Me(25m) and my fiance(24f) have gotten engaged a couple of months ago. We've been planning our wedding reception as well as moving into a flat that I've just bought in the next couple of weeks. Both are significant costs for us financially, however with the wedding reception we've split the costs in half and as part of our culture I am gifting her a significant amount of gold jewellery and she is gifting me some furniture for the flat we are moving into. This has been the cause of a lot of financial worry and stress (especially on my behalf) as not only do I need to worry about purchasing the flat, I need to worry about all the costs related to the wedding reception too.
In order to fund everything, I work a regular job and all my free time (outside of spending with my partner), goes towards my side business of buying and selling cars. Both are very stressful, but I feel as though it is something that I can manage and a way for me to make enough money to support us. In our relationship I am usually the one who pays for everything, we have agreed that with the flat I will pay for all expenses and she will cover groceries. (I earn £38k and she earns £30k). Anytime we eat out I am usually the one to pay, I dont have a problem with this.
Our one year anniversary was coming up and I wanted to do something nice and so I asked if she wanted to get away for 2/3 nights and we could spend some quality time together. We both agreed a couple of weeks ago and she booked some annual leave from work. When I checked the prices for the get away, it seemed pretty expensive but I had planned to have had some extra cash from selling a couple of cars. Whether I sold the cars or not I still would have been able to pay for the get away but I had anxiety knowing that the wedding + completion of the flat purchase is right around the corner and having £3-400 might be a bit more useful as the cars did not sell yet. I wanted to be open about my indecisiveness and spoke to my partner and asked her if she wanted to cancel her Annual leave and I expressed my concerns about the get away because of the finances. She got really upset and said that I dont stick to my word. Previously, around the time we got engaged, she wanted us to go abroad for a couple of nights and I did too but we had to abandon that because I wasnt able to financially.
I feel like when I asked her about this time round, it originated from financial anxiety and help making a decision whether or not we should go away for our one year anniversary. I wanted to communicate this but in the end I feel like I am the villain for getting her hopes up. I was also excited for the trip but now feel crappy because she doesnt want to go, and I have upset her. AITAH in this situation and what could I have done better?

I was diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and borderline personality disorder about 7 months ago, my conditions have continued to get worse. I haven’t been to college in 3 weeks cause I can’t sleep due to anxiety. My days are filled with intense rage, sadness, panic, impulsive spending and s*lf-harm. There’s no cure for either mental illness and they are both life long , unlike depression there’s no medication for BPD. I really wanted to become a parent, but even if I get to a point where my BPD and GAD symptoms are completely under control a stressful life event like having a child can bring them back, so there’s no way I can promise my child a safe stable home all the times, it wouldn’t be fair on them. I also wanted a job in the healthcare sector, I was getting distinction/merit grades in my health and social care exams but after work experience I quickly realised a job in health care was too stressful for someone like me.
If someone was physically ill to the point they were suffering day and night, couldn’t sleep from the pain, were there’s no cure and they don’t have a future most people would understand them saying their quality of life is so low they want to die, but when I say as a mentally ill person my quality of life is so low I want to die it’s “irrational“ and I get taken against my will to A&E.

Some background info relevant to the story. I go to a dental group and it’s basically a one stop shop, they have an orthodontist, general dentist and an oral surgeon. I unfortunately have to see all of them for dental work I’m having done this year (which when it’s all said and done will have cost me a cool $12K)
That being said, I’ve had nonstop issues with their office admins from basically the moment my braces were put on. It’s been one miscommunication after another between them and the doctors and then relaying wrong info to me or like the time they cancelled a piece of equipment they needed to add to my braces which has now set me back a few months on my work, but the icing on the cake happened this week and I just can’t seem to get over it.
I have to get a few teeth removed and there are multiple options that were presented to me regarding pain management during the procedure and depending on what I chose to do determined which doctor would be doing the procedure and of course how much it’s going to cost me.
I was very up front with them and said I didn’t have thousands of dollars to spend on this and needed to know the costs to been seen either way so I could choose what I wanted to do.. After asking for the quotes while I was in office they couldn’t provide them for me but said they’d email me… Fast forward an entire month and after I’d called their office twice to follow up and ask for the quotes I never got anywhere and my orthodontist was upset with me for not getting my teeth removed yet. I’d explained the situation to her and she went and told the front office staff to get me the quotes I needed and once again I still left the appointment not knowing how much it would cost, but they convinced me to schedule my next cleaning and by then they’d have to quotes for sure…
Welp that day came and they presented me with 1 option to see the general dentist and get 2 extractions done with only local anesthetics. The dentist, the dental assistants and the office admins all reassured me that it’d be relatively painless, very quick, and that people got these same teeth pulled like that all the time. I was hesitant and nervous bc said okay bc I literally had 5 people tell me it would be no problem.
Well it ended up being a HUGE problem. The first tooth they tried to pull out wouldn’t budge and the dentist ended up pulling on my tooth for an hour and a half and after it wouldn’t come out he decided he needed to surgically remove the tooth which took another hour and meanwhile the only thing they’ve given me is a single ibuprofen and numbed my mouth with shots.
I’ve been so traumatized after that experience and didn’t even get the second tooth removed that day. So now I’ve been referred to their oral surgeon for the second tooth, which mind you I asked and never received a quote to see him like I’d originally wanted.
Once again though I told them I needed a quote since I knew it’d be more expensive and wanted to be prepared for the cost. Three weeks passed with no quote and now we’re 24 hours from the appointment and I finally get an email from the office telling me it’ll be $887 to get my tooth removed… On a 24 hour notice. I was distraught to say the least. So I called the office to see what we could do to get the cost down since I’d just spent $600 on my last appointment that went totally sideways.
They office admin basically shut down every option I presented trying to get the cost down so I asked to speak with the dentist who did the initial extraction and he tried to dismiss my frustration with the office admins lack of communication which caused me to now spend a total of $1500 to get 2 teeth removed when I’d originally tried to get all of the pricing figured out before I started this process. I was never rude, didn’t raise my voice or anything, but I did become adamant that this whole issue had been his office staffs fault and it’d caused me pain, distress and a shit ton of money and something needed to happen for it to be amended. But no one seems to care or really listen to me and no one apologized for the situation that unfolded.
Now the office admin have called to confirm my appointment and they’re being very cold and standoff-ish towards me (honestly just being down right rude towards me) like seriously when I answered the call the first words out of one of their mouths was “so are you going to keep your appointment or not.” Now I’m sitting here riddled with anxiety about going back to their office and it’s lead me to wonder if I was the asshole for being frustrated with the way things were handled?
TDLR: office staff didn’t give me the quotes I needed after asking multiple times for them. I was finally presented with an option to get my teeth removed and it went totally south and caused me a ton of pain. Fast forward to me having to see someone else in their office to get the other tooth done (which id originally asked to get a quote from at the beginning of this process and never received) I finally get it and it’s almost double what I’d just paid. The office staff wasn’t helpful when I tried to see what I could do about getting the price down so I spoke with the main dentist and told him about their lack of communication which cost me $1500 and caused me to be in a shit ton of pain. Now the office staff is being cold and standoff-ish towards me and I’m wondering if I was wrong for calling them out?

Hey, so i am a 22 year old with anxiety and super introverted. Currently i am doing my internship at a company power company here in my country. I have been here for 3 days and i feel really pressured and also i have an overwhelming feeling of sadness and generally feeling like i am really behind as compared to many of my school mates and my colleagues here at work. I really don’t know what to do so as to erase this feeling cause i constantly feel like i am a loser. I no longer feel smart, i feel super overwhelmed by everything. I dunno what to do anymore. Help hahahaha

So i'm 21, freshly done with University for a few weeks now. I got an "art degree" mainly on 3D and Animation. But i've just been sitting here wondering what to do with my life. I may have a degree for it but the degree wasn't hard at all and I feel like I've learnt absolutely nothing. Sure I've got some basics but the standards were so low I breezed through it on stuff I already knew, but it's never anything that would be good enough for professional work.
My main passion has always been digital illustration drawing my OCs and also other people's characters. I enjoy it much more than 3d and Animation at least since it's what I spend most of my time on. But it seems I'll always feel like I'm not good enough to be able to do commissions and the sheer weight of the cost of living these days truly makes the idea of drawing anime people for a living a near impossibility. Especially with the fact I don't have any significant following and I couldn't see myself charging people enough to be able to live off it.
Double that with the fact that freelancing is so seemingly unpredictable and inconsistent. My mother even loves bringing up the fact that AI is already replacing artists like me.
Speaking of my mother. She is the reason I'm feeling the weight of responsibility. She has made an effort to push me towards a high-paying job asap. She is constantly telling me about how once I get a job we might finally be able to save up for a house and I simply dread it because down here in Australia the housing/rental market keeps getting more and more expensive and wages are not keeping up at all. yet my mom is really pushing for me to get at least 80k for my first job.
For a background, I've never needed to have a job before so maybe this is just me being privileged or spoilt. But a great fear I have is how I will lose all the free time I've been living with up until now. I am scared of losing my ability to draw because I need to go find a job in something I'm not interested in and I feel like I don't have any skills at all to pursue a career in any field. Sure I have an arts degree but that's basically useless at the moment.
My mom has really been pushing me towards doing UX/UI Design or some sort of Graphics design work so she has been shoving bootcamps down my throat for a few weeks now. Purely based on the fact she knows i like to draw. but I genuinely cant find any drive or passion from these fields, but I'm basically just doing it to make my mom happy cause it looks like im learning something. and adding something to the ol resume.
But im really just overall confused on what to do, if ill even be fit for UX despite having no interest in it and reading on reddit on how this google certificate isnt actually good for getting jobs and the extra effort its going to take to be good enough to even get jobs in UX. Working in something I dont care for 40 hours instead of drawing is so scary to me. but drawing what I want is almost impossible to make a living off of cause artists dont get paid much anyway and most likely im not even skilled enough or have enough of a following to get regular clients and i would love to build one up overtime but this looming expectation from my parents to get a high paying job so we might be able to afford a house is just paralyzing. And it makes me wonder if I should even try anymore.
Reading online of the state of the world and the job market isn't helping my anxiety either but thats for another time.

I lost my job and didn’t get another job because the area I live in gives me anxiety when leaving my house esp at night because it’s a very unsafe place and it has caused me to ask for handouts from everyone in my life for months now and I have no way of paying anyone back and I’m about to be evicted and homeless the stress and embarrassment of being 25 and seeing all my peers have their lives together while I have done nothing but dig myself into such a deep money hole so I’m going to take the corse of suicide to escape all of these problems I’ve made and I feel awful because I am going to leave so much financial debt to the ones close to me that I don’t want them to have to deal with fuck money money has made me want to kill myself and I believe I will soon due to money

I recently went to the dentist as he advised getting my wisdom’s taken out. They were never really bothering me but I wanted to get them over with in case they could cause issue in the future.
He easily extracted my top right no pain/issue. My bottom left he attempted to pull but after attempting for a while, said to just leave it as bone was covering it and it was too close to a nerve. He stitched it up, prescribed me ibuprofen 800, amoxicillin and acetaminophen codeine. Gauze up every 30 mins till bleeding stops.
My right side is fine but my left is sore, every time I swallow it hurts. I’m struggling to figure out what to eat/drink and im afraid to get either side infected. I also am scared to take the acetaminophen, as my GP in the past has warned me to keep it at bay, as my liver has signs of showing damage from it.
I think Im freaking myself out. Will I be okay? Any advice on what I can eat?

My strategy was as follows:
- I have a fair amount of PM / Technical Lead experience in real life that helped me with the general basics of Project Management. I made sure to forget everything I learned in the real-world and start studying with a fresh mind.
- Through the help of the community, I purchased AR's Udemy course for the 35 PDU's and watched it at normal speed over a 2 week period. I made sure to make notes on key fundamentals and processes while also making sure to put emphasis on the Mindset and PMP review sections.
- Once I finished the 35 PDU's, I purchased AR's TIA Simulator and went through almost all of the practice questions on AR's Youtube Channel. Made sure to pause the video right when the question shows on screen to not see the live user comments. I scored 78,85,88,88,86,79 on the TIA mock exams and only did one pass through while reviewing the questions I got wrong.
- Submit my PMI app and waited for approval (which was 5 days - not business days, days) and scheduled the exam for same day to get it done as I am focusing on a lot of other things in life.
- Took the exam online via PearsonVUE and it was honestly super seamless for me, no issues what so ever. I made sure to show the room and answer any questions. During the mock exams, I made sure to eliminate any habits like touching my face, talking out loud, etc. so that I don't cause issues on the actual exam. I was extremely nervous in the first 60 q's but it went away after I stretched and finished out the rest of the exam. Finished with about 70 minutes to spare as I tend to contemplate my answers in the wrong direction if I just sit on the same page for too long.
Overall, god bless AR for his TIA Mock Exams, Udemy Course and Mindset! Mindset is key as literally everyone has mentioned and it really helped with understanding how things should be done in the PMI lense. I was extremely nervous to take it all throughout COVID as I am more of a crammer but thanks to the community and AR, I got over my anxiety and conquered so you can too!

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About a month ago I was diagnosed with 'mononucleosis syndrome' (as I understood the doctor, it a milder version of mono) and have both CMV and EBV reactive (CMV much more than EBV)
It took them more than a month to diagnose it as only symptoms are low grade fever (up to 37.5C/99.5F) and a bit of a sore throat
So before my diagnosis, I went to every possible examination (abdominal ultrasound, 7352 blood tests, thyroid gland hormones; test for autoimmune diseases) that showed nothing, almost convincing me I am making it up - which shakend my mental state. Plus I was sick 3 times since December (common respiratory infection, with low grade fever, coughing and sneezing)
Once diagnosed I felt much better, mentally at most, and after 10 days my fever dropped to normal so I thought it was finally getting better. Unfortunately that lasted for about 2 days and now it's back to square one - low grade fever and sore throat. Both viruses still reactive, but liver enzymes are all good
Now I don't know what to do, just want to see if anyone had something similar, feels like I am going to go crazy. I did suffer mild anxiety and depression in past, but that is definitely not what caused mono infection, as I was stable for some time now

Height and weight: 5'3", 210lbs
Medication: Amitriptyline 75mg, Codeine 30mg, Aripiprazole 25mg, Sertraline 150mg
Medical history: Bipolar disorder, PCOS, myopathy (cause yet to be determined)
I've been easily fatigued by exercise for as long as I can remember. Even before being overweight, I could never jog or run. At school, I used to feel very different from my peers because I had a very low exercise tolerance and would avoid certain activities. I would need regular rest breaks, even from walking, and avoid PE classes by any means necessary.
In 2018, the fatigue and mild pain I felt suddenly became unbearable when walking. I felt this in my calves as a tight, cramping pain, and I physically couldn't walk any further. My calves would become visibly tensed despite not actively tensing them and wouldn't release until a while after rest. If I tried to continue walking, my legs would become stiff, not allowing me to bend them to walk further.
I was at university then and had to drop out because I could no longer attend lectures. I went to the GP more than ten times before being referred to my local orthopaedic hospital for suspected spinal stenosis. An MRI ruled this out, and I was told it was all in my head due to my bipolar disorder.
However, after being referred for an EMG and nerve conduction studies, myopathy was evident in many of the muscles sampled. By this point, I would rarely leave the house due to the fatigue and pain. My jaw would become painful from chewing, I'd be unable to sit up straight without my back becoming fatigued and painful, and I'd struggle with tasks as simple as blow-drying my hair.
I was still not taken seriously and referred for a second EMG, which also showed myopathy. Before this, my neurologist said the next step would be a muscle biopsy, but she went back on this and pretty much said she didn't think it was serious enough. It's probably worth noting that I live in the UK, where our public healthcare system is very underfunded, so I assume she didn't believe it was worth the resources despite my life being severely impacted by the pain and fatigue I experience daily.
As I've been dismissed by almost every healthcare professional I've seen, bar one very kind and helpful consultant in the pain-management clinic, I've turned to researching my symptoms. I understand that McArdle disease is very rare, and I do not know of any family history of this. However, it seems to explain my symptoms and EMG results. I have had extensive blood tests that have ruled out myositis and rheumatoid arthritis. I have no vitamin deficiencies at present. As far as I know, no organs other than skeletal muscle are involved, so I do not believe it's another inherited myopathy.
I'm not a medical expert; I'm just someone desperate for help and advice and to be taken seriously, so I'd appreciate any input. My life has changed significantly because of my symptoms. I understand I cannot be diagnosed through Reddit, but I'm unsure where else to go for help at this point.

I was charged with a dv 3rd conviction (verbal harassment) my boyfriend didn’t want. We have some tied finances and pets we both love. He wants to spend time at my house to see the pets and has also repeatedly messaged me asking I help take care of his medical needs. I love him and wanna help but am I wrong to ask he ask the protective order be dropped for me to let him come home and I manage his medical care? My attorney already said the charges are crazy and probably won’t even make it to trial (my neighbors called because of yelling and police have a policy of always arresting someone if they come out) because no one was ever touched. I want him to get the care he needs but the order causes me anxiety

Hello!
To give a little backstory first without writing a novel, Our 4yo (first child) was born in 2020 peak covid, Spent the first 2 years of life in lockdown (No playgroups/Daycare), in 2022 Our second child was born and passed away in hospital. During that time our firstborn was bounced around grandparents for 3-4 months while we lived out of hospital, when the dust settled we noticed some separation anxiety but it improved in the months to follow, He started Preschool in 2023 and was in abit of a shell, quiet child tossed into the big world, he made leaps and bounds through 2023 and really came "out of his shell" socializing and making friends etc etc. 2024 weve just had our 3rd child, again complicated with some hospital stays but no more than a few days here and there but he now has a 3 week old brother in the house.
Fast forward to now - Today when picking him up from preschool his teacher asked to speak to me out of the blue and mentioned that he had "Regressed" over the past month, she said he isn't naughty or a trouble child ( He doesn't hit/bite/kick/bully etc) but he has been disruptive in class, During quiet/reading time he doesn't stop trying to speak with other kids and when playing with other children he likes to be hands on, not in a rough way more so annoying, like tickling and patting heads and things like that. Shes suggested maybe he go and see an OT.
At home hes a great kid (hes always been pulled up when out of line/On a good routine with sleep/eat etc), well mannered, nothing naughty outside of general kidness, Helps around the house plays with the baby and self plays. Nothing that jumps out with what shes mentioned. Obviously he doesn't have 20 kids at home but to me it just sounds like hes been a normal 4 year old. We will get the referral done by her just to be safe but do i have cause to be concerned?

I’m diagnosed with MDD, GAD and social anxiety and C-PTSD. I struggle with mental compulsions, particularly when it comes to romantic relationships as my past relationships have caused me a significant amount of mental stress with particular events surrounding it being traumatizing (ex: getting cheated on, repeatedly lied to). I also struggled with self-esteem issues throughout my childhood to the present day. Because of my difficult experiences when it comes to romantic relationships, I struggled with mental compulsions and reassurance-seeking behavior in order to soothe myself and to feel safe. I suspected it to be OCD at first and asked for an assessment with my psychiatrist early on but he said that these compulsions are likely from my C-PTSD and the need to feel safe.
Examples of compulsions would be me struggling with retroactive jealousy and repeatedly asking my partner about his past. Other examples would include asking for questions to see if there is a likelihood of me getting cheated on with an old friend, who this person was in his life and how much she meant to him and repeatedly asking about things in his life that would make me want to protect myself despite them being “harmless” and my partner being a loving, kind person.
I struggle with these compulsions so badly and go through overthinking everyday that I can’t enjoy life and the need to soothe myself has become so detrimental to my mental health that its causing me to have suicidal ideations. I feel like a loser and extremely weak and irrational.

i’ve been going through a lot these last couple of months almost a year and some change, since my mental health has change. I’ve been in therapy for the last couple of months and it’s helped but nothing has seemed to change. i’ve been stuck in limbo and can’t seem to shake it off. Quick back story is last year my dad who has had cancer 3 times had to get surgery to remove 1/3 of his right lung and he’s old,a month later my grandmother passed away, and the cherry on top was that me and my gf broke up, nothing toxic btw . So it was just one thing after an other, and it broke me like i’ve never been broken before. Never in my life have i ever experienced anxiety like how it’s been the last couple of months. I wake up with a sudden urge to just cry but it’s only a temporary fix when i do. the future scares the hell outta me cause i don’t know where my life is going. im almost 30 and still can’t seem to get my life together. i have hobbies and friends but they just temporarily fix my situation and alone time is the worst for me. I miss my ex we still see each other as friends once in a while but i can’t seem to let her go. I know seeing her doesn’t help but having her as a friend helps me a lot cause she truly does bring me happiness but i know i don’t think we will be getting back together or at least anytime soon. we are just two people with terrible mental health that love bombed each other. regardless of love bombing or not i’m terrified of falling in love again. As for my dad i feel like i’ve let him down, he came to this country with nothing to his name but built his own little kingdom, and for me to just sit around and mope and be sad i’ve feel like i’ve let him down. im not a bum or anything i work, pay bills, buy my own things but it’s just sucks knowing your dad is old and still had to worry about you being okay. I want him to retire with no worry but i’ve only just cause more stress in his life. I stress myself the hell out with the amount of “pressure” i put on myself it almost frustrates me.I want to be great, i want to live a happy life, but nothing just seems to go my way.

How can I know if these symptoms are an outcome of a digestive disease or lifestyle and mental health?
I have a constant bloating, and therefore shortness in breath and fatigue. Due to this bloating, I stopped having breakfast 4 months ago, and I have to sip water in order to drink some. The shortness in breath and fatigue are causing me to be tired and sleepy all day long.
In terms of lifestyle, I'm sedentary, anxious, and hypervigilant. My mental health is terrible overall.
I think it is related to anxiety and stress, as I have no bowel changes, nausea, or pain and heart burn. What do you think? Anyone had a similar experience?
Thank you.

I’ve (31f) have been no contact with my Dad since Jan 2023, and no contact with my Mom since March 2023. My husband and I are expecting twins in July and have a son who has turned two last month. So my parents haven’t seen or really known my son, majority of his life. They haven’t wished him happy birthday or been to either of his birthdays. My husband and I had our dream elopement in March after having postponed our previously planned Covid wedding from 2020. (Just a bit of recent background info)
Today, while I was at work, my husband had the day off and was doing household chores and errands. He said he was vacuuming, and heard our two dogs growling at the front door. So he peaked through a window and saw my Mom leaving boxes on our front porch and walking back to her car. She made a few trips. And the left. She didn’t leave a note, or try to talk. He said it was evident that someone was home cause the tv, lights and vacuum were going and his truck was in the driveway and curtains were open.
There was a box that said “my name’s wedding things” and a couple larger boxes that had clear bags of used toddler mega blocks/ a farm house and toys, and toddler books. The box of wedding things included half a flat of mason jars several bags of pine cones and a few odd Christmas ornaments. I don’t recall ever seeing these things? It looks more like left over Christmas crafts if anything. I’ve also never seen the toys or books before. They look like they’ve maybe been thrifted or gotten off market place the way they’re packed? Just seems odd, maybe if it was important documents or a letter or a wrapped birthday gift for my son? It would make sense. But it’s a month past his birthday.
Idk. It’s really thrown me off. I feel out of sorts and needed to vent it out. Like no contact or attempt to talk and THESE are the things you deem necessary to drive to my house to give me. As if I would see a bag of random toys and pinecones and forget all that’s happened? It makes no sense. And to drive to my town and bring it to my house but not even knock or leave a note. Do you want contact or not. Is it intentional mind games? My husband has asked what I wanted to do with it all. He suggested maybe throwing out some of it and donating the rest. But I feel my mom would then assume we were using it and use that as an in. So he offered to drop it off at their house for me. (He’s been supportive in my no contact and knows this has caused me anxiety) but we talked about it and agreed, I should drop it back off onto their porch and just leave a note saying “not needed.” They have a ring doorbell, and we figured if they see me doing it they know I’m serious and not having him “fight my battles.”
I just don’t understand what these items are for. I know they know about my son turning two, the twins, our elopement. We’re even moving across country in the fall and they know about that. They’re in contact with my brother who I’m fairly close to. And although we don’t have my parents on any social media, all these things have been seen by extended family members, I’m sure who have talked to them about it all. All these major important events, which could justify a reach out.. And no contact from them. Until this box of pinecones…

Hi all. First time posting. I am deciding to better for these reasons:

• I have felt very bad for a long time and I deserve to be happy and enjoy things
• I want to take better care of my health
• I want to be better for my partner so I can enjoy our relationship

My current issues are such:

• PTSD
• Relationship anxiety/trust issues (nothing to do with my partner, he is truly so amazing!)
• Physical anxiety
• Smoking cigarettes/weed
• Isolating myself
• Neglecting my studies
• Very loud and active negative self-esteem

What I have started doing:

• Using nicotine patches to quit cigarettes
• Only smoking weed when I have tried other techniques to cope with anxiety, moving towards just the weekends and then just occasionally
• Continuing going to psychotherapy
• Trying to change the way I talk/think about myself
• Leaning into my relationship and being vulnerable
• Practicing good sleep hygiene
• Talking more with my parents
• Trying to leave the house everyday
• Moving to a new place in a few weeks (in same city)

It has been very hard. I have cried a lot. I have had a lot of anxiety, throwing up in the morning hasn't exactly been great for my motivation. But I have noticed some good things:

• Spending less money on weed/cigarettes
• Feeling more well rested
• Able to push away some of those negative thoughts
• More success during therapy sessions
• Feeling genuinely happy in my relationship and not anxious/scared to be vulnerable

Anyways. That's what I've been up to, I'd love to hear if anyone else has had similar experiences or if anyone else is going through that 'growing pains' stage- cause it really hurts!

How can I know if these symptoms are an outcome of a digestive disease or lifestyle and mental health?
I have a constant bloating, and therefore shortness in breath and fatigue. Due to this bloating, I stopped having breakfast 4 months ago, and I have to sip water in order to drink some. The shortness in breath and fatigue are causing me to be tired and sleepy all day long.
In terms of lifestyle, I'm sedentary, anxious, and hypervigilant. My mental health is terrible overall.
I think it is related to anxiety and stress, as I have no bowel changes, nausea, or pain and heart burn. What do you think? Anyone had a similar experience?
Thank you.

How can I know if these symptoms are an outcome of a digestive disease or lifestyle and mental health?
I have a constant bloating, and therefore shortness in breath and fatigue. Due to this bloating, I stopped having breakfast 4 months ago, and I have to sip water in order to drink some. The shortness in breath and fatigue are causing me to be tired and sleepy all day long.
In terms of lifestyle, I'm sedentary, anxious, and hypervigilant. My mental health is terrible overall.
I think it is related to anxiety and stress, as I have no bowel changes, nausea, or pain and heart burn. What do you think? Anyone had a similar experience?
Thank you.