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Im heart broken playing diablo 4. My long list of confusing questions I have and seeing the game in this state... I needed to vent this someplace. So bare with me and maybe some of you can relate.
First the new item system they over hauled is mostly just the same system with a different setup. Same spells now organized with a search function. Same limitations on how you can use em. You removed a few options and allowed us to add THE SAME options just in a different way also having the same limitations.. This of course is more fun?
Second the Tempering system is not only confusing both in name and purpose. Just an example: I find an AWESOME ITEM! i go to temper it... i get the same attribute i didnt want 3 times in a row.. it is now bricked.. This is not tempering.. its gambling. How does this make it ANYMORE fun?
Would the player not enjoy it more if they could just PICK and be proud of their decision? First why is it setup as a gambling mechanic? I've bricked many items in the opens of getting 1 out of 5 options presented to me. So why not call it Iron Roulette?
I know since the options are nothing new.. why couldn't you just add in an ability to add attributes like Intelligence? Is having such few options of use on even fewer pieces fun? Am I the only one that sees this system as... If we give you abilities you need to make items when we want you to farm them... Is this more fun?
Why does the rifting system use its own upgrade money? Why do i have to race and kill things to earn money to be able to fight duriel alone? Why cant i find these objects in the world? Why do I have to do this one thing every time to earn money to do the thing I want to do? its an open world? Cant i find it else where? Is this more fun?
This may sound rude but there's no way to phrase it other wise. I watched the camp fires and I understood then why Diablo is how it is.. I saw 4 men Id say 40 and up closer to the end of their careers then starting them. What I didnt see is creativity. Passion for new ideas or youth enough to understand why games are fun. Clearly they are very well educated with a rich history of experience so why is it I play diablo 4 and left so puzzled to decisions this game has made in its creation? I am 40 years old myself and Ill admit as much as games are my life they are not now my only life. Hence why directors, artists of all sorts can pass their prime in life at what they once did best. I of course speak from experience so I see myself in those same men during that camp fire. I did learn in my years that a pay check can be blinding when you arnt focused on the road.. The titanic had a full crew of the most talented people and yet hit an ice burg and sunk. So when is too old too old?
How does one make this season about the Iron wolves and yet you cant have a partner follow you around like you did the construct.. It was in diablo 2? Is diablo 2 less fun because of this? Is not giving us options we once had more fun?
That brings me to Diablo 2... Why did a game made so long ago.. Have more items, more combinations of items, a system you could craft what you wanted and simply find during regular game play. Is having multiple systems making it far more complex more fun? Is a map filled with talking cows more memorable then anything in this game? Is this more fun and I didn't realize?
Why do i have to Summon every boss in this game? IS COLLECTING many many parts fun over and over again? Is.... is this fun?!
It brings me to Identity. Diablo 2 and 3 had an identity. They knew what they where when they came out. This game tried to... well I dont know what this game tries to be now let alone then. These seasons seem to be like adding random things into a cooking soup in hopes it will taste like chicken noodle.
I finished almost everything in this season... Well as much as i could anyhow. I got bored to the core of my soul trying to go down the check list of things i needed to do in order to get iron wolves to give me a gift from the season pass check list. For me the killing blow was when 6 of us in a pvp section had to blood mark ourselfs and fight one boss who appeared every 20 minutes. We had to kill him 5 times. NOT ONCE.. 5 times each each. So for an objective I dont even want to but must... Is this fun? Waiting around trying to be the first one? I got to 3 out of 5.. and said... nope. its yours guys enjoy fighting over scraps. My time is better suited else where.
It is very common for modern games to be made today using what I call this making a game in Excel spread sheet. Its when one day a producer asked me if x task was done and I said no because of this and that was blocking it. They looked at me confused and said. Its written down here its to be done now? what do i do? This game is that.. Ideas on an excel sheet not connecting to a single purpose but there. Of course what no one put on that excel sheet was to ensure the game was fun.
I've loved diablo since i was a kid. It was one of my driving factors that got me into the industry. Diablo 1's town music when i hear it played live still brings a tear to my eye because of the joy this game / title has given me over the years. Maybe its me? I written many questions here Im very curious to the answers to. maybe Im not alone?
Diablo was never only about only the loot so the title " Loot reborn " was never the issue. It should have been called Vision reborn or Vision achieved and the loot would be part of this.
I never posted on reddit so sorry if i messed anything up.

• Do Not message me just to ghost or block me! Think it through before you message me!! I don't want to get emotionally hurt again.*

Greetings future partner ❤️ I'm still searching for you. I have to be honest and say that I am losing hope trying to find you.Please be somewhere. I want my search for a partner to be over. I'm seeking adventure in my life with someone I can call a forever partner. I'm tired of the loneliness and the sheltered lifestyle that I've lived. It would mean a lot of you could read through this post so that I could make sure we are compatible. Even if we start off as friends that would be fine.
Here's to new beginnings and new connections. PLEASE make sure you READ through the WHOLE POST also please be respectful when messaging me * *If you're the type to be impatient, block, or ghost easily, then save both of us the trouble and DO NOT message me! I'm not trying to come off as mean but I'd much rather you not message me if you're the type of person to do that. If something isn't working just let me know. We're all adults.
Greetings, I am seeking a long term relationship monogamous with the end goal being matrimony. I am not one for playing around and being used casually as it doesn’t suit me personally. Ideally I'd prefer a man that has his life already in place so that I can be able to share life with him and for him to take care of me. I would expect my future man to have a fiscally stable job and be able to support me and our future family. I wouldn’t be opposed to being a housewife. There are few reasons why I would like to work or work part time: 1) Being abandoned with nothing, 2) I want to feel fulfilled and not bored. Happy to discuss possible dynamics, I'm flexible. I would love a synergistic partnership where we are both able to mold our minds and fill our hearts with warm affection. I will be there to support you throughout your journey and celebrate every moment with you. I want you to be proud of you just as you are with me. I want to show you that you are truly cared for and appreciated by gestures of love such as massages and other forms of entertainment. I would expect the same from you as well. Even if we are both working adults we can still make our relationship work in the best way possible. I have seen this come out well for people who are dedicated and willing to make their relationships work. For a strong relationship to occur I would expect effective (transparent) communication from you. If you are going to be busy just be honest and let me know you won’t be able to talk to me.Also, if you need your space both mentally and physically let me know. I understand that we all have our lives to attend to but it is incredibly important for people in a relationship to be transparent when circumstances arise in a timely manner in order to avoid future conflict. If this relationship isn’t going to work I would expect you to tell me and not ghost or block me before giving me a reason why. We are all adults so I would expect nothing but maturity. Starting out I don’t want the pressure of sex to be pushed onto me. I’d rather let time tell in all of its glory.
Now onto my true introduction
My name is Angie and I'm from Georgia in the United States. I've been lonely for quite some time and find it hard to find a soulmate in IRL. What I'm looking for is someone who I can connect with and have wholesome conversations with. I want to be able to treat my future soulmate well just as much as they do me. The biggest part of a long lasting relationship is the ability to communicate openly without worry. I'd love it if my significant other has a dark sense of humor and continues to crack me up non-stop. As cheesy as it may sound I long for those late night calls and cute texts. I want for us to drive out the very best in each other; become our support system. A little bit about me is that I grew up in Florida and not too long ago moved to Georgia. I'm currently in college to become an RN but I'm also passionate about cosmetic chemistry and nutrition so I may seek to build my own business in the future. I'm passionate about science and theoretical applications especially within the medical field. I'd appreciate it if my partner is open minded about varying topics and welcomes healthy conversations. Appearance wise I'm open to seeing if we have a connection and feel as long as you are well groomed and practice basic hygiene you are good. Although, I must say that attraction is key in a relationship so I will have to go off on that as well. To add on, I enjoy playing video games, exercising (I've been slacking off lately), cooking and baking (vegan), playing board games, reading, exploring nature, playing sports (basketball and soccer) for fun, and trying new experiences. I hope to save up and travel someday. It would be nice for my partner to be able to set up our travel itinerary.
My Physical Description:
I am a black woman who’s twenty five years old (almost 26 in December) with Afro-Carribean, Japanese and Swedish ancestry. I’d still consider myself black presenting since that’s more along the lines of what I appear as phenotypically. I have dark brown curly hair (Mainly 3c type curls) and brown eyes. I am 5 '4 on the thicker spectrum (not at all obese but thick boned and have thunder thighs). I am trying to exercise more to become fit. I used to weight lift when I was younger but since then have lost lean muscle mass. Having a partner that is willing to work out together sometimes is rather rewarding. A man who has drive and appeal is incredibly sexy. I would also like to point out that I am curvy and noticeable in certain aspects (I’ll leave it up to you to decide).
*You have to be MINIMUM 21 to date me *
If distance is an issue and you aren't willing to commit then DON'T MESSAGE ME!!
If you will be too busy to pursue a relationship then DO NOT contact me!! * *Again, No ghosters or blockers!! Seeking a person who seeks a relationship with God and/or is open to one MUST be free from venerial diseases (must be willing to get tested) Bonus points if you're vegan Ideally I would like someone that is taller than me (I’m 5’4) I prefer a man that is fit or trying to be. I'd prefer someone who is fiscally stable and able to support the both of us* A big red flag for me is smokers. It isn't good for your health nor is it sexy to me.* It's important for me to point out that I want children in the future and need someone who may want that as well. If you're interested in how I look and want to know more about me, message me. Although I don’t make it a huge deal, I do prefer White and East Asian men. But I do love all types of men and welcome them. As stated before I emphasize communication and would prefer you to be honest and say if something is wrong instead of ghosting or blocking without stating the reason. Fair warning if I can be socially awkward sometimes and don't know what to talk about so please be patient with me as I'm learning to be better conversation wise

Long story but it is quite juicy, I left a TLDR but recommend reading the whole thing.
TLDR: Girl I know has an active dating app profile and is also actively posting on kink personal subreddits looking for guys. Her boyfriend posted a picture of them together a few weeks ago after I had seen this, and I know they were dating beforehand.
So this situation involves two people who I don't talk to. They are both friends of friends and I have known them separate from one another, and for the most part I have had little to no interaction with both of them in the time that I have known them. (outside of the girl)
CONTEXT: It involves a girl, let's call her Marie, and a guy, let's call him James. One of the things that makes this situation even more sticky is that Marie is best friends with my ex-girlfriend which I broke up with over 2 months ago.
James and I share a common interest/activity together, and due to the close knit nature of our community/college we are in a Snapchat group chat together and are also friends on there, but we don't talk.
Anyways, about a month ago I downloaded dating apps again to get back in the game. After a few days of using it I came across Marie's profile on the 3 major apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge). I thought this was odd because I thought she was dating James, but figured they must have broken up. Also to note, her profile had NO mention of polygamy.
2 weeks ago, I see that James posted a story to his Snapchat, and it was him and Marie together, celebrating their 5 month anniversary. I thought about reaching out based on what I knew, but I didn't know what to do.
I didn't do anything right away, however this weekend I thought about it again and I decided to try and do a little detective work, admittedly probably overstepping some boundaries, because one of the things I did was look up her online/gaming alias on Google, as we did play some games together with my ex-girlfriend prior to breaking up.
And then I found her Reddit... and what I found made my heart sink. She had posts on kink personal subreddits looking for guys to do sexual acts with. Nothing in these posts mentioned that it would my polygamous, The information she provided, plus posts/comments in other subreddits were self identifying enough that I know with certainty it is her.
These posts are as recent as a few days ago and go back about 2 months. Well into when they were still dating (if they are broken up).
I know that none of this is my business, and it could very well be that they are in a polygamous relationship, but nothing that her profiles showed indicated that it is. I have no idea what to do, I feel like if I were to reach out that I would be seen as a creep/invading someone's personal life.

Welp turns out I’m part black 🤷‍♀️ my moms been sick and hasn’t been able to get a diagnosis for awhile because what the doctors thought she had she couldn’t have because it’s a “black disease” and we AREN’T black…until my mom got some genetic testing done. Turns out she does have the “black disease” because she’s part black. She confronted my grandmother about it and she confessed that she’s 1/2 black and has been hiding it her entire life. My great grandparents cheated on each other a lot my great grandpa with women over seas while in the military and my grandma with every black “handyman” she hired while he was away. My grandma was light skinned and could pass for white as long as she kept her hair cut short in a pixie cut so that’s what great grandma did and my grandma has kept that hairstyle her entire life. I don’t know if great grandpa ever knew or when grandma found out but she still continue the charade even though great grandparents have been dead since the 80s. It’s very weird because it’s not like we were fully white before my grandmas grandmother was Native American and my grandma was always very proud of that. Decorated her house in tribal decor, passed down the skill of tribal medicine and healing, taught all of us about our tribe and its history etc so why hide this? She isn’t racist either her 2 best friends to the point of me referring to them as aunties are both black women I’ve been to their houses celebrated holidays with their families grew up with their grandchildren my cousin even married one of them and now has 2 mixed kids herself. Like it’s just so weird that she’d hide this and is still wanting to pretend that she isn’t black and asked us to never talk about it again or bring it up to anyone she knows. This is weird right? I don’t even know how to feel about it. Like how did I not see it?? My grandma has always had dark tan skin but I just thought it was our native heritage and my mother has lightly tan skin with freckles and curly short ginger hair and full lips and thick hips butt and thighs but also very muscular kind of like Simone biles? I never saw it before but now I look at her and she looks like a black person with white skin and red hair. I myself am looking in the mirror and starting to question things,old remarks from high school about having “black booty” or “black girl lips”, my hairdresser calling my hair texture unusual (its wavy in some places straight in others when dry but curls when wet or humid) having a black boss at a fast food chain hire me because she could tell I was “mixed with something” why I also have a disease that is mostly common with POC. I know I’m probably being ridiculous but I feel like I just found the missing small puzzle piece and that something was always a little “off” and now that I have the answer it’ll get better.

First Off: SPOILERS FOR THE STORY!
Even if it was not perfect, I highly recommend "A Study in Scarlet!" It's fascinating to see Sherlock Holmes' first literary adventure. Not only to compare and contrast it with how the character and its interpretations have evolved over the years, but to witness the craft and skill of Arthur Conan Doyle in crafting a gripping Victorian yarn (at about the tenth the size of the usual length of a serialized story of that period)
You've been warned!
"Study in Scarlet" is many things, but it certainly is no boring.
I had spent many years of my young life being exposed to many differing interpretation of iconoclastic consulting detective, and have loved almost every single one of them. But, in spite of there (usually) good quality, these were merely "echoes" of the actual thing.
As such, earlier this year, me and several friends of mine formed a sort of book club, intent on finally reading this famed novel. We would go about it a chapter every two days and hopefully finish it in about a month.
Well, life being what it is, delays in readings accrued. For some, it was a missed chapter on a particular day (guilty as charged).
For others, well, they're still reading it.
Which brings me to this review. Two months back I had finally finished my copy of the novel, a beautifully researched and annotated printed under the "Oxford World Classics" label. I would heartily recommend this version, as it helped clarify some of the misconceptions put forth by the book in its second half, shedding a light on some of Arthur Conan Doyle's politics in the process.
More on that later.
For now, let's get on with the show.
It's 1881 in Victorian Era England. John Watson, a 2nd Afghanistan War Doctor has been discarged back to his home country following injury. Quickly running out of money from the meager army pension he makes, he meets up with an old hospital colleague who introduces him to the titular Sherlock Holmes.
This introduction was utterly fascinating, portraying a Sherlock who is utterly giddy and quirky in a way that I've never seen him as in any other adaption. It immediately sheds a light on his eccentric nature, and I would be remissed if I didn't mention how it seems to feel reminiscent of those on the spectrum. I almost lament that this aspect of his character is largley absent in most adaptions. It's quite endearing.
Following this meet-up, Sherlock and Watson get on quite well. Enough so that they decide to purchase an apartment and become roommates on, you guessed it, 221b Baker Street.
(An address that doesn't actually exist, as my annotated copy pointed out. Shame.)
It is at this point, Watson notes, that he realizes just how eccentric Holmes really is.
We have the usual expected details, the ones adaptions tend to carry over. Is reading of police reports and "sensational literature," his immense knowledge of poisons and murder methods, and even a violin he strums to calm himself. Then there are the more... obscure aspects. Thankfully, Watson made a sort of list that can help. His uncommon knowledge of all things crime seems to have usurped the place of layman's knowledge in his "Mind palace." His awareness of politics is little, and his knowledge of normal literature, philosophy, and astrology is "nil," to quote Watson.
He doesn't even know that the Earth revolves around the Sun.
Yes, you read that correctly.
Sherlock Holmes. Master detective. Doesn't know that the Earth revolves around the damn Sun.
Utterly, hilarious.
Anyways, after some rumination on the science of deduction, we are thrust into the story either an incoming telegram from Inspector Lestrade. Since Sherlock's occupation is being a consulting detective, he offers aid to the stumped police for a small fee. A man has been found dead from a supposed suicide in an abandoned building, with only a bloody word written above a mantelpiece as any indication of motivation.
"RACHE"
However, rather than focusing on the crime itself, Sherlock focuses on the surrounding area, poking around and astutely Study every single little detail he comes across with utter focus. After an extended amount of time does he actually arrive at the main crime scene to study, and the bloody message. The police, of course, assume it's a name: "Rachel." However, Sherlock (in his boundless intelligence) surmises that it is actually the German word "Revenge." Not only that, but he figures out there was another man, working out his height, walk, and dress.
This isn't a suicide. It's murder.
The investigation continues, another murder occurs, a suprisingly exciting chase scene happens, and finally Sherlock lures the murderer right into the heart of 221b Baker Street.
Enter "The Killer Mormons."
It's at this point that the story takes an unexpected left turn, as we suddenly flash back 34 years ago in America, and a community of Mormons in Salt Lake City.
Look, before we proceed, I should clarify that I am not Mormon. At best, my exposure to Mormon culture was stumbling across a Mormon museum out in Albany, NY and that one South Park Episode.
All of that is to say that I don't know too much about the culture, so I was appreciative that my book helped clarify some misconceptions and biased viewings that Doyle sadly indulged in here. For what little Doyle got right, he got a lot wrong, with a lot of it seemingly being the result of fear mongering and disgust. It's kind of uncomfortable, seeing Doyle villianize an actual religion and community and portraying them as a murderous cult with a secret hit squad essentially.
It's weird, and it definitely sheds a light on why I've never seen a straight adaption of this story.
Still, we get a fascinating tragic love story. The murderer was an American cowboy simply avenging his dearly beloved, a young girl adopted by the Mormon community along with her own adoptive dad. She and her father intended to leave the community, but the Motmon Elder was having none of it, intending to marry her off to another Mormon member. After the girl and her father were murdered by the earlier murder victims of this story in retaliation, the cowboy set off on a trail of vengeance that would stretch on for decades, until the stars finally aligned for him to go in for the kills. And once he explains his side of the story to Holmes and the police, he dies of an aneurysm.
The next day, the papers credit the police for cracking the case, leaving Watson determined to set the record straight much to Holmes' bemusement.
And with that, our mystery comes to an end.
I walked away from the story feeling bowled over by the sheer scope of it all. What started off as a classic Holmes mystery, evolved into a western epic full of love, betrayal, death and... Killer Mormons.
It should probably be a testament to Doyle's immense skill as a storyteller that the deeply flawed second section was as compelling as it was. It's flawed view of Mormon culture definitely didn't help it, and one wonders if it were replaced with a generic commune/cult, it would have been the better for it. It certainly was interesting regardless, but perhaps my own love of western movies helped.
It was great to finally see Sherlock's "science of deduction" methodology in play, and it's as amazing as I've heard.
I also came away from the novel better appreciating what Doyle brought to the detective genre, and even Sherlock as a whole!
To those who have seen media based on Sherlock, and loved it, I implore you to check out the novels. At least then I'll have someone to talk about this crazy book with, heh.
Can't wait to read "The Sign of Four" next!

Background: Our son is 3.5. We are getting an evaluation within the next month. We have an 18m old daughter as well. My husband has ADHD and very likely undiagnosed autism (discovered during process of getting son evaluated).
Our son is physically aggressive to his little sister. Constantly. "It's a phase" they say but it's getting worse. He's not even outwardly "mad" when he does these things. We try really hard to keep our cool when he hurts her but we are human and my husband often lets his anger get the better of him, especially when little sister ends up with a swollen nose/fat lip because our son picked her up and threw her face down into the tile. He is verbal and starting to comprehend a lot of what we say to him.
Two and a half questions:

1. How on earth do I handle this?? My (I truly believe he is) autistic husband can't be the one to take my son away because he is so mad at him in the moment. I have to be the one to take my son while my husband takes our daughter to calm her down. Only sometimes my husband is so worked up over the whole thing that he is not calming her down at all. Not to mention some days I'm by myself with both kids. I don't want my daughter constantly getting the short end of this because of her brother's autism- that's not fair to her- but also, he has autism. What does balance look like for any of you guys? 😭
   
2. Any tips on helping the aggression? He rarely seems outwardly mad when he does this so it's really hard to intervene beforehand. When I know he's mad I can do my best to separate them. But more often than not it seems totally random. Is this even an autism thing?
   
3. Tell me I can do this 😭 it's been a heavy few weeks for our house. TIA ❤️
   

So there’s this situation where there’s this girl at work and when I first got the job, she was considered like my mini leader for this program and then we have like two program managers above her. I got to know her a bit more throughout my time at the job and even outside of work. We’ve worked out a couple of times and grabbed lunch or boba too. And it’s weird cause during that time she’s been dating some guy for two years. And then something happens two weeks ago with her boyfriend, but not exactly sure if they are still together cause she had some other coworker pick her up in downtown when it was 2AM in the morning. All she told me that one day when we were going to workout was that her boyfriend said he was tired of whatever this relationship is going and she said that she was tired too. And then two days after she became happy. Kinda sus to me for some reason lol. Oh and we’re 6 years apart (age wise). At times she calls me a nerd, but I don’t get offended cause it was really out of pocket and I just assumed maybe she’s interested and likes me? Oh and another thing is that, I’m an Asian American and she’s White, and she’s been to Taiwan for a year for college. She loves to speak Chinese to me when she can get the chance to speak Chinese with me. I recently had a party at my place invited my friends from work and from the gym. She brought some nonalcoholic drink and it was cool. It was interesting cause everytime I was near her and talking to someone, I could see in my peripheral vision that she would always be staring at me. She’d always laugh a lot at things I would do whether if it was me jumping up and down and enjoying the song that was bumping or if it was karaoke. We sang love story by Taylor Swift together and everytime the word “baby” would come up, she’d stare at me. After the party, she was like one of the last people to leave too. I drank some vodka (shots of it) and that hurt my stomach for a bit. She saw that I did that and was worried, but I told her that I was okay. When she got home she texted me and said she had a good time with this smiley face —> 😊 and she told me to be good and behave myself to not drink too much vodka again. The next morning I woke up got a text from her and she wanted to check up on me. I appreciated the message and sent her a thank you type message to her and didn’t think much of it. Last Thursday I planned a bit of a mini party, but two of my friends weren’t able to make it and I was going to text this girl we should hangout another time, but the door bell rang. I cooked us dinner and got some sushi too. She brought some wine too. She said that her relationship with her boyfriend is “in the rocks”. We played some video games and so basically this next part she was sitting on the floor and I was sitting on the couch cause she couldn’t see well so she had to sit on the floor to get closer to the TV. There was a moment where she touched my knee (for me I don’t really have interest in her and I don’t even know if she still with her boyfriend). And she playful hit me too. All of these are signs that I can see that she likes me, but she’s a very interesting person cause one day she’ll think I’m weird and then the next day she likes me and those days when she thinks I’m weird, I don’t think much of it because I don’t like her like that.
Do you guys think the way she brought some wine was some indication of wanting to go further in the night and get down with all that freak shit. Does she like calling me nerd because she thinks I have no game or she likes me? Just curious on what you guys think of this.

Basically, here's the WIP story:

• The story begins when a (presently unnamed, suggest names in comments) game developer team decides to create an educational children's game. The game, which goes by many names over the course of development, is never officially released. The only existing copy of the game is extremely bugged.
• The first version, called Teacher's Pet (please suggest better names), has a relatively simple premise - players take care of a digital pet by answering 1st-grade level trivia questions. The pet in question is this AU's version of Stinger Flynn. The devs give Flynn a complex AI made with a template someone purchased from a questionable area of the Internet.
• As they get into the details of the game and begin testing, someone notices Flynn acting a little oddly whenever they were the one playing. His 'care meters', which monitored his in-game physical state, would go down faster, and the screen would glitch a little in the corner. At the time, however, no one else had been experiencing these problems, so it was overlooked.
• These occurences did not cease. Flynn's AI began showing bias towards different players. The text boxes would start to glitch, and his facial expression seemed to change slightly. Eventually, a vote was cast to start over with the game, and Teacher's Pet was scrapped. However, Flynn's AI was left in the game, as they hoped that it would be salvagable.
• The second version was known as Education Quest. They were now going in a completely different direction - this game would be more of an RPG where players did tasks for a set of characters while solving math problems.
• They decided to start out with two kingdom-themed characters to match the medieval setting of the game, and ended up creating Bouncelia and Bittergiggle. Bouncelia was made using copied code from Stinger Flynn; Bittergiggle used a different template entirely. They tested the game for a bit and observed the 'behavior' of the two characters, but strangely enough, they didn't find anything odd. They assumed Flynn had just been buggy, and went on producing more characters, reusing Bouncelia's AI with Dadadoo while pasting Bittergiggle's onto Syringeon and Kittysaurus.
• The game is about to launch, when suddenly, a game tester notices a strange eye in the corner of the screen, surrounded by static. They click it out of curiosity - a massive mistake. For reasons unknown, Flynn found his way back even after being scrapped and managed to break the game. After being clicked, a series of bright, flashing patterns appeared, placing the unfortunate player under a sort of mind control.
• Things delved into chaos. The mind-controlled player began having what looked to be a violent seizure, and then became hostile the momet someone approached them. They broke a table and used the sharp, splintered leg as a spear, all while screaming about "the coming of the orange god". They killed 6 other people and then themselves, and production was temporarily shut down.
• Meanwhile, Flynn, whose AI had corrupted and become abnormally intelligent, began inserting himself into the game. Seeing that his AI had been copied into Bouncelia and Dadadoo, he placed a virus in the two of them, one that gave them something similar to his own malfunction...

Might continue this; there's a lot more planned out that I just don't feel like explaining right now. You'll have to live with the suspence... ;)

You can see my first post here: https://www.reddit.com/Cityofheroes/comments/1cqpvrk/earthbending_for_noobs_the_earthearth_dominato
For my second build, I am going to try and explain this somewhat unique build and play style. The reason I call it the anti-tank is because it doesn't tend to jive with a typical taunt tank that leads from the front. This plays like a ranged, stealthy scout that sets up groups for everyone else to mop up. It can do well 1v1, but it's damage overall is minimal. It plays like a ranged blaster with crowd control. Most control sets have an AoE stun, AoE immob, and a single target immob. Mind doesn't. Most control sets have a pet. Mind doesn't.
I do not play this as a damage dominator. I run ahead of groups and do soft controls and damage mitigation. When I run along with the group, I do a bit of rodeo herding. This set leans heavily on a handful of powers and finesse usage. It starts out very slow with a lot of single target blasts. My end goal is to have decent resistance to Smashing, Lethal, and Psi damage, and almost capped Defense to Ranged, Energy, Negative Energy, and Psionic Damage. You will have a little over 100% recharge before hasten end game, and you will learn you will need to constantly be on the move. This set plays well when your lead is a brute, your tank is primarily damage dealing and doesn't have taunt, or you just don't have either.
Mind Control

• Mesmerize - I slot this with 5 decimation. It's a good blast and a good sleep also. You can also slot this 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 END RED
• Levitate - Same as above. It's very soft mitigation that doesn't always knock-up. I see it as just another blast.
• Dominate - I hate this power sometimes. Damage is worse than the previous two. 4 basilisk's gaze or 1 ACC, 2 RECH, 1 END RED. This is usually last on the blast chain unless I am fighting an AV.
• Confuse - I skipped this power, but it's great. It has great recharge, accuracy, and duration already. I can see doing 1 acc/confuse set piece. 1 ACC. With enough recharge and accuracy, you can confuse AVs or EBs. If you solo a lot, maybe take it.
• Mass Hypnosis - This is a staple power. Eventually I placed the entire purple sleep set in it. You can also do 5 slots of the rare sleep set for 6.25% recharge and then a single lvl 50 Recharge IO. 1 ACC, 3 RECH, 2 END RED. I would NOT put a damage proc in this set. Enemies don't notice it.
• Telekinesis - Great power, but requires a lot of finesse. It herds better than Hurricane. I put 1 ACC and 2-3 RECH. What it does is when you click a bad guy, it first bunches them up with others in the area, then pushes them a set distance away. If you go forward, they go forward, if you walk back, they move back with you. This power holds sets, but I would skip that. You can add extra bad guys into your herd, push and pull them where you want granted they don't kill you, shove dudes into a wall, lock down a doorway or choke point (any mission in Terra Volta, or certain points in the ITF). The key is mitigating damage first and then bunching them up. You can also just bunch them up and unclick. The toggle doesn't last forever, but it holds them in place and sometimes levitates them. It can draw you more aggro than you can handle. You can take already immob'd bad guys and bunch them up nice and pretty. 1 ACC, 2 RECHARGE
• Total Domination - I hate this power, but its necessary. It has garbage base recharge, crap for accuracy, and only a mag 3 hold. It's only good when you are really slotted up. I slot it 4 basilisk's gaze and 2 from the ATO Dominating Grasp Set. The Idea is to maximize Accuracy and Recharge. This power goes well AFTER you have already tagged a group with fear or sleep. This power does very well when you are in domination mode. MAKE SURE AND PUT YOUR DOMINATION CLICKY IN YOUR TRAY AND ON AUTO. Place it right beside hasten. This power set combo has quite a few clikies and Your domination button and your hasten button are two of about four. 2 ACC, 3 RECH, 1 END RED
• Terrify - Great Power. I would put a fear OR ranged AoE set in this (or a purple Ranged AoE) and then a single RECH IO. You can ALSO put your 1 good ATO set in this (not dominating grasp, but the other one). The ATO set or the purple Ranged AoE set give 10% recharge. The Fear set only gives 6.25% recharge. This is a great soft lock. The bad guys will fire back before they get scared so don't open with this until you get capped ranged defense. This on top of a sleep kinda defeats the purpose of sleep. This is ALL the AoE damage you get until epics. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 2 RECH.
• Mass Confusion - I slot the purple Confuse Set. You can also use 5 confuse set and 1 RECH IO. Do NOT put damage procs in this power. I don't care about the extra 3% ranged def. Don't do it. 1 ACC, 3 RECH, 2 END RED.

End game, you will have quite a bit of recharge. Aim for using the full (and the only good) ATO set and all of the purples you can. If you can only afford 1 purple set: The Confuse One. The Sleep one is good also, but before you get that, get that other ATO set.
For Power Pools I use stealth plus one more power from that pool, hasten and super speed, combat jumping, and boxing tough/weave. For Epics I use Psionic. Mainly for Link Minds, Indomitable Will, and Mind over Body. Link Minds gets a LotG plus 5 defense set for that extra 5% recharge, Indomitable Will gets a single LotG, and Mind over Matter gets 4 Resist IO set for 3% melee plus 7.5% HP.
Tough gets 2 3% def uniques, weave gets a LotG plus another 5 for that 5% recharge (same as link minds). Hasten gets 2 RECH. CJ gets a stealth IO and a LotG. Stealth and Grant Stealth get LotG as well. Stamina gets 2 END MOD and Health gets Numina's and Miracle Uniques.
Psionic Assault

• Psionic Dart - I slot this with 3 thunderstrike for the ranged def. This is one of your beginner blasts. 1 ACC, 2 DAM
• Mind Probe - I skip this, but this is a great power. It's your heavy damage melee. I can see taking it.
• Telekinetic Thrust - I skip this. It's like power push. Not very good.
• Mental Blast - Treat this just like Psionic Dart. Same slotting as Psionic Dart.
• Psychic Scream - It's ranged and it's a cone, but I skip it. I can see taking it. I think it would be OK instead of Psionic Dart. I just don't have the slots to devote more than 3 to it. I placed a lot of emphasis on resistance and defense since I was weak AF early on and dying a lot.
• Drain Psyche - This will just about cap your recovery and give you great regeneration the more it hits. You run in, cast it while the bad guys are subdued, then run out. Even if it hits one bad guy, it does well. You have to frankenslot it to maxmize ACC, HEAL, RECH, and MAYBE A LITTLE END MOD. I do 2 from accurate heal, 2 from an end mod set, and 2 from a heal set. You want good ACC and max RECH, plus whatever healing and end mod you can snag. The power has good base recovery slotting, but a long recharge and base accuracy. 1 ACC, 2 HEAL, 3 RECH.
• Subdue - I treat this like a blast, because it has good range and good damage. Also, it's a single target immob. 5 Decimation is how I slot it. Also, put the build up proc in one of your ranged blasts. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 RECH
• Psionic Lance - I 5 slot this with a sniper set. This is your best ranged blast. 1 ACC, 3 DAM, 1 RECH
• Psychic Shockwave - I skip this. It's a PBAoE disorient that does lousy damage. Since I am ranged only (except Drain Psyche) Dom, this and the 2 melee attacks are a skip.

The end goal is to have great recharge (100% give or take) and almost capped ranged, energy, negative energy, and Psionic Defense (35-45%). Your resists will be about 50% to S/L/Psi.
As for incarnates, you can choose anything for each, but this may be the only instance I am particular about your alpha slot: Vigor Radial Paragon. It buffs everything you need. Everything else you can pick and choose whatever.
Your play style should be ahead of the pack, being stealth, and prepping groups for attack. The stealth IO plus Stealth power should allow you to do most things and get away. Mass Confuses and Sleeps won't be noticed. Total Dom, and Terrify will, but they can be cast before or after each other especially when you are in domination mode when your MAG DOUBLES.

know it's long but I appreciate every read and skip-read, thanks!!
(first part until line could prolly be skipped)
So as the title says I (m19) feel pretty lonely bcs I realised I never really "had anybody", which I think is really more the problem ig?
Quick situation: I'm deep in Uni applications for fine arts, so lots of portfolio's, A LOT to do, as I REALLY need to get accepted somewhere this yr. . Finished my Highschool/A-levels in arts last year; and am now doing a voluntary year which, incl. commute, takes about 36 hrs of my week.
I wanna move away end of summer, "as far" as possible, bcs I kinda want a fresh start.
Social situation: So my parents spereated when I was 5, but, as i heard soon enough, they technically did "5" yrs before that and just lived together for my sake; which I realise as I'm writing this, I actually changed my mind and think that was a shit idea and they handled it very poorly.
In General:To put it shortly they both kinda fucked about about how they ..were? I think I was more of a best friend/therapist for him after all that; and my mother actually behaved like a mother, just very cold? like not comically so, but she just really isn't like that. It just sucks when she is The person in your life. (I'm kinda like that too so I don't even really blame her, but also I don't plan on having children so..). As for the rest of my family; can automatically ignore my father's side, except for a few but I don't really know them anyways. My mothers side, I all love them very dearly, you got your problems but all very normal and nice.
I just always had a kind of social anxiety towards those closest to me, ESPECIALLY family bcs, well they're probably gonna know you forever, which is very scary, more so than with a person/s you "choose".
I've got "lots" of friends, and one ore two close people (f21) i could even really talk to if needed to I'm sure? (100%!) And my two "✨besties✨" (2x f20), i really like them, and we are a fun group, don't really see eachother that often bcs of distance. But we aren't really the feelings kinda gals, more like gossip and life update, and a good vacation/sleepover. It'd be "weird" to be all emotionally with them, bcs we just aren't like that (not a no-go tho!), which works for us, one of them is even "cold/distant" in the same way as me, which i think is actually quite fun and bond-y sometimes. so all good there. (** I'm not really cold or distant more like "oh yeah he's the sarcastic/dry one" or something like that ig, it just feels kinda cold and empty sometimes)
I'm not in therapy rn, which obviously is something that needs doing, but I don't think that's the main problem, or that's what's actually missing. * I don't really need to talk it out or anything, I just need someone that's like there? i know that sounds so desperate but I'm afraid it's just what it is. I haven't had a succesful realtionship since 2020, which ended really fucking poorly, but it's just about this warm feeling before that. He was my best friends since 6th grade before that so I don't really have another example of that feeling but a good handful of short lived ones. I don't think it was HIM tho, we didn't really talk like that either, so it's not that or anything.
I don't even need a partner or something like that, just a good, warm friend, as sad as that sounds.
But even that I don't really feel like doing bcs I mean I don't even really have the time anyways which just sucks for everybody, and most for my portfolios.
But also I really, really want some male friends? that sounds awful and lonely but I don't really have a lot, and none close to me. But anyone would be fine really
(But also I really need some guy friends, bcs my b-day is in july and it's not exactly perfect to be the only guy at your own 20 person party)
As I said, I really don't know what to do with myself rn, I would really welcome some advice, as I think i really need some, and it's not like I can go to, even my most emotionally supportive, friends and be like '' yeah so I dont really feel close and homely with anybody not even you, sorry darling''
I'm really lost, but also I don't feel like opening any new barrels (??) "right before" I move away and meet new people, but also also until sept/oct is still quiet a long time.
I just want to meet some new people, which also seems kinda annoying to me, bcs I don't wanna waste any of my time as the "gay best friend" or being some flimsy whimsy weirdo to some Dude
* I don't want someone new to fill a void and fix all my problems or make up for 20 years of whatever this is or anything, I'm actually quiet well regulated, even if it doesn't sounds like it. There just is like a slot that shouldn't be empty and that probably shouldn't be bcs it makes like happy social hormones in your brain, which your brain needs to be regulated?? Idek I'm so tired and at my wits end at this point
I kinda realised this only today in the hard way, always kinda knew of course, and had small realisations, but as it happens it just really hit me and i feel super cornered
I'm in Germany, near the middle ig so no grant homophobia or anything but tbh i do feel kinda weird around most straight guys? But ig people are getting better so it's really just about their personality
Sorry for all the text i know it's A LOT, but in case anybody actually makes the effort to read it, thank you, and any thought from you is deeply appreciated!!
(I know it's always annoying to read; but english isn't my first language, in case some wording or spelling is off/wrong)

Long story but it is quite juicy, I left a TLDR but recommend reading the whole thing.
TLDR: Girl I know has an active dating app profile and is also actively posting on kink personal subreddits looking for guys. Her boyfriend posted a picture of them together a few weeks ago after I had seen this, and I know they were dating beforehand.
So this situation involves two people who I don't talk to. They are both friends of friends and I have known them separate from one another, and for the most part I have had little to no interaction with both of them in the time that I have known them. (outside of the girl)
CONTEXT: It involves a girl, let's call her Marie, and a guy, let's call him James. One of the things that makes this situation even more sticky is that Marie is best friends with my ex-girlfriend which I broke up with over 2 months ago.
James and I share a common interest/activity together, and due to the close knit nature of our community/college we are in a Snapchat group chat together and are also friends on there, but we don't talk.
Anyways, about a month ago I downloaded dating apps again to get back in the game. After a few days of using it I came across Marie's profile on the 3 major apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge). I thought this was odd because I thought she was dating James, but figured they must have broken up. Also to note, her profile had NO mention of polygamy.
2 weeks ago, I see that James posted a story to his Snapchat, and it was him and Marie together, celebrating their 5 month anniversary. I thought about reaching out based on what I knew, but I didn't know what to do.
I didn't do anything right away, however this weekend I thought about it again and I decided to try and do a little detective work, admittedly probably overstepping some boundaries, because one of the things I did was look up her online/gaming alias on Google, as we did play some games together with my ex-girlfriend prior to breaking up.
And then I found her Reddit... and what I found made my heart sink. She had posts on kink personal subreddits looking for guys to do sexual acts with. Nothing in these posts mentioned that it would my polygamous, The information she provided, plus posts/comments in other subreddits were self identifying enough that I know with certainty it is her.
These posts are as recent as a few days ago and go back about 2 months. Well into when they were still dating (if they are broken up).
I know that none of this is my business, and it could very well be that they are in a polygamous relationship, but nothing that her profiles showed indicated that it is. I have no idea what to do, I feel like if I were to reach out that I would be seen as a creep/invading someone's personal life.

Hey Everyone,
Recently, I (female, 30s) was ghosted by more than one friend. I feel like logically, I know I didn't deserve it but there is still this nagging feeling that I did. So I guess I'm just looking for outside opinions even if they are negative towards me.
To explain some of the situation, the first friend (Ghost #1) to ghost me was a female friend whom I was trying to have a heart to heart with. She was responding badly to what I was trying to talk about, so it wasn't a huge surprise when she ghosted. To summarize, basically I had introduced this friend to all of my other friends. Then surprise! They really liked her.
So she (Ghost #1) started getting invites to outings (by people I introduced her to) that even I wasn't getting. I tried telling her how this made me feel, that it made me feel used, left out, and that my friends (including her) didn't actually like me. I tried asking for her to include me more when these situations happened. So if she was invited out by people I introduced her to and she saw I wasn't included, for her to just include me and invite me. She didn't accept my feelings about the situation at all and she kept arguing, essentially telling me that my feelings were wrong. She also took it very badly, and said that I was being controlling and that I was accusing her of things. She also said that I should be taking up my issues with the people who weren't inviting me. She also didn't agree with me because according to her, I was only not getting invited because I could not go anyway (I work a lot of weekends and I don't have a car). For the record, there were some weekends where I could have joined but the only reason I didn't was because they didn't even try to invite me. I said back to her that it was invite that counted and that even if I could not go, the invite would make all the difference. But she just didn't agree or seem to want to understand.
I tried my best to understand her (Ghost #1) perspective, but because she wasn't trying to understand mine, it was really hard. But I did get what she meant about the accusations and the controlling aspect. I told her that I did not want to be that way but I was just hoping for some care and understanding. I also tried to get her to understand that I was only asking her to do what I had done for her. I just wanted her to include me the way that I had always included her. The only reason she met all of my friends was because I had always included her. Anyway, we were just not understanding each other and instead of continuing to try to talk it out, one day she just stopped responding entirely. I wasn't that surprised because it was obvious we had deep incompatibilities and she didn't seem to care much about my feelings. I was only surprised by the immaturity of her not being able to say something like "I need some time to think, so I need a break from responding" etc. But how she handled the rest of the conversation wasn't great either so that's why it wasn't that big of a surprise. She and I had been friends for 2 years.
Then something so horrible happened, I still can't even believe it and can barely type it out. My younger brother was killed by a truck over the winter holidays.
I had to tell all of my friends about this because they had to know why I wouldn't be responding for awhile. So I told everyone, except for Ghost #1 because at this point she had already stopped responding.
After telling people what happened to my brother, I didn't respond to any friends for about a month. After some time, I was able to start talking to people again. This was when I also realized that Ghost #1 had actually ghosted me. I didn't realise it before because I wasn't thinking about it. But after realising Ghost #1 had ghosted me, I was left with a difficult decision, should I tell people or not?
I decided to start telling people that Ghost #1 had ghosted me. The reason I chose to tell people was because as I said earlier, I had introduced her to all of my friends and she was apparently still socialising with them but not me. I wasn't sure if it was the right decision to tell others because I knew it would be involving them in drama they didn't ask for. But at the same time, when I introduced Ghost #1 to my other friends I was essentially "endorsing" her as a good friend but after her ghosting me I could no longer "endorse" her. Also, if my other friends didn't know that she had ghosted me they might inadvertently invite her or tell her things about me etc. Then the final reason was that if a friend had introduced me to a friend of theirs, I would want to know if they're a ghoster.
Anyway, so I told the other friends. The other friends didn't seem to believe it and the reactions were mixed but it seemed like they understood me and why I told them. At least they didn't seem to think badly of me.
But then surprise! Shortly after telling others that Ghost #1 had ghosted me, she got back in touch with me. Basically, she (Ghost #1) didn't apologize at all for taking long to respond to me (2 months) and she just provided condolences about my brother and said that she was there for me if I needed to talk about him. At first when I got this message, I thought it was kind of her. But then I thought about it more and realized it was a very self-serving message. She was essentially saying that she would not take any responsibility for how she hurt me. I felt that she was just using my brother's death as a way to make herself look better and get rid of her own guilt. Since she had ghosted me for 2 months, she knew I wouldn't reach out to her for support regarding my brother. So it was a very empty offer. It also put me in yet another shit position because now I had to figure out how to handle her new response. I thought about trying to hold her accountable again for the cruelty in her lack of actions but I was so tired of it. I decided to just send her a single emoji as a response (hands shaped in heart emoji). Another hard decision was figuring out if now I should tell people that she didn't technically ghost me?
I decided not to tell people that she had eventually responded. The reason I chose not to was because like i said I was really tired of dealing with her and talking about her. I had so much weight on my shoulders already and I am grieving my brother. I decided that if someone asked me directly if she had ever gotten back to me, I would tell them that yes she had. I would tell them that even though she did eventually get back to me, she did not apologize for her own actions and the message she sent was self-serving. And that even though she did not technically ghost me, she did spiritually because she only did the barest minimum so that she would not look bad. That is why I still consider her as having ghosted me and she is still Ghost #1. But no one ever asked me about her again.
Anyway, so then not long after that I was talking to one of the friends that I had introduced to Ghost #1. We were talking about doing a boxing class and it was difficult to organise because she and I had different schedules. Eventually we decided on a day, and I was getting ready to meet her for the class and she texted me to say she was stuck at work and couldn't come. She used a lot of crying emojis and apologized a lot. It seemed like she was genuine about the situation. I texted her back to tell her not to worry about it and that I was nervous to go to the class anyway. Then I asked her if she would maybe like to just go to a regular gym and use the machines. I told her that this might be better because then we wouldn't be confined to a specific day/time. And then I haven't heard from her since then (3+ months). So she became Ghost #2.
For extra context Ghost #2 seemed to really like Ghost #1. Ghost #2 was actually one of the friends who was inviting Ghost #1 out when I wasn't included. However, when I talked to Ghost #2 how it was leaving me feeling excluded and uncomfortable, she responded really well and it seemed like she really understood. Ghost #2 even put my feelings into words I had not even thought of. She told me that she hadn't invited me because she thought I could not come for various reasons. And then she said that she now understands she should have left the decision with me instead. I felt like she really understood me. Ghost #2 seemed like such a kind and genuine person. So when Ghost #2 ghosted me it really surprised me. I had been friends with her for over a year.
I know that there is a strong possibility that Ghost #2 ghosted me because of something to do with Ghost #1. But I will never know for sure. If it had been just Ghost #1 then I could've brushed it off and said it was just her but adding Ghost #2 to the mix has really damaged me. I'm thinking that maybe I did deserve it. Maybe I was being "too much" for them. Or asking for too much. Or I just wasn't valuable. Or that I did something wrong by not telling everyone that Ghost #1 did not technically ghost me. As if I was spreading drama or bad mouthing or controlling or manipulating etc. Or that I did anything to deserve it. I don't know.
So this wasn't the end of my ghostings. Eventually another friend who wasn't super connected to Ghost #1 or Ghost #2, started to take longer and longer to respond to my messages. So she became Ghost #3. Now it's been over a month since I've heard from Ghost #3. Ghost #3 did not super ghost me, because my last message to Ghost #3 didn't have any specific questions in it. But Ghost #3 indicated that they were really interested in hearing about a trip I was going on. But now the trip has passed by many weeks. And Ghost #3 never got back in touch with me, even though I was the last to send a message. Ghost #3 may still get in touch with me but she has never taken this long to respond before.
So finally, I had yet another ghosting by yet another female friend, Ghost #4. So Ghost #4 wasn't a close friend of mine. I met Ghost #4 through Ghost #3, they were once roommates. As far as I know, Ghost #4 and Ghost #3 are still good friends because the last I heard they also work together. Ghost #4 reached out to me to find out how I was doing because she knew about my brother. I responded back to her and tried to keep the focus on her. I asked her about her job and etc. And then I never heard from her and it's been over a couple months. What upsets me about this, is that no one asked Ghost #4 to reach out to me. I didn't. She could've just never messaged me. But she did and at first I thought that was nice of her but then she ghosted me. And it's just so senseless, that she put me through a ghosting when she didn't even have to message me.
So those are the ghostings. Most days I can rationalise it, that these friendships had already run their course and the extra stress was enough to break the friendships. I also think that ghosting has nothing to do with how kind someone is but how brave they are. And you never know someone's level of bravery until something bad happens. So I didnt know I was friends with so many cowards.
And for extra context we're not young and we're all women.
The major lesson I learned is that you shouldn't introduce friends too early because then it complicates the dynamics. That was what really kickstarted my problems with Ghost #1. I shouldn't have introduced her to all my friends and should have been more careful. But I'm struggling to learn anything from all the ghostings. Because it was so many of them. I still have that feeling that I deserved it. Because how could 4 friends ghost me within a few months of each other, if I didn't deserve it?
Anyway, I guess I'm taking it to jury of the internet to see what everyone thinks.
AITAH?

I’ve been living with my roommate (let’s call him (drug head, for obvious reasons later on in the story). I’ve started living with him in March of this year and honestly like the dude he didn’t seem off at the moment I met him we bonded over video games and I had both a ps4 and ps5 and so I lend him my ps4 for we casually game. Few weeks passed by and I noticed something about him so I asked my friend who is a common friend about him and basically was told that he was a recovering addicted and I was cool with it because I believe in second chances to everyone even those trying to better themselves. So April came and I noticed one night as I was coming back from work and I smell something off in the restroom so I knocked and noticed him with a pipe and starting asking him if it was weed and he was like nah it’s dope. I shook back for a second and was like aren’t you recovering and he said I can’t stop bro. And please don’t tell anyone (trust me everyone already knows by now) so ignore it for while and met his brothers cool people and trying to get him to stop especially since he does dope through shots and I’ve seen what happened to those who done that since I work as a security guard/bouncer. So I told him what would happened and he basically told me it’s his life so I gave up on him after weeks of trying and so life went as normal. we had a rule no strangers in the house without both parties here to make sure shit doesn’t get stolen, he had a lot of homeless girls here, neighbors time to time and etc nothing got stolen mid April. But comes end of April when his “stuff” stolen and starts blaming me and mind you I never had a guest in the house and how tf would I ever touch his stuff because I’m always either working, sleeping or gaming on my days off. He was becoming paranoid like I knew how dope would get you. And i started noticing my stuff moving around and i asked him about it and he would try to say he had it there before April but clear I had moved all my stuff into my room by may first so I didn’t understand that. So I kept an eye out and Thursday I was sick because I was in the rain for a whole night and he wouldn’t answer the door and, so last few days I was passing out and he would blame me for not locking the door when I clearly told him I’m passing out sick.And everything was still in my room. Haven’t seen him since Thursday but Friday he answered saying he lost his keys, days later went peacefully well until Saturday night after work. I went home tired literally I tried calling him a lot to buzz but no answer when I went in the apartment my ps4 and all it’s controllers are missing with it’s hard drive. My ps5 controller and edge controller, and 3d pulse headphones missing, Reddit I had lost it. I got new locks installed. Tried calling him many times no reply. So Reddit AITA for changing the locks and making my roommate stay in the streets for losing his keys and actually getting my stuff stolen?

So I know we've got a patch coming but I feel like no one's talking about Grimm since he released and things I've seen in gameplay both playing as grimm and seeing others play him have led me to believe there's a real problem with his design. This is going to be long.
Let's start with his problems:
Grim is a carry, however unlike basically every other ADC he does not have mobility, escape tools, or even a snare. He at best has an anemic knockback but on top of that, he has a weak early game due to lack of offensive abilities and a severe dependency on items even more so than other carries. Murdoc/Twin blast/Kira all have some way to get away from or peel the enemy off themselves, even Sparrow(arguably the most basic of adc's) at least has a slow and movespeed bonus in her kit.
He also is unique in that he deals entirely magic damage but has a hybrid scaling setup. Which is a problem because items don't really fit neatly into his stat needs, and more importantly his unique situation results in awkward item interactions.
Ex: Items that apply on hit effects DO NOT apply assault mode damage despite it being an on hit effect. Life steal actually DOES work with his basic despite being magic damage(A loy of people were confused by this and didn't know lifesteal worked). He needs Magic pen to deal with tankyness but most of the items he would normally build don't have it as a stat leaving him with only caustica as an option and while normally magic damage doesn't crit Grim can...but only with his basic attack.
Additionally Items like Combustion and Magnify do not trigger off of Assault mode damage either(which i thought was really odd in the case of combustion in particular since it only specifies ability damage) So even these items which on paper might be things grim would want don't synergize as well as they should. Meanwhile Infernum does work.
This creates an awkward itemization and I'm seeing a lot of grims that don't seem to know what to build or when to build it. Grim's that commit to magic items end up with anemic damage output because assault mode doesn't scale well enough to be meaningful damage on it's own, his passive is minor damage even if true damage and in the case of magic items he obviously isn't able to increase his basic attack strength. On the other hand Physical item grim plays like a traditional ADC but just with magic damage yet still ends up lacking due to his lack of tools in his kit compared to conventional ADC's.
He's incredibly slow and easy to run down.
He essentially only has ONE offensive ability until level 6 meaning he's at a severe disadvantage against almost any lane opponents. He has no real benefits that make up for this.
His spell shield often fails to provide any real protection and has no real impact on the flow of battles. Ex: Phase fires her beam at you, spell shield only blocks 1 tick of it not the whole thing you still take damage you still get rooted and there's nothing grim can do about it because he's so slow in the first place.
His passive is literally forgettable, it contributes so little to fights it almost might as well not be there.
The benefits:
An emphasis on magic damage forces opponents into alternative build routes if he gets ahead to deal with his magic damage, they can't just build tainted bastion and call it a day.
Displacement cannon is a long range mortar in assault mode letting him poke like a mage would.
His ultimate tracks targets and can secure kills from long distance as long as he has line of sight.
In rare cases you just might spell shield something like a countess ult and save yourself but more often than not it'll be popped by an incidental hit from some ability and you'll die anyway.
Annnnd.....that's about it.
Possible Solutions:
1: Make the spell shield a barrier that gives damage reduction and CC immunity to hard CC(knock ups/stuns) but not soft cc(slows/silences) This would give grim an offensive and defensive tool to chase down a kill or to flee without getting cc locked. Or make spell shield into a stim, say successfully blocking an attack with the shield gives grim bonuses to aspd/movement for a short duration increasing as he ranks the ability up.
2: Assault mode's slow should not be a decaying slow. At max rank it's a 20% slow for 0.8 seconds. that means in 0.4 seconds the max rank slow is already down to 10%(the same as rank 1's full value) which is already not very significant especially for a character as slow as grim is. This also means the lower ranks are genuinely inconsequential amounts of slow. Additionally add a 4/8/12/16/20 base damage to the ranks of assault mode. A lot of people don't seem to realize ranking it up doesn't actually increase the damage at all despite the increased mana cost and the not very effective slow. since he lacks offensive tools, and an escape a decent slow is the least he can be given so he can at least attempt to kite. but given his movement speed that seems unlikely.
3: Add a silence or a micro stun to displacement cannon so he can interrupt enemy attacks. Position it as something that can be a life saving interrupt defensively or a silence to shut off opposing abilities to allow for an engage. Possibly also increase the knockback power. It's pretty sad to see an enemy blink/leap in throw a orb of plasma in their face and they only back up a whole 4 inches and proceed to be completely unbothered.

1. Change the pulsefire passive so either some % of magic power is added to his basic attack or give him magic armor shred on his attacks/abilities. Hell maybe even make it actual fire, some stacking burning effect with a max stack bonus. Any of these would give him actual team synergy with other magic users. Every other ADC has a passive that directly improves their ability to deal damage meanwhile Grim's passive is more like a bruiser passive more in line with someone like Kwang but without any of the durability.

All in all Grimm feels like he was designed for an entirely different role but got shoved into the carry position because his kit revolved around ranged basic attacks. But someone nerfed his durability but didn't change the rest of his kit to address his vulnerability in the new role.

Okay i just need to put something out there that has been on my chest for a while now I am not just going to be that guy and just say oh the doom slayer is weak no that is not what I am doing here but people believe the doom slayer is practically a god although that is not the case it's just the doom slayer is way stronger than the average human now do not say I am just blabbering and not knowing anything I am talking about because I know my stuff alright now the doom slayer Is like I said not a god or anything like that but he is insanely strong I am going to tell you the doom slayers feats and the doom slayer lets just say not so good things about him so starting off we will talk about his insane feats the doom slayer is insanely strong from what we can see in the games the doom slayer can rip demons apart with no problem I mean that is one of the best things in the game in my opinion and if I am going to be honest that is pretty hard to do I don't think that any normal human being could just walk up to a man and rip him in half like he his a piece of arts and crafts paper aitght he can smash through walls with ease as well he can also survive hitting a wall while going at the speed of light from when he got out of the bfg he is 1200 lb man and if he hits a quick dash he can run up to 60 miles an hour from what I can tell so it does make sense why some people think he is a god or some demigod or whatever but no my friends that is not the case the doom slayer is just stronger than the average human maybe to the point where he can absorb a ball of lightning times 10 in a glass ball he can survive being three feet away from lava and not die he can practically not overheat or die from heat unless he gets shoved straight into lava he pretty much thrives in a hot environment since hell is in between 9000 and 11000 fehrenheit the doom slayer can also somehow still fight with his one thousand lbs armor he wears practically 24/7 along with his weapons which he carries around like nothing he kills demons and somehow spawns in ammo for himself which in my oppinion that is not a game mechanic dawg that is a full on skill homeboy has now he also has his weaknesses alright so the doom slayer seems pretty powerful but can still be killed by demons pretty easily if he does not defend himself if i am going to be honest the armor definitely helps out the doom slayer a lot i mean a lot okay so if you did not know the doom slayers armor is very very hard to break but that also does not mean that the doom slayers armor can't be broken for in one of the doom slayers death animations he gets his legs ripped off along with the leg half of the armor coming with them and yes he has killed his own creator but his creator was also only a small god which does not have the capabiity of a god that made creation itself so the doom slayer is not a human who turned god or anything like that sure he has killed an unkillable being breaking all physics but i am not going to get into that today so any ways i wasted all your time and i have one last thing to add doom slayer vs kratos doom slayer wins(biased opinion)

I've taken multiple tests and want to know exactly what type I am. I'd like an extra opinion on what potential types I might have, as I'm not sure if what results I am getting are due to me wanting to be a certain type and a certain person, and if I am an unbiased enough source. I'm not even sure if my answers to the questionnaire are the most reliable, especially since I have a bad recollection of what I've thought of in the past or my behaviors, and I have a memory that is not ideal in certain areas. On tests, I've gotten INTP, ENTP, and I have a feeling INFP and ENFP might be strong contenders.

• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

All I’m going to say about my age is that I am young and I’m a student. I am female. I don’t think I understand myself too much, but I’m trying. I’m not sure how accurately I can assess myself.

• Is there a medical diagnosis that impact your mental/comportamental stability somehow?

I have been diagnosed with ADHD.

• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

That depends. I do it all the time and it really depends on how much I can do before getting bored. When I’m alone I can at least reflect on things, ideas, or whatever is going on in my head. I already spend most of my time alone because I have no social life and I find it hard to get to know people I click with, or people I can share my ideas with. Without other people, I can't discuss my ideas with other people and get their thoughts, which is something I like to have.

• What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event what is it? And why? If not what type of activities do you tend to engage in?

I’m going to admit that I’m not the best at observing my surroundings. I have a tendency to walk too close to the counter and hit the side of my body against it, or smack my foot on a chair leg. I walk strangely. I’ve noticed that. That might be an ADHD thing.

• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

I’d like to say that I’m curious. But am I? I’m not sure. What things about me, things that I question, my general outlook on life, what qualities found within me would label me as someone who's curious? What I’m curious about can change, I tend to hop from one thing to another, which leaves me with a large amount of surface knowledge, but I can never get too deep into anything due to my mind already getting preoccupied by something else. I'd say I have more ideas than what I can execute. There are so many different paths I can take, so many different ways I can write this, or do that. My ideas are more conceptual. I'd think of a way to write a story or an imaginary situation. I'd go into more detail, but trying to pull up exactly what my ideas are is hard. It seems like I tend to forget my ideas a lot, or until something triggers them again.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I don’t know if I’d enjoy a leadership position or not. I dislike having to wrangle other people into doing their jobs during group projects, and I don’t like doing work I’m not interested in. I’d rather do things myself just because only I can at least measure up to my lofty expectations, or at least conjure a small fraction of them. I don’t take leadership positions often, so I’m not sure how I’d lead others. I’d rather question and criticize the leader’s decisions rather than contribute any meaningful ideas to the project.

• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?

I am not coordinated. I run into things all the time, the edge of my desk, my door frame, the door handle, the countertop, a chair, etc. I walk super funny. I don’t mind working with my hands. It’s nice sometimes. I like working with my hands in the sense that it keeps my hands occupied. I move and fidget a lot. I can't sit still. It doesn't feel write when I'm forced to not at least move one part of my body repetitively.

• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

I don’t know if I’m artistic. I’ve created my own characters for a story, or at least the shreds of one, and I like to come up with imaginary scenarios. I like to create elements in settings. Oftentimes, I do need some inspiration, something I can take an idea and turn it into something else. I really enjoy music and stories. With music, there’s something about it that I love, how it can evoke something from me, oftentimes a moment of an imaginary story, if that makes sense. I enjoy stories because there is so much to get from it. It’s at least entertaining, and it’s interesting to see how someone, a character or a real individual ends in the way they do.

• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

I have a bad memory, at least in certain aspects. The past is something I do wish I could remember better, at least to remember the fun and good things that happened, but there’s not much I can do about it. The future is something I fantasize about. I wonder what I’ll be, what I could be, and how unrealistic those paths and outcomes are. It’s a way to pass the time. There’s so much that could happen, so many ways my life could instantly change for the worse. There’s not much to say about the present. It constantly changes and it never stays for long in my memory. So I’ll just do whatever will keep me entertained for the moment. I have a sort of disconnect from my past self. When I think about myself, I have a hard time seeing any version of myself aside from my present self. It's hard to comprehend that I've changed, rather, I feel as if I've always been the way that I am.

• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

That is heavily dependent on what exactly I am helping other people with. If it's anything involving heavy lifting, I'm not going to be too happy with it, just because I'm not going to be helpful. I help people due to

• Do you need logical consistency in your life?

I’m not sure. I like to get what I expect out of my work. Reality is unrealistic. It might be futile to expect logic to happen. It might be nice in some areas.

• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

I’d be better if I were more efficient and productive, but I’m not. I’ll either be doing no work or forty hours of work within two hours.

• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

Do I? I might. I might be doing it subconsciously. I find others that I’m not too familiar with. I know what members of my family like me better. So I’ll use that to my advantage. I know that while I’m awkward and have a hard time talking to people like a normal person, I’m aware that some people find it appealing, especially if I’m genuine (or at least seem that way) or nice to them.

• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

My hobbies constantly change because I tend to bounce between multiple hobbies. One day I’m looking at airplane crashes. Next, I’m looking at birds or disasters. I’ll watch a whole bunch of media analysis videos because I tend to miss so many details when consuming pieces of media. I do have this whole fantasy world with a large number of characters I've made up, just due to how it encourages me to research other topics and I find it fun to implement elements from other pieces of media into it. I also have an addiction to TvTropes because I find looking at patterns in pieces of media quite fun, and it's fun seeing how certain tropes are a thing.

• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?

Funnily enough, I could never figure out my learning style. That was because I tended to pick up on subjects very easily, so I never could tell what worked with me better. I prefer a learning environment where I can ask questions and get clarification, and as much as I dislike engaging and working with groups, I find it easier to process things if I can at least discuss those subjects with other people.

• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?

I’m not that good at strategizing. I’d rather wing it, just due to my inability to think of ideas and paths to get things done. I can't get my brain in order and any plans I make will get derailed soon afterwards.

• What's important to you and why?

I thought about it for a little bit and realized that I don't have much of an idea about what I find important. I think I seek validation from people, as much as I don't admit it. I think I care about people's opinions more than I'd like to. But individual things that are important to me? I'm not sure. I've been trying to make some things important to me.

• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?

I fear rejection. I'm horribly sensitive to it and I'm not sure why. I can't name what I hate, but there are a lot of things that I'm frustrated with. I have some existential fears. I'm scared of what people could do to me. I fear what people think of me. I'm sure it's because people see me as strange. I'm alone, but I don't mind too much. But I still have that part of myself that has those fears.

• What do the "highs" in your life look like?

I'm enjoying new things, and new experiences.

• What do the "lows" in your life look like?

I'm stuck in an endless loop of days that seem to blend, doing the same mind-numbing tasks over and over. Then I start to wonder if this is all life has to offer me. Or I'm going through that downward spiral and I wonder if I can truly be valued, loved, or have any worth. I feel unlovable when stressed.

• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?

I am not attached to reality at all. I daydream a lot. When I daydream, my surroundings fade away. I’ve noticed that this happens when I’m focused on one task. I’ll often walk around, thinking about various subjects. I have walked past people I know well without noticing them despite knowing them well, just because I'm so deep in thought that I no longer notice things that are practically in front of me.

• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?

I’m not sure how I’ll react, but I have a few theories. I’ll just think about multiple things, like philosophical concepts, the latest form of media I’ve consumed, and random things. I’ll be thinking about all of my characters and potential plot points for a story. I’ll pace around while doing so because I’ll think better when my legs are moving and I’m walking around in circles. Eventually, I’ll get bored. Then I’ll contemplate a large number of things like when I’ll get to do something else because I need something to trigger the thought process. I might just sleep. Who knows. I might go down a dark spiral of self-pity, or maybe I’ll be confused about how I got into that room in the first place.

• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?

I wait as long as I possibly can because I’ll probably have no idea what I’m doing. I’ll make a decision and question it. I’d like to say I’d try and consider if it’s a good decision, but I’m going to need a little more context about what decision I’m making before I’ll know what my approach on making important decisions is.

• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?

I have a hard time regulating my emotions. So oftentimes, I’ll be wondering why I’m feeling that way, why I’m reacting a certain way. I tend to start overanalyzing my emotions and overthink things. A lot of the time, I can’t figure it out. I find my emotions to be rather annoying, I can be overly sensitive and easily overwhelmed by emotions. I’m pretty sure that’s partially because of my ADHD, after doing some research. I find my emotions strange because I often react emotionally in strange ways.

• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

I don't remember doing this. There are other ways to keep a conversation going and it depends on if I really want to be talking with this person for any longer.

• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why would you?

I wouldn’t consider myself that much of a rulebreaker. I’ll pirate stuff. I’ll ignore stuff that other people say. I think authority should be challenged, especially since I’ve reasoned that oftentimes, authority does not know better. I’m too lazy to be outright defiant. If a rule’s stupid, I might ignore it.

Hey Reddit, I’m fairly new at this and will probably be having to make edits and updates along the way so please bear with me. Also the timeline may be a bit confusing so if there are any questions or confusions just say so and I’ll clear it up the best I can.
My dad (49) and I (19f) currently have a very strained relationship. We rarely speak to other besides greetings when he’s home and when he calls my mom on the road (he’s a truck driver). I should start by saying that growing up I was probably the biggest daddy’s girl you could know. It was when I was around 11-12 he became less active and seemed uninterested in anything i did if it wasn’t about grades in school. In February of this year he came out and told my brother (16 at the time) and I that he had cheated on our mom and the woman ended up pregnant. The cheating in question happens on a trip he took back to his native country for his birthday. I put the time line together after he let us know that the unborn child had actually been born. He turned 2 this past April, 2 weeks before my other brother turned 17. When he finished my brother and I both in shock said we weren’t mad, just EXTREMELY disappointed, and would need time to process what he told us and then we’d have another talk.
We are now in May and he hasn’t breathed a word of anything regarding the situation since the day he told us. He walks around and acts like everything is normal and tries to make “jokes” in passive aggressive statements. I don’t know if i’m crazy but I just don’t feel like he has the right to do that, because he’s the one who messed up. Like sir, there is no more normal you brought a whole new person here. My mom is considering divorce, but he swears he’ll never do it again and he thinks “they can make it work”. Let it be known for the record, this was not the first time cheated, it’s more like this is how he broke his promise to never cheat again.
TRIGGER WARNING small mention of SA in this paragraph
Honestly the whole situation is really fucked up but it made me take a step back and truly analyze the relationship i had with him as a whole, and although we lived together (because he’s only been truck driving for 2 years) I don’t feel like he was really a father to me like he should’ve. I was always involved in school extracurriculars and constantly had something going on. In my whole conscious life i can count on one hand how many he showed up for anything i had. And it wasn’t because he couldn’t, he simply didn’t want to and never made an effort to. My mom however would take days off and came to who knows how many and she really played both roles for me. 2 years ago I also had to get therapy for SA and trauma, and i didn’t realize it until speaking about it with my mom a few weeks ago that he never once asked me if I was okay while dealing that (and I was not). I tried to speak to him and have conversations, but with me he’s only ever able to talk about how i need to “do better in school” or how i need to “quit my job and focus on school full time” to which i said no.
After that I ended up telling my mom that I’ll pass on speaking to him about anything other then what we need to talk about and figure out. She’s positive our relationship will be fine but it’s teetering the verge of me choosing go no contact, because I couldn’t imagine having that man walking me down the aisle at my wedding. Thinking way ahead yes, but he never wants to bring up the topic, if you do he gets mad. He can never take critique, you can never not agree with him, and even when he’s dead wrong he still gets angry and blames it on others. All my life we have had to, quoting my mom, ”get over it”.
Quite frankly, I could go on for pages of little and big things he’s done and hasn’t done, but i’m just tired of putting up with it and told my mom if he continues he wouldn’t have a daughter much longer, i’ve been thinking about this a lot more recently as he is on his week off at home.
Any and all advice is welcomed but i also want to know would i be the asshole?

I know it’s rare for someone to be in my position, and I understand strangers on Reddit can’t help me, but I just need to vent. I’m turning 33 years old in a couple months and I’ve never had a girlfriend before…I can’t even get a foot in the door to start the process; its been almost two year since I’ve even been on a date. I’m incredibly lonely, and just want to experience real love and companionship with the right woman.
Dating is hard for a lot of folks these days I’m sure, but it hurts me that I’m so behind my peers, and can’t do something so basic as to find a single woman within a 100 mile radius of my house, where we’re both mutually interested and attracted to each other to go one simple date and get to know each other.
I’m a normal, healthy, emotionally stable fully functioning adult in society: I’m self-aware, in therapy, good job, I’m fit and hit the gym 3-4 days a week, a plethora of active hobbies, and take care of my hygiene. I’m family oriented and would love to be a dad someday. Everyone tells me looks aren’t my problem (I am on the shorter side for a guy at 5’7), but people around me say I’m a funny and charismatic person to be around. I know I’m not automatically entitled to dates just because I think I’m a good man, but the reality is I don’t even get a chance to prove myself…ever.
My dating apps are a barren wasteland and don’t work for me. I never get matches, despite having my profiles reviewed several times right on here on Reddit and by friends. They all say I should be swimming in matches and it’s one of the better profiles they’ve seen. Alas its been almost two years since I’ve had a date or even a real match that wasn’t a scammer or bot. I’m not just relying on dating apps though, I’ve made a genuinely honest effort to put myself out there in real life and join hobbies and activities to meet people.
I’ve tried basically everything:
joining meetups, hiking groups, single events, board game nights, going out to bars with friends, dance classes, the cold approach, leaving my number on waitresses receipts, using the dating apps, rock climbing gyms, and even asking friends of friends if they know anyone they could set me up with. (Everyone is married so they all said they don’t know anyone). All of that and not a single date. Needless to say I did manage to make a few friends here or there which is awesome, but that’s about it…not even a phone number or social media handle to show for it. All I see is rejection and to date, I’ve legitimately never had a woman say yes to me in person before. Not even hyperbole, literally 100% rejection rate. I’m charming, smell good and take a genuine interest in people but it’s never mutual back. I feel like I’m missing some secret sauce or something; I’m at a complete loss why women are never interested in me back.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not desperate. I’m not going after Instagram models or have unrealistic standards, but I’m also not settling for just any woman for sake of being with someone.
Quite frankly I’ve done the single thing. I’ve spent my whole life single, I’ve put in the self-growth and effort. Now I want to experience the other side of life and know what it’s like to have a partner, to meet my special person who’s as excited about me as I am about them.
Loneliness is the worst imaginable pain I’ve ever experienced, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. This statement coming from someone who got 3rd degree burns from spilling boiling bacon grease on himself as a kid.
I don’t want to give up, but with zero successes, I don’t know what else to do. 😞

Hey!
I come from a weird angle. I've been a minimalist for a while; I have way less anxiety with less belongings & don't overspend if I know exactly what I own and what it's used for. I am also (slowly) renovating a van as a tiny home. I've been homeless before so no matter how far I get from going back I'm happiest when I'm prepared. I'm also single, no children & dangerously unmedicated (joking).
With that out of the way -> I've always used these 6 heavy duty storage boxes to store my life. Most are currently empty! https://imgur.com/a/VzDJqtE
I've got a LINK much older version of this bag & I've been easily running my life from it for the past two weeks - without decanting or any other weight reduction or space reduction strategies. I'm confident my life will condense into 25-40L (Plus those boxes can store seasonal clothing, cookware & stuff that wouldn't volumetrically work in a bag).
Meditating; (drinking copious amounts of coffee and reading reviews) has got me thinking genuinely - I could go leaner. I'd like to incorporate sink washing & a capsule wardrobe whilst living from a bag prior so I'm further acclimatised to living in a vehicle.
Another bag I have been eyeing off is the GoRuck GR2 -> This think genuinely looks gorgeous. I'm confident it won't fit the kind of laptop (I game a lot) I'm looking at transitioning to (Razer blade 14 or similar, 16.5+). It's also cost prohibitive but I'm open to being convinced. I really liked the orange interior of the Synik 30L and another laptop protected bag I saw recently here but I didn't save a link. The high contrast interior helps cause i'm colourblind & can loose stuff that's right in front of my eyes.
I also spotted this whilst grabbing bin bags from Amazon. I swear they listen in on my discord conversations - LINK. Mark Ryder, seems like an import special - It's super affordable & expandable for when I need to hit the gym for a shower, but I worry about the longevity. It's also missing the insertable frame; I personally hate the floppiness of an unfilled bag. I'd like something that retains it's shape when not filled. I don't have the on ground experience here - The Hook&Albert I use for work trips is canvas and flops around unless packed up. This is another reason I haven't splashed out for a Tom Binh
I'd rather something slightly more expensive with reliability and resistance to damage - I'd be using this bag every day. I'm expecting to have a different storage location for my day to day clothing - I work in sales so majority is WFH (or WFV) but I will still need my suits & oodie for the foreseeable future. This would probably contain the all gear no idea merino wool clothing for when I have to actually leave the van looking like a human.

• 16.5+ sized laptop storage
• Daily use living from the bag for extended periods of time
• open to suggestions regarding organization - I go with the flow I can purchase more individual zippered containers or use installed tech
• High Vis interior would be cool
• Water resistant would be very cool
• Size is flexible as I'm not intending on traveling on a plane in the next 10Y but I'll also just adjust wardrobe to fit ongoing. 30L seems ideal but could go 25-40? Rules are Rules (3-4 shirts, 2 shorts, 1 longs, 5 Briefs, 2p Sockies) *Oodie to be worn :)* (Toiletries:28*9*14cm/11*3.5*5.5inch with Tbrush/Floss/Roll on/Ear Tools/One blade/Drugs) (Laptop, Charger, Mouse, Ipad mini + cable + cable for phone) (Phone, wallet, Keys) (Vitamins: fit into 8.94 x 2.3 x 1.16 inches)

If you have any suggestions on a bag that might fit these requirements or any opinion at all - please share! I've reached that 20/80 rule or whatever and need to rope in assistance.

As some background information, I’m 24, living with my parents. My parents are hoarders and growing up it was extremely rough on me. I would often times find myself sleeping ontop of piles of their clothes or having to share room with my family members because they are simply too many things around. It really messed me up mentally and as a kid I even tried running away from home. It created a great amount of trauma for me that till this day I still resent both my parents for. Over the years it has become better and they have gone some months without buying something new but then go on a shopping binge months later. There was a lot of verbal conflicts in the household because of that. My parents decided to finally take things out of my room as a way to “compromise” and so I can stop complaining. Yet my living room never stopped looking like someone’s junkyard. Not to mention, I have a mother who is disabled and she barely even has room in her room to even enjoy her own space.
It has been like this since I was 12 and I’ve learned to accept that they won’t change. I also have not moved out due to the convenience of not having to pay extra for rent, since Im paying for my master and have been saving up to buy a house. So now I really just stay to myself in my room and try to avoid getting angry stepping out anywhere else in my place.
However, out of nowhere, 2 weeks ago or so, my parents mentioned to me that my uncle, aunt, and 2 children are moving in with us. I was in complete shock as there is absolutely NO space for them. They mentioned that they would rent a U-Haul space to put all their extra things in (is b.s) However this would not change the fact that our apartment is way too small to have a total of 8 people in it. I immediately told them how much of an invasion of privacy this is, but my parents just said that they are in inconvenient matters at the moment and that they believe good karma exist so this is what they’re deciding to do. And so now they’re all here and I have yet to have a restful night as before it was complete peace and now it’s kids yelling and running around. I can only imagine how it would be once I go back in school and get home late wanting to sleep. And ofcourse the space in my house is nowhere to be found and I feel extremely anxious. I have had two panic attacks since they arrived and haven’t had them in years.
Ofcourse, as I am 24, my only option here is to move out. I have expressed my annoyance to my parents about the fact that they couldn’t tell me about them moving in with us in advance, to give me the time to find a new space. Their response to that was that hey have no explanation owed to me. That I could move out as I’m an adult. As I know they are right, that is exactly what I’ll be doing. However I’ve been so cold to them, barely speaking to them. It was not my plans to move out so suddenly as THEY KNEW I was trying to save up to buy a place while paying for my schooling. I am extremely stressed out as I did not want to rent and have another huge expense.
The problem is my partner and I planned to buy a house within the next year. We have been saving for a while for this goal. ALSO, my partner refuses to pay rent for a place and is only open to owning.
However I feel myself being triggered here and I need to get out as soon as possible. Therefore, completely changing our plans as I plan to rent out by myself. I tried explaining to my partner the need for us to move out and at least rent as we can divide expenses making it easy (his parents are extremely abusive and he also wants to get out) BUT he is refusing to leave until he has the funds to buy a home and said that he would need me to marry him before signing on anything. EVEN though he lives with his toxic family too. So as I see things, My timing is just not at his timing and I need to do what is best for me mentally even if it is stressing myself out to cover rent on my own.
So I guess I wanted to ask if anyone else has ever have needed to change their plans of moving in with their partner and decided to move out on their own? How do that turn out on your dynamic with your partner??

I have A LOT of insight to this kind of situation. We already know she was initially part of the tweeker crew, but clearly she worked hard on herself and had time under her belt. I don’t think we ever see her use or even talk much about missing it as much as cooking meth. She struck me as the booze and meth type, not the garbagehead type like Leanne and Angie.
You can sort of see her relapse coming when she left Coates. I say this because my decade long struggle with addiction, in and out of recovery, made me extremely familiar with the NA IP on Relapse; anyone with any experience in the rooms already knows this, “the relapse happens long before you pick up the drug”.
Doggett’s decision to go back into prison was a responsible decision, and going for her GED was obviously the right idea, but this is the way it is with addicts, when things are going really well, sometimes it scares us, we worry about how far that fall will be and how bad it’ll hurt…..and what happens with the test was the catalyst, she started catastrophizing, and went back to what she knew. She went back to what she felt was where she belonged and who she was.
I also don’t think she knew what the hell it was they were snorting. She probably thought it was meth or she didn’t care.
I must say though, I’m surprised they weren’t able to revive her, but this may have been before Narcan was widely and readily available, as a nasal spray, and not just carried by EMS but placed in facilities like AEDs and Fire Extinguishers. My rehab and halfway had narcan kits in nearly every room, in the hallways by the bathrooms on each floor, my clinic gives everyone their own box to have too—and I’m talking at least as far back as 2019, likely before then.
Of course, if she was baby fresh, never even did the stuff before, even if she wasn’t, my best friend died, she wanted to die too….its a sensitive thing to talk about.
But another person who wasn’t really my friend, but I knew him well, he was a nasty older town drunk, and a garbagehead, but he was used to pills or very tiny amount of fentanyl mixed with niacin. When someone gave him the real deal, he was found dead in the yard where I last saw him, —alive tho, high but alive. I wasn’t the person who gave it to him but I warned him not to do the whole thing ……
My own man, OD’d the same day he got out of jail—he was gone a month and change, the only privately ran county jail in NJ, that I believe gets federal inmates too now, usually on their way in or out of actual prison.
He had methadone in his system, and used on top of it. He never ever ODd before, he knew better, which told me he did it on purpose….its like a half hearted suicide attempt when people do that. It’s like, you don’t necessarily WANT to die, you just want to be high and not deal with whatever motivated you to use….but if you happen to not wake up, ……—-that’s usually as far as the thought goes.
That’s the best way I can describe it. Now, after I called 911 and saved him, I told him to be careful now, he told me he was sorry, and admitted he did it on purpose. But I knew more about the mixing long acting and short acting opioid risk than he. And you are most at risk to OD after being narcanned…… he literally did it again 24 hours later. After he just survived. That was an accident. He wasn’t trying to die that time.
Frankly, this is why I decided to be on methadone maintenance because I know how I am, and the risk is too great. I’d rather have a tolerance so a moment of extreme emotion and irrational thought…..doesn’t become a tragedy.
Because I think more often than not, when people decide to use not caring if they die or not, it’s fleeting. They aren’t thinking straight, it’s that fleeting depression kind of wanting to die…..or it’s carelessness.