She has gate-kept mental health from me, always trying to one up me when I talk about my panic disorder like “well its not as bad as when I go through [symptom] and I’m on [medication]” and is basically not interested unless she can insert how her anxiety and depression is worse than mine. Which I find so so frustrating.
She has gate-kept being neurodivergent, I suspect I need to be assessed for ADHD, I have signs of it that essentially ruin my day to day life, concentration and focus, tidiness, getting basic tasks done, getting overwhelmed and overstimulated too easily, heavy moodswings, forgetting things all the time, no object permanence, sometimes I simply cannot take in and process what someone has said to me after literally having a clear conversation or instructions from them…its an issue and has affected me working jobs too, and this very same person gets annoyed at me over these things. “You don’t have ADHD you are just dramatic and messy”, like I’m meant to agree and laugh it all off with them. Meanwhile she openly claims she has autism with no diagnosis and casually throws it into conversations with people she has just met.
She also has gate-kept owning a dog? My boyfriend and I want to get a dog in the future when we have our own house with a garden and a lifestyle to support a dog. And I was talking about it to her and she just snapped “you could never have a dog both of you are clueless and could never handle it” claiming she knows all about dogs because her family had dogs and that I should stick to being a cat person because I have never had a dog. My boyfriend has a dog I often help look after and walk with him, and he has softened my heart and made me quite enjoy the company of a dog. I am not claiming to “know everything” about dogs in any means but I would quite like for us to have one in the future and have been researching good first time dog breeds. But she makes out like I’m too stupid to own a dog.
She also gate-kept multiple interests, music, anime, games…it goes on.
So I am not allowed mental health issues, not allowed to suspect I may be struggling with an undiagnosed disorder, and I am not allowed to want a dog? Not allowed to like things on the same level…this is just weird right?
It just frustrates me that she thinks I am stupid and gate-keeps everything? I dont want to lose the strong friendship we have otherwise but it boils my blood.

Help! My best friend took my ex’s side.
Petty population of Reddit, I need your help and wisdom. For two and a half years, I (F20) was in an emotionally manipulative and toxic relationship. My Ex ‘James’ (M21) nearly cheated on me multiple times, dumped me because he ‘couldn’t do long distance’ (we lived two hours from each other), and would keep taking ‘breaks’ to sleep with other women. After yet another time he dumped me, I finally got my life together and now I’m incredibly happy! I am in a relationship with a loving and caring man, I am doing great in uni, and I would never want to look back!
Now, my best friend at the time Millie (F21) and ‘James’ became close friends during our relationship. Suspiciously close. But I thought nothing of it. Whenever James would fuck up, Millie would defend him in front of me. She would consistently gaslight me into believing that I was overreacting. My other friends saw the red flags, but I am ashamed to admit, I didn’t. For reference, if anyone has seen Euphoria, Millie is very similar to Cassie, in that she needs and seeks male validation and will prioritise it over her meaningful relationship with friends.
Some things she has done: 1. Attempted to convince me that because James slept with a girl he met in uni when we were already on a break, this was not cheating. She argued that even though he asked for her number, consistently texted her, and took her on dates while he was still with me, they only slept together after we had separated. Therefore, not a cheater. 2. After breakup number 2, she took me on a lunch date to cheer me up and told me that my crying was ‘killing her appetite’ 3. I texted her during our last breakup to ask for support and she said she would come straight to my house. James was leaving and Millie threw her arms around him and half-crying said to him ‘Don’t worry. I will always be there for you.’ She then proceeded to tell me to get over it. As if he was the one who needed consoling, as if he was the one getting dumped, as if he was the one who got cheated on. 4. For years, Millie observed first-hand how James was treating me and said nothing. She remained close friends with him and kept posting him on any social media every day while I was sobbing at home. I said nothing. I didn’t want to ruin our friendship and I thought it would be toxic, unreasonable, and immature of me to make her choose between her closest friends. 5. I got over him pretty quickly. I think all his narcissistic tendencies, emotional abuse, and controlling behaviour had finally caught up with me. However, I would come home crying every other day because of something she’d do that would make me feel betrayed or at the very least like a second-class human. I tried to bring this up once: she shut me down, called me toxic and unreasonable, and I dropped it. 6. My friends and family have a theory that Millie was actually in love with James. Come to think of it, her boyfriend ‘Henry’ (M23) resembles James so much in the weirdest ways. The smallest mannerism: the way he laughs, the clothes he wears, the way he smells, his style. You get the picture. Shady. 7. I got with a guy at a party after our last breakup (we went on a girls trip to cheer me up, and we literally just kissed at a club). Tell me why James was informed about this before we had left the club?! We were in a different country. Millie was the only one who had his number. 8. Meanwhile it was completely fine for Millie to sleep with guys on the same trip. Mind you, she had a boyfriend at the time. 9. James went to visit her across the country multiple times and she hid that from me every time. Sorry, I thought two hours was too much of a long distance for you. Anyway, Millie was hiding his visits from me but she wasn’t hiding them well. Like, she would tell she hasn’t spoken to him in days but she would post a story of him at her flat. It was one of those ‘I will tell you it’s not happening but I’ll make sure you know it is’ type of situations. 10. After I got into my current relationship, I wanted Millie to meet my new man. ‘Tom’ (M22) is loving, caring, supportive, and helped me work through a lot of my trauma from James. Millie hated him before she met him. He made such an effort with her, paid for dinner for both of us, and attempted to find anything they had in common. She just kept saying (to me but he could still hear) that she doesn’t need to like him because he is ‘irrelevant. And you and James will get back together anyway.’ I assured her that I will never go back, but she wouldn’t hear it. 11. Tom was planning a surprise to celebrate a big milestone in my career and involved Millie in it. He thought my best friend should be a part of it. She did everything in her power to ruin the event: gave guests the wrong time and address, cancelled some of the bookings he had made, and through a fit at the end of the night because I wasn’t paying attention to her for a total of 15 minutes. She pulled the same shit when Tom attempted to organise a birthday party for me. Most importantly, both times she blamed it on Tom, saying how he was rude, inconsiderate, and didn’t plan it well enough. 12. She kept me updated with James’s life even though I was very clear that I never want to hear about this man ever again. She’d tell me about every girl he’d get with, every date he’d go on… you get the picture. She did all of that in front of Tom. She kept comparing the two and telling me how I downgraded. She couldn’t be more wrong - Tom is incredible. Millie even called him controlling because once I didn’t pick up the phone and he sent me a text of what he was calling about. I couldn’t wrap my head around it: that was controlling, but when James would scream at me for hours for not picking up because I was in class, that wasn’t? Wasn’t it controlling when I wasn’t allowed to go out with friends James hadn’t met?
The more time went by, the closer she got with James and the more distanced she would get from me. She’d blame Tom for us not spending time together. Okay. I organised 3 girls trips just the two of us. She eventually started talking shit about me in front of our mutual friends and now I keep hearing from different groups that I’m apparently a bitch. The way I see it, I just started refusing to be a doormat.
Anyway, I’m done. But she deserves to experience the consequences of her actions. Dear petty Redditors, I need ideas!

In the world of interior design, apartments offer unique opportunities and challenges. With limited space, every design choice becomes crucial. Whether you're moving into a new apartment or looking to refresh your current one, understanding popular interior styles can help you create a space that feels like home. This article delves into some of the most popular apartment interior styles, highlighting their key features and how to incorporate them into your living space. If you are looking for home decor los angeles, you can visit our website for more info.

Modern Minimalism: Sleek and Simple

Modern minimalism is a style that emphasizes simplicity and functionality. It's characterized by clean lines, neutral color palettes, and uncluttered spaces. The goal is to create a calm and serene environment by removing unnecessary items and focusing on the essentials.

• Neutral Colors: White, black, and gray are predominant, with occasional pops of color.
• Simple Furniture: Pieces with clean lines and minimal ornamentation.
• Functional Decor: Items that serve both aesthetic and practical purposes.

Scandinavian Style: Cozy and Inviting

Scandinavian design is known for its cozy, functional, and beautiful approach. It blends simplicity with comfort, creating spaces that are both stylish and livable. This style often features natural materials, light colors, and a mix of textures.

• Light Colors: Predominantly white with accents of soft blues, grays, and pastels.
• Natural Materials: Wood, leather, and wool are commonly used.
• Hygge Elements: Cozy textiles, candles, and plants to create a warm atmosphere.

Industrial Style: Raw and Edgy

Industrial style draws inspiration from old factories and industrial spaces. It's characterized by raw, unfinished elements and a mix of modern and vintage pieces. This style is perfect for those who appreciate a bold, edgy look.

• Exposed Structures: Brick walls, concrete floors, and visible ductwork.
• Metal and Wood: Furniture and decor often feature a combination of metal and reclaimed wood.
• Neutral Palette: Grays, blacks, and earthy tones dominate the color scheme.

Bohemian Style: Free-Spirited and Eclectic

Bohemian, or "boho," style is all about expressing individuality and creativity. It features a mix of colors, patterns, and textures, creating a vibrant and relaxed atmosphere. This style is perfect for those who love a personalized and eclectic look.

• Rich Colors: Deep reds, purples, and golds, often mixed with earthy tones.
• Pattern Mixing: Layered rugs, throw pillows, and wall hangings with various patterns.
• Vintage and Handmade Items: Incorporating unique, often handcrafted pieces.

Mid-Century Modern: Timeless Elegance

Mid-century modern design hails from the mid-20th century and is characterized by clean lines, organic shapes, and functional furniture. This style is timeless and works well in apartments due to its simplicity and elegance.

• Clean Lines: Furniture with simple, sleek lines and minimal ornamentation.
• Organic Shapes: Pieces with curved forms and natural materials.
• Bold Colors: Accents of bold colors like teal, orange, and mustard.

Bullet Points on Key Elements of Popular Styles:

• Modern Minimalism: Neutral colors, simple furniture, functional decor.
• Scandinavian Style: Light colors, natural materials, hygge elements.
• Industrial Style: Exposed structures, metal and wood, neutral palette.
• Bohemian Style: Rich colors, pattern mixing, vintage and handmade items.
• Mid-Century Modern: Clean lines, organic shapes, bold colors.

Conclusion: Choosing Your Ideal Apartment Style

Selecting the right interior style for your apartment is about more than just following trends; it's about finding a design that reflects your personality and suits your lifestyle. Whether you're drawn to the sleek simplicity of modern minimalism, the cozy charm of Scandinavian style, the edgy appeal of industrial design, the vibrant eclecticism of bohemian decor, or the timeless elegance of mid-century modern, there's a style out there for you.
By understanding the key elements of each popular style, you can make informed decisions that will help you create a living space that not only looks great but also feels right. Remember, the best interior design is one that makes you feel at home.

While everyone is hating on Pizza Pass Season 2 and all its mechanics, I would like to balance it out by listing all the reasons why I love this pass and show appreciation to the developers for their hard work! Please feel free to spread some light and joy ✨
If you wanna be a sour puss and air your grievances, there are a 101 other posts in this sub complaining about the pass that welcomes that 😊

1. Finally, an event that does not utilise gems or funds!
2. Love how the developers took into account the players’ feedback and have implemented some of them e.g. send stars to friends on BakedIn ⭐️
3. Truffles are revived and new players get a chance to own them!
4. Animated rainbow LED tiled floor 😍😍😍
5. Love learning about the story development of a mainstay character
6. There is absolutely no obligation for players to SPEND MONEY on the pass if they don’t want to and still have access to enjoy the story!
7. This event brings back 70’s/80’s Mambo Jambo vibes
8. Love the constant flow of creative juice in launching new ingredients, characters, decor, accessories to keep things fresh and even the most seasoned players are excited about game
9. Shoutout to Yuni for constantly trawling and moderating this sub - listening to our feedback & concerns and making sure this is an enjoyable environment for everyone to be in
10. I downloaded GPGP at a time where I was going through a really low period of my life and through this game, I’ve connected with people and developed a network of international friendships that I will be excited and count myself lucky if we were able to ever meet in person one day (🌙🥔🐱🧩🐟💰🩸📺 you know whp you are) It might be a stretch to say that GPGP saved me, but it certainly made my world a better place and life so much happier in more ways than one. So thank you, Tapblaze and the entire team for this game. Please continue doing what you do, it means much more to most than you realise.

To some people, this is just a game.
To others, this same game is the reason why they smile today.

Hello everyone ! This is my first post here and I hope I’m able to clearly articulate how I feel here
Me (20) and my Boyfriend, E (21), have been going on long distance for about two years and it has been fun. We are actually supposed to be seeing each other soon in a few more days. But lately it has been starting to get harder. Recently me and Ethan got back into Sonic and we wanted to make new friends that held the same interest. We were pretty successful, but then it went to shit.
On May 16th, I got scammed out of $300 and that was a really traumatizing experience for me. I felt violated, I felt used and so humiliated. To top it off, my mother had yelled at me really badly that day and called me stupid and dumb— which triggered a bad response out of me. After that day, I started to get more and more emotional.
On May 17th, I asked my boyfriend if he could comfort me over the phone. I really wanted him to just talk to me and reassure me that everything was ok.. But in the end, he just told me that because I was going to see him in just a few more days that he would give me comfort then and that he wanted to focus on his friends so that when I got there he would focus all on me. To me, I got very upset with this. I was really hurting at this time and this was not what I needed to hear.
Regrettably, I was not any better. After that day I snapped at him more. I was more emotional, I was super in my feelings and throughout this whole time I threatened to break up with him a total of four times. It was not good on my part and I took full responsibility for this.. But what I didn’t take responsibility for is how one of his friend reacted.
My boyfriend had his new friend in there coincidentally everytime we fought, so she saw how I would make him feel. Because of this, she was telling him things that were not true. Like how I was being manipulative towards him and that I talk down to myself a lot and that I’m playing with his emotions. Keep in mind, my boyfriend has only talked to this person for a week or so, so his friend doesn’t know me. But he still believed her.. But then again, I’m always up for criticism here because I don’t know if I’m in the wrong.
But now coming up to the present. His friend blocked me. I told him about that right now and as I was talking to him he admitted that he was upset because he had lost a good friend. She said it was due to how I treated him. I told him I feel like this wasn’t my fault and that was her own choice, but he just said ‘forget it’.
I’m supposed to see him in a few days but we’re just slipping away.. I hate how he’s valuing his friend he literally just met rather than our relationship. With his girlfriend of two years. It’s honestly making me start to feel some type of way as well and now I’ve begun pulling away from him. I know I fucked up with my words and I know I could never take back what I had said, but I feel like he’s putting this friendship of literally one week above me… But it could just be me, I don’t know…
I’m thinking of why I said those things and I came to some consensus. Maybe I’m just at my wits-end or maybe I just want out. He’s done this to me before. He meets new friends, gets me involved but then gets so hyper-fixated he overshadows me and my presence. But I’ll wait for your guys’ opinions, hopefully.
I also just feel compelled to go. His grandma set up a whole Myrtle Beach trip for when I get there. His whole family is going to be there waiting for me, excited to meet me… I don’t want to disappoint them, but I’m literally at the end of my rope.

First off, thanks for listening to my nonsense.
I had two days away at my parents but we had been texting. I got back last night. I was f**king shaking. Sat next to him and casually asked if he wanted to go on a date next weekend.
He was a bit shocked but asked where are you taking me. I said probably Maccies 🤣🤣.
We spoke about stuff, protecting our friendship, what we want from a relationship, how it affects our living situation, how to deal with skipping the get to know you part of dsting, am I ok being seen dating a guy in public, honesty if it isnt working out, what the relationship looks like, what I'm comfortable with/willing to do sexually etc. Honestly I didn't know there was so much to discuss. I thought women were hard work 🤣🤣 jk.
We had finished those discussions and we had some fun. Chilled watching Baby Reindeer (yes we are late to the party) and went to his bed for a bit more fun and I woke up this morning rock hard but he had work to go too haha.
Now that we spoke fully, I'm feeling great about it. I think I've made the right decision and hope he thinks has too. I was joking about Maccies. I want to do a date that is special to show I'm in this. I still not sure what I am but I know I like him a lot and in bed (not the sex, although that too) with him or just him lying near me on the couch (or anything intimate) makes me genuinely happy. I think if it does go wrong as long as it respectfully goes wrong our friendship will be fine.
And thanks again. I promise this is my last post and I'll leave you alone.

Advice/support/brutal honesty appreciated.
Hi there, late 20’s lady here. Really struggling with remaining focused on getting my life back on track (ideally before 30 cos yknow obv reasons) . There has been warnings, ever increasing consequences, bizarre mishaps and illogical misdirections but…I feel and have felt for a while now that its a last chance of the last chance for me (of and for what? no clue. But I’d surely like to reach my ending knowing I’d made my best possible attempt to overcome my self/limitations etc). Would greatly benefit from a moment of your time cos I’m so exhausted stuffing this up repetitively - building to lose then restarting etc.
Background: The usual these days: poor kid story,stunted isolated, anxious, depressed until 20y.o. Actually lived life for coupla years; study, work, friends etc. Historically my happiest time. Around 2020 though, unaddressed and accumulating stressors, traumas and health issues began to pile and tower until 2022 my slowly downhill progression came to dramatic and very painful standstill. Biggest rock bottom, biggest sad black dog yet. Quit my job, addictions rising,money blown. Bedbound depresso for well over 6 months. Which was though.. a worthwhile turning point (or could be considered as such if outcomes mimicked new positive attitude) as I had a NDE that forced a radical perspective change and I became firmly committed to trying again, getting back on track to the better life I was building, giving it my all/making up for lost time, $ etc.
Whilst this new attitude was technically the happiest and most sustainably content I’d ever been in my life; it actually ushered 2 years of any, every and all attempt from every angle to thrwart, subvert, steal, diminish and prevent any progress whatsoever that could in any way reflect the joy of my new positive attitude and state of mind. For example: all cars and assets stolen, really horrible slander, very questionable and ethically shocking actions from family/friends/those around me. Sensitive identity documents stolen on multiple occasions, death threats could but wont go on for its a lot). So every time I’d get a job, save etc it would get stolen, go back to pretty much zero, try again, doing something a little different and same/similacompletely wild card random event occurs that fks progress once more. So pretty much two years where all i’ve got to show for it is my sanity, resilience and resolve to persevere (not even with a story too at that, most dont believe it) and a wealth of spiritual reserves I have learnt about myself and the universe. Whilst I value and am grateful for the above, its optimism doesn’t really show how painful, fucked, cruel, useless idk - the true cost of this. I am not displacing responsibility btw, trust - am painfully aware how my actions and shortfalls have created certain consequences and situations however with time I have also come to see that so much of it was not proportional to my stimulus and frankly was some karmic debt/chasm/revenge/plan/sick joke with really cooked skew points.
But yeah I get it, ‘not poor me/old orphan annie’ victim sounds I’m making - I’m just stating, that many injustices poorly or accurately distribute as they should….
Anyways, I’m finally at a position though where i have 100% guaranteed, stable housing (woo off the streets) and want to go into my 30s a healthy person, with a job/more purpose than just building goals and dreams to have them torn down unceremoniously. A better sibling, an asset to my spiritual team… without losing my heart/hope/faith. Showing up for and being accountable to my self, my dreams and the part I play in a divine purpose. My confidence is increasing; for example, im not scared to have a bank account anymore lest it be taken again and now own more than just the outfit im wearing. Eating food, and living without a fear of being shanked in my sleep , it’s been a while yipyip.
However, the world now feels foreign & unrecogniseable. All friends, family, places feel artificial disconnected derivatives/feel off, confusion over unusual, undefined and unexplained strange terrain to entire life prior. It’s Like great divides and times occurred without any legitimate, standard consensus on when/how/what triggered it and am now in utter exile to old world/norms (e.g-was asked recently what item was in my nose and had to explain it was a bit of snot..then asked if it is usual human behaviour…..). And am aware none of this is ‘real’ ; as in, this is a dream state/game be it waking or dreaming, the matrix etc however still gotta eat, and am still here breathing - with no knowledge on how to understand/conquer this dream/ game state. I want to do better, discoverefine/continue my purpose and hopefully figure out why I feel like a circus monkey/doll on display and mocked, am treated as such without explanation etc etc. Additionally, am very tired of the great lengths and excessive gestures that attempt to hold me back /bring me down, depressed again( e.g- unnecessary lies and showy displays of affection that are so ridiculous, setting a bar high for no reason when standard conversations/behaviours would have sufficed? Constant attempts at getting hopes/heart up to crush it down without reasonable prompt or stimulus). I Refuse to walk around with an unjustified chip on my shoulder yet life mirrors back to me either: my spiritual advancements in a productive, kind, progressive way or, will mock/deride or devalue/exploit any positive emotions/constantly checking, critiquing, judging and ridiculing thoughts/feelings and behaviour. With no way to exit that hedonic treadmill, I am trying new tactics whenever an approach isn’t working however my energy, resolve, supports, esteem, heart and faith struggles with the fluctuating see-sawing weights.Even when cutting everyone off, it still teaches lessons that are helpful but come at harsh tolls.
I know I need to do all these things too… with apparently not that much time which doesn’t make it easier and reminded frequently ‘it could be much worse!”: to awaken, find my twin/whatever, save, redeem, find my self or lose it, self-actualise, ascend, remember, forget, let go, but hold on— all whilst feeling like an uninformed, dim witted laughing stock to the world that awaits something (???). Appearing to someone else’s profit for reasons beyond me in causes so toxic/pathetic/fucked up but of course… I am not them nor aware of grand spectacles. Nor is there any way of knowing concretely all these fucked up things will be worth it.. So i’ve pretty much resigned myself to an isolated life as family, friendship or relationship endeavours have been cruel, bizarre, profit driven and unaligned to myself.
So… how tf do we author our dreams w all this in mind.. understand where we are/what job we are to do even as a stupid human on some show I can’t see but know am being mocked… restore a sense of power, esteem … fuck. having firm resolve. never going back to zero again. finding the dream that’s right for me and actually actualising it with right work (not like before, putting in work but goals changing, shit happens)… what tf do I do with this situation and allotment within this totally cooked, counterintuitive space&time… how to understand what everyone/anyone is talking about or why NOTHING makes sense. How to conquer CONFUSION!
Thank u for reading, I know it’s mostly cliche and fkn long. Watered down for safety reasons but the ardent request for help still be very real and sorely needed !!!!! (in turn sending comraderie energy to everyone reading on this cooked quest)

Advice/support/brutal honesty appreciated.
Hi there, late 20’s lady here. Really struggling with remaining focused on getting my life back on track (ideally before 30 cos yknow obv reasons) . There has been warnings, ever increasing consequences, bizarre mishaps and illogical misdirections but…I feel and have felt for a while now that its a last chance of the last chance for me (of and for what? no clue. But I’d surely like to reach my ending knowing I’d made my best possible attempt to overcome my self/limitations etc). Would greatly benefit from a moment of your time cos I’m so exhausted stuffing this up repetitively - building to lose then restarting etc.
Background: The usual these days: poor kid story,stunted isolated, anxious, depressed until 20y.o. Actually lived life for coupla years; study, work, friends etc. Historically my happiest time. Around 2020 though, unaddressed and accumulating stressors, traumas and health issues began to pile and tower until 2022 my slowly downhill progression came to dramatic and very painful standstill. Biggest rock bottom, biggest sad black dog yet. Quit my job, addictions rising,money blown. Bedbound depresso for well over 6 months. Which was though.. a worthwhile turning point (or could be considered as such if outcomes mimicked new positive attitude) as I had a NDE that forced a radical perspective change and I became firmly committed to trying again, getting back on track to the better life I was building, giving it my all/making up for lost time, $ etc.
Whilst this new attitude was technically the happiest and most sustainably content I’d ever been in my life; it actually ushered 2 years of any, every and all attempt from every angle to thrwart, subvert, steal, diminish and prevent any progress whatsoever that could in any way reflect the joy of my new positive attitude and state of mind. For example: all cars and assets stolen, really horrible slander, very questionable and ethically shocking actions from family/friends/those around me. Sensitive identity documents stolen on multiple occasions, death threats could but wont go on for its a lot). So every time I’d get a job, save etc it would get stolen, go back to pretty much zero, try again, doing something a little different and same/similacompletely wild card random event occurs that fks progress once more. So pretty much two years where all i’ve got to show for it is my sanity, resilience and resolve to persevere (not even with a story too at that, most dont believe it) and a wealth of spiritual reserves I have learnt about myself and the universe. Whilst I value and am grateful for the above, its optimism doesn’t really show how painful, fucked, cruel, useless idk - the true cost of this. I am not displacing responsibility btw, trust - am painfully aware how my actions and shortfalls have created certain consequences and situations however with time I have also come to see that so much of it was not proportional to my stimulus and frankly was some karmic debt/chasm/revenge/plan/sick joke with really cooked skew points.
But yeah I get it, ‘not poor me/old orphan annie’ victim sounds I’m making - I’m just stating, that many injustices poorly or accurately distribute as they should….
Anyways, I’m finally at a position though where i have 100% guaranteed, stable housing (woo off the streets) and want to go into my 30s a healthy person, with a job/more purpose than just building goals and dreams to have them torn down unceremoniously. A better sibling, an asset to my spiritual team… without losing my heart/hope/faith. Showing up for and being accountable to my self, my dreams and the part I play in a divine purpose. My confidence is increasing; for example, im not scared to have a bank account anymore lest it be taken again and now own more than just the outfit im wearing. Eating food, and living without a fear of being shanked in my sleep , it’s been a while yipyip.
However, the world now feels foreign & unrecogniseable. All friends, family, places feel artificial disconnected derivatives/feel off, confusion over unusual, undefined and unexplained strange terrain to entire life prior. It’s Like great divides and times occurred without any legitimate, standard consensus on when/how/what triggered it and am now in utter exile to old world/norms (e.g-was asked recently what item was in my nose and had to explain it was a bit of snot..then asked if it is usual human behaviour…..). And am aware none of this is ‘real’ ; as in, this is a dream state/game be it waking or dreaming, the matrix etc however still gotta eat, and am still here breathing - with no knowledge on how to understand/conquer this dream/ game state. I want to do better, discoverefine/continue my purpose and hopefully figure out why I feel like a circus monkey/doll on display and mocked, am treated as such without explanation etc etc. Additionally, am very tired of the great lengths and excessive gestures that attempt to hold me back /bring me down, depressed again( e.g- unnecessary lies and showy displays of affection that are so ridiculous, setting a bar high for no reason when standard conversations/behaviours would have sufficed? Constant attempts at getting hopes/heart up to crush it down without reasonable prompt or stimulus). I Refuse to walk around with an unjustified chip on my shoulder yet life mirrors back to me either: my spiritual advancements in a productive, kind, progressive way or, will mock/deride or devalue/exploit any positive emotions/constantly checking, critiquing, judging and ridiculing thoughts/feelings and behaviour. With no way to exit that hedonic treadmill, I am trying new tactics whenever an approach isn’t working however my energy, resolve, supports, esteem, heart and faith struggles with the fluctuating see-sawing weights.Even when cutting everyone off, it still teaches lessons that are helpful but come at harsh tolls.
I know I need to do all these things too… with apparently not that much time which doesn’t make it easier and reminded frequently ‘it could be much worse!”: to awaken, find my twin/whatever, save, redeem, find my self or lose it, self-actualise, ascend, remember, forget, let go, but hold on— all whilst feeling like an uninformed, dim witted laughing stock to the world that awaits something (???). Appearing to someone else’s profit for reasons beyond me in causes so toxic/pathetic/fucked up but of course… I am not them nor aware of grand spectacles. Nor is there any way of knowing concretely all these fucked up things will be worth it.. So i’ve pretty much resigned myself to an isolated life as family, friendship or relationship endeavours have been cruel, bizarre, profit driven and unaligned to myself.
So… how tf do we author our dreams w all this in mind.. understand where we are/what job we are to do even as a stupid human on some show I can’t see but know am being mocked… restore a sense of power, esteem … fuck. having firm resolve. never going back to zero again. finding the dream that’s right for me and actually actualising it with right work (not like before, putting in work but goals changing, shit happens)… what tf do I do with this situation and allotment within this totally cooked, counterintuitive space&time… how to understand what everyone/anyone is talking about or why NOTHING makes sense. How to conquer CONFUSION!
Thank u for reading, I know it’s mostly cliche and fkn long. Watered down for safety reasons but the ardent request for help still be very real and sorely needed !!!!! (in turn sending comraderie energy to everyone reading on this cooked quest)

First of all I feel massively embarrassed but I genuinely need to know. As someone going to a concert for the very first time (eras tour, Lisbon May 25th) i really want to know how the entry process works?

• as I stay in line with my ticket, as the line moves forward, can i ask for help/guidance to my seat? The stadium is huge and I'm 100% sure I'll be lost
• how early should I be there?
• how do they check my e-ticket?
• I don't have time to make friendship bracelets, is that a bit embarrassing? Thank you!

Hey guys, so I have a complicated situation in my hands and I need some advice. I was an asshole.
Sooo in November 2023, I met this great guy and we developed a good friendship. We had a lot of fun and laughed a lot together, playing my favorite game in co op and......over time.... I started to fall in love with him and yeah...... I did something really fucking dumb. Something reallly stupid. Beyond stupid out of impulsiveness.
I blocked him out of the blue instead of even telling him I love him.....
Why did I do it? Because I feared he wouldnt want to be my friend anymore after learning about it and because I was not at a good place mentally at the time.
2023 was a very, very rough year on me (2 deaths in the family and the end of a relationship), and idk if I could have handled rejection + losing a good friend like him back then.
During this time I thought about him. I wanted to unblock him....I really did, but how should I even do it? How do I unblock him and reconnect with him? How will it go? Will he hate me? Well..... I unblocked him on Christmas to wish him a merry christmas but from his answer (yo?), I thought he didnt even remember me.... so I just wished him merry christmas and left it at that.
After my birthday, I said to myself fuck it and messaged him properly....turns out he DID remember me and was shocked to learn of my reasons to have blocked him. I didnt tell him yet about how I was doing when we met.
He accepted me back as a friend to my surprise.... but it brings me to my reason for asking here.
Sooo we´ve reconnected, but I want to redeem myself for what I did. I want him not see me as "the one who blocked me that time". If I could go back in time, I wouldnt have done what I did, I regret it a lot.
How could I make it up to him?

Everyone knows that in the memecoin world, you can find an enormous amount of rugpulls. Every day more and more people get affected by rugpulls. Of course, there are a lot of parameters you can check, like the tokenomics, socials and the contract details. Could being an Australian dev be another parameter to add to the list of anti-rugpull? Hear me out on three great projects with lots of potential that share a common denominator. They all have Australian devs.
I want to start with the latest project of them all, that has just been launched last Monday. The memecoin is called $TWGGY, that is based on a cartoon character called TWIGBEARD THE UNKEMPT (TWIGGY). The team is planning to make an animation series that focuses on TWIGGY and his eccentric druid style of being a guardian of the forest. They describe the humour in the animation series as Rick and Morty meets Final Space. I personally like the art style of the series, and this is what got my attention in the first place. Also, the token has a 3% buy/sell tax. The revenue generated by this tax, will be spend on restoring nature around the world, so buying this token also has a positive effect on the earth. I am looking forward to the release of the series and I think that this coin will get a lot of traction when they have everything in place.
Network: BASE
CA: 0XB0EA90D2963A8521D65959ED658B09EE5E78B353
https://www.linktr.ee/twggytoken
The second project I want to talk about is RUGGED METOO ($METOO), which is the crypto version of #METOO movement, that is anti-rugpulls and wants to educate people about how to recognise one. The project is currently 2 months old and still running strong, with a market cap of 35K, which has been organically growing the last weeks. The project will be listed on two small CEXs in the next weeks and the dev is working on a platform to identify rugpulls at an early stage, which will add utility to this project. In addition, the team’s and marketing tokens are currently locked at streamflow and the project has a rugcheck score of 100, which doesn’t come as a surprise from an anti-rugpull project. Check the TG out u/RuggedMETOO for more information regarding the project. The dev works like crazy, so this project will most likely perform very well.
Network: SOLANA
CA: 8PNxg6bHPZkDFPtBgRShZgDUq2Maai47wHa7QC9uLgxK
https://linktr.ee/ruggedmetoo
The last project I want to talk about is for the Lord of the Rings (LOTR) fans out here. This project is called $GOLEM, which is a token based on Gollum from LOTR. The project is 1,5 months old and now run by a CTO team since the dev had to step back due to personal circumstances. The dev was honest and transparent and has handed over the marketing wallets and social pages and website to the team. Recently, the team has announced a reward system, where you lock 5 million tokens at streamflow and have a chance to win $GOLEM as a reward in a raffle-based system (Check TG for more info). The reward system will be launched on the 1^st of June. In addition, a movie about Gollum was recently announced + 2 additional LOTR movies. I believe that this project will perform well in the months to come, especially around the hype of the new movies. Lots of things are still being planned, especially focussed on rewarding the active community.
Network: SOLANA
https://linktr.ee/golemsol
CA: 2QaaeLXmAKjW7iDZm3WcpfUeWAYFy1FVy6n1LRzegoeL
A project having an Australian dev, is of course not a parameter to avoid rugpulls. Although I think that Australians in general are very honest people. What are some of the parameters you always check before you invest in a project? Also, what project would you recommend investing in due to these parameters? Let me know in the comments below!

Hey guys, so I have a complicated situation in my hands and I need some advice. I was an asshole.
Sooo in November 2023, I met this great guy and we developed a good friendship. We had a lot of fun and laughed a lot together, playing my favorite game in co op and......over time.... I started to fall in love with him and yeah...... I did something really fucking dumb. Something reallly stupid. Beyond stupid out of impulsiveness.
I blocked him out of the blue instead of even telling him I love him.....
Why did I do it? Because I feared he wouldnt want to be my friend anymore after learning about it and because I was not at a good place mentally at the time.
2023 was a very, very rough year on me (2 deaths in the family and the end of a relationship), and idk if I could have handled rejection + losing a good friend like him back then.
During this time I thought about him. I wanted to unblock him....I really did, but how should I even do it? How do I unblock him and reconnect with him? How will it go? Will he hate me? Well..... I unblocked him on Christmas to wish him a merry christmas but from his answer (yo?), I thought he didnt even remember me.... so I just wished him merry christmas and left it at that.
After my birthday, I said to myself fuck it and messaged him properly....turns out he DID remember me and was shocked to learn of my reasons to have blocked him. I didnt tell him yet about how I was doing when we met.
He accepted me back as a friend to my surprise.... but it brings me to my reason for asking here.
Sooo we´ve reconnected, but I want to redeem myself for what I did. I want him not see me as "the one who blocked me that time". If I could go back in time, I wouldnt have done what I did, I regret it a lot.
How could I make it up to him?

I am coming to the realization some of my oldest friends, who I want to reconnect with, cause me a LOT of anxiety at the thought of doing. And thinking about it a lot, I think it's beause I'm worried they will 1. think I've changed over the years too much but especially 2. I won't be able to match their energy and seem unenthusiastic and boring.
Years ago we were really close but I was struggling to form a solid identity of my own. I didn't know my boundaries for social interaction because I was undiagnosed and felt like friendships were supposed to be hard, so I put in the "work" to make it good (acting to mask my natural reactions & responses). As I got older I let it become an excuse for why I was too busy to chat with them, but the reality right now is that... I could. I could message them right now. But I feel so much anxiety I avoid it. We all miss each other, they message me sometimes and I get that pit in my stomach.
I'm also scared to bring this up with my therapist because I know I look like an asshole. I feel like one. I really just want to tell myself they'll accept me as I am but it's so so scary to me. A lot of immature emotions on my part and emotional investment in these old friends.
What can I do? Do you think they might accept me if it's more obvious I stopped masking? They really drained all my energy but it was my fault because I tried super hard to be like them energy wise, when nobody asked for that... But that's how they're gonna remember me.

I (17F) had recently gotten into an argument with a close friend (17F).
I met my friend (B) last year around november. she is one of the closest people in my life and i thought she understood me the most. My only “problem” with her is how often she calls, its always without a warning. I’ve told her since since start of our friendship that i don’t like calls, sometimes im fine with calling if im able to and have something to talk about. i can barely keep up a conversation irl if i dont have a topic to talk about. Even then she keeps on calling me and would even beg, and 2/3 of the calls she makes is just because she “misses” me. I’ve started getting mad getting called twice a day just because she “misses” me and whenever i try to end the call she would beg me not to and that we could stay on a silent call, whats the point of calling then? Because i cherish her as a close friend i never say anything directly about these unwarned calls because i don’t want her to get annoyed or start to overthink what i said. I’ve also become very busy this week due to personal things which she knows.
Now onto what happened. Yesterday i had a physics class and right before it she called me, i closed the call and told her “i can’t call i have a class, please stop calling me all the time i don’t have the time to answer anymore”. She said that she called by mistake and sent 2 voice messages that I couldn’t hear. I, again, told her i was in a class and that i can’t hear the voice messages, she replied with “i’m not begging you to listen to them, when you get back from class listen to them” which got me incredibly mad. After the class i listened to the voice messages and its basically her saying she called by mistake and that i didn’t need to “explode in her face” because she called me. I told her that i said that because she calls me everyday for the reasons i listed and told her “how is it wrong of me to ask you to stop calling me without warning” and mentioned how i kept my mouth shut for her and how she was supposed to know that i don’t like calling in general. She replied saying “oh so you’re doing me a favor by keeping your mouth shut? whenever you say you want to close the call i close it immediately and its not like anyone is forcing you to call” she then sent “you’re making it seem like im forcing you to be my friend”. I dont know why she would say that. She then says “i know you got friends but its not ok to say some out of pocket things like that, i get that im too much and im sorry” i can’t tell if she’s trying to guilt me or something?? there was no need for those texts. She then goes on to say “sorry if i ever made you feel uncomfortable or put you in a awkward position or not made you laugh, im trying my best here too” which also had question marks going off in my head.
I genuinely don’t know what i should do because cherish her as a friend, she’s almost like family. And i never did anything to get her to the point of saying the last few texts she sent. AITA?

Hello everyone!
I (m33) currently struggle with a bad breakup. It happened a year ago and it felt like a connection I never had before. She broke up with me after 5 months of dating because I had very bad mental health back then (within 6 months a lot of terrible things happened to me and around me, which led to burnout, depression and retraumatization) and was just not in the right mindset to date. But in this time I found here, I communicated openly about everything, but it did affect her negatively as well. She was right to break up. At that day she cried her heart out and I know she so deeply loved me like I loved her, but some weeks later she “hated” me and said she could finally feel relieve…
I am in therapy now once a week and finding back happiness, working on my issues, traumas, negative thoughts, how I behave, how to communicate, healthy coping mechanisms and finally learn to love myself as well.
Anyway, I do not believe in anything except scientific facts, although since I was a child I always had a deep strong kind of belief in love, but never could accept it. Anyways, it was the first time ever that it felt like we were meant for each other (although we only dated for 5 months), but I do not want to indulge this belief, because I don`t want to make myself false hope. She has a new boyfriend now, moved in with him, and told me last summer that she already moved on (we have no contact – a friend told me that she has a boyfriend and moved in with him).

Some time ago a very good friend of mine which I know for over 20 years told me about what she believes. I always had known her for being a scientific person as well. She described it that she sometimes has very strong feelings about something in her life and that these things happen. Always. She was worried to tell me because I would think she is crazy. And one day she told me that she had such a strong feeling for the first time in her life for someone else. And it was me. She could not describe why, but she believes we are friendship-soulmates and therefore it could have happened. First she didn`t want to tell me, but after not stopping asking her she told me that she feels that my ex and I will find each other again someday in the future, but she doesn`t know when or how and it could take years – but only if both moved on. I asked how she could know, and she said she “just knows, because it is that kind of feeling”. I know she doesn`t want to make me false hope or wishes anything bad for me. She told me I first have to let go and “forget” about here and only then it will happen. I tried to reason with her, but she said I just should trust her, because she really knows. But it goes hand in hand with my feeling about my ex and me as well… She never told anyone else about her feelings and believes.

I googled this and found the “Law of Attraction” or “Law of Assumption” and told her about it. She said she never heard about that (and she doesn`t believe in anything else spiritually and esoterically, except her feelings and that everything happens for a reason and the universe), but that it comes close to her feelings and believes.

I tried manifesting to get proof myself, because otherwise I would not believe it and this are my experiences (I walk to work and home from work daily and almost always going the same path):

1. One day when walking home from work I saw people twice on roofs. I thought to myself “if the universe in this way exists, please show me a third time people on a roof on my way home” – I had to walk a different path at the and to get to the drug store and far away I saw one man on a roof, but only after I forgot to look. I only saw him because it was far away and I didn`t have to look up. Ever since then I look at roofs and almost never see people up there, so it is not a common thing.

2. Going to walk I tried again with “if the universe exists, show me the word “believe” or “trust” somewhere”. I looked around and never found the word written somewhere. And I forgot to look again and almost at my destination I saw it written on a truck “a company you can trust” or something like that.
3. My ex has two cats and exactly one year after we met the first time at a party I saw a cat sitting in the streets (I live in a big city) and she came to me and let me cuddle her. Never saw her before and after that only exactly at the time again, where my ex dumped me.
4. One day I desperately wanted to read her name to get the proof, but I was so desperate, and I looked around and never found it. I thought “ok, maybe it`s too desperate, it should be something like the cat again” and I shit you not, I saw that cat again the same day.

There happened more incidents like that and some really weird coincidences like looking randomly at a graffiti “THINK” and hearing the word “think” at the same times in the song I was listening to. It`s like the universe tries to proof itself. I told my friend about it and she said I just should trust the universe, trust the process, let go and live my life happily until it happens.

And here is my problem: I just can`t. I truly want to believe in it and that all that comes true, but I can`t. I don`t want to make myself false hope and it goes against my rational thinking and believes. It could have been all just coincidences. “My mind just sees what it wants to see”, and that it`s just wishful thinking. That my subconscious just knows where to look because I want it to be true. And how could my friend know? But I trust her with all my heart, because why should she be lying or indulge false hope?
It`s like my rational thinking and my irrational thinking are in a constant fight about this.

How can I know all this is true? How can I know to trust something I can`t proof exists and science can`t either? How can I know all these experiments just weren`t coincidences? Because when I try to do the exact same things, they don`t happen anymore, so it`s not reliable. I want so strongly to believe so I finally can let her go because I trust we will see each other again someday. And that`s what my feelings deep down tell me. But my rational me urges against all that.
When I give in to this believe I just feel calm, happy and like the world is mine. Then my rational thinking kicks in and I feel desperate, because it`s gone forever.
Has anyone experienced something similar or has some sort of a solution here?
Anyway, thank you all for reading and sorry for any grammatical errors, English isn`t my first language. Have a wonderful day!

When I was in the 3rd grade. I got placed into a gifted class from remedial. Off the bat, my teacher would put me on the peddle asking questions about what she’s teaching and always putting me on the spotlight. It’s almost like she was looking for a reason for me to not be in this class. I had a method for learning. It was heavy visual and pattern recognition based. I would never take notes as her material was quite easy despite being in a gifted/honors class. There would be times where I wouldn’t pay attention and that’s because I was interested in my own section of class that mattered, more specifically mathematics and sciences. There would be times where I would get the answers wrong. That would be because she would constantly call me up, more than others, as a matter of fact, I don’t recall her picking others despite others not speaking much or at all. She would make an example out of me. She would say, “you’re not going far in life if you don’t pay attention”, or my favorite, “if you don’t write your notes in my way, you’re going to be a failure.” She would constantly embarrass me in front of everyone. I’d get embarrassed but I know my own potential and was ahead of everyone. Even though I would get answers wrong, I’d do well in tests/essays. I recall writing a killer essay about mars and its rovers from the 80s to today (2010s at the time). She accused me of copying my friend and made an announcement that everyone could hear and say, “Oh you definitely copied your classmate, I can see how you confused x and y words blah blah blah.” My classmate couldn’t believe what happened since he was the one that clearly copied off of me. I didn’t care since I know I wrote it. More into the semester, my friend would always give her lunch away to me. I would happily take her granola bar. There would be times where I would just pick up her lunch bag and take it. This one instance, I took her apple and after recess, my teacher sent me to the principals office for no reason, saying they were waiting for me. I had no idea what was going on so I obliged. I went to the principals office and there was two people waiting. A guardian and the assistant principal. They told me they were disgusted by my own actions and I should be ashamed of myself. I was so confused on what I did. I perhaps brutally beat someone in kick fence but that wasn’t the case. I was told I shouldn’t steal someone’s food and it’s criminal activity to do so. I wasted an hour in that office. I was saddened and heartbroken on how my friend who would voluntarily give me food, would just disband our years of friendship to the principal. They sent me back to class and make sure to apologize to my friend during lunch. As I go back to class, I see my teacher with a smirk on her face. She says, “did they hit you with a chancla or a belt?” I am Mexican by the way. She laughed as everyone did not. I immediately felt disgusted by her. As a 9 year old I couldn’t understand what was happening and why she would mistreat me. From there whatever respect or desire I had for that class, was gone forever. I go to lunch and apologized to my friend. She’s confused and says she has no idea what happened. All she remembers was two girls asking if I took her food. Apparently these two girls only saw that I took her food and reported it to our teacher. I then approached these two girls on why they would tell on me. These two girls would go on and tell me that it was the teacher who wanted me to get into trouble. My heart sank. My own teacher didn’t have the courage to speak to me 1 on 1 but rather humiliate me in front of our principal and class. From there whatever relationship I had with that teacher was completely broken. I retaliated by not keeping up with that class because fuck that bitch.
Years later I go to therapy and my therapist told me I was traumatized by her. I sometimes think therapists are a little too soft, what do y’all think? Was she mistreating me or teaching tough love.

Hello everyone! I’m a late bloomer and I had my first relationship at 27. It ended after 8 months (now 28). I know this might seem minor to you relationship veterans but as my first relationship, this person had a huge and positive impact on my life.
Towards the end, the last month wasn’t great. Things were awkward. I could tell something was wrong. My girlfriend was seeming very distant and cold, not super eager to make plans, later than usual in responding to texts, etc. I used to push to do stuff with her every minute I had, and that last month she’d say “I’m feeling really tired” even if I just wanted to watch a movie or something.
Both of us were just too dang introverted to bring up issues. I’m just as guilty with the communication, but still it felt like she had more issues with me than I had with her. I decided to give her some space. I wouldn’t try to plan as much because I wanted her to think about what she wanted or muster up the courage to tell me what was wrong. Those last few weekends we only spent a few hours together. This went on too long and by the time we talked things were too awkward.
We talked about some stuff, and it went well, but it still seemed like there were problems she didn’t tell me. She emphasized that she was really feeling a lot of pressure about the relationship progressing, but also said that if things didn’t work out, she would want to still be friends.
About a week after our chat, when we went on another date and it seemed like she did t have the drive to improve things, I gave her the ultimatum of either spending more time together and working on things, or taking a break. She said she didn’t know how to change things from here and that we should take a step back and take a break.
…
So, inexperienced me took this as a breakup, especially with the way she phrased it. I said “alright, thanks for the answer.” That was mid January.
I went no contact (mostly) without telling her, but so did she. I tried keeping her around on socials for a couple weeks but it was just too sad to see stuff associated with her. I ended up deleting her from everything, including even Pokemon Go, at the beginning of February.
A week after the breakup, I went over to grab a game I’d left at her house. She wasn’t home so she put it in the mailbox for me. Texting her asking for my game was my first contact with her after the breakup. I honestly didn’t need the game back, but I wanted an excuse to text her and picking that up came to mind,
A month after that (late feb) was her birthday, and I said happy birthday. She responded with a thanks.
Finally, a little over a week ago (mid May), I felt comfortable to text her. I was over the breakup sadness, and honestly missed her as a friend. I was hoping she was doing well, and I also brought up the friendship she mentioned prior to our “taking a break” conversation. I asked if it’s something that she wanted to still explore at some point, or if we should maintain no contact.
She said that when I deleted her on everything, she assumed I needed that in order to move on and she said she was perfectly fine with it. I assume this had hurt her a bit, because I never told her when I was doing it. I felt bad.
She pointed out that she never said we had to be “no contact” in the first place. This threw me for a loop, because, while it was never explicitly said, she never reached out once in the 4 months since.
Then she said that she was happy with her life and didn’t think now was the right time for a friendship. I was sad hearing this at first, but I can totally accept that, and it’s given me a lot of closure. Even since hearing this, I feel like I’ve moved on a lot. That friendship was a big thought taking up space for the last 4 months.
But, one thing popped into my head. Did I completely misunderstand a break up vs “taking a break”? I needed months to get over her, because I was still really attached when we “took the break”.
I understand that taking a break might be more feasible for longer relationships that have huge amounts of time invested, but this one was only 8 months. I bet it would’ve led to a breakup either way, but did I misunderstand when she asked for a break? If so, I feel like shit. I know there’s nothing I can do now but it’s knowledge that can be helpful in the future.
Sorry for the long post, but this has been bugging me a lot lately. I’d love some input and advice on how I could’ve handled things better post breakup.

Got married young to my girlfriend from high school in 2012. 2 kids 1 miscarriage. I was depressed. But I thought it was a great relationship ( it wasn’t I know this now) After a few years, our sex less started to slip really after our first kid I figured that was just normal, but then I realize that it was me and that sex was hurting. I just didn’t realize. Until now. In 2024. Throughout my entire marriage, I was severely depressed. I can probably count on my fingers and toes. How many showers I took in 10 years. It was bad. But unfortunately, healthcare isn’t available readily for people in my industry so it went unchecked and got worse and my wife was severely depressed and she just sat down and said “ you don’t love me. I want a separation. “ at that time I said that’s fine if you need time I understand I understand that I have been a dreadful person in my depression and I really am working on it and for the next seven months I worked hard I meditated used counseling apps. I looked out for free counseling and I got better and then I find out she was having an affair with my best friend for the year. Because he loved her. Now this man I picked up his dead dad I paid to have his dead dad buried and I made sure that he was all right for the past 20 years. Then things just started lining up. The universe started pushing me in a different direction. I got a job offer and a different state right next to a very old and close friend of mine. Moved six hours away from my kids and it’s breaking my heart, but I could not stay in that town because not only did she have an affair. She severed every single friendship I had with anyone that I had built with for the last 15 years and I had no one I don’t know what to write at this point so if you have questions, please feel free to ask I’m not asking for pity, I’m not asking for anything. I don’t really know. I’m just trying to get myself out of the slump. I am the absolute happiest and the most depressed I’ve ever been. I’m with an amazing woman that sees me for who I am and helps me through all the problems that I currently have including the pain issue down low. She is great loves my kids and I love her. But recently, I have been having dreams of my ex and my ex best friend and I don’t know what they mean or if they even mean anything it just gives me so much anxiety because I never got closure because it didn’t make sense that she was allowed to say how I felt and then take my kids from me And my house and all my family and that I had. I’m sorry, but it seems pretty narcissistic. but I have kept my mouth shut and just taking the legal and mental beating so she can feel better

Hi, apologies if this isn’t the place to post this at all, but I’ve been feeling offended by some straight friends’ attitude towards how they handle me and my gf’s identities lately.
I am assigned female, but don’t really care about what I’m referred to as. It’s just that I don’t enjoy female terms directed at me so often, I’d rather just have no gendered terms directed towards me or just simply male. I don’t have the opportunity to be offended at my friends in my 3rd world country as they are simply just ignorant of the issue and only just learning and I believe they need time to adjust, so I am trying to be very gentle and patient of my straight friends who know of our relationship.
We have a very specific type of dynamic with my girlfriend. She usually refers to me with male terms, and I am of an androgynous look. Anyway, we’ve had friends say stuff like “isn’t she supposed to be your wife” when she referred to me as “hubby” or cute and fun male names like that. When we fix their remarks, they usually jokingly protest at first with “but a woman is a wife to me” type of idiot answers but then start getting used to it. The dysphoria is real though.
Lately this one friend was kind of getting on my nerves. We were drunk on my birthday and my gf called me hubby and I don’t remember how but this friend started saying stuff like “ok I don’t care if she’s hubby to you but to me she’s a pretty lady, you’re a lady, and a pretty lady” type of stuff. I don’t recall feeling offended when it happened but now it is bothering me as this specific friend was really weird with the way she time and time again told me how she perceives me to be so lady like and womanly, all of which I am not. I fixed her remarks a couple of times and I don’t think she means any harm ever, it’s just that I am her first and only contact of such a relationship and identity. It’s not like I have a tree that grows friends and I seriously don’t want to throw our friendship away but I’d like some tips to handle this better and make her understand the seriosity of my situation the next time something like this happens.
How would you handle this? Any thoughts?

My older sister and I are two years apart. We have a big issue in that we have very different communications styles. I am more emotional and anxious and I feel like I’m the black sheep of my family. I feel shut out by my sister because she is not emotional and every time I bring up an example of how she hurt me , she yells and said I’m overthinking. For example, she took a picture down of us from her instagram and kept all the others. I know it sounds insecure of me, but she treats me so hot and cold that it makes me feel even more insecure. She also isn’t a fan of my boyfriend because she said I spend too much time with his family and friends. She has become very close with my sister in law and it makes me feel even more disconnected with my family. Our mom passed away over 10 years ago and it feels like we’ll never get to a place of “friendship” how I want it. The friendship she is forming with my sister in law is the friendship I have been craving so badly for years. For example, she let my sister in law stay in the bridal suite when she got married to change into her dress. I confronted her a while later and she said it was because she wanted the “first look bridesmaid” photo. I would’ve understood if she just explained that earlier. I want reciprocity and communication but everyone I try to express that she gets more upset and shuts me out even more. I don’t know what to do but it’s making me depressed and affecting the relationship with my boyfriend because I’m sad all the time.

when was branch with the in universe NSYNC. It had to be before his grandma died since he stopped singing after that but how much time was in between the brother one and NSYNC I’m not saying it’s impossible I just want it to be touched on. ALSO ALSO. What did he need to go by to make it IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW that branch from brother band was in this band. We know from poppy that this band was a big deal to her but we also know from Bruce that no one recognized him at the resort as he says “I know this will happen one day” and not “this happens sometimes” so I suppose it would be pretty easy for branch to do this so I guess this band away only popular to trolls and not the rag doll looking guys (love those characters animation and art style btw) however for poppy to know of this second band’s existence as she screams when she sees them, and before you say it’s because branch was in another boy band and she’s excited that can’t be true as she wasn’t there when branch told the guys, she walked in later. Speaking of the other guys they didn’t know either which you think they would if they paid attention. WHY DIDN’T ANYONE KNOW ABOUT THIS?! You would think like cooper or someone maybe even one of the elders would have brought it up that branch was in this boy band back in trolls one when everyone think he doesn’t want to have fun and rather hide in his bunker. Also what’s the age gap between poppy and branch, we knew that she loved brotown or whatever it’s called growing up but we also know that she has no memory of her sister which means she doesn’t remember anything from the tree which means she had to listen to it on records as branch was older during the escape because of the grandma dying when he was older. We know from tiny diamond and poppy that trolls age weirdly as poppy was helpless as a child but tiny came out of the egg fully functional. Nothing wrong with the age gap I’m just curious about it. I know I’m thinking too much about this and honestly this world building is way better than I thought it would be but I wish they did a better job at explaining these things.