Missing people quotes

A few months ago I found some texts (from around 4-5 months after we started dating) of my gf talking about how she misses her ex, would leave me for him if he wanted her back and basically she thought I was kind of a square compared to him because I don’t reveal much about myself. Now being 100% honest, I didn’t really care, because i was mentally checked out of relationships anyway. Long as I was having fun and getting some pussy I ain’t care. Time went on, and she started getting more into me, to the point where she always tells me she loves me and I don’t say it. She brings me food, cooks for me, we fuck whenever I want, runs little errands for me (even tho I don’t like asking for much because I rather do it alone) and always wants to hang out. Essentially, I have her mind. I can understand how she thought I was corny at the start cause I was still in a simp type mindframe when it came to women (I was fresh out of a 3 year relationship where I got cheated on, and she was too) but I fixed it as the new relationship went on.
Anyways, I had a dream about the texts tonight. I been stopped caring but the dream made me annoyed again. Do I just keep on as if nothing happened, or break up with her. I don’t care about what she said in an emotional way, but it’s kind of annoying how this bitch was shitting on me to her friends while acting like she was down at the start. She may be down now, but I can’t let shit like that pass. If she kept it to herself I wouldn’t care at all, but the fact that she told other people annoys me. I’ll get a new bitch when I want, but I barely like relationships now. What would yall do
Edit: for context we been dating since Dec 2022 and I met all her family and shit, plus we were in the same friend group for years before this

recently my fp and i have been talking a lot less than normal (for a couple months we would spend hours on call every night and a couple hours texting if not hanging out irl, and over the past month or two aside from 1 week where we were together in person every day, we’ve been talking much less. like, maybe 10-15 total minutes of texting (rather spaced out) and mostly only at night where we catch up on what happened in our day, what we’re looking forward to tomorrow and then our goodnights.
us talking less has been bothering me because i really miss him. rationally, i know that he has a lot of his own stuff going on and he’s very busy, which is valid and it’s definitely the reason we don’t really talk all day aside from when he’s free right before bed to check in. i want him to be happy and do things he enjoys and take care of himself, which includes being on his phone less. he reassures me whenever i communicate my feelings and ask if he still likes talking to/being around me. i’d say our relationship is rather healthy, i’ve completed dbt and use as many skills i know to keep it that way and communicate to avoid splitting and self sabotage. my bpd went into remission last summer but i feel like it returned a little bit when he became my fp and a lot more when i started feeling kind of insecure.
one thing i think hasn’t changed with dbt is my obsessiveness when it comes to fp’s. i’m not as outwardly clingy as i was before, and i don’t spam or excessively ask for validation or reassurement like i did before dbt, but i think about him ALL THE TIME. i feel like my attachment to my fp has changed since we started talking less, going from mostly secure to somewhat insecure. for the most part, the quality of my days has been depending on how much i get to interact with him, and i hate how it’s making me feel so empty. the less we talk on any given day, the more empty i feel. my days just kinda feel pointless and like i’m just waiting for the next time i can talk to or hang out with him. i was doing really well (as far as i remember) with having meaningful, fulfilled days before he became my fp (and during that time i didn’t have one)
not sure if it’s relevant, but i tend to split inwardly and only toward myself, though i do my best to fight it. i do my best to never see my fp in black and white or split on him and i do my absolute best to never fall into the cycle of “i feel like he’s going to leave me/doesn’t like me anymore/doesn’t want to talk to me” —> behaves in ways that cause him to leave/dislike me because i recognize when i get those “avoid abandonment” urges and fight them tooth and nail.
i think i’ll talk to my therapist about this and ask for his professional advice, but he also was assigned to me when i was really young and doesn’t specialize in BPD so i figured i would ask people with similar, if not the same, experiences.
TLDR: my fp has been talking to me less in the past 2ish months than the other 4 that we were really close during, and i’ve started feeling insecure bc of this and as if my days only have meaning/fulfillment when i get to interact with him and have a satisfactory conversation and/or talk for longer than usual. how do i stop this habit/dependency?

Enlisting to do raids for the daily quests/xp and so far no one is accepting. It scales to everyone's level and you don't need a "perfect" comp to blow through the raids. Are people really trying to be selective on invites or am I missing something?

i was speaking to a male romantically who has schizophrenia for a month until he blocked me due to a misunderstanding & the voices in his head convinced him i will hurt him in the future. he then unblocked me 3 months later, we spoke for the first 3 days of september after i reached out. in those days he was constantly reassuring me that he will not leave again & that he will not block me, as i was super worried and telling him how upset & hurt i was and how much i missed him. he also stated that he does care about me because i'm genuine, rare and sweet & caring towards him.
he also stated that he missed me a fair amount because of those reasons too. when i asked him if he was speaking to another girl whilst i was gone, he said he didnt because he hates getting to know new people, and learning what their favourite colour is etc. as he detests them any time they speak, but he stated with me he never once had that feeling. when i asked that if he did miss me why he didnt reach out, he stated that he thought i hated him so he thought it would be pointless.
i also deeply expressed my feelings for him & my careness towards him etc multiple times. on the 3rd day of us talking we were on the discussion of caring, and i stated that if he did not care about me then i would of course leave. i then a few minutes later asked him if he would care if i left. (i only stated that because i wanted to get an insight if he actually cared for me or not. i have severe trust issues and have never trusted anyone in my life, he was the only person i truly ever trusted, i know i shouldn't have said those comments but my paranoia takes over me at times. as obviously i would never leave him, i could never.) but when he stated that he would be hurt a little i felt so guilty & my brain immediately stated to itself that i will never leave him as i never want to hurt him and that will never be my intention as i care too much about him and have deep feelings for him.
we then changed topics to music bands & were having a laugh with each other about other topics everything seemed to be going well & fine until he went to his friends dad's birthday party & left me on seen & didn't respond until 8pm-3 or 4am and i thought it was so strange he then later in the morning blocked me. i do believe yet again the voices got to him & made him believe that i will leave & hurt him.
i requested his private twitter account (that's the only application he hasn't blocked me on because he didn't know my username) he dmed me stating "dawg leave me alone 💀" i replied "hi, i just wanted to see how you were doing and to gain a bit of clarity" he then proceeds to send a picture of him and what looks like his girlfriend in bed, with the caption "womp womp" i blocked him.
it's strange as he's never had his meeeage requests opened (you would have to go to settings) but as soon as i requsted he opened his message requests & then when i blocked him, a few minutes later he closed his message requests through settings. he also hasn't blocked me still? when normally he blocks me straight away. what on earth does that mean? i also wonder if he would in a few months regret what he did and apologise? my friend said he probably sent that image because he's petty, wants to hurt me and isn't 100% over me? is she correct?

I've taken multiple tests and want to know exactly what type I am. I'd like an extra opinion on what potential types I might have, as I'm not sure if what results I am getting are due to me wanting to be a certain type and a certain person, and if I am an unbiased enough source. I'm not even sure if my answers to the questionnaire are the most reliable, especially since I have a bad recollection of what I've thought of in the past or my behaviors, and I have a memory that is not ideal in certain areas. On tests, I've gotten INTP, ENTP, and I have a feeling INFP and ENFP might be strong contenders.

• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

All I’m going to say about my age is that I am young and I’m a student. I am female. I don’t think I understand myself too much, but I’m trying. I’m not sure how accurately I can assess myself.

• Is there a medical diagnosis that impact your mental/comportamental stability somehow?

I have been diagnosed with ADHD.

• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

That depends. I do it all the time and it really depends on how much I can do before getting bored. When I’m alone I can at least reflect on things, ideas, or whatever is going on in my head. I already spend most of my time alone because I have no social life and I find it hard to get to know people I click with, or people I can share my ideas with. Without other people, I can't discuss my ideas with other people and get their thoughts, which is something I like to have.

• What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event what is it? And why? If not what type of activities do you tend to engage in?

I’m going to admit that I’m not the best at observing my surroundings. I have a tendency to walk too close to the counter and hit the side of my body against it, or smack my foot on a chair leg. I walk strangely. I’ve noticed that. That might be an ADHD thing.

• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

I’d like to say that I’m curious. But am I? I’m not sure. What things about me, things that I question, my general outlook on life, what qualities found within me would label me as someone who's curious? What I’m curious about can change, I tend to hop from one thing to another, which leaves me with a large amount of surface knowledge, but I can never get too deep into anything due to my mind already getting preoccupied by something else. I'd say I have more ideas than what I can execute. There are so many different paths I can take, so many different ways I can write this, or do that. My ideas are more conceptual. I'd think of a way to write a story or an imaginary situation. I'd go into more detail, but trying to pull up exactly what my ideas are is hard. It seems like I tend to forget my ideas a lot, or until something triggers them again.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I don’t know if I’d enjoy a leadership position or not. I dislike having to wrangle other people into doing their jobs during group projects, and I don’t like doing work I’m not interested in. I’d rather do things myself just because only I can at least measure up to my lofty expectations, or at least conjure a small fraction of them. I don’t take leadership positions often, so I’m not sure how I’d lead others. I’d rather question and criticize the leader’s decisions rather than contribute any meaningful ideas to the project.

• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?

I am not coordinated. I run into things all the time, the edge of my desk, my door frame, the door handle, the countertop, a chair, etc. I walk super funny. I don’t mind working with my hands. It’s nice sometimes. I like working with my hands in the sense that it keeps my hands occupied. I move and fidget a lot. I can't sit still. It doesn't feel write when I'm forced to not at least move one part of my body repetitively.

• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

I don’t know if I’m artistic. I’ve created my own characters for a story, or at least the shreds of one, and I like to come up with imaginary scenarios. I like to create elements in settings. Oftentimes, I do need some inspiration, something I can take an idea and turn it into something else. I really enjoy music and stories. With music, there’s something about it that I love, how it can evoke something from me, oftentimes a moment of an imaginary story, if that makes sense. I enjoy stories because there is so much to get from it. It’s at least entertaining, and it’s interesting to see how someone, a character or a real individual ends in the way they do.

• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

I have a bad memory, at least in certain aspects. The past is something I do wish I could remember better, at least to remember the fun and good things that happened, but there’s not much I can do about it. The future is something I fantasize about. I wonder what I’ll be, what I could be, and how unrealistic those paths and outcomes are. It’s a way to pass the time. There’s so much that could happen, so many ways my life could instantly change for the worse. There’s not much to say about the present. It constantly changes and it never stays for long in my memory. So I’ll just do whatever will keep me entertained for the moment. I have a sort of disconnect from my past self. When I think about myself, I have a hard time seeing any version of myself aside from my present self. It's hard to comprehend that I've changed, rather, I feel as if I've always been the way that I am.

• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

That is heavily dependent on what exactly I am helping other people with. If it's anything involving heavy lifting, I'm not going to be too happy with it, just because I'm not going to be helpful. I help people due to

• Do you need logical consistency in your life?

I’m not sure. I like to get what I expect out of my work. Reality is unrealistic. It might be futile to expect logic to happen. It might be nice in some areas.

• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

I’d be better if I were more efficient and productive, but I’m not. I’ll either be doing no work or forty hours of work within two hours.

• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

Do I? I might. I might be doing it subconsciously. I find others that I’m not too familiar with. I know what members of my family like me better. So I’ll use that to my advantage. I know that while I’m awkward and have a hard time talking to people like a normal person, I’m aware that some people find it appealing, especially if I’m genuine (or at least seem that way) or nice to them.

• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

My hobbies constantly change because I tend to bounce between multiple hobbies. One day I’m looking at airplane crashes. Next, I’m looking at birds or disasters. I’ll watch a whole bunch of media analysis videos because I tend to miss so many details when consuming pieces of media. I do have this whole fantasy world with a large number of characters I've made up, just due to how it encourages me to research other topics and I find it fun to implement elements from other pieces of media into it. I also have an addiction to TvTropes because I find looking at patterns in pieces of media quite fun, and it's fun seeing how certain tropes are a thing.

• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?

Funnily enough, I could never figure out my learning style. That was because I tended to pick up on subjects very easily, so I never could tell what worked with me better. I prefer a learning environment where I can ask questions and get clarification, and as much as I dislike engaging and working with groups, I find it easier to process things if I can at least discuss those subjects with other people.

• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?

I’m not that good at strategizing. I’d rather wing it, just due to my inability to think of ideas and paths to get things done. I can't get my brain in order and any plans I make will get derailed soon afterwards.

• What's important to you and why?

I thought about it for a little bit and realized that I don't have much of an idea about what I find important. I think I seek validation from people, as much as I don't admit it. I think I care about people's opinions more than I'd like to. But individual things that are important to me? I'm not sure. I've been trying to make some things important to me.

• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?

I fear rejection. I'm horribly sensitive to it and I'm not sure why. I can't name what I hate, but there are a lot of things that I'm frustrated with. I have some existential fears. I'm scared of what people could do to me. I fear what people think of me. I'm sure it's because people see me as strange. I'm alone, but I don't mind too much. But I still have that part of myself that has those fears.

• What do the "highs" in your life look like?

I'm enjoying new things, and new experiences.

• What do the "lows" in your life look like?

I'm stuck in an endless loop of days that seem to blend, doing the same mind-numbing tasks over and over. Then I start to wonder if this is all life has to offer me. Or I'm going through that downward spiral and I wonder if I can truly be valued, loved, or have any worth. I feel unlovable when stressed.

• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?

I am not attached to reality at all. I daydream a lot. When I daydream, my surroundings fade away. I’ve noticed that this happens when I’m focused on one task. I’ll often walk around, thinking about various subjects. I have walked past people I know well without noticing them despite knowing them well, just because I'm so deep in thought that I no longer notice things that are practically in front of me.

• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?

I’m not sure how I’ll react, but I have a few theories. I’ll just think about multiple things, like philosophical concepts, the latest form of media I’ve consumed, and random things. I’ll be thinking about all of my characters and potential plot points for a story. I’ll pace around while doing so because I’ll think better when my legs are moving and I’m walking around in circles. Eventually, I’ll get bored. Then I’ll contemplate a large number of things like when I’ll get to do something else because I need something to trigger the thought process. I might just sleep. Who knows. I might go down a dark spiral of self-pity, or maybe I’ll be confused about how I got into that room in the first place.

• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?

I wait as long as I possibly can because I’ll probably have no idea what I’m doing. I’ll make a decision and question it. I’d like to say I’d try and consider if it’s a good decision, but I’m going to need a little more context about what decision I’m making before I’ll know what my approach on making important decisions is.

• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?

I have a hard time regulating my emotions. So oftentimes, I’ll be wondering why I’m feeling that way, why I’m reacting a certain way. I tend to start overanalyzing my emotions and overthink things. A lot of the time, I can’t figure it out. I find my emotions to be rather annoying, I can be overly sensitive and easily overwhelmed by emotions. I’m pretty sure that’s partially because of my ADHD, after doing some research. I find my emotions strange because I often react emotionally in strange ways.

• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

I don't remember doing this. There are other ways to keep a conversation going and it depends on if I really want to be talking with this person for any longer.

• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why would you?

I wouldn’t consider myself that much of a rulebreaker. I’ll pirate stuff. I’ll ignore stuff that other people say. I think authority should be challenged, especially since I’ve reasoned that oftentimes, authority does not know better. I’m too lazy to be outright defiant. If a rule’s stupid, I might ignore it.

I work for highly disorganized partners. It starts at the equity level and flows down to the NEPs as well. I have only ever worked for these partners and our group is fairly isolated within the firm so I don’t know how other groups are run/if they are better. I’m curious, do you feel like your partners are organized? Do they set up cases and get people working on tasks in a streamlined manner? Even if they are hands off, do they have systems in place that keeps it all running for them smoothly? I feel like my group is constantly emailing back and forth asking who is covering what case that has a deadline we are about to miss, nothing gets saved in our shared file server, and the only way to figure out what’s going on is if you’re lucky enough to be copied on a couple of email chains that somewhat let you piece it together.

i was speaking to a male romantically who has schizophrenia for a month until he blocked me due to a misunderstanding & the voices in his head convinced him i will hurt him in the future. he then unblocked me 3 months later, we spoke for the first 3 days of september after i reached out. in those days he was constantly reassuring me that he will not leave again & that he will not block me, as i was super worried and telling him how upset & hurt i was and how much i missed him. he also stated that he does care about me because i'm genuine, rare and sweet & caring towards him.
he also stated that he missed me a fair amount because of those reasons too. when i asked him if he was speaking to another girl whilst i was gone, he said he didnt because he hates getting to know new people, and learning what their favourite colour is etc. as he detests them any time they speak, but he stated with me he never once had that feeling. when i asked that if he did miss me why he didnt reach out, he stated that he thought i hated him so he thought it would be pointless.
i also deeply expressed my feelings for him & my careness towards him etc multiple times. on the 3rd day of us talking we were on the discussion of caring, and i stated that if he did not care about me then i would of course leave. i then a few minutes later asked him if he would care if i left. (i only stated that because i wanted to get an insight if he actually cared for me or not. i have severe trust issues and have never trusted anyone in my life, he was the only person i truly ever trusted, i know i shouldn't have said those comments but my paranoia takes over me at times. as obviously i would never leave him, i could never.) but when he stated that he would be hurt a little i felt so guilty & my brain immediately stated to itself that i will never leave him as i never want to hurt him and that will never be my intention as i care too much about him and have deep feelings for him.
we then changed topics to music bands & were having a laugh with each other about other topics everything seemed to be going well & fine until he went to his friends dad's birthday party & left me on seen & didn't respond until 8pm-3 or 4am and i thought it was so strange he then later in the morning blocked me. i do believe yet again the voices got to him & made him believe that i will leave & hurt him.
i requested his private twitter account (that's the only application he hasn't blocked me on because he didn't know my username) he dmed me stating "dawg leave me alone 💀" i replied "hi, i just wanted to see how you were doing and to gain a bit of clarity" he then proceeds to send a picture of him and what looks like his girlfriend in bed, with the caption "womp womp" i blocked him.
it's strange as he's never had his meeeage requests opened (you would have to go to settings) but as soon as i requsted he opened his message requests & then when i blocked him, a few minutes later he closed his message requests through settings. he also hasn't blocked me still? when normally he blocks me straight away. what on earth does that mean? i also wonder if he would in a few months regret what he did and apologise? my friend said he probably sent that image because he's petty, wants to hurt me and isn't 100% over me? is she correct?

Hello everyone!!
It will be greatly appreciated if you could please help me with filling out this survey for my Mexican American studies class. It is surrounding the issue of the alarming number of disappearances/missing people in Mexico. You don’t have to know about this topic to fill it out and it’ll only take a few minutes to complete.
Link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeLDfgXdjifJ4FFSNuTe-UbnGft3zq4BMndLC6mSlZydBTHYQ/viewform?usp=sf_link
Thank you so much! (I just need 5 more people to fill this out, also you don’t have to put in your name if you are not comfortable with that)

Hey! I'm interested in knowing how some of out favourite companies here are run, and what goes on there, I want to ""interview"" some employees of said companies. I already know some contacts, but I want as many as possible
Here's a list of places where I know people who work for their companies
u/terrylee1010- wurkkos
contact@intl-outdoor.com - hank
@Simon_MAO / AliX chat - convoy
u/Acebeam-Zora - Acebeam
u/olight - olight (duh) (but there was one other guy who works for olight who's on here often, but I can't find the name, can someone help me out)
u/jlhawaii808
u/fireflylite-jack
Other than their cs email on their site, nothing
Skilhunt
Wuben
Armytek
Zebralight
Sofirn
Let me know if there's other companies/people I'm missing!

This might be kind of a weird post, but similarly to many of you there, I've been feverishly searching and trying everything to try and improve my CFS. And one of my symptoms is constant thirst - I drink something like double the water other people do, and it seems like my mouth is always dry.
But the worst part is that for the last few years, I've been getting these debilitating dehydration crashes, where my thirst gets exponentially worse, and no matter how much I drink it it can't be sated, and I become functionally useless for days or weeks at a time. I've been to the doctor over and over again for this, and been cleared for diabetes, diabetes insipidus (which is something very different, look it up), and had a very expensive CAT scan and many, many blood tests that showed absolutely nothing.
Lately, I've been experimenting with rehydration salts, first starting with propel packets and then moving to medical rehydration salts, with limited success. Then I heard about rectal rehydration - apparently it's the fastest way to rehydrate someone when they're dangerously dehydrated and can't swallow because they're vomiting or unconscious. Weird, yes, but again, I'm willing to try whatever.
So now, when I think I feel a more extreme thirst than usual (usually in the morning, once or twice a week), I've been administering 250ml of rehydration solution rectally using an enema bag, up to 2x a day. And... I think it's working? It's only been a few weeks I've been trying it, but I haven't had a bad crash for a while, dehydration or otherwise.
Time will tell if this is really working, but if so, it makes me wonder why. Apparently rectal administration bypasses the stomach and liver - is there something there wrong with me that the doctors are missing?
Anyway, between this, my CPAP treating my sleep apnea, and the modafinil prescription I started at the beginning of this year, I actually finally feel like a normal person again for the first time in years. I wonder if trying this will help anyone else with CFS.

Hi okay I'm very emotional right now so this might sound like rambling. work with me here. not saying anyone's ages.
My roommate (f) has recently started seeing this new boy. They've gone on a few dates to test the waters and they call almost every night. I (nb) already don't like this dude because I grew up in school with him and know that he's a little pos. She just met him though, and sees the good in him.
I love that she's finding people, especially after her last few boyfriends, but truth be told I'm trying to stop this before it gets too far because I know him as a lil shit. Is that selfish of me? Probably. But I want her to be with someone better than him.
I was beside her yesterday night on a call with him and his friend. They were chatting and he was honestly making my opinion of him better, until we got to the subject of non binary/trans people. As you read, I am non binary. Truly I don't like labels and tend to just say I'm trans, but for the sake of clarity, I'm nb. I use they/them and I've met a lot of people recently who can't really tell if I'm a girl or a boy. It's a little painful but it's whatever.
My roommate brings up non binary people casually and this boy goes (as I recall, not perfectly quoted) "Y'know I find it so stupid that they call themselves non-binary. They just put themselves into their own binary! Can they not see that?!"
It takes me so off guard that I can't even say anything. All I can do is gesture from my roommate to the screen with a shocked look in hopes she picks up on what I'm feeling. But in the times where she muted herself and I explained it to her, she just said things like "whatever" and "okay okay" and whatnots. She went on in the conversation without acknowledging the comment or saying anything.
When they ended the call, I tried explaining in detail to her why the comment had hurt me. She didn't understand and when I asked if she would talk to him about it, she said she wasn't going to, that it didn't matter, and that she didn't want to start a fight with him. She also told me that it just means he needs to learn better, to which I asked her from who and when. We never really got to a conclusion.
I don't know what to do. I want to trust her and back her up if she does confront him, but I can't do that if she's choosing to disregard what I'm feeling in place of not wanting to have a disagreement with this boy. I also don't understand why it has to be an argument, I imagine it would just be "hey me and my friend didn't like what you said yesterday about nb people, could you not say anything like that again please?". If he says "no fuck you" then that shows his true personality, if he says "okay I'm sorry" then I'll know he didn't mean it and that he's really kind like she says he is.
(Also, the reason I want her to talk to him is because she has his contact information while I don't.)
I talked to another one of my trans friends about it and she also took great offense to what he said, so I'm wondering if this is a "trans people get it but cis people don't" situation. But am I overreacting? And what should I do, if anything?
Again, sorry if this sounds like rambling. I can clear things up in comments if questions are asked. I would appreciate answers from trans people but cis are NOT excluded from this conversation.

I just got to the end and beat the last boss. Credits rolled and then the game crashed. I got every character except Diykstra and the four that would require me to play minigames for hours - and of course Leene.
There's a lot I liked about Eiyuden: the classic Suiko "gotta catch em all" vibe, the feeling of bringing people of different backgrounds together to work towards a common goal, the sprite art, and Michiko Naruke's soundtrack.
But...
Too many things are broken. The loading screens are long and frequent, the pacing is bad, the minigames are bad, the duels and war battles are barely-interactive-cutscenes. The lore is not at all fleshed out, there are way too many places important to the story that you never get to see (Kenan???). They didn't balance many of the combat systems. There is too much of that weird "mobile game" aesthetic (such as in monster design, minigames, etc) which I found very unpleasant. Completing the castle is tedious. Menus take too long to load and flip through. The game crashes, crashes, crashes. The story is low-stakes and written (seemingly) for children, which would be fine except that this is a game specifically made for people in their 30's and older. For example, when Perielle died I felt nothing. The writing, while at times funny and charming, was mostly embarrassingly milquetoast, especially the writing for NPCs and side characters. Lastly, and this is more major than it sounds: the beeping noise that plays every time you make a selection in any menu or advance dialogue is grating and constant. In general, the fun I had with this game was interrupted by way too much, excuse my French, dumb shit.
All in all my review is: A bad game.
I will take your downvotes now lol.
Edit: another thing that bothered me is how much of the important story events - e.g. Euchrisse getting conquered and later liberated, recruiting the elves to the cause, Norristar being liberated, etc etc happen offscreen. The number of missed opportunities is staggering, especially when you think about all the dumb shit they did manage to include - like the big titty undead lady? what was that side story even about? did anyone care about that?

I started this to meet people from Wisconsin who have also moved down here. It’s intended to be a place to give us all a little taste of home, even if you don’t miss Wisconsin 😂. But us Wisconsinites stick together.
A little about me;
I moved down here last year to work in racing and I love living here.
I am an avid rock climber, hiker, and motorcycle rider.
I enjoy living down here greatly and the city of Charlotte is an awesome place to live. Similar vibes to Milwaukee, but it’s warm year round. Down side is there isn’t the massive ocean we call a lake here, but there’s mountains.

Am I missing something? It pops up for every one in my contacts list. I only want it for 2 people.

So my wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3. Both in our mid-30s and now have a toddler. She works in the tech world, I'm in real estate. As a couple, we do well financially and contribute roughly 50/50 depending on how I do from year-to-year (sometimes maybe more like 60/40 in her favor, other times 60/40 in mine). We don't have any major issues though we still deal with little annoying arguments about dumb shit like most married couples with a new child.

• My wife has always been a little jealous of my work/life balance as my own boss and I understand why. Real estate can be a cushy gig when you're not greedy and decent at the job. The downside is that every day I wake up not knowing when my next paycheck is coming - which is definitely stressful at times. My wife (let's call her Elle) has a well-paid salary position with good benefits (namely FREE health insurance for her entire family). And about a year ago she finished a 6-figure masters degree to help push her further in her career and create more professional opportunity for herself. Unfortunately, she's miserable with her job. I get it, her boss sucks, the why is kind of irrelevant. For almost 2 months now she's emotionally drained every day and on the verge of tears almost every night. I'd want to leave too.
  
• So we came up with a plan. While I've been in my industry for awhile, I just branched off and started my own business within it about a year ago. It's gone well so far and should have a bright future but it's still very early and likely going to experience it's fair share of bumps in the road along the way. Also, I'm not super entrepreneurial and I only work as hard as I need to in order to enjoy the life we've created for ourselves (think 30-40 hours per week vs 50-60+ like the "grind & hustle" mindset bros on Insta). A healthy work/life balance is more important to me than retiring at 50 but being exhausted and missing my kid's childhood.
  
• Elle's Master's Degree is in Business Development and Marketing. What a coincidence - I have a company that needs to be developed and marketed, Elle wants to market a company and be in charge of it's growth/development. So I suggest "why don't you come grow my company and help me expand it? Not only will it help provide for us financially in the long-run but you will have that freedom that you've been yearning for since forever." She agrees it's a perfect fit. Likely two steps back to take three steps forward over the next couple years but totally worth the early sacrifices. So the next step is leaving her job. But that takes a bit of planning for a few reasons.
  
• One - health insurance/salary/bonus timing. We need to be smart about this so we don't end up taking the L for no reason if it's avoidable without much sacrifice. Two - alignment of some of my transactions closing and paydays associated. Three - we have a contract with a nanny until the end of July for our toddler that runs us roughly $3k/mo. The plan we ultimately decided on was to have her give 4-weeks notice at end of June / early July. If they boot her that day, whatever we can handle it. But losing her will be a big hit for them in her role so they'll likely have her help to find/train a replacement at the very least before leaving. Once leaving entirely by early August, she wants to be a stay-at-home-mom with our child for 6-8 weeks until they hit 1y/o and can go to daycare. It's a pivotal time in our child's development and being able to be a significant part of it will be wonderful for them both and I desperately want it for them.
  
• BUT! The idea has always been to come work with me full-time after that and sending our child to daycare during the work day. Our expenses are built on a dual-income household and we now also have 6-figure student loan debt from Elle's grad degree AND a new (to us) expense in health insurance for the family. If the work with me isn't a fit for her or we just can't seem to make the numbers work out after our runway has been used up, she would go back to corporate America and find a new job. We even took out a HELOC on our home just as a failsafe for liquidity if absolutely necessary so we wouldn't have to pull from any penalized/taxed retirement accounts.
  
• Well we found out this weekend that THREE sets of couples we are mutually friends with locally are transitioning to a single-income home with a SAHM for their new children. She told me tonight after chatting with them that she wants to take an extended leave from working full-time so she can spend important time with our child instead of sending them to daycare. When I asked Elle what that meant and how long she was planning, she said "indefinitely". Which to her just basically means "until I'm ready to go back". We got into a big fight because I explained to her that we are not in a financial position to support ourselves off my COMMISSION-ONLY income that can be highly variable with no benefits. Sure we could manage for a handful of months but not indefinitely. Our mutual friends choosing to do it have different circumstances - namely husbands in very safe and financially secure salary-based roles with benefits (and additionally wives with only moderate income jobs that won't be dramatically missed when accounting for the savings of childcare expenses).
  
• Elle feels like I'm not supporting her and said she feels very pressured to continue working and "provide" with a stable salary and healthcare. She doesn't want to miss important moments with our child and feels like the only way to ensure that happens is if she stops working full-time and instead does little "side hustle" type work in the evenings after the baby is put to sleep. As a reference, the side hustles are learning affiliate marketing, blogging, paid reviewing, selling old stuff on FB marketplace, etc. It's not like she wants to start her own company on the side instead of working for mine. She also keeps bringing up how she supported me in my professional transition into real estate many years ago and carried the brunt of the financial obligations but I won't do the same for her. Which I feel like is an unfair comparison. I was transitioning from one career to another and working part-time jobs during the 6-8 months it took me to get ramped up into my very real full-time position in real estate. She wants to transition from work to no work and have me agree to support that.
  
• I can't seem to help her see that logically it's not about a lack of support. I showed my support for her transition into a career with more personal freedom when I told her she could quit her job tomorrow as long as she had a plan for when the baby went to daycare in a few months. Whether that's a new job in the corporate world or working with me to grow the family business or any other income-replacing endeavor. I don't care what it is as long as it's bringing in legitimate income or working towards that with a light at the end of the tunnel. I feel like THAT is supporting her choice to leave her toxic circumstance. But what I don't support is committing to a single income when we are just not stable enough to handle it. And when she said she felt pressured I explained that her statement seems selfish because she's asking ME to take on all of OUR financial responsibility with a young child so that she can stay at home and not work while I also pay for our new healthcare obligations AND pay off her student loan debt that she just got. It literally makes zero sense to me why she can't see that this is our reality and I would also choose to not work if it was an option but unfortunately it puts far too much burden on the now sole-earning spouse to handle it all. I know a lot of people do it but it's not as impactful if a spouse goes from being a teacher at $40k/yr to a SAHM that saves the family $20k/year in childcare. It's only a $20k net loss. Elle is a comfortable 6-figure employee so I just don't think it's fair to ask or even realistic to expect me to agree to. Sure I COULD work 80 hours a week and make more money by investing more time but why should I have to? She's always been very professionally driven (hence the recent Master's Degree) and it seems unfair to build a life on the expectation of two incomes just to bail as soon as our obligations get more complicated and then expect me to pick up the slack by myself. I would not expect Elle to do it for me so I'm frustrated that she thinks it's ok.
  

Anyways - Am I being the asshole here by telling her that she's being selfish and that we can't afford to drop down to a single-income household?

This was me tonight, 7-10 years later and I still can't process how these memories seemed like a century ago! As I was looking through I thought about all the memories I've had and how I don't talk to a lot of the people from band anymore. I didn't come from a well known band and sure we never were that good, never went to state nor area rounds, to cheap for any kind of boa events, or even made a finals placement in any of the competitions we went to. The shows were very easy to learn as well.
How I see things, none of the stuff I listed mattered to me, I had the most fun in the memories I've made and that's all that really mattered. It's not just marching band but band in general. I really miss those days 😭

so this regular guy has got a sistedaughter with a terminal disease (cancer or something), so he signs up to go to this fantasy world for a shitload of money. he goes through this portal in a government facility with a load of gear like guns, ammo and food, but most of those supplies go are missing when he finally reaches the fantasy world. he is left with a few crates and a couple of guns, including an AK which is the one he walks around with for most of the first book. he meets this lizard man thing and befriends him, giving him a pair of sunglasses. the guy goes into the nearby town which has this giant dungeon tower that he has to ascend. in the town, he meets a cat who won't leave him alone until it is revealed that the cat is actually a high-ranking, probably large breasted, elf adventurer. him and the elf woman team up and the first book ends with him and some other adventurers a few floors up the tower. if people here know the name of it, I would appreciate it being shared as I want to read more of the series. thanks.

I know it’s rare for someone to be in my position, and I understand strangers on Reddit can’t help me, but I just need to vent. I’m turning 33 years old in a couple months and I’ve never had a girlfriend before…I can’t even get a foot in the door to start the process; its been almost two year since I’ve even been on a date. I’m incredibly lonely, and just want to experience real love and companionship with the right woman.
Dating is hard for a lot of folks these days I’m sure, but it hurts me that I’m so behind my peers, and can’t do something so basic as to find a single woman within a 100 mile radius of my house, where we’re both mutually interested and attracted to each other to go one simple date and get to know each other.
I’m a normal, healthy, emotionally stable fully functioning adult in society: I’m self-aware, in therapy, good job, I’m fit and hit the gym 3-4 days a week, a plethora of active hobbies, and take care of my hygiene. I’m family oriented and would love to be a dad someday. Everyone tells me looks aren’t my problem (I am on the shorter side for a guy at 5’7), but people around me say I’m a funny and charismatic person to be around. I know I’m not automatically entitled to dates just because I think I’m a good man, but the reality is I don’t even get a chance to prove myself…ever.
My dating apps are a barren wasteland and don’t work for me. I never get matches, despite having my profiles reviewed several times right on here on Reddit and by friends. They all say I should be swimming in matches and it’s one of the better profiles they’ve seen. Alas its been almost two years since I’ve had a date or even a real match that wasn’t a scammer or bot. I’m not just relying on dating apps though, I’ve made a genuinely honest effort to put myself out there in real life and join hobbies and activities to meet people.
I’ve tried basically everything:
joining meetups, hiking groups, single events, board game nights, going out to bars with friends, dance classes, the cold approach, leaving my number on waitresses receipts, using the dating apps, rock climbing gyms, and even asking friends of friends if they know anyone they could set me up with. (Everyone is married so they all said they don’t know anyone). All of that and not a single date. Needless to say I did manage to make a few friends here or there which is awesome, but that’s about it…not even a phone number or social media handle to show for it. All I see is rejection and to date, I’ve legitimately never had a woman say yes to me in person before. Not even hyperbole, literally 100% rejection rate. I’m charming, smell good and take a genuine interest in people but it’s never mutual back. I feel like I’m missing some secret sauce or something; I’m at a complete loss why women are never interested in me back.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not desperate. I’m not going after Instagram models or have unrealistic standards, but I’m also not settling for just any woman for sake of being with someone.
Quite frankly I’ve done the single thing. I’ve spent my whole life single, I’ve put in the self-growth and effort. Now I want to experience the other side of life and know what it’s like to have a partner, to meet my special person who’s as excited about me as I am about them.
Loneliness is the worst imaginable pain I’ve ever experienced, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. This statement coming from someone who got 3rd degree burns from spilling boiling bacon grease on himself as a kid.
I don’t want to give up, but with zero successes, I don’t know what else to do. 😞

I absolutely adored the poem. I honestly found most of the commentary a slog to get through, but now that I’ve finished it and thought about it I like it, especially the character of Kinbote. I am going to be honest, I don’t think I picked up on much of anything. For most of the book I was under the impression that Kinbote’s just a lonely, useless guy who imagines he’s the king of a made up land called Zembla and want his poet friend to bring this land to life so he feels worthy. However, there’s some stuff that doesn’t make sense with this, like that one part where somebody recognizes Kinbote as the ex-king of Zembla. I feel like I’m either missing something or have it all wrong. I was also under the impression that Kinbote imagined all allusions to Gradus and Zembla, but some of the references to Gradus are so apparent that it make me think that maybe Shade didn’t actually write them? Anyways please point to places to look! Also I saw some people saying the index is important but I can’t find anything of note in there (I did skim it tbh).

so this regular guy has got a sistedaughter with a terminal disease (cancer or something), so he signs up to go to this fantasy world for a shitload of money. he goes through this portal in a government facility with a load of gear like guns, ammo and food, but most of those supplies go are missing when he finally reaches the fantasy world. he is left with a few crates and a couple of guns, including an AK which is the one he walks around with for most of the first book. he meets this lizard man thing and befriends him, giving him a pair of sunglasses. the guy goes into the nearby town which has this giant dungeon tower that he has to ascend. in the town, he meets a cat who won't leave him alone until it is revealed that the cat is actually a high-ranking, probably large breasted, elf adventurer. him and the elf woman team up and the first book ends with him and some other adventurers a few floors up the tower.
if people here know the name of it, I would appreciate it being shared as I want to read more of the series.
thanks.

looking for non-specific friend advice, hope thats alright and not directly against any rules, have tried advice, but no answers :/
i know it's long but I appreciate every read and skip-read, thanks!!
(first part could prolly be skipped? not sure)
So as the title says I (m19) feel pretty lonely bcs I realised I never really "had anybody", which I think is really more the problem ig?
Quick situation: I'm deep in Uni applications for fine arts, so lots of portfolio's, A LOT to do, as I REALLY need to get accepted somewhere this yr. . Finished my Highschool/A-levels in arts last year; and am now doing a voluntary year which, incl. commute, takes about 36 hrs of my week.
I wanna move away end of summer, "as far" as possible, bcs I kinda want a fresh start.
Social situation: So my parents spereated when I was 5, but, as i heard soon enough, they technically did "5" yrs before that and just lived together for my sake; which I realise as I'm writing this, I actually changed my mind and think that was a shit idea and they handled it very poorly.
In General:To put it shortly they both kinda fucked about about how they ..were? I think I was more of a best friend/therapist for him after all that; and my mother actually behaved like a mother, just very cold? like not comically so, but she just really isn't like that. It just sucks when she is The person in your life. (I'm kinda like that too so I don't even really blame her, but also I don't plan on having children so..). As for the rest of my family; can automatically ignore my father's side, except for a few but I don't really know them anyways. My mothers side, I all love them very dearly, you got your problems but all very normal and nice.
I just always had a kind of social anxiety towards those closest to me, ESPECIALLY family bcs, well they're probably gonna know you forever, which is very scary, more so than with a person/s you "choose".
I've got "lots" of friends, and one ore two close people (f21) i could even really talk to if needed to I'm sure? (100%!) And my two "✨besties✨" (2x f20), i really like them, and we are a fun group, don't really see eachother that often bcs of distance. But we aren't really the feelings kinda gals, more like gossip and life update, and a good vacation/sleepover. It'd be "weird" to be all emotionally with them, bcs we just aren't like that (not a no-go tho!), which works for us, one of them is even "cold/distant" in the same way as me, which i think is actually quite fun and bond-y sometimes. so all good there. (** I'm not really cold or distant more like "oh yeah he's the sarcastic/dry one" or something like that ig, it just feels kinda cold and empty sometimes)
I'm not in therapy rn, which obviously is something that needs doing, but I don't think that's the main problem, or that's what's actually missing. * I don't really need to talk it out or anything, I just need someone that's like there? i know that sounds so desperate but I'm afraid it's just what it is. I haven't had a succesful realtionship since 2020, which ended really fucking poorly, but it's just about this warm feeling before that. He was my best friends since 6th grade before that so I don't really have another example of that feeling but a good handful of short lived ones. I don't think it was HIM tho, we didn't really talk like that either, so it's not that or anything.
I don't even need a partner or something like that, just a good, warm friend, as sad as that sounds.
But even that I don't really feel like doing bcs I mean I don't even really have the time anyways which just sucks for everybody, and most for my portfolios.
But also I really, really want some male friends? that sounds awful and lonely but I don't really have a lot, and none close to me. But anyone would be fine really
(But also I really need some guy friends, bcs my b-day is in july and it's not exactly perfect to be the only guy at your own 20 person party)
As I said, I really don't know what to do with myself rn, I would really welcome some advice, as I think i really need some, and it's not like I can go to, even my most emotionally supportive, friends and be like '' yeah so I dont really feel close and homely with anybody not even you, sorry darling''
I'm really lost, but also I don't feel like opening any new barrels (??) "right before" I move away and meet new people, but also also until sept/oct is still quiet a long time.
I just want to meet some new people, which also seems kinda annoying to me, bcs I don't wanna waste any of my time as the "gay best friend" or being some flimsy whimsy weirdo to some Dude
* I don't want someone new to fill a void and fix all my problems or make up for 20 years of whatever this is or anything, I'm actually quiet well regulated, even if it doesn't sounds like it. There just is like a slot that shouldn't be empty and that probably shouldn't be bcs it makes like happy social hormones in your brain, which your brain needs to be regulated?? Idek I'm so tired and at my wits end at this point
I kinda realised this only today in the hard way, always kinda knew of course, and had small realisations, but as it happens it just really hit me and i feel super cornered
Sorry for all the text i know it's A LOT, but in case anybody actually makes the effort to read it, thank you, and any thought from you is deeply appreciated!!
(I know it's always annoying to read; but english isn't my first language, in case some wording or spelling is off/wrong)

So I never really got to party like everyone does like say a party where everyone knows each other or clubbing and I’m already 25. I am feeling like I missed out and have no stories about that to talk about. Am I really missing out/missing key stories I can tell people? Does anyone have any amazing stories from partying that they tell?