I teach computer basics to adults at a career school. I've found it very effective to record short (about 10 second) screenshots of how to do certain tasks, converting them to .gifs, and adding them to our online notebook. This works great when you only use the mouse because you can see where I'm clicking, but it doesn't work when I need to use the keyboard.
What I'd like to see is an inset of a keyboard on the screen that highlights the keys I'm typing. Does that exist? Or is there another way to do this that I don't know about?
Any advice would be appreciated.

I'll be using fake names in my story since I don't want to mention any names and sorry for the long post :D
The story:
Let's start from the top. Me (17F) and my friends, Pearl (17F), Daniel (17M), and Stephen (17M), are what you would consider a friend group that the whole classroom vibes with. We are very energetic and we are also very open to people hanging out with us. One day around February, one of our classmates, Floyd (17M), had his birthday. We greeted him with a song and teased around. Me and my group of friends sit at the back of the classroom, and he does too. That's why we kind of teased him. He usually eats with his group of friends, so we didn't really hang out with him that day. At night, he messaged me, saying he felt kind of down, even though it was his birthday. He told me he didn't feel like it was his birthday because of what happened during lunch. He said, "My friends didn't really seem to think it was my birthday. They all ate before me and my other friend arrived because they were so excited to play badminton." (In the Philippines, eating together is seen as a sign of respect, and typically lines in canteens take too long, hence why they ate before they arrived.) I comforted him by saying maybe they grew up without having that value, but it is still rude to act that way considering it was his birthday. We exchanged messages that night, and he thanked me for comforting him, I replied by saying no worries; you can always come to me if ever you feel down. Ever since that day, he started hanging out with us and distanced himself from his old friend group.
Time skip to around the 2nd week of may, I invited my friends over for lunch after our final exams (May 21–23 were our final exams and May 21 was my birthday). It was difficult for us to find time to hang out since right after our exams was Pearl's, Stephen's, and Floyd's research defense, and the day after (May 24) was mine and Daniel's research defense. However, we settled on a date and it helped me cope (?) with the exams, knowing that after all the stress, I would be able to relax and finally enjoy summer. Things took a 180 on May 20, though. Me, Daniel, and Floyd were on a call that night because we wanted to study together, but we got sidetracked and thought of the hangout we planned. We planned to go to an amusement park, and we were looking for promos in hopes of saving money. Floyd came across this promo where if a birthday celebrant has 4 accompanying adults, then the birthday celebrant is free of charge. He then asked me and Daniel who's celebrating their birthday this month, to which Daniel replied, "Pauline (which is me) is." It kind of did feel awkward at that time since we were going on this trip because it was my birthday after all. I brushed it off, thinking that he wasn't able to keep track of time and that he was too focused on the exams. We ended the call almost at 12, hoping for them to wish me a happy birthday; however, that night was oddly silent.
The next day, which was my birthday, seemed like a normal day to them. We went to the canteen to grab breakfast, studied until the last minute, and so on. While we were inside our classroom, I wasn't talking much because I was focusing on studying and because I was hurt that they forgot that it was my birthday. During our chemistry exam, the test paper asked for a date, unlike the previous 2 exams. Pearl started to notice because we have the same birthdate (21st of the month). After the exams, she approached me and said happy birthday, to which I responded with a thank you and teared up (I know, I'm softhearted). She asked why I was crying, and I asked her if they forgot my birthday. My classmates started to sing me happy birthday, and it felt like a slow, reverbed version of happy birthday. My group of friends comforted me and said that they would make up for it (idk the right term lol but in tagalog its like babawi kami). They told me that because they said they wouldn't be able to study out with me that day because of personal reasons, which I understand. They apologized to me through chat, and I said it's fine. They asked if I was still up for the hangout this Sunday, which was at the amusement park, and I said I'm not so sure now.
The next 2 days were like hell, though. They acted like nothing was wrong, but they didn't include me in things. Although I know it was kind of my fault for distancing myself from them, on the other hand, I wanted them to approach me first and make me feel like I was something to them. On that day, I went home right away and texted my closest friend, Daniel, about it. I told him how scared I was of being alone but at the same time, maybe it was for the better. He explained to me that he was sorry and asked me if I wasn't going to talk to them anymore. I told him that I was just waiting for them to reach out to me since I didn't want to feel pathetic for reaching out to them. The same thing happened on May 23rd; however, I came to the realization that me, Pearl, Stephen, and Floyd may not talk again considering that their defense was done and that they didn't need to go to school anymore.
On May 24, I was sitting together with my research groupmate when Pearl tapped my shoulder and said sorry. I gladly accepted her apology and explained my side and she explained hers as well. She explained that I was hard to approach because of how I looked at them. We caught up, and she mentioned how Floyd was not handling the situation well. Floyd was actually frustrated with me because of how prideful I was. He said, "If you're not going to lower your pride, I'm not going to lower mine. If that's how you want to play it, then be it." I'm a person who forgives easily, but when people cross that line, it changes my view of them and makes it harder for me to see them in a positive way. Other than that, it did hurt me in a different way because of how comforting I was when it was his birthday, but when it came to mine, it was the complete opposite. After awhile, I realized that what I did was wrong too and started reaching out to him as well. He started hanging out with his old friend group, though, so I stopped reaching out to him. What happened already happened and as much as I hate thinking about this, it still hurts me deep inside. I know that pushing them away and acting cold-blooded was also wrong, and I wish I had handled the situation better. However, deep down, I know that my feelings are valid, and I know that what I did was reasonable. Am I the asshole?

Long post ahead.
I was born in a happy family. Nagsisimba kada linggo, naibibigay needs ko, sabay sabay kumain, nagtatawanan, at nagkwekwentuhan. Typical na ginagawa ng 'happy family'. That was what I thought as a kid. Hindi kami mayaman, hindi rin mahirap. We were happy. Ako yung bunso at may ate ako. Si daddy may work and umuuwi monthly . Si mommy , may work din pero dito lang saamin.Nung bata pa ako, there was this cellphone na keypad na ginagamit ng mama ko. (Hindi pa uso yung touch screens noon). Alam ko nang magbasa. I was really young. Probably 7 or 8 years old. May ginagawa si mommy and someone sent a message, 'Kamusta ka na Mahal". I'm sure it wasn't my dad. The name na nakalagay is 'Mario'.( Hindi niya totoong pangalan, i changed it). Hanggang ngayon hindi ko parin makalimutan yung message na 'yon. That Mario guy is our kapitbahay dati. Hindi namin kaano ano. After i saw the message, pinakita ko kay mommy and sinabi niya na wag na wag ko na raw titignan yung mga message sa cellphone niya. Yung Mario moved out a few years ago, idk kung saan pumunta pero may asawa rin siya.
Fast forward to pandemic. Nandito lang ako sa bahay (modular). Sa province kami nakatira kaya i think as long as you wear mask pwede lumabas kasi hindi gaano kahigpit dito. Nagpaalam mommy ko na pupunta sa birthday party. May hinala na ako na may cheating ulit na nagaganap. Pumunta muna siya sa mga kasama niya para sunduin sila, katabing bahay lang namin. Someone sent a message sa cellphone niya. Takot na takot ako after what happened nung bata pa ako pero tinignan ko parin. Walang pangalan. Just contact number. "Nasaan ka na mahal" was the message. Kinurot ko sarili ko sa pisngi, kasi hindi ako makapaniwala na ganon pala talaga yung nanay ko. Na niloloko niya lang kami. Pumunta siya sa birthday party na yun. Tinanong ko kung kaninong birthday and sabi niya lang pamangkin ni ganto. Mag isa ko lang sa bahay. Nasa manila si daddy at si ate nag aaral sa baguio. 12 am, hindi pa siya umuuwi, tinawagan ko si ate sa messenger para tawagan si mommy sa number niya kasi wala akong load. Hindi siya sumasagot. After waiting, umuwi siya, lasing. Nauna nang umuwi mga kasama niya. Tinanong ko nang paulit ulit kung anong ginawa niya pero hindi siya sumasagot. Tinanong din ng ate ko on call pero wala talaga. Natulog lang siya. I knew it. After that, hindi ko na brining up yung gabing yun. Until now, madaling araw or kahit anong oras kapag wala si daddy, may kausap siya on phone. Umiiba yung tono ng boses niya. Sabi ko sa sarili ko "eto nanaman tayo". Pero sa totoo lang, i can't bear na ganon. Ayoko gumuho yung pamilya namin. I think ako lang yung nakakaalam na ganun yung ginagawa niya. I checked her phone again and deleted na lahat. I think dinedelete niya after niya makita yung message. I once called a suicide hotline habang mag isa lang ako. Gusto ko sabihin lahat. I cried and cried and they listened. Hindi ko na maalala yung pangalan ng kausap ko pero kay ate/kuya i'm so grateful. Wala akong kaibigan na makakausap sa problems ko. Gusto ko mag vent. Sa suicide hotline na yun, i was anonymous, pati rito sa reddit. Until now, tinitiis ko parin yung nanay ko kasi takot ako.
As much as i hate my mom, i hate my dad too. Hindi siya cheater katulad ng nanay ko pero nagbago siya. Hindi na siya yung daddy na kilala ko nung bata pa ako. Nung masaya pa kami. Ang selfish niya. Hindi ko alam kung alam niya bang yun yung ginagawa ni mommy. He never attended any moving up or graduation ceremony sa aming dalawa ng ate ko. I always try my best academically and i was always the TOP 1. With honors, with high honors, and with highest honors. Kahit cum laude ate ko he didn't attend her graduation. They never said "i'm proud of you" pero laging tinatanong saakin ng mommy ko sa card day "sinong highest sainyo" "ba't ka bumaba dito, galingan mo pa". Ang sakit.
Dahil nga nasa province kami, marami kaming alaga, pato,manok, aso, pusa. I love my cats kasi sila yung nagdidistract saakin sa mga problems ko. My dad hates my cats. Hindi to the point na sinasaktan niya physically pero lagi niya sinasabi saakin na perwisyo lang sila tapos wala silang magandang naidudulot saamin. Syempre pinaglalaban namin ng ate ko. I hate my dad for that. Ako gumagawa ng chores dito sa bahay. Araw araw. Lagi. My sister is always away from us and minsan lang umuwi kaya madalas ako lang mag isa. Gigising, magpapakain ng mga alaga, maglilinis, magluluto.Sa hapon ganon ulit kailangan ko ulit pakainin yung mga alaga , magluluto, maghuhugas ng pinggan. Mas dadami pa yung kalat kapag umuwi si papa kasi super makalat niya. After ng chores ko nanonood ako ng movies, kdramas and nag cecellphone kung waka akong school works. Parang yun na yung pahinga ko pero sinasabihan parin nila ako na sobrang tamad ko raw na lagi lang akong nakahilata at walang ginagawa. Matutulog ako sasabihan nila ako na lagi akong natutulog tapos wala akong ginagawa. Alam ko naman responsibilities ko eh, di ko naman pinapabayaan. Hindi nalang ako sumasagot pero hindi ko na kaya.Walang araw na hindi ako pinapagalitan ng mga magulang ko. Lalo na si mommy. Hindi naman ganto dati eh. Kelan nagbago lahat. Ang bigat bigat. Parang hindi ko na kaya. Sana hindi ko nalang nakita yung mga message, sana hindi nagbago yung tatay ko. Buo kami pero hindi kami masaya.

As the title says, I am currently creating a Vue 3 Website which uses threejs to showcase a product. The scene sent to me by the 3d designer seems to produce a maximum of 30fps on my device post DRACO, KTX2 and MeshoptDecoder (the three methods produce a difference of 2-3 fps). The scene is tested with Orbit Controls active, but will be mostly static with predefined camera movements.
Loading it in https://gltf-viewer.donmccurdy.com/ produces the same amount of FPS, so the Vue 3 computations/layouts don't seem to affect performance all that much.
My question is this: Is there anything else to be done programmatically to optimize the scene/performance during the animation cycle (aside from lowering pixel ratio via setPixelRatio)?
I'm happy to expand more on this, but sadly cannot share the code publicly (at least not in a reddit post). Thank you for your time guys!

Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been in this relationship for more than a year. About three months back, we had a terrible fight. At the end he'd said, "I can't be with you anymore. Leave me alone" I loved him a lot (I still do) and could not imagine losing him, so I tried to calm myself down and said "No, we'll talk about this when we are both calm and collected. I'll give you some space right now, think clearly for a few days and let me know if breaking up is what you really want" then we'd gone our separate ways. I had cried the entire way to my home. We are in the same uni and that's how we met. The next day, I was too shattered to go to my classes. The day after that, again I was too shattered to go. I'd missed two days, while he had gone, and he didn't even call or text to ask if I was okay. On the third day, I'd left a few "just checking in" texts, which he had left on 'delivered'. He had also been ignoring my calls, however on the third day, he had picked one of them and had straight up yelled "Why are you calling me? I said its over between us. Its over." and had cut the call. I had cried and cried and cried, to the point I would be shaking and throwing up.
I was completely broken. It was the lowest point of my life, losing the person I loved with my whole heart, because it was the phone call that had confirmed, he was really done. I couldn't think straight, my head was spinning, and eyes were puffy all the time. At the time, it happened to be one of my old friend's birthday. A male friend. I didn't even remember it was his birthday, I found out about it through snapchat's notification. And since he was a close childhood friend who had also wished me, I had, halfheartedly, wished him just a simple 'happy birthday' now mind you, he is as platonic of a friend as anyone can be. I have never had any feelings for him, and neither has he. We were childhood friends, known him since I was 13 and had a falling out when I had changed schools. In the recent years, we had met each other just ONCE, before I had even started dating my current boyfriend and it wasn't even a date with him, just a catching up with an old friend after years. This friend, I had known him for 8 years and he is like a brother to me.
The problem though, after I had wished him, he carried on with the conversation, asking me where I was rn and how I was. I replied normally and asked him about himself. He said that he was fine but had a recent break up he was trying to move on from. He asked about my dating life, since he had seen pictures of my boyfriend I had posted, and he asked how and where we met, the basic stuff. And since he had talked about his breakup, I told him what was going on in my relationship too, thinking it would make me feel lighter to talk to SOMEONE and get it off my chest. Not in details, just said stuff like "That's so relatable" I told him my boyfriend hadn't been talking to me and I was terrible. At one point, he had said "Dude, you'll find someone else, someone much better who doesn't make you cry" just how FRIENDS do. I ended the conversation a few minutes later.
The next day, I did go to my classes, and since we always used to sit together before the breakup, I went to the designated seat and sat beside him. We had numerous eye contacts throughout the day but neither of us spoke to the other. By the end of the day, he said he wanted to talk and I said 'Alright' so we went to a cafe nearby and had a heart to heart, he said that I was right, and he had just needed some time to cool off. He apologized and we made up. We kissed and said 'I love you' to each other for the very first time. However, I don't even remember at what point, but he had apparently seen the texts from last night. The one between my friend and I. He didn't say or ask anything about them. I was blissfully unaware and over the moon for having made up with him.
However, a month or so back, he suddenly started acting distant, said he needed to think and that he felt insecure in the relationship. We were still behaving normal, but he would have random episodes where he would go distant. I continuously asked him what was wrong and after a lot of pestering, he finally revealed that it was those messages. He said he had seen them months ago and that they didn't bother him at first but the more he thought of them, the more betrayed he felt. I told him I had completely forgotten about those texts. I promised him there was nothing at all between us and it was just a casual conversation I was having with my friend, and if it was of ANY significance, I would have told him and that there was nothing for me to hide from him.
He didn't believe me and said he couldn't trust me anymore. I apologized and have done so a million times in the last month. The last one month, we have had countless arguments regarding this. He has accused me of cheating, of breaking his trust, his heart and has said numerous hurtful things to me, questioning my loyalty, my character. I also blocked my friend from all the social media accounts, but he says it doesn't matter, and what hurt him the most was me talking about our relationship problems to someone else. It is fair for him to be mad, I do realize I shouldn't have done that. I have apologized, not for 'cheating' as he claims, since I never did that, but for breaking his trust.
Since then, I have tried to reassure him that I only love him, that I am only his, but he says he feels hollow inside and doesn't trust anything I say. He has started doubting my every move, every word. I text him a minute later than usual, and he accuses me of talking to someone else. He has also said we should end it, since there's no trust left anymore, but I practically begged him to stay and give me a chance. Just one chance. I told him I didn't realize me talking to a friend would hurt him so bad and now that I know how hurtful this is, I will NEVER repeat it. I have also told him that if I do ANYTHING to hurt him again, he was free to leave and never look back, but to give me just one chance to learn from my mistakes and correct them.
He had agreed, but there are certain taunts I still have to listen to. He keeps taunting me, subtly saying that I am a cheater. He has also sl*t shamed me multiple times, and it HURTS, because he is my whole entire world, and I have never even thought of anyone else in the same way. I love him and only him. But how do I make him trust me? How do I not get offended by his hurtful comments? How do we move forward? It feels like he hates me and there's not a single day I haven't gone to sleep crying after having an argument with him. We had planned our whole future together, but Idk how we can sustain it anymore. I can listen to his taunts and his complaints, but I cannot accept him slt-shaming me.
Some more context, he also has multiple female friends, who share their relationship problems with him. He goes out with them (in groups and sometimes one on one for coffee and such). They are tight knit and have been since before I entered his life. They have lunches together, make jokes, share inside jokes and have fun together, and I have never had any problem with that. Although sometimes it prickles, I ignore the insecurity because I decide to trust him instead. So why is me having a friend of the opposite gender such a crime? Why am I a sl*t for talking to my friend but its justified for him because they're friends? He has also done multiple hurtful things to me, but I always choose to understand and forgive, hoping he will learn, and giving him the benefit of the doubt. So why can't he do the same for me? Why am I such a villain in his eyes just for trying to ease my load of hurt but talking to a FRIEND? If he had done the same and if it was a person who was just a platonic friend to him, I would have understood, especially if he had apologized to me as many times as I have done.
TLDR: I had a conversation with my male friend about my relationship problems, and now my boyfriend thinks I am a cheater and questions my character. How do I win his trust? How do we move forward? AITAH?

idk how to explain this so I'm just gonna try the best I can. I will be keeping some peoples names private for there sake. around 6 months ago I got with my girlfriend (15f and at this point I was 14m and my 15th birthday wasn't that far away) me and my cousin had been added to a group chat for our art class and that's how I got in contact with her. we started just talking as friends and at one point she asked if she could braid my hair to I siad "sure why not" and we make the plan for me to go to her house after on her bus. things go pretty by fine for the time I'm at her house. we mainly sat on her bed and talked shit about other people and there relationships. anyways the next day where in class and she asked if I could go to her house again and I siad yes (I did this bc I wasn't working that day and I didn't want to sit at home and not do anything) the day eventually comes and where just hanging out and stuff went down that I won't get into details about. at somepoint I asked her if she wants to date and she said yes. this had been my first everything and i could not be more exited. that was until she told me that her mom would be taking her to Mississippi to see her family for Christmas. I was a bit sad to see her go for almost 3 weeks but we kept in contact and when she came back I couldn't be more excited.
around February to March is when she gets a text message form her friend saying that a guy named Brandon had his house raided by the cops and they found shit tons of her nudes on his phone. apparently 2 months before her 15 birthday (October 31) she had been talking to a 21 year old named Brandon and had loss her virginity to him. when she was telling me this she was breaking down crying while telling me this and didn't want to make me mad. right then and there I huged her and told her that I'm not mad and I'm going to help her through this. another thing about Brandon is that when his phone was searched they found not only her nudes but other young girls as well. idk how many there were but all ik is that there was enough to potentially give him 10-15 years. my dad knew about his house being raided before I told him bc Brandons friend works with my dad and that's how he found out. when we were talking about this she was very hesitant to tell her mom bc she didn't know what her mom would think or do. for context her mom isn't the greatest person, mainly due to her being hypocritical about almost everything and making my gf cry on multiple occasions and I've herd almost all the times she has cried. that's just a little detail about the kind of person she is. anyways when me anf my gf kept this to ourselves until we decided it was right to tell our parents. after about 2 weeks I told my dad and asked him what I need to do and what see needs to do. he told me that what she needs to do is contact the police and tell them the situation and then contact her towns local police and ask them what to do.
if all goes to plan then the state police will hand over the case to the town police and figure out what to do then (it wasn't hard for them to find out who we where talking about bc Brandon already has a case on him for stuff unrelated to this) after talking to them they told her that they would show up to her house and talk to her in person to get a better understanding of the situation. when she told her mom that there was something important that she had to tell her and she waited for the cops to show up so if she where to act out they would hopefully calm her mom down. but her mom kept asking what it was that was so important and apparently told all the people that where in her house that her daughter had something important to tell her (her mom and grandma had friends over) witch in my opinion is fucked up in every witch way and what makes it more messed up is the fact that I heard all of it. my gf crying, her mom screaming at her to stop crying bc I ft her to try and calm her down before the cops got there. anyways questioning gets done and they tell her what they are going to do to make this better for everyone and hopefully lock Brandon up. after a couple of days she had been told that she had to go to the detective and tell him the situation then had to go tell her therapist what was going on and by that time she had tried to forget about it but they kept asking and almost every time they did ask about it she cried. now she's doing ok and a little over a month ago I got a text from my dad saying that he had been arrested and was gonna sit in front of the judge and be told what he's being charged with and the next day my dad told me that he was denied bail so he would hopefully serve his time. idk how long he's gonna be locked up for but what I do know is that by the time me and my gf are in our 30s he might still be locked up.
also around this time my gf had been going to therapy regularly and around 2 weeks got her blood taken to check for any stds. thankfully it came back negative and she didn't have anything. but while she was there they prescribed her with anti depression and anxiety meds to hopefully help her with her depression and anxiety (she's had both for a while before she met Brandon) she had also asked if she could get a different type of birth control. for context her mom has forced her to get some sort of birth control and if she doesn't then we can be together. so around a month after we got together she had gotten the stick that was placed in her arm (if someone can tell me if there's an actual name for it then pls lmk) after getting the stick in her arm she has been on her period making her bleed none stop (it's way more than sould be humanly possible) she had asked if there was a birth control that she could take without have the none stop bleeding and out of control bursts of depression ans anxiety.
she was told that maybe the pill might work and she still deciding if she wants to go for that option. ever since this whole thing happened I can't stop thing about what happened that night her and Brandon did it and that countless nights she had been crying and I feel a constant guilt for nor being able to help her and idk if there's anything else I can do to help her without giving me a panic attack bc I've had lots of those in and out of school. I just want her to be happy and every time I ask her if she's ok and she says yes but idk if she's making sure that I don't worry by saying that. I hope that I've done everything correctly and if there's any suggestions for what I can do pls tell me bc I've been shaking and sweating just thinking about this and typing it out. I hope that some of you can understand where I'm coming from bc this entire thing has made stressed tf out.

Hey all! I'm attaching what Etrecheck told me for my computer analysis but it looks like there are no major problems. I have plenty of diskspace etc because from day one I've kept everything on hard drives as I'm a photo editor and I use a lot of space for images/downloads/etc.
My computer specs are here:
https://preview.redd.it/w01wtsl2764d1.png?width=510&format=png&auto=webp&s=0447d1013887a62b6c721c0c39845973e75fa6bf
From what I can gather online, my computer is just "old" and can not keep up with Photoshop, Cricut etc apps. BUT even when I'm not running those apps, my computer is slow AF. I can only open Photoshop by itself and never with the internet open as well. It crashes constantly and I have to manually turn it off and on where it sometimes just freezes till it randomly turns on again later on in the day. I have no idea what to do about it and to be quite frank, I don't have the money to buy a new computer. We are living off of one income with kids at the moment and we are getting ready to move across the country so funds are limited. Anyone have any advice on what to do? I'd have no problem buying the $18 pro clean up but it seems like there isn't anything imperative to "fix."
Thanks so much!
EtreCheckPro version: 6.8.5 (68049)
Report generated: 2024-06-02 08:26:43
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Runtime: 5:59
Performance: Below Average
Problem: Computer is too slow
Major Issues: None
Minor Issues:
These issues do not need immediate attention but they may indicate future problems or opportunities for improvement.
No Time Machine backup - Time Machine backup not found.
Clean up - There are orphan files that could be removed.
Unsigned files - There are unsigned software files installed. These files could be old, incompatible, and cause problems. They should be reviewed.
System modifications - There are a large number of system modifications running in the background.
Low performance - EtreCheck report took an unusually long time to run.
Limited permissions - More information may be available with Full Disk Access.
Kernel extensions present - This computer has kernel extensions that may not work in the future.
Hardware Information:
iMac (Retina 4K, 21.5-inch, 2019)
Status: Supported
iMac Model: iMac19,2
3 GHz 6-Core Intel Core i5 (i5-8500) CPU: 6-core
8 GB RAM - Upgradeable by an Apple Authorized Service Provider
BANK 0/ChannelA-DIMM0 - 4 GB DDR4 2667
BANK 2/ChannelB-DIMM0 - 4 GB DDR4 2667
Video Information:
Radeon Pro 560X - VRAM: 4 GB
iMac (built-in) 4096 x 2304
Drives:
disk0 - APPLE HDD HTS541010A9E632 1.00 TB (Mechanical - 5400 RPM)
Internal SATA 3 Gigabit Serial ATA
disk0s1 - EFI (MS-DOS FAT32) [EFI] 210 MB
disk0s2 [APFS Fusion Drive] 1000.00 GB
disk2 [APFS Virtual drive] 1.03 TB (Shared by 6 volumes)
disk2s1 - Macintosh HD - Data (APFS) [APFS Virtual drive] (387.18 GB used)
disk2s2 - Preboot (APFS) [APFS Preboot] (2.16 GB used)
disk2s3 - Recovery (APFS) [Recovery] (1.24 GB used)
disk2s4 (APFS) [APFS Container] (10.26 GB used)
disk2s4s1 - Macintosh HD (APFS) [APFS Snapshot] (10.26 GB used)
disk2s5 - VM (APFS) [APFS VM] (1 MB used)
disk2s6 - Update (APFS) (11 MB used)
disk1 - APPLE SSD SM0032L 28.00 GB (Solid State - TRIM: Yes)
Internal PCI-Express 8.0 GT/s x2 NVM Express
disk1s1 - EFI [EFI] 315 MB
disk1s2 [APFS Fusion Drive] 27.55 GB
disk2 [APFS Virtual drive] 1.03 TB (Shared by 6 volumes)
disk2s1 - Macintosh HD - Data (APFS) [APFS Virtual drive] (387.18 GB used)
disk2s2 - Preboot (APFS) [APFS Preboot] (2.16 GB used)
disk2s3 - Recovery (APFS) [Recovery] (1.24 GB used)
disk2s4 (APFS) [APFS Container] (10.26 GB used)
disk2s4s1 - Macintosh HD (APFS) [APFS Snapshot] (10.26 GB used)
disk2s5 - VM (APFS) [APFS VM] (1 MB used)
disk2s6 - Update (APFS) (11 MB used)
Mounted Volumes:
disk2s1 - Macintosh HD - Data [APFS Virtual drive]
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /System/Volumes/Data
Fusion drive
Used: 387.18 GB
Shared values
Size: 1.03 TB
Free: 622.17 GB
Available: 893.20 GB
disk2s2 - Preboot [APFS Preboot]
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /System/Volumes/Preboot
Fusion drive
Used: 2.16 GB
Shared values
Size: 1.03 TB
Free: 622.17 GB
Available: 893.20 GB
disk2s4s1 - Macintosh HD [APFS Snapshot]
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /
Fusion drive
Read-only: Yes
Used: 10.26 GB
Shared values
Size: 1.03 TB
Free: 622.17 GB
Available: 893.20 GB
disk2s5 - VM [APFS VM]
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /System/Volumes/VM
Fusion drive
Used: 1 MB
Shared values
Size: 1.03 TB
Free: 622.17 GB
Available: 893.20 GB
disk2s6 - Update
Filesystem: APFS
Mount point: /System/Volumes/Update
Fusion drive
Used: 11 MB
Shared values
Size: 1.03 TB
Free: 622.17 GB
Available: 893.20 GB
USB:
USB 3.1 bus
Apple Inc. - FaceTime HD Camera (Built-in)
HP - HP OfficeJet 8020 series
USB 3.1 bus

Network:
Interface en0: Ethernet
Interface en1: Wi-Fi
802.11 a/b/g/n/ac
Interface bridge0: Thunderbolt Bridge
Interface en4: iPhone
System Software:
macOS Sonoma 14.5 (23F79)
Time since boot: Less than an hour
Notifications:
Creative Cloud.app
one notification
Safari.app
6 notifications
Security:
Gatekeeper: App Store and identified developers
System Integrity Protection: Enabled
Antivirus software: Apple
Unsigned Files:
Launchd: /Library/LaunchDaemons/com.google.keystone.daemon.plist
Executable: /Library/Google/GoogleSoftwareUpdate/GoogleSoftwareUpdate.bundle/Contents/MacOS/GoogleSoftwareUpdateDaemon
Details: Exact match found in the legitimate list - probably OK
Launchd: /Library/LaunchAgents/com.google.keystone.agent.plist
Command: /Library/Google/GoogleSoftwareUpdate/GoogleSoftwareUpdate.bundle/Contents/Resources/GoogleSoftwareUpdateAgent.app/Contents/MacOS/GoogleSoftwareUpdateAgent -runMode ifneeded
Details: Exact match found in the legitimate list - probably OK
Launchd: ~/Library/LaunchAgents/jp.co.canon.Inkjet_Extended_Survey_Agent.plist
Executable: /Applications/Canon Utilities/Inkjet Extended Survey Program/Inkjet Extended Survey Program.app/Contents/Resources/Canon_Inkjet_Extended_Survey_Agent
Details: Exact match found in the legitimate list - probably OK
Launchd: /Library/LaunchDaemons/jp.co.canon.MasterInstaller.plist
Executable: /Library/PrivilegedHelperTools/jp.co.canon.MasterInstaller
Details: Exact match found in the legitimate list - probably OK
Apps: 10
Kernel Extensions:
/Applications/Wondershare Filmora9.app
[Not Loaded] SystemAudioRecorder.kext - com.Perfect.Driver.SystemAudioRecorder (Wondershare Software Co., Ltd, 1.1.0 - SDK 10.9)
/Library/Extensions
[Not Loaded] EPSONUSBPrintClass.kext - com.epson.print.kext.USBPrintClass (Seiko Epson Corporation, 2.7.3)
[Not Loaded] ms_ntfs.kext - com.iboysoft.filesystems.ms_ntfs (Chengdu Aibo Tech Co., Ltd., 4.5 - SDK 11)
[Loaded] ufsd_NTFS.kext - com.paragon-software.filesystems.ntfs (Paragon Software GmbH, 15.11.839 - SDK 10.10)
[Not Loaded] BJUSBLoad.kext - jp.co.canon.bj.print.BJUSBLoad (Canon Inc., 10.75.21 - SDK 10.8)
[Not Loaded] CIJUSBLoad.kext - jp.co.canon.ij.print.CIJUSBLoad (Canon Inc., 16.0.10 - SDK 10.9)
System Launch Daemons:
[Not Loaded] 44 Apple tasks
[Loaded] 183 Apple tasks
[Running] 174 Apple tasks
[Other] 3 Apple tasks
System Launch Agents:
[Not Loaded] 23 Apple tasks
[Loaded] 200 Apple tasks
[Running] 202 Apple tasks
Launch Daemons:
[Running] com.adobe.acc.installer.v2.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-05-02)
Executable: /Library/PrivilegedHelperTools/com.adobe.acc.installer.v2
[Running] com.adobe.agsservice.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-01-04)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/Adobe/AdobeGCClient/AGSService
[Loaded] com.citrix.ctxusbd.plist (Citrix Systems, Inc. - installed 2021-06-17)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/Citrix Receivectxusbd
[Loaded] com.google.keystone.daemon.plist (Not signed - installed 2020-03-31)
Executable: /Library/Google/GoogleSoftwareUpdate/GoogleSoftwareUpdate.bundle/Contents/MacOS/GoogleSoftwareUpdateDaemon
[Other] com.iBoysoft.ntfshelperd.plist (Not signed - installed 2019-09-22)
Executable: /Applications/iBoysoft NTFS for Mac.app/Contents/MacOS/ntfsassistantd.app/Contents/MacOS/ntfsassistantd
[Loaded] com.paragon-software.installer.plist (Paragon Software GmbH - installed 2020-03-31)
Executable: /Library/PrivilegedHelperTools/com.paragon-software.installer
[Loaded] com.paragon-software.ntfs.loader.plist (Paragon Software GmbH - installed 2023-09-21)
Command: /sbin/kextload /Library/Extensions/ufsd_NTFS.kext
[Running] com.paragon-software.ntfsd.plist (Paragon Software GmbH - installed 2023-10-02)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/Paragon Software/com.paragon-software.ntfsd
[Loaded] jp.co.canon.MasterInstaller.plist (Not signed - installed 2020-08-03)
Executable: /Library/PrivilegedHelperTools/jp.co.canon.MasterInstaller
[Loaded] us.zoom.ZoomDaemon.plist (Zoom Video Communications, Inc. - installed 2024-04-01)
Executable: /Library/PrivilegedHelperTools/us.zoom.ZoomDaemon
Launch Agents:
[Running] com.adobe.AdobeCreativeCloud.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-05-02)
Command: /Applications/Utilities/Adobe Creative Cloud/ACC/Creative Cloud.app/Contents/MacOS/Creative Cloud --showwindow=false --onOSstartup=true
[Not Loaded] com.adobe.GC.Invoker-1.0.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-01-04)
Command: /Library/Application Support/Adobe/AdobeGCClient/agcinvokerutility -mode=logon
[Loaded] com.adobe.ccxprocess.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-05-12)
Command: /Applications/Utilities/Adobe Creative Cloud Experience/CCXProcess/CCXProcess.app/Contents/MacOS/CCXProcess --openAtBoot
[Running] com.citrix.AuthManager_Mac.plist (Citrix Systems, Inc. - installed 2021-06-17)
Executable: /uslocal/libexec/AuthManager_Mac.app/Contents/MacOS/AuthManager_Mac
[Running] com.citrix.ReceiverHelper.plist (Citrix Systems, Inc. - installed 2021-06-17)
Executable: /uslocal/libexec/ReceiverHelper.app/Contents/MacOS/ReceiverHelper
[Running] com.citrix.ServiceRecords.plist (Citrix Systems, Inc. - installed 2021-06-17)
Executable: /uslocal/libexec/ServiceRecords.app/Contents/MacOS/ServiceRecords
[Running] com.citrix.WebLauncher.plist (Citrix Systems, Inc. - installed 2021-06-17)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/Citrix ReceiveCitrix Workspace Launcher.app/Contents/MacOS/Citrix Workspace Launcher
[Running] com.epson.Epson_Low_Ink_Reminder.launcher.plist (Seiko Epson Corporation - installed 2019-09-24)
Executable: /Applications/Epson Software/Epson Low Ink Reminder.app/Contents/EpsonLowInkReminderAgent.app/Contents/MacOS/EpsonLowInkReminderAgent
[Loaded] com.epson.esua.launcher.plist (Seiko Epson Corporation - installed 2021-10-14)
Executable: /Applications/Epson Software/EPSON Software Updater.app/Contents/EPSON Software Updater Agent.app/Contents/MacOS/EPSON Software Updater Agent
[Running] com.epson.eventmanager.agent.plist (Seiko Epson Corporation - installed 2019-10-03)
Executable: /Applications/Epson Software/Event Manager.app/Contents/Resources/Assistants/Event ManageEEventManager.app/Contents/MacOS/EEventManager
[Running] com.epson.pma.launcher.plist (Seiko Epson Corporation - installed 2017-10-19)
Command: /Applications/Epson Software/Epson Ink Replenishment Agent.app/Contents/MacOS/pma.app/Contents/MacOS/pma --pmaalaunchd
[Running] com.epson.scannermonitor.plist (Seiko Epson Corporation - installed 2019-08-18)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/EPSON/ScanneScannerMonitoEpson Scanner Monitor.app/Contents/MacOS/Epson Scanner Monitor
[Other] com.google.keystone.agent.plist (Not signed - installed 2020-03-31)
Command: /Library/Google/GoogleSoftwareUpdate/GoogleSoftwareUpdate.bundle/Contents/Resources/GoogleSoftwareUpdateAgent.app/Contents/MacOS/GoogleSoftwareUpdateAgent -runMode ifneeded
[Running] com.paragon-software.ntfs.notification-agent.plist (Paragon Software GmbH - installed 2023-09-21)
Executable: /Library/Application Support/Paragon Software/com.paragon-software.ntfs.notification-agent.app/Contents/MacOS/NotificationAgent
[Other] com.wdc.WD-Discovery.plist (Not signed - installed 2020-03-31)
Command: /Applications/WD Discovery/WD Discovery.app/Contents/MacOS/WD Discovery --autolaunch
[Other] com.wdc.WDTrashObserver.plist (Not signed - installed 2020-03-31)
Executable: /Applications/WD Discovery/WD Discovery.app/Contents/WDTrashObserver
User Launch Agents:
[Loaded] com.adobe.GC.Invoker-1.0.plist (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-01-04)
Command: /Library/Application Support/Adobe/AdobeGCClient/agcinvokerutility -mode=scheduled
[Loaded] com.google.GoogleUpdater.wake.plist (Google LLC - installed 2024-05-22)
Command: ~/Library/Application Support/Google/GoogleUpdateCurrent/GoogleUpdater.app/Contents/MacOS/GoogleUpdater --wake-all --enable-logging --vmodule=*/components/update_client/*=2,*/chrome/update*=2
[Not Loaded] com.google.keystone.agent.plist (Not signed - installed 2023-12-06)

[Not Loaded] com.google.keystone.xpcservice.plist (Not signed - installed 2023-12-06)

[Running] com.leapfrog.connect2.lflauncher.plist (LeapFrog Enterprises, Inc. - installed 2023-04-16)
Executable: /Applications/LeapFrog Connect 2.app/Contents/Library/LaunchServices/LeapFrogLauncher.app/Contents/MacOS/LeapFrogLauncher
[Not Loaded] jp.co.canon.Inkjet_Extended_Survey_Agent.plist (Not signed - installed 2015-02-12)
Executable: /Applications/Canon Utilities/Inkjet Extended Survey Program/Inkjet Extended Survey Program.app/Contents/Resources/Canon_Inkjet_Extended_Survey_Agent
User Login Items:
[Not Loaded] XE2XNRRXZ5.com.canon.Digital-Photo-Professional-4.Cloud-Develop.Beta.Dpp4XPCDCCHelper (Canon Inc. - installed 2022-09-12)
Modern Login Item
/Applications/Canon Utilities/Digital Photo Professional 4/Digital Photo Professional 4.app/Contents/Library/LoginItems/XE2XNRRXZ5.com.canon.Digital-Photo-Professional-4.Cloud-Develop.Beta.Dpp4XPCDCCHelper.app
[Not Loaded] CIJSUAgent (Canon Inc. - installed 2020-08-03)
Modern Login Item
/Applications/Canon Utilities/IJ Scan Utility/Canon IJ Scan Utility2.app/Contents/Library/LoginItems/CIJSUAgent.app
[Loaded] HPPSDrMonitorHelper (App Store - installed 2024-01-13)
Modern Login Item
/Applications/HP Smart.app/Contents/Frameworks/HPDiagnosticKit.framework/Versions/A/Resources/Addons/HP Diagnose & Fix.app/Contents/Library/LoginItems/HPPSDrMonitorHelper.app
[Running] MessengerHelper (Facebook, Inc. - installed 2024-05-24)
Modern Login Item
/Applications/Messenger.app/Contents/Library/LoginItems/MessengerHelper.app
[Loaded] MessengerLoginHelper (Facebook, Inc. - installed 2024-05-24)
Modern Login Item
/Applications/Messenger.app/Contents/Library/LoginItems/MessengerLoginHelper.app
Applications:
627 apps
75 x86-only apps
11 unsigned apps
App Extensions:
Finder sync extensions:
Adobe Content Synchronizer Finder Extension - /Applications/Utilities/Adobe Sync/CoreSync/Core Sync.app
Safari extensions:
Webex - ~/Library/Application Support/WebEx FoldeAdd-ons/Cisco WebEx Start.app
PayPal Honey - /Applications/PayPal Honey.app
QuickLook Previews:
EtreCheckQuickLook - ~/Downloads/EtreCheckPro.app
com.etresoft.etrecheck4 *.etrecheck
Internet Plug-ins:
o1dbrowserplugin: 5.41.3.0 (? - installed 2015-12-11)
googletalkbrowserplugin: 5.41.3.0 (? - installed 2015-12-11)
AdobeAAMDetect: 3.0.0.0 (Adobe Inc. - installed 2024-05-02)
Backup:
Time Machine information is limited without Full Disk Access
Performance:
System Load: 1.98 (1 min ago) 1.99 (5 min ago) 1.51 (15 min ago)
Nominal I/O usage: 3.93 MB/s
File system: 20.58 seconds
Write speed: 723 MB/s
Read speed: 1430 MB/s
CPU Usage Snapshot:
Type Overall
System: 4 %
User: 7 %
Idle: 89 %
Top Processes Snapshot by CPU:
Process (count) CPU (Source - Location)
EtreCheckPro 16.26 % (Etresoft, Inc.)
com.apple.WebKit.WebContent (12) 14.88 % (Apple)
Storage 13.98 % (Apple)
WindowServer 4.80 % (Apple)
kernel_task 2.48 % (Apple)
Top Processes Snapshot by Memory:
Process (count) RAM usage (Source - Location)
com.apple.WebKit.WebContent (12) 1.29 GB (Apple)
EtreCheckPro 698 MB (Etresoft, Inc.)
com.apple.WebKit.GPU 244 MB (Apple)
Safari 178 MB (Apple)
Creative Cloud UI Helper (Renderer) 131 MB (Adobe Inc.)
Top Processes Snapshot by Network Use:
Process Input / Output (Source - Location)
com.apple.WebKit.Networking 108 MB / 2 MB (Apple)
apsd 115 KB / 563 KB (Apple)
rapportd 376 KB / 108 KB (Apple)
mDNSResponder 228 KB / 138 KB (Apple)
Messenger 103 KB / 19 KB (Facebook, Inc.)
Top Processes Snapshot by Energy Use:
Process (count) Energy (0-100) (Source - Location)
com.apple.WebKit.WebContent (12) 8 (Apple)
WindowServer 5 (Apple)
com.apple.WebKit.Networking 3 (Apple)
Storage 3 (Apple)
photoanalysisd 1 (Apple)
Virtual Memory Information:
Physical RAM: 8 GB
Free RAM: 40 MB
Used RAM: 5.93 GB
Cached files: 2.03 GB
Available RAM: 2.07 GB
Swap Used: 0 B
Software Installs (past 60 days):
Install Date Name (Version)
2024-05-23 macOS 14.5 (14.5)
2024-05-23 MRTConfigData (1.93)
2024-05-29 XProtectPlistConfigData (2195)
2024-05-29 XProtectPayloads (135)
Clean up:
/Library/LaunchAgents/com.wdc.WD-Discovery.plist
/Applications/WD Discovery/WD Discovery.app/Contents/MacOS/WD Discovery
Executable not found
/Library/LaunchAgents/com.wdc.WDTrashObserver.plist
/Applications/WD Discovery/WD Discovery.app/Contents/WDTrashObserver
Executable not found
/Library/LaunchDaemons/com.iBoysoft.ntfshelperd.plist
/Applications/iBoysoft NTFS for Mac.app/Contents/MacOS/ntfsassistantd.app/Contents/MacOS/ntfsassistantd
Executable not found
Diagnostics Information (past 60 days):
2024-05-31 18:14:28 com.apple.WebKit.WebContent - High CPU Use (3 times)
First occurrence: 2024-05-31 15:55:38
Executable: /Volumes/VOLUME/*/W**************k/V******s/A/X*********s/c*****************************c/C******s/M***S/c*************************t
2024-05-31 07:21:34 photoanalysisd - High CPU Use (2 times)
First occurrence: 2024-05-28 09:14:55
Executable: /System/Library/PrivateFrameworks/PhotoAnalysis.framework/Versions/A/Support/photoanalysisd
End of report

Me and my boyfriend have been in this relationship for more than a year. About three months back, we had a terrible fight. At the end he'd said, "I can't be with you anymore. Leave me alone" I loved him a lot (I still do) and could not imagine losing him, so I tried to calm myself down and said "No, we'll talk about this when we are both calm and collected. I'll give you some space right now, think clearly for a few days and let me know if breaking up is what you really want" then we'd gone our separate ways. I had cried the entire way to my home. We are in the same uni and that's how we met. The next day, I was too shattered to go to my classes. The day after that, again I was too shattered to go. I'd missed two days, while he had gone, and he didn't even call or text to ask if I was okay. On the third day, I'd left a few "just checking in" texts, which he had left on 'delivered'. He had also been ignoring my calls, however on the third day, he had picked one of them and had straight up yelled "Why are you calling me? I said its over between us. Its over." and had cut the call. I had cried and cried and cried, to the point I would be shaking and throwing up.
I was completely broken. It was the lowest point of my life, losing the person I loved with my whole heart, because it was the phone call that had confirmed, he was really done. I couldn't think straight, my head was spinning, and eyes were puffy all the time. At the time, it happened to be one of my old friend's birthday. A male friend. I didn't even remember it was his birthday, I found out about it through snapchat's notification. And since he was a close childhood friend who had also wished me, I had, halfheartedly, wished him just a simple 'happy birthday' now mind you, he is as platonic of a friend as anyone can be. I have never had any feelings for him, and neither has he. We were childhood friends, known him since I was 13 and had a falling out when I had changed schools. In the recent years, we had met each other just ONCE, before I had even started dating my current boyfriend and it wasn't even a date with him, just a catching up with an old friend after years. This friend, I had known him for 8 years and he is like a brother to me.
The problem though, after I had wished him, he carried on with the conversation, asking me where I was rn and how I was. I replied normally and asked him about himself. He said that he was fine but had a recent break up he was trying to move on from. He asked about my dating life, since he had seen pictures of my boyfriend I had posted, and he asked how and where we met, the basic stuff. And since he had talked about his breakup, I told him what was going on in my relationship too, thinking it would make me feel lighter to talk to SOMEONE and get it off my chest. Not in details, just said stuff like "That's so relatable" I told him my boyfriend hadn't been talking to me and I was terrible. At one point, he had said "Dude, you'll find someone else, someone much better who doesn't make you cry" just how FRIENDS do. I ended the conversation a few minutes later.
The next day, I did go to my classes, and since we always used to sit together before the breakup, I went to the designated seat and sat beside him. We had numerous eye contacts throughout the day but neither of us spoke to the other. By the end of the day, he said he wanted to talk and I said 'Alright' so we went to a cafe nearby and had a heart to heart, he said that I was right, and he had just needed some time to cool off. He apologized and we made up. We kissed and said 'I love you' to each other for the very first time. However, I don't even remember at what point, but he had apparently seen the texts from last night. The one between my friend and I. He didn't say or ask anything about them. I was blissfully unaware and over the moon for having made up with him.
However, a month or so back, he suddenly started acting distant, said he needed to think and that he felt insecure in the relationship. We were still behaving normal, but he would have random episodes where he would go distant. I continuously asked him what was wrong and after a lot of pestering, he finally revealed that it was those messages. He said he had seen them months ago and that they didn't bother him at first but the more he thought of them, the more betrayed he felt. I told him I had completely forgotten about those texts. I promised him there was nothing at all between us and it was just a casual conversation I was having with my friend, and if it was of ANY significance, I would have told him and that there was nothing for me to hide from him.
He didn't believe me and said he couldn't trust me anymore. I apologized and have done so a million times in the last month. The last one month, we have had countless arguments regarding this. He has accused me of cheating, of breaking his trust, his heart and has said numerous hurtful things to me, questioning my loyalty, my character. I also blocked my friend from all the social media accounts, but he says it doesn't matter, and what hurt him the most was me talking about our relationship problems to someone else. It is fair for him to be mad, I do realize I shouldn't have done that. I have apologized, not for 'cheating' as he claims, since I never did that, but for breaking his trust.
Since then, I have tried to reassure him that I only love him, that I am only his, but he says he feels hollow inside and doesn't trust anything I say. He has started doubting my every move, every word. I text him a minute later than usual, and he accuses me of talking to someone else. He has also said we should end it, since there's no trust left anymore, but I practically begged him to stay and give me a chance. Just one chance. I told him I didn't realize me talking to a friend would hurt him so bad and now that I know how hurtful this is, I will NEVER repeat it. I have also told him that if I do ANYTHING to hurt him again, he was free to leave and never look back, but to give me just one chance to learn from my mistakes and correct them.
He had agreed, but there are certain taunts I still have to listen to. He keeps taunting me, subtly saying that I am a cheater. He has also sl*t shamed me multiple times, and it HURTS, because he is my whole entire world, and I have never even thought of anyone else in the same way. I love him and only him. But how do I make him trust me? How do I not get offended by his hurtful comments? How do we move forward? It feels like he hates me and there's not a single day I haven't gone to sleep crying after having an argument with him. We had planned our whole future together, but Idk how we can sustain it anymore. I can listen to his taunts and his complaints, but I cannot accept him slt-shaming me.
Some more context, he also has multiple female friends, who share their relationship problems with him. He goes out with them (in groups and sometimes one on one for coffee and such). They are tight knit and have been since before I entered his life. They have lunches together, make jokes, share inside jokes and have fun together, and I have never had any problem with that. Although sometimes it prickles, I ignore the insecurity because I decide to trust him instead. So why is me having a friend of the opposite gender such a crime? Why am I a sl*t for talking to my friend but its justified for him because they're friends? He has also done multiple hurtful things to me, but I always choose to understand and forgive, hoping he will learn, and giving him the benefit of the doubt. So why can't he do the same for me? Why am I such a villain in his eyes just for trying to ease my load of hurt but talking to a FRIEND? If he had done the same and if it was a person who was just a platonic friend to him, I would have understood, especially if he had apologized to me as many times as I have done.
TLDR: I had a conversation with my male friend about my relationship problems, and now my boyfriend thinks I am a cheater and questions my character. How do I win his trust? How do we move forward?

So, I’ve been with my partner for over a year. He has two kids to his ex wife. They have a really good coparenting relationship but there are some things that just don’t sit right with me and I don’t know if I’m being irrational. They have been split for now 3 years and for context I’ve been introduced to his kids and family. The kids have accepted me and it’s nice to have gained their trust in that regard. He talks to me with such kindness, and love. He talks about our future, living together, getting a family dog and even a family one day. He says he does not see his ex in that way now and she’s always going to be family / sees her like a sister.
Firstly, I do want to say that I respect that he is doing the best for his kids and I admire that. It’s not nice to grow up where parents are at loggerheads and at least it gives the kids a sense of normality. However, there are some things I’m feeling a little off about…
Him and his ex historically have and do a lot of activities together. When we first started dating they would go camping / go to theme park holidays etc. This though has not happened recently… They will go to pottery painting / cafes etc.. I totally support him in doing the right things for the kids and I always get they will come before me. My issue partly is that his ex wife always tags him on Facebook in these posts and whilst I do on one hand get that she’s sharing her life it seems she never posts about anyone else or other activities that she does. She only tags her ex partner as if they are always doing activities together.. and I feel this has had an impact on how our relationship is perceived with my partners family.
It has also been a bit strange with family events from his side. They have met me a few times but decided to invite his ex wife to his dad’s special 70th birthday and I was told I wasn’t allowed to come. This was after a year of dating. Secondly, I was told I wasn’t allowed to his grandmas birthday - then, I was told I could. For his sisters wedding I was invited, then I was uninvited because there “wasn’t room” when his mum and dad visited him to break the news. He did go to his parents and wanted to gain clarification as to why this has happened as he knew it had upset me. They had apparently said there was no issue with me.
Fast forward to this week of his sisters wedding. His ex wife posted on Facebook about the wedding day tagging her ex husband about having a lovely day but didn’t tag the bride or groom who she is close with. I was quite upset by being uninvited to the wedding and that post brought back those feelings again. My family are very important to me and have been very accepting of my partner. So, these constant posts with just her ex husband / my partner really sit weirdly for me. We recently went on a family trip to a farm together and she still tagged him but avoided adding me into any posts.
Today he messages me to tell me he’s at the beach with his ex and kids. He didn’t tell me about this plan this morning when I saw him and it made me feel frustrated because it seems on the outside they are living in this past married family life and there isn’t space for me in that.
I have drafted a text to explain my feelings but I don’t know if I should send it or if I’m being irrational. Happy to post but interested in hearing if others have had or been in similar situations.

Taking this time to reflect, especially being late and forgetful, I realized that, in life, might not get that next tomorrow to say happy birthday to someone so yesterday I took advantage of the time I had and I met up with my online friends of 4-5 years now.
I took yesterday to personally remind myself that, regardless of religion in all honesty, no one is promised tomorrow. I had a friend who would have graduated this year that passed away the day after his birthday, I missed that opportunity to celebrate him and now I don't miss out on those moments anymore.
So, if you can, hug your people a little tighter, make sure you tell them you love them, and try never to leave conversations angry cause unfortunately we never know what the last thing is we can say to someone.
But I'm a day late so Happy Birthday, Technoblade! #techno25 I hope you got some Steak and Potatoes where ever you are!
Be safe everyone! And thank you for reading!!

I (29F) have a good job and a nice apartment in the city. My younger brother (24M) moved in with me six months ago. He was having a hard time finding a job after college, so I offered to let him stay with me until he got back on his feet. The deal was that he would help with rent and expenses once he found a job.
A month after moving in, he found a job. I was happy for him and thought everything would be fine. But then I noticed that he wasn't contributing to rent or any household expenses. At first, I thought he might be saving up or paying off some debts. I didn't say anything because I wanted to give him some time.
However, I started to see him buying expensive things. He bought a high-end gaming computer, new clothes, and even a $1,000 watch. When I asked him about helping with rent, he always had an excuse. He would say things like "I don't get paid until next week" or "I had to pay for something important." Meanwhile, I was covering all the bills and rent by myself.
Last week, I found out he bought a $2,000 TV. That was the last straw for me. I confronted him and asked why he could afford these expensive things but couldn't help with rent. He got defensive and said it was his money and he could spend it how he wanted. I reminded him of our agreement and told him it wasn't fair to me.
After a heated argument, I told him he had to move out. He called me selfish and said I was abandoning him. Our parents think I should have been more patient and that family should help each other. They think I'm in the wrong for kicking him out when he's still adjusting to life after college.
I feel bad because he's my brother and I love him, but I also feel like he was taking advantage of me. I think he needs to learn responsibility and that he can't just rely on others to support him while he spends money on luxuries.
So, AITA for kicking my brother out of my apartment for buying expensive things and not paying rent?

Helly everyone first time I am writing here pls excuse any grammar mistakes. English is not my first language and I am not used to reddit, so pls bare with me. My(38F) father died recently and I am still in shock what happend during this time. But let me give you information about my fathers and my life before I explain the situation. And sorry for the wall of text but I have no one to talk about it.
My father(67m) and my mother were divorced since I was 7 years old. He had an affair with his now widow Mary(66F). They got married and during my teenagertime I lived with them because I was a Daddys Girl and I was often in fight with Mary because she always made clear that she didnt want me around. Her family and friends were always number one. My father didnt really intervene because he was financially dependent on her. For example she always went with the children of her friends on a shopping spree, watching movies and so on. And I was always left out. I really tried to suck it up but after a time living with them, I moved back to my mother and brother and had low contact, because she did everything that I cant see my father and he just took it.
As I got older perhaps I was about 28, I noticed that my fathers health condition was getting with every year worse, so I reconnect with them over the last 10 years. They bought a house together and lived their lives happily. During that time I also reconnected with Mary. I helped her taking care of the house and garden, went house sitting when they were on vacation, we cook together, I had many sleepovers there and for the first time I was so happy to have my father back in my life and get so well with Mary. This was like my second home.
Now what happend ? My father was dying and Mary just wrote a Message in the morning "Your father is dying please think of him" Unfortunately I didnt hear the notification and later I got a call from Marys best friend Susan(68F) she said "your father has now passed away, it was peacefully" I was shocked... I asked her "where is Mary ? why didnt she called me ? Susan just said that Mary cant talk right now - which I completely understand but why didnt she called me ? I couldnt be there for my fathers last moments. During this Mary didnt contacted me not a single time. So I talked to Susan and asked her if I could help ? Like doing the mails, helping in the house, and many other questions but everything was shut down by her. So I asked her just for curiostiy is there a last will ? And Susan went crazy. How dare that I asked that ? And that I am an inheritance sneaker ! I tried to calm her down that this is not my intention it was just a simple question and she went straight to Mary and told her how horrible I am and Mary believed her without doubt. I know this was kinda an inappropiate question but I just wanted to know it so that I can also try to help with correspondence, because Mary is very bad in making appointments and organizing.
Everything was now under Susans control. I had absolutely no right In the process of the funeral. I wasnt allowed to do a obituary, to book a cafe for after the funeral and I wasnt allowed to decide which urn my father will get and much more. On all decisions I was left out. I also wasnt allowed to contact Mary because Susan said everything is to hard for her. And Mary didnt reply to messages or calls. I cried every day and Mary and Susan didnt care. The whole funeral was a crapshow.. the eulogy for my father was so short and so little about him. All the talk was about Marys friends and family. How great they have helped her in the last few years. Guess who had a special part in the Eulogy ? Yep you guessed it ! Susan ! What a wonderful friend she is and was always there for my father and Mary. You wanna know if we children where mentioned ?Let me give you our part of it : "OPs Father left 2 Children behind. His daughter also lived with them for a while, Then the contact became less" Thats it. I was devastated... After the Funeral Mary walked to me and asked "what do you think ? The funeral was nice right ?" I just stared at her eyes mumbled something about "werent the 10 years I was there for you two nothing?" and leaved the place.
This whole situation with the funeral took a toll on me.. I almost cry every day but that was not the tip of the iceberg.. My father was a passionate Gamer and had a PC and guess who has it now ? You guessed it right again! Susan! I tried to talk with Mary to please give me the PC it has sentimental value for me, the PC is over 6 years old it is not Highend. I build the computer together with my father, I helped him all the time with it, I played with him online but she didnt care. I also tried to talk to Susan about it and she said right after I mentioned it "This is now MY PC your father gifted it to me 2 years ago you will not get it !" Again I was devastated and shocked. I now try to get a external harddrive out from it because this was mine so that I least have one memory. I also have to wait to get my compulsory share of inheritance. Mary didnt even contacted me once during the whole time. I am so sad and realize that maybe Mary still didnt liked me at all? And I dont wanna see both of them ever again.. And my attorney is involved. I feel just defeated and miss my father so much.
TLDR: My Stepmother who always had a problem with me gifted my deceased fathers pc to her best friend without talking to me first.

The phenomenon you're describing is related to a psychological concept known as desensitization. Desensitization refers to the diminished emotional responsiveness to a stimulus after repeated exposure to it. This process can affect how people perceive wealth, violence, and many other aspects of life. There are several factors and explanations behind this:

1. Habituation: When people are repeatedly exposed to a stimulus, they become accustomed to it, and it elicits less of a response over time. This is a basic form of learning where the brain learns to tune out non-threatening stimuli to focus on new and potentially more important information.
   
2. Normalization: Continuous exposure to certain behaviors or circumstances can make them seem normal, even if they are not. For instance, celebrities who are constantly surrounded by luxury might come to see it as a baseline standard rather than something extraordinary.
   
3. Psychological Adaptation: Humans have a tendency to adapt to new conditions and environments. This is known as the "hedonic treadmill," where people return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes. Wealthy individuals may experience initial pleasure from new luxury items, but over time, they adapt, and these items no longer bring the same level of satisfaction.
   
4. Emotional Numbing: Repeated exposure to distressing content, such as violent or graphic images, can lead to emotional numbing, where the individual feels less emotional distress over time. This can be a defense mechanism to cope with continuous exposure to such stimuli.
   
5. Social Comparison: People often evaluate their own lives by comparing themselves to others. For non-rich people, seeing luxury items can evoke awe or aspiration. For the wealthy, their reference group often includes even wealthier individuals, which can lead to a constant desire for more, diminishing the satisfaction from their current possessions.
   
6. Behavioral Conditioning: In the case of watching graphic content, some individuals might start as a challenge or curiosity but then become conditioned to the shock value, reducing their sensitivity. This can be dangerous as it may lead to seeking more extreme content to achieve the same level of arousal or interest.
   
7. Cognitive Dissonance: People might engage in behaviors that reduce the emotional impact of their experiences. For example, celebrities might use substances to cope with the pressure and expectations of their public life, leading to a cycle where they become desensitized to the detrimental effects of these substances.
   

Understanding these psychological processes helps explain why continuous exposure can lead to desensitization and altered perceptions of various stimuli, from luxury and wealth to violence and other intense experiences.