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Euro 2024 Last Man Balling: Join Now and Win Big!
Honestly, just check out LastManBalling.com to see a nicely formatted and colour-coded version of the below, or read on if you prefer Reddit's formatting...
Are you a football fan looking for an exciting way to engage with Euro 2024? Join the Euro 2024 Last Man Balling competition and put your football knowledge to the test for a chance to win a big prize!
How to Play:

1. Entry Fee: It's £10 to enter, to be paid by bank transfer. Payment details will be shared in a WhatsApp group that all players will be invited to join.
2. Team Selection:
   • Pick 2 or 3 teams without exceeding a £50 total budget.
   • Earn 3 points for each win and 1 point for each draw based on your teams' performance throughout the entirety of Euro 2024.
   • Draws only count in the group stage as the 3 points will be allocated to the team that progresses through the knockout rounds, regardless of the score at full-time.
3. Team Prices:
   England - £24
   France - £23
   Germany - £22
   Portugal - £21
   Spain - £20
   Italy - £19
   Netherlands - £18
   Belgium - £17
   Croatia - £16
   Denmark - £15
   Turkey - £14
   Switzerland - £13
   Austria - £12
   Hungary - £11
   Serbia - £10
   Ukraine - £9
   Scotland - £8
   Czech Republic - £7
   Poland - £6
   Romania - £5
   Slovenia - £4
   Slovakia - £3
   Albania - £2
   Georgia - £1
   
4. Rules:
   
   • Teams cannot be replaced once selected.
   • If you go over the £50 budget, you will not be included in the game, so please double-check your total cost before submitting your selections.
   • The player whose chosen teams have the most points at the end wins the entire prize pot.
   • In the event of a tie, the tiebreaker question will be the total number of goals scored throughout the tournament. When submitting teams, everyone must predict the total number of goals. It does not include goals scored in penalty shootouts.

Prizes: - The winner will receive ALL the entry money collected. There are no prizes for second or third place. The more people who play, the bigger the prize, so invite your friends to join the fun!
Communication: - All players must provide a mobile number to be added to a WhatsApp group for future communications and updates. Players from countries all over the world are welcome to join!
Join Now: - Visit LastManBalling.com to register and submit your team selections. The deadline to join is 5pm BST on Friday 14th June.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to discuss the pricing and strategies below.

Euro 2024 Last Man Balling: Join Now and Win Big!
Honestly, just check out LastManBalling.com to see a nicely formatted and colour-coded version of the below, or read on if you prefer Reddit's formatting...
Are you a football fan looking for an exciting way to engage with Euro 2024? Join the Euro 2024 Last Man Balling competition and put your football knowledge to the test for a chance to win a big prize!
How to Play:

1. Entry Fee: It's £10 to enter, to be paid by bank transfer. Payment details will be shared in a WhatsApp group that all players will be invited to join.
2. Team Selection:
   • Pick 2 or 3 teams without exceeding a £50 total budget.
   • Earn 3 points for each win and 1 point for each draw based on your teams' performance throughout the entirety of Euro 2024.
   • Draws only count in the group stage as the 3 points will be allocated to the team that progresses through the knockout rounds, regardless of the score at full-time.
3. Team Prices:
   England - £24
   France - £23
   Germany - £22
   Portugal - £21
   Spain - £20
   Italy - £19
   Netherlands - £18
   Belgium - £17
   Croatia - £16
   Denmark - £15
   Turkey - £14
   Switzerland - £13
   Austria - £12
   Hungary - £11
   Serbia - £10
   Ukraine - £9
   Scotland - £8
   Czech Republic - £7
   Poland - £6
   Romania - £5
   Slovenia - £4
   Slovakia - £3
   Albania - £2
   Georgia - £1
   
4. Rules:
   
   • Teams cannot be replaced once selected.
   • If you go over the £50 budget, you will not be included in the game, so please double-check your total cost before submitting your selections.
   • The player whose chosen teams have the most points at the end wins the entire prize pot.
   • In the event of a tie, the tiebreaker question will be the total number of goals scored throughout the tournament. When submitting teams, everyone must predict the total number of goals. It does not include goals scored in penalty shootouts.

Prizes: - The winner will receive ALL the entry money collected. There are no prizes for second or third place. The more people who play, the bigger the prize, so invite your friends to join the fun!
Communication: - All players must provide a mobile number to be added to a WhatsApp group for future communications and updates. Players from countries all over the world are welcome to join!
Join Now: - Visit LastManBalling.com to register and submit your team selections. The deadline to join is 5pm BST on Friday 14th June.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to discuss the pricing and strategies below.
We've also got a fantasy league if you wish to join, regardless of whether you're in the Last Man Balling competition: https://gaming.uefa.com/en/eurofantasy/leagues/MciPJ7/004C0061007300740020004D0061006E002000420061006C006C0069006E0067/Baz

Euro 2024 Last Man Balling: Join Now and Win Big!
Honestly, just check out LastManBalling.com to see a nicely formatted and colour-coded version of the below, or read on if you prefer Reddit's formatting...
Are you a football fan looking for an exciting way to engage with Euro 2024? Join the Euro 2024 Last Man Balling competition and put your football knowledge to the test for a chance to win a big prize!
How to Play:

1. Entry Fee: It's £10 to enter, to be paid by bank transfer. Payment details will be shared in a WhatsApp group that all players will be invited to join.
2. Team Selection:
   • Pick 2 or 3 teams without exceeding a £50 total budget.
   • Earn 3 points for each win and 1 point for each draw based on your teams' performance throughout the entirety of Euro 2024.
   • Draws only count in the group stage as the 3 points will be allocated to the team that progresses through the knockout rounds, regardless of the score at full-time.
3. Team Prices:
   England - £24
   France - £23
   Germany - £22
   Portugal - £21
   Spain - £20
   Italy - £19
   Netherlands - £18
   Belgium - £17
   Croatia - £16
   Denmark - £15
   Turkey - £14
   Switzerland - £13
   Austria - £12
   Hungary - £11
   Serbia - £10
   Ukraine - £9
   Scotland - £8
   Czech Republic - £7
   Poland - £6
   Romania - £5
   Slovenia - £4
   Slovakia - £3
   Albania - £2
   Georgia - £1
   
4. Rules:
   
   • Teams cannot be replaced once selected.
   • If you go over the £50 budget, you will not be included in the game, so please double-check your total cost before submitting your selections.
   • The player whose chosen teams have the most points at the end wins the entire prize pot.
   • In the event of a tie, the tiebreaker question will be the total number of goals scored throughout the tournament. When submitting teams, everyone must predict the total number of goals. It does not include goals scored in penalty shootouts.

Prizes: - The winner will receive ALL the entry money collected. There are no prizes for second or third place. The more people who play, the bigger the prize, so invite your friends to join the fun!
Communication: - All players must provide a mobile number to be added to a WhatsApp group for future communications and updates. Players from countries all over the world are welcome to join!
Join Now: - Visit LastManBalling.com to register and submit your team selections. The deadline to join is 5pm BST on Friday 14th June.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to discuss the pricing and strategies below.

DL guy here. I’m 20 years old. I grew up in a family that acts accepting, but is deeply judgmental and I never came out. Their judgement rubbed off on me and I had tons of internalized homophobia over the years. In middle school I was made fun of constantly and rumors were spread about me being gay, so it only added to my desire to suppress myself. I lost good friends all because of the chance I might be gay. I got a good taste of how hateful the world is.
I tried having sex with a few women over the years and that NEVER went well. I couldn’t get it up at all. I knew that I was denying myself. I’ve recently had the courage to go on Grindr and I got a lot of taps from really attractive guys that texted me and that made me feel validated af, but I never have the courage to actually meet up.
We get to the point where we send photos, we’re both super into each other, a meetup is suggested, then I delete my account out of fear. How do I get past this? Anyone who has had this kind of experience, how’d you get past the initial fear? I know damn well I won’t have an issue getting it up for another man, i’m just worried of the actual act of it. It’s like finally stepping past that barrier I created for myself and to meet up with a guy is to truly accept who I am, which i’m still struggling with.

short fun wee game, inflated playtime as was busy cleaning the house and watching a show with the old man
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The Hat man, or the shadow man as my sister and I have always called him has been tormenting our family for years. From all the research I’ve done it seems to be commonly believed that the Hat Man is a sleep paralysis demon/experience, exclusive to sleep.
However, I was wondering if anyone has had an experience with the hat man whilst being fully awake, and not under the influence of drugs or alcohol?
My story:
In about 2012 I was 13 and my little sister was about 9, my mom had left us home alone to run to the store a few minutes away. This was nothing new to us as we had been home alone with older siblings multiple times, and we had even been left alone on our own before a few times.
My mom had just left about 10 minutes prior, and my sister and i were sitting in the family room, which sat right at the end of the hallway were all the bedrooms were. My sister requested we go to her room to play dolls, and I reluctantly agreed, as I didn’t seem to find that too fun at age 13, but I agreed and we both looked down the hallway towards the room we were going to be headed to, and we both saw a tall back figure with a top hat and cape coming out of my room, it glided down the hallway right at us as if it was floating, and then disappeared into my sisters room.
My sister and I were so scared we ran to the other end of the house and called our mom. But in the 10 minutes it took her to get home we continuously heard what sounded like soft thuds and whispers coming from my sisters room.
Now, over 10 years later my brother lives in that house, and his wife complains of hearing kids running and laughing at night, only to get up to check and have all the kids be asleep. My brother himself has gotten home from work and seen the same black cloaked figure standing over his wife and baby in their room watching them sleep. I have personally seen him about about 2-3 additional times over the last few years, but it’s always in a flash, just enough to make you gaslight yourself into thinking it may have been the lighting
Most recently my younger sister and I (the one who was with me when we saw the original apparition ) were babysitting for my brother, and we decided to keep the baby in the living room with us as she was still eating every 3 hours and we didn’t want to wake the other kids by going back and forth through the house to get her. Over the course of that night we heard what sounded like children calling our names, only to check a find out every child was sound asleep. At one point we went to check on the kids and my nephew had woke up, and told us that he kept hearing his brother call for us which made it feel even creepier because he was the only one awake at that point and we hadn’t told the kids anything.
Has anyone else had experiences like this? If not I’d also definitely love feedback as to what you Guys think is going on here .
I personally think the shadow entity is attached to that house, and my sister and o weren’t meant to see it, and once we did it became a taunting game for the entity.
TL;DR: the hat man has been taunting my family for over 10 years.

A bit of context, I’m a 21M and have an autistic twin brother (also 21M) and my parents had us in their early twenties. Our father only lived with us and our mother for the first year or so of our life before they split up (never married) and the three of us started living with our grandmother, who played a huge role in raising us as essentially our second parent. There’s a lot of family drama from both sides around that time and everyone has a different story, but from my understanding their relationship didn’t work out due in part that he probably wasn’t the nicest to her and I know he received multiple DUI’s and served jail time for it.
Throughout our life he lived in a neighboring state, hopping restaurant jobs (he only recently got a job working with trains), and we would continue to see him when visiting our grandparents who have a nice place in a small farmtown. As a kid it was always exciting to see him and I thought he was super cool, as he was this huge dude who played outside and PS3 games with us, but the older I get the more my opinion of him decreases and these days I don’t even enjoy being around him most of the time.
I noticed around high school he has a bad temper and isn’t very tolerable of other people, especially over little things, which was honestly intimidating since he’s 6’4 and like twice my size. I remember there was a time in junior year we went to see the newest Star Wars and he became furious with me when I sat on the end of our seating arrangement instead of the middle. His response was to storm out of the theater and none of us heard from him until hours later when we saw him miles down the side of road when we were driving back to my grandparents. In his mind it was smarter to walk home instead of screaming at me in the theater over seemingly nothing. Or another example was when a few summers ago (I just finished high school) he got really agitated with me for playing on the swing set when we stopped at a park during a family lake trip. The park was empty it wasn’t like I was taking the swing from a little kid, but in his mind it was completely unacceptable for me to be using the swings or something and demanded I get off. It’s always something little with him there’s countless examples and it’s especially jarring when he snaps at his parents, considering they’ve done so much for him well into his late forties.
He also likes to badmouth my mother, something I admittedly took solace in when I was 14 and her and I weren’t on the best of terms and he was someone I could vent to, but it’s since become annoying and a little pathetic as she was an amazing single mother raising twins and I have nothing but admiration for her. In general he gives off the vibe that he knows everything and he’s always boasting about how smart he is and badmouthing others, even tho he’s basically been a bum most his adult life. I’m honestly not sure where he gets his ego from. Last time we were at my grandparents I drove him back to his apartment on our way home (he didn’t ask me to btw he just told me I was going to) and during the short drive he’s making snide comments about my driving and how he’s a better driver then me. These were wild things to hear coming from a man who hasn’t legally been able to operate a vehicle in twenty years.
All of these issues become exacerbated when he drinks, which is something he’s become more and more comfortable with as we’ve gotten older. Over this last summer we shared our first beers together and he was playing music and YouTube videos on his TV. To him this is some kind of bonding experience except the twist is that we’re only going to watch and listen to what HE likes and that anything we like is stupid and thinks he’s enlightening us or something. It was honestly really upsetting hearing him dunk on my interests like that, making comments about how “his greatest failure as a father is that we have shitty music tastes and aren’t into sports like he is.” The bizzare thing about it is those are things he gloats about to other people. He loves that I’m in the military service and thrive in my college esports and have played in band for a decade, like he’s parading me as some trophy son to make him look better. But when I tried to share my nerdier interests and music he instantly turns it off and tells me his stuff is better.
We’ve since had similar hangouts at my grandparents but I don’t even bother recommending anything I just let him play whatever he wants, but it’s uncomfortable since he’s drinking and playing music that we have no interest in and I don’t feel the urge to drink much if I’m not enjoying myself. These nights usually end with him drinking himself to sleep or him starting a fight and I leave to my room. For instance the other month we were at my grandparents and he wanted to play a game on the billiards table. I was a little buzzed and I’m not great at the game but I agreed. Over the course of the game he was getting increasingly frustrated with me because I wasn’t “trying my hardest.” I was buzzing and it’s not a game I play often so I wasn’t taking it that seriously and told him it’s just a game and that I was just playing for fun. He proceeded to tell me that it was ruining the game for him because it’s not fun or competitive to play someone who isn’t giving it their all. After some bickering I just went to my room because I’m not going to deal with that childish behavior.
I’ve spoken with my mother about these things and it sounds like he hasn’t changed much since they were together. I’ve also talked with my grandpa about it and expressed that that I’m not sure I care to have a relationship with him once he and grandma have passed, and while he said that saddens him to hear he doesn’t blame me. My father always talks about how he wants my brother to move up to work and live with him now that we’re older and how he’s gonna move back to the cities to babysit my kids when I have a family, but quite frankly I don’t like the sound of any of that. I haven’t brought up any of this to him directly but he’s not an easy person to talk to and I doubt his arrogance would make him very receptive to this harsh of criticism. I know in his mind he’d think I’m being a pussy and he deserves to be involved in our life because he’s our father.
So for anyone wondering why I’m hesitating on cutting ties with him is because my brother and I are all he has. He’s drunkenly told us countless times we’re the only things he’s ever done right in his life (even though he had little to no role in our upbringing) and I do believe he truly loves us. I really wouldn’t be surprised if he takes his own life if we’re not in it, and thoughts like these make me wonder if I’m an asshole for even considering cutting him out of my life in the future. He genuinely has nothing else in his life besides his sons and I have that natural paternal attachment to him, but the older I get the more I realize how unpleasant he is to be around and I can’t imagine I’d want to subject myself to a relationship with someone like that.
Thank you to anyone who read this all and I’d appreciate any feedback below. AITAH here and what should be done about this situation?

So I have someone who says SAW is just depressing because they believe it is just an old man who dies of cancer and tortures people. He says there is no fun in that.
Yet I think there is a lot of fun in SAW and a lot of my friends who have seen it agree it's not really depressing. That there is a lot of fun with the series
How would explain the fun of SAW to someone? How would you convince someone it's not a movie series that will just leave you depressed but is one that you can have a lot of fun with?

Yo guys and gals is anyone else having problems still with thier game crashing a lot? My crash report continues to tell me that it's the steam overlay and I've done everything under the sun trying to fix it. I just wanna be able to play this game man, it's so fun for the hour or 2 I'm able to play it at a time. Any fix suggestions would be great. Have a steller day :)

Good evening Milwaukee Enthusiasts! I am currently trying to improve my CAD and 3D printing skills and looking for some fun projects to mess around with. I'm going to try and work in some product design systems in the future and wanted to try my hand at something as modular as the Milwaukee system. I was wondering if there were was anything slightly annoying or made you think "Man, I wish I had ____, " that wasn't available or was to hyper specific to be offered by Milwaukee. This could be anything from I have a really weird tool with dimensions that shouldn't exist too this part keeps on breaking often and there isn't an alternative offered. Thanks in advance for the ideas!
TLDR: Any ideas on things that aren't offered by Milwaukee or fun things that could be good add ons to the system?

As someone who likes to main Steven 1v1’s feel so trivial due to his low knockout power along with low weight. He’s a fun character but man every fight feels like an uphill battle. When you bubble characters you can’t damage them any more or even alter the bubble enough to do anything beneficial. Most you can do is time when they get released from it for a quick hit/kill. That’s not the worst though, watermelon Steven just feels so useless lol most characters can just one shot him and the cooldown is so long. Idk really how you improve it. For the bubble maybe it could do damage over time or even end on an explosion effect like his line ability and for the watermelon maybe let them hit a little harder or just take a bit more damage because I think more of them would be too much going on but what do y’all think?

I can’t believe I’m even posting here but I have been journaling and I feel like I just need to get this all out.
I have been going through a breakup recently that has taken me completely by surprise with a woman who I thought would be my life partner. We were best friends, did everything together and have known each other for over two years. When we first met we didn’t date cause I was interviewing for a job out of state, but we stayed close and she even visited me, we knew we both felt something but couldn’t do distance.
A year later I moved back to the city we both live in and she was dating someone else, I respected that and we were friends again, but before we both knew it we found ourselves inseparable and not much longer fully dating.
I loved this woman, I still do. We had one argument in almost 2 years and it was cause we got too competitive over a game of pong at a party that we both ended up laughing off. I knew her family and she knew mine, our friends all liked eachother and we talked every day, even if I was away on a work trip just a check in or an update on what show we were watching.
In the last few months I had thought about how I really wanted to find a place of our own together, we’re both 26&25 so we couldn’t afford to buy anything but to rent and start thinking about the long term while still having fun in our 20s. She would go back and forth and eventually we agreed it wasn’t time yet, I was hurt but I respected that she wanted to still have her space, totally cool as long as we’re happy i would support that.
Then it all fell apart in about 72 hours. We went on a vacation together with her family to Wyoming for a week. It started beautifully with horseback riding, dinners together and hikes! It was like out of a cheesy romantic comedy. It wasn’t all perfect anyones family 24/7 in the middle of nowhere can get a little annoying but I didn’t care I was with her. While on the trip one night by the fire she started asking about our future, and how she wants to be a mom and move out of the city, and I said how I was surprised to hear her bring these topics up as we hadn’t even talked about if we would move in together for another year.
Then it came: she told me that she didn’t move in with me cause it would be easier if she ever wanted to leave cause she didn’t know if I could be that “endgame” for her. So I feel like I panicked my response, I felt like I was shot. I saw her by my side in an uncertain future where the only answer I had was wanting her with me for whatever came our way….
She and I offically broke things off, traded bags of our stuff back and promised to respect each others space. She said she wants to stay friends and that I was the best man she’s ever loved. I feel like I don’t even know why we’re breaking up. It hurts so much, I thought everything was fine and to know this was something she felt makes me feel so incredibly pained.

A year separated (F31), not yet divorced, decided to try online dating. All the dates that I’ve experienced have sucked. Man 1 (39), Man 2 (35) obviously just wanted sex. It’s always a nice dinner date at first that then turns out (if anything) as a second date somewhere nice as well or fun and then 3rd is usually come watch a movie and we all know what does mean and yes they try that. Which yes, at some point you have to rip the bang aid or band-aid off and see if you do click intimately but it’s not always about that. 2 other ones (M32 and M31) love bombed first and then (M32) turned out to be obsessive and (M31) was just a gaslighter. So, keep trying? Any real life stories with a happy ending?

A few weeks ago (like I said: QUICKLY falling in love lol) I matched with this guy on a dating app. Our first date was honestly one of the best nights/days of my life. I wish I could relive it. I’d been online dating for about a month at that point and although I’d found plenty of men I clicked with, I never felt truly comfortable around any of them and was never able to have sex because I’d get too tense/dry and it hurt really bad, so much so that I thought it might have been vaginismus and seriously considered seeking medical intervention. But this guy was super patient with me and I was so attracted to him that it finally worked. It was the first time in all my life that I’ve ever actually liked having sex. And every time we’ve been together since that first date has been good. We decided to be exclusive a couple weeks in, which isn’t that long but we’d had five dates by then, and spent the night together for all but one of them. And since then we’ve always spent the night after every date. I come over to his apartment and we fall into a routine. I put my backpack on the same chair every time I arrive. We get ready for bed and wake up in the morning and it all feels very natural to me. That's how it feels being with him - natural, easy. It's hard to find someone who makes me feel at ease. I'm as happy with him as I am when I'm alone, and I really like being alone.
Yet I'd assumed from the start that this couldn’t possibly be a long-term thing. For one, he is much older than me. He’s 35, meanwhile I’m 21. He isn't preying on me. I'm an adult, I know what I'm doing. It's just that he’s a bit immature for his age (not in a bad way exactly, but let’s just say I can definitely see why he couldn’t get a woman his own age to fall for him), meanwhile I’m somewhat mature for my age. Ever since I was a teenager, I've never been able to date anyone who was less than 3-4 years older than me. So in a way we're kind of on the same level there. Even so, our relationship is still far from perfect. Like I said, he can’t get a girlfriend his own age because he still has a lot of growing up to do, as he himself would probably admit. And I don’t know if dating a 21-year-old is going to help him with that. Kind of related to the age gap: He wants kids, and I definitely do not. He probably doesn't want to put it off for much longer, meanwhile if I do eventually decide to have kids it won't be for many years. Also, he watches porn, and while there’s nothing wrong with that necessarily, I personally don’t want to date a guy who watches porn while we’re in a relationship. I know that’s kind of contentious and maybe some would call it an unrealistic standard. And to be fair, I would never demand that he quit watching porn. I just wish I could have fallen for someone who doesn’t even watch it to begin with, or who stops watching it while they’re in a relationship with me. But I know he’s not gonna do that.
In general he just gets on my nerves a lot and sometimes he says the stupidest shit I've ever heard in my life. And most of all, I don’t believe he really quite understands me. Maybe this will change over time, but I doubt it. He doesn’t make much of an effort. He doesn’t ask me many questions and doesn’t always take any interest when I try to tell him about my life and my inner world.
I believe these are all perfectly fair reasons to break up with him. Yet despite all this, and despite only having known him for a few weeks, rather than wanting to break up, I find myself falling in love with him. I feel this kind of unfolding inside my chest when I look at him. I remember things he says to me and think about them all day long. I want him so bad, I can’t even think of anyone else in a sexual way. He is literally the only person I’m physically attracted to right now. Even though I suspect he doesn’t feel the same - maybe he’s too old/experienced, or maybe he just doesn’t have that type of personality. I can see he likes me a lot, but sometimes I’ll let slip some hint of just how absolutely down bad I am, and I don’t get the sense that he feels the same, at least not yet.
Before I started falling for him, I thought I could just ride it out, have some fun, see where it goes, and not take any premature action. Given our compatibility issues, I assumed we’d just fizzle, or have an argument and decide to end it right there. And maybe that could still happen. But we’ve had plenty of disagreements and we’re still solid. I just feel good when I’m around him. I don’t like it when he’s away. And when we are together, I don’t like it when he isn’t touching me or talking to me or looking at me. There are many reasons why I shouldn’t be with him but none of these matter to me when we're together.
I just don't know what I should do. Break it off before I fall in love with him to avoid a more painful breakup somewhere down the road? Or stick with it and accept that our relationship will have all these issues? Will avoiding the potential for future pain be worth ending something that feels so right? And if I choose to stay, will being with a man who feels right be worth so much trouble?
Basically it comes down to emotions vs. reason, as it always does lol. I can plan out how I'm going to break up with him (if I decide to break up with him), but I don't know if I could bring myself to do it if I was actually in a room with him, looking at his face. I'm sure if I did, the pain would go away soon enough; our relationship was brief, I'm very young, and there are many other fish in the sea. But I'd also feel a lot of regret and I don't want that weighing on me.
Another reason to stay with him that I shouldn't be too quick to discount is something my mom said when I went to her for advice: You'll never find a man who checks off every single box. You'll never find a man who is both age-appropriate, intelligent, curious, caring, reasonably handsome, clean, sexually compatible, AND on the exact same page as me in terms of work/religion/kids/marriage/etc. And even if I were to find a man who meets these standards, there's no telling whether we'd really vibe with each other the way I vibe with my current boyfriend. Sure he only checks off 4, maybe 5 of those boxes, but the vibes are off the charts. The chemistry is perfect. Maybe I should "settle," for now, and be happy with what I have until we're forced apart by our differences, which I'm sure we eventually will be.
Idk. What are you supposed to do in these situations?

Hello. I am working on an assignment I am trying to get finished. I am like two months into working with Kotlin. Very new. Lines 16-25 is what I am trying to fix.
This is the specification I am working on. I need my code to look very close to what I already have. I cannot add complex syntax that isn't explained in the lectures leading up to my assignments.

• Create a function averageSalary that receives an array and returns an Int. It will calculate the average salary and return.

Can anybody explain what it means EXACTLY when it says Unit type was expected. I don't understand what it is referencing to when it says unit type. I wish it would give some kind of an example for noobs like me. To me that means nothing, other than it is obviously wrong. How do I fix this? Output I need:(already have line 1 and 2.)

Salaries: 50000, 60000, 70000, 80000, 90000, 100000, 110000, 120000, 130000, 140000 Average salary: 95000 

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fun main() { var salaries: Array = arrayOf(50000, 60000, 70000, 80000, 90000, 100000, 110000, 120000, 130000, 140000) var total = 0 var average = total / salaries.size for (x in salaries) { total += x } printSalaries(salaries) } fun printSalaries(salaries:Array) { println("Salaries:") println(salaries.joinToString(", ")) } fun averageSalary(salaries:Array) { var total = 0 var count = 0 var average = total / salaries.size for (x in salaries) { count++ total++ return average } } 

Background: I adore my SD. We are together one or two weeks a month, the other times he’s traveling. He was just here recently and I’m still all tingly.
Anyway. I wrote something in another post - about myself - and it’s causing a revelation inside my head. Basically, I wrote that I melt for a confident man with clear boundaries who has his shit together.
I suddenly realized what “daddy issues” means. And I have them.
So then, I asked my SD if he thought I have daddy issues and he said “you all but scream ‘abandoned girl, love me!’ “. I asked when he noticed this and he said the first night when we stayed up late talking.
I asked what it means to him for a girl to have these issues. He said it means they / we / she / I have some issue with strong male presences. (True - my dad wasn’t around much and when he was, it wasn’t fun.) and that we’ll chase affection when it’s withheld.
I said I didn’t think I was like that and he reminded me of some stuff I’ve told him from my past. Ok, I am like that.
I asked if it was good to have issues. He said sometimes it can be used to control or to make you do stuff but that he wouldn’t do that with me.
I got a little worked up… asked if he often controlled people this way. And why was it so obvious that I fear being abandoned. And … well. I have some damage control to do soon because I should have closed my mouth sooner.
But wait… guys…is this all true? Am I that obvious? Are all girls?
What should I do about it? Do I sound vulnerable?

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Helloo fellow date-needing people. Ill cut straight to the chase! Im a 24 year old guy, ive been single for a while now and i believe my heart is ready to try again and who knows, maybe find that special someone that i can connect with on every aspect, see into eachother's souls and vibe together like you haven't before, someone that can make you feel like you're flying all the time and give you the safest of spaces in the world :) (and also someone that will tell you all the fun facts about animals when going to the zoo)
A little about me and my hobbies:
Currently i am in Poland getting my Masters degree in architecture! Its going great and I'm experiencing a lot of new things!
And yes profession wise i am an Architect! Been so for a couple years, its hard but creative and thats what makes ya endure the dumbass work environment haha
I like to draw (mostly buildings for obvious reasons) but i also love to 3d model and make props and trinkets from shows and movies i like!
Speaking of, movies! I watch them, a lot. Nothing beats a cold winter night with a nice movie and a cup of hot cocoa in hand :)
Games! I love playing games like minecraft and stardew, but i mostly indulge in single player and indie games!
And i asked my best friend to describe me and he said "hectic, unstable, and weird but in a ""wtf is happening with this dude im intrigued"" kind of way"
As for music i listen to anything pop, rap, and indie! Some of Favourite artists are Kendrick lamar, post malone, imagine dragons, 21 pilots, arctic monkeys, the 1975 and the weeknd
So...take of that as you will xD
Id like to think im an empathetic, affectionate man. The most important thing to me in any relationship is communication so ill always make sure we talk about everything, no insecurity or overthinking is allowed! Im looking to find that spark. That "woah... Am i falling in love?" Kind of thing :) beggers cant be choosers but hey, if you put a goal in mind and work for it then you get it!
My preference:
Honestly i dont have much, as long as you're 18 to 30, and are willing to chat whenever you're free (but life gets in the way so its understandable when you have off days!), then this post is for you!! Oh and maybe there is a +1 for people in Europe haha, similar timezone and all!
And lastly, if you ask for a picture i shall send one no probelm :)
Dont hesitate to reach out! if you find this post, it means im still looking :) have a great night!!
Toodles~
Ps: to whoever keeps focus downvoting me, go touch some grass please and thanks :)

So I see a lot of SA girls on TikTok and other social media sharing their insecurities about how they are perceived because of their race in society. I resonated with this when I was younger - so many people making videos and comments perpetuating all sorts of horrible ideas I don’t want to describe.
I would like to share some things that made me feel more comfortable in my skin and beautiful as an Indian woman who grew up in a white-majority community. A lot of these are physical and perhaps superficial, but many of these are based on mindset as well. This will be a long post.
Of course these are just my experiences and I don’t want to say that it will work for everyone, and I encourage other women in the comments to share any positive experiences/changes they’ve had as well!

1. Haircare routine and styling

This one takes time. But I think having healthier hair is a huge step to feeling more physically attractive. For context, I have very thick, wavy hair and used to straighten my hair to temporarily get rid of frizz - not so good on a regular basis! So I decided to do some research on my hair type, experiment w different products and routines.
What has worked excellently for me - oiling hair and leaving it overnight before a wash day, using keratin hair products, washing hair off with lukewarm to cool water, and wearing a silk bonnet at night. My hair has never felt so soft and silky and I love it! Also, I believe that for thick, long and wavy hair, a layered haircut work absolute wonders since it tends to frame the face better.
I was told that when my hair grows really long, it seems to ‘wash out’ the rest of my face because of how thick and large it is. I think the haircut part depends on your hair texture and type, but the other advice could be helpful.

1. Experiment with makeup as a hobby

I do know especially in Indian households, women are often discouraged from wearing too much makeup, or putting even the slightest amount of effort into their appearance. Not sure why? Many possibilities, but anyway. I believe there’s nothing wrong with trying to be more beautiful AND accomplished, even though it is a lot of pressure. There is a conflict between many South Asian parents setting very high academic+career standards with less focus on looks AND the beauty standards society sets for a woman (not to mention how much power and leverage looks can give a woman). So I thought it wasn’t an unreasonable goal to set!
I started off simple with a drugstore concealer and lash curler. Once I was in college, I had a lot of freedom to use money from my part-time job to buy more products. To treat myself, I tried tinted moisturizers, lip glosses, lipsticks, mascara, blushes, and more! Maybe I got a bit too indulgent, lol. But it was fun and helped me find a nice signature look.
For reference, I have wheatish brown skin, I think the same shade as Freida Pinto, and a round face with dry skin. A pigmented lipstick/gloss (NYX is great) with concealer, cream blush, and sometimes mascara is the sweet spot for me. I think this will vary based on your preferences. But my Indian dad, who wasn’t excited about my makeup addiction in the beginning, is more accepting and even likes some of my looks lol. Maybe because I’m an adult now, or I was stubborn.

1. Clothes

Maybe some of you have fashionable parents unlike me lol. I think my parents bought me things that are unflattering - didn’t complement my figure or just didn’t resonate with me. I’m sure they had their best intentions lol, just wasn’t my style. Shopped alone or with friends. Generally, I love to wear long skirts, flare pants, cardigans, anything that isn’t too revealing but still flatters the curves of my figure. Not only do I feel prettier, I also receive so many compliments on my style!
Low neck tops and “sexier” outfits are for going out with friends. I think dressing very sexy is a bit more difficult for me because of personal reasons + the conflict between South Asian and western media fashion ideals (modest vs sexed and revealing). But I personally think us South Asian girls can never go wrong with a long skirt!

1. Decentering Men

I feel so much more beautiful, confident, and powerful after I decided to stop pandering to men. Do not chase men and feed their egos, make sure they are the ones pursuing you. And even if you do pursue them, make sure they think they are the ones doing the pursuing. If you feel they are clingy/disrespecting boundaries repeatedly, drop them immediately. This will save much energy and peace.
Some SA men send sexually suggestive messages and expect me to show interest just because we are the same race. White men will do the same, but expect me to comply because they think Indian women as well as other POC are ‘easy’ and automatically throw themselves at any white man. This is hilarious and I block/unfollow/unadd immediately.
I also want to add that these men will try to make beautiful SA women think they are inherently undesirable because of their ethnicity and put them down. They may suggest that you shouldn’t be ‘choosy’ and should settle for any man that comes near them.
This is a way of gaining power over you. They know you wouldn’t normally pay any attention to them! So they want to bring you down and make you believe you are incapable of attracting a high value man, so that you think they are doing you a favor by going out with you. Never pay heed to this.
I know MANY South Asian women who date and even marry wealthy, well-established men (of any race) who spoil them well. When I changed my mindset, I started attracting higher value men who offer to take me out on proper dates, do the work for me, just putting in the extra effort. Focus on yourself first and you’ll attract better quality men. Never, ever settle.

1. Consume media that portrays SA women and their culture as beautiful

I believe the media rep of South Asian women has improved over the years, even though there are still flaws. It is comforting to see a South Asian woman to be portrayed as beautiful, but without being exoticized.
One example of this is Bridgerton, specifically the second season. South Asian women are not only shown as beautiful, but sought after and chased after, not just for their race. The characters are well-written in my opinion. In addition, I appreciate the beautiful dresses and styling of these women, in contrast to Parvati and Padma’s rather disappointing Yule Ball outfits in the HP movies.
Something else that personally works for me is watching videos or looking at pictures of cultural dance/weddings/outfits that are worn. It brings me a sense of pride for my identity.

1. Study what I want to, not necessarily what my parents want

There’s nothing wrong with being more than a pretty face, so here’s some academic advice. Many of us have been diligent when it comes to studying, setting goals for our career and future. The dream parents have for a doctolawyeengineer child is real.
But I think if you know of a career that is fairly lucrative and interests you that is not any of those three, you might want to pursue that instead of going with the status quo. Studying what I want has made me much more passionate and dedicated to my career than I would have been if I just did whatever my parents said. They used to be skeptical, but now they support me and have a lot of belief in me as well.
These are the things that helped me the most! It may or may not work for everyone because of the diversity of family upbringing and socio-economic circumstances, but I just wanted to share my experiences. I encourage you all to share any you have as well!