I (F,24) am being abused by my (M,24) narcissistic situationship. We started hooking up last October. I have had a pattern of emotionally abusive partners and I come from an abusive father as well. Now, I had a very distant boyfriend of three months while talking to the Narc. I fell ill and was bed ridden. My long distance boyfriend didn’t visit me or call so by default the Narc was there telling me what he should be doing for me over the phone and telling me to come over. I was incredibly lonely and my family was not supportive. It was isolating. I allowed myself to flirt with the Narc over the phone. My long distance boyfriend went days without calling me or updating me on anything. We really weren’t in a relationship. Eventually, after breaking up with my prior boyfriend I hooked up with the Narc. I took two buses and a trolly. On the way down I called him to remind him to buy a condom. He got angry and told me not to come. I was already far from home and the buses stop running for a certain time. That was the first red flag. Fast foreword overtime? He has pressured/begged me into cuckholding. Telling me he’d make me his. Begging me to allow him to have sex with me on camera. I would tell him NO over and over but eventually did it. I never enjoyed performing for these people. He’d ask me to talk about other people having sex with me. When I would tell him I didn’t like this and was tired of him bringing it up he’d say: “I haven’t brought the kink up in months. I don’t like it anymore.”
He has also sent me videos of him having sex with other women to hurt me. He has said my mother looks better than me and has made sexual comments about my sister. Calling me jealous when upset and passing all this as a joke. Through out this I have begged for a relationship. I have given him money for lunch. Despite my health issues, He makes me come see him. He never travels to me. He used to pay for my Uber h home and then stopped. He told me, “I’m not paying for pussy.” After we had sex he would send me home in the Uber claiming he needed sleep. All this is a plethora of information problems over the span of months. The narc comments of pictures of me on my Snapchat calling me a slut as well. On Valentine’s Day I begged him to come over and saying let’s exchanged gifts. It was last minute I admit and we both do not have cars. I decided to buy him a shrimp ball on the way over and I got a text, “ want to have a threesome.” My heart sank. I told him no. When I arrived he was angry I arrived to early and made me wait in freezing cold weather on his porch until he finished his shower, telling me: “you should have waited. You don’t listen.”
( crying as I write this.)
He has told me if I dress / do certain things maybe he’d make me mine. We make passionate love. I never feel like this during sex but I hate how he treats me. Granted, I call him too much. I am clingy, sure.
One night after sex a woman was blowing him up and he got mad I asked about it so I slept next to him swallowing my feelings. Another time he started getting angry at me that an uber wasn’t accepting my ride quick enough in snowy weather and accused me of canceling it or lying about ordering it so that I could stay. Not true but he wanted me gone so he could sleep. He apologized.
Months in after begging him for a relationship and being denied I went on an app for a hookup. This guy paid for EVERYTHING. I told the Narc I am going out despite not needing too as we are t committed and he tells me nothing of what he does. I told because me and narc have unprotected sex. I posted my outfit and date on snap. He commented if I dressed like that to come see him he’d take me serious and implied I look bummy when I see him. While, I was with my hookup I missed Narc. I was texting him while I was with my hookup. I wanted to impress him so I sent him short audio messages of us moaning. I wanted to tease his cuckholding kink. Narc was/still is upset at this and accuses me of doing this out of spite. I regret this.
Fast foreword to now? He is still abusive and offers me nothing. I saw him recently and he was actually vulnerable with me. Telling me he is not ready and he genuinely does like me. However, he made me take a dangerous subway line at night to see him and I had 2 men staring at me and walking back and forth around my area. Another got agressive with me. I kept calling him saying I was scared and he wasn’t where he was supposed to be and blamed his tardiness on the fact I kept calling him. We went back to his place and messed around in which during he told me He would kill me if I gave this pussy to anyone else. This was new. Oddly, I feel very safe around him. The next morning a woman called him at 9:48 AM. I accused him of lying about loving me and he calls me crazy. He went out recently and told me not to call him. We have been fighting about this and he told me: (*refer to screenshots in no specific order )

Over the last few weeks, I have been watching the Taiwanese series "Unknown," https://youtu.be/Q272pIOu3co, based on Priest’s famous work, "Big Brother." Throughout its twelve episodes, this series has captivated my attention, challenged my viewpoints, encouraged me to reevaluate some deeply-held beliefs, and left me eagerly hoping for a second season that delves further into the saga of Zhiyuan and Qian. However, I am also grateful for the opportunity to experience even a single season of this thought-provoking series.
"Unknown," features Chris Chiu as the main character Wei Qian, telling the story of a young man who, at the age of 14–16, resorts to working for a gangster. Driven by the death of his abusive, drug-addicted mother and a desire to support his sister, Qian accepts various jobs including cleaning toilets and billiard equipment, eventually working his way up to become a bouncer at the hall.
During the first episode, Qian’s altruistic nature expands beyond his immediate family when he encounters a homeless boy a few years younger than him. Moved by the boy’s plight, Qian takes him in, names him Zhiyuan, and gives him his last name, Wei.
At a live fan meet for the show, actor Kurt Huang, who portrays Zhiyuan, mentions an ongoing debate on social media regarding who is the “better” character in the series: Zhiyuan or Qian. Displaying humility and admiration for his co-star, Yuan encourages fans to pick Chris Chiu’s portrayal of Qian, acknowledging Chiu’s remarkable performance and personal difficulties he has faced.
This moment during the fan meet serves as a testament to the genuine nature and selflessness that is so characteristic of Taiwanese people and their culture. Although it is true that exceptions exist, the willingness of Taiwanese people to help friends and even strangers, often at their own expense, is a quality that continues to astonish and inspire me.
Chris Chiu and Kurt Huang share a long-standing friendship that dates back to their childhood. Despite a seven-year age gap, which is often significant in Asian cultures, the two actors have maintained a strong bond, spending time together as kids and frequently gaming at each other’s houses.
Reflecting on their unique relationship, Chris has mentioned that he does not perceive any sense of seniority over Kurt, despite the age difference. Instead, he values their friendship and regards Kurt as an equal, highlighting the genuine connection and mutual respect that has developed between them over the years as well as just the hilarious antics they can get into.
Age gaps in friendships often fade into insignificance when shared interests, experiences, and mutual understanding take center stage. A prime example of this is my friendship with Mr. R., who, despite being a decade younger than me, has become one of my closest friends. The age difference rarely comes into focus, except for the occasional moment of lighthearted teasing when Mr. R. laments his advancing age. In these instances, I jokingly remind him that I will be sure to bring up his concerns in ten years’ time, when he will have a different perspective on the matter.
The friendships between Chris Chiu and Kurt Huang and myself and Mr. R. serve as a testament to the power of friendship to bridge gaps in age and of the potential for enduring bonds to form based on common ground.
Returning to "Unknown," it’s evident that this series subverts the conventional notion of a “better man,” presenting instead a balanced narrative that showcases the strengths and qualities of both Qian and Zhiyuan. In this context, the question of who is the better character becomes redundant, as each individual brings their own unique set of attributes that make them indispensable to the story and to the people they cherish.
The multifaceted nature of the characters in "Unknown" contributes to the series’ appeal, as it challenges viewers to appreciate the diverse qualities that make each character “best” in their own right. This refreshing approach to character development encourages a deeper understanding of the complexities that make up human relationships and the ways in which individuals can complement one another.
Despite the flaws and setbacks faced by Qian and Zhiyuan in Unknown, their characters remain endearing and worthy of admiration. While confusion, misunderstanding, and passion occasionally lead them astray, their enduring care and love for each other, their family, — their unwavering commitment to those they hold dear, even in the face of adversity, resonates deeply with viewers and embodies the spirit of the One Republic song “Nobody.” As such, it becomes difficult not to root for both characters and to acknowledge their efforts with an internal standing ovation.
As the first episode of "Unknown" progresses, Qian’s dedication to his family and friends is further demonstrated as he takes on multiple responsibilities. In addition to caring for his sister and Zhiyuan, whom he considers as a brother, Qian becomes a professional gamer to supplement his income with livestreams.
The turning point in the first episode of "Unknown" arrives when Qian decides to break free from the gang’s control, but his attempt to leave is met with resistance. Hu, a member of the gang, retaliates by kidnapping Zhiyuan. This then forces Qian to participate in three critical matches as a means to secure Zhiyuan’s release.
The high stakes of these matches take a toll on Qian’s physical well-being, as he sustains a punctured lung and a head injury. The consequences of these injuries are severe, leaving Qian with a blood clot on his optic nerves and debilitating migraines. This intense and emotionally charged sequence of events showcases Qian’s unwavering determination to protect his loved ones, even at great personal cost.
In a touching display of brotherly devotion and sacrifice, Qian manages to win the matches despite his injuries, securing Zhiyuan’s freedom. Overwhelmed with emotion, the 11-year-old Zhiyuan breaks down in tears, expressing his belief that Qian should have prioritized his own safety.
Qian, however, reassures Zhiyuan that leaving him behind was never an option, emphasizing that without Zhiyuan, he has nothing. Qian’s heartfelt admission, declaring that without Zhiyuan and his sister Lily, he would have nothing in this world, reveals the depth of his love and commitment to his family.
With the support of his friend Sang Pang, whose parents offer him affordable housing, Qian also joins a startup gaming company and finishes a four-year college degree in three years. Alongside Sang Pang, Qian works with Xiong, an individual whose life experiences have shaped him into a resilient and driven person. After facing the adversity of his wife leaving him, Xiong sought refuge in a monastery but was encouraged by the monks to reintegrate into society. The diverse backgrounds and journeys of these characters, brought together by their shared passion for gaming, add depth and richness to the narrative of Unknown.
The poignant mantras uttered by Qian and Zhiyuan in the first episode of “Unknown” encapsulate the essence of their individual journeys and the heart of the series itself. Qian’s powerful statement, “Stay alive. . . live on. . . so you can find your home,” highlights his unwavering determination to create a better life for his family, even in the face of adversity.
Zhiyuan’s words, “In the end, life comes down to just a few things. . . where you come from, where you linger, what you want, and what’s left,” resonate with a deep understanding of the complexities of life and the importance of staying true to oneself and one’s loved ones.
"Unknown" explores the ways in which Qian and Zhiyuan navigate these mantras, grappling with the notion that sometimes, prioritizing the safety and well-being of one’s family may require the willingness to lose or give up personal ambitions. The characters’ growth and resilience in the face of these challenges ultimately culminate in their ability to overcome obstacles and emerge victorious, all while protecting the people they hold most dear and gaining what they most want/need in their lives, one another.
This series has had a profound emotional impact on me, offering a powerful exploration of themes such as love, family, and self-discovery. Its ability to connect with viewers on a personal level is a testament to the depth and authenticity of its storytelling.
This intense emotional engagement has been both cathartic and demanding, requiring introspection and self-reflection to fully appreciate the complex themes that Unknown presents. The delay in writing this series of posts is a result of this necessary process, allowing me to fully absorb and understand the impact of the show on a personal level.
"Unknown" has provided me with a newfound understanding and appreciation for the complexities of interpersonal connections and the transformative power of love and resilience. I am forever grateful to the creators for crafting such a powerful story that has not only captivated my attention; but also, aided in my personal growth and emotional healing.
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