For context, my wife and I never wanted to get married. Both of us came from abusive homes. The abuse was mostly because our parents hated eachother, but didn't want to get divorced and took their anger out on us. We both felt like marriage could trap us to someone after they became abusive and it scared us.
We started dating in highschool. After we graduated I worked dead end jobs trying to save up money for a few years to be able to move out, but never could.I joined the military to finally get away from my parents. My then girlfriend (now wife) and i had a long distance relationship for a few years with me coming down to visit around once a month on 4-day weekends while she went to college. I was lucky enough to get stationed within the millage radius.
She was living in a college dorm for the first few years and was close to graduating, but suddenly had to move out since her father decided not to cosign for her and made her move back in. The abuse got really bad. He had tracking on her car and would remotely make it honk when she went somewhere he didn't like. He wouldn't let her go anywhere besides work, school, or home. Her life was very bad. I told her that if we got married we could get a house on base and she could go to college here (the army would increase my pay to accommodatethis). At first she said no since she didn't want to be locked in with someone, but one day when I got home from a week in the field I turned on my phone and was greated by hundreds of texts and missed calls. She had packed a suit case with a few cloths, her birth certificate, and her SS card, and was living at my mom's house. (My parents divorced soon after i left and could only take their anger out on eachother. They became really chill once they were apart and even apologized for everything they put me through. It's not a perfect relationship, but it'sreally not part of this story so I'llskip it)
I came down with a 4-day weekend pass and we got married in the court house. She came up and we lived on post. The abuse was way worse than I originally thought. She refused to live anywhere except on posy because she wanted to be in a super secure area her father and step mother couldn't find her. She had panic attacks whenever she saw cars that looked like theirs. The first 6 months were the worst. She would cry herself to sleep every night. Every morning I would wake up to her quietly sobbing. I would go to work and when I came back she would still be quietly sobbing in the corner I left her in, yet somehow the house was trashed. I would cook food and beg her to eat it and drink water. She would reluctantly. Then she would cry herself to sleep and the process would begin again. I got her into therapy and signed her up for college. That seemed to help some, but she was still a mess.
Fast forward and we've been married for 7 years. She has never held a job sighting her mental health as the issue. It was fine since I was very good with money and could provide for both of us. Her mental heath got a little better, but has never been good. At one point she gained 80 pounds ordering Uber Eats and Insta Cart. Apparently she didn't want to go outside so she needed food delivered. She wanted to self harm, but couldn't do it in normal ways since I would see and make her talk to her therapist about it. Instead she had incredibly greasey unhealthy food delivered to our house and would eat it to give herself a stomach ache. She spent over $10,000 over the course of a year doing this. I didn't notice because she said she wanted to feel like she contributed to the house by taking care of the finances. I trusted her to do that and never questioned her about it. (My fault, I know) She was also slightly underweight by about 5-10 pounds when we first got married and my mom was overweight and constantly told me to never question a woman gaining weight so I waited too long to start asking questions about that too.
Recently I was chaptered from the military. A very long story short, she started constantly attempting suicide and because I was busy taking care of her so much I was non-deployable for too long. They had to let me go. I lined up a job as a cop for when I got out, but ended up tearing my ACL in a motorcycle accident. That meant I needed to get it repaired and go through physical therapy before I could start the job. In the mean time I had to move back in with my mom and my wife had to move back in with her mom. (Niether house was large enough for both of us to live)
When it happened my wife was very upset, but didn't seem to give me much sympathy. More anger than anything. She started to act better when I called her on it though. Later she told me she didn't want to have sex since i had gained weigbt since the accident. Not being able to walk/ exercise and stress eating from all your plans on how to survive crumbling will do that to you. I've gained about 20 pounds in the last 2 months. Side note, she has never lost the weight and has even put more on. She is currently 50 pounds over the highest weight she should be for her height and age. I do have a belly, but I can still benchpress over 300 pounds and you can still see most of my muscles.
Today I got a letter from the VA saying that I would only be given 15 physical therapy appointments. The physical therapist had told me earlier that I would probably need at least 40. I went to the physical therapist to come up with a new plan since obviously the old one needed to change. When I talked to my wife about it, before I could even finish talking she got angry and said we couldn't afford it. She then said that I would need to do more Uber because her part time job couldn't cover it. I got angry that it seemed she only cared about how my issues affected her. After about a half hour fight she apologized and said that her mom is still abusive and that she is jealous that I get to live with a mom who isn't. (Her mom yells at her sometimes, but it's nothing compared to what her dad and step mother did though. Not saying it's good, but there's really nothing I can do right now. The only jobs I'm qualified for require me to be able bodied and I'm not right now. She also isn't qualified to get a job that can pay bills because she's only worked fast food jobs for short stents and has a 3 year employment gap.)
Since we've gotten back she has quit 3 part time jobs for various reasons and I feel like the burden to fix everything is all on me. I'm usually fine with that because I loved her and cared for her, but over these last few months I feel like she doesn't care for me at all, only what I provide. It's made me fall out of live with her. Would I be the A-hole for divorcing her?

Alrighty, first of all I want to thank everyone for taking the time to ready about my last post and give it some ups. This one though turned out unbelievable and it’s a long one but a really good one. I can’t even believe I’m putting this out there.
A few months back I was home alone for the night and I felt really uneasy. I don’t know if anyone reading this believes in spirits, but I do. I could feel a heavy presence in my home. And it was even waking me all night. It’s dread and negativity would come and go as I tossed and turned feeling like I never slept at all. The next morning came, and I used every fiber in my body to get myself up. I was so exhausted from not sleeping and unable to calm my anxiety. Then, right as I’m about to leave I suddenly pulled a muscle in my neck!”F**k!” I thought to myself, and for a good moment it was debilitating. I had to crouch next to my bed and lay my Head down until the ringing in my ear stopped. I did what I do best though. I powered through the discomfort and got myself to work. During the day I wasn’t feeling that great and I decided I needed to do a little session on myself. 1. Inherited emotion from father 2. Inherited emotion from father 3. Inherited emotion from father … and so on, and so on, and so on. Every single one inherited from father. I’m thinking to myself “okay I know I probably have some emotions I needed to process for that but why the haunting? Why the physical pain?” And then it occurred to me. Maybe my father was coming to me for help and then it hits me. Today’s the day my dad died.
But wait there’s more.
As i recovered from my acute injury and feel like I am helping my father I still continue to experience this heavy energy. I finally make an appointment to see my body code practitioner. And this is what she found.

Female, 134, 5’5”, 120lbs
I am in desperate need of any kind of help as I’m declining in health, and it took a sharp fall off the cliff 2 years ago. I’ve been in and out of every specialist’s office you can think of, and done so many tests that I feel like a lab rat; no answers, no effective care plans, and some doctors just telling me they don’t know what to do and they can no longer help me. Only thing is do get is new symptoms every couple of months. My most pressing issue is my inability to gain weight/strength - I’m a shell of my former self. Started at 160lbs and dropped to 140lbs in 2 months, then 140 to 130 in 1 month. I hovered between 128-133 for about a year, then dropped to 119-123, and have been there since; all of this has been without trying. Since the first sudden drop, I began tracking caloric intake to try to maintain my weight. Since getting into the 120s, I began, and currently have and have a caloric intake which should have me gaining 2-3lbs/ day, given my TDEE, but it’s not working. I’m throwing back around 2,000 (sometimes more) calories/day of all types of food; both healthy and horrible, to the point where I’m grocery shopping 2-3x/wk. The only results I’ve gotten are constipation, pain, and abdominal distention.
I am folate deficient w/macrocytic anemia, have been for years, and my doctors have tried pushing me to eat more folate - spoiler, doesn’t work, as my diet is already high in folate. I also had a severe reaction to taking 1mg of folic acid - I’m talking drug allergy type of reaction. The first time I’d ever had my folate tested, it was at 2.5 mg/dL - and this was while I’d already been taking prenatal vitamins for years, for the biotin, and eating an extremely high-folate diet. I am concerned for my health, given everything I’ve mentioned, and listed below. I’m especially concerned since I now take AEDs, is a contraindication of my MTHFR polymorphism (undermethylation) and can impact my kidneys. Nothing is helping, I’m concerned, and my family and friends are concerned, telling me I need to eat more (how much more can I eat?!), and I just need some input from a broader audience.
I’ve included my current health summary, most recent labs, and relevant test findings. As I am a data analyst, I have all my labs for the last 10 years tracked, and all my H and L values have been creeping more and more out of range every year. Please let me know if there is any additional pertinent data/info you need to give some insight as to what is going on. I’ll try to put my previous bloodwork in the comments, as photos.
Shooting into the dark here - TIA.

Current Health Summary

• Celiac Disease
  • compliant w/GF diet since 2012
• Macrocytic Anemia
  • consistently low folate
  • consistently High MCH, MCV
  • consistently Low RBC
  • consistently low Immunoglobulin A, qn, serum: 65 mg/dL (most recent)
• Elevated Homocysteine
  • 48.9 umol/L before starting AEDs
• hEDS
• Primary Generalized Myoclonic Epilepsy
  • sudden onset with rapid progression over 4-6 months
  • controlled on meds
  • negative panel for cancerous cause of sudden onset of epilepsy
  • 2 abnormal EEGs
• Convulsive Pre-Syncope/Syncope
• Multiple swollen lymph nodes
  • 3 occipital, one behind jaw/under ear, 2 in groin region
  • all present for over 1 year
  • hard, not painful
  • neck/head US: “likely correspond to benign/reactive lymph nodes”; Pending US for others
• ADHD
• Generalized Depression
• Mild Scoliosis
• Bilateral trochanteric bursitis
• Sudden-onset vertical diplopia
  • 02/16/2024
• Migraines with Aura
• Frequent heart palpitations

Test Findings

• Genetics
  • Comp-Het. MTHFR variations: C677T/A1298C; clinically significant
  • HCN4 Gene Variation: heterozygous
  • PMS2 Gene Variation: heterozygous
  • KCNH2 Gene Variation: heterozygous
  • HLA Typing, DQA1*05 - Positive
• Gastroenterology
  • EGD: “Active granulation tissue with exudate, consistent with erosion/ulcer”
  • Colonoscopy: Unremarkable
  • Small Intestine MRI: Unremarkable
• Rheumatology
  • was told that eventually I’ll almost certainly be dx’d with Sjögren’s, but bloodwork just wasn’t there yet (2020)
  • Anti-la (ss-B) Ab (rdl): Positive 52 units
  • Anti-nuclear Ab by ifa (rdl): Positive
  • ANA Speckled Pattern: 1:320
  • Sjogren’s anti-ss-B High: 1.8 ai
  • Antinuclear antibodies, ifa, serum: Pos.
  • ANA Speckled Pattern, serum: 1:80
• Neurology
  • Chiari 1 Malformation (05/31/2023)

Current Medications

• Lacosamide: 100mg BID
• Clobazam: 10mg BID
• AdderallXR: 30mg Capsule, daily as needed (taking maybe 2x/wk)

Lab Results

CBC and Differential (5/4/24) WBC 5.0 RBC 3.74 Hgb 12.9Hct 36.7 LowPlatelets 251MCV 97.9 HighMCH 34.6 HighMCHC 35.3RDW 12.1 LowMPV 7.2 LowNeutro Auto 47.0 Lymph Auto 40.0 Mono Auto 6.9Eos, Auto 4.9 Basophil Auto 1.1 NRBC Auto 0.1 Neutro Absolute 2.4 Lymph Absolute 2.0 Mono Absolute 0.4 Eos Absolute 0.2 Baso Absolute 0.1 NRBC Absolute 0.01 Miscellaneous Hematology ESR 1
Coagulation Prothrombin Time 14.0 INR 1.1 Partial Thromboplastin Time 28
Routine Chemistry Sodium Level 141 Potassium Level 4.1 Chloride Level 110 High CO2 24 Alk Phos 50AST 13.0ALT 12BUN 7Glucose Level 99 Creatinine Level 0.76 BUN/Creat Ratio 9 eGFR AA 105 eGFR Non-AA 87 Calcium Level 8.60 Protein Total 5.9 Low Albumin Level 3.8 Globulin 2 A/G Ratio 2 Bilirubin Total 0.4 Anion Gap 7
Thanks again

As title states, the left side band collapsed and they're no longer usable; audio only comes out of the left ear.
Originally the earpads started falling apart, which I assumed was because I live in a very humid part of Japan, so I bought new earpads. When I went to install them, I noticed the band was starting to separate before I even put them on.
Two months later and they finally snapped. I've never had an issue like this with build quality! BUT I did really like the sound profile of these headphones, especially with the stock earpads.
Anyone have suggestions that may last longer with a similar sound profile? My head is actually smaller than average so I have no idea how I megamind'd these headphones, but any advice is appreciated.

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Clone Correct URGI 10.3 Upper

Here i've got a clone correct URGI 10.3 in a smooth shade of DDC. All parts are unfired except for the BCG/CH and Upper receiver. Had this assembled and sitting in my closet for close to a year now, i love looking at it but it's time i sell some extras.
Parts List:
Surplus Colt 13629 Keyhole upper
Daniel Defense 10.3 Barrel NSN Marked w/ DD GB and Tube
Colt C stamped BCG
Geissele 9.3" MK16 DDC
Geissele DDC ACH, NSN Marked (shade matches MK16)
Surefire 4 Prong, NSN Marked
Cosmetic Condition: Like New, minimal salt.
Asking $1199 $1169 shipped

BCM BFH 14.5 P/W Upper

BCM OEM Upper with BFH ELW profile barrel
P/W 14.5 to 16 with SF3P Warcomp
Comes with Radian Raptor CH, BCM BCG, FCD EPC.
400-500 rounds
Cosmetic Condition: low salt
$799 $729 shipped

Geissele MK16 9.3" Black

Blemula but re-nitrided so the blemula logo is barely visible.
No salt like new. Barrel nut has some marks.
$199 shipped

FCD Crap 🦆

• 2x ABC/R serrated bolt catches, $55 each. 1x center, 1x forward biased

AR15 Spare Parts

• CMMG Safeties: 2x, $3 addon each
  
• Daniel Defense Mid length tube + MK12 style Pinnable gas block: $69 $59 shipped (500ish rounds)
  
• Larue Flat BNIB (not skelly) $105 shipped
  
• VLTOR IMOD Stock, Standard Butt SOPMOD looking thing: one of the plugs is missing, slightly salty, $69 shipped
  
• Magpul Sling Mount RSA: $24 shipped
  
• Bushmaster Commercial Spec Stock: $29 shipped
  
• Geissele Nanocoated SF Closed Tine Suppressor Mount: light salt, $119
  
• Magpul Pic Bipod: specks of salt near screws, otherwise new condition, $79 shipped
  
• BNIB RRA BuffeSpring for Carbines: 3x $15 each
  

BRN4 Parts from Forsaken Build

1x BNIB Operating Rod, $59 shipped

Mounts/Sights

Weaver Extra High 34mm Rings: $79 $49 New
Aimpoint PRO Riser spacer:, $10 addon
Nightforce 30mm 20MOA ultramount 1.54": $249 $199
Aimpoint Micro OEM Mount: same as this one https://aimpoint.us/micro-standard-mount-for-h-1-h-2-kit/ very light salt, $69 $49 shipped
ADM 30mm Mounts, one is 1316, one is 1324 and has 3 in cant. Comes with quality McMaster high carbon content screws.
$169 $159 each
Aimpoint Pro low Mount: $49 shipped
Looks like this but with a picatinny mount https://aimpoint.us/aimpoint-30mm-top-ring-fits-qrp2-tnp-lrp-not-required-for-compm4-series/
KAC Rear Sight (missing bolt screw and bolt clamp): $79 shipped
Scalarworks RMR Mounts: 0400 (1.42"), 0410 (1.57"), $99 each like new
Unity 2.05" LPVO Mount DDC: like new, $269

Sig MSR 1-6x

Sig MSR 1-6 with Mount
Light salt on mount and one of the turrets due to crowded safe. Glass is clean everything else looks great.
$239 shipped

Glock Stuff

Glock Sights: all takeoffs, $15 each. Tritium rear one is $30. $59 for all.
CAA MCK Microroni for G19/23/32: Mild salt, comes with flashlight. $169 $149 shipped
Safariland 6360 ALS/SLS FOR g17/G22, Right Handed: $99 $59 shipped (salty)

AK Stuff

JMAC: Non-Folding Stock/Brace Mount for MRKT Trunnion: lnib $29 shipped
1913 Adapter for MRKT Trunnion: lnib $29 shipped

Random Shit

Tenebraex M68-ARD, works with Aimpoint PRO: $30 light salted but no structural damage to honeycomb
Benelli M4 Mesa Tactical Stock with comfortgrip, cheek riser and newest lock washer: $119 shipped
Enigmas: 1X OS (marked AXL, one of the OG units), no holster, $99 like new
MR556 12" Mlok Handguard: $79 shipped

Patches

Also patches if you would like some: https://www.reddit.com/GunAccessoriesForSale/s/NzKFRKbgjL

i had horrible food poisioning in december 2023 from a tuna sandwich in a hospital cafeteria shop (ironic since its a hospital that made me sick but whatever) and during i was nauseous for 13 days, vomited for 2 days and couldnt eat for 11 days since my anxiety made me so nauseous and worried. since then i recovered and slowly gained the 30 pounds that i lost from that month and worked my way up from simply not eating food i havent cooked, washing my hands more and burning my food to ensure i properly cooked it correctly to feel safer. i just want to get better, i dont want constant anxiety over a stomach ache or being sick. i dont know how to help or where to even start

The lyrics absolutely support this theory:
"I'm feeling I'm close" close to... you know what this means "A certain tension rising in the air" 'certain' could be used to hint at what kind of tension; people say it as a way to be like "you know what 'tension' I'm talking about" "Hand's aching, fingers wet" this feels too specific to not be something sexual, why say "fingers wet" and not "hands wet" when saying you're sweating because you're nervous?
I'm also thinking that LORRAIN (OP) is very similar to Carl92 in the sense that they uploaded the snippet (which is really short) and dipped, not wanting to answer much questions because they know where it's from.
Of course there are a lot of loopholes, mainly the lyrics aren't confirmed so it could be "sudden tension" and not "certain tension", same with "hand's aching" could be "head's aching", don't know how sex could be so stressful you get a headache (lmao).
There's also "something spooky like the sheet/shade of a ghost" which, I mean, the word 'like' is in there, making it a simile, and not a focal part of the sentence, just a comparison to describe how the singer's feeling, for emphasis. Also no real idea how this ties into the porn theory, because I don't see how there would be any spooky feeling.
And in contrary to Ulterior Motives, if this theory checks out, the song could actually have been written for a porn film. "Please Don't Stop", which was found in an Israeli video company's logo (Malibu Video), was found to be made for a 1986 adult film also called "Please Don't Stop". People have said that even if TRITA's lyrics are adult-themed, pop music has lyrics talking about sex all the time, so it doesn't mean it's from a porno. However if you read the lyrics for "Please Don't Stop", you'll notice that even though the lyrics are adult-themed because it was written for a porno, there's no adult language that could make it unsuitable for radio airplay.
So, yeah. Unfortunately the porn theory isn't 100% supported because even though there's a lot of evidence pointing to it, there are some gaps, like the "jet sounds" at the end, and the unconfirmed lyrics. It's just something to help point us in the right direction.

in the midst of our uncertainty, it pains me to get stuck in a spiral of "what if" scenarios
i know we have our future planned out as best as we can
we've planned our marriage, kids, ideas for a home
it feels like i've known you for a lifetime and beyond
like we were two objects in space that just happened to collide with each other through the mere act of fate
we are soulmates
yet, i've never even met you
nearly 4 years of pain, lust, admiration, heartbreak, and love together
each year providing us with growth and maturation, an ever-changing perspective on life
yet, we still crave and yearn for each other through a screen
my heart aches and feels wretched knowing this may not last
it may not even ever fully *begin* in the first place
especially as our paths might never fully cross except for a mere moment in time, or at least not until another decade
so my heart continues to pump while my chest continues to ache,
my head continues to pound, and my mind continues to gnaw at the idea of "what if"
in the midst of our uncertainty, i try to find comfort in scenarios that do provide a level of certainty
then i cry and grieve and my hands tremble with anxiety
i am at a loss
those scenarios are not with you

Hi
First let me say that YS is in my top 5 shows of all time, I’m normally a police procedural show type of person (Dick Wolf) but the writing on YS is simply incredible.
I live in Manchester England and we have some nice scenery around the city but the scenery in YS is heart stopping. The cinematography of the show is like nothing I’ve seen before (maybe longmire) and it makes me ache to be there.
I don’t care much for American politics( or how it is portrayed in the media) but watching YS makes me wish I lived there.
My fav characters are Jimmy and Kayce but I hope Jamie comes good. He is a wrong’un but all he wants his his Dads love and approval.
YNWA

Hey, thanks for, at the time of writing for 155 Comments. I installed Arch and to be honest it was the hardest Part. Its up an kind of running rn. And i have some questions for what i can install/ how to fix some things: 1. When i close (Super+Q) Firefox everything crashes and i need to reboot, is it just firefox when yes what are better browser or how can i fix it.

1. How can i make the Waybar (The Thing on top?) bigger?
   
2. How can i change/make the login screen look better?
   
3. How can i make it always Dark Mode?
   
4. How long did y'all take to learn the Commands and Shortcuts?
   
5. What some must-have that i should have as a newbie?
   

Thanks in Advance for all the Answers and Helping me🫶

This time last year I was engaged to the person I thought I’d share my forever with. Now he’s a complete stranger. The relationship was awful, I was treated so badly and I stayed because I was taught you don’t give up on the ones you love. I endured so much pain and now suffer from the traumatic experiences I had. My ex ruined me in ways I can’t even describe, I still don’t think I’ve fully recovered and truthfully don’t know if I will. He blocked me after dumping me and I did what most broken hearted people do, I began to heal. I can honestly say I am a whole new version of myself. I am stronger and wiser.
He reached out a few weeks ago telling me how much he missed me and how I was the one who got away. Mind you I was on a vacation in Hawaii with my new fiancé. I soon discovered it was because in fact I was doing better, I finally found a man who loves me and gives me everything I’ve ever wanted and more. My ex was completely heartbroken whenever I told him I had met someone else and had already moved on. He then started in on how I’m an awful person for not waiting on him to comeback and how he was thankful he dumped me in the first place. He then was posted up in a new relationship a week after he originally tried to win me back.
I can now thank him for leaving me. I believe in my whole heart that he wasn’t right for me and will never become a better man. He is selfish and inconsiderate, my heart aches for his new girlfriend because she has no idea what’s to come. If you’re currently going through a breakup and you’re wondering if that person will return, believe me whenever I say if you’re going about your healing process in the right way then they will. But, I hope whenever that day does come it’s too late and you’ve already found someone who saw you were worth it from the beginning.
I know starting over is scary, I know change is uncomfortable, I know losing your “forever” sucks, but life can always improve, your story can always get better. Sometimes you need to thank the ones who walk away, who think they can do better, who don’t see your worth. They are making room for the women/men who are going to love you in a way you didn’t know even existed. I am so thankful for my breakup, I am less than a month away from marrying my best friend, the man who loves me, the man who deserves me.
I simply thank my ex for letting me go, for the lessons I learned, and for helping me find the person whom is worthy of handling my heart, who I get to love until our last breath.

Have I got IBS?
Hi guys I should probably start by saying I'm a pretty anxious person I think, and always think the worst. Anyways I've always believed I've suffered with IBS ill randomly have diarrhea for a couple days or like loose floating stools then Ill go completely constipated for a few days then after what I call a "flare up" I'll go back to normal bowel movements for a while until the next time. I never suffer belly ache or any other typical symptoms just diarrhea and constipation this has been going on for years. This time I'm getting a bit worried because it started as the normal loose floating stools then constipation but now I'm just constantly burping especially when I'm walking or moving around it seems to stop when I lay or sit down but as soon as I get up I'll be burping again it's non stop when I looked up "constant burping" it said it was IBS related so my question is does anyone else burp a lot? And do my symptoms sound like IBS as I don't ever have belly ache which I know is a common symptom generally a bit worried about this burping now as I know it can mean serious sutff also should add I've had a stool test not too long ago and was clear any feedback would be nice thanks.
Also apologies if this is wrong place for this kind of thing I'll remove if so

Not neglectful or abusive, but being a pediatric ICU nurse, I thought she’d have more common sense than she does. I know some people in healthcare know what babies can handle, so maybe she’s the extreme version of just giving the binky back after the kid drops it on the ground, but some of what she’s done has been pretty questionable.
For example, she and her husband took the baby to a basketball game when she was only a few months old. She shared a picture and the first thing I noticed was that the baby didn’t have any ear protection on. I thought, maybe the pediatrician recommendations have changed since last I knew, but I asked my speech-language pathologist friend, and she was appalled. The crowd was packed, not to mention the loud buzzers on her tiny eardrums! The second thing was that it was winter in an indoor crowded area, and all three of them got covid, including the baby. Taking care of an infant is hard, but taking care of an infant with covid, while you have covid, is rough, and it was completely avoidable.
The baby has also had skin issues since birth. Mainly eczema, pretty much from head to toe from what I can see (I haven’t met her yet, but my mom and sister have). I feel terrible for her, and for her parents as I know it’s really hard to deal with that sort of thing. But then I’m video chatting with them one day, and I see the dog licking the baby all over. No wonder the kid’s skin can’t heal! I’m also a dog trainer and gave them strict instructions to not let them interact like that at that age, especially since the parents were not immediately next to them, so I was not happy to see that. The dog has a history of being great with kids, but both kids and dogs are unpredictable.
I’m not one to mom-shame, but I feel like these things are pretty common sense. Don’t take your infant to crowded places during covid- and flu-season, and at least make them wear ear protection? If your kid has skin issues, maybe the dog saliva is contributing? Just my two cents, but hey, I’m not a mom, what do I know. This is also on the dad of course, but he’s not a peds nurse. It’s only because of her background that I thought she’d know these things.

This time last year I was engaged to the person I thought I’d share my forever with. Now he’s a complete stranger. The relationship was awful, I was treated so badly and I stayed because I was taught you don’t give up on the ones you love. I endured so much pain and now suffer from the traumatic experiences I had. My ex ruined me in ways I can’t even describe, I still don’t think I’ve fully recovered and truthfully don’t know if I will. He blocked me after dumping me and I did what most broken hearted people do, I began to heal. I can honestly say I am a whole new version of myself. I am stronger and wiser.
He reached out a few weeks ago telling me how much he missed me and how I was the one who got away. Mind you I was on a vacation in Hawaii with my new fiancé. I soon discovered it was because in fact I was doing better, I finally found a man who loves me and gives me everything I’ve ever wanted and more. My ex was completely heartbroken whenever I told him I had met someone else and had already moved on. He then started in on how I’m an awful person for not waiting on him to comeback and how he was thankful he dumped me in the first place. He then was posted up in a new relationship a week after he originally tried to win me back.
I can now thank him for leaving me. I believe in my whole heart that he wasn’t right for me and will never become a better man. He is selfish and inconsiderate, my heart aches for his new girlfriend because she has no idea what’s to come. If you’re currently going through a breakup and you’re wondering if that person will return, believe me whenever I say if you’re going about your healing process in the right way then they will. But, I hope whenever that day does come it’s too late and you’ve already found someone who saw you were worth it from the beginning.
I know starting over is scary, I know change is uncomfortable, I know losing your “forever” sucks, but life can always improve, your story can always get better. Sometimes you need to thank the ones who walk away, who think they can do better, who don’t see your worth. They are making room for the women/men who are going to love you in a way you didn’t know even existed. I am so thankful for my breakup, I am less than a month away from marrying my best friend, the man who loves me, the man who deserves me.
I simply thank my ex for letting me go, for the lessons I learned, and for helping me find the person whom is worthy of handling my heart, who I get to love until our last breath.

I have a pair of arctis pro wireless. Both sides have cracks in the ear cuffs at the connection point. Mine are past warranty now and on the verge of breaking completely.
I try to be extremely careful with them because I use them every day constantly.
i want to know if the arctis nova pro also have this issue. I am going to have to buy a new headset very soon. I don’t know if it’s possible to reinforce the cracks with epoxy. To keep them from fully snapping off immediately.
I’ve owned 2 pairs of AS50’s. Both had issues with the headband breaking. Now the arctis pro’s have an issue breaking at the joint. I know I have a big head and that adds extra stress.
So I am just curious about arctis nova pro’s before I buy a new headset. I love the arctis pro’s because they have replaceable batteries, ear cuff pads, and headband pad. Also the replacement ear cuff pads replace all material unlike AS50’s.
However if the Arctis nova pro still have this issue. I would appreciate any other high end headset’s recommendations.
Thank you for any help.

hey!
here’s what I look like
I’m in the midwest, in the middle of my phd, using the sacred few hours of sleep I got to scroll reddit while binging on the trashiest reality TV and early 00s MTV music videos
tbh, since moving here I’ve been aching to meet people that aren’t related to my professional or academic sphere, and rarely got the time to do much outside the lab, so, here I am, it seems meeting people online could be good bet :o
some random trivia

• my work is on machine learning and proteins
• love running and cycling, pretty much any heavy cardio activity
• love playing soccer but suck at it
• love signing but suck at it
• love drawing but suck at it
• I only sing in spanish, because I got a thiccc accent and feel a bit self-conscious singing in english
• expert in early 00s shitty pop music
• best disney movie is ratatouille
• most overrated disney movie is up
• love dancing cumbia and bachata… and actually do not suck at it! lmao
• can move my ears on command
• have lived in 4 countries, 6 cities, 2 continents
• I’m trying to get into video games. help? I have a swtich, xbox, and pc
• not a fan of scifi or fantasy :(
• once got jump-scared by a possum while riding my bike
• knows two and a half languages
• love crafts (specially origami) and playing the accordion

here are two truths and a lie

• I was personally invited to a fancy rooftop party by a google hotshot, but bailed on it
• a mexican bill saved my life while I was stranded in serbia
• I was suspended from middle school for burning a whiteboard with body spray and a lighter

If you're interested in talking, send me a line about yourself!

It’s been 2 days since I discovered my fiancé’s infidelity, and I’m struggling to cope.
I’m still in shock and have been crying non-stop for the past two days after I (29F) found out the man (29M) I’ve been with for 9 years (engaged since nov. 2023) has been cheating on me and talking to other women basically our entire relationship. It’s way worse than I could’ve ever imagined. Totally blindsided. The pain is unbearable. I’m just beside myself and feeling so many emotions…anger, deep hurt, sadness, loneliness, confusion.
Long story short- I found out he has multiple accounts on all these different “hookup” sites, and also has secret text apps (like telegram) that he’s been using to message women..tons of women…probably hundreds because he was using so many things including regular social media and texting. Everything was sexual in nature obviously. He also got a girls number from the gym recently and was texting her (and others). I’m sure there’s a million other things that I’ll never know about or see because he’s obviously good at hiding things and lying to my face. He still claims nothing physical happened.
This behavior has been going on for years because messages go way back. I feel sick. It’s so disgusting. I feel awful….just totally betrayed. This is the worst I’ve ever felt. I found out on my birthday too which was the cherry on top.
I’m just so confused, I don’t understand how he could do this to me after everything we’ve been through and all the sacrifices I’ve made for him. He proposed to me ffs….like why would someone do that if they are talking to someone many other women?? Oh and he even messaged someone the night we got engaged.
9 years that he just threw away in the trash, like it never meant anything to him. God it hurts. I was supposed to marry this man. I thought I could trust him.
To make things worse, we’re still living under the same roof. I’m across the country from my family and most of my friends. I don’t have a ton of close friends or a strong support system in the state where I’m currently living. He was my support system. We’re not interacting (been ignoring and avoiding him) and are staying in separate bedrooms obviously, but it’s just making things way harder for me. Our lease is up in July but I know I can’t do this much longer, it’s not healthy.
I’d already have moved out, but I can’t afford to still pay the half of my rent here and rent at a new place. Was also going to fly home, but unfortunately flights out the next few days are extremely expensive and I just can’t afford that right now.
I’ve been trying to get in with a therapist asap, but haven’t heard back yet from any. Hopefully tomorrow.
He’s been begging me for forgiveness, saying he loves me, he’ll change/ go to therapy, how remorseful he is and that he can’t live without me. I know I’ll never be able to trust him again, but it hurts so bad. I’m so sad..my body is aching and I’m scared. Scared because I’ve been with this man for almost a decade and I don’t know what life is without him. We were building a future together.
I really could use some reassurance that things will be okay or words of advice or any sort of hope because right now my world feels like it has been turned upside down. How have others gotten through something like this?

hi all! i tried researching this but i can't find any answer that matches my exact situation.
earlier i (18F, if it's important) was out with a friend after a rec hockey game. we were watching a game on the tv but were talking to each other for the most part and my head was turned to the right. at a random point i felt a "pop" in my head. it was short, it wasn't loud, it was just noticeable. i asked my friend if he'd heard anything and he said no.
about 10 seconds after i started to feel some sort of warm sensation in my left ear, like some pressure released. but i don't recall moving my head OR neck when the pop happened.
just wanted to know should i just leave it be for now? i don't have a (cheap) way to go see a doctor right now and i don't want to go if it's nothing to be concerned about. this is the first time i've ever felt something like this. i should note that 1) my head doesn't hurt and 2) nothing seems to feel any sort of way in my body, besides the warm feeling in my ear earlier (that went away after some seconds).
thanks!

hi all! i tried researching this but i can't find any answer that matches my exact situation.
earlier i (18F, if it's important) was out with a friend after a rec hockey game. we were watching a game on the tv but were talking to each other for the most part and my head was turned to the right. at a random point i felt a "pop" in my head. it was short, it wasn't loud, it was just noticeable. i asked my friend if he'd heard anything and he said no.
about 10 seconds after i started to feel some sort of warm sensation in my left ear, like some pressure released. but i don't recall moving my head OR neck when the pop happened.
just wanted to know should i just leave it be for now? i don't have a (cheap) way to go see a doctor right now and i don't want to go if it's nothing to be concerned about. this is the first time i've ever felt something like this. i should note that 1) my head doesn't hurt and 2) nothing seems to feel any sort of way in my body, besides the warm feeling in my ear earlier (that went away after some seconds).
i'm not looking for a diagnosis, i just want to know if it's something to be concerned about.
thanks!