was not working for a second opinion, and my mare was diagnosed with Potomac Fever. Since it had been a few days since she started her fever, giving her the correct medicines at that point as she was getting very poorly was a 50/50 chance of whether they would help or not. We did cut our vacation as short as we could, but we ended up having to wait to come home as our board check removed what we had left to come home on so we had no money until we got paid again, luckily that same week.
The day before we were able to return, my favorite singer, Chester Bennington passed away. I was devasted. When we did get to the stable, we bought some supplies the stable owner advised us to get, mainly wraps and bags of ice to help ice my mare's feet to try to help keep her fever at bay. We were advised by the vet when they stopped by the check on her that the next day they would bring out an x-ray machine to see if the bones in her feet had turned down or not. If they had not, then she had a chance of making a full recovery and staying sound, and everything would be okay. If they had, then she would likely never be able to be ridden again and need a lot of corrective shoeing and therapy which would be very expensive. We were also trying to keep her on her feet as if she went down and we could not get her back up, it would be a death sentence.
The next morning I went to the stable as early as I was able and.. disaster. I was met by the stable owner and he had advised that my mare had been down when he checked on her sometime in the early morning, around 3 or 4 AM. He was able to get her up then but wasn't able to tell how long she had been down before he found her and got her up, however, she had gone down again and had refused to get up. I was so heartbroken and went to her and tried for a good hour or so while my parents showed up. I was in tears telling them we'd probably be putting her down because she was down. We did get her up, but the damage at that point was done. She was down way too long and she has very noticeable nerve damage. Hardly able to walk, went to the bathroom in spurts, and was so unsteady on her feet that she could barely stay up. When the vet came, we let her know what was going on. They looked her over and advised that her fever was gone, but the damage would probably be permanent without very expensive therapy throughout the years and would never be the same again. It was the humane choice to let her go and she crossed the rainbow bridge that day. I only had her a year and 2 weeks on the nose, but she was my best friend, my heart horse, and I miss her terribly to this day, soon to be 7 years later come July.
After this happened, EH and I went through a bit of a rocky patch. For a week or so he was supportive and seemed to care that I was grieving the loss of my mare, but after a little while it turned into arguments about how I could still be upset, time had passed we still had our other horse so I should be fine, all sorts of crazy things. I couldn't understand how he could say those things to me, especially when he knew I was so close with my mare and had many great plans with and for her that were now of course, not possible. He didn't care so I just stopped going to him when I was upset about it.
Fast forward to late fall of 2018, we decided to move out of the home we were living with my brother in and move into a house owned by his grandmother for a work opportunity for my EH. He ended up getting the job which solidified us moving. Moving didn't go so bad, however, I had to leave my job to move so I was without for a bit until I got a job at the same place he was working at, which was a casino. Usually, we worked separately as he was a cook and I was a cashier for the different food areas, but sometimes we worked in the same area. I much preferred to be in a different area than him cause if we worked in the same restaurant that night, it would get exhausting with him trying to joke around and make passes at me in front of people and joke around that it was the husband and wife team and everything was great. The first few times it happened, sure it was actually kind of funny because we had worked through some stuff and were doing okay at that point, but it did get a bit old and repetitive at some point, and never had any personal space. Plus, I was the one driving because he had a suspended license at the time so I was stuck with him most of the time after the new food court opened. We got our first puppy together for my 22nd birthday the day after New Years, 2019.
We moved on to work with a co-worker at a duck farm in the area we lived which was kind of a fun job. He was hired full-time and I was part-time. We took care of thousands of ducks every day doing whatever needed to be done from farm maintenance, giving them vaccines, sorting them, tagging them, etc. I kind of miss that job as it was an interesting one to have. All was well during these times, but we did sometimes have arguments because he felt since I didn't work as much that this somehow meant I was being lazy around the house and could stand to do more cooking and cleaning (which I was already doing a majority of anyway). It turned into a lot of gaslighting arguments that made me feel like maybe I was not doing enough so I took on more than what I was already doing. With the new puppy and at that time 7 fish tanks ranging from 5 gallons to 150 gallons with over 100 total fish and the entire house to clean and outside work to do, I was busy most of the time he was not home. Of course, as soon as he got home, he would find 1 dirty little thing that I didn't get to or something that wasn't to his standards and he'd excuse me for doing nothing or not knowing how to do anything right. We got jobs working for the same place after the duck farm mysteriously let him go for unknown reasons, which I can now only assume were his fault. We met some nice co-workers and got our second puppy from one in late fall of 2019. My dogs could be Irish twins because their birthdays are a little over 9 months apart.
Things started to decline after this, especially during covid, 2020. I got it very early on when they didn't know what it was and was bad enough that I could not work at all because I was struggling to breathe and function most of the time for months afterward. He did help me some but not much more than getting cough medicine and checking on me every once in a while other than that, he wasn't around me much due to having to work or just not coming around me when he was home, which fair, didn't want to bring sickness to the workplace. We were laid off from that job though in the downsizing.
In that time, he started abusing online slot games, and the extra money we had that we had previously discussed was to be saved for either a newer vehicle or even maybe a home of our own down the road he used to get coins or boosts in his games. They were not the ones you could win actual money from so he was just purely wasting hundreds of dollars pretty much every week or every couple of weeks on these games. I also found he had been spending money online on sites such as OF and other smut websites and paying for NSFW stuff online. Also found he was cheating on me with one person on OF when I got a pinged message from his email chats on my laptop. I, of course, wanted to see what was happening and found everything he had been saying to this girl.
He was telling her around times we'd go visit my parents for the weekend that he was going out of town to his family but didn't say with whom. They would ask him how he was single and he would just say "Oh I don't know, just unlucky I guess" and things along these longs. I wasn't even given roommate status, He stated he lived alone. Had the 2 dogs, all the fish, was woah is me with it all. I confronted him about it and of course, he tried to deny everything, tried to say I was probably the one cheating, and was just trying to blame him, you know, totally normal sane reaction... not. We got into it pretty good, nothing physical, but we did not talk to each other for a bit, I had considered leaving to be with my best friend at that time, but ultimately we started talking and wanted to attempt to work things out. He of course promised not to do it again, he'd be better, all that good stuff so I decided to give him another chance. Of course, I realize that was a major mistake now, but you live and learn, unfortunately.
Things smoothed out for a bit and went back to being okay again. We had a chance to expand our animals so we took it, it was kind of an apology gift in all honesty. We gained 4 rabbits from my best friend in the late-ish summer of 2020. I met her for the first time in the at the time 8 years we had been talking (we met online) so that was great. I am coming to realize that gaining all the animals we did in our time together may have been a coping mechanism for me because I had something that was depending on me and loved on me so in some ways I realize I do have a lot of animals due to this, but I am also an animal lover and love all of my animals and they are very much spoiled rotten every day. They still bring me immense joy and are a highlight of my life even if they were gained with EH. We still had our other horse, a gelding, at this time yet as well and he had been moved to a new boarding facility that was close to where we had moved to. So things were great at this time. In 2021 in the summer I gained a leopard gecko, and in the fall I gained a Russian tortoise as well.
Backtracking a little to around the end of August 2020, I gained my current job and I was excited to start a new at-home job so I could work and not have to worry about going out and potentially getting deathly sick again. I do have RA so I do have a compromised immune system. He started back to work where we were working as they had started hiring people back, so I was happy to have a quiet background which was needed for my job. Well, that did not last long. 2 weeks after going back, he didn't go to work for a day or 2 and I asked him if he was going to work. He stated he was using his paid vacation time and had taken the next 2 weeks off because he "needed a break" from work because he was feeling burnt out even though he had only been back 2 weeks and wanted some time to do stuff around the house. I thought this was odd and he never asked if this was okay... I only found out when he stayed home instead of going to work as scheduled.
He did go back after those 2 weeks off but he only stayed about another month and it happened again that he did not go in for a day or 2 when he was supposed to be working so I asked him what was going on. He told me he had quit the job because it was burning him out and he did not enjoy the job anymore. I found this odd yet again because he did not express any of these feelings before doing so and never asked me. I was furious and asked him how he thought this was okay because in our budget I had made up for us (because he wouldn't) there was no way for us to survive on my income alone for long and we would likely have to destroy our savings to stay afloat. He stated he would look for another job right away, he just wanted some time to figure out what he wanted to do. How, when he had only just gone back to work after about 5 months off, I don't know, but it was what it was, I made it clear he had to find work.
At that time, around the beginning of 2021 or so, maybe more coming into spring, he started his online slot spending again, and I had found he never deleted his OF account and was talking to another girl that I didn't know about saying the same things he was before, except he was talking to this girl the ENTIRE TIME he was talking to the other one. I just didn't catch it cause he had deleted messages so I didn't see it apparently when I found the first one. So not only had he lied about going to delete the OF and other smut stuff, but he had actively continued to talk to another girl for the entire year and a half almost that he claimed he was working on us and our relationship.
Needless to say, I exploded internally and waited for him to come home after helping his gram with something. I had a plan. When he got home, I played it cool like any other day. Asked him how his gram was, what he did at her house, and all that, normal. Then, I calmly asked him who the OF girl was. The color of his face went pale. Or paler anyway. At first asked, who? And acted confused. I reiterated my question of who OF girl was, this time, seriously to let him know the jig is up. He stated he didn't know who I was talking about and didn't know anyone by that name. I pulled up his OF account on my computer and was like, oh really? then explain all of this, and scrolled through the months of messages with this girl.
He had the AUDACITY to continue denying it was him and said he probably got hacked. I found a picture of him fully in the nude in the full-length mirror in the bathroom that he had sent her and said, "Oh yeah? Then how do you explain this picture?" and continued to more of his parts he was sending to the girl and continued to ask and this to all them. He had nowhere to hide. I had also already downloaded copies of everything and sent them to my best friend (the one we got the rabbits from) so in case he wanted to delete everything and call me crazy, I had the proof that I was not and he did these things.
Eventually, he admitted to continuing talking to her even though he said he had stopped. His reasoning? Apparently, he didn't feel the same spark in our marriage or relationship that he had originally felt and felt like I was distancing myself from him and it just wasn't the same between us. He also stated that he felt as if his efforts to make our relationship work weren't being seen by me and he didn't feel appreciated in the relationship. I, of course, asked him what he meant because at that point I had been just trusting his word that he wouldn't do anything else and would stop. He hadn't done anything else. No romantic gestures, no help around the house, offering to grab food when we needed it, take care of me while I was sick, offer to take over any form of bills or anything financial that I was solely doing at that point because he didn't want the responsibility of and had stated beforehand he didn't want the responsibility of.. nothing. Absolutely nothing. Everything was always on me, and I was the one burdening myself and driving myself crazy, even when I had another health scare thinking I had a DVT because I had sudden swelling in my left leg around my knee area and would get sudden bouts of breathlessness and was advised to take it easy and remove as much stress as possible for a bit in case I did have one to avoid a possible clot from going into my brain or lungs. Luckily, I did not have it, or any clots. I was under so much mental and physical stress that my body was reacting negatively.
This did not stop him from continuing my stresses at all. I also developed Vocal Cord Dysfunction when I had covid and stress makes it worse so on top of the sudden swelling and breathlessness, the stress was also activating the VCD and constantly making it feel like someone was choking me full force, which would trigger anxiety attacks because of course I felt like someone was choking me full force and like I couldn't breathe and wasn't breathing or at least wasn't breathing normally. It's an awful experience that I wouldn't wish even on my worst enemies.
Despite all the cheating, I never mentioned a word to my parents even up until that point, but they had a feeling something was going on because I was probably being a bit distant with them. I didn't want anyone to know at the time and thought I could fix things. Things only got worse. When he did finally get a job, not until mid-2021, so at that point he'd been out of work almost a year, he again picked up his gambling habits. What made things worse and started to spin more out of control was the pizza shop he had gotten a job at installed slot machines for their customers to play if they wished.
You can only guess what happened from there. While he was making decent money at the time, I saw hardly any of it because he would gamble most of his income at those slot machines. I would tell him what bills needed to go out of our joint account (I had a separate account for myself for my pay, but a portion went into the joint) from his pay, and he would say okay got it won't spend anything over that, won't play this week since we won't have a lot left over, etc etc etc... and magically pretty much all of the money would be gone and I would be forced to dip into our savings to save our bills from going out of date and overdue and gets fees we could not afford.
For context, the joint account was after I paid most of everything else out of my account before seeing what needed to go out of the joint account as well. Usually, the joint account would be needed to cover our rent to his gram, groceries, gas, vet appointments for the animals, medical or dental appointments for myself or him, and pretty much anything other than rent that was a necessity. I took care of the actual main bills out of my pay. As stated above, EH wanted nothing to do with the financial responsibility of ensuring all the bills such as our electricity, water, heat, phones, and internet were paid for on time because "I was better at keeping track of that stuff". I took that on because since I worked from home, I needed to make sure 100% I would have internet and electricity, or else I wouldn't have a job, and I couldn't lose my job over something so stupid as not paying my bills on time. I am not that irresponsible.
In about mid-fall 2021, he was at work and I had requested the day off to take our dogs, then 2 and 3, to the vet for their yearly check-ups and vaccinations so they were good for the coming year. He had just gotten paid the day before and I checked the joint account before I left the house with the dogs and saw that so far, he had not done anything with the money, so all was good and I proceeded to take the dogs to the vet. They did fine. It comes time to check out and pay for the vet visit and... the debit card for the joint account declines and says insufficient funds. Confused, I asked them to try it again before looking because I knew I saw that there was more than enough to cover their bill before I left. Nothing, same thing, it says it's declined due to insufficient funds.
I began to panic because, at this point, we had $0 in our savings because of his antics up until that point, and if I used my bank card, while it would go through, would put me into the negative until payday, which was not until the next week. I checked the joint account and low and behold, within the 2 or 3 hours I was gone, he somehow blew through almost $1,000 in withdrawals to gamble, pretty much his entire pay and I had less than $100 in that account. He had gambled his entire pay when he knew I was out to a vet appointment at that current moment. I paid with my bank card so I could leave, as at that vet clinic, you had to pay for the services before leaving or they would not let you leave, or not let you leave with your animals at the very least until the bill was paid in full. They had no bill me later options.
Needless to say, I was fuming the entire drive home and immediately messaged him about it when I got home and the dogs settled. He messaged me back right away with a BS excuse that he forgot that was what was happening that day even though right above those messages he could see I reminded him I was going to the vet, told him I was leaving for the vet, and was at the vet currently, all of which he replied to.
It of course ended up in an argument when he got home and after a long time arguing he stated he didn't understand what all the fuss was about since I had covered the bill just fine. He was using his pay the way he wanted and that's how it should be. He dared to say my pay went to what I wanted and it wasn't fair I was putting such a tight leash on him and his spending when I spent money on myself all the time, which is not true. I reminded him of this very quickly and showed him my bank account was in the negative because of today due to paying all of the necessary bills we needed, not because I was spending on myself and reminded him if I didn't pay the internet and electricity especially, I wouldn't be able to work which was not in the cards with how his spending was.
I forbade him from spending anything without my okay at this point and in a last-ditch effort, took away and cut up his bank cards and hid mine where he wouldn't find them. This did stop his spending because he didn't have a way to spend. I would only give him my bank card if he asked to get something we needed or he needed, and he was to give it back immediately after use or as soon as he could give it back if he took it to work to get something after work like smokes or something for the house. If any cash withdrawals went out, he wasn't allowed to take it again for a while. This continued into 2022 and it worked, I could relax a little as he was starting to earn trust. Say what you will, but it had to be done. At the end of 2021, 2 days before New Year 2022, we, unfortunately, lost our other horse to a long battle with sickness so we were down to just our dogs, the rabbits, reptiles, and 3 fish tanks because we decided to downgrade on the fish keeping. After all, water was getting expensive to maintain all 7 we had.
The loss of our gelding, unfortunately, turned out to be a good thing, as after we had him euthanized and I had allowed EH to have a bank card of his own again because he had been doing very well, it wasn't long before he was back to his old habits of draining his pays. Only, without the about $400 a month board for our gelding going out anymore, it was much worse. There would have been no way we would have been able to afford to keep him after that. It got to the point I again, took his card away, but then he started finding where I was hiding both of my cards and would drain not only the joint account but also my account. This led to us getting behind in rent especially, on some of my credit card payments which had by that time gotten completely maxed out, and on payments to loans I had taken out to try to get us back on track. Not good.
This continued to no avail throughout 2022. I had many conversations with friends trying to see if there was anything I could do. I was at my wits end with all the constant fighting over finances, continued accusations of cheating, making me feel like I was worthless and not doing enough to try to get him to see reason, wondering why I was not good enough for him to want to change and get his act together, mental and emotional abuse, manipulative actions, almost anything you can think of. I wanted it to stop and I was getting tired of trying. My mental and emotional health declined greatly. My friends of course wanted to support me in whatever I wanted to try to do, but they also didn't like seeing me decline as much as I was.
I had a mental breakdown one night and basically did a 2005 Brittany Spears to my hair. I didn't shave everything off, however, a good 90% of my hair was shaved off and what I did have left was very much chopped and looked horrible. I did get most of it fixed, but needed help with the back, so I asked him to try to fix it up so it didn't look so chopped off. I was already not the best mentally and my anxiety was through the roof. I had simply asked him to just be careful and not accidentally cut or nick me. Pretty simple. As I was anxious, I asked him a few times, and was a bit flinchy when he was close to me. He took this the wrong way and threw the scissors down and started screaming at me that if I wasn't going to calm down and hold still I could do it myself and blew past me out the bathroom door. The door almost hit me when he swung it open and I just completely lost it. I sobbed and was in such a bad state of mind that I ended up scratching my arms to the point I made them bleed and covered with scratches. He didn't care or do anything about it, he had gone outside and taken the car and drove up leaving me there alone. I bandaged up my arms. They stung for weeks and I still have a few light scars. Not a very proud moment, but one that drew me closer to knowing I had to leave. The stress I was under was too much.
My now current boyfriend, whom we'll call BF, (32 M) came into the mix towards the end of summer 2022, introduced to me by my best friend after she found him gaming in Fallout, mixed in with my friends, and took their stance as well that if I wanted to try to make things work, he would try to be as supportive as possible. Over time though, he and my friends slowly cracked and smashed through my rose-tinted glasses to help me see that what was happening was not my fault, and was not an okay situation to be in. My best friend then distanced herself thinking I was choosing BF over her after we started talking more and we were hanging out more playing games together. She decided to end our 11-year friendship amid things even though she knew I needed her and we were not replacing her with each other, we just happened to be growing closer. We attempted to include her in things but she chose to leave and distance herself, stating to me later she regretted ever introducing us.
My BF and other friends became my main support systems, and I decided enough was enough and it was time to let go. I had fallen out of love with my EH for some time but didn't want to admit to it. The marriage was over. I told EH I wanted a divorce but he did not believe me. He said I was being crazy for thinking we should end things, but I knew I was not.
While he was at work one night toward the end of October 2022, I went online and found a service that would assist me in getting the papers we needed to start the divorce process and bought them on the joint account so he could see I was serious.
When he came home, I was on the computer with my friends on Discord, playing a game together. He came in screaming with an anger I had never heard before... He had screamed at me before, but this was different. He was screaming at me to get out of the house, that I needed to get out now, he didn't want to see me in the morning, he didn't care if he wasn't allowed to do that cause he was doing it anyway, he was so angry and my friends and BF heard him through my headset. One of my friends told him to shut up and calm down and EF snapped and screamed at them to shut up and stay out of it.
He then came straight for me and slammed my laptop shut so hard I was afraid he broke it, ripped my headset off my head, and threw me from my chair, continuing to scream at the top of his lungs that he wanted me out right then and there if I wanted to me that way. It all happened so fast, I couldn't stop shaking and looking at him, not expecting this. He had never put his hands on me before. Ripping the headset off my head nearly caught on my industrial earring, which would have been horrible if it caught and ripped out. Luckily it didn't.
Once I got past the initial shock, I stood up and lit into him that he couldn't just kick me out because he was mad I was finally done with him and the relationship, and the audacity he had to lay his hands on me. I needed time to get a place to live because of my work. I needed to get my options figured out, get the animals we had sorted out if I could keep them all or not, everything. I needed to make sure I was sorted out and he would have to deal with the fact that I had to do these things before I could get out of the house.
His anger turned into tears and he began crying and pleading with me not to go and crying he'd do better and be a better person and all the things he promised beforehand. He couldn't believe what he saw when he saw the request for divorce papers, he was sorry for putting his hands on me, the works. It did not work. I assured him I was going and needed to get things sorted out.
The next day I called my parents and told them what had happened and that I needed a place to stay or at least help looking for a place to stay. My parents and brother agreed that they would take me in as they owned and lived in a house, and I could live in the basement of the house so I had a room to myself and had room for my animals as well. I did have to rehome 2 of the 4 rabbits, however, they went to a loving home with a cousin of my brother's girlfriend who was experienced with rabbits and currently had some that 2 could intermingle with. So that worked in my favor.
I didn't think I would have room for both dogs and rabbits remaining, so EH decided he wanted to keep 1 dog and 1 rabbit. He wanted our first dog (the one gotten for my 22nd birthday) and the original rabbit he chose from my now former best friend. I agreed and kept our 2nd dog and the original rabbit I chose from my former best friend. I also was keeping the leopard gecko, tortoise, and fish. However, my parents agreed that if in the future EH ever decided to get rid of or no longer wanted our first dog and the other rabbit, they would allow them to come as well (important in a bit).
I made the move to my parent's house in mid-November 2022 and started the process for divorce. While I was getting the first papers ready to go and sent to EH to start the process, EH would continuously text me and harass me even when I asked him to stop messaging me. He would continuously say he wanted me to stay with him, he would change, ask how I could do this to us as by that time we have been married 6 years and together for 8. Trying to manipulate me into coming back with promises of change.
My response was to send him the first official papers to start the divorce process. In my state, once you initiate the process and request for legal divorce, and the request is approved, you have to wait 90 days before you can then submit the final paperwork to request to make the divorce official because the relationship is not going to work, both parties want the divorce, etc.
I had to send the papers a second time because they were not done properly the first time, but the second try was approved so the 90-day waiting time to submit the final papers began.
He continued to harass and message me multiple times throughout the first month, and then his harassment to try to get me to stay turned into distasteful language and cursing me out, saying he didn't need me he already moved on and had someone else so didn't need me anymore. All ploys were more than likely to see if I would suddenly want him. I did not react other than to say good because I had also already moved on and was with someone, my BF, so I was looking forward to being rid of him so I could be with my BF in peace and not have to worry about him anymore.
At that, he stopped messaging me finally, and I moved all correspondence to email instead of text and messenger for more formal communications only when I had updates regarding our pending divorce.
In about April 2023, I had a bad feeling about the well-being of my first dog and other rabbit so in an update email to let him know we had reached the 90th day so the next day I could start getting the finalization paperwork in, I asked him how both were doing and if I may have a picture of them just to ease my mind that they were doing okay and was maybe just nerves about losing them for good.
He met this simple request with utter anger and venom, stating he didn't have to tell me how they were doing and wasn't going to send any pictures. I was being crazy, they were fine so I shouldn't be asking or worrying about anything. This set alarm bells off in my mind because it was just a simple request to see how they were doing, and so far, legally, still, partly my animals until the divorce was final. I advised him of this and this time demanded proof that both the dog and rabbit were doing well or I would be calling animal welfare as a precaution to ensure their well-being and would want them back ASAP if not met, as I wanted them back if he was not taking care of them.
He again refused stating he didn't have to prove anything and that if I asked again, he'd report me for harassment and false accusations of animal abuse. Not wanting any legal trouble with a pending divorce, I dropped it and didn't ask again.
However, 2 weeks later I got a nasty email saying if I wanted my other dog and rabbit back so badly I could have them, as the dog had been whining so much it was annoying him and he didn't want to deal with it anymore. His sister was getting married in 2 weeks, so I asked if he wanted to have them out before or after the wedding since I was attending the wedding along with my brother and his girlfriend and would be in the area, but could get them earlier if needed. He opted for the week before the wedding because he wanted her especially gone. I asked about the rabbit and he said he changed his mind and wanted to keep the rabbit, but if I wanted her too, I could take her as well. I kindly advised the rabbit would be coming back with me as well as I did not want her alone with him anymore. I told my parents what was up and they agreed they could come home much to my relief.
That weekend in May 2023, my brother and I went to EH's house to pick up my dog and rabbit. The moment I saw them, I was so heartbroken and angry. The rabbit was in a tiny hutch meant just to hold them while we cleaned their big enclosure that obviously had not been cleaned or taken care of in some time and dirty murky brown water to drink. It was obvious she had been couped up there for some time, as her enclosure wall panels were broken down and on the porch. My dog was completely emaciated and in horrible condition. Her nails were overgrown, and she was skin and bones. You could see her ribs, spine, and hip bones, and her face was sunken in. Neglected and not taken care of or fed in some time.
I was so angry I grabbed them and put them in the vehicle and let my brother take care of EH. He talked to him for a bit as I called my parents crying telling them what kind of state my animals were in. They were furious. When we got home, they had the dog I kept outside so he could see his sister come home and they wanted to film their reunion and also show what EH did to her. My mother broke into tears when I carefully got my dog out of the car. She was so excited to see my parents again and her brother. And he was so excited to finally see her again. He had been so depressed without her as he grew up with her of course. It was a beautiful reunion but so depressing and sad because of how deplorable of a condition she was in.
My rabbits immediately went to each other when I put the other into the enclosure with the one I kept. They knew who each other were as well and they started grooming each other and cuddling together like they used to like nothing happened. Both my dogs and my rabbits are inseparable now. They can't stand to be away from each other.
The divorce was finalized in June 2023 and I made sure I had no forms of contact with EH again, blocking him on everything.
I can say I have found a wonderful man in my BF and he has helped me so much and been with me through all of this, we couldn't be happier to be able to be together without people asking how we're together if I'm married to someone else even though I was getting a divorce and no longer with EH. Mainly very religious family members who made a fuss about it, but still was a bit ridiculous.
If you reached the end of this and read every bit, if you have any questions feel free to comment below. An update in a separate post will be coming within the next day or so about what's going on with the woman who is currently with the ex-husband.
This was my story in this, context you may or may not want as not everyone's stories gets told. I am telling mine now as everyone in these situations should.
2024.05.23 05:37 weirdddj Is there a safe way to use my Dyson abroad with a power converter?
I’m Canadian so my dyson air wrap is meant for canadas 110-120v and 60Hz electricity. I’m going to Sweden soon which apparently uses 230v and 50Hz. I heard appliances with motors and heating elements, like the dyson, are a big no for travel. I really like my dyson though🥲wondering if there’s a safe way at all to do it?
Also not sure if i used the correct flair, my bad
submitted by weirdddj to ElectricalEngineering [link] [comments]
Also not sure if i used the correct flair, my bad
2024.05.23 05:30 Ok_Example_1731 First completed Nuzlocke
 | Completed my first Nuzlocke on Emerald. The story of my team: submitted by Ok_Example_1731 to nuzlocke [link] [comments] -Sceptile (Stem) was good but Grovyle is absolutely horrible and basically useless most of the game. He stayed alive through the end just because I never used him in any meaningful battles. -Magneton (Fridge) was awesome and basically a guaranteed encounter in New Mauville. An electric type is great to have in a region with too much water. -Hariyama (Hands) was amazing and got me out of so many tough situations I loved this dude. I wish he had access to a better fighting move than vital throw but a belly drum strength was usually more than enough for most opponents. -Crobat (Meteor) just beat out Hands as my MVP. The speed and good attack stat with shadow ball, sludge bomb, and air cutter felt like a cheat code. This guy was my sweeper and he certainly swept. -Armaldo (Boomer) was fun to use. I never get around to using fossil Pokémon in my normal playthroughs and I needed a filler on my team. There weren’t many favorable type matchups but he did work when he was needed. -Walrein (Garf) is another guaranteed encounter but was so good. Ice beam crushes a lot of the E4 plus water and ice resistance makes it a favorable matchup even against Glacia and Wallace. |
2024.05.23 05:15 MyzMyz1995 How can I make more money with low/average education ?
Hello,
I want to make more money but I don't know where to start. I don't have much education. I have a high school diploma, a DVS in computer support and a university certificate for workplace trainer and ongoing certificate in psycho-social education. My workplace pays for my university and it'll cumulate to a bachelor degree in education.
My job is being a fraud and financial crime specialist and I'm paid around 65k (and I have healthcare etc and a retirement fund if I keep working there). I get around 4-5% raise per years and my job is unionized.
My other skills are that I'm an amateur boxer (but that cost me money technically) and I'm doing my certifications to be a licensed boxing trainer with the canadian boxing organization. I speak fluent english, french and ok spanish. I'm good with animals. I'm very athletic (I do uber eats with an electric bicycle in the summer).
What are my options ? The study I chose doesn't pay much. All the professions that pay well would need me to study for a long time. I can't quit my job because I have bills to pay (I live alone and I have a cat so I can't do mining work, train work etc).
What do you guys and girls think I can do ? I feel like I'm stuck being at the ''entry'' of the middle class for my whole life. And maybe I can make some extra money doing uber eats and training people on the side ...
Edit: I live in Quebec and I have a cat.
submitted by MyzMyz1995 to PersonalFinanceCanada [link] [comments]
I want to make more money but I don't know where to start. I don't have much education. I have a high school diploma, a DVS in computer support and a university certificate for workplace trainer and ongoing certificate in psycho-social education. My workplace pays for my university and it'll cumulate to a bachelor degree in education.
My job is being a fraud and financial crime specialist and I'm paid around 65k (and I have healthcare etc and a retirement fund if I keep working there). I get around 4-5% raise per years and my job is unionized.
My other skills are that I'm an amateur boxer (but that cost me money technically) and I'm doing my certifications to be a licensed boxing trainer with the canadian boxing organization. I speak fluent english, french and ok spanish. I'm good with animals. I'm very athletic (I do uber eats with an electric bicycle in the summer).
What are my options ? The study I chose doesn't pay much. All the professions that pay well would need me to study for a long time. I can't quit my job because I have bills to pay (I live alone and I have a cat so I can't do mining work, train work etc).
What do you guys and girls think I can do ? I feel like I'm stuck being at the ''entry'' of the middle class for my whole life. And maybe I can make some extra money doing uber eats and training people on the side ...
Edit: I live in Quebec and I have a cat.
2024.05.23 05:01 Shitpump55 Anybody have any experiences with Hiboy bikes?
 | My wife is looking for a good step-through and came across this one. Does anybody have any idea if it is any good? Pro's? Con's? Amy hello would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. submitted by Shitpump55 to ebikes [link] [comments] |
2024.05.23 04:41 nan-a-table-for-one Is there a cordless electric razor that does not turn on randomly?
I have had this problem with two electric razors. I'm so tired of it. I charge it, I use it, I clean it. Then one day it gets possessed and won't turn off or won't stop turning on randomly throughout the day and night. I'm so frustrated. Any recommendations?
submitted by nan-a-table-for-one to shaving [link] [comments]
2024.05.23 04:34 KBinCanada Gardena auto-retract Hose Reels - two 30m models? Here is the difference.
 | I'm posting this for those thinking of getting one of these auto-retract Gardena Hose Reels. I'm not sure if this is exclusive to Canada, but as it's an international brand, perhaps this is common in other regions. In Canada, Gardena sells two versions of their hose reels (8055-44 and 18625-20). Both are 30m/100ft, auto-retract, and are featured on their website (both current products). I struggled to find the difference between the two other than one listed Frost Protection. When I Googled it, people reviewing even used their photos interchangeably. submitted by KBinCanada to gardening [link] [comments] When I contacted Gardena, I found out there was more to it. Their reply was: The 8055-44 hose is made for Italy but casing is made in China - Grey in colour The 18625-20 hose is made in Italy but casing is made in Germany - Turquoise / grey in colour 8055-44 - no frost protection 18625-20 has frost protect. But, please see above instruction for end of season. Frost protection is only center core. The reel must be drained before first sign of frost.On top of that Home Depot sells one labelled 18625-80. They explained: Yes it is the same. the dash at the end only represents the area and supplierThe funny thing is, they are not that different in price. 8055 sells for $299 (although CanadianTire does have sales -20%) and 18625 sells through HomeDepot for $279. I ended up buying one of each as I wanted to see the difference. Although I'm not unboxing them and testing them in a full review (I'm returning the one I don't use). The all-grey 8055 model also comes with a hose guide for corners (maybe this is why it's more expensive). In the end, I ended up keeping the 8055 as the wall bracket is much smaller (9"x4.25") than the bracket for the 18625 (13"x5.5"). I am mounting it to the side of a deck and that 13" was too tall. 8055 Model in all Grey (Made in China) The 18625 turquoise Model I got was made in Slovenia, not Italy, but proudly states it's made in Europe (this is true). It also comes with European hose attachments and a single separate bagged "North American" adapter. 18625 European Model Hope this helps others make a decision and happy gardening. |
2024.05.23 03:26 screaming_buddha What does Canadian Tire know that we don't?
 | Received this email today. submitted by screaming_buddha to Winnipeg [link] [comments] |