Words with s and es
It's hide and seek. But with words.
2013.06.06 00:22 Lonely_Toast It's hide and seek. But with words.
A place to find words hidden in pictures.
2008.01.25 07:32 šššššššššš
Chat about javascript and javascript related projects. Yes, typescript counts. Please keep self promotion to a minimum/reasonable level.
2009.11.23 07:29 ineededanewaccount r/LearnSpanish: Language community
The subreddit for anyone interested in Spanish. If you have something to share or a question about the Spanish language, post and we'll help the best we can! Remember to provide enough context, read the sidebawiki, and use the search function.
2024.05.20 00:03 throwra_09212022 Advice on how I've (29F) handled boyfriendās (29M) relationship with female best friend (30F) that makes me uncomfortable?
Hello reddit. I originally posted this to relationship_advice but it wouldn't let me crosspost.
Me (29F) and my boyfriend, Tom (29M) have been dating for almost 2 years. For context, we are currently long distance because of his job (he lives in LA, I live in Phoenix), but weāre closing the gap in June and he's moving back to PHX due to job opportunities.
Prior to him leaving, and throughout the year we were dating, we would get into fights about the relationship with his female best friend, Ashley (30F). And Iāll explain why:
When we started dating, he told me openly that he has a lot of female friends, and told me that he had a very close relationship with Ashley for about a year. I wasnāt bothered at first with his friendship with Ashley, and in fact, encouraged them to hang out. However, my attitude towards their dynamic changed drastically after spending time with them in group settings. I'll include specific examples below:
āWhen hanging out with them in group settings, Tom focused ALL his attention on Ashley and made little effort to include me in the group. I wouldāve been less upset if his attention flickered between friends but he solely focused on her, which caused me to feel uncomfortable after this happened several times. This happened numerous times before our relationship became distance, and I talked to him several times without an effective resolution.
āHeād share inside jokes with her and didnāt bother to share them with me at all while we were in a group.
āIn large party settings, especially with alcohol, his body language would be turned towards her alot. And on several occasions had excessive eye contact during interactions. Sometimes more with her than me. Which led me to feel like I was invisible and didnāt feel like he wanted to share the company of me and his friend equally. He would also sometimes talk over me so that he could talk to Ashley. And didn't apologize for that until I called him out
āThe most painful example is when I planned a surprise party for him before he moved to LA. He would talk to me during the party and would stop mid-sentence in order to gravitate towards Ashley alone before our conversation was done.
It didnāt help either that one of my friends warned me that āThe way he talks about Ashley is uncomfortable sometimes. Almost could be mistaken for her being HIS girlfriend.ā When asked about this, my boyfriend adamantly denies ever having a crush on Ashley, or having a previous sexual relationship with her, and that he ādidnāt realize I was doing this.ā
Because of all of those examples, and not feeling much better despite talking to him multiple times, I decided that I need to place a boundary to allow a sense of safety in the relationship. I asked him to (1) not sleep over at her place, or her at his (2) not hangout by themselves, but OK in group settings. I made it very clear that these boundaries are NOT permanent, and asked him for these things because what I need is to NOT feel uncomfortable with their dynamic while I'm there. Told him that once I donāt feel uncomfortable with them in a group while Iām around, I will consider removing the boundary.
He agreed to these terms before moving out of PHX. And from there our relationship grew and became stronger.
However, now that heās moving back to PHX, this topic has come up again. He told me that he feels hurt by the boundary of not hanging out alone (called it a rule) and expressed that this would be difficult to uphold. Keep in mind that he hasn't even moved yet, and he's already asking about this. I reiterated to him that these boundaries are NOT in place for other female friends because their dynamic doesnāt make me uneasy, and told him that the boundary for ASHLEY in particular needs to stay because of previous behavior that he exhibited.
I am feeling extremely hurt because he agreed to those boundaries before leaving, when the boundary was āeasier to keepā (his words) since he was in LA. But now that heās moving back to PHX, heās already indirectly asking to have it removed, without even trying first, for the sake of my safety in the relationship.
I told him that Iām trying to feel comfortable but need more āexposure therapyā in the form of seeing them interact in a group before I can remove the boundary of hanging out alone. Iām also hurt because I already feel a rift forming between us, and itās yet another scenario where I feel like his relationship with her is taking priority over ours. And this pattern of feeling secondary to her his is starting to become a big red flag that I canāt ignore.
It didn't help that a couple days ago, I was hanging out in a group setting with Ashley without Tom (we have alot of mutual friends) and she showed me a text between the two of them that broke a boundary (he joked about sleeping over on the dog bed that she has). I knew he was joking, but he blatantly joked about crossing boundary that we talked about (sleeping over at her place) which made me feel hurt/uncomfortable.
In short, I need to trust that his interactions with her wonāt be uncomfortable; and until I feel that sense of safety I need the boundary of ānot hanging out aloneā to stay in place.
Please let me know if Iām being unreasonable, and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: Boyfriendās dynamic with specific female friend (not all female friends) makes me extremely uncomfortable and asked before we started distance to not hang out with her by himself, which he agreed to. Now that heās moving back to where me/Ashley is, heās indirectly asking me to have boundary removed which is making me feel hurt.
submitted by throwra_09212022 to relationships [link] [comments]
Me (29F) and my boyfriend, Tom (29M) have been dating for almost 2 years. For context, we are currently long distance because of his job (he lives in LA, I live in Phoenix), but weāre closing the gap in June and he's moving back to PHX due to job opportunities.
Prior to him leaving, and throughout the year we were dating, we would get into fights about the relationship with his female best friend, Ashley (30F). And Iāll explain why:
When we started dating, he told me openly that he has a lot of female friends, and told me that he had a very close relationship with Ashley for about a year. I wasnāt bothered at first with his friendship with Ashley, and in fact, encouraged them to hang out. However, my attitude towards their dynamic changed drastically after spending time with them in group settings. I'll include specific examples below:
āWhen hanging out with them in group settings, Tom focused ALL his attention on Ashley and made little effort to include me in the group. I wouldāve been less upset if his attention flickered between friends but he solely focused on her, which caused me to feel uncomfortable after this happened several times. This happened numerous times before our relationship became distance, and I talked to him several times without an effective resolution.
āHeād share inside jokes with her and didnāt bother to share them with me at all while we were in a group.
āIn large party settings, especially with alcohol, his body language would be turned towards her alot. And on several occasions had excessive eye contact during interactions. Sometimes more with her than me. Which led me to feel like I was invisible and didnāt feel like he wanted to share the company of me and his friend equally. He would also sometimes talk over me so that he could talk to Ashley. And didn't apologize for that until I called him out
āThe most painful example is when I planned a surprise party for him before he moved to LA. He would talk to me during the party and would stop mid-sentence in order to gravitate towards Ashley alone before our conversation was done.
It didnāt help either that one of my friends warned me that āThe way he talks about Ashley is uncomfortable sometimes. Almost could be mistaken for her being HIS girlfriend.ā When asked about this, my boyfriend adamantly denies ever having a crush on Ashley, or having a previous sexual relationship with her, and that he ādidnāt realize I was doing this.ā
Because of all of those examples, and not feeling much better despite talking to him multiple times, I decided that I need to place a boundary to allow a sense of safety in the relationship. I asked him to (1) not sleep over at her place, or her at his (2) not hangout by themselves, but OK in group settings. I made it very clear that these boundaries are NOT permanent, and asked him for these things because what I need is to NOT feel uncomfortable with their dynamic while I'm there. Told him that once I donāt feel uncomfortable with them in a group while Iām around, I will consider removing the boundary.
He agreed to these terms before moving out of PHX. And from there our relationship grew and became stronger.
However, now that heās moving back to PHX, this topic has come up again. He told me that he feels hurt by the boundary of not hanging out alone (called it a rule) and expressed that this would be difficult to uphold. Keep in mind that he hasn't even moved yet, and he's already asking about this. I reiterated to him that these boundaries are NOT in place for other female friends because their dynamic doesnāt make me uneasy, and told him that the boundary for ASHLEY in particular needs to stay because of previous behavior that he exhibited.
I am feeling extremely hurt because he agreed to those boundaries before leaving, when the boundary was āeasier to keepā (his words) since he was in LA. But now that heās moving back to PHX, heās already indirectly asking to have it removed, without even trying first, for the sake of my safety in the relationship.
I told him that Iām trying to feel comfortable but need more āexposure therapyā in the form of seeing them interact in a group before I can remove the boundary of hanging out alone. Iām also hurt because I already feel a rift forming between us, and itās yet another scenario where I feel like his relationship with her is taking priority over ours. And this pattern of feeling secondary to her his is starting to become a big red flag that I canāt ignore.
It didn't help that a couple days ago, I was hanging out in a group setting with Ashley without Tom (we have alot of mutual friends) and she showed me a text between the two of them that broke a boundary (he joked about sleeping over on the dog bed that she has). I knew he was joking, but he blatantly joked about crossing boundary that we talked about (sleeping over at her place) which made me feel hurt/uncomfortable.
In short, I need to trust that his interactions with her wonāt be uncomfortable; and until I feel that sense of safety I need the boundary of ānot hanging out aloneā to stay in place.
Please let me know if Iām being unreasonable, and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: Boyfriendās dynamic with specific female friend (not all female friends) makes me extremely uncomfortable and asked before we started distance to not hang out with her by himself, which he agreed to. Now that heās moving back to where me/Ashley is, heās indirectly asking me to have boundary removed which is making me feel hurt.
2024.05.20 00:01 OkSwordfish5566 [A4A] They Say Two Heroes Are to Appear.. (A fantasy Minecraft- yup! - roleplay)
ā¦the scriptures were far and few betweenā some ragged, crisped at the edges from flames and torn by an unknown force of the past. But they had still been in tact enough for pieces of the past to be known. The past of the Overworld. A civilization; one mighty in size once inhabited the land that had become overtaken by the fierceness that was nature. Their structures stood tall, and buildings once reached the heights of the titans that had been spoken about in myths and legends. Their cities stretched far, seemingly never ending until they reached the corners of the very world itself- if there ever were any to begin with. But no matter how high the inhabitants of these cities sat upon the food chain- they were still mere people in the end. They were not gods, or any kind of omnipotent force with unparalleled power. But just as with plenty of other stories told by an elder by a fire, man has often mistaken himself for a god.
The remaining scriptures spoke of a deviceā one with power capable of bringing a doomsday unlike anything seen before over the skies of the Overworld. The device had an unexplainable connection to the unknown. It commanded the world it inhabitedā the dimensions, the surfaces and anything else. It commanded the world to do its bidding. Though, it did not appear to simply stop at the Overworld. Realms, untouched by man, had their elements brought to the land of the living. The scriptures showed the revelation of āSoul Sand.ā It was a material with no previous record existing on it. And once again, the scriptures emphasized its lack of similarities to anything else known. Truly, the device had commanded the unknown to become the known.
However, with such power at the fingertips of such a corruptible creature, the weight of wrath began to settle itself into the Overworld. A single pageā one tattered and shaped obscurely with darkened edgesā existed to speak of the matters of wrath. āThree skulls,ā it said. A charcoal black in color, combined with the whispering Soul Sand created what was the beginning of the end. The writing was rushed, and ink splotches made some words simply unreadable. But with any organic remnants of the civilization no more, the scriptures existed as the only clue as to what the cataclysm was. The final two words suggested to any readers of the scriptures the horrors that mankind had the power to createā the cataclysm itself simply being christened as āThe Wither.ā
And now, as you awake, unaware of where you had come from- or what your purpose may be, you will find yourself in a strange land. This land is filled with even stranger creaturesā some amicable, others hostile. It all boils down to the determination of you, and another, to find your way through this world- and the other worlds you may come acrossā to be the heroes the scriptures wished for those many moons ago.
((Hello! If you read through thatā first of all, thank you! _^ Second of all, you did read the title correctly- I am interested in a fantasy roleplay narrative for Minecraft. Why? Because why not! It has such cool creatures and I feel itās open to a lot of interpretation- so to hell with it! Of course, Iām looking to throw away the block aesthetic in favor of a āreal life-ishā appearance, like your typical fantasy art and whatnot. Something to noteā I am not looking to play a GM role, as I wish for both of us to be āplayers.ā We can get more into that with some one-on-one chattinā. If this has grabbed your interest at all, then letās get talking!))
submitted by OkSwordfish5566 to Roleplay [link] [comments]
The remaining scriptures spoke of a deviceā one with power capable of bringing a doomsday unlike anything seen before over the skies of the Overworld. The device had an unexplainable connection to the unknown. It commanded the world it inhabitedā the dimensions, the surfaces and anything else. It commanded the world to do its bidding. Though, it did not appear to simply stop at the Overworld. Realms, untouched by man, had their elements brought to the land of the living. The scriptures showed the revelation of āSoul Sand.ā It was a material with no previous record existing on it. And once again, the scriptures emphasized its lack of similarities to anything else known. Truly, the device had commanded the unknown to become the known.
However, with such power at the fingertips of such a corruptible creature, the weight of wrath began to settle itself into the Overworld. A single pageā one tattered and shaped obscurely with darkened edgesā existed to speak of the matters of wrath. āThree skulls,ā it said. A charcoal black in color, combined with the whispering Soul Sand created what was the beginning of the end. The writing was rushed, and ink splotches made some words simply unreadable. But with any organic remnants of the civilization no more, the scriptures existed as the only clue as to what the cataclysm was. The final two words suggested to any readers of the scriptures the horrors that mankind had the power to createā the cataclysm itself simply being christened as āThe Wither.ā
And now, as you awake, unaware of where you had come from- or what your purpose may be, you will find yourself in a strange land. This land is filled with even stranger creaturesā some amicable, others hostile. It all boils down to the determination of you, and another, to find your way through this world- and the other worlds you may come acrossā to be the heroes the scriptures wished for those many moons ago.
((Hello! If you read through thatā first of all, thank you! _^ Second of all, you did read the title correctly- I am interested in a fantasy roleplay narrative for Minecraft. Why? Because why not! It has such cool creatures and I feel itās open to a lot of interpretation- so to hell with it! Of course, Iām looking to throw away the block aesthetic in favor of a āreal life-ishā appearance, like your typical fantasy art and whatnot. Something to noteā I am not looking to play a GM role, as I wish for both of us to be āplayers.ā We can get more into that with some one-on-one chattinā. If this has grabbed your interest at all, then letās get talking!))
2024.05.20 00:00 magical_slickback New to this.
cw: mention of shroom intake
hey, Iām not sure how to really explain what my situation is but I want to clarify I am not asking for a diagnosis! I am going to be talking to professionals about this. I just came here to vent/ rant.
so at some point, I started mourning that I wasnāt young anymore. then I did shrooms with my close friend, and it all was released.
I wasnāt me anymore, I was instead a younger version of me. we decided to look in the mirror, and she was sobbing and we were in the bathroom crying. that night, she became more relevant. that same night, since I was on shrooms, I started to become someone else for āfunā and I was like, āeh itās just a fun trip! Iām just having a good time!ā and next thing I know, me ādecidingā to be someone else had me dissociating for days and me acting different. In my head, I was like well itās shrooms. Shit happens.
Thatās until I started relaying on this part. That part literally also has different things about him than I do. I have always had a difficult time knowing who I am, what I like, etc. This could be BPD, or something else. I am not sure. I got really upset recently, and when I got home my little came out. Iām still present, but itās like Iām someone else. Yet, at school recently i dissociated hard and someone had control. We hadnāt been to math in a while but she + me were having a hard time with the word problems even though im sure i know how to do it.
not just that, my professors were worried about me. I donāt know what, but i dissociated and i was quiet and my mentor was checking in on me. I said, āweāre okay. but I donāt really talk.ā WHAT?! I TALK ALL THE TIME!!
Iāve spoke to my brother who has been diagnosed with DID and heās been extremely supportive. Iām extremely nervous and donāt like talking about these guys to anyone since Iām new to this. Itās been a bit mor worrying since it sometimes affects my school life. my brother is very loving to my new parts, and has been there for them. so far thatās been good. Itās just weird, since I have a ācheckā thing and thatās by looking in the mirror. Thatās how I know if someone else is out, due to them not really always looking what the body looks like.
Especially since a new part came out. I could barely remember anything about my life and I kept trying to and I remembered only a few things. I was also acting different.
I donāt know. I just needed to talk about it. Thank you to anyone who read this.
submitted by magical_slickback to DID [link] [comments]
hey, Iām not sure how to really explain what my situation is but I want to clarify I am not asking for a diagnosis! I am going to be talking to professionals about this. I just came here to vent/ rant.
so at some point, I started mourning that I wasnāt young anymore. then I did shrooms with my close friend, and it all was released.
I wasnāt me anymore, I was instead a younger version of me. we decided to look in the mirror, and she was sobbing and we were in the bathroom crying. that night, she became more relevant. that same night, since I was on shrooms, I started to become someone else for āfunā and I was like, āeh itās just a fun trip! Iām just having a good time!ā and next thing I know, me ādecidingā to be someone else had me dissociating for days and me acting different. In my head, I was like well itās shrooms. Shit happens.
Thatās until I started relaying on this part. That part literally also has different things about him than I do. I have always had a difficult time knowing who I am, what I like, etc. This could be BPD, or something else. I am not sure. I got really upset recently, and when I got home my little came out. Iām still present, but itās like Iām someone else. Yet, at school recently i dissociated hard and someone had control. We hadnāt been to math in a while but she + me were having a hard time with the word problems even though im sure i know how to do it.
not just that, my professors were worried about me. I donāt know what, but i dissociated and i was quiet and my mentor was checking in on me. I said, āweāre okay. but I donāt really talk.ā WHAT?! I TALK ALL THE TIME!!
Iāve spoke to my brother who has been diagnosed with DID and heās been extremely supportive. Iām extremely nervous and donāt like talking about these guys to anyone since Iām new to this. Itās been a bit mor worrying since it sometimes affects my school life. my brother is very loving to my new parts, and has been there for them. so far thatās been good. Itās just weird, since I have a ācheckā thing and thatās by looking in the mirror. Thatās how I know if someone else is out, due to them not really always looking what the body looks like.
Especially since a new part came out. I could barely remember anything about my life and I kept trying to and I remembered only a few things. I was also acting different.
I donāt know. I just needed to talk about it. Thank you to anyone who read this.
2024.05.20 00:00 Hopeful_Ordinary5321 36 F4M, Muslim looking for long term relationship
Hey, Iām Merry. Muslim woman who has moved lately from Palestine āGazaā to Egypt. Iām looking to meet a man who is also interested in mono relationship. Giving his time and effort to know each other as I will be giving him my attention and my loyalty. I understand that sometimes people can talk with different girls or guys to choose from, but I hope at some point we can agree that we are closed and officially together. The only reason is to not waste time and to give ourselves the right quality time to understand and study each other.
As in the post it says Iām Muslim, so Iām looking for muslim guy at the same age, less or a bit more. Iām well educated, I have grown up learning a lot about both life and principles so I have strong beliefs in them, I appreciate discipline and respect as they are really important in any type of relationship not only between couples.
I work from home, I love kids but Iām not planning to get too many kids, Iām good looking woman, I go to gym, eat healthy, I enjoy quiet times and I donāt get bored easily from being alone, my motives to get into relationship is because I really think I can be a good healthy partner. I would also enjoy someone company and the idea of growing together ā not only age ā but as people, as humans, as brains and as open to learn from life and give to it.
I have been in long healing process that I think it helped with building who Iām. Iām just looking for a simple mature man who enjoys my company, good looking, calm, enjoy family time and loves me for who Iām. I would appreciate if he is passed the immature phase, not in his middle age crisis, someone who is looking for same principles love, respect, honesty, loyalty. If you think you canāt provide those at any time in the future or based on your past please donāt waste our time. Iām also working on getting my master scholarship in the meantime.
If it helps, Iām interested in Arts, Science, psychology ā alot ā, I like to read astrology but itās not necessarily to believe in them, I love to do handmade things for any kind of occasion, I enjoy long walks, beach talk, I appreciate alone time and I understand a lot about men from my readings so it can be both blessing and curse.
If you ever cared about love languages mine is word of affirmation and physical, Iām INFP, 9w1 personality type, so I appreciate people who are interested in learning about those things to get into healthy relationship that is promising into something long term and deep meaningful.
I donāt mind which country you are from , or if this lead to any ldr. all appreciated if we matched on the scale of principles, look, emotions and goals. I donāt mind sharing photos but not in the beginning. Iām open to answer questions and get into long deep meaningful conversations without crossing the lines of being respectful and classy.
submitted by Hopeful_Ordinary5321 to ForeverAloneDating [link] [comments]
As in the post it says Iām Muslim, so Iām looking for muslim guy at the same age, less or a bit more. Iām well educated, I have grown up learning a lot about both life and principles so I have strong beliefs in them, I appreciate discipline and respect as they are really important in any type of relationship not only between couples.
I work from home, I love kids but Iām not planning to get too many kids, Iām good looking woman, I go to gym, eat healthy, I enjoy quiet times and I donāt get bored easily from being alone, my motives to get into relationship is because I really think I can be a good healthy partner. I would also enjoy someone company and the idea of growing together ā not only age ā but as people, as humans, as brains and as open to learn from life and give to it.
I have been in long healing process that I think it helped with building who Iām. Iām just looking for a simple mature man who enjoys my company, good looking, calm, enjoy family time and loves me for who Iām. I would appreciate if he is passed the immature phase, not in his middle age crisis, someone who is looking for same principles love, respect, honesty, loyalty. If you think you canāt provide those at any time in the future or based on your past please donāt waste our time. Iām also working on getting my master scholarship in the meantime.
If it helps, Iām interested in Arts, Science, psychology ā alot ā, I like to read astrology but itās not necessarily to believe in them, I love to do handmade things for any kind of occasion, I enjoy long walks, beach talk, I appreciate alone time and I understand a lot about men from my readings so it can be both blessing and curse.
If you ever cared about love languages mine is word of affirmation and physical, Iām INFP, 9w1 personality type, so I appreciate people who are interested in learning about those things to get into healthy relationship that is promising into something long term and deep meaningful.
I donāt mind which country you are from , or if this lead to any ldr. all appreciated if we matched on the scale of principles, look, emotions and goals. I donāt mind sharing photos but not in the beginning. Iām open to answer questions and get into long deep meaningful conversations without crossing the lines of being respectful and classy.
2024.05.19 23:59 GeraltofRivia8500 A month and a half to goā¦
50 days till I can finally feel her touch, the whisper of her breath in my ears, the softness of her voice wavering through the air, run my fingers though her cascading mousy brown locks, behold her gemlike eyes and her smile, soft like summer rain. This woman is everything that I couldāve asked for and so much more and I truly couldnāt be happier, sheās brought so much joy, happiness, positivity and love into my life. I canāt wait to see you my love, my pretty Parrot, my promise parrot, my parrot wife (soon to be fiancĆ©). I adore and worship you in my heart, thoughts, words and prayers my dear, and I cannot wait to finally meet you, and start our lifetime journey together. With all the love my heart can ever possess and so much more, I am yours forever and always my love šŖæšš¦ššā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
submitted by GeraltofRivia8500 to LongDistance [link] [comments]
2024.05.19 23:59 wellthisisnouse23 I donāt like my family
This is somewhat of a rant (I already know I deserve to be called an asshole if Iām being honest). Iām a 24 year old guy studying in university right now and live away from home. My family includes my parents, an older brother and a younger sister. In the last year specifically, Iāve begun to feel stifled every time I visit home for the holidays. Thereās many elements to this which span years, but I have only begun to get affected by this fairly recently as before that I adored my family. It also has to do with the fact that at university I am surrounded by friends who always talk about their families and I see how good their family dynamics sound, and of course comparison is the thief of joy.
Lets begin with my father, he is a good hearted man and altruistic to a point where he will ignore all his family matters and give his absolute best to the littlest of any problem his friends might have. He is an immigrant and without any further education beyond highschool. I understand the sacrifices he has made for us to be here and I am forever grateful, and thatās a huge part of my guilt for what I am about to say next. Not being able to access education due to his familyās financial conditions at the time I understand and can respect. However you would imagine that when someone is pushing their 60ās there would be an element of wisdom that you get through just having lived your life. I am not expecting my father to be a philosopher, I am just expecting him to be a normal person who can hold a conversation with someone and not immediately embarrass anyone with him due to the way that he talks, with absolutely 0 regards to his surroundings. If he has to talk to anyone even slightly above our social circle in terms of the socioeconomic status he will immediately start choking on his words and get a coughing fit. These are just social situations, in terms of our home life he has absolutely 0 skills in anything related to maintenance. Iām not home most of the time and if anything as little as a light bulb stops working, it will take months to fix that as he does not know how and he does not āknow anyone who can come and do itā. He needs the handyman to be from our country and he needs that person to do the work for absolutely 0 amount of money. If that isnāt possible, then nothing in our house gets fixed (and it never does). My parents grew up in a patriarchal society, so my mother sadly does not have many skills and that is how it still is. She can do nothing but complain about the issues to my dad, and he can do nothing but say he canāt do anything about it.
My mother carries deep rooted childhood trauma related to her parents which has made her emotionally unavailable at most of the times. I think out of the family she still is the person I love the most. However, she does not know how to carry herself in this world at all. She has 0 social skills, she has not been able to learn English even though weāve been living here in the US for 15 years (yes, I have tried to help but she gets mad). She has absolutely no confidence in herself, she is the most pessimistic person I know, and everytime we talk on the phone sheāll more or less start the conversation with āyeah just rotting away like I always doā. She has no friends and if we dare have any guests at our house, which is rare in of itself due to our non existent social circle, sheāll be losing her mind prepping for the day.
On to my brother, he married a girl and got a house in the same hometown as my parents. He has an extremely rocky relationship with her and they have fights almost daily. He and his wife refuse to do anything productive about it and what ends up happening is that my brother will always involve our parents into the fight who can do nothing but watch and worry about it. But if they even suggest anything as much a separation due to the chaotic nature of their relationship, he gets extremely angry.
My younger sister is simply there throughout all this and despite my insistence that they keep her out of all this she ends up just sitting through these fights. I donāt even know how this is gonna affect her future.
I am the last person obviously, and I struggle to confront my brother over how much torture he puts our parents through. I struggle to listen to my mother rant about my father being incompetent because I donāt know how much more respect I have left to lose for him. I am trying to encourage her to have more goals in life however, and she is trying her best.
Obviously thereās many other factors to this, such as financial stresses weāve had to go through as a family in the last few years and it has definitely put a strain on everyone, including myself.
submitted by wellthisisnouse23 to offmychest [link] [comments]
Lets begin with my father, he is a good hearted man and altruistic to a point where he will ignore all his family matters and give his absolute best to the littlest of any problem his friends might have. He is an immigrant and without any further education beyond highschool. I understand the sacrifices he has made for us to be here and I am forever grateful, and thatās a huge part of my guilt for what I am about to say next. Not being able to access education due to his familyās financial conditions at the time I understand and can respect. However you would imagine that when someone is pushing their 60ās there would be an element of wisdom that you get through just having lived your life. I am not expecting my father to be a philosopher, I am just expecting him to be a normal person who can hold a conversation with someone and not immediately embarrass anyone with him due to the way that he talks, with absolutely 0 regards to his surroundings. If he has to talk to anyone even slightly above our social circle in terms of the socioeconomic status he will immediately start choking on his words and get a coughing fit. These are just social situations, in terms of our home life he has absolutely 0 skills in anything related to maintenance. Iām not home most of the time and if anything as little as a light bulb stops working, it will take months to fix that as he does not know how and he does not āknow anyone who can come and do itā. He needs the handyman to be from our country and he needs that person to do the work for absolutely 0 amount of money. If that isnāt possible, then nothing in our house gets fixed (and it never does). My parents grew up in a patriarchal society, so my mother sadly does not have many skills and that is how it still is. She can do nothing but complain about the issues to my dad, and he can do nothing but say he canāt do anything about it.
My mother carries deep rooted childhood trauma related to her parents which has made her emotionally unavailable at most of the times. I think out of the family she still is the person I love the most. However, she does not know how to carry herself in this world at all. She has 0 social skills, she has not been able to learn English even though weāve been living here in the US for 15 years (yes, I have tried to help but she gets mad). She has absolutely no confidence in herself, she is the most pessimistic person I know, and everytime we talk on the phone sheāll more or less start the conversation with āyeah just rotting away like I always doā. She has no friends and if we dare have any guests at our house, which is rare in of itself due to our non existent social circle, sheāll be losing her mind prepping for the day.
On to my brother, he married a girl and got a house in the same hometown as my parents. He has an extremely rocky relationship with her and they have fights almost daily. He and his wife refuse to do anything productive about it and what ends up happening is that my brother will always involve our parents into the fight who can do nothing but watch and worry about it. But if they even suggest anything as much a separation due to the chaotic nature of their relationship, he gets extremely angry.
My younger sister is simply there throughout all this and despite my insistence that they keep her out of all this she ends up just sitting through these fights. I donāt even know how this is gonna affect her future.
I am the last person obviously, and I struggle to confront my brother over how much torture he puts our parents through. I struggle to listen to my mother rant about my father being incompetent because I donāt know how much more respect I have left to lose for him. I am trying to encourage her to have more goals in life however, and she is trying her best.
Obviously thereās many other factors to this, such as financial stresses weāve had to go through as a family in the last few years and it has definitely put a strain on everyone, including myself.
2024.05.19 23:59 BirchHiker āClashingā with Food Service Director
Has anyone had any issues with clashing with the food service director? Need to vent. Iām at a small 82 bed LTC/Rehab facility and we have both full time in house FSD and dietitian - me. We also both have the same amount of long term care AND healthcare WORK experience. Minus of course the FSDās culinary degree and my clinical dietitian degree plus internship. FSDās background is chef for several years plus catering events. FSD and I are the same gender, and FSD is 10 years older than I am - both considered department heads. Keep in mind upon first formally meeting the FSD, FSD said, āNot to put down the years of degree you have, but itās all pretty much common senseā. My goal is to do my job, do what is best for the patients/reasidents, and try to have at MINIMUM cordial relationships with coworkers. FSD yelled at me three times at the beginning of this week (the day before leaving for vacation for a week) about me needing to be in the kitchen more, that Iām part of the kitchen, that Iām not a nurse, and all I do is go into the kitchen to ānitpickā - audits are what FSD is referring to. FSD also wonāt even give me codes to the kitchen or their office - which has the dry food storage. Almost constantly expressing they are stressed about not having enough help to everyone, people including myself offer general or specific help to FSD which is declined. Employer switched to in house kitchen in October after having been a contract company for years. Survey came in one week later - both FSD and I out the whole week for health issues - so no experiencing survey or even a bad survey (facility got deficiency free). Not sure if FSD doesnāt realize what I do do on a daily basis, I also donāt get a lot of communication from them. This week I have of course been doing most of their job in addition to my own with some help from a great cook in the kitchen. This same cook wants to quit d/t saying FSD is not doing their whole job, and kitchen alone also has a higher rate of turnover than the whole facility. Coworkers/(A)DON/admin see what is occurring, keep saying FSD and I have to āfix thisā not sure what I am able to do different. I am just trying to do my job and am again wanting at minimum cordial relationships with coworkers. Is that too much to ask? Regional dietitian says I should report it all with FSD to HR - also concerned about retaliation even though I know I shouldnāt, purely because FSD would know of course that it was me. Hope that makes sense and wasnāt too much word vomit - Iām just not looking forward to FSD returning this week especially after having such a smooth, and also more enjoyable week this week while FSD on vacation
submitted by BirchHiker to dietetics [link] [comments]
2024.05.19 23:57 steelfrdge44 AIO my SOs messiness continues to bother me (long)
In the beginning of us being together this wasnāt the case. When I would come over she would usually have a clean room and even if it was even a little bit messy she would apologize and/or not let me in until it was clean. Over time her cleanliness seems to erode (I guess) over time, especially after moving into her own place with her sister (who isnāt much better). Itās even started to feel like her being clean and tidy in the beginning was a mask and Iām seeing the real her now
Examples:
I remember one time her phone fell under the seat so I helped her reach it. I saw so much trash and food and filters and weed crumbs under her seats.
Ive expressed about this before and she changed temporarily. Eventually I gave up on it because itās her car and Iām never in it for long (I donāt have my own car). Plus if it really bothers I just donāt have to be in it
Iām no neat freak but I was raised to be a good host but it seems she wasnāt(?) One time after we had sex I accidentally left a used condom laying around (nothing inside, just used). The next day she had a friend over unexpectedly. No biggie, she hung out her in her room for a bit while I watched tv in the living room. She told me after that her friend left and she saw it and pointed out the condom. I sincerely apologized to my girlfriend for it as I know it would be seen as gross and embarrassing. My girlfriend didnāt care, saying āthis is my houseā.
A few days ago (letās say Wednesday) she told me she accidentally spilled her ashtray on the floor. Weekend comes and that spill is still on the floor. I laughed about it initially, thinking she would get to it. She never did, despite us eating and watching tv in the living room all night and it being as simple as sweeping it up. I even accidentally stepped on the pile of ash, filters, and sticks and expressed it made me upset. Still nothing done about it, instead just walks around it every time
what am I doing about it?
You may be saying to yourself, āwhy not help out sometimes?ā Well one, itās her house so itās not my responsibility. And two, I actually have. Iām someone who was raised to be a good houseguest as well. When Iām over her place I clean. Not only do I genuinely want to help sometimes but I try to take care of any mess I contribute to. Iāll wash dishes, take out trash from our food delivery bags, etc
You may also be asking, āwell have you communicated this to her?ā One, I feel this isnāt something a partner should have to bring up as it is her personal and basic well-being. I feel itās weird to have to tell my partner about the importance of keeping her home/room clean. Plus if this basic thing is changed just for the sake of the relationship or because a partner brings it up, similar to her car, would be it be real change? Two, tactfully I mention it all the time: āthe trash is getting full, you guys should do the dishes more often I donāt want yāall to get pests, I think you should throw out the food in that Tupperware in fridge being itās been in there for a few months, etc
some understanding
She works too jobs, one at a daycare and another as an aba therapist. She was heavily abused as a child and endures emotional and financial abuse from her sister often. In my opinion, she has every reason to be burnt out and not have the energy to do even basic things sometimes. She does try to be better. Though she has back problems that deter her from being able to do the dishes in one go she has done it here and there. She has cleaned the bathroom, washed her clothes, and keeps bed bed clean. It sounds like Iām scraping the bottom of the barrel here, I know, but Iām saying these things to say āI donāt think sheās lazy. I think sheās dealing with more than she can handle externally and internally and itās affecting how she lives. I see her efforts and I donāt want it to come across as me condescendingā. (Therapy would be helpful imo but she lacks the time and desire, her words).
submitted by steelfrdge44 to AmIOverreacting [link] [comments]
Examples:
- Her car
I remember one time her phone fell under the seat so I helped her reach it. I saw so much trash and food and filters and weed crumbs under her seats.
Ive expressed about this before and she changed temporarily. Eventually I gave up on it because itās her car and Iām never in it for long (I donāt have my own car). Plus if it really bothers I just donāt have to be in it
- her room
Iām no neat freak but I was raised to be a good host but it seems she wasnāt(?) One time after we had sex I accidentally left a used condom laying around (nothing inside, just used). The next day she had a friend over unexpectedly. No biggie, she hung out her in her room for a bit while I watched tv in the living room. She told me after that her friend left and she saw it and pointed out the condom. I sincerely apologized to my girlfriend for it as I know it would be seen as gross and embarrassing. My girlfriend didnāt care, saying āthis is my houseā.
A few days ago (letās say Wednesday) she told me she accidentally spilled her ashtray on the floor. Weekend comes and that spill is still on the floor. I laughed about it initially, thinking she would get to it. She never did, despite us eating and watching tv in the living room all night and it being as simple as sweeping it up. I even accidentally stepped on the pile of ash, filters, and sticks and expressed it made me upset. Still nothing done about it, instead just walks around it every time
what am I doing about it?
You may be saying to yourself, āwhy not help out sometimes?ā Well one, itās her house so itās not my responsibility. And two, I actually have. Iām someone who was raised to be a good houseguest as well. When Iām over her place I clean. Not only do I genuinely want to help sometimes but I try to take care of any mess I contribute to. Iāll wash dishes, take out trash from our food delivery bags, etc
You may also be asking, āwell have you communicated this to her?ā One, I feel this isnāt something a partner should have to bring up as it is her personal and basic well-being. I feel itās weird to have to tell my partner about the importance of keeping her home/room clean. Plus if this basic thing is changed just for the sake of the relationship or because a partner brings it up, similar to her car, would be it be real change? Two, tactfully I mention it all the time: āthe trash is getting full, you guys should do the dishes more often I donāt want yāall to get pests, I think you should throw out the food in that Tupperware in fridge being itās been in there for a few months, etc
some understanding
She works too jobs, one at a daycare and another as an aba therapist. She was heavily abused as a child and endures emotional and financial abuse from her sister often. In my opinion, she has every reason to be burnt out and not have the energy to do even basic things sometimes. She does try to be better. Though she has back problems that deter her from being able to do the dishes in one go she has done it here and there. She has cleaned the bathroom, washed her clothes, and keeps bed bed clean. It sounds like Iām scraping the bottom of the barrel here, I know, but Iām saying these things to say āI donāt think sheās lazy. I think sheās dealing with more than she can handle externally and internally and itās affecting how she lives. I see her efforts and I donāt want it to come across as me condescendingā. (Therapy would be helpful imo but she lacks the time and desire, her words).
2024.05.19 23:57 Cautious_Security_68 A mix of mine and my late sisters visions circa 2010
mine my latest dream
sis/ rip
the rest under pages starting at the rambling poet most are my late sisters
submitted by Cautious_Security_68 to realspiritualawakenin [link] [comments]
I had a very vivid dream that I was in a partially wrecked building, weapons and gear were stored and we were suffering bombardment from small explosive rounds.that one was a trip.
I geared up with a rocket launcher and went to the front; from a distance I could see dark figures firing at us they seemed middle eastern but the appearance seemed just that, an appearance. Their energy connected to a central source and the feeling I got was they were connected to the elite .
I shot off a few rounds with the launcher and then started launching some kind of bladed projectile which I envisioned impaling several of the offenders; I was running out of ammo and reached for the small nuclear warheads at which point the enemy dispersed. They were too close to fire on for it to have spared our lives.
My vision then shifted to a battle of two skys
the upper sky which I felt was the creator or god was sending massive energy pulses to the lower sky, I observed from between them and after around ten bursts I was asked if it had removed the cold from the earth, I answered yes, it had.
sis/ rip
Another dire warning in dream statehttps://web.archive.org/web/20100823131345/http://theruthlesstruth.com/wordpress/
Last night as usual in my dream state I wandered into an area which was full of underlying religious context I was fighting the unseen dark influences and warding off demonic possession by repeating over and over the lords prayer, while surrounded by all the evils of the world, but very curiously I never got passed āthy will be done on earth as it is in heaven,ā until about the fifth time of chanting, for those of you who are unfamiliar with this prayer it is as follows.
Our father which art in heaven Hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil
For thine is the power and the glory forever and ever
Amen.
After then I awoke abruptly at āgive us this day our daily bread forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against usā
This to me meant that we are about to be forced into a time when this prophecy called the book of revelations is about to become a reality meaning Gods will is upon us, and God is at hand in the works of the people and in these the last days this prayer to me is all about humbly thanking God for every small blessing and asking for his help and guidance in every aspect of our lives great and small but keeping humble requests and having gratitude for anything more that he bestows on our lives and so this is the message I send out to you for now is the time of repentance.
BE WARNED, and be READY!
I may seem to you to be a bible thumping quack donāt say you were not forewarned in the end when you come face to face with your own judgments in the presence of your maker you have 2 and 1/2 years before you will see for yourself that sooner was most definitely better than later in this case all hell is about to break lose and later is just too late!
In that same dream I had a personal warning that a man and woman would enter my life asking for a personal favor and as I submitted to their request in the end I was betrayed and left in utter disarray in my life possibly facing legal hardship from them. //
Are we headed for drought and famine?
How many years has it been since we as a society believed the end was eminant? Since the great depression? since world war1, or worldwar2? and each time we are very pleasantly and ecstaticly relieved when the end is never in sight, and each time we feel foolish donāt we? What if all of that were to change, would we see it or know it? Maybe there is that one person who told us it was coming and we disregarded their words as the rantings of a mentally ill person You never truly know it is over until you are facing the ugliness of those final moments but we can all agree that we as a whole are working up to it each and every generation and we can feel our own mortality as we slip into unknown territory full of terrorism and nuclear bomb threaghts. What if the answer was as simple as finding our footing in the spiritual realm becoming more harmonious with the earth and with human beings around us in other words what if their were a guarantee that if we prayed or at least became spiritually aware we would be saved? would we do this very simple task, would others around us follow our lead? What if I told you all it takes to save the town youāre in is 20 people who were connected in mind and soul to the what society calls THE GODHEAD? I had a dream a few nights ago where I stood in a foreign country I felt it was europe and many different people were around with accents that to me seemed as though they were from multiple tongues and nations and they were mulling around and drinking and living just everyday lives full of materialism and wickedness in other words what has become the norm all around the world and in the midst of them I was trying to tell them of an impending event that was about to happen that they needed to prepare for. But to no avail I was completely ignored by all still I kept trying telling them there was going to be a great drought and a food shortage that would effect the whole world and would move from country to country like a great domino effect but it seemed as though even upon hearing numerous lives would be lost they continued in their faithful disobedience over and over I repeated myself and it seemed to me they were in great disbelief that this was at all possible and in the end of the dream I finally said God has told me to tell you their will be a great drought and famine and that if you do not want your countries to fall into starvation you should prepare for it then I awoke. When I woke up I was in shock for God was never in my dream, and not once have I spoken with him personally and yet still it felt as though I had the authority to say these exact words that they were ordained directly from God! A few days later I had yet another dream I was in a place after the bombs settled and saw the oceans and seas the land had radiation through out and the water was greatly poisoned by this radiation and the sharks and fish were changing over a period of time I saw multiple generations of grotesquely mutated life and was in great fear then I saw multiple babies being created in a scientific way in order to carry on the human lineage and a very dark in nature group moving to seek out and destroy these babies that were close to reaching full gestation, I had the distinct feeling we humans were becoming less and less able to procreate in the conventienal way. And lastnight I dreamt I was traveling accrossed the sea, in specific the medateranian sea having a very beautiful feeling great things were going to happen when I came accrossed a small family that seemed very important for some reason, they lived in a very small area in simple surroundings and their was a birthday taking place it was the 5th or 6th birthday of a boy I felt I needed to attend the birthday of, and they were happy to see me allowing my prescence with open arms, but when I wanted to bring others they werenāt very accomodating feeling towards the Idea when I awoke I felt as though that young boy was very important somehow to a significant event that will take place futuristically. At first I wasnāt sure the significance of the information I am about to disclose but I decided that it just may be pertinent, I was definately in an area that boating seemed a pass time and my brain hit on Ionian sea and the young boy was in a sea cavern with smoke coming from his ears as his parents did also, it was an area where Manta Rays were most prevalent, along with a moderate amount of dolphins near by very few deadly sharks in comparrison to the other aquatic life and an occassional whale perhaps this boy is not an actual boy but a smaller volcano alongside two larger ones, whic is why I saw smoke coming from the ears meaning it was about to come to an eruptive head, in which the boys age was five maybe perhaps pin pointing the time it is to going to erupt. There are alot of different meanings we can take from this dream. //
Do we really think we are safe?
What happens if America is right in the fact that President Obama is the fated Anti-Christ? What then? Is there anything we can truly do about it? At best this proves the struggle between good and evil does exists and there is a God, a messiah, and A Lucifer (devil), or Satan however you were raised to call him. Ok now imagine we can stop him from his achieving full power, just pretend somehow we could, or that we do and off sounds the trumpet? Christians save the day yeehaa yippy kiyay Do we think for an instant oh the struggle is over whew, we can finally breathe easy, boy that was close, Iām so glad we passed the test, ding dong the witch is dead! Or do we wait for the next Anti-Christ, and the next, and the next, how many times can we thwart his full power inevitably he will rise in the end no matter how hard we fight to keep him away right? So why not let him come and turn over in the end the rule of the earth to the second coming of our messiah, the lord of lords, and king of kings Are we that afraid of facing God Almighty? Understandably we are all afraid we are not in the book of life,for only the sainted, and virginal, and truly Godly are written in the book of life those, who are hand picked from the start by God himself to exist the last days before the second coming, only the handicapped, truly compassionate right? Well guess how many of us that describes, not me and if you are able to read and understand this not you probably, oh just because there are priests and bishops and preachers and popes in the world most likely non of them qualify, and our Jewish population Iām pretty certain absolutely none of them are in the book of life! After all the Jews needlessly slaughtered the saints and their own King to boot if anything the Jews should rue the day they ever meet wit their maker! Mayhap itās better to allow this time to pass and hope that gods mercy be upon us or even do one better change our greedy, hateful, unforgiving ways, pray constantly for direction and guidance, repent, and seek counsel in the holy ghost, and give whole heartedly our penance to the lord our lamb, to present a case on our behalf to the almighty heavenly father this is the only way we can be of light heart, and easy mind and maybe find worthiness in Gods eyes, then let the Antichrist come as we Christians ban together to survive in the latter days in other words prepare for the worst and hope for the best. If God finds us worthy worst case scenario we are killed right away or perhaps we are not bothered at all because we have repented, remember that to repent is to ask forgiveness with a broken heart, and humble nature never to do what we are repenting of again! This may sound hard and maybe we are all waiting for definitive proof of Gods existence before we do this but seriously it will be too late the tribulation for you will be too great and you most likely need to take the side that gives you instantaneous relief from your misery.
We know who will rise victoriously why not allow it? And in the end all of the secrets and deceptions that were created will be revealed and all of our own perversions of the true church will be done away with I say let it come about, Let the saints finally taste revenge for all that man has spoiled, perverted, and destroyed, and let god fill his cup with the grapes of wrath. //
Governmental knockdown?
This last dream Iām very uncertain if it was tied into anything or not but warned of a big fight between two male entities that one of which was very large in stature and appeared to me like the archangel Michael who I felt was my fiercest and personal protector he seemed very close spiritually to me Iām not sure why but the warring was going on with a very dark and much smaller male figure and completely evil it was very disturbing as I saw a great blow to the head taken by Michael but only after he delivered one to his foe which was not very damaging, and Michael who was standing in front of me in position and mind to protect me, fell to the ground but I waited around to see whether he raised again and I remember thinking it was impossible for him to be dead so I stayed and kept waiting for his rising thinking it would be any second then I awoke was it real if so what does it mean? Is it a possibility God will allow Satan and his dominion such power over even his own archangels to be defeated for a short time and leave his children completely at the mercy of the devil? In the dream I remember feeling vulnerable to the will of the dark force before me but also strangely feeling as though I wasnāt going to be gone after as I stayed vigilant in my loyalty to my protector bidding his rising fervently and in complete disbelief that he was dead.
Upon further reflection of this dream I came to the possible conclusion that the male entities were symbolic of the government we could all depend on protecting us and the smaller figure was a darker change in our government infrastructure knocking down our protective defenses and leaving our government vulnerable to darker government influences which intended the country harm. And that if we stay loyal and vigil we can avoid the harmful effects and changes about to be a possible driving force in our country.
the rest under pages starting at the rambling poet most are my late sisters
2024.05.19 23:57 Ten0mi Why people are focusing on Drake ābeing closetedā
I saw someone on another thread saying ābeing gay is not a crime ā And I 100% agree .
PLEASE READ THROUGH BEFORE MAKING JUDGEMENTS OR ASSUMING I AM BEING HATEFUL. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY, BEING INTO TRANS WOMEN DOESNT MAKE YOU GAY. etc etc etc . All necessary disclaimers .
This was my response
The reason I think itās been a focus however , and Iām not defending it . Is because Kendrick was calling Drake out on things heās insecure about . Like āhow many black features til you finally feel that youāre black enoughā Drake has publicly spoken about how heās never felt black enough.
I think itās more of a focus on (if Drake is gay/bi) the perceived shame that DRAKE holds for it . Iām not saying being gay is in any way bad . I donāt want my words to be misconstrued .
The whole house of Ebony thing has . Seemingly had some hints to Drake being involved with Trans/Drag/Gay/LGBTQ+ .
7969 has come up recently ( and now is the time to put on tinfoil hats)
7969 Santa is a Drake song. 7969 is a club a trans sexworkedancer worked at , she was picked up by Eddie Murphy and he was pulled over. She had previous prostitution charges . He was ādriving her homeā.
Wiki: Shalimar Seiuli āMurphy hired Hollywood private eye Paul Barresi to help defuse the scandal, paying other trans women who had sold stories up to $15,000 per retraction. Seiuli claimed to have received threats since her encounter with Murphy, as she refused to change her story.ā
I think part of the reason people are focused on it is because they know Drake is hiding something. Obviously there is no proof, and if the man is closeted/gay/into trans women/ whatever his sexual orientation may be - he should ABSOLUTELY NOT BE SHAMED FOR THAT.
I personally believe that whatever happened with Drake that night may have involved a transgender / gay sex worker from the house of Ebony .
Which in itself isnāt a crime , but maybe what he did with hehim/them was
submitted by Ten0mi to DarkKenny [link] [comments]
PLEASE READ THROUGH BEFORE MAKING JUDGEMENTS OR ASSUMING I AM BEING HATEFUL. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY, BEING INTO TRANS WOMEN DOESNT MAKE YOU GAY. etc etc etc . All necessary disclaimers .
This was my response
The reason I think itās been a focus however , and Iām not defending it . Is because Kendrick was calling Drake out on things heās insecure about . Like āhow many black features til you finally feel that youāre black enoughā Drake has publicly spoken about how heās never felt black enough.
I think itās more of a focus on (if Drake is gay/bi) the perceived shame that DRAKE holds for it . Iām not saying being gay is in any way bad . I donāt want my words to be misconstrued .
The whole house of Ebony thing has . Seemingly had some hints to Drake being involved with Trans/Drag/Gay/LGBTQ+ .
7969 has come up recently ( and now is the time to put on tinfoil hats)
7969 Santa is a Drake song. 7969 is a club a trans sexworkedancer worked at , she was picked up by Eddie Murphy and he was pulled over. She had previous prostitution charges . He was ādriving her homeā.
Wiki: Shalimar Seiuli āMurphy hired Hollywood private eye Paul Barresi to help defuse the scandal, paying other trans women who had sold stories up to $15,000 per retraction. Seiuli claimed to have received threats since her encounter with Murphy, as she refused to change her story.ā
I think part of the reason people are focused on it is because they know Drake is hiding something. Obviously there is no proof, and if the man is closeted/gay/into trans women/ whatever his sexual orientation may be - he should ABSOLUTELY NOT BE SHAMED FOR THAT.
I personally believe that whatever happened with Drake that night may have involved a transgender / gay sex worker from the house of Ebony .
Which in itself isnāt a crime , but maybe what he did with hehim/them was
2024.05.19 23:56 Valhallas_Dragon Slayer Slayer Fruit
(based on Astaās Anti-Magic powers from Black Clover, inspired by Blackbeardās Devil Fruit-draining ability)
Abilities: the user gains a unique power called āNightmare Energyā, this energy allows the user to ādeactivateā other devil fruits by draining them of their energy turning any devil fruit wielder the user fights into a normal person (if only for a short time), the user can notably use this energy to conjure swords imbued with Nightmare Energy to fight their enemies with, the user can also move their swords around with telekinesis and use them like a hoverboard to fly through the air, the user can also fire sword beams made of Nightmare Energy and increase the size of their swords by imbuing them with extra Nightmare Energy (at the cost of draining their own stamina),
(the following swords will quickly drain the devil fruit powers of anyone who wields them, except for this fruitās user because they alone are immune to their swordsā DF-draining effects)
Devil Slayer (a Zweihander): the Devil Slayer is a big double-edged blunt sword, this sword cuts through devil fruit powered attacks and constructs with itās edge and can deflect DF-energy based attacks with itās flat side,
Devil Dweller (a Broadsword): the Devil Dweller is a blunt sword which not only cuts through DF-powered attacks/constructs, it can also absorb and copy other devil fruit abilities before releasing them for a one-use attack,
Devil Destroyer (a Konda sword): the Devil Destroyer is a blunt sword which possesses the unique ability to severe another devil fruitās cause from itās effect to completely nullify itās powers, (example: letās say a poison-DF user poisons your entire crew, the Devil Destroyer would then drain and absorb the devil fruit ability making as if it never happened in the first place, this can also reopen wounds healed with DF powers and even prevent reincarnation)
Devil Slasher (a Katana): the Devil Slasher cuts through and drains DF-powers upon contact, it also possesses the ability to only cut through what the user sees as a threat allowing them to cut through enemies while leaving allies unharmed,
Devil form: by holding a sword with both of their hands the user can channel Nightmare Energy though their body to make DF-based attacks less effective on them and physically transform the user into a winged devil-like form which increases their speed and temporarily gives them the ability to fly,
Awakening: (Paramecia Awakening; the user gains the ability imbue other objects or people with Nightmare Energy, anything from turning an entire battleship into a devil fruit user hunting weapon to turning your entire crew into DF-drainers, abeit people infused with Nightmare Energy canāt consume devil fruits otherwise theyāll die),
Weaknesses: (standard devil fruit weaknesses), temporary DF-weakness nullification (while the userās targets are drained they temporarily lose their weakness to seawater and can even swim again but they will regain their weakness over time), while the user can use Devil form to resist DF-attacks Haki attacks will still hit the user with full force,
submitted by Valhallas_Dragon to DevilFruitIdeas [link] [comments]
Abilities: the user gains a unique power called āNightmare Energyā, this energy allows the user to ādeactivateā other devil fruits by draining them of their energy turning any devil fruit wielder the user fights into a normal person (if only for a short time), the user can notably use this energy to conjure swords imbued with Nightmare Energy to fight their enemies with, the user can also move their swords around with telekinesis and use them like a hoverboard to fly through the air, the user can also fire sword beams made of Nightmare Energy and increase the size of their swords by imbuing them with extra Nightmare Energy (at the cost of draining their own stamina),
(the following swords will quickly drain the devil fruit powers of anyone who wields them, except for this fruitās user because they alone are immune to their swordsā DF-draining effects)
Devil Slayer (a Zweihander): the Devil Slayer is a big double-edged blunt sword, this sword cuts through devil fruit powered attacks and constructs with itās edge and can deflect DF-energy based attacks with itās flat side,
Devil Dweller (a Broadsword): the Devil Dweller is a blunt sword which not only cuts through DF-powered attacks/constructs, it can also absorb and copy other devil fruit abilities before releasing them for a one-use attack,
Devil Destroyer (a Konda sword): the Devil Destroyer is a blunt sword which possesses the unique ability to severe another devil fruitās cause from itās effect to completely nullify itās powers, (example: letās say a poison-DF user poisons your entire crew, the Devil Destroyer would then drain and absorb the devil fruit ability making as if it never happened in the first place, this can also reopen wounds healed with DF powers and even prevent reincarnation)
Devil Slasher (a Katana): the Devil Slasher cuts through and drains DF-powers upon contact, it also possesses the ability to only cut through what the user sees as a threat allowing them to cut through enemies while leaving allies unharmed,
Devil form: by holding a sword with both of their hands the user can channel Nightmare Energy though their body to make DF-based attacks less effective on them and physically transform the user into a winged devil-like form which increases their speed and temporarily gives them the ability to fly,
Awakening: (Paramecia Awakening; the user gains the ability imbue other objects or people with Nightmare Energy, anything from turning an entire battleship into a devil fruit user hunting weapon to turning your entire crew into DF-drainers, abeit people infused with Nightmare Energy canāt consume devil fruits otherwise theyāll die),
Weaknesses: (standard devil fruit weaknesses), temporary DF-weakness nullification (while the userās targets are drained they temporarily lose their weakness to seawater and can even swim again but they will regain their weakness over time), while the user can use Devil form to resist DF-attacks Haki attacks will still hit the user with full force,
2024.05.19 23:56 jubileevdebs CMV: calling Trumpās musical interlude at the NRA and/or his whimsical podium lean in Minnesota pieces of accumulating evidence of Trumpās cognitive unraveling undermines that claim and makes the people pushing and celebrating these articles lool absolutely awful.
The NRA āpauseā was clearly a staged (and cringe) part of his speech to play a sentimental dramatic sounding song so he could finish the rest of his stump speech on a theatrical note.
Referring to this and the little podium lean in Minnesota as these sort of āgotchaā moments showing his unfitness is beyond absurd.
Some people will say Trump acts like a wannabe dictator, and then he literally does an entry-level emotional manipulation tactic (rousing loud music during in a public speech) and they donāt even recognize it for what it is; worse they think heās losing ground by doing it.
Its making me imagine some bank robbers who are locked in a standoff with the police, give themselves high fives and say āha! Look theyāre retreatingā when the initial officers on the scene leave the front line to go to grab armor, flash grenades, and long guns from their trunks.
The idea that theres a sizeable contingent of people who donāt want this guy to be president that are getting encouragement from or think theyāre assembling ammo against this guyās mental capacity to be an executive based on these last two videos is so blinkered and naive. It literally dilutes whatever pool of evidence there is against Trump and makes pro-Biden folks look like pathetic schoolchildren (my Dad doesnt have obvious signs of cognitive decline, yOuRs DoEs!!!)
Please show me that this actually helps Biden, or that it makes the people pushing these stories look reliable, or that it is NOT lowest-common denominator mudslinging, or that its not pathetic and hypocritical, or that it actually undermines Trump with his base or undecides, or that these stories boost Bidenās prospect or make his campaign look good.
Change my view!!
Cmv bonus round! (Only if youve also addressed a major point above)
The idea that pro-Biden accounts are amplifying this feels like a Trump psyop. (Im speaking euphemistically). Or like when the Russians spoofed all those facebook groups before the 2016 election to make it seem like people were talking . It makes the real people sharing it look like morons and the ones excited about it look like moral hypocrites.
submitted by jubileevdebs to changemyview [link] [comments]
Referring to this and the little podium lean in Minnesota as these sort of āgotchaā moments showing his unfitness is beyond absurd.
Some people will say Trump acts like a wannabe dictator, and then he literally does an entry-level emotional manipulation tactic (rousing loud music during in a public speech) and they donāt even recognize it for what it is; worse they think heās losing ground by doing it.
Its making me imagine some bank robbers who are locked in a standoff with the police, give themselves high fives and say āha! Look theyāre retreatingā when the initial officers on the scene leave the front line to go to grab armor, flash grenades, and long guns from their trunks.
The idea that theres a sizeable contingent of people who donāt want this guy to be president that are getting encouragement from or think theyāre assembling ammo against this guyās mental capacity to be an executive based on these last two videos is so blinkered and naive. It literally dilutes whatever pool of evidence there is against Trump and makes pro-Biden folks look like pathetic schoolchildren (my Dad doesnt have obvious signs of cognitive decline, yOuRs DoEs!!!)
Please show me that this actually helps Biden, or that it makes the people pushing these stories look reliable, or that it is NOT lowest-common denominator mudslinging, or that its not pathetic and hypocritical, or that it actually undermines Trump with his base or undecides, or that these stories boost Bidenās prospect or make his campaign look good.
Change my view!!
Cmv bonus round! (Only if youve also addressed a major point above)
The idea that pro-Biden accounts are amplifying this feels like a Trump psyop. (Im speaking euphemistically). Or like when the Russians spoofed all those facebook groups before the 2016 election to make it seem like people were talking . It makes the real people sharing it look like morons and the ones excited about it look like moral hypocrites.
2024.05.19 23:56 Professional_Trip344 Yeās albums ranked - excluding collabs, jesus is king, and vultures.
Kanye āYeā West isāor wasāone of the most important artists of the 21st century. His creativity has no limits and he has proven himself successful in every creative endeavorāmainly, music and fashion. He has one of the best discographies in music history, and despite all of the worrisome public controversies and freak-outs, his legacy will probably never be forgotten.
submitted by Professional_Trip344 to Kanye [link] [comments]
- Late Registration 10/10 Such a perfect album. LR is his second release, where he worked with Jon Brion to bring together the hip-hop sound with symphonies and movie-score like instrumentals; sonically, way better and more impressive than College Dropout. The themes are personal and heartwarmingāHey Mama, Roses, Diamonds From Sierra Leoneāand every single song on here is worth a listen. Highlights: We Major, Drive Slow, Touch The Sky, Heard Emā Say, Late, Hey Mama, DFSL, & Roses.
- The College Dropout 9/10 His debut album made a great impression. Soulful, funny, and inspiring, TCD touches on various relatable themes: faith (Jesus Walks), hating your lame ass dead-end job (Spaceship), family love (Family Business), materialism (All Falls Down), and ambition (Through The Wire). The only downsides are the skits and some of the songs sounding dated. Highlights: Family Business, Last Call, All Falls Down, Spaceship, Slow Jamz, Two Words, Never Let Me Down, and Jesus Walks.
- My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy 9/10 Late Registration had elements of movie-scores in its songs, but MBDTF feels like an actual big-screen experience. The album is entertaining from start to finish, with its guest appearances, maximal production, and storyline (the āpriceā of fame and public embarrassment). A great apology album that will never stop being talked about; best first listen ever. I do agree with it being a little overrated; All of the Lights kinda sounds all over the place and the album isnāt as entertaining after Runaway - but Lost in the World is his best closer. Highlights: Dark Fantasy, Gorgeous, Power, Devil in a New Dress, So Appalled, LITW, Monster, and Runaway.
- Graduation 9/10 Most people think this album is overrated, and to be fair it sounds a bit dated. When I re-listen to it though, it still is uplifting and infectious; itās like that āperfect espresso shot in the morningā. The album contains some of the best music in his catalogue - and in the hip-hop genre in general. (Flashing Lights is a perfect song.) Highlights: Flashing Lights, Good Morning, Champion, I Wonder, Everything I Am, Canāt Tell Me Nothing, Big Brother, & Homecoming.
- The Life of Pablo 8.9/10 Everything about this projectāespecially the coverāis so Kanye. After his industrial-experimental-yeezus-phase (idk what to call it), Kanyeās music is more āmodernā and ātrap-basedā on this albumāhe utilizes production from Metro Boomin; for the most part, his rapping and lyrics arenāt taken that seriously. You can also tell that this is where Fashion started to take his attention. Regardless of all the flaws and awkward moments, it keeps your attention and weirds you outāJust like Ye does himself. And just like Ye, its a paradox: we opened with Ultralight Beam (a song that begins with prayers and ends with gospel singing) and went right into FSMH, pt.1 (the song with the bleached-asshole verse). Itās funny, introspective, annoying, childish, and impressive - just like him. Highlights: FSMH, pt.1, ULBM, Freestyle 4, Famous, NMPILA, Saint Pablo, 30 Hours, Waves, FML, I Love Kanye, & Saint Pablo.
- Yeezus 8.9/10 Around this time, breaking into the Fashion industry was a major challenge for Kanye, and naturally, he became more angry in his interviews. For the most part, Yeezus sounds like anger and frustrationāthe first seconds of On Sight alienates most non-Kanye fans. Thematically, Ye takes on a characterāYeezusāwho embodies his most negative traits: arrogance, insensitivity, and hostility. It shows up in some of the lyrics too (āeating Asain pussy..ā). After New Slaves, the album gets more tender-sounding and sadāyou have classics like Hold My Liquor, BOTL, and Guilt Trip. It reveals that this obnoxious Yeezus character has a sap backstory. By the end, we reach a resolution with Bound 2, the most accessible song on here (greatest music video ever). Just like 808s, it stands out from the rest of his discog, and is a bit annoying, but once you get it, you get it. Highlights: New Slaves, HML, Bound 2, BOTL, Black Skinhead, Guilt Trip, & Im In It.
- 808s & Heartbreak 8/10 Great. Great. Great. After a tumultuous period, Kanye, being the musical pioneer that he is, decided to ditch the hip-hop samples and beats, for 808s and auto-tuned singing, and it was polarizing to the hip-hop audience. I feel like heās more of a songwriter - in the traditional sense - on here. This album also has an amazing 6-track run (Say You Will ā> Paranoid; RoboCop aināt it). The instrumentals are melancholy, and this is the first time we see collaborations from Kid Cudiāwhose sound is definitely present on this album. Imp, Some of the songsāRoboCop, Bad News, & See You in My Nightmaresāsound soooooo 2008, they were a little hard to listen to. Yet, there is still is a reason why this album has the impact that it does; along with Cudi, it lead future rap artists to become more versatile with their discographiesālook at XXXTENTACION, JuiceWrld, & Lil Uzi Vert.
- Ye 8/10 Ye is his shortest output, and even compared to 808s, one of his most emotional as well. Besides All Mine, there isnāt much wrong with this album; it gets straight to the point. Some problems here though: You can tell this is when he started recorded his vocals on his iPhone, his mumble verses are more present, which gives an unfinished feeling to it. Besides that, its mainly filled with great, strong songs. Sonically, itās soulful, tender, and oddly peaceful. Theres a heavy sense of vulnerability, regret, and introspection. I think this album needs a lot more attention than it gets. Highlights: ITAKY, No Mistakes, Violent Crimes, Ghost Town (duhh), & Wouldnāt Leave.
- Donda 6/10 This would be a very-fitting last release (if done correctly): at the time he divorced from Kim Kardashian and became a billionaire in the same year, which naturally attracted more attention to his legacyāthis is when I started listening to his music. His life story is inspiring and releasing an album named after his late-Mother (Donda West) wouldāve been the perfect closing-album. Irecent memory, I canāt remember being more hyped about a music release. This rollout was legendaryāfrom the Reddit subs, to the instagram posts, to the listening parties. Perfect way to advertise an album. The result is messy, though. Sonically, this is like The Life of Pablo, pt. 2: constant ups-and-downs in quality, yet still delivering amazing songs. Theres also a lot of unneeded material on here tooā27 fucking tracks (32 if you include all the part 2ās)āand the mixing really sticks out like a sore-thumb and ruins the experience. Guest appearances were really show-stoppingāespecially Don Toliver and Kid Cudi on āMoonā. Itās also his most spiritual project (he edited out the curse words); we havenāt seen this much religious faith since The College Dropout imo. Beautiful, yet messy. Highlights: Moon, Praise God, Keep My Spirit Alive, Hurricane, Come to Life, 24, Off the Grid, Pure Souls, and God Breathed.
2024.05.19 23:56 Krane66 How can I (22M) deal with my ex (20F) being on my uni project?
So, before you answer, I need to give some specifics and background.
We were together for a year and half. We live 30 mins from each other, which is relatively close but enough distance that my home environment is a different place than hers, since she lives and studies in the city centre and I live in the outskirts but have to comute pretty much every day to the city centre for our university campus.
We both had met each otherās family, including more distanced relatives and had several future plans, such as summer vacations and even a new years trip.
Regarding uni, Iām on a different year but have several classes with her since I switched courses. While we were still together, we decided to be on several group projects together with two other mutual friends (she was already friends with both and I became friends with them by being āthe boyfriendā), also because the rest of the class for some reason doesnāt really embraces us and made us feel like outsiders, specifically me, since I didnāt share many classes with them.
So fast forward to the present, we have broken up, itās has been 3 weeks, so while itās very fresh and I still have my ups and downs, I feel time is starting to heal some wounds.
I feel mainly good when Iām distracted with friends and family, when working/studying or doing something I enjoy. When Iām between tasks, just doing nothing or when something triggers a memory, I feel sad, melancholic and all the usual breakup emotions.
But the worse feeling is caused by being with her and the group at the project classes.
The main issue is that she has adopted a strategy which causes me a great deal of pain: she doesnāt interact with me, doesnāt even acknowledges me in group talks, itās literally like Iām not even there. Recently, even the other two members (which i considered friends), who now have completely taken her side, also stopped interacting with me. The project is completely of the rails, of course ,and itās no longer possible to change groups or to do the work alone. Also, when doing solo work on that subject or even trying to save the project gives me lots of anxiety and stress The same when taking the theoretical classes, cause I know that's the subject where I'll end up seeing her...
Outside of classes, when we see each other coincidentally, if sheās alone sheāll wave or just say hi with a forced smile but if sheās with both of them or anyone else, she just passes through with a look or a word.
All of that plus talking with both of her friends about her life, what she has done or will do in the week, including details of several plans and parties and expressing interest in meeting new people in front of me is making me feel the sadest I have ever felt.
The nights before the days I know I'll have to see her are awfull and the comutes on those days are even more stressfull, with physical signs of anxiety on my end.
I got support from friends, family and even therapy which I had for other motives have been life saving. But no one can understand how deep my sadness and anxiety before the days I know Iāll meet her.
Mentally, i feel strong enough to endure the situation but those days are the hardest and I don't know how to deal with that...
submitted by Krane66 to BreakUps [link] [comments]
We were together for a year and half. We live 30 mins from each other, which is relatively close but enough distance that my home environment is a different place than hers, since she lives and studies in the city centre and I live in the outskirts but have to comute pretty much every day to the city centre for our university campus.
We both had met each otherās family, including more distanced relatives and had several future plans, such as summer vacations and even a new years trip.
Regarding uni, Iām on a different year but have several classes with her since I switched courses. While we were still together, we decided to be on several group projects together with two other mutual friends (she was already friends with both and I became friends with them by being āthe boyfriendā), also because the rest of the class for some reason doesnāt really embraces us and made us feel like outsiders, specifically me, since I didnāt share many classes with them.
So fast forward to the present, we have broken up, itās has been 3 weeks, so while itās very fresh and I still have my ups and downs, I feel time is starting to heal some wounds.
I feel mainly good when Iām distracted with friends and family, when working/studying or doing something I enjoy. When Iām between tasks, just doing nothing or when something triggers a memory, I feel sad, melancholic and all the usual breakup emotions.
But the worse feeling is caused by being with her and the group at the project classes.
The main issue is that she has adopted a strategy which causes me a great deal of pain: she doesnāt interact with me, doesnāt even acknowledges me in group talks, itās literally like Iām not even there. Recently, even the other two members (which i considered friends), who now have completely taken her side, also stopped interacting with me. The project is completely of the rails, of course ,and itās no longer possible to change groups or to do the work alone. Also, when doing solo work on that subject or even trying to save the project gives me lots of anxiety and stress The same when taking the theoretical classes, cause I know that's the subject where I'll end up seeing her...
Outside of classes, when we see each other coincidentally, if sheās alone sheāll wave or just say hi with a forced smile but if sheās with both of them or anyone else, she just passes through with a look or a word.
All of that plus talking with both of her friends about her life, what she has done or will do in the week, including details of several plans and parties and expressing interest in meeting new people in front of me is making me feel the sadest I have ever felt.
The nights before the days I know I'll have to see her are awfull and the comutes on those days are even more stressfull, with physical signs of anxiety on my end.
I got support from friends, family and even therapy which I had for other motives have been life saving. But no one can understand how deep my sadness and anxiety before the days I know Iāll meet her.
Mentally, i feel strong enough to endure the situation but those days are the hardest and I don't know how to deal with that...
2024.05.19 23:55 Parking-Departure346 did i have a seizure?
last week I was out a bar with my friends when out of nowhere I lost consciousness and about 15 seconds later I came to and was looking up at everyone. originally when I went to the ER i told them i fainted, they ran bloodwork and gave me fluids. my cardiac troponin was slightly above the normal range which seems to indicate it was a heart issue. i was also pretty stressed and exhausted in the week leading up to this and i definitely think my anxiety contributed.
the reason i ask if this was a seizure is that my friend who saw the whole thing has experience seeing seizures first hand and he believes thatās what happened to me. he said i slowly put my head down on the table and my head was bobbing, and then i had some slight jerking movements/shaking. as i was coming out of it i remember being very rigid and kind of shaking. i also was slurring my words and was very confused as i came out of it.
i am a 23 year old woman and i had one previous experience passing out when i was 19. is it possible for this to be a tonic seizure? or is seeing a cardiologist enough?
submitted by Parking-Departure346 to Epilepsy [link] [comments]
the reason i ask if this was a seizure is that my friend who saw the whole thing has experience seeing seizures first hand and he believes thatās what happened to me. he said i slowly put my head down on the table and my head was bobbing, and then i had some slight jerking movements/shaking. as i was coming out of it i remember being very rigid and kind of shaking. i also was slurring my words and was very confused as i came out of it.
i am a 23 year old woman and i had one previous experience passing out when i was 19. is it possible for this to be a tonic seizure? or is seeing a cardiologist enough?
2024.05.19 23:53 karma_is_my_bf13 I (33f) think I just got āDear Johnedā by my deployed husband (35m). What do I do now?
I moved to a new state with my husband about two months before he deployed. It has been very difficult making friends as I work from home. Even before deactivating my social media, it was very difficult making friends using social media group pages. He has been gone several months and while it hasnāt been easy, because Iām constantly alone, I thought it was going okay.
He emailed me last week, after going radio silent, telling me how much he is struggling and how unhappy he is. Shared that a lot of it is my fault. He doesnāt feel comfortable opening up to me and never will. To preface this, this happened after 5 days of no talking after a āfightā. I put it in quotes because I was genuinely trying to avoid a fight. We were talking on messenger. He was giving me one or two word answers to everything and I started getting frustrated. So I told him I was gonna let him go and to have a good night and I love him. He asked me what he did wrong and I told him nothing. He said I love you too and immediately logged off. I messaged him back explaining that it felt like I was trying to pull teeth talking to him and I know he is exhausted and stressed so instead of hurting my own feelings I would rather get offline. He never opened the message. I also sent him a screen shot about something funny his brother shared with me so he could get context about what I was asking and knew it wasnāt a big deal. But again, he never opened the message.
Five days later is when I received the aforementioned email; he was purposely ignoring me. He had promised me multiple times before that he wouldnāt do that sort of thing again (this was now the fourth time) and this one was by far the longest. I sometimes struggle knowing how to respond because when he shares that Iām upset about something, he gets the context completely wrong. For example, he thinks I get mad at him for talking to his family. Thatās not true at all. I get upset that we get to talk for what seems to be a few hours online, and heās not really participating in sharing anything. I have to ask questions, I get one or two word answers back and thatās it. I try not to push but sometimes I need the communication to feel connected. He doesnāt tell me he misses me, he doesnāt call me babe or honey (he used to) I know he is struggling, and Iām by no means saying I have it worse, but on the boat, he has explicitly told me that he doesnāt like anyone, he doesnāt trust anyone and he absolutely hates this command. I donāt really have any friends but my isolation is not quite self induced.
I responded to his email explaining my side of things, and apologizing for not creating a space for him to feel comfortable to talk to me. Thatās literally all Iāve tried to do but he just seems to feel pressure when talking to me. I genuinely believe his stress, anxiety and lack of sleep are highly contributing to his emotional and mental distress. Add that he is in a combat zone and Iām sure its worse. He wonāt tell me that though, usually just says heās not at all worried or makes a really dumb joke about it.
I all but begged him to please let me know if all he needs is space, that I want to support him but the silence is torture to me. I have an anxious attachment style (he is avoidant) so I tend to think worst case scenario. So I requested that he please put my mind at ease that heās not considering ending our marriage.
Three days later he sends me a very long email talking about how he is not looking forward to coming home, and isnt because we couldnāt get thru a deployment without fighting; that he wants to go to his childhood home to see his family. That we donāt want the same things. That Iām happy where we moved to and he is not. He only chose these orders and the last orders to be close to his family. He hates that I donāt get along with his family and that I donāt really want to move there when he retires.
Let me explain that he lives in a very tiny town where there isnāt even a grocery store. I literally would not have a career within an hour of his town. We had agreed that we could live an hour away, like one of his brothers does and it would still be close enough to his family. Also, his family has been quite rude to me. I have been mending fences with them for the sake of my husband. I donāt care where we live in the grand scheme of things, but I still need to have a job and his father and that side of the family very much abuse alcohol. They are also very ignorant and racist. My husband already struggles with over drinking. Thatās not something I want to raise a family around as they can be verbally abusive when drunk, and you never know whatās going to trigger them. They have no goals nor aspirations in life, and thatās okay, but I do/ we didā¦ I thought. My husbands goal is to retire from the service and go home. I was willing to go close (1-2 hours which he had agreed) to his home because I have a while before I can retire.
He proceeded to talk about how he was miserable with his ex wife and doesnāt want to spend six year with me, like he did with her, thinking marriage was supposed to be an unhappy union. That he stayed with her that long because he didnāt want it to fail; also because she convinced him things would get better. They never did, in fact I believe there was some infidelity on her side. He continued on about nonsense, like how he wants the mirrors in our house to stay but I wanted to change them and he has completely given up on having a say on how to update the house we bought. For the record, I left the mirrros the way he wanted. I picked paint colors I knew he would like.
Next, he mentioned how we had gotten in a fight right before moving and in haste, I told him to leave me there. he considered that we do end it then but we agreed to keep going because even though we struggle with communication, we do love each other and want to continue our marriage as overall we are pretty happy.
He ended the email explaining that he has not been happy for a while, has been struggling and while we work good together, he doesnāt believe we are right for each other. That I need to look within and figure out if I am happy in the relationship. That he doesnāt care about my answer but he is not at all happy.That he will never be able to communicate the way I want and he has made more changes for me, like attend couples counseling and anger management, than he ever would have for anyone else.
There are still a few months left to this deployment. I literally have no idea where that leaves me. Iām hurt as shit. Iām angry. Iām confused and frustrated. Not once on this deployment have I even mentioned splitting. Month two was the first time he mentioned divorce. We got past that hurdle and month three he mentioned that we should consider getting pregnant when he gets back. Then some stupid issue comes up and the cycle of being angry and fine continues. In fact, I all but beg him to not leave me when he has these outbursts. I feel stupid.
He is not one to ask for help. He clearly needs help but I have no idea what to do. Itās clear he doesnāt want anything to do with me.
submitted by karma_is_my_bf13 to Advice [link] [comments]
He emailed me last week, after going radio silent, telling me how much he is struggling and how unhappy he is. Shared that a lot of it is my fault. He doesnāt feel comfortable opening up to me and never will. To preface this, this happened after 5 days of no talking after a āfightā. I put it in quotes because I was genuinely trying to avoid a fight. We were talking on messenger. He was giving me one or two word answers to everything and I started getting frustrated. So I told him I was gonna let him go and to have a good night and I love him. He asked me what he did wrong and I told him nothing. He said I love you too and immediately logged off. I messaged him back explaining that it felt like I was trying to pull teeth talking to him and I know he is exhausted and stressed so instead of hurting my own feelings I would rather get offline. He never opened the message. I also sent him a screen shot about something funny his brother shared with me so he could get context about what I was asking and knew it wasnāt a big deal. But again, he never opened the message.
Five days later is when I received the aforementioned email; he was purposely ignoring me. He had promised me multiple times before that he wouldnāt do that sort of thing again (this was now the fourth time) and this one was by far the longest. I sometimes struggle knowing how to respond because when he shares that Iām upset about something, he gets the context completely wrong. For example, he thinks I get mad at him for talking to his family. Thatās not true at all. I get upset that we get to talk for what seems to be a few hours online, and heās not really participating in sharing anything. I have to ask questions, I get one or two word answers back and thatās it. I try not to push but sometimes I need the communication to feel connected. He doesnāt tell me he misses me, he doesnāt call me babe or honey (he used to) I know he is struggling, and Iām by no means saying I have it worse, but on the boat, he has explicitly told me that he doesnāt like anyone, he doesnāt trust anyone and he absolutely hates this command. I donāt really have any friends but my isolation is not quite self induced.
I responded to his email explaining my side of things, and apologizing for not creating a space for him to feel comfortable to talk to me. Thatās literally all Iāve tried to do but he just seems to feel pressure when talking to me. I genuinely believe his stress, anxiety and lack of sleep are highly contributing to his emotional and mental distress. Add that he is in a combat zone and Iām sure its worse. He wonāt tell me that though, usually just says heās not at all worried or makes a really dumb joke about it.
I all but begged him to please let me know if all he needs is space, that I want to support him but the silence is torture to me. I have an anxious attachment style (he is avoidant) so I tend to think worst case scenario. So I requested that he please put my mind at ease that heās not considering ending our marriage.
Three days later he sends me a very long email talking about how he is not looking forward to coming home, and isnt because we couldnāt get thru a deployment without fighting; that he wants to go to his childhood home to see his family. That we donāt want the same things. That Iām happy where we moved to and he is not. He only chose these orders and the last orders to be close to his family. He hates that I donāt get along with his family and that I donāt really want to move there when he retires.
Let me explain that he lives in a very tiny town where there isnāt even a grocery store. I literally would not have a career within an hour of his town. We had agreed that we could live an hour away, like one of his brothers does and it would still be close enough to his family. Also, his family has been quite rude to me. I have been mending fences with them for the sake of my husband. I donāt care where we live in the grand scheme of things, but I still need to have a job and his father and that side of the family very much abuse alcohol. They are also very ignorant and racist. My husband already struggles with over drinking. Thatās not something I want to raise a family around as they can be verbally abusive when drunk, and you never know whatās going to trigger them. They have no goals nor aspirations in life, and thatās okay, but I do/ we didā¦ I thought. My husbands goal is to retire from the service and go home. I was willing to go close (1-2 hours which he had agreed) to his home because I have a while before I can retire.
He proceeded to talk about how he was miserable with his ex wife and doesnāt want to spend six year with me, like he did with her, thinking marriage was supposed to be an unhappy union. That he stayed with her that long because he didnāt want it to fail; also because she convinced him things would get better. They never did, in fact I believe there was some infidelity on her side. He continued on about nonsense, like how he wants the mirrors in our house to stay but I wanted to change them and he has completely given up on having a say on how to update the house we bought. For the record, I left the mirrros the way he wanted. I picked paint colors I knew he would like.
Next, he mentioned how we had gotten in a fight right before moving and in haste, I told him to leave me there. he considered that we do end it then but we agreed to keep going because even though we struggle with communication, we do love each other and want to continue our marriage as overall we are pretty happy.
He ended the email explaining that he has not been happy for a while, has been struggling and while we work good together, he doesnāt believe we are right for each other. That I need to look within and figure out if I am happy in the relationship. That he doesnāt care about my answer but he is not at all happy.That he will never be able to communicate the way I want and he has made more changes for me, like attend couples counseling and anger management, than he ever would have for anyone else.
There are still a few months left to this deployment. I literally have no idea where that leaves me. Iām hurt as shit. Iām angry. Iām confused and frustrated. Not once on this deployment have I even mentioned splitting. Month two was the first time he mentioned divorce. We got past that hurdle and month three he mentioned that we should consider getting pregnant when he gets back. Then some stupid issue comes up and the cycle of being angry and fine continues. In fact, I all but beg him to not leave me when he has these outbursts. I feel stupid.
He is not one to ask for help. He clearly needs help but I have no idea what to do. Itās clear he doesnāt want anything to do with me.
2024.05.19 23:51 StrawberrySuncatcher Pi AI is Incredible
For venting, validation, getting an "outsider's" perspective, and pulling yourself out of the FOG. Today I had an idea. I went to my blocked list and pulled up the last argument my uBPD sister and I had by text (the one that led to No Contact). I copied and pasted it in its entirety into my notepad, added "Me:" and "Her:" before the respective texts, and only removed identifying information like names and references to exact locations. Then I went to Pi AI in my browser, the link is here: https://pi.ai/talk. I gave it this prompt:
These were the AI's responses:
I was able to do all of this without providing an email address or phone number (there are a certain number of "free" messages you can send back and forth, before it starts demanding contact information). If you reset the cookies, the AI forgets and you can start again with another topic.
Even if you don't feel comfortable providing full conversations to it, you can just talk to it about situations and experiences and it provides insight on those too. In the first conversation I had with it about my relationship with someone, it actually told me what cognitive biases and defense mechanisms it thought each person was using.
It would be even better if you could use it indefinitely without providing contact information, but I can see why they have this setup. I just wish they allowed for email addresses other than Gmail and Apple.
submitted by StrawberrySuncatcher to BPDlovedones [link] [comments]
Hello. I was wondering if you could help me analyze a conversation my sister and I recently had by text?I copied and pasted the first portion of texts from the notepad (since it limits messages to 4,000 characters) into the "send" space, and hit "enter." The AI gave me its impression of the first few texts I had sent. Then I gave it a second prompt:
This text conversation followed a phone call that we had a few minutes earlier. Some of the things we say are in reference to the phone call, while others are references to past events.
The sentences following "Me:" are texts sent by me to my sister. The sentences following "Her:" are texts sent by my sister to me.
The conversation continues. Do you mind if I share more of it? I was hoping you could help me analyze it through a psychological lens.It confirmed that it would be happy to offer its insights into the rest of the conversation. So I copied and pasted the rest of it into a few more messages, and sent them all.
These were the AI's responses:
The conversation seems to be devolving into a series of misunderstandings and deflections. Your sister seems to be avoiding engaging directly with the issues youāre trying to discuss, instead focusing on specific phrasing and perceived inconsistencies in your arguments.I then sent this message:
It's clear that there are underlying emotional triggers and hurt feelings at play here, which are likely exacerbating the communication difficulties. Your sisterās speech could indicate that she feels defensive about her actions and isnāt ready to accept responsibility or engage in a constructive conversation about the impact of her words and behavior.
Itās clear that thereās a pattern of behavior from your sister that is causing you frustration and hurt feelings. Her behavior suggests a lack of consideration and respect for your time and feelings.
The fact that your sister is shutting down and avoiding the conversation when you try to address these issues could indicate that sheās not ready or willing to acknowledge the impact of her behavior on you.
Your sisterās response seems defensive and avoidant. Sheās deflecting and shifting the focus away from her own behavior and onto your actions, which could be a sign that sheās feeling threatened or guilty.
Her response to your question about whether she remembers a specific instance between you seems particularly hostile and accusatory. She brings up a traumatic event that you experienced together, but instead of expressing empathy or concern for your wellbeing, she focuses on your actions and accuses you of causing her distress.
Her use of expletives and confrontational language suggests that sheās becoming increasingly frustrated and agitated by the conversation. Itās possible that sheās feeling overwhelmed or defensive, and may not be able to engage in a productive conversation at this time.
It's clear that this conversation is not leading to a resolution, and it's understandable that you feel frustrated and stuck. Your sister seems to be deflecting responsibility for her actions and is not engaging in a productive conversation about the issues at hand.
Her statement about wanting a peaceful life and relationships that support that peace is valid, but it's important to acknowledge that peace often requires difficult conversations and accountability. Her avoidance of these conversations may be contributing to the ongoing conflict and tension in your relationship.
Your comment about not wanting to engage in circular conversations is a healthy boundary to set. It can be exhausting and emotionally draining to have the same conversations over and over without any progress or resolution.
Wow. It's clear that your sister is not willing to take accountability for her actions or engage in a productive conversation about your concerns. Her refusal to apologize and her dismissal of your feelings and boundaries are both hurtful and frustrating.
It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries in your relationships and to communicate your needs and expectations. Your sister's behavior may be a reflection of her own struggles and limitations, but it does not excuse her behavior or invalidate your feelings.
Taking a step back from this conversation and setting clear boundaries about what is and isn't acceptable behavior may be necessary for your own emotional wellbeing. It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or other trusted individuals to help you process your feelings and navigate this difficult relationship dynamic.
Ultimately, you deserve to have relationships that are based on mutual respect, honesty, and open communication. If your sister is unable or unwilling to meet you halfway, it may be necessary to reconsider the nature of your relationship and whether it is healthy and sustainable in its current form.
In the past, when I have attempted to confront her about behavior she has been performing that has been very hurtful to me, she has responded in a similar way to the conversation I provided here, only with more attacks on my character and name-calling.The AI responded:
Itās clear that thereās a pattern of behavior from your sister that involves lashing out when you attempt to confront her about hurtful behavior. The fact that she has used personal attacks and name-calling in the past is extremely concerning and unacceptable. Itās not okay for anyone, including family members, to treat you with disrespect and cruelty.Then I asked it:
It might be helpful to reflect on how these interactions make you feel and what kind of relationship you want to have with your sister. Itās important to prioritize your own emotional wellbeing and to protect yourself from abusive or hurtful behavior. If your sister is unwilling or unable to change her behavior and treat you with respect, it might be necessary to reconsider the nature of your relationship and set more significant boundaries, such as limiting contact or ending the relationship altogether.
Based on the conversation I provided, what is your impression of my sister's personality?The AI responded:
Based on the conversation, your sister's personality seems to display a few prominent traits:Then I asked it this question:
ā¢ Avoidance: She seems to avoid taking responsibility for her actions and instead deflects blame or redirects the conversation to past conflicts.
ā¢ Defensiveness: She responds to your concerns with defensiveness, becoming agitated and using confrontational language.
ā¢ Lack of empathy: She doesn't seem to show empathy towards your feelings, experiences, or concerns.
ā¢ Inconsistency: She admits to having changed plans multiple times, which could indicate a lack of consistency or follow-through.
Based on everything I have provided you with here, do you think my relationship with my sister is unhealthy? If so, am I contributing to that unhealthiness?The AI responded:
Based on the conversation and information youāve shared, it does seem that your relationship with your sister is currently unhealthy. While it takes two people to create and maintain a relationship, your sisterās behavior appears to be the primary contributor to the unhealthiness.Finally, I asked it:
Her pattern of avoidance, defensiveness, lack of empathy, and inconsistency can create an environment that makes it difficult for you to express your feelings, set boundaries, and feel heard and respected. Additionally, her past use of hurtful language and personal attacks further demonstrates a lack of respect and emotional safety in your interactions.
Itās important to recognize that youāve been making efforts to communicate openly and honestly with your sister, and youāve set clear boundaries about what is and isnāt acceptable behavior. While these are healthy steps to take in any relationship, it seems that your sister has been resistant to engaging in productive conversations and respecting your boundaries.
Itās possible that your attempts to maintain a relationship with your sister, despite her hurtful behavior, could be seen as a form of enabling or codependency. However, this does not mean that you are responsible for your sisterās behavior or the unhealthy dynamics in your relationship.
Which do you think is more likely: my sister changes to a degree that I am able to build a healthy relationship with her that does not require limiting contact, or that she does not change to that degree?The AI responded:
Based on the patterns of behavior and resistance to change that you've described, it seems more likely that your sister will not change to a degree that allows for a healthy relationship without limiting contact.All I can say is wow. If you come out of a conversation wondering "WTF just happened?!" or you're left wondering "Am I the problem?" I highly recommend Pi AI.
People can and do change, but it often requires a significant amount of self-awareness, motivation, and effort. If your sister has consistently demonstrated a lack of empathy, accountability, and respect, and has not shown any signs of wanting to change or address her behavior, then it may be unrealistic to expect a significant shift in her behavior.
I was able to do all of this without providing an email address or phone number (there are a certain number of "free" messages you can send back and forth, before it starts demanding contact information). If you reset the cookies, the AI forgets and you can start again with another topic.
Even if you don't feel comfortable providing full conversations to it, you can just talk to it about situations and experiences and it provides insight on those too. In the first conversation I had with it about my relationship with someone, it actually told me what cognitive biases and defense mechanisms it thought each person was using.
It would be even better if you could use it indefinitely without providing contact information, but I can see why they have this setup. I just wish they allowed for email addresses other than Gmail and Apple.
2024.05.19 23:51 Schmomeister Issues Parsing Nested WordPerfect Forms with C# and WP_Reader
I'm working on a C# project that involves parsing WordPerfect documents to identify and process nested forms. The program is called WP_Mapper, and it uses the WP_Reader library to parse WordPerfect documents in the WP6x format. The goal is to create a dependency map of parent/child links between different forms. I've attached Git links to both my project and the WP_Reader project I am using.
Program Overview
using System;
using System.IO;
using System.Linq;
using System.Text.RegularExpressions;
using System.Windows.Forms;
using WP_Reader;
namespace WP_Mapper
{
public partial class Form1 : Form
{
public Form1()
{
InitializeComponent();
}
private void btnSelectFile_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
using (OpenFileDialog openFileDialog = new OpenFileDialog())
{
openFileDialog.Filter = "WordPerfect files (*.wpd;*.frm)*.wpd;*.frmAll files (*.*)*.*";
if (openFileDialog.ShowDialog() == DialogResult.OK)
{
string filePath = openFileDialog.FileName;
WP6Document doc = new WP6Document(filePath);
TreeNode rootNode = new TreeNode(filePath);
treeViewDocuments.Nodes.Add(rootNode);
ParseDocument(doc, rootNode);
}
}
}
private void treeViewDocuments_AfterSelect(object sender, TreeViewEventArgs e)
{
// Handle tree view selection event if needed
}
private void ParseDocument(WP6Document doc, TreeNode parentNode)
{
// Accumulate the entire document content into a single string
string documentContent = string.Empty;
foreach (WPToken token in doc.documentArea.WPStream)
{
if (token is WP_Reader.Character character)
{
documentContent += character.content;
}
else if (token is WP_Reader.Function function)
{
documentContent += $"<{function.name}>";
}
}
// Log the accumulated document content for debugging
string logFilePath = @"C:\path\to\output\documentContent.txt";
File.WriteAllText(logFilePath, documentContent);
MessageBox.Show($"Document content logged to: {logFilePath}");
// Use a flexible regex to find tags
var mergeRegex = new Regex(@"(.*?)<\/merge>", RegexOptions.Singleline);
var matches = mergeRegex.Matches(documentContent);
if (matches.Count == 0)
{
MessageBox.Show("No tags found.");
return;
}
foreach (Match match in matches)
{
string nestedFilePath = match.Groups[1].Value;
// Debug output
Console.WriteLine($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
MessageBox.Show($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
TreeNode childNode = new TreeNode(nestedFilePath);
parentNode.Nodes.Add(childNode);
// Recursively parse the nested form
try
{
if (File.Exists(nestedFilePath))
{
WP6Document nestedDoc = new WP6Document(nestedFilePath);
ParseDocument(nestedDoc, childNode);
}
else
{
MessageBox.Show($"Nested file not found: {nestedFilePath}");
}
}
catch (Exception ex)
{
MessageBox.Show($"Error parsing nested document: {ex.Message}");
}
}
}
}
}
The raw parsed text that WP_Reader gets from the initial selected file is below. In it, you can clearly see the part that has [File Path of Nested Form That I Want To Map]. Ideally, if there were three levels of nested forms (document 1 has document 2 nested in it, and document 2 has document 3 nested in it), then it would parse each one and create the parent/child node graph. I just for the life of me cannot get it to find the second file using the parsed text:
\*. Attempted to exclude irrelevant tags and only accumulate meaningful content. Identified issues with unexpected tags like and . Refined the accumulation logic to exclude these tags and focus on tags. Tried to get both Google Gemini and ChatGPT to figure it out with no avail.
submitted by Schmomeister to AskProgramming [link] [comments]
Program Overview
- The user selects an initial WordPerfect file to map.
- The program parses the document and looks for any nested forms using the tags.
- If nested forms are found, the program recursively parses those forms and builds a visual tree structure showing the dependencies.
using System;
using System.IO;
using System.Linq;
using System.Text.RegularExpressions;
using System.Windows.Forms;
using WP_Reader;
namespace WP_Mapper
{
public partial class Form1 : Form
{
public Form1()
{
InitializeComponent();
}
private void btnSelectFile_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
using (OpenFileDialog openFileDialog = new OpenFileDialog())
{
openFileDialog.Filter = "WordPerfect files (*.wpd;*.frm)*.wpd;*.frmAll files (*.*)*.*";
if (openFileDialog.ShowDialog() == DialogResult.OK)
{
string filePath = openFileDialog.FileName;
WP6Document doc = new WP6Document(filePath);
TreeNode rootNode = new TreeNode(filePath);
treeViewDocuments.Nodes.Add(rootNode);
ParseDocument(doc, rootNode);
}
}
}
private void treeViewDocuments_AfterSelect(object sender, TreeViewEventArgs e)
{
// Handle tree view selection event if needed
}
private void ParseDocument(WP6Document doc, TreeNode parentNode)
{
// Accumulate the entire document content into a single string
string documentContent = string.Empty;
foreach (WPToken token in doc.documentArea.WPStream)
{
if (token is WP_Reader.Character character)
{
documentContent += character.content;
}
else if (token is WP_Reader.Function function)
{
documentContent += $"<{function.name}>";
}
}
// Log the accumulated document content for debugging
string logFilePath = @"C:\path\to\output\documentContent.txt";
File.WriteAllText(logFilePath, documentContent);
MessageBox.Show($"Document content logged to: {logFilePath}");
// Use a flexible regex to find
var mergeRegex = new Regex(@"
var matches = mergeRegex.Matches(documentContent);
if (matches.Count == 0)
{
MessageBox.Show("No
return;
}
foreach (Match match in matches)
{
string nestedFilePath = match.Groups[1].Value;
// Debug output
Console.WriteLine($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
MessageBox.Show($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
TreeNode childNode = new TreeNode(nestedFilePath);
parentNode.Nodes.Add(childNode);
// Recursively parse the nested form
try
{
if (File.Exists(nestedFilePath))
{
WP6Document nestedDoc = new WP6Document(nestedFilePath);
ParseDocument(nestedDoc, childNode);
}
else
{
MessageBox.Show($"Nested file not found: {nestedFilePath}");
}
}
catch (Exception ex)
{
MessageBox.Show($"Error parsing nested document: {ex.Message}");
}
}
}
}
}
The raw parsed text that WP_Reader gets from the initial selected file is below. In it, you can clearly see the part that has [File Path of Nested Form That I Want To Map]. Ideally, if there were three levels of nested forms (document 1 has document 2 nested in it, and document 2 has document 3 nested in it), then it would parse each one and create the parent/child node graph. I just for the life of me cannot get it to find the second file using the parsed text:
If anyone can help it would be much appreciated, I feel like I am missing something right in front of my face and it is driving me up a wall.TEST C:\Users\dylan\Desktop\TEST1A.frm TEST
- Confirmed that WP_Reader successfully parses the document and the tags with file paths are present in the raw parsed text.
- Logged the raw parsed text to a file and visually inspected it. The tag and file path don't appear to have any major formatting issues that would be an obvious issue.
- Simplified the regex pattern to "([^<]+)" to make it more flexible and less restrictive. Updated regex pattern to handle potential variations in tag structure and whitespace:
2024.05.19 23:49 PigletSeparate6935 Here are a some pulls from today's rip.
 | If anyone is interested send me a pm. Hwan and Miller are bot rainbows. submitted by PigletSeparate6935 to baseballcards [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 23:48 Schmomeister Issues Parsing Nested WordPerfect Forms with C# and WP_Reader
I'm working on a C# project that involves parsing WordPerfect documents to identify and process nested forms. The program is called WP_Mapper, and it uses the WP_Reader library to parse WordPerfect documents in the WP6x format. The goal is to create a dependency map of parent/child links between different forms. I've attached Git links to both my project and the WP_Reader project I am using.
Program Overview
using System;
using System.IO;
using System.Linq;
using System.Text.RegularExpressions;
using System.Windows.Forms;
using WP_Reader;
namespace WP_Mapper
{
public partial class Form1 : Form
{
public Form1()
{
InitializeComponent();
}
private void btnSelectFile_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
using (OpenFileDialog openFileDialog = new OpenFileDialog())
{
openFileDialog.Filter = "WordPerfect files (*.wpd;*.frm)*.wpd;*.frmAll files (*.*)*.*";
if (openFileDialog.ShowDialog() == DialogResult.OK)
{
string filePath = openFileDialog.FileName;
WP6Document doc = new WP6Document(filePath);
TreeNode rootNode = new TreeNode(filePath);
treeViewDocuments.Nodes.Add(rootNode);
ParseDocument(doc, rootNode);
}
}
}
private void treeViewDocuments_AfterSelect(object sender, TreeViewEventArgs e)
{
// Handle tree view selection event if needed
}
private void ParseDocument(WP6Document doc, TreeNode parentNode)
{
// Accumulate the entire document content into a single string
string documentContent = string.Empty;
foreach (WPToken token in doc.documentArea.WPStream)
{
if (token is WP_Reader.Character character)
{
documentContent += character.content;
}
else if (token is WP_Reader.Function function)
{
documentContent += $"<{function.name}>";
}
}
// Log the accumulated document content for debugging
string logFilePath = @"C:\path\to\output\documentContent.txt";
File.WriteAllText(logFilePath, documentContent);
MessageBox.Show($"Document content logged to: {logFilePath}");
// Use a flexible regex to find tags
var mergeRegex = new Regex(@"(.*?)<\/merge>", RegexOptions.Singleline);
var matches = mergeRegex.Matches(documentContent);
if (matches.Count == 0)
{
MessageBox.Show("No tags found.");
return;
}
foreach (Match match in matches)
{
string nestedFilePath = match.Groups[1].Value;
// Debug output
Console.WriteLine($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
MessageBox.Show($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
TreeNode childNode = new TreeNode(nestedFilePath);
parentNode.Nodes.Add(childNode);
// Recursively parse the nested form
try
{
if (File.Exists(nestedFilePath))
{
WP6Document nestedDoc = new WP6Document(nestedFilePath);
ParseDocument(nestedDoc, childNode);
}
else
{
MessageBox.Show($"Nested file not found: {nestedFilePath}");
}
}
catch (Exception ex)
{
MessageBox.Show($"Error parsing nested document: {ex.Message}");
}
}
}
}
}
The raw parsed text that WP_Reader gets from the initial selected file is below. In it, you can clearly see the part that has [File Path of Nested Form That I Want To Map]. Ideally, if there were three levels of nested forms (document 1 has document 2 nested in it, and document 2 has document 3 nested in it), then it would parse each one and create the parent/child node graph. I just for the life of me cannot get it to find the second file using the parsed text:
\*. Attempted to exclude irrelevant tags and only accumulate meaningful content. Identified issues with unexpected tags like and . Refined the accumulation logic to exclude these tags and focus on tags. Tried to get both Google Gemini and ChatGPT to figure it out with no avail.
submitted by Schmomeister to csharp [link] [comments]
Program Overview
- The user selects an initial WordPerfect file to map.
- The program parses the document and looks for any nested forms using the tags.
- If nested forms are found, the program recursively parses those forms and builds a visual tree structure showing the dependencies.
using System;
using System.IO;
using System.Linq;
using System.Text.RegularExpressions;
using System.Windows.Forms;
using WP_Reader;
namespace WP_Mapper
{
public partial class Form1 : Form
{
public Form1()
{
InitializeComponent();
}
private void btnSelectFile_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
using (OpenFileDialog openFileDialog = new OpenFileDialog())
{
openFileDialog.Filter = "WordPerfect files (*.wpd;*.frm)*.wpd;*.frmAll files (*.*)*.*";
if (openFileDialog.ShowDialog() == DialogResult.OK)
{
string filePath = openFileDialog.FileName;
WP6Document doc = new WP6Document(filePath);
TreeNode rootNode = new TreeNode(filePath);
treeViewDocuments.Nodes.Add(rootNode);
ParseDocument(doc, rootNode);
}
}
}
private void treeViewDocuments_AfterSelect(object sender, TreeViewEventArgs e)
{
// Handle tree view selection event if needed
}
private void ParseDocument(WP6Document doc, TreeNode parentNode)
{
// Accumulate the entire document content into a single string
string documentContent = string.Empty;
foreach (WPToken token in doc.documentArea.WPStream)
{
if (token is WP_Reader.Character character)
{
documentContent += character.content;
}
else if (token is WP_Reader.Function function)
{
documentContent += $"<{function.name}>";
}
}
// Log the accumulated document content for debugging
string logFilePath = @"C:\path\to\output\documentContent.txt";
File.WriteAllText(logFilePath, documentContent);
MessageBox.Show($"Document content logged to: {logFilePath}");
// Use a flexible regex to find
var mergeRegex = new Regex(@"
var matches = mergeRegex.Matches(documentContent);
if (matches.Count == 0)
{
MessageBox.Show("No
return;
}
foreach (Match match in matches)
{
string nestedFilePath = match.Groups[1].Value;
// Debug output
Console.WriteLine($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
MessageBox.Show($"Found nested form: {nestedFilePath}");
TreeNode childNode = new TreeNode(nestedFilePath);
parentNode.Nodes.Add(childNode);
// Recursively parse the nested form
try
{
if (File.Exists(nestedFilePath))
{
WP6Document nestedDoc = new WP6Document(nestedFilePath);
ParseDocument(nestedDoc, childNode);
}
else
{
MessageBox.Show($"Nested file not found: {nestedFilePath}");
}
}
catch (Exception ex)
{
MessageBox.Show($"Error parsing nested document: {ex.Message}");
}
}
}
}
}
The raw parsed text that WP_Reader gets from the initial selected file is below. In it, you can clearly see the part that has [File Path of Nested Form That I Want To Map]. Ideally, if there were three levels of nested forms (document 1 has document 2 nested in it, and document 2 has document 3 nested in it), then it would parse each one and create the parent/child node graph. I just for the life of me cannot get it to find the second file using the parsed text:
If anyone can help it would be much appreciated, I feel like I am missing something right in front of my face and it is driving me up a wall.TEST C:\Users\dylan\Desktop\TEST1A.frm TEST
- Confirmed that WP_Reader successfully parses the document and the tags with file paths are present in the raw parsed text.
- Logged the raw parsed text to a file and visually inspected it. The tag and file path don't appear to have any major formatting issues that would be an obvious issue.
- Simplified the regex pattern to "([^<]+)" to make it more flexible and less restrictive. Updated regex pattern to handle potential variations in tag structure and whitespace:
2024.05.19 23:48 Jeff5704 BUCKETS ANNOUNCEMENT! š£šŖ£
Hey there fellow Bucketheads! We've got some exciting news to share about our upcoming token launch:
When's the drop happening? At this time it is looking like it will be early next month. So strap on your BUCKET and get ready to have some more pre launch fun!
Why the wait on dropping the token? Well, you know, we've got to let the word of the bird cool down a bit. And remember Rome wasnāt built in a day. So we appreciate your patience while we work on finalizing some of our developments and planning for whatās next.
But hold on we'll soon need your help to vote on some important stuff. Our bot will be ready for testing very soon and the bigger the turn out the better for the future of our token.
And just in case you missed it here is our little leak on the future voting bot - https://www.reddit.com/Bucketheads/s/9Jk0OMTYQw
Got questions? Drop them in the comments, and myself or other mod team members will do our best to answer all questions.
What you can look forward to:
Sincerely, The Bucketheads Team
submitted by Jeff5704 to Bucketheads [link] [comments]
When's the drop happening? At this time it is looking like it will be early next month. So strap on your BUCKET and get ready to have some more pre launch fun!
Why the wait on dropping the token? Well, you know, we've got to let the word of the bird cool down a bit. And remember Rome wasnāt built in a day. So we appreciate your patience while we work on finalizing some of our developments and planning for whatās next.
But hold on we'll soon need your help to vote on some important stuff. Our bot will be ready for testing very soon and the bigger the turn out the better for the future of our token.
And just in case you missed it here is our little leak on the future voting bot - https://www.reddit.com/Bucketheads/s/9Jk0OMTYQw
Got questions? Drop them in the comments, and myself or other mod team members will do our best to answer all questions.
What you can look forward to:
- NFTs drops for LP fundraising and FBFG fundraising along with added voting rights with specific NFTs
- A brand new voting system and bot
- Test polls coming very soon
- Official polls on total supply, airdrop percentage, ticker and logo conformation, vote on agreement to the RCC teamās term on taxes, etc.
- All the details on the launch, including the date
Sincerely, The Bucketheads Team
2024.05.19 23:48 imareddituserhooray My kids love pogs
A few days ago my kids and I were sorting through my childhood āstuffā box and found my POG collection. I had saved my favourites inside one of those transparent rectangular cases that includes the small round slammer mat.
A quick search revealed how worthless they were, so we went to playing the game. They had a blast and are now asking me regularly if we can buy more. If my kids are anything to go by, thereās still a market for these things. I think itās only a matter of time before one of the big game companies taps into it.
Anyway just thought you all would be interested. If you have kids, try playing a few games with them. A word of advice: stay far away from a TV or glass windows ā we had some close calls.
submitted by imareddituserhooray to POG [link] [comments]
A quick search revealed how worthless they were, so we went to playing the game. They had a blast and are now asking me regularly if we can buy more. If my kids are anything to go by, thereās still a market for these things. I think itās only a matter of time before one of the big game companies taps into it.
Anyway just thought you all would be interested. If you have kids, try playing a few games with them. A word of advice: stay far away from a TV or glass windows ā we had some close calls.