My 3 year old is quite aggressive. He will hit kick and yell and it is getting worse and worse. He has a sibling who is 8 months old and frequently hits them, pushes them over, stomps on their fingers. He has always had a fiery side- short tempered, overally OTT outbursts in context of the issue/ situation (getting nappy changed, waking up from a nap, asking him whether he wants an apple or banana to eat) This can be whether he wants soenthing but doesn’t tell you/can’t explain, you do something he doesn’t like, wants something ASAP, sometimes I don’t know what the reason is. I also presume there is jealousy of his sibling. As a baby he cried and screamed A LOT.
More background: When he was closer to 18 months old and I went away for an emergency hospital stay of 10 days I came back and he was hitting me constantly even in my face. This escalated for 5 months of hitting, slapping and pulling hair. It would come expected or unexpected (having a nice hug/ connection and he would pull back and slap me or we would be playing with toys for example) I eventually went to the doctor as I was getting so depressed about his behaviour and one day soon after that it just stopped?
When his sibling arrived in September- I was very unwell due to medical negligence and was in hospital for 2 weeks. Baby was extremely unsettled. Cried hours in the day and 8 hours STRAIGHT from 4 pm onwards. He was terrified of her when we got home. Sibling then got unwell with virus and was I hospital for a week after is o it being home 1 week after my issues/ birth. We had a lot of family support. Ended up getting au pair as I couldn’t look after my son properly. I was always around they took him to daycare and back and looked after him 2 hours in the morning and 4 hours in the evening (played, helped with bath, we all ate dinner together) This was from December to April. Just recently the past 4 weeks his behaviour is escalated to a point I cry everyday that I’m failing, I’m scared for my baby and scared something is wrong with my son and I can’t seem to help him.
Despite this frequent behavioural issue he actually a very loving and affectionate boy. He has always loved hugs,when he was younger he woukd ask for 100 hugs a day pretty much, kisses, tell me he loves me so much. I do my best to engage and have special one on one time when possible. We always read books and cuddle for bed time.
We bedshare since he was 4 months old and he falls asleep with me cuddling him (sometimes dad) he loves being close to people. Prefers adult company to children but has long term friends. prefers his own company daycare but past 6 months engages a lot more with other kids there and happily plays with them. He is quiet at daycare and doesn’t hit or kick others. He has great relationship with grandparents. Even to them his can get mad though and lash out.
He is very intelligent for his age (speaking, memory, problem solving) he remembers things from when he was 19 months for example (places and certain toys) he recalls random conversations he has heard betweeen people and remembers doctors names he has met once?!
He was born premature and IUGR (weighed 1.5 kg at birth) spent a month in intensive care. Is sensitive to loud sounds (I am too for reference)
I’ve included all this info incase someone can piece something together or this is just typical 3 year old behaviour.
We have tried everything we can think of and overall follow a responsive parenting approach but these days all I do is yell and tell him off. I get so triggered after a day of being hit I really lose it and yell really badly. Please help!!!

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To preface, I understand that none of us in this community are professionals that can answer above authentically, which is why i marked it as a vent. I don't know that there is an answer, just that due to recent life events I'm left worrying over this question a lot.
Where my worry comes from is this: Basically, both my mother and I have seen the same cardiologist, a few years for her and one year for me. I've already been diagnosed with POTS by a different doctor, so I only see them to rule out other conditions with no concerns so far. My mother, however, has had worsening symptoms for years and has struggled get the help she needed. At one point, our symptoms were so similar (sharp chest pains, dizziness, shortness of breath) that she convinced herself she must have POTS as well and pushed for a diagnosis. Because of this, the cardiologist didn't take her very seriously and dismissed her concerns. I think that they are very unprofessional but its besides my point.
I fear that it wasted valuable time, because when things became dire recently and we found her a better cardiologist, we learned that she needed heart surgery. Things are moving along now, it's a scary time but I have more faith in her current care team than the previous specialist that I (unfortunately) am still seeing.
All of this has put things into perspective. It seems unlikely that I have a heart condition now, but it's not impossible for me to develop one later in life unrelated to my POTS. At that point, will I know how to differentiate potentially life threatening symptoms from the more frightening POTS symptoms I've learned to tolerate? How will I know it's serious enough to seek intervention, or even when to start preventative measures? I don't know. My hope is that when I reach that point in life, I will have my POTS well enough managed that new symptoms will stand out, and hopefully I will have a new cardiologist that understands this concern and works with me under that pretense.
While I don't really mean to fearmonger, I'm sure a lot of people in this community can relate to having anxieties around their condition even when they know that logistically things are okay. So if you're reading this and can relate, I hope you'll give yourself some grace today.

I feel like I’m going though so much alone right now and I want to be financially stable so I can move out on my own and afford a decent place. I contemplated living with roommates but that’s a last case scenario if I can’t afford any other place that lets me live alone. I want to go to college for something that could make me some good money but that’s like 4 years worth of education which means my stay with my nparents would be lengthened. I want to get out fast as possible but I also want to be very financially stable and independent. I want to be able to rely on myself, I don’t want to create a situation where I have to lean on my nparents and eventually move back in because i couldn’t afford shit. With these apartment prices and most of them having no rent limit scares me. I just read a story where a tenant was paying 2k a month for rent. The landlord raised the price to 9k and they had to move out cuz they couldn’t afford it. Shit is so unpredictable, life is so scary. I have thought of my myself possibly being homeless and what I’d do in that situation. I haven’t reached my breaking point with my nparents but if I do I want to be financially stable enough to take that leap of moving out.
This is all so very hard because i’m 20, my nparents won’t help for college. I need a second voice, a mentor, a guide. I feel so lost. I don’t have a mother or a father or any other family member to guide me because they don’t want what’s best for me. They only care about themselves, they’re selfish. I have NO clue what to do because in my mind college is the answer. I’m looking at trades which make good money from what I can tell. I wish I was able to peer into my own future. This is so scary. I have absolutely no clue where i’m going to end up in the next 5 years. I’ll probably still be living with my nparents looking for a job cuz this job market is out of this world. I’ve started my job search a year ago after graduating from HS and within that time span I’ve had only 2 jobs both in customer service. The thing that is different about my life is that I had to drop out of college because I couldn’t afford it. While most high school grads are in college having their tuition paid in full by their parents for filing the FASFA, i was working a job which wasn’t even enough because my selfish Nmom was asking for my money in the process. I couldn’t keep up with the payments so I had to either take a LOA which saves my “progress” per se or have the college kick me out. I took the first option because I wanted to pursue this dream of mine. In the meantime, looking for my third job but these jobs all pay so low ranging 8-12 an hour so I plan to work at least 3 jobs. I’m so mad at my life. I’m searching up Lowe’s, Home Depot, Taco Bell jobs near me just to make a few but of these jobs are miles out from my home. I don’t have a car and Uber is pricy but I’ll pay for it. I beleive my only option is trade school I suppose because I’m my state it’s all free. I’m perfectly okay with it tho.
I can’t imagine there’s anyone who has had a similar situation but if there is someone out there please, please tell me what you did. How did you make things work? How did you get through all this mess? I want to get out of here asap and I think attending college at this point would stalling my stay. Had my dream came true and I got the support I would’ve been in 2 years into it all. I don’t know I don’t know. I’m just so confused. Should I take out loans? Should I attend on campus? How do I afford all of this shit? tuition is so expensive. I know for the FASFA I have to live on my own in order to meet the qualifications to be an independent and file on my own without my Nparents involvement

A couple years ago I had the idea of moving into a college dorm, but my grandparents made a deal that they would pay my way to college if I stayed home, which they did. They also made a deal with me to help me get a car. However, my family is greatly hindering my ability to get a job or a car. My grandparents added like 50 conditions to the car deal. Now I’m almost 20 and I don’t know what to do to gain the money necessary to get out of this isolating hell hole. I’m hardly allowed out of the house, I usually have to beg to go places. They have not allowed me to buy my phone from them. I feel so trapped. How can I get help in this situation?

My brother (19) is over in Australia on a 1 year travel/work visa and currently makes around $300 a week playing/coaching football and he is looking for other job alongside this.
When he first went over, he bought a banger with a friend for $1500 which ended up blowing after a month.
Anyway, his friend (also English) just received 4 fines through the post with pictures of my brother driving with his mobile phone rested on his knee (turned off).
My brother has no awareness this was an offence as in the U.K. it has to be in use / in your hands and we don’t have cameras like that here (yet!).
Anyway, he appreciates that not being aware of the law etc etc is no defence and it should have been up to him to know etc etc but in reality he doesn’t have the $4000 dollars and certainly won’t have it in the next 3 weeks needed.
What are his realistic options?
As he is in quite a remote area, it’s car or Uber for work.
In the U.K., a driving ban can be avoided if would place an unfair burden on a person (e.g they can’t reasonably get to work) and fines can also be put on a payment plan of a low amount a month (if person genuinely can’t afford to pay and it would cause financial hardship).
I do not want him to not pay / ignore the fines as this could impact his future visas and I assume he may be subject to arrest.
Any genuine, helpful advice welcome.

For me, it’s that Jay Z befriended Biggie and Big L so that he could double-cross them and have them killed. Biggie and Big L are debatably the only two rappers from NYC at that time who were significantly better than Jay Z (obviously can debate others, but they both had the better verses in their collabs with him and I personally think these two lyrically clear him, especially with their rhyme patters), and they both just so happened to be killed before reaching their peak career-wise. It would make sense from a power standpoint, and give him an opportunity to elevate himself by having been friends with them and paying homage to them by quoting their lyrics in future songs (which coincidentally he’s gotten a lot of flack for over the years)
I personally don’t TRULY believe this is the case, but it’s certainly an interesting little rabbit hole to explore. I love Jay Z’s music, and Reasonable Doubt is my favorite album of his, so it’s not that I think his music isn’t good (or wasn’t at the time) or anything. Just an interesting theory that I’ve seen tossed around.
Got any good ones?

I have a sick feeling in my gut and I am not sure what I should do at this point. Admittedly I have been the peace keeper in the relationship and I feel like at this point I’ve had enough.
We both recent graduated from our respective grad school programs, I did my masters while working full time, and it’s just been a disappointing experience for both. I was not invited to her graduation due to her having a mom that hates me (dad is not in the picture) and that hurt admittedly but I put my thoughts aside because it was her day ultimately.
Then comes my graduation and not only did she not attend my graduation but then we met up the next day she did not ask about it until 2 hours into us talk WHEN I mentioned that she did not ask about my graduation. She then said sorry and tried to be attentive but a part of me didn’t feel like it was authentic. It was as if my accomplishments weren’t important but it was so important for her to talk about her accomplishments for hours straight.
She’s planning on studying abroad for a year while I continue to work at my job and budget to pay off my student loans.
I feel she’s not concerned about growing together and I just feel hurt.

Hey everyone,
I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2020 and started taking Concerta in December of that year. I used it for about 3 years, trying various dosages. The 54mg dose made me highly focused and productive, but it also worsened my pre-existing anxiety. Despite the anxiety, I kept using it because I was getting things done. However, I eventually reduced my dosage because I developed a frozen shoulder from sitting too long in tense positions.
At some point, I decided to quit Concerta cold turkey to improve my shoulder condition. While it did get slightly better, I still have some mobility issues. I mistakenly thought all ADHD medications were the same, so I didn't seek a new prescription right away.
About a month ago, I decided to explore new medication options after reading posts here. I went to a new psychiatrist and was prescribed 30mg of Elvanse (Vyvanse). The difference was incredible. This medication significantly reduced my daily anxiety to the point where it almost made me cry with happiness. Additionally, my chronic muscle tension in my shoulders and back relaxed.
Interestingly, Elvanse didn't necessarily make me more productive or focused, but it lowered the barrier to getting into a focused state. I still need to plan my tasks to avoid wasting this calm, anxiety-free state.
However, I noticed that the effects wore off after about 6-7 hours, bringing back muscle tension and intrusive thoughts. When I told my doctor, he prescribed 40mg. This dose lasted 12 hours but came with side effects like a higher heart rate and mild body tension.
On the positive side, I experienced better mind-muscle connection at the gym and noticed a reduction in my love handles, likely because I was eating less. Despite these benefits, I realized that heart health is more important than appearance.
My question is: if 30mg of Elvanse gives me therapeutic benefits but doesn't last as long as I'd like, could I ask my doctor for a fast-acting booster for the afternoon? Also, I've read that some people found higher doses reduced their anxiety. Could increasing to 50mg be a viable option?
Thanks for your advice!
TL;DR: After using Concerta for 3 years, I switched to 30mg Elvanse, which reduced my anxiety and muscle tension but wore off after 6-7 hours. Trying 40mg extended the effects but increased my heart rate and tension. Considering asking my doctor for a fast-acting booster or exploring a higher dose. Seeking advice on the best approach.

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Title's a little stupid. Didn't know to else to phrase it. Lol. I'll do my best to keep this short and sweet, stick to the details, but this will be long. Don't know what's actually important to the question/title but feel free to ask if things aren't clear.
So last year my mom contacts and tells me that she, my autistic brother, and elderly grandma are moving out of my late grandpa's home due to it "stressing her out" and she didn't want to board it up and abandon it. And offered it to me. Take care of the house, land, and pay a fraction of the bills I'm paying for my apartment. Heck yeah why not! Also I'll relationship has been rocky so this was a chance for us to fix it.
This is where some would ask, what was wrong? Through my rose tinted glasses at the time, not much. I was a mama's boy really. But I started to go through a change and I forgot how it happened or what was said, but we got into an argument over the phone prior to her asking me to move down here. If I remember correctly, I was the type to ask my mom for advice about everything. So we'd talk at least once a week. But it had gotten to point where she couldn't give me advice anymore, and also I started not to like our conversations anymore. Again forgot why, simply felt like they weren't doing me good. so I started to withdraw from here. And the argument was like I need to figure how to do things without you cause your not helping me anymore I need to figure it out on my own type. But a tad more emotional.
So about 2-3wks later she offers the house. Again rose tinted glasses didn't think about it at the time. So I go for it. And the plan was to move at the end of the summer. But me being anxious and impulsive, I asked her if it was OK I move at the beginning. She encourages me. Now the house is in the western suburb of Illinois. Meaning you need a car to do anything. Which I didn't have. It was during this conversation where I swear to my mother states that she'll allow me to have her car here at grandpa's house so I can use it. I'll be on the insurance, help out with the maintenance, and drop it off when she needs it. ill help me save up for one, and top of that she offered to buy me my own car, but I didn't take her seriously and even stated it.
So I move at the end of May. 2 weeks before I move she calls me to tell me that her and my grandmas new living situations are in limbo. Grandmas insurance hasn't kicked in yet, and basically my mom has to pay more money in order to get the house she wants. So we'll be living together for awhile. I assume no more than 2 months. Boy was I wrong.
Another thing I should mention is me and my mom are two peas in a pod. Damn near think and act alike. Just different genders, with different beliefs, born in two different times and different ways of going about things. So I knew if we live with each other for too long, it's not gonna end well. And I was right. I just wish I articulated It better then.
So I moved and unloaded. Got as settled as someone sleeping on a couch, living with 3 extra people for an indefinite future, could get.
So to keep this short, from may 29th to mid December, I live with my mom and brother. Grandpa's place went through after a month. Mom had to pay more money on top of what she had to pay. Took her time to debate that, she could afford it she was just debating if she wanted to, and she decided yes. But a week later she finds out she needs to pay more on top of the more. Again, she could afford it, but she debated again for a long while till she decided no. Then out of all the finished places in built communities, she chooses a newly building one. So to clarify timeliness, She decided again the house mid July. She acquired the newly building house in September. So it didn't get finished till December.
So for 6-6 1/2 months I lived with my mom. First month was OK. Good actually. But then the arguments started. Began small, till it got to the point where I yelled at my mom for 1st time in my entire life. All the arguments were the same. She would mis some. Mis-understood, mis-interpret, mis-communicate. Hell even got mad at me for overly communicating. But she would do one or all these and me being overly emotional I be the more angry one. Then I would not talk to her for a day or two, then come to her. Explain my feelings and why I acted like that. Hoping she would recognize that she is either unintentionally triggering me and crossing a boundary which would start literally all over again. The one that culminated into me yelling at her.. as I was leaving to pick up legal medicals, she calls me and instead just asking me to buy cleaning materials to cleaning up the toilet, cause I tore it up. Lol she kinda danced around it like "hey could get cleaning stuff" for what? "To clean the toilet" no I don't wanna spend my money on cleaning stuff "well you left it pretty dirty and it needs to be cleaned" OK, just say that then..... she says something else, but I'm trying to explain to her that I have stuff all she needed to do was ask me clean it, but she cuts me off like a child. "Okaayy okaayy fiiine" so I literally pulled the car bar into the driveway, literally ran back into the house and screamed to the top of my lungs. I admit this was dumb, but again emotional. And what does this woman do? Smiles half way through my rant, as I finished, begins laughing and then starts Tearing into me. Not about me Tearing into my mother. Not about the subject. Can't even remember what. Can simply tell you her rant was dumber. So I'm in my feelings cause I'm hurt. Not only did I just yell at my mom. I felt ridiculed and unheard. Then sometime later she makes fun of the situation. I'm visibly hurting. So I write a quick letter on my emotions and read it to her. Again. Ridicules me.
Now 2 things happened after this. 1st, I got into an accident in her car. I was not at fault, so I filed the claim through guys insurance. Mind you during this entire process she did not once couch me or tell me how to go about this. Should I have asked? Possibly, but I think it should've been evident especially how I'm going about it at the moment, but I thought I was doing everything right. So a month and a half later the insurance company cancels the claim. And me being in a depressive state of mind and didn't have the energy to go through that suing process, I. Me. I'm the person who decided to bite the bullet to pay her back to fix her car. Never once did she suggest, hint, nor mention i needed to do that. But after tha 1st payment we have a conversation due to her misunderstanding and now I'm finding out she got a bad memory. Remember when I said in the beginning ish, that she let me keep her car at grandpa's house when she leaves... completely forgets that part. Doesn't forget the buying me a car part though. Mind you now this is 3rd time she's said she would buy me a car. But back to point, she also tells me that she intends on suing the guy to get the money to fix her car. Whatever money I've given her up to that point she has no intention on paying me back. Didn't outright say it, but she might as well have. Sometime later she buys me my car. And I do want to be clear I am appreciative of her for doing that for me, she absolutely didn't need to regardless of the situation of my city life. But I need to be clear on something. Not once. Did she ever say I need to pay her back. Never mentioned. Never suggested. Nor hinted. (Is there some type of unspoken rule on this stuff that I'm Unaware about?)
So It dawned on me that the original arrangement made no sense and I did not like it, so I felt out of moral obligation I need to pay her back for the car. So I switched the payments without telling her. Didn't think it mattered truthfully.
But then I started to lose hours at my job... do to me losing em willingly. Had a hard time not finding the work I wanted in this new state and when I did it was like my resume meant nothing. So I told my mom, via text, that my hours were cut and I'm going to struggle a bit and need to cut her payments down by half. She wanted to have a person talk but I was like naw. So a little time passed, a gave her a payment. And she contacts me asking for the rest.. a discussion happens. She believes that this is a landlord tenant situation and that I need to pay her in full and struggle. I'm like naw, this was never a landlord situation to begin with and the only why I assume she thinks that is due to the rental agreement I ASKED HER TO SIGN in order for me to get food stamps and so paying her back can be somewhat legit. And the only reason why she's getting money is because I decided that and if I wanted I could cancel it all together. She didn't like that. Like I said, 2 peas. Just simply believe we love our control. Lol so that's the last we speak(texted. After she moved out all this has been through texting) Back in April, she tells me Grandma wants to move back in the house. And her and my brother and moving back in to help her. Now grandma moving in I do understand that. Other 2. Nope. Especially mom. She straight up said this house stressed her out. And she is right. I've only been here for a year and I'm stressed. Basement has cracks in the walls, doors, and beyond water damage to the windows(wood/stuff holding the windows) so the basement full on floods. Really bad pipes. Like corroded on top of corroded pipes. Structure is failing. Slowly but surely. And to top it off, mom redid the bathroom, and the contractors half assed it. Not going to go into that. Just wow. And she lives literally not even 10min from here. So I ask questions. Literally only 1 was answered, why is you and my brother moving back. Any other question was silence. Like after I asked the initial questions I asked what I am supposed to do? She says"well I have several suggestions, but your going to do you anyway" now correct me if I'm wrong, wasn't the initial ask, meant I wanted to hear those suggestions? Or should I have actually asked again? Cause I took that as a oh she want me out without saying it.
So I'm obviously pissed. Uprooted and moved for literally nothing. Didn't do crap out here cause I spent 6+months being depressed due to living with this woman, spent months getting out to just about to, to tell me oh we moving back.
And the icing on the cake. She asked me if I could move out sooner. So she can fix stuff. I said with what money? I need the money I've given you back and I'll start that back up when I get situated. No reply. So I asked if she is using or saving it. Once again, "if this was a landlord situation you wouldn't be asking yo landlord what they do with the money. And it doesn't matter so I don't wanna argue" Last message I sent to her was basically reiterating that this ain't that. Haven't really spoken to her since. Don't want to really.
If you managed to read all this I'm sorry for it being long and thank you for "hearing" me out regardless of your opinion. I'm not doing a tldr cause I would've just did that to begin with instead of all this. I know some parts were vague, unclear, possibly incohesive in some areas. Lol feel free to ask and I'll clear things up.

I finally got around to doing my ADHD symptoms list, the ADHD service replied to my doctor saying it sounded more like I was autistic.
I’m a woman with a STEM degree who got about halfway through a PhD. I was getting very tired with worsening muscle & joint pain, sleep issues and reactive hypoglycaemia the last several years, and I didn’t initially know something was wrong, then it looked like chronic fatigue syndrome. I had some temperature regulation problems and the hypoglycaemia since I was a teenager, so I suspected the chickenpox I got when I was 14.
Well I’ve been reading about autistic burnout, and bizarrely there’s a large symptom overlap with CFS down to the whacky blood sugar. I’ve had my blood tested for just about everything.
I have severe OCD and had PTSD symptoms (shitty life) and have taken Prozac for quite a while, and have started weaning off. I started getting more tired with the odd stiff ankle or elbow probably about the time I started my PhD (2014).
Apparently autistic people usually also have a massive range of physical conditions and yes I do also have IBS, and had very irregular periods & migraines (pill helps).
I am aware I’m socially a bit weird and consciously masking, and assumed I had some of something but I don’t know how to feel now that it’s been more officially commented on. It’s going to be ages before I get assessed to I just have to sit with it for a year+ (UK NHS).
I have some processing issues with speech, spent a lot of my life finding people sounded muffled, but my hearing tested perfect (they told me I had an attention problem, which, yes, but I don’t think that makes people sound muffled). I have difficulty stringing sentences together when speaking and have random pauses while I get stuck. I think I got better at it before I got fatigued. I find writing much easier.
I wasn’t a savant or anything but have been better at maths related things my whole life than language, won awards in school and stuff, won the prize for my master’s year project report in uni.
I don’t think I’ve had a classic autistic “meltdown” but pre Prozac I did frustrated/angry cry (privately). Post probably burnout I have lost a lot of mental capacity and have gotten much more sensitive to sound.
I permanently shake, I can’t tell that I’m doing it, but people keep asking me if I’m cold. If I think back that may also have started with PhD.
Is it possible to just be in burnout for like 10 years? I stopped doing much of anything over the years and it hasn’t gotten better. I have a bit of a hoarder house that I really need to deal with.
I already went to counselling over my shitty life in undergrad and don’t feel like it’s helpful to do it again.

I'm so sorry if this doesn't belong in here or if I broke any rules, but I don't know what to do. I've been crying all day because I don't know.
I (24F) live nearly 6 hours away from my Grandma (86). I was born and raised in the city that she is currently in up until I was 17, so I sometimes go back out there to visit, handle business, etc. I also lived with my Grandma for most of my life as my parents had me at 16 and she loved spending time with me whenever they couldn't handle it. My Grandma is the sweetest ever; she's the kind of lady who would give you everything in her wallet if you needed it. I have a younger brother (19) who also grew up at her house and recently moved into a place across the street from her. He works two jobs to afford his apartment and is always sleeping to keep up, but he still takes his time to go check on her since she's close.
It all sounds well, but my father (49) lives there as well. My Grandma stays in a studio apartment that I've been in most of my life. So has my Father. He has been living with her ever since my parents split up 14+ years ago and he's been getting on her nerves ever since. He has a history of abuse with my Mom that resulted in him going to jail for domestic violence three times, once for hitting his new girlfriend, and is known for stealing money from my Grandma and my Mom. When my parents split, my brother and I moved with my Grandma because it was a stable place and we could go to school with our friends. During that time, he stayed there, too, and we had CPS coming to the house every six months due to him severely neglecting my brother and me, and my disabled Grandma trying to do what she could. Just for context. Eventually, we went back with our Mom, and now my brother is in his own place.
My Grandma had another stroke a few days ago. The doctors said that it wasn't too severe, but she could be kept so that they could keep an eye on her and start rehab. My father told them no, brought her home, and now my severely disabled Grandma is at home alone. She can barely stand or take care of herself. My father said that he didn't want them to cut off his "in-home assistance" check and leaves her while he goes to work. He has his girlfriend running in and out of my Grandma's house when she has said before that she doesn't want her there and when are they going to move out. The last time I was over there, she was struggling to make frozen fish sticks and I bought her food, wondering where my father was. My little brother has been taking care of her ever since she came back home and is at her house more than his own. Today he broke down because he was the one who found her during her stroke and he's doing everything alone; he's only 19 and he doesn't know what to do. He's getting in trouble for missing his two jobs to be there for her, all while my father is just "put a diaper on her and leave, it's not that serious." It seems like nobody else cares when my brother and I are breaking down about this.
I work full-time at a WFH job and start my summer semester of college in literally a week. Just to give my brother a break, I'm going to go stay there so I can help. I don't know what I should be doing to help her, either. If it's bad, I might drop out of the summer semester because she's more important. I don't understand why my father thinks the checks are more important than my Grandma. I want her to be at the hospital where they can help her through this, not me crying and trying to help her and messing up. I'm sure she already feels horrible that my brother is having a hard time and she's so sweet that he had to force her to let him help her and tell her that he's there for her.
Is there anything that I can do? Any suggestions? My father is her only child and she doesn't have any other family. He has all say-so over financial and medical decisions. I don't know what to do and my Grandma doesn't deserve this. She shouldn't be going through this and my brother shouldn't be losing his jobs because nobody will help them. I want to do what I can by staying over there, but that isn't a long-term solution. I fear that the inevitable is going to happen soon, and if so, I don't want it to be like this. She doesn't deserve her final days to be in fear and that isn't how I want my brother and I to remember her. I want her to be happy and worry-free. How do I get her help? Where do I even start?

The emergence of #ArtificialIntelligence in recent years has opened up entirely new horizons of knowledge for medical researchers, promising the advent of advanced methods to tackle #cancer - a global conundrum.
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Hi everyone i’m 21 and currently 310 pounds. I’ve been obese my whole life and basically tried everything and anything to lose weight. Food is such a social/cultural impact in my life and i’m scared to let that go. I’ve also tried weight loss medicines like Ozempic and still did not lose a significant amount of weight. I also have PCOS, diabetes, and high blood pressure. And my doctors have said the bypass surgery is the best thing I can do for those conditions. Currently i’m pretty far ahead in the pre bariatric checklist and only have a couple more appointments until i can schedule for surgery. My mom is also doing the surgery with me so she is currently my biggest support system. I also know people who got the surgery and are successful. But recently I’ve just so so so scared of getting the surgery as the date gets closer. I just don’t want to die from surgery or die for long term complications years later. I also don’t like having pain. I feel like these past couple night i’ve been digging myself in gastric bypass horror stories. And people sharing not to do it. Anyways tho did yall get this fear too?And how do you cope with it. And like is it actually worth it to get the surgery.

For over two years, I have been experiencing pain in both wrists. It began with a persistent inflammation that went away after a few months. Since then, it seems like there's a small window during which I can use my hands before the pain returns and the inflammation starts again. This window has gradually gotten slightly larger, but it seems to have stagnated recently. I feel that stress is the biggest factor, but unfortunately, it is never completely avoidable.
My doctors have been of little help, often saying that it can take a very long time to heal and that surgery is not necessary since it is getting better. I am already trying to work as ergonomically as possible on my computer. Unfortunately, I have not taken well to voice control. But as a software developer, I have to spend a lot of time on the computer each day. Has anyone had similar experiences? What would be the best approach?

If a car is sitting in storage does it pay a cheaper premium?
I’m asking because I’ve inherited this vechicle and I want to keep for the future but I won’t be driving it for around 4 years. It will stay in storage but I’m afraid the worst will happen.
Do I just contact my insurance company and ask for an underwriter to make me a personal policy. $200 a month is what I’m looking at.
I’ll roll it over and drive it to get it serviced so max will be like 30km a year.

Hey, I'm F31 Indonesian about to marry my partner of 4 years, M37. We are in a very compatible relationship and also similar lifestyle within similar income level. We both still live separately by the border, he lives in the Netherlands and I live in Germany as an expat, but I would love to stay for good in Europe. After our marriage, we plan to finally live together in his home in the Netherlands, as I'm still renting my flat in Germany.
He bought the house 2 years ago, for almost 300k, which his dad helped to contribute 100k as a gift for my partner (his parents are quite well off). The rest of the 200k was an intrafamily loan from his dad, which technically my partner doesn't have to payback and just offset it when he'll get the inheritance. I'm completely in favor of prenups too (I'm expecting to also get inheritance from my parents in Indonesia) and beyond that, we both love the independency of having our own money.
For this prenup, my partner is suggesting that I pay a monthly rental of €300, we split 50-50 on operational bills, while my partner pays the interests, property taxes, insurance and if any future renovation. I know he is paying about €320 monthly for interest of his mortgage to his dad. Do you think this is a fair deal for me? That technically I'm paying his interest to his dad indefinitely on our marriage? His argument is that he'll take care the taxes and renovations cause they are bounded to him as the homeowner. What's your view?

Nationwide Building Society has announced it will pay out another 'Fairer Share' bonus this year.
Britain's biggest building society will pay 3.85million eligible members £100 this summer, dishing out a total of £385milion.
Members will receive the payment directly into current accounts in June.
It comes as the mutual giant said its pre-tax profit was £1.77billon in the year to April, down from £2.2billion last year.
The Fairer Share payment will see members who were eligible on 31 March 2024 get £100 paid into their current accounts in June.
To be eligible for the payment, Nationwide members must have either a current account and savings product, or a current account and mortgage product. The building society said these are its criteria:
Current account: To be a qualifying current account, your account must have been open on 31 March 2024. Qualifying members must still have a current account in June.
Savings: You will have had qualifying savings if you had at least £100 in total in one or more personal savings accounts or cash Isas with Nationwide at the end of any day in March 2024.
Mortgage: To be a qualifying mortgage customer, you must the building society at least £100 on your Nationwide residential mortgage on 31 March 2024.
Source: https://www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/saving/article-13446991/Nationwide-reveals-100-Fairer-Share-bonus-customers-qualify-Junes-payout.html
Also, alongside its fairer share payment, Nationwide has launched a savings account. Nationwide's 'Member Exclusive Bond' will be available exclusively to Nationwide members and pays a rate of 5.5 per cent fixed for 18 months. The maximum a saver can put in this account is £10,000. A saver tucking away this amount in the account would earn £840.813 in interest at the end of the term.

This took place starting at the end of 2022 in Colorado Springs. We moved out of our apartment in October and our lease ended November 1st. I thought I canceled our utilities agreement then but it seems I did not after realizing in January that I was getting charged every month (auto pay). After our lease end, I recieved a bill from the utilities company for both December and January approaching nearly $500. Our December bill alone was higher than any bill I had during the year I was there. I reached out to management hoping they would do the right thing and refund me. After they ignored me for a month with multiple emails and voice messages left, I finally got a hold of the manager who essentially said tough shit since the lease agreement stated I was solely responsible for canceling my utilities for that apartment. But what really infuriates me is that, after looking into it, I found out no one had been living in that apartment and management had wracked up $500 over two months renovating the space, knowingly using utilities provided by me… which is especially impressive as the apartment is only about 550 square ft. Furthermore almost all of our security deposit was not given back even though they knew they were going to be renovating when we left. And we did not leave the place in bad shape.
I know it’s my fault at the end of the day for not canceling utilities on time. But what they did, besides being quite unethical, just seems so illegal. I’m wondering if there is anything that can be done at all to get some of my money back.’ Also I called Colorado Springs utilities and they said there was nothing the could do to help.. Any advice would be very much appreciated!