Food specification

TLDR; Wife started constantly showing off to me that "someone" sends food to her at her workplace from expensive places, on an almost daily basis, and doesn't want to tell me who it is. She knows I wont mind if she tells me she's ordering for herself, but she denies it.
Details? This is a first, since in 10 years together there hasn't been a single "jealously" induced fight since neither of us are of the jealous type. I was cheated pretty bad by another person, she knows this and knows I'm insecure about it, so we both are pretty open about our friends and families to avoid misunderstandings between us, till she started to get all secretive with this specific matter.
She stopped eating the food I cook for her because "someone" pays for her food now. The catch? There aren't any co-workers in her office. She does consultation at her own little one-person place and everything else is managed off-site by the company she's working for.
Now, why I'm making a big deal out of it? It was not a big deal till it was; I was super happy for her because maybe some client were so satisfied with the service that they sent her food in grattitude. It was a bimonthly occurence at best and she used to tell me e.g. "HEY! this client sent me some starbucks! NICE!" or "wow other client's mother made me a sandwich and some jello!", but then it became bi-weekly and then she stopped "knowing" who sent her the now expensive food, and nowadays it's daily; she always returns my food to me when she gets home, gone all bad because she didn't eat any. I don't make a big deal but I stopped making jokes about it like "hey tell them to send some for me too!" or things like that because it started to annoy me that she doesn't eat my food and let it go bad (i'm a pretty good cook and I HATE wasting food) and it got weird when she started to show off that the food "someone" sent to her is better(costly and restaurant-made)
It started as an annoyance about wasting food, but what triggered my insecurity about this is that one day, after she sent me the ussual picture I told to her "SURPRISE! I got ahead and sent you that from Y place!", and she replied, all annoyed "HAHA, funny. I KNOW it wasn't you ;)". Told her "who is it then?" her answer? "uhmmm i don't know". So she doesn't believe it was me, but doesn't know who it was...
The second catch? They always send her things pretty specific to her likings. I may be paranoid, but most items she gets are things that she HAS to tell someone she likes, since it is not "generic" expensive food, but menu items catered to her palate or drinks prepared exactly how she likes them.
She could be ordering herself, but she denies it like it would kill her to tell me! She knows I don't mind, I just don't want wasting food. If she's ordering food for herself, why doesn't she tell me? I told her it wouldn't be a problem since that way I can save food at home and won't wake up as early, but she still denies and still "doesn't know who it is". It's the first time I get this type of treatment from her. Why be so secretive about some food? She knows it gets worse if you hide this type of deals instead of being just open about it like "it's some weird client obsessed with sending me food" or "it's my mom/brothefriend/the company".

This is my first post here, and let me just say that all of you people are wonderful and truly helpful when it comes to ufyh. I couldn't have possibly started tackling my disaster of an apartment without the advice and tips shared here.
I forgot to take before pictures of everything, but essentially I have a large "walk in" closet (read: storage room) my fiance and I had put our old mattress and box spring into. The mattress slumped over after a bit of time, and my cats claimed it as their favorite napping spot so I never wanted to move it. But last night we finally got it taken out of the closet, and I was hoping I could salvage it but it was too damaged from my cats scratching it up, so I contacted a junk removal company who came and took the mattress, box spring, bedframe and extra headboard within a few hours of scheduling with them. I forgot how big the closet it! I finally have a hallway again now that I could move things back into the closet!
My kitchen has been a total nightmare for as long as I can remember. I've only lived here 5 years, but it looked like I'd been here my whole life. Almost all the food in my cupboards was expired, as well as the bulk food I had on my pantry shelves I installed in the dining area/kitchen.
My friend was willing to come over, and she helped me sort through everything, get everything thrown out or recycled, and everything off the floors. I have a kitchen again! There's a floor! And cupboard and shelf space! It only took around 2.5 hours, but it looks a million times better than before. She's hoping she can come back next week to help me get my dining table and living room cleared away, but I feel like I'm starting to see the finish line already! My AC unit has been broken for a couple weeks now, so I'm even more proud of how much progress we made in the short amount of time while completely sweating our butts off.
The only thing I still am overwhelmed by is trying to organize anything. My brain won't let me choose where to keep specific things, so I can never seem to find a "home" for everything. I have no problem throwing things out, I just can't organize for my life. Any tips you all have would be so helpful!
If you've read all of this, just know I appreciate you and I hope you have a wonderful day (:

Chapter 1:
Quote: ‘The bed was given to the old grandparents because they were so old and tired. They were so tired they simply couldn’t get out of it.’ I can understand old age making it hard to get out of bed, but it explicitly says too tired. I can justify the other grandparents but this is clear foreshadowing of Joe. It is also stated that the house is right next to the factory, so they are tortured with the smell of chocolate, however it is not mentioned if Joe was the one who suggested they move in.
Chapter 1, introducing Charlie, is scarce on information on Joe, so no further information was found.

Chapter 2:
The book says that he is ’96 and a half’ so we can give him some benefit of the doubt here. However, this does not excuse him for putting the taste of chocolate in his malnourished grandsons mind. In this chapter, meant to be our first introduction of Willy Wonka, he talks all about the delicacies Wonka makes, speaking ‘very slowly’ to tempt poor Charlie even more, despite him only being limited to one bar a year. This is his first sign of abuse.

Chapter 3:
GJ tells Charlie more about chocolate. He also says, slowly (implied creepily) that nobody ever leaves or enters the building, as if he is trying to scare Charlie.

Chapter 4:
GJ continues telling stories to Charlie. This time, he criticises the rival factories, accusing them of stealing ideas from Wonka. This disrespect at all but one sole company implies that he is against capitalism. He also continues trying to scare Charlie by continuing to talk about ghost workers (we know that these are Oompa Loompas but the way he phrases it is specifically to scare Charlie.)

Chapter 5:
This is the point in the story where the Golden Tickets are announced. Joe tells Mr Bucket to ‘read it quickly.’ The book says he ‘cried’. This insinuates a panic, or rush. Mr Bucket had just come home, in the evening implying a 9 hour work day at least, and he is being panicked into reading the newspaper. After hearing about the Golden Tickets, Joe says ‘Oh, how exciting it would be to find one’. This quote clearly states that he plans on getting one for himself.

Chapter 6:
This is mainly people finding tickets on the news. One thing to notice is the implication of a television as they are watching the news live. Now, with four bedridden elderly people, who would need a television? That’s right, Grandpa Joe! (and the others). He could have easily spent their scarce money on a television as he only cares about himself. He also gives Charlie false hope of finding a ticket when he says ‘bring it in here when you get it, then we can all watch you taking off the wrapper.’

Chapter 7:
Grandpa Joe, the filthy hypocrite, says ‘just forget all about those golden tickets and enjoy the chocolate’ when a few pages before he was hyping Charlie up.

Chapter 8:
The first thing I noticed was Joe trying to take control as head of the family. When the next two tickets are found, Joe says ‘lets hear who found them’. This is clearly trying to lead on and control the family. Unfortunately he is silent for the rest of the chapter.

Chapter 9:
‘The old man gave Charlie a sly grin and then he started rummaging under his pillow with one hand; and when the hand came out again, there was an ancient leather purse clutched in the fingers. Under the cover of the bedclothes, the old man opened the purse and tipped it upside down. Out fell a silver sixpence. “It’s my secret hoard” he said. ‘The other’s don’t know I’ve got it. And now, you and I are going to have one more fling at finding that last ticket. How about it, eh? But you’ll have to help me.’ Where do I begin? He hoarded secret money- when his family was starting- and only spent it for the slight, slightest chance at free chocolate. He also manipulates Charlie into taking him to the factory if he wins. Not to mention the implication that he can already get out of bed. It’s quite a short chapter, but that one paragraph is quite enough incriminating evidence.

Chapter 10:
This is the chapter where Mr Bucket loses his job and everyone starves. That secret money stash would have helped a lot in this situation, if Joe didn’t spend it on chocolate.

Chapter 11:
This is a Joe free chapter, thankfully

Chapter 12:
After Charlie tells his family about the ticket, the first thing Joe does is automatically assume he is joking. He has no faith or trust in his grandson. He then saw the ticket and ‘he threw up his arms and yelled YIPPEEEE!’ And ‘his long body rose up out of the bed and his bowl of soup went flying into the face of Grandma Josephine and in one fantastic leap, this old fellow of ninety six and a half who hadn’t been out of bed for the last 20 years jumped on to out of the bed and started doing a dance of victory in his pajamas.’ This clearly shows erratic, fluid movement, similar to 1975 movie Joe’s infamous act. Not only did he soak his wife with soup, but he did a ‘dance of victory’. He then eagerly tells his family that he should be the one to go to the factory, ‘leaping out of bed once again’. He clearly wants to sponge off of Charlie’s success. More than one adult can enter the factory, but unfortunately he never brought that up.

Chapter 13:
Nothing of note. From the entrance of the factory, the attention shifts to the factory, so Joe is mentioned less.

Chapter 14:
Joe tells Charlie to not let go of his hand, presumably so he doesn’t lose Charlie and in extension, his pass for free chocolate.

Chapter 15: Upon introduction to the chocolate forest, Joe quotes that he could eat the whole field, the greedy bastard.

Chapter 16:
While Joe is mentioned, he keeps quiet for once and isn’t stated in the chapter.

Chapter 17:
Joe’s reaction to the tragedy of Augustus is most disturbing. A child, a CHILD had fallen into a river and was SUCKED UP A PIPE. Joe hardly reacts, only commenting on what is happening in a factual manner rather than in a worried tone. He also says ‘he blocked the whole pipe!’ which is just blatant fat shaming. The next time he speaks, he is shushing everyone, including the panicked, worried parents of Augustus, to let the Oompa Loompa’s sing.

Chapter 18:
Joe makes an incriminating, snide comment to Veruca Salt, saying she deserves a ‘good kick in the pants.’ That’s right, he wants to kick a child.

Chapter 19:
I couldn’t find a mention of Joe in this chapter.

Chapter 20:
A very short, Joe free chapter. He’s up to something.

Chapter 21:
Joe watches Violet like someone at a zoo, gawping at her transformation. This is unfortunately justifiable by shock. He is otherwise silent.

Chapter 22:
All Joe does is run to catch up to Wonka, further evidence of his hidden mobility skill after lying in bed for two decades.

Chapter 23:
‘Grandpa Joe lifted Charlie up so that he could get a better view.’ Did Charlie consent to this? Of course not, he was grabbed without permission. He has also been defending and enabling Wonka since his arrival at the factory. Wonka clearly has ADHD and/or some form of autism, and spends all of his time making erratic sweets that are possibly dangerous and Joe has been enabling and encouraging him when his skills could be better used.

Chapter 24:
Again, when a child (and this time her parents) are in mortal danger, he is unreactive and hushes everyone to let the Oompa Loompas sing.

Chapter 25:
While he says nothing incriminating, the glass elevator does make him sick, which he totally deserves.

Chapter 26:
In this chapter, they are under the presence of experimental, highly dangerous technology. Joe, meanwhile, is ‘waving his arms’.

Chapter 27:
Yet again unreactive to a child almost dying in front of him.

Chapter 28:
The Great Glass Elevator is hurtling towards the sky at breakneck speeds. Joe says ‘yippee’.

Chapter 29:
When Joe sees the children leave, permanently disfigured, does he show concern? Nope. He just quotes the transformation. ‘But she’s purple in the face!’ ‘He’s about 10 feet tall and thin as a wire’ ‘They’re covered in rubbish’. No empathy. Just facts.

Chapter 30:
When Wonka announces that the factory will be given to Charlie, Joe is speechless, as if he is excited about owning and leeching off of a factory. The elevator then crashes into the house, causing damage and scaring everyone half to death, but Joe still doesn’t feel empathy. In fact, he is rather calm, calmly introducing Wonka while his family stares at him in shock.

Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator:
Chapter 1: Joe tells his wife to ‘be quiet and don’t make trouble.’ How sexist of him to let the men talk out because he thinks the women will mess things up. He also gloats when the other grandparents are forced out of bed from the anti-gravity effect of space.

Chapter 2:
NoJoe

Chapter 3:
Grandpa Joe is thrilled at the prospect of breaking and entering inside of a government owned space station.

Chapter 4:
NoJoe

Chapter 5:
Joe does pretty much the same as his family and floats in shock as Wonka performs his prank on the government

Chapter 6:
Joe is thrilled that the identity theft into an unknown alien Wonka forced on them gets them free food at the White House.

Chapter 7:
In the presence of an unknown, deadly alien organism, Joe freezes, then on command runs away, not even trying to keep his family safe.

Chapter 8:
‘Somebody’s going to get a nasty shock when they see one on board’ Joe says. He does not care that they’ll die but he does like the idea of their surprise and fear.

Chapter 9:
NoJoe

Chapter 10:
‘You be quiet, Josie’ Once more, he is treating his wife as mere property. ‘If your frightened you better close your eyes and stick your fingers in your ears.’ No Joe, don’t be a damn sexist and call women cowardly.

Chapter 11:
Joe fights against an innocent species who was only attacking them because they were disturbed.

Chapter 12:
‘Well done, sir!’ Grandpa Joe says to Willy Wonka. He does not give credit to ANYONE else. It is apparent that he prefers Wonka over his own family (its also hinted at previously). He also brings up his old habit of forcing silence on everyone to let the oompa loompas sing.

Chapter 13:
Joe peer pressures his wife and child in laws parents to get out of bed, not really giving them a choice. Luckily, together, they resist his temptations.

Chapter 14:
Not much happens here

Chapter 15:
Joe convinces his family to take these drugs (with very suspicious ingredients may I add), and calls them ‘savages’ when they fight over it. When they OD and turn into babies, Joe only seems to show even a remote amount of empathy for his wife, trying to divert the attention to her rather than the other baby, or the fact that Georgina literally disappeared. Wonka says that it is an ‘improvement’, to which Joe agrees, then conveniently corrects himself and pretends to be mortified again.

Chapter 16:
After the amount of evidence in the last chapter, Joe snuck away, the little bastard.

Chapter 17:
NoJoe

Chapter 18:
When Charlie returns, Joe only shows concern for Charlie, not caring about Wonka and not being worried over whether Georgina returned at all. After seeing that Georgina is now way too old, he still isn’t concerned, even taking his time with working out how old she became.

Chapter 19:
Despite this whole disaster occurring because they wanted to be younger, Joe asks Josephine to return to being 80 on behalf of her, even though before she became a baby she wanted to be younger.

Chapter 20:
After the invitation to the White House, Joe is the first to react, clearly ecstatic for the free invitation he did nothing to deserve.

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

Semi-interesting things about me: I just graduated high school a year early Going to study religion in the fall! ( all of them, not any specific one) I absolutely love cats and I have two, they’re my babies! I like mocktails and kombucha My favorite colors are either teal or dark green I’m an only child! My favorite food is cacio e Pepe, which is pasta They/she I’m from New York but not the city. Any age can dm me as long as you are being respectful and don’t ghost. Have a good day everyone!

I have a project right now which is repairing a chipped up ceramic, mosaic, outdoor table. It is a very specific case but I have already figured out what I am going to use for the ceramic filler and paint however I just cannot find a suitable coating to preserve the mosaic and not let the chipping happen again. I also want to make sure it is uv resistant so it doesn't yellow and is durable and food safe as it is a dining table (outdoors). Unfortunately, after measuring with one of those bubble levelling tools, the table is not flat, it basically rises in the middle. This means that I can't do a normal flood coat with epoxy resin (which I found would have probably worked well). I was wondering if there is any sort of brush-on resin or a completely different alternative if anyone has any recommendations.

Planning a solo trip to Europe for my first time overseas this September. I’m 28 and from USA.
For an 11-day stay, I was looking into Portugal, specifically Porto and Lisbon as those two cities appear most popular.
Would it make sense to throw in a third city while I’m out there, such as Lagos/Alvare, or somewhere in Spain like Seville?
Or stick to just Porto/Lisbon? I know there’s so much to see in those two cities and even around there like Sintra and Coimbra. But the Algarve and parts of Spain look awesome.
Main interests are exploring new food, some socializing/partying, perhaps a day or two on the beach/some water, perhaps a hike for a day, seeing awesome nature/outdoor scenery, and seeing architecture.
I don’t mind moving a bit but don’t want to feel too rushed. But I want to make the most of my chance to go overseas.

Planning a solo trip to Europe for my first time overseas this September. I’m 28 and from USA.
For an 11-day stay, I was looking into Portugal, specifically Porto and Lisbon as those two cities appear most popular.
Would it make sense to throw in a third city while I’m out there, such as Lagos/Alvare, or somewhere in Spain like Seville?
Or stick to just Porto/Lisbon? I know there’s so much to see in those two cities and even around there like Sintra and Coimbra. But the Algarve and parts of Spain look awesome.
Main interests are exploring new food, some socializing/partying, perhaps a day or two on the beach/some water, perhaps a hike for a day, seeing awesome nature/outdoor scenery, and seeing architecture.
I don’t mind moving a bit but don’t want to feel too rushed. But I want to make the most of my chance to go overseas.

I know others have posted this as well, but I was going though old pictures on my phone and stumbled upon my list and wanted to share. The intention is to do it with mixed drinks or a beeseltzer. It's for all franchises, but I have additions for specific locales. I apologize in advance for how long it is:
1 Drink if:

• The women have a meal together
• Misbehaving children are shown
• The women talk about going on a trip/make plans
• The women fight in a van or bus
• Somone throws a party
• Somone's drunk/high
• The women yell at one anothefight
• Glam Squad is Shown
• They show/tell you what food/drink the ladies' order

2 Drinks if:

• Someone talks about their business (or products are pushed)
• Shows one of the women at work
• Travel shots of them driving/flying to their destination
• Husband gives wife advice
• An issue thought to be long dead is brought up
• Somone talks about their charity
• Couple argues

3 Drinks if:

• A drink/glass is thrown or tossed
• Security has to come in
• A punch ACTUALLY lands
• "Bravo, Bravo, Fucking Bravo" (AKA shut the cameras off/take off the mic)
• A hot mic moment

Variants:
RHOC:

• Shannon is embarrassed
• Heather is snotty
• Gina acts like an airhead
• Vicky falls/hurts herself
• Tamara stirs the pot
• ANYONE mentions Brooks
• Someone mentions The California Bar Test

RHONY:

• Ramona says something mean
• Sonja is drunk
• Luann speaks French or Italian
• Betheny claps back
• Avivia freaks out
• Leah is "woke"

RHONJ:

• Teresa yells at Joey or Melissa about "Family"
• Melissa tries to be hot
• Marge is catty
• Joseline cries
• Jennifer mentions wealth/possessions
• Caroline mentions her children
• The men go out drinking

RHOA:

• Kenya is selfish
• Cynthia ignores a red flag (both partners AND friends)
• Kandi rolls her eyes/appears frustrated by the situation
• Portia says something foolish
• Phedra drops shade

RHOBH

• Kyle mentions has she hates her looks
• Dorit Brand drops
• Erica's legal issues are mentioned
• Liza says "own it" or variant of
• Lisa V mentions not wanting physical relations with Ken
• You forget about Tedi

RHOP:

• Karen mentions how wise/knowledgeable she is
• Ashley is called young or naïve
• Robyn mentions Juan
• Candace is really angry or unreasonable
• Wendy mentions her education/degrees
• Giselle dresses like a clown

RHOSLC:

• Heather says "Beauty Lab"
• Whitney is drunk/high
• You can't remembetell the difference between Meridith and Lisa
• Jen starts screaming
• Mary says something offensive/racist

Enjoy and be safe! Don't drink and drive, friends! Drink and Bravo instead!

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I have been dealing with one bad thing after another, it's just me and my mom and we are disabled. I've been struggling to leave the system by going to college and getting work. Luckily I was able to secure a job as a work study. I'm very excited for this but unfortunately the buses weren't working and I had to get home, I used the last of my money to get an uber back. This hurt me financially but I didn't have any other choice, my university is several towns away from mine so it was expensive. It won't be a for a while until I get paid. I'm not asking for financial help so anyone offering me money won't be answered. Sorry. I do need help with buying cat food. My cats are senior and special needs so their food has to be specific kinds. I promise I will pay forward the favors to anyone else in need on this reddit as soon as I'm financially stable. This reddit has gotten me through the worst of times. It's the most I can do for all the help. Thank you

It’s been 5 months of me sending out tailored resumes and cover letters to each and every specific job application (over 250). Indeed, glassdoor, linkedin, facebook, job search canada, jooble… You name it. I even signed up for an Albertan job search program, but the appointment was cancelled due to not enough people signing up. I haven’t applied in person as they usually tell you to just apply online. I’m in desperate need of a job right now and I’ve only landed 2 interviews. They both went really well, but of course they find someone with just a little more experience.
I’ve been applying to basically anything except for fast food. Serving, barista, line cook/prep, baking, retail, etc. I even have my certifications for a nail technician position, as I used to work from home as a nail technician. Nothing. This is extremely discouraging as I am very qualified but no one hires me.
How does anyone make a living when they expect you to have a masters degree to work at not even high-end restaurants??

Hey all,
I'm 27 M and I am 5 foot 7 and currently 184-187 pounds.
I was a skinny kid except for a single summer when I got a bit chubby and I grew into that weight. When I was 16 I got a job that required me to move a lot during the day, so I could eat huge amounts of food and not gain weight past 150. At 20 I got a different job that required less movement, so I started to gain and got up to 200 pounds.
When I was 23 COVID happened and I was switched to remote work, so I got in the habit of walking all day when I had downtime (when my boss allowed). I also not longer had a reason to go out and get fast food and instead ate healthier food at home, saving money and calories. Over about 13 months I went from 200 pounds to 130 pounds and I kept it off for some time.
A little over a year of my lowest adult weight, I met my girlfriend and after that winter, I started to become more sedentary but resumed my food habits (I would exercise often before, so this resulted in a large surplus of calories per day vs maintaining weight). A little bit after my 27th birthday, I went to a doctor and weighed 220 pounds. Even that was a low estimate because I had been reducing my food intake for two weeks before that appointment.
Since October 2023, I have been dieting and exercising. I am now currently 186 pounds (as of this morning), but my scale varies. I was 183 at the start of last month, but with a bathroom remodel and stressful situations at work, I did not follow my diet (I kept up exercise) and gained 3 pounds back.
My ideal weight is 130, but I will be happy at 150. I stop being overweight at 159 pounds, and I am happily no longer obese as of this year.
I am very happy to exercise, usually in the form of walking/jogging. For instance, I have jogged 21 miles in 3 days (7 days a week), and I will walk every day unless I am busy or the weather is bad. I aim to do at least 5 miles a day. I do have a list of healthy food that I am happy to eat and my own way of meeting 1500 or less cals a day healthily.
My weaknesses are cravings and alcohol. I am aware that I make a choice to put food in my mouth, but sometimes my cravings are so strong, I can't resist them after a stressful day. Specifically, ice cream, sour cream and onion chips, chicken tenders (yes, I know I'm immature lol), and booze are things my brain immediately thinks of when I get too stressed. I don't binge eat and I stop eating when I am full, but eating enough potato chips to fill an empty stomach after jogging 7 miles is NOT a good idea.
I had some alcohol at 21 and starting at around 22, I started to drink on weekends, usually wine. I didn't drink every weekend, and sometimes I would go weeks or an odd month without drinking and not think much of it. Starting at around my 24th birthday I got in the habit of weekly wine. At one point, I would have a bottle on Saturday, then Sunday and if I had an extended weekend, It could be 3 bottles of wine that week. I don't drink during the weekday unless something terrible happened, I had a reason to celebrate, or I was off that day.
I did go 3 weeks without drinking two months ago but because of stress, started back again. However, I'm back at the one bottle a week. My problem is that I tend to drink the whole bottle in a day. For instance, last Saturday I had a bottle of wine about 5.3 standard drinks and I started drinking at 3 PM. I stopped drinking around 8 pm after the bottle was empty, and I did drink with food. I didn't get a hangover, but I know that drinking 5 standard drinks is not ideal.
I've brought up my drinking to my doctor but he did not seem very concerned, nor an ER doctor I visited for chest pains (turns out it was a strained muscle that after improper lifting, no heart condition) seem very concerned. Both said that drinking an entire bottle of wine in a weekend is considered binge drinking, but if that is my only day of drinking, allowing my body to rest for 6 days should be fine. I did have blood work and other tests in 2022 that my liver was fine and I didn't have any increased liver enzymes.
I have switched to a lower ABV of alcohol that is now 4 standard drinks per bottle and I did go 3 weeks of no drinking two months ago, and I did not have withdraw symptoms, only some cravings during stressful situations. I don't have any symptoms of fatty liver that I am aware of.
I am willing to give up drinking or seriously reduce it. I am planning on not drinking this month, and only allowing myself to have a bottle of wine for the 4th of July.
Do you all believe that I would benefit from this given that
1: I'm not "that" overweight and I don't have any conditions related to overweight (I have a normal blood pressure, I am not diabetic, no sleep apnea, etc). I've also lost 34 pounds on my own, with 27 pounds to go before I have a sub 25 BMI.
2: My drinking/interactions in case I slip up and have a cocktail at a movie theater or something
Thank you all very much!
My goal is to reduce cravings for drinking and the bad foods when I haven't budgeted for them. I don't expect this treatment to magically lose weight and I will keep logging food and exercising.

People ask me all the time what my favorite restaurant is, or for a recommendation in a specific area or for a type of food etc… and I have a list I always give out, but what I’ve started to realize is I made that list years ago, and haven’t even been to many of those restaurants within the last year, or in many cases since before covid. I always tell people to go to jitlada, but I haven’t been since 2017! This realization has made me rethink the way I engage with food recommendations, and has also gotten me thinking about how this sub operates. I’ve started to give people a warning if I haven’t been to a place just recommend within the last 12 months as a result
I see a lot of similar discussions on this sub, and I’m curious how others handle this issue personally and with regards to this sub.

Some background information : I just finished a “prestigious” degree at a reputable university while being extremely disadvantaged. 23m
I’ve constantly struggled since childhood to make or keep genuine friendships . Genuine in this context refers to friends that treated me well. The main issue isn’t so much my lack of ability to connect but moreso my inability to make friends that treat me with respect or kindness . After befriending people they often begin to treat me as a last resort, disposable afterthought and straight up badly .
I’ll go through a few friendships that best display this to give people a better overview of what I mean as I understand many posts about this topic are quite vague .
All names have been changed for the purposes of this explanation*
Friend 1: Mary So me and Mary had been best friends since early highschool (maybe 5/6 years in total) and in that time we would spend pretty much every waking moment together . Go to school , hang out with our other friend until maybe 8 or 9pm, go home , repeat . We saw each other more than we saw our families . One thing that’s important to note is that in that time ,due to family issues, she was unable to afford basic things like food so I constantly shared my allowance with her and never expected anything back - my friend was struggling (and while I was also struggling) , the concept of eating while your best friend can’t made me sick so we’d end up going 50/50 on most things . The friendship up until university was fine ( there were some issues but no glaring red flags ) and we even ended up going to universities close to each other and loved the idea of seeing each other often . Things changed drastically in university -we both made new friends and had a friendship group of sorts - suddenly she ditched me in the space of 1 year. She finally had access to money and bought her new friend’s birthday presents and Christmas presents . I got nothing , except her spending 5 minutes trying to pick my face up off the floor of a Christmas party to scan my Face ID to order an Uber back to her place ( not even mine) off my phone , and then in the morning I woke up on her bedroom floor . I let that slide and rationalised it as her being drunk aswell and me being a drunk nuisance that one time. I later went through a plethora of traumatic events , developing mental issues and started seeing her less , which I she understood and took very well (what I now believe to be a lack of care) . I visited her maybe a few weeks later and told her about my “uncontrollable anxiety and inexplicable depression” I did this for a good 30 minutes - these minutes that she seemed to be listening . After I was done she said “ why worry about things you can’t control “ , immediately called her male interest she met the week before and then proceeded to flirt with him while I was sat there gobsmacked and teary eyed. No exaggeration , legit the 1 sentence response and then done . No empathy present , left 10 minutes later after sitting in awkward silence . I later spoke to her about it because I often hear about friendships failing for lack of communication . I explained how I felt ignored and uncared for in which she replied “oh, sorry “ and the proceeded to talk about the latest book she read with the utmost enthusiasm . Never spoke to her again .
Friend 2: Bob/Joe Me ,Bob and Joe were surface level friends in highschool and then became extremely close in university as we gamed together( video games) . In the first year of uni it was very common for us to,holiday or not , to game for 12 hours and have the best time - occasionally having so much fun we didn’t know 24 hours had passed and non of us had eaten, slept etc . But something that was constant was that they would religiously put me down in terms of what university I went to ( I went to a much better university than them and studied a much more “prestigious” degree and achieved way better highschool than both of them). As I was aware that this likely stemmed from jealousy , I avoided taking about my professional/academic life and even started to downplay and shit on my own achievements . I think this registered to them as me being a pushover and they just escalated over the next 3 years . Bob and I were especially close and I told him about all of my first year traumas including a serious STD scare in which he laughed while I cried . Towards the end of the second year antiblackness started to appear ( I’m black) , and while it started off as making fun of stereotypes , it eventually led to him just a few months ago saying “ I was thinking about the Palestinian genocide and if I could commit genocide against a race it would be black people “ . Never spoke to him again . Joe thought nothing was wrong with what he said , claiming “it was just a joke” . Stopped talking to him 2 weeks ago . Just because I mentioned Palestine does not mean politics should be engaged . I’ve remained Apolitical for a reason and mentioned things entirely to understand my friendships and not to create any political discourse *
Friend 3 : Linda Friend from university who invited me to go to a concert with her last week , it was supposed to take place yesterday . I was really excited and told her that I was inly going because it would be fun with her there . 2 hours before the concert she messaged me saying her other friend bought her a ticket with better seats so she’s ditching me but I “could still go alone “ . I cried from emotional exhaustion.
Friend 4 Psycho and Sheep Me , Psycho and Sheep became best friends earlier this year , funnily enough , by bonding over our shitty friendships . We did everything together and in those brief few months I felt like I had made real friends ( I was already friends with sheep for 2 years prior but we got closer and adopted Psycho) I spent more time helping Psycho prepare for exams than I did for myself . However she then accused me of trying to sabotage her final grade by giving her the wrong information pertaining to one of her classes . Categorically false as I can’t give advice about a class I’m not in and don’t remember ever trying to . I explained this to her and everything seemed cleared up and fine but then she aired me for the whole of Christmas( stark contrast to talking everyday) .I confronted her about it and she pretended nothing was wrong ( her and Sheep still hung out around this time and didn’t tell me which was fine I guess ) . I then sent her a series of respectful text messages airing my grievances . I made sure to be very respectful , literally reread the messages to make sure I was . I got back a thick wall of vitriol including “ you’re just a leech” ( criticising my poorer background as opposed to her extremely wealthy one ) and then made it seem like she was doing so much for me . Funnily enough all 3 of us had long conversations about how classism , racism etc was stupid and was to be condemned . Long story short , sheep chose her side and saw nothing wrong with her classist comments . I’m not gonna lie , I do feel a little better knowing I get higher grades than both of them despite their 25k/y schooling pre university so it kinda offsets the pain .
There’s so many more instances of things like this happening , where people treat their other friend better than they treat me or just treat me like shit. I’ve tried boundaries , I’ve tried empathy , I’ve sat in my room and forced myself into deep introspection , but almost all the time it’s me that has had to accommodate somebody else’s needs or been blamed for things that I never did . I genuinely don’t know why friends just don’t seem to care about me . Jealousy is a possibility in some of these scenarios and I understand in others , people just grow apart or find other people they are compatible with . But some of these have just been baffling to me .
My question is , from what I have explained is there anything I am doing wrong or you suspect I’m doing wrong . ( I genuinely don’t mind criticism , it’s how I got to where I am in life )
Also is there a reason you’ve been friends with somebody you disliked or even hated and if so ,why did you continue the friendship if all you get out of it is the gratification of hurting that person ? - I ask this specifically because it’s never other people that cut me off but vice versa even though it seems like it’s the other person that hates me and should be cutting me off instead .
I don’t know , maybe I’m just boring and forgettable and didn’t register to these people as friends .
TLDR Every close friend I’ve had has treated me poorly or didn’t care for me and I have no idea why .
Again , please refrain from politics*