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Hi! I’m from the Midwest, but that doesn’t stop me from finding a connection with someone anywhere in the world. I am looking to take things slowly and see where they go, whether it’s as friends or a relationship. I’m just looking to meet new people and whatever happens, happens.
Things about me: - I have many interests, but my main ones are - cooking/baking, traveling, nature, animals, health & wellness, and even art. - My family and friends would describe me as kind, loving, caring and funny. - Physically (attraction does matter) - under 5’5, dark blonde, curvy/avg body. - INFJ personality type, so I’m pretty rare ;) - I’m a student in healthcare - I do hate voice calls and I don’t have the time for FT, but if we really connect, I’ll see what I can do lol - I do not share photos on Reddit, so please do not ask.
Things about you: - Ages: Women - 23-26. Men - 28+. - Please be respectful, kind, caring, and know how to have some fun. - If you’re interested in farming/animals - that’s definitely a plus.
Hope to hear from you soon! Send me a message with a little bit about yourself <3

Anyone I can hire that speaks English?
I'd say I made it here unprepared, to say the least. I'm staying in Sumida, and have had a huge issue with the language barrier, and general discomfort. I come from a rural state in the U.S. and have about zero experience in public transport, or even cities for that matter.
I'm having a huge problem communicating and understanding how to maneuver.
Is there someone as simple as a guy that speaks English that I could simply speak to and ask questions? Etiquette, transport tips, etc.?

Is it normal to get to a point in the grieving process where your friends (even your late partners mutual friends) get annoyed at your continued grieving? I’m a few months close to the 2 year mark, and I am noticing eye rolling, not so subtle annoyance, and slightly rude comments when I bring up my partner. This is coming from HIS friends(now my friends) who knew him for over a decade. I’m even stating to get people give the dreaded “Are you dating anyone” questions, which of course is a huge NO! I know they nobody “gets it” unless they’ve been though it, but, GD. I really am stating to feel more lonely, isolated, and hopeless because of it. Fuck this club.

So me and my wife have had plenty of issues with infidelity, she’s the type that will deny deny deny even if you have her on camera. Well two nights in a row I woke up at about 2am and the first night I heard her and him in our bathroom that only has a tub no shower head- also no curtain. The first night I just listen to the conversation but I don’t get up or confront them, second night I hear them both in the bathroom talking so I get out of bed and the sound of me getting up alerted them and he took a few steps out of the bathroom before I got in but when I went in she was naked in the tub and he just ended the convo and went downstairs. The next morning I asked her about it and she lies and denies he was ever in the bathroom just outside the door. I knew for sure that was a lie but she denied multiple times, eventually she admits yes he was in the bathroom as well but she had her body covered he couldn’t see anything they were just talking… ok if you were just talking why did you lie and deny for a whole week straight? She has had sexual conversations and possibly even had sex with her brothers uncle (they have different dads) And also her brothers friend which apparently he supported. It seems weird to me most brothers are protective not encouraging for you to date their friends. It all seems odd to me but the bathroom situation stands out the most because why lie to my face and then switch it like it’s so innocent? So am I overreacting or does anyone else think it’s odd ?

I’m a woman and working out at the gym there’s times men would ask for my number or strike a conversation with me. i don’t mind as long as they’re not disrespectful and can take rejection. I honestly rather meet a man at a gym than a club or bar. I think meeting a man when he’s under the influence isn’t a good impression and it seems to me they are more so looking for a hookup than a relationship. I met people that met people at the gym , I even had a friend that met her fiancée at the gym. I think for some woman who don’t like men approaching them is either because they’re in a relationship or the man is unattractive. If an unattractive guy comes up to me and tries to get my number obviously i will reject them.. it’s not that i feel unsafe until someone gives me a reason to be unsafe no matter what they look like. But after i reject them ,i keep minding my business. I don’t feel awkward.. I work at a job where many guys asked for my number or tried to flirt with me that i rejected and ignored. I see these people everyday.. im not going to leave a good job or change my schedule just to avoid the awkwardness. I don’t mind talking to guys who aren’t attractive to me but if they’re starting to flirt then i won’t even acknowledge them anymore and that’s the truth. Attractiveness and personality matters to people no matter what. I’m sure if someone unattractive to you started flirting you wouldn’t have interest in talking to them anymore vs casual convo. If an attractive guy comes up to me clearly it would be different.
I know men are scared to even bother talking to someone which I get and i understand why some woman want to be left alone but they can’t speak for us all. The gym is a public place we share amongst people , people meet in public places. A person you meet can become a friend , a best friend, a partner and so on. I enjoy meeting people. If you go to the gym and disagree with this statement then great continue doing what you do but this is just my opinion. (:

Hi, I am new to RPW but have been reading some books that align with RPW strategies and trying to implement them. My question is - my boyfriend of 2.5 years (32) and I (29) got into an argument last night because I said something that upset him. (We were at a wedding and he and the groom were talking about work and after the wedding I said something like "I really hope I'm not talking about work at my wedding.") He kept asking me to explain what I meant by what I said but this seemed to "ignite" things further so my strategy then became to apologize and say that I did not mean for it to be insulting or hurtful and I totally see where he is coming from (which is true.) He was just overall really frustrated and even with me being soft and playful the situation would not diffuse. I ended up going home and I haven't talked to him since. I am anxiously attached (working on this) so this is slightly triggering for me. I don't think his communication/stonewalling is completely fair during arguments because it seems impossible for things to not escalate. What is the right RPW strategy for approaching this? Should I give him space and ask to talk later in the week, and be curious about what it was that upset him (because that still feels unclear) and communicate that I understand? Should I broach the conversation of what leads to him feeling so shut down during arguments and what I or him can do differently so that we can repair an argument more quickly? I did not have any stake in "winning" this argument and I feel like my demeanor reflected that, so it feels really frustrating when an otherwise great night is ruined by that. Thanks in advance for your advice!

I’m trying to read Taylor and Wheeler’s “Spacetime Physics”. The second problem in the book asks, how would you synchronize your clock with somebody at a set of coordinates. And to me the answer is, it’s an obviously nonsensical question because special relativity necessarily involves a loss of simultaneity.
Then I turn to the back of the book and it says, calculate the distance to the other clock, then set your clock for that distance send start your clock at a reference flash from the other clock.
What’s the ever living fuck does it mean to say your clock to a distance? What the actual fuck does that mean? That is not hot clocks work. You don’t have a distance dial on your clock. Or do the rest of you? Because I fucking don’t.
And even if you do that, your clocks aren’t synchronized! Synchronized clocks are started at the same moment so they read the same number. That’s what synchronized clocks means.
Like… what fuck? This is a terribly worded question and a confusing answer.

live with my boyfriend, and his laptop was the only one that connects to our printer. One day while he was out I tried to print something from his laptop, but was immediately met with a bunch of iMessage notifications from his ex-girlfriend. I was under the impression that they no longer spoke, so even though I knew that I shouldn't look, I did. The messages were very friendly - not necessarily inappropriate but far more intimate than I would have expected (based on the disdainful way he talks about her). I was very hurt by this, so when he came home I asked "do you still talk to _ ?" and he was like "not really, only about technical stuff" (ie, details about their old flat and pet insurance payments). I knew that this wasn't true, and I accused him of lying to me. He kept denying, until finally I told him that I had seen the messages. He got very angry at me for looking at his texts, saying that l've betrayed his trust, that I had tried to trap him in a lie, and now our relationship is forever changed. I know that I shouldn't have done what I did, I should have been upfront and told him that I saw the messages come through on his laptop, and I regret that. I've expressed this regret to him, but he is still upset with me and slept on the couch last night and wants space from me today. I am extremely mad at myself and simultaneously hurt by his dishonesty. I do not want this relationship to end, it is very serious and I love him deeply. Being locked in together during this pandemic has been a strain on us, and I just want us to be able to make it until things get less restricted in the summertime. How can I help build trust back between us again? Any advice would be appreciated thank you!

I don't know what to do or think, I know I want to be a guy, and I want the voice, I wanna pass as a guy. I'm a little scared about the voice change.
I ask my mom and she tells me it's for me to decide, and then I ask what do you think? And she says, I would say something but you wouldn't like it.
I ask my friend of 10+ years who is also transmasc and he says the same thing, but I give off transmasc and ebny vibes.
I talk to my other friend, and it's up to me.
But I don't fucking know, I don't.
I'm comprising with everyone, especially my mom. I KNOW she doesn't want me to change.
I have my appointment in three months, August.
Inside, I want the voice, I wanna seem androgynous, but I still wanna dress fem. I want to feel like a man, but still wear feminine stuff.
I don't want to do something I will regret for the rest of my life.
I wish I knew, and I wish I could decide.
No one but me can decide.

This is a long read.
This happened 8 years ago and I still feel a lot of guilt for this. I used to be friends with this person since middle school. When we got into high school she started becoming really rude, never saying thank you or you’re welcome, when we invited them out all of our parents used to not like how they had 0 manners. That’s not why I started hating this person though. When I left my ex in middle school over the summer that friend and my ex got together. At the time I thought nothing of it but the older I got the more I realized that wasn’t ok. Note: I’m not mad about that at all. That ex texted me years later apologizing for how shitty he treated me those couple of years. I never said anything to them and acted like it didn’t hurt so I’ll take responsibility there but I feel like I shouldn’t have to tell somebody that. But we were really young so whatever. This friend used to grope me in like a “complimentary” way. Like would grab my boobs, hips, and thighs and say how they wants these types of body parts. I never said anything about it but it did bother me. Again, I’ll take responsibility not speaking up. This friend used to do it to other women friends as well. This friends boyfriend used to touch us inappropriately and also a few other guys in our friend group would touch me in the waist and hips and make inappropriate comments to me. The friend also punched and kicked me and other people several times. I recall I couldn’t save them a piece of pizza at a school event and they punched me and left a bruise on my arm. Again, never brought up how it bothered me. I remember they also slapped their ex over something. Don’t remember what but still. They punched and kicked my other friends as well. I also recall them kicking me cause we would talk about our grades, this friend would fail every class and for me passing my classes ment I wasn’t going to sleep hungry at home. Also all my other friends would exchange grades as well. I guess they took it as a personal slight. Like we were making fun of them but I genuinely just wanted them to pass. They kicked or punched me whenever they didn’t like what I said or did. Never brought up how it bothered. We were probably around 16-18 at the time. This friend started hating another girl because their ex (my ex from middle school) broke up with her and started dating other girl. I didn’t care and started not liking the girl out of support for my friend until my friend snuck pictures of the new girlfriend without her knowledge and would compare her body, makeup, and face with theirs, basically body checking them and would make shitty little petty comments about her. I left a comment on the Instagram post saying how it didn’t look good. My friend then dm’ed me saying how I was basically being a bad friend for not blindly supporting them. I stayed friends with this person for awhile. The final straw was when this friend took of picture of my not yet out of the closet gay friends who were just starting to date and posted on their Instagram. My gay friends were to scared to confront them so I did. When I did they acted like a toddler and finally deleted it. I know it was a honest mistake and probably had good intentions but I was so fed up at that point. I started talking to my other friends about it and they had similar grievances, especially my other girl friend. This person wasn’t someone I felt like I could confront and have a normal conversation and tbh I was honestly kinda scared of them so I had a plan to wait until graduation to leave. I basically ghosted this person irl. I feel bad about all of that but what I feel bad for the most and I know this wasn’t good or nice of me. Is that I did end up talking shit about them to my other friends. We all had issues with them and it got bad. Like messaging each other to talk about what stupid thing they did today and basically to dump our feelings about whatever that person did to us or said. I also feel bad because their boyfriend at the time came out to me one day after school and told me that he was being cheated on. Note: their relationship was really bad. When he asked my opinion I said they should just leave each other. I feel bad because that was really none of my business and I should have just kept my mouth shut. I also was stupid in high school. This one is so fucking stupid but I actually lied about my nationality because I thought it would make me cooler. It ended up making me look like such a fucking idiot and I regret it so much. It is just a blatant lie and I apologize to anyone I lied to. I don’t blame anyone for thinking I’m a slimey person for doing that and that’s no one else fault but my own. Problem I’m having is that I’m a lot older now and I still feel bad. I’ve been going to therapy but I feel awful. To the point to where it’s kinda haunting me. I dream about it frequently and just feel like I don’t deserve anything good. I sometimes want to apologize to them but then I think of the treatment I got and don’t want to anyone. I know it’s the bigger person thing for me to do but idk. I want to move on. But I understand why they hate me as well.
Note: after our graduation we had a school after party. I wasn’t her friend so I continued on with the party. She then posted a picture to Instagram of someone dressed up as me and that friend putting a fake knife to her neck. I’m pretty sure this person still vague death threats me as well.

I’m curious if anyone has ever read of or tried psilocybin as a support for concussive symptoms? I’ve never done it before. I’m curious about the help it might give. I smoked weed somewhat regularly prior to my accident and found that it helped/helps me now in managing symptoms. Particularly when I’m starting to flare up big and have the “concussion heartburn starting” which is one of my personal big red flags. It means I’ve blown past several smaller warning signs. Unfortunately, sometimes you can’t help the environmental events- (bad grocery store lighting and someone’s tantrumming toddler, etc.) During my early concussion days the brain fog was so severe that it seemed to help my body feel like things “made sense” if I smoked because it’s normal to feel foggy when stoned. It helped a lot.
No judgement for casual smokers, but for me, this is something I’ve been open about with my providers. They haven’t told me not to, I’ve asked quite directly.
A friend gave me some shrooms recently, but I’m both eager and scared to take them. I’ve read mixed things. At this point, anything that will help alleviate my suffering and help me move along, I’m willing to give a shot.

Is there any way to give the adoring fan in Elder Scrolls IV Oblivion any kind of armor I mostly asking this question because I love this companion in both Starfield & Elder Scrolls but the former has an issue of getting murdered by everything when I'm off exploring.

So, pretty much what the title says. My ex (23M) and I (22F) split 8 days ago after a nasty argument. We dated for almost a year (10.5 months to be exact) and even though I wasn’t necessarily miserable I wasn’t exactly happy with him either. He wasn’t a bad guy, but he was really, really immature and simple minded, he never understood the complexity of my emotions or my trauma or anything that I went through and it was obvious from the start. Dude’s most traumatic memory was probably when his parents yelled at him.
He had no deep interests, we never really had any deep interesting conversations, which was a great issue for me. I’m someone that values intellect, I love having someone I could talk to just talking about anything and everything, I was felt like my brain was extremely understimuated with him. Still, I comprised, he was a sweet guy. But the longer we dated the more I realized how flawed he is. He had no emotional intelligence whatsoever, he also hated being confronted when he does anything wrong and would immediately jump on defense and escalate things into an argument.
As time went by I realized that talking about my feelings did more harm than good, and i surpassed my emotions and kept them to myself as much as I could, just to avoid causing any conflict. When we were physically together and intimate, it was perfect. We were so in love, my body loved him, I’ve never felt that comfortable with anyone before in bed. It was beautiful. But then when we’re home texting, it just feels so bleak.
Every time he did something wrong and I’d bring it up, he starts listing all the good things he’s done for me to “prove that he loves me and isn’t a bad guy” and just starts defending himself and shifting the blame, saying “all you do is mention the bad stuff, it’s like you forget all I do for you” and even sometimes mentioning all the money he spent on me (which by the way is not a lot, we never went on fancy dates, the most he’d pay for me is a drink or lunch, which is an insane thing to hold over someone’s head)
Sometimes if i say simple jokes or tease him he’d get really offended and take everything as a personal attack, and I’d have to spend the whole day apologizing. It was so exhausting. I couldn’t talk about my feelings, couldn’t make jokes, and had to think about every thing 200 times before I say it. He’d keep reminding me of the things he’s done for me, “i don’t hang out with my friends anymore since we dated for you” (I never asked him to do that), “I ditch my family on occasions for you and they gave me shit for it” (again, never asked for that), “I payed your ER bill that time because i love you, and it was the last bit of cash I had that month so I was broke for the rest of it” (seriously? I’m sorry I was sick..?) I told him that it bothers me so much when he does it, and he never stopped. Every argument, I’d hear about the never ending things he has done for me.
He wasn’t understanding at all, it’s my last semester in uni and I’m an engineering student, I’m under an insane amount of pressure with labs and coursed and applying for internships and my grad project, along with dealing with some family issues, and yet if I wasn’t so happy and giddy all the time I was being a bad girlfriend and not giving him enough love. I just needed some support and patience. Every time I tell him anything about myself or my life it felt like he was hearing but not actually listening.. It felt so dismissive. He promised me a dozen of times that he’ll change and become better for me, but it was all words. I think now, that maybe that’s all he had to offer, maybe that was just his extent. Maybe he couldn’t do more because there’s nothing there..
Last time we talked, he was complaining about a thing I said the day before, and even though it sounded harmless to me it greatly offended him, I apologized the night it happened and it still wasn’t enough, so I exploded. I told him about everything he does that makes me unhappy, I told him all the things he did that felt manipulative and all the times I felt exhausted and so conflicted on why I’m even in this relationship anymore. I told him I needed him to stop acting like a manchild and to start acting more logically and realize what he’s losing by pushing me away like this. And all that did was make him angry. He took it all as an attack and started to attack me back, he called me lots of vile things. He told me he doesn’t want advice from “someone as mentally ill as me” and that “I’m too insecure so how can I love him if I don’t even love myself” (these things had absolutely nothing to do with our conflict and he only said them with the intent to hurt me) then he started calling me toxic and negative and that I keep sucking the joy out of his life like a mosquito.
When I read those texts, I didn’t feel angry nor sad, I didn’t cry or insult him back or anything. I calmly ended things and just got off my phone and started at the wall in shock. I felt soo disrespected. I really felt something snap inside of me. Ever since then I’ve barely thought about him, and when I do I don’t feel anger or hurt, I only feel disappointment in myself for letting someone like him disrespect me this way.
Now I only feel relief, I always had this feeling that I deserved much better, that he will never be enough and that I need more, but I chose to ignore it for whatever reason. I’m glad he did what he did because now I see his true colors. And they’re so ugly. Just an insecure yet egotistical manchild that is so in love with himself that it’s all he can ever think about. There was no space for me in that relationship.
Sorry for the long read, I just needed to get this off my chest and I didn’t want to bother my friends with it anymore. :3

1. Carlin had a big week of giggles and guffaws for the camera. She took an influencer trip to Skyland Ranch, used a Billie Eilish song on an IG reel of her children and then gaslit her audience into believing she and Evan have well known catchphrases “CrAAzy”, “Love, Bye” and “bruh”. They slapped these random words on hats and TShirts and people STOOD IN THE RAIN to buy them. I saw a grown azz man in a “BRUH” hat. Other wild things that happened at their Cash and Carry sale included someone taking pics of their kids in front of the Tesla, referring to the dresses as “she” and calling their vlog “vloggy”.I have cringed too much over all of it. Layla put on a full show for the camera at a nail salon AND the dance studio while Zade earned his keep wearing pretend high heel shoes. They wrapped it all up in a big terrible bow by featuring Hobby Lobby.
   
2. Whitney played second fiddle all week to Carlin… folding shirts, holding babies and modeling Temu dresses that they marked up 347%. Zach was back in the Bates Kitchen this week and decided the best way to get views was to bring in the kids so we got to watch Kacie mix and mess and poke around in cake mix and canned frosting to concoct cake pops. Then the grossest thing happened… ZACH BATES FARTED. During a COOKING SHOW. IN THE KITCHEN. I mean he ripped a big ole juicy poot and they all laughed and decided to air it and then they SOLD those dang FART POPS at the Cash and Carry sale. He also made some terrible Psychology jokes. I bet soon enough they will have “fart pops” on a hat for sale.
   
3. The Balka crowd were living it up this week in a 600$ a night beachfront condo that included a beach chair service. This family trip was really just a content mill and man did Josie churn it out. She is full on exploiting her children while drowning in a sea of beige. What has happened that she is suddenly, desperately pouring out content on every platform… did Kelton tell her she needed to make some money to pay for her Sephora habit OR is a product launch in the works? Our Fundie Kim K.is pushing links while living life through a gauzy filter featuring tinkly music.
   
4. Katie had to let Travis go on this fake tour, but not before she let all the groupies know that was her mans. Trav said he was only singing 3 or 4 songs at each show so tell me again why they moved from Jersey for THIS? Speaking of Jersey, the vlog featured just a blip of the Clark family and it looks like GiGi has been drowning her sorrows by remodeling at her house. Katie got them back to the hive as quickly as possible and spent her week with Carlin and co at the playground and pool.
   
5. Lydia is bored bc she is married to Trace. All of her photography skills are now used to take pics of sneakers, weights, water bottles and pickleball. This crew has been featuring Lydia’s family pretty heavily lately, including spending Mothers Day with them where they made small talk with Trace and pretended to like him. Trace spilled the beans that his parents gave away all the pets at the big house while simultaneously telling us that Lawson doesn’t take care of Duke bc he gets dropped off there at least once a month. Later they debuted 40 minutes of Trace painting Lydia’s face like it was a fence while mouth breathing. Lydia’s mom called to show her the pet emu eating cherries and that was the best darn thing they have shown us in months. More emu please-less Trace!
   
6. Michael and Brandon brought in the professionals this week and exploited Layla and Zade Stewart. Layla is as good as any second year stage student at this point… BUT Aunt Michael has rules so she had to slow her role. Brandon was excited to draw Layla a princess after 3 weeks of sharks and whales… honestly everything he draws sort of looks the same. They also went to Honea Path to see Poppa Bill and Momma Jane who was smiling that it wasn’t one of the grands with 18 kids.
   
7. Down in passive-aggressive land Alyssa Webster told the tale of how all FOUR of her girls were asked to be flower girls and how that had NEVER happened and how SPECIAL that was. After several posts exclaiming her undying devotion and love to “buddy” she showed off the bad 80’s prom dress she was given by that dress shop she promotes. If a flame came anywhere near her it would have been all she wrote for Mrs. Webster. That dress was awful… but not as bad as the one she was gifted from BSB(which she called “my sister’s boutique”). The vlog shows John being an absolute jerk while Alyssa sneers and snarls and tries very hard not to say that her Mother’s Day sucked. It did suck and in order to make it up to her, daddy Webster put on a button down shirt and took her to the Cheesecake Factory. After all of the slap happy crappy birthday parties and Christmases she has given her girls… she expected WHAT for Mother’s Day??
   
8. Lawson made an absolute fool of himself while revealing the worst kept secret ever… it’s a boy, yall. Michael and Brandon punished themselves by throwing the party and doing all of the work while Tiffy and Lawson preened for the camera and asked people over and over what their guess was. This was filmed on I Love You Day weekend at the IBLP leaders church so this is old, old footage aaand these people are all perfectly fine with what their dad does. Tiffy and Law made it a point to say there was a bigger crowd than was at their wedding. Tiffy cried after finding out she is carrying a little Lawson and Duke was nowhere to be found. I do think he congratulated them on IG though, so all is good.
   
9. Oh Erin… what a week you had. You got Momma and Daddy Bates all to yourself for Mothers Day and for Carson/Charles’ birthday. Gil and KJ also picked up a nice paycheck for speaking and preaching at the Paine’s new church. Even though Erin happily joined a church that prides itself on promoting the corporal punishment of children, she still put together a glowing reel for Carson/Charles’ special day that featured him down at it at his second job of brothermomming. Not one picture of herself with the child was included. Later Erin threw a free notebook in with her construction paper cards as an incentive to buy. Free paper for buying paper is super exciting, right?
   
10. Bits and Bytes… Jadon and Layla are the same height. The Utah photographer that Alyssa used is followed by ALL of the Bates. Everyone of these Trad Wives are now promoting Easy plants. Why can’t Zach have any closeups in his cooking videos? Jeb/Jud broke his arm.
    

Have a great week friends and… how many Baptists it takes to change a lightbulb…. CHANGE?!? Who mentioned CHANGE!?🫠😜