Sayings about neices
A collection of Jedi sayings.
2014.05.22 07:04 Auzi85 A collection of Jedi sayings.
I have read the Legacy of the Force, Jedi Apprentice, Jedi Quest, And many other Star Wars books, and have always thought of writing them down to dwell on later. I though that there may be others you would like to access the list as well.
2021.05.22 19:53 rinusunny90 PositiveQuotess
Inspirational quotes and motivational sayings have an amazing ability to change the way we feel about life.
2018.12.22 22:29 galacticwarrior9 hadithstudies
A subreddit for the study of ḥadīth - sayings about or ascribed to the Prophet Muḥammad ﷺ and his successors.
2024.05.22 22:33 winter1094 AITA for cutting off my grandmother?
AITA for cutting off my grandmother?
I 29 y/o female has a very abusive childhood. I came from a broken family. My father did drugs and constantly beat my mother which caused them to separate. We lived with my grand mother ( My mother's side ). At first, she was that kind of grandmother anyone would love to have... until it changed with no apparent reason. She started beating us ( me and my sisters ) when we were in elementary. She sometimes did not allow us to go out our room and did not feed us the whole day. She would have us clean the whole house non-stop until night time. She would call us "leeches ", "burden" ,"free loader," and all ugly things a grandmother shouldn't call her grand daughters. We were physically and mentally abused on a daily basis. All these happened while my mother was away. She worked as a nanny/house helper and only came to visit us once a month. I thought that we were only going to get abused physically and mentally. But I was wrong. I was 17 when I was unable to take all the abuse anymore and ran away. I lived independently for years away from them. I worked at a small store and only got food and a roof for shelter as a payment. Until, I got a work in the BPO industry ( I forgot to mention that I was a college undergraduate ) and rented a nice house for myself. When my mother and sisters learned that I already had a good paying job, they came to live with me. I welcomed them with open arms.
My grand mother also learned about it because she's still in contact with my mother. And guess what? She asked money from me on a monthly basis. Telling me that she raised me and paid for my school for me to help them. In short, I was an investment to her. Every payday, she showed up infront of my house asking for money ( 3,000php-4000php, bi-weekly ). Me as someone who longed for her love my whole life despite of what I went through under her care, I gave her money twice, sometimes, thrice a month. This went on for almost 2 years....until pandemic came. My sister got COVID and she had to be hospitalized. All my savings and my money ran out so I wasn't able to give my grandmother money for once. And you can't imagine how angry she was. She called me ingrate and useless. That's when I snapped. I was angry. I then made a vow never to talk to her again, and give her anything, not even a centavo. I warned her to never set foot in my home again or all hell will break lose.
After more than a year of not talking to her and seeing her, I learned that his husband died and left her alone, fending for herself.
My sisters and mother also do not want to live with her or even visit her.
Now, my grandmother's neice has been sending me photos of my grandma looking frail and weak, saying that we do not even remember her. A week ago, she even sent me a photo of my grandma in the hospital.
I already told my mother and sisters to visit her but they refused.
Now, I feel guilty for some reason. Am I the a-hole for cutting her off my life?
( Note : Domestic abuses were only some of the abuse I suffered under her care. His husband also abused me in a way that I would not be able to share here due to guidelines. My older sister also suffered a crack in her skull because my grandma loved to crack "tabo" ( water dippers) onto her head when we were kids. My sister di*ed early at 14 because the crack got bigger. My mother did not have the guts to report her own mother )
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I 29 y/o female has a very abusive childhood. I came from a broken family. My father did drugs and constantly beat my mother which caused them to separate. We lived with my grand mother ( My mother's side ). At first, she was that kind of grandmother anyone would love to have... until it changed with no apparent reason. She started beating us ( me and my sisters ) when we were in elementary. She sometimes did not allow us to go out our room and did not feed us the whole day. She would have us clean the whole house non-stop until night time. She would call us "leeches ", "burden" ,"free loader," and all ugly things a grandmother shouldn't call her grand daughters. We were physically and mentally abused on a daily basis. All these happened while my mother was away. She worked as a nanny/house helper and only came to visit us once a month. I thought that we were only going to get abused physically and mentally. But I was wrong. I was 17 when I was unable to take all the abuse anymore and ran away. I lived independently for years away from them. I worked at a small store and only got food and a roof for shelter as a payment. Until, I got a work in the BPO industry ( I forgot to mention that I was a college undergraduate ) and rented a nice house for myself. When my mother and sisters learned that I already had a good paying job, they came to live with me. I welcomed them with open arms.
My grand mother also learned about it because she's still in contact with my mother. And guess what? She asked money from me on a monthly basis. Telling me that she raised me and paid for my school for me to help them. In short, I was an investment to her. Every payday, she showed up infront of my house asking for money ( 3,000php-4000php, bi-weekly ). Me as someone who longed for her love my whole life despite of what I went through under her care, I gave her money twice, sometimes, thrice a month. This went on for almost 2 years....until pandemic came. My sister got COVID and she had to be hospitalized. All my savings and my money ran out so I wasn't able to give my grandmother money for once. And you can't imagine how angry she was. She called me ingrate and useless. That's when I snapped. I was angry. I then made a vow never to talk to her again, and give her anything, not even a centavo. I warned her to never set foot in my home again or all hell will break lose.
After more than a year of not talking to her and seeing her, I learned that his husband died and left her alone, fending for herself.
My sisters and mother also do not want to live with her or even visit her.
Now, my grandmother's neice has been sending me photos of my grandma looking frail and weak, saying that we do not even remember her. A week ago, she even sent me a photo of my grandma in the hospital.
I already told my mother and sisters to visit her but they refused.
Now, I feel guilty for some reason. Am I the a-hole for cutting her off my life?
( Note : Domestic abuses were only some of the abuse I suffered under her care. His husband also abused me in a way that I would not be able to share here due to guidelines. My older sister also suffered a crack in her skull because my grandma loved to crack "tabo" ( water dippers) onto her head when we were kids. My sister di*ed early at 14 because the crack got bigger. My mother did not have the guts to report her own mother )
2024.05.22 22:29 winter1094 AITA for cutting off my grandmother?
AITA for cutting off my grandmother?
I 29 y/o female has a very abusive childhood. I came from a broken family. My father did drugs and constantly beat my mother which caused them to separate. We lived with my grand mother ( My mother's side ). At first, she was that kind of grandmother anyone would love to have... until it changed with no apparent reason. She started beating us ( me and my sisters ) when we were in elementary. She sometimes did not allow us to go out our room and did not feed us the whole day. She would have us clean the whole house non-stop until night time. She would call us "leeches ", "burden" ,"free loader," and all ugly things a grandmother shouldn't call her grand daughters. We were physically and mentally abused on a daily basis. All these happened while my mother was away. She worked as a nanny/house helper and only came to visit us once a month. I thought that we were only going to get abused physically and mentally. But I was wrong. I was 17 when I was unable to take all the abuse anymore and ran away. I lived independently for years away from them. I worked at a small store and only got food and a roof for shelter as a payment. Until, I got a work in the BPO industry ( I forgot to mention that I was a college undergraduate ) and rented a nice house for myself. When my mother and sisters learned that I already had a good paying job, they came to live with me. I welcomed them with open arms.
My grand mother also learned about it because she's still in contact with my mother. And guess what? She asked money from me on a monthly basis. Telling me that she raised me and paid for my school for me to help them. In short, I was an investment to her. Every payday, she showed up infront of my house asking for money ( 3,000php-4000php, bi-weekly ). Me as someone who longed for her love my whole life despite of what I went through under her care, I gave her money twice, sometimes, thrice a month. This went on for almost 2 years....until pandemic came. My sister got COVID and she had to be hospitalized. All my savings and my money ran out so I wasn't able to give my grandmother money for once. And you can't imagine how angry she was. She called me ingrate and useless. That's when I snapped. I was angry. I then made a vow never to talk to her again, and give her anything, not even a centavo. I warned her to never set foot in my home again or all hell will break lose.
After more than a year of not talking to her and seeing her, I learned that his husband died and left her alone, fending for herself.
My sisters and mother also do not want to live with her or even visit her.
Now, my grandmother's neice has been sending me photos of my grandma looking frail and weak, saying that we do not even remember her. A week ago, she even sent me a photo of my grandma in the hospital.
I already told my mother and sisters to visit her but they refused.
Now, I feel guilty for some reason. Am I the a-hole for cutting her off my life?
( Note : Domestic abuses were only some of the abuse I suffered under her care. His husband also abused me in a way that I would not be able to share here due to guidelines. My older sister also suffered a crack in her skull because my grandma loved to crack "tabo" ( water dippers) onto her head when we were kids. My sister di*ed early at 14 because the crack got bigger. My mother did not have the guts to report her own mother )
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I 29 y/o female has a very abusive childhood. I came from a broken family. My father did drugs and constantly beat my mother which caused them to separate. We lived with my grand mother ( My mother's side ). At first, she was that kind of grandmother anyone would love to have... until it changed with no apparent reason. She started beating us ( me and my sisters ) when we were in elementary. She sometimes did not allow us to go out our room and did not feed us the whole day. She would have us clean the whole house non-stop until night time. She would call us "leeches ", "burden" ,"free loader," and all ugly things a grandmother shouldn't call her grand daughters. We were physically and mentally abused on a daily basis. All these happened while my mother was away. She worked as a nanny/house helper and only came to visit us once a month. I thought that we were only going to get abused physically and mentally. But I was wrong. I was 17 when I was unable to take all the abuse anymore and ran away. I lived independently for years away from them. I worked at a small store and only got food and a roof for shelter as a payment. Until, I got a work in the BPO industry ( I forgot to mention that I was a college undergraduate ) and rented a nice house for myself. When my mother and sisters learned that I already had a good paying job, they came to live with me. I welcomed them with open arms.
My grand mother also learned about it because she's still in contact with my mother. And guess what? She asked money from me on a monthly basis. Telling me that she raised me and paid for my school for me to help them. In short, I was an investment to her. Every payday, she showed up infront of my house asking for money ( 3,000php-4000php, bi-weekly ). Me as someone who longed for her love my whole life despite of what I went through under her care, I gave her money twice, sometimes, thrice a month. This went on for almost 2 years....until pandemic came. My sister got COVID and she had to be hospitalized. All my savings and my money ran out so I wasn't able to give my grandmother money for once. And you can't imagine how angry she was. She called me ingrate and useless. That's when I snapped. I was angry. I then made a vow never to talk to her again, and give her anything, not even a centavo. I warned her to never set foot in my home again or all hell will break lose.
After more than a year of not talking to her and seeing her, I learned that his husband died and left her alone, fending for herself.
My sisters and mother also do not want to live with her or even visit her.
Now, my grandmother's neice has been sending me photos of my grandma looking frail and weak, saying that we do not even remember her. A week ago, she even sent me a photo of my grandma in the hospital.
I already told my mother and sisters to visit her but they refused.
Now, I feel guilty for some reason. Am I the a-hole for cutting her off my life?
( Note : Domestic abuses were only some of the abuse I suffered under her care. His husband also abused me in a way that I would not be able to share here due to guidelines. My older sister also suffered a crack in her skull because my grandma loved to crack "tabo" ( water dippers) onto her head when we were kids. My sister di*ed early at 14 because the crack got bigger. My mother did not have the guts to report her own mother )
2024.05.22 13:54 lunawilliow I hate my body family
Last year I moved in with my boyfriend and everything was going great but after 2 months of living together he tells me his whole family had to move in with us due to "Financial hardship " ( more like they just decided not to pay rent for 3 months) when I say family I mean his , mother father, sister and her 3 spoiled rude ass kids!!!
They have completely taken over our home, with boxes 📦 of shit that's not needed, they don't clean up after themselves, no fucks given if other people are sleeping in the morning. I have been woken up more times than I can count of his neices, nephew , sister or mother SCREAMING in the heavens over some petty shit. They don't pay for any of the bills, when my boyfriend asks for bill money they are always just shocked that they have to pay anything. His sister and mother claim they pay 2,800 a month on groceries... 😒🤨 but are the most wasteful people I have ever met. The kids wouldn't and will not do any kind of chores or help out with the cleaning. His father doesn't do ANYTHING buy sit outside and drink til he passes out. So forget about him.
I want them gone! Unfortunately they will not leave on thier own , so he would have to evict them by law. They give ZERO fucks about thier son's mental health, the fact that he opened his beautiful home to them, that they are fukin up, won't help with any bills, run the washer and dryer 24/7 when they don't go anywhere, slamming doors every time they walk in or out the house or guest bathroom.
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They have completely taken over our home, with boxes 📦 of shit that's not needed, they don't clean up after themselves, no fucks given if other people are sleeping in the morning. I have been woken up more times than I can count of his neices, nephew , sister or mother SCREAMING in the heavens over some petty shit. They don't pay for any of the bills, when my boyfriend asks for bill money they are always just shocked that they have to pay anything. His sister and mother claim they pay 2,800 a month on groceries... 😒🤨 but are the most wasteful people I have ever met. The kids wouldn't and will not do any kind of chores or help out with the cleaning. His father doesn't do ANYTHING buy sit outside and drink til he passes out. So forget about him.
When my boyfriend puts his foot down they will GASLIGHT the fuk out of him, til he will just shut down, it's been like that since he was a kid.They don't care about anyone but themselves, I have never said anything to them, I vent my frustration 😤 to my BF, which stresses him out.
I want them gone! Unfortunately they will not leave on thier own , so he would have to evict them by law. They give ZERO fucks about thier son's mental health, the fact that he opened his beautiful home to them, that they are fukin up, won't help with any bills, run the washer and dryer 24/7 when they don't go anywhere, slamming doors every time they walk in or out the house or guest bathroom.
I can't stand them, I just want them gone.
2024.05.22 03:20 SuitableTransition92 Complex Family Situation: Deed of Variation
Based in Scotland. It's a lengthy one, and I'm grateful for anyone who reads and advises. Any insight is appreciated.
Sadly, my Aunt June passed away in 2022 - leaving no will. Rules of Intestacy apply, and I'm the executor (her nephew). My Aunt had no children, just two neices and me - the children of her two sisters, Anna and Cooper. Both passed away many years ago.
Anna had one daughter (my cousin, Claire). Cooper had me and my sister.
Current Rules of Intestacy will split my Aunt's estate three ways. £120k between me, my sister, and my cousin.
When my grandmother passed away, her will was set out that her three daughters received equal share. As my mother passed away prior to my grandmother, my sister and I received 1/6th, my Aunt received a 1/3rd, and Claire received a 1/3rd.
My Aunt and I cared for my Grandmother in her later years, and I was my Aunt June's carer for the last few years of her life - cleaning the house, hospital and health centre appointments, picking up prescriptions, shopping, and anything else that needed done. Never officially a carer, and wasn't paid for any of it.
Claire only met my Aunt and Grandmother twice for an hour or two, as her own mother was estranged.
When waiting for paperwork to be processed for my grandmother's estate, Claire made threats of legal action against my Aunt June (the executor) for not getting money to her quick enough. It sickened my Aunt, and whenever we'd talk about her getting a will written up, my Aunt always said she didn't want her getting anything. Her friends emphasised this after my Aunt passed.
My Aunt stated she wanted to leave her house to me, as well - but whenever I'd mention getting a will written up it stressed her out, and she'd say she was too ill for lawyers or solicitors, and that when she got better she'd get one written up. Sadly, her health declined, and she passed.
My Aunt was in poor health for years, and the stress of her sister and mother passing, along with being an executor, really took its toll on her - on top of her health difficulties.
When I'd let Claire know of the decline in health, and that she may wish to visit, she never did, and never attended anyone's funeral - not our Grandmother's funeral, or our Aunt's funeral.
Though my sister never visited the past fifteen years or so, she did have a strong bond when younger, attended all the funerals, and made it known she was there to help however was needed. My Aunt would be fine with her receiving a third, and I'm comfortable with that.
My Aunt never had the opportunity to spend a penny of her mother's inheritance, after caring for her for years, and it doesn't sit right with me that a third of it is going to Claire, who barely spoke to any of us - especially after threatening legal action, upsetting our Aunt, and receiving a third of our Grandmother's estate.
I'm the executor of my Aunt's estate, and I've dealt with the funeral, memorial, solicitors, surveyors, insurance, repairs, gathering all the important paperwork, cleaning the house, and making sure all June's belongings go to a good home before the house goes on the market. I've been civil with Claire, and been transparent with the process, confirming she's agreeable with how I'm proceeding, and even made a photo album of old photographs of the family for her.
Part of me thinks, "my cousin never got to be part of the family, and the law says she's entitled".
Part of me thinks, "giving my cousin a third of the estate goes against your late Aunt's direct wishes - Claire made no effort at any point to reach out when June was sick, and only upset her. Ask the solicitor to write up a Deed of Variation, as it sounds the most reasonable way to proceed".
I've no family to speak to about it, my solicitor doesn't know any of the details - just that there was no will and there's a neice, and my sister is happy just as long as she receives her third.
What's the best way to assess the situation objectively? How would you make a decision on how to proceed?
Thank you.
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Sadly, my Aunt June passed away in 2022 - leaving no will. Rules of Intestacy apply, and I'm the executor (her nephew). My Aunt had no children, just two neices and me - the children of her two sisters, Anna and Cooper. Both passed away many years ago.
Anna had one daughter (my cousin, Claire). Cooper had me and my sister.
Current Rules of Intestacy will split my Aunt's estate three ways. £120k between me, my sister, and my cousin.
When my grandmother passed away, her will was set out that her three daughters received equal share. As my mother passed away prior to my grandmother, my sister and I received 1/6th, my Aunt received a 1/3rd, and Claire received a 1/3rd.
My Aunt and I cared for my Grandmother in her later years, and I was my Aunt June's carer for the last few years of her life - cleaning the house, hospital and health centre appointments, picking up prescriptions, shopping, and anything else that needed done. Never officially a carer, and wasn't paid for any of it.
Claire only met my Aunt and Grandmother twice for an hour or two, as her own mother was estranged.
When waiting for paperwork to be processed for my grandmother's estate, Claire made threats of legal action against my Aunt June (the executor) for not getting money to her quick enough. It sickened my Aunt, and whenever we'd talk about her getting a will written up, my Aunt always said she didn't want her getting anything. Her friends emphasised this after my Aunt passed.
My Aunt stated she wanted to leave her house to me, as well - but whenever I'd mention getting a will written up it stressed her out, and she'd say she was too ill for lawyers or solicitors, and that when she got better she'd get one written up. Sadly, her health declined, and she passed.
My Aunt was in poor health for years, and the stress of her sister and mother passing, along with being an executor, really took its toll on her - on top of her health difficulties.
When I'd let Claire know of the decline in health, and that she may wish to visit, she never did, and never attended anyone's funeral - not our Grandmother's funeral, or our Aunt's funeral.
Though my sister never visited the past fifteen years or so, she did have a strong bond when younger, attended all the funerals, and made it known she was there to help however was needed. My Aunt would be fine with her receiving a third, and I'm comfortable with that.
My Aunt never had the opportunity to spend a penny of her mother's inheritance, after caring for her for years, and it doesn't sit right with me that a third of it is going to Claire, who barely spoke to any of us - especially after threatening legal action, upsetting our Aunt, and receiving a third of our Grandmother's estate.
I'm the executor of my Aunt's estate, and I've dealt with the funeral, memorial, solicitors, surveyors, insurance, repairs, gathering all the important paperwork, cleaning the house, and making sure all June's belongings go to a good home before the house goes on the market. I've been civil with Claire, and been transparent with the process, confirming she's agreeable with how I'm proceeding, and even made a photo album of old photographs of the family for her.
Part of me thinks, "my cousin never got to be part of the family, and the law says she's entitled".
Part of me thinks, "giving my cousin a third of the estate goes against your late Aunt's direct wishes - Claire made no effort at any point to reach out when June was sick, and only upset her. Ask the solicitor to write up a Deed of Variation, as it sounds the most reasonable way to proceed".
I've no family to speak to about it, my solicitor doesn't know any of the details - just that there was no will and there's a neice, and my sister is happy just as long as she receives her third.
What's the best way to assess the situation objectively? How would you make a decision on how to proceed?
Thank you.
2024.05.21 16:46 Maybe_once_more Which machine would you recommend? Brother sq9285 or CS7205
Inb4: not much of quality or choice on marketplace in my area & my price range is $200 - $250. I will explain my sewing needs at the end of the post.
The 2 machines in my price range that I've come down to are:
Brother sq9285 - currently priced at $230 at Walmart.
Brother CS7205 - currently priced the same at Joanne $230. However, their website says it's on sale from an original price of $360.
From what I see these two machines are almost identical, I need to do a side by side on my pc and I am doing that next but I really don't know what makes of breaks the difference in these 2 machines since this is my first time buying one. These seem like the best options in my price range right now, and I need help deciding. The msrp on the CS7205 leads me to think this may be a better machine and I should snag that deal, however I would like to defer to more experienced folks like you before I make my decision. Singer has a few others in my price range but many reviews I've watched about machines in this price range seem to lean towards the brother machines. So tell me, what am I looking for? Which is better & why? What makes it better?
What I plan on using it for: I've lost weight and want to do some simple tailoring, eventually maybe some more complex stuff but I'm starting with t-shirts I don't like to practice before I move onto anything I want to keep. I am also very tall, and the tall section doesn't stock much of the smaller sizes. I would like to be able to grab a larger size that has the length I need and bring it in to fit me when I see something I like in stores it's rare to find my size! I also enjoy making custom Halloween costumes and potentially some cosplay stuff that will greatly benefit from learning to use a sewing machine. Maybe also sewing/making some custom Christmas gifts for my neices.
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The 2 machines in my price range that I've come down to are:
Brother sq9285 - currently priced at $230 at Walmart.
Brother CS7205 - currently priced the same at Joanne $230. However, their website says it's on sale from an original price of $360.
From what I see these two machines are almost identical, I need to do a side by side on my pc and I am doing that next but I really don't know what makes of breaks the difference in these 2 machines since this is my first time buying one. These seem like the best options in my price range right now, and I need help deciding. The msrp on the CS7205 leads me to think this may be a better machine and I should snag that deal, however I would like to defer to more experienced folks like you before I make my decision. Singer has a few others in my price range but many reviews I've watched about machines in this price range seem to lean towards the brother machines. So tell me, what am I looking for? Which is better & why? What makes it better?
What I plan on using it for: I've lost weight and want to do some simple tailoring, eventually maybe some more complex stuff but I'm starting with t-shirts I don't like to practice before I move onto anything I want to keep. I am also very tall, and the tall section doesn't stock much of the smaller sizes. I would like to be able to grab a larger size that has the length I need and bring it in to fit me when I see something I like in stores it's rare to find my size! I also enjoy making custom Halloween costumes and potentially some cosplay stuff that will greatly benefit from learning to use a sewing machine. Maybe also sewing/making some custom Christmas gifts for my neices.
2024.05.20 12:48 overyoshit Baby shower etiquette
Im looking for some advice around my baby shower that I'm planning. I wasn't sure whether to post on 'am I the ah' or not, but figured its more about advice. Sorry in advance if this is a long post, I just want to get the facts out for sound advice. I'm happy to clarify anything in comments.
So im 4 months pregnant with my 3rd child. I'm divorced for 7 years and been with my high school sweetheart for 6 years now. My 2 daughters from my previous marriage are 8 & 9, and we've been putting off having a child for a while as I wanted the girls to be around this age now where they're a bit more mature and appreciate having a younger sibling without having any resentment towards their sibling or me/stepdad (who they love and adore).
Im not a huge fan of throwing events for the sake of gifts, games etc. I like to celebrate things like bdays, showers etc because I genuinely love to plan the events and having my family and selected close friends involved with our happy moments. I was a bit sceptical on throwing a baby shower as it's my 3rd child and I'm not too phased on having one at first. My last 2 baby showers, my sisters and mum planned it all for me, my only request being no children. Being my 3rd, I decided that I'd like to have more of a get together at my home with the select few female friends/family and have some food catered so no pressure on myself/family to cater, no games and even tell everyone not to feel obligated to bring a gift as I won't be expecting any; just a nice day for us ladies to be together, have something to eat and have a nice girls day with great company.
Here is my dilemma. I have a very good friend of many years, that over involves herself. She's a lovely person but really doesn't take any hints that I drop about anything and inserts herself into every situation with unwarranted visits, opinions, absolutely everything. I have slowly started putting boundaries in place with her as it was severely messing with my mental health. I am not a confrontational person either, especially since she's been great to me for years besides the above listed. This friend (let's call her sarah) has been invited to my last 2 showers where I asked for no children, decided that she would bring her niece to both showers. She was the only one that went against my wishes by bringing a child, and I don't know if it was to prove a point or not, we weren't that close then.
Sarah has even offered to throw a shower at her house (she wants games and all the crap I dont), and genuinely just trying to take over my day that I'd like planned. I declined her offer to host and organise and she's taken it onto herself to call my sister to organise it with her. My sister told her she won't be involved in organising or hosting as she respects my boundaries of hosting etc myself.
Now, here is my dilemma. I have 11 ladies I'd like to invite (Inc sarah), they're a few of my family members, in laws and friends) along with my 2 daughters, my 2 little great nieces, and my best friends daughter who is best friends with my daughters. All the children involved are ridiculously well behaved, respectful and just genuinely incredible kids to be around. I will not tell my nieces not to come, my children will 100% be involved in this special day, and my best friends kid is practically my daughter.
My issue is Sarah's kids. She has 2 daughters and a son (older than my 2 kids, think 10+) and they're seriously off the walls, and before it's mentioned no they're not any type of additional needs children. They are just poorly parented. I'd understand and wouldn't be having issues if they were children with additional needs, as I myself have ADHD and autism so I'm very sympathetic to additional needs children).
They put a mountain of food on their plates and don't eat it, then request other things (I'm getting catering for the amount of people I'm having and don't want to be in the kitchen attending to kids that aren't mine), they are so messy and drop food into furniture and carpet, obnoxiously loud and continuously interrupting adult conversations, they annoy my 2 pomeranian pups (they will be in the large closed off lounge room on the other part of my house for the duration of the shower) and the 3 kids will let them out to come out to the hosting area. If I tell Sarah's kids "no" or direct them elsewhere, Sarah will always butt in and allow them to do what they please like it's their home (like going into bedrooms, opening cupboards, helping themselves to my kids ipads which won't be used during the event, just generally misbehaved, entitled behaviour).
I am ridiculously anxious about hosting a baby shower because of Sarah and her kids. I almost do not want to have one at all because of them, but my husband has said I'm being silly by depriving myself and our kids of the memory of having one and I shouldn't let 4 people dictate my choices. We're not planning on another child after this pregnancy, so it's not an event that'll happen for us again.
I want to tell Sarah it's a child free event. She'll either bring her children anyway (because she is how I described above and think it won't apply to her especially as her kids are older), bring them like she bought her niece to my last 2 showers or have the audacity to say something about MY children, neices and besties kid attending and not hers. I've also considered not inviting her at all (but I don't trust others to not tell her or for her to find out). I've considered having it at a different location and allowing people to pay their own way, knowing she won't afford expensive priced things for all 4 of them (this is too cruel for me to do and I'd prefer it being at home and I really don't like pay your own way although I don't mind paying my own way if I'm invited to, not everyone is financially able to, whereas I am able to pay for everyone).
So reddit, what would you do if you were in my situation knowing the details I've given? I don't even know if I'm an AH for considering all of these scenarios. It's a dang baby shower ffs, and this woman has me stressing over things so freaking silly and I HATE THAT I AM!!!!!
I can take the brutal honest opinions you may have and again I'm happy to clarify anything in the comments. I'd just really appreciate any advice on what you/your wife would do in this situation.
Thank you everyone
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So im 4 months pregnant with my 3rd child. I'm divorced for 7 years and been with my high school sweetheart for 6 years now. My 2 daughters from my previous marriage are 8 & 9, and we've been putting off having a child for a while as I wanted the girls to be around this age now where they're a bit more mature and appreciate having a younger sibling without having any resentment towards their sibling or me/stepdad (who they love and adore).
Im not a huge fan of throwing events for the sake of gifts, games etc. I like to celebrate things like bdays, showers etc because I genuinely love to plan the events and having my family and selected close friends involved with our happy moments. I was a bit sceptical on throwing a baby shower as it's my 3rd child and I'm not too phased on having one at first. My last 2 baby showers, my sisters and mum planned it all for me, my only request being no children. Being my 3rd, I decided that I'd like to have more of a get together at my home with the select few female friends/family and have some food catered so no pressure on myself/family to cater, no games and even tell everyone not to feel obligated to bring a gift as I won't be expecting any; just a nice day for us ladies to be together, have something to eat and have a nice girls day with great company.
Here is my dilemma. I have a very good friend of many years, that over involves herself. She's a lovely person but really doesn't take any hints that I drop about anything and inserts herself into every situation with unwarranted visits, opinions, absolutely everything. I have slowly started putting boundaries in place with her as it was severely messing with my mental health. I am not a confrontational person either, especially since she's been great to me for years besides the above listed. This friend (let's call her sarah) has been invited to my last 2 showers where I asked for no children, decided that she would bring her niece to both showers. She was the only one that went against my wishes by bringing a child, and I don't know if it was to prove a point or not, we weren't that close then.
Sarah has even offered to throw a shower at her house (she wants games and all the crap I dont), and genuinely just trying to take over my day that I'd like planned. I declined her offer to host and organise and she's taken it onto herself to call my sister to organise it with her. My sister told her she won't be involved in organising or hosting as she respects my boundaries of hosting etc myself.
Now, here is my dilemma. I have 11 ladies I'd like to invite (Inc sarah), they're a few of my family members, in laws and friends) along with my 2 daughters, my 2 little great nieces, and my best friends daughter who is best friends with my daughters. All the children involved are ridiculously well behaved, respectful and just genuinely incredible kids to be around. I will not tell my nieces not to come, my children will 100% be involved in this special day, and my best friends kid is practically my daughter.
My issue is Sarah's kids. She has 2 daughters and a son (older than my 2 kids, think 10+) and they're seriously off the walls, and before it's mentioned no they're not any type of additional needs children. They are just poorly parented. I'd understand and wouldn't be having issues if they were children with additional needs, as I myself have ADHD and autism so I'm very sympathetic to additional needs children).
They put a mountain of food on their plates and don't eat it, then request other things (I'm getting catering for the amount of people I'm having and don't want to be in the kitchen attending to kids that aren't mine), they are so messy and drop food into furniture and carpet, obnoxiously loud and continuously interrupting adult conversations, they annoy my 2 pomeranian pups (they will be in the large closed off lounge room on the other part of my house for the duration of the shower) and the 3 kids will let them out to come out to the hosting area. If I tell Sarah's kids "no" or direct them elsewhere, Sarah will always butt in and allow them to do what they please like it's their home (like going into bedrooms, opening cupboards, helping themselves to my kids ipads which won't be used during the event, just generally misbehaved, entitled behaviour).
I am ridiculously anxious about hosting a baby shower because of Sarah and her kids. I almost do not want to have one at all because of them, but my husband has said I'm being silly by depriving myself and our kids of the memory of having one and I shouldn't let 4 people dictate my choices. We're not planning on another child after this pregnancy, so it's not an event that'll happen for us again.
I want to tell Sarah it's a child free event. She'll either bring her children anyway (because she is how I described above and think it won't apply to her especially as her kids are older), bring them like she bought her niece to my last 2 showers or have the audacity to say something about MY children, neices and besties kid attending and not hers. I've also considered not inviting her at all (but I don't trust others to not tell her or for her to find out). I've considered having it at a different location and allowing people to pay their own way, knowing she won't afford expensive priced things for all 4 of them (this is too cruel for me to do and I'd prefer it being at home and I really don't like pay your own way although I don't mind paying my own way if I'm invited to, not everyone is financially able to, whereas I am able to pay for everyone).
So reddit, what would you do if you were in my situation knowing the details I've given? I don't even know if I'm an AH for considering all of these scenarios. It's a dang baby shower ffs, and this woman has me stressing over things so freaking silly and I HATE THAT I AM!!!!!
I can take the brutal honest opinions you may have and again I'm happy to clarify anything in the comments. I'd just really appreciate any advice on what you/your wife would do in this situation.
Thank you everyone
2024.05.19 16:17 Rusted-1 ARK 8 Chapter 20-Old gods, new hope
 | \"What's a cult? It just means not enough people to make a minority.\"- Robert Altman submitted by Rusted-1 to NatureofPredators [link] [comments] HELLO EVERYONE! I'M BAAAACCKKKKK! Sorry, it's been a while, college and all. Now that I'm Back from college, I should post more regularly. The story shall continue! I might be a bit rusty, but I'm definitely getting back into the swing of things. Hope you all enjoy it. This fanfic is based on the fanfic The Isolationists, by Seeyouon_otherside, and a continuation of the stronger_together series. Constructive criticism is appreciated. Time Since First Contact: Y:0 M:1 W:0 D:0 Memory transcript: Commander Fango Feral, Tiwond of the Enforcers. “Again,” I told Sunclick. He nodded as the security feed from the incident at the mall played once more in front of us. My niece Canilia Lieutenant Feral, Sunclick, along with the commander lieutenants of each district, all observed what was happening on the screen in front of us, from the human known as Sixer interacting peacefully with a couple, then that brat, who came out of nowhere, who was chasing some poor Zeyzell, then Ashina, who came out of the bathroom and slammed the brat on the ground. Then he and his friends left only for the brat, who disappeared before he left the door. “And his friends have no idea where he went?” I asked one of the commander lieutenants. “No, sir. My husband was one of the people on that recovery team, and after heavy interrogation of the kids' friends, he simply disappeared. He left his friends completely abandoned and confused. They don’t know where he went. It was like he just vanished.” One of the commander lieutenants spoke up. “Thank you for the confirmation,” I told him. He swished his tail in acknowledgment and then started talking to the others as they bounced theories and questions off one another. Leaving me and my niece to ourselves, my niece stepped forward. “Sir, I understand this is personal for you, especially since it involved Ashina.” my niece told me. “Thank you for understanding that. You don’t have to call me sir. You are my niece.” “I know, it's just a professional courtesy.” She responded flatly. I nodded. “Thank you. I know you and her didn’t always get along, especially after her parents died, but I’m glad you, too, have become such close friends after we let her in under our roof,” I whispered to my niece. Looking at my niece's face, I wished I could take off that gas mask to see her smile. However, I knew what was under it, and any real chance of her being truly happy was most likely long, long gone. Ever since she lost her gift, she has been bitter and angry, focusing solely on protecting others from the same fate that befell her. Wait a minute, isn’t the staying human Dominic staying with her? “Canilia, how are things with that human? You don’t talk about him much.” She was silent. Then I heard a weird, cracking sound. It was very faint, but I could hear it as she was right next to me. It was coming from her mouth. I know that cracking sound. It’s what’s left of her cheek, curling into a smile. A Small one, but a smile nonetheless. “He is very kind to me. He likes hugs, he likes to talk, and he likes to listen. I like that he likes to help me, although I have yet to show him this.” She gestured to her stomach, where her gift once was. I nodded. She was...happy... I nodded to Sunclick, who then took over the conversation so I could talk to my niece. He drew the attention away from us, allowing us to speak. “Do you think the aliens will be able to help you reclaim your gift?” I asked. She shrugged. “I sure hope so, another thing, however.” She spoke much more quietly. “ I’ve been staring at the neighbors' kids again. I don’t know how long I’ve been doing it, but Dominic’s caught me doing it twice. He knows something, and he will think less of me when he finds out.” She hung her head with despair. With all my heart, I wish I could reach out, grab her by the head, and yell at her that losing your gift isn’t a sign of dishonor. She was wounded in combat. None of it was her fault, and that she should forgive herself. But I know that wouldn’t work, she’s too stubborn like me, one of the few traits. I wish she had never gotten it from me. If my sister was here now, she would kill me. “What has he done about it?” I asked. “When he saw you looking at the little ones.” She moved a little bit, causing her power armor to creek, then looked back up at me with the sort of, well, I don’t know, I've never seen that look in her eyes. It was like Hope and joy, but more. “He knows something is wrong. It’s his medical training that tells him it and his instincts, he’s actually baked a few meats for me, and sometimes when I snap out of it, there’s a blanket over me and a hot cup of…coco, I believe he calls it next to me. He is an excellent caretaker.” I couldn’t help but smile. She finally found someone who isn’t intimidated by her, who is willing to care for her that isn’t me. I felt an odd pride at that, but I’ll take that pride. “Is the great Canilia Feral Smiling? Oh, I never thought I would see the da-.” My niece and I turned at the same exact time. Our combined staring rivals that of any sun's power, with how intense our staring was at the damned soul who dared make a comment like that at her. The moment our eyes landed on the poor soul, he shriveled faster than a drumling that was absorbed into a flesh pit. He quickly hung his head and scurried out of the room to the laughter of the other lieutenant commanders. I turned back to Sunclick, who was having a bit of a chuckle of his own, he looked up at me and gave him the thumbs up, and I returned the gesture. “Have the scanners picked anything up? The cameras, have they picked anything up about this person?” I asked him, the laughter quickly leaving the room as we returned to full seriousness mode. “Sorry, commander, nothing, we’ve picked up absolutely nothing about this guy. We’ve run background checks, and we believe a few leads and we have some units out there checking out all the leads, however, will take some time as there are quite a few, and we don’t really know much about this kid. There are almost no files on him. The only thing we have turned up is a birth certificate and seventeen residences, which cannot be right. However, we did find something rather interesting. After talking to some of the people on the scene, we were able to discern a possible motive, which gave us a very good lead. Then, looking into that motive, we found a few of these.” Sunclick pointed to a stack of extremely old newspapers, the ones the type that came right after the third unification war, when hyperpaper was very rare, and the plants that needed to be used in hyperpaper production were almost all wiped out during the war, and these are made on type of cloth to save hyper paper. I walked over and picked one up, looking at the article that was circled. It read, “Boy's mother, abducted by aliens? Fact? Or postwar terrorist?” I looked at Sunclick. “I remember the post-war terrorist, and I put a few down myself.” My niece spoke out loud as she looked over my shoulder. One of the lieutenant commanders came up, picked up the newspaper stacks, and started handing them out to the others. “Sunclick, I trust your judgment, but can you explain…this?” I asked him. His eyes lit up like a Titan bug after it had ingested a bunch of parasites that were making their way out of its body. “I would love to! You see, this kid, for whatever reason, believes that aliens abducted his mother. Now, post-war terrorists were common, and they are running around, and it might even be true that a post-war terrorist kidnapper killed his mother. However, the body was never actually found like most terrorist killings. After the war, there was so much confusion because people didn’t know what to do, and many were still bitter that we had won. For whatever reason, this kid got this idea into his head that aliens had kidnapped his mother, which everyone was kind of obsessed about, even more so that there are some literally living among us. Much to everyone’s delight, I must say. However, with that single statement, that single line, and what witnesses told us at the scene. We have a much more narrow view of who this kid is, the only problem is, that the kid was never properly documented. He’s a ghost in the system. The good news is his friends have been more than helpful, as they didn’t realize he would go that far. They've been telling us everything about him, but after some digging, it turns out they know just as much as we do, next to nothing. Either this kid is extremely paranoid or…” Sunclick went silent. “Please, Sunclick, tell us.” my niece asked. He took a deep breath. He shifted nervously in his seat. “He’s a part of the cult of the old God.” The emotion and general vibe of the room immediately shifted when the cult of the old god was mentioned: those rat bastards. “Do you think they moved up this far north?” I asked him. “Honestly, I think so, I’ve been working with some of the lesser district managers since all of you guys have been busy with the aliens, which I don’t blame you for. They’re pretty freaking awesome. However, since their arrival, the cult of the old God activity has practically tripled twenty-fold. It’s insane what they’ve been pulling off, from stealing military equipment to assassinating low-level political members-" "WHY IN THE OLD VOID WAS I NOT MADE AWARE OF THIS!?!" I screamed. Everyone in the room winced except my neice. Sunclick, who had received the full force of my explosive outbursts, had his ears pinned on his head and looked somewhat afraid of me now. I sighed and motioned him to continue. "Please continue." "....uh sorry...I was going to tell you eventually, as things are out of hand, which is probably about right now. However, you were busy with the aliens and...never mind, it's not important now. If this kid is a part of the cult of the old God, they’ve gotten extremely bold, and they will become a major problem for the aliens. Their whole goal is to purify the planet and kill the great protector so that their own God, the old God, the one who came before the great protector, can reign again, and we can expand past the red lightning veil and enter the greater galaxy. These aliens represent a massive threat to that ideology. Now they know there’s another life out there, other empires, they will see the aliens as a huge threat. This means they’ll be number one on their bucket list to take out, and if they do that, the aliens could turn against us, seeing us as all hostile, which is not happening at all, considering just how nice they’ve been, they’re also extremely cuddly, I mean, have you seen the way they-.” “Sunclick, I understand you enjoy discussing advanced science with humans, but we need you to focus.” One of the commander lieutenants said. Sunclick stopped and nodded. “Right, right, sorry. As I was saying, the aliens represent a massive threat to their organization. However, this attack could’ve been a totally one-off situation where some random member decided to prove themselves. However, it also could have been something to test the alien's reaction to one of their own getting attacked. The aliens were mad, sure, but they trusted us to keep them safe. The aliens themselves didn’t do much other than send down more equipment for us and some of their own people to monitor the situation.” Sunclick finished. I nodded my head. “Thank you, good work as always.” he smiled and nodded as his ears returned to normal, then returned to his computer. I looked back at the lieutenant command, who had the Zeyzell and citizen who were assaulted under her watch. “How are the two that were assaulted?” She grimaced. “Not great, I'm afraid. The Zeyzell has been having regular panic attacks, and the citizen has refused to come out of their house in the past two days. They’re too scared for their Zeyzell counterpart. The two have become great friends, which is good for AR, though.” She said, “AR?” I asked. “Sorry. Many of the grunts have been using it, and it’s very catchy. It’s called alien relations, AR.” I nodded and turned back to the screen as the scene played again. It was the kid, limping off out of the door, who would then disappear from his friend's arms. I glanced up at the screen a little higher, and that’s when I noticed it. A camera is not connected to the system, barely a pixel on the screen. It’s a private camera. How did we not see that? “Sunclick, look up top of the ceiling on the screen,” I told him. He looked up, and his eyes went wide. “It's a private camera! How could we miss that?” he said out loud. “Not important right now. Can you get access to it?” I asked him. This is the chance I've been waiting for to get this person who would dare assault the alien who's making my daughter so happy. “Yes, sir, I can do that!” he proudly exclaimed. After a few quick taps on his computer, multiple connections, errors, and unknown errors, he punched the computer and got a connection. The tape played this time from the front. The angle was a bit weird, so we couldn’t get a good look at the kid's face, But it was what was around his neck that mattered. “I’ll be damned, a pendant of the cult of the old God.” my niece said as we all looked at it in surprised silence. “ I’m gonna have fun tearing that kid apart.” She said as she flexed her power armor claws. I looked at the pendent in silent anger. "Bold of the kid to wear it around in the open like that." She said aloud, and we all agreed. I turned around to the face of other lieutenant commanders. “This is what we’ve been preparing for. You know the drill: get your districts, alert every enforcement office if possible, and get the enforcers on the streets. Get everyone on higher alert. I want more patrols, and I want everything more. Not enough to alert the population that something is happening yet, just more than usual.” They all nodded and streamed out of the room. I turned to leave. However, an open door caught my eye. I turned and walked through it to see my niece standing on the balcony overlooking the city. I wandered out myself, power armor slightly clanking the entire time, the metal hitting the cold, polished concrete of the floor. I also looked at the sprawling metropolis we had built from this hell hole of a planet, its towering walls lined with guns and cannons to keep out the beasties. I walked up beside her and saw that something was in her hands. “What do you have there?” I asked her. I looked at it closely, and it seemed to be some sort of scarf. I didn’t recognize the design or patterns. “Dominic made this for me. I don’t exactly know why. He just kind of did. He didn’t ask for anything in return. He just gave it to me. He said he didn’t want me to get a cold.” She brought the scarf to her neck, which was a perfect fit. She tied it around just underneath her mask, and when she was finished, she let out a puff of steam from her mask. “It's a perfect fit,” I replied, smiled, and looked back out over the city. Looking over it, I thought about our history, the feral's bloodline, and how we have served as the world’s protectors for so long. Now, it was threatened because only two ferals were left: me and my niece. Now, we have aliens to deal with. They seemed nice so far… I leaned a little farther over the railing. A glint of metal in the sky caught my eye and I looked up to see one of the Zeyzell transports coming down, most likely More Humans. I tracked it with my eyes as it landed in one of the newer landing pads with a loud clang, the landing gear hissing as it landed, and saw a large number of my people standing around there waving signs that said “Welcome!” and “Hello new friends!” and other signs that said similar welcoming messages. I smiled and looked over at my niece. “How has the city’s morale been since the aliens have come here?” She quickly opened her wrist computer and typed minor keys on the tiny keypad. I still don't understand how she can use that, the screen is so tiny. “From last time, when it was already an eighty percent increase, an additional twenty-three point four percent.” I smiled even brighter and looked back down. The Zeyzell transport landed, and everybody cheered, and then the door opened as the Humans and a few Zeyzell came off the transport. My people began shouting names. Most likely for exchange partners. Immediately, the aliens again answered the calls and ran to their new friends. Many embraced in tight hugs and made what I assumed were happy noises based on how their mouths moved, as I could hear very little from up here. A few of the humans even started crying as soon as they embraced the larger frames of my species, practically melting into the "floofy fur" as the humans called it, of our fur. I even saw a pup leap from its mom and “run,” although it was more of a quick waddle over to a human and embrace them, making happy beeping sounds the entire time. The human held them so gently as if they were afraid to break. Then, he immediately started to cry uncontrollably. However, with all of the joy and happiness down there that I so loved, I was a bit disturbed by the crying. What in the world could they have gone through that would make something like a simple hug so unique? No, it wasn't the hug itself. I thought about my time on board the ARK ship and what I had seen. I have seen many humans embracing each other and hugs, giving each other kisses or their equivalent of it, I've also seen them embracing and hugging Zeyzell. I was also aware of a lot of inter-species couples and marriages on board the ARK ship. I thought about it very hard, deciphering everything that I had learned on board the ARK ship, in addition to the information that was sent to us very early on, and-... then it clicked. “They aren't crying because they're being shown love…” “What?” My niece asked. I turned fully to her. “They are not crying because they're being shown love. They are crying because another species is showing them love. They're being shown that someone cares about them other than their own species and the Zeyzell.” I turned back to the landing pad and the ship was leaving as all the aliens had found the people they were looking for and were being carried back to cars, walking alongside them, or simply sitting and talking and sharing a meal. As I stood there, it was as if I could feel the emotions coming from the humans: the joy, the happiness, and the sheer love of being accepted. I couldn't explain it, but I felt as though we shared a deeper connection with humans than we initially thought. “Do you feel it?” my niece asked. I looked at her and nodded. “I can feel the joy, happiness, and love they are feeling right now from all the way over here.” I nodded my head. “I think whoever or whatever they were running from was another alien species, based on the information I gathered from the ark ship, the reactions and emotions of the humans down there, and the information I sent to us early on. I had theories before that it was another species they were running from; I know many other people thought that, too, But I think this almost confirms it: they are definitely running from someone. Or were, but now they feel safe here.” I told her as I gestured to all the people below us. My niece nodded. “When I get home, I'm going to give Dominic a big hug.” We remained silent for a time. Just watching the beautiful scene before us as the snow fell slowly and lightly, the trees swayed in the breeze, ever so slightly bending. The wind made a howling noise as it whipped through the tight streets and architecture of our building. I breathed in and let it out, letting my breath turn to steam. I reached out and let the snow fall onto my hand. I brought my hand close, but the snowflake had already melted. My gaze returned to the Humans and Zeyzell, enjoying the snow alongside my people. I turned to my niece. “Our planet may be trying to kill us in over a thousand different ways, but it’s beautiful, huh?” My niece sighed and looked at me. “Yeah, and it’s going to get a lot better now that we have friends, or lovers for some, from beyond the veil.” I nodded and looked back at the snow that now danced in my vision as the Humans and Zeyzell departed with my people. I sighed, and we both returned inside to see Sunclick waiting for us. “You can go nerd out with the humans now,” I told him. ‘“Thank you, sir!” He shot out of the room and down the hall. I smiled and turned back to my niece. “Do you want to grab something to eat? The snow is great right now.” I asked “Sure. However, before that, we should warn the aliens about the cult, huh?” “Oh, definitely,” I told her. I smiled and we walked over to the communication system connecting us to the Aliens. First/Previous/Next |
2024.05.19 06:29 Quirky_Technology617 I'm beyound angry right now!
So, just a few minutes ago at 12 somthing am, I'm using the bathroom. I get up to flush and it doesn't, the toilet is stuffed up! Sense my mom and I got here it haven't stuffed up at all. This is my own bathroom, and the ones who have to use it is my two neices. One is about to turn 10 and the other one just graduated elementary school and going to middle school, the thing about them is that they use a lot of toilet tissue. So, I storm out my bathroom to say that my toilet is stucked up hoping for one of them to fess up but NO.. All I got was gaslighted by the oldest one, she kept saying that I was just in there. Which pissed me off because all I did was pee, I didn't use a lot of tissue.
She has been very moody lately, talking back to evey adult and she never stops even when she gets in trouble..The same with her sister (and her brother as well, who is not here with us).
Anyway, I got it unstuffed up and washed my hands, still upset about it. I hate the weekends when they come over because they truely don't respect me as an adult (I'm 19F btw)..
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She has been very moody lately, talking back to evey adult and she never stops even when she gets in trouble..The same with her sister (and her brother as well, who is not here with us).
Anyway, I got it unstuffed up and washed my hands, still upset about it. I hate the weekends when they come over because they truely don't respect me as an adult (I'm 19F btw)..
2024.05.18 19:06 Shawtyslikeamelody96 My uncle(51M) hates me (Serious)
So uncle used to be okayish when I was a kid. But around 6th grade he started disliking me. Later starting writing nasty comments on WhatsApp (calling me a prostitute who roams w dudes and other very bad stuff etc. etc.). When I blocked him he started writing the same to my grandpa and mum. Obv they took it to heart but they can't do anything bout it cuz he's the only Man in the family. He's a lousy man and not a good person in general. My dad had passed away when I just turned 18. My mum was afraid pf hospitals and my grandpa couldn't be there so I was all alone in the hospital waiting most of the time. My relatives decided to come home (made me SO excited sarcasm)
My uncle literally told the guard in ICU saying "he's gonna die anyway so let us see him. We've more important works to do" and when my dad passed away, uncle mum relatives went to cremate dad. He had the Audacity to send my dad's pics to me(wrapped in a white cloth and all I still have ptsd till date thanks to the images). Then badmouthed about my dad in front of me and aunt the next day after cremation
This man crossed the limit when he told my aunt that I DON'T SHAVE DOWN THERE. Which man in his right mind says that about his neice? I was 18 at that time he was around 48 49. My aunt had the fuckin audacity to deliver the message to my mum. How she did it still blows my mind
Yeah just wanted to vent out my frustrations
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My uncle literally told the guard in ICU saying "he's gonna die anyway so let us see him. We've more important works to do" and when my dad passed away, uncle mum relatives went to cremate dad. He had the Audacity to send my dad's pics to me(wrapped in a white cloth and all I still have ptsd till date thanks to the images). Then badmouthed about my dad in front of me and aunt the next day after cremation
This man crossed the limit when he told my aunt that I DON'T SHAVE DOWN THERE. Which man in his right mind says that about his neice? I was 18 at that time he was around 48 49. My aunt had the fuckin audacity to deliver the message to my mum. How she did it still blows my mind
Yeah just wanted to vent out my frustrations
2024.05.16 07:14 Lil_Woman AITA. I don’t want my boyfriend to be near one of his friends unless I’m with him.
I (17F) and my boyfriend (17M) have been together for almost a year. A little backstory about me: my mum kicked me out when I was 16, I had been living with a mates grandmother but ended up moving in with my partners sister and sil, he moved in with me. When we found out we were pregnant, I hid the test under my pillow. His neice (18F) and her friend (17F) (which is also his friend. They’d known her for years but they had a falling out and only recently started getting close again.) came into my room to look for something and found the test, they’re friend took a photo and sent it to his family and since they found out, his sil has been saying I should get an abortion. (I don’t have anything against abortions, I just personally won’t get one.)
Their friend Sarah and his niece Matilda (obviously not their real names for privacy reasons.)
I had a family dinner on Friday to celebrate my brothers birthday. One of them messaged me and asked to not bring my partner as he just wanted family there which is fair and even if he didn’t care, my partner wouldn’t have wanted to come anyways as he never wants to come to any of my family events but always wants me to go to his family events. That night Sarah and Matilda were going bowling and my partner wanted to go with them. I said okay. They left at 5pm and the family dinner started at 6pm so I obviously left after them. I got back around 9pm (I told my family I was pregnant and they were quite rude about it) so I asked him to come back as he’d been gone for 3hrs and he was done bowling. He said no because he still wanted to hang out with them and he said he wanted “me time”. I checked his location and saw he was at a lookout (I had been telling him for months that I wanted to be the first to go to the lookouts with him) and they filmed a TikTok on Sarah’s phone (he never films TikTok’s with me) I obviously was getting mad and told him to get back, instead the went golfing. He came back around 11:30 and I was furious as I was begging him to come back the entire time and I was upset they didn’t want to invite me (they drove past the place we live multiple times) to come and film the TikTok with them or even go golfing. He kept saying he didn’t have to come back so early (mind you, anytime I went out with friends or family I had to be back before 6pm otherwise he’d get pissy and give me the silent treatment.)
About 3 days later, we had an argument and he screamed in my face, I started crying and his sil told him to stop and she took him for a drive. I rang my mum to come get me (we were on good terms as I still wanted to see my little sister.) when I got back he was telling me he was going to sleep in Matilda’s room, I was saying no because it was the night Sarah was also sleeping in there and I didn’t want him to be sleeping in the same bed as another female. They would’ve been sleeping next to each other and in his sleep he likes to cuddle up to the person next to him so I didn’t want him cuddling up to her. He kept saying “I want some me time.” And I said back “you had me time with them on Friday, you don’t always need some me time with them.” And to that he told me that no matter what I said, he wouldn’t be changing his mind. After 3hrs I said “if you do this, I don’t think this can continue.” He said he would still be sleeping in there. Later that night he didn’t end up sleeping in there, he came into our room and slept with me.
The day after, I went to mum mums as my little sister (3F) wanted to have a sleep over. He messages me saying “Okay and I’m gonna go to net ball with Sarah but I will be snapping you every time you snap me I promise please trust me xx” I said no ask I wasn’t comfortable with just him going with her alone. He went anyways and he wasn’t snapping me everytime I snapped him, he’d reply like 5mins after I sent it and I kept getting angry as he was just in the car. They went to the game and while he was there, I told him I don’t want him watching her play and when they get in the car, I said I want him to sit in the back as I wasn’t comfortable with him sitting next to her. He kept saying no and he’s sitting in the front. I kept saying “so you’re really going to sit next to her knowing it’s going to make me uncomfortable.” He said yes and I was mad. Later that night I told him to ring me and he said “I just want some me time.” I said no because he’s been having a lot of “me time.” This week (he’s never said he’s wanted me time before. It’s only been this past week and it’s always been after he hangs out with her.)
So AITA?
(Btw, I’m only a few weeks pregnant but I’m constantly feeling insecure and hating the way my body looks. He also knows I have really bad trust issues as in the past as soon as I’ve trusted a partner with someone they told me not to worry about, I’d get cheated on so I didn’t want to make the same mistake again as I really want to be with him. And he also has to keep telling Sarah about the things happening in our relationship like idk why, I don’t even tell my bsf but I’m asking redit now as Idk if I’m just over thinking or if this is a red flag.)
Update 1: He was meant to be studying yesterday, I got yelled at by his sil if I spoke to him but Sarah had a full 30 minute conversation with him about her going for a drive somewhere (the place she was going to was an hour away and it was currently 3-4pm) and no one said anything. He also asked if he could go for a quick drive with them down to the shops even though I asked him not to but he was allowed to go but he wasn’t allowed to even say hi to me without me getting yelled at. On top of that, I gave him attitude because I didn’t find it fair that his pregnant girlfriend wasn’t allowed to talk to him but some random chick can and so he turned to his sister and asked if he could go with Sarah. He came into the room and started to put his shoes on, I was crying and BEGGING him not to go for about 10-20 minutes as we had also had an argument that day and I wanted to talk to him (he said “I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship with you if this is how you’re acting” I yelled at him for that so he stormed out of the room saying “maybe I’ll go fuck her then!”) but he said he was going. I told him “if you get in that car, don’t expect to see me when you get back” (they were leaving at 3-4pm and said they wouldn’t be back till 8-9pm) he said back to me “where would you be going?!” So I replied with “Im going to Lisa’s!” (Obviously not her real name, she’s my best friend. And for context, he hates her as they had an argument a while back and now he calls her a junky and all that) he got mad at me and stormed out so I put my shoes on, I didn’t even bother to do them up, I just stormed out of the house before they even had the chance to drive away. I went to her house and I was hysterically crying to her because it made me feel like he just chose her over me. He then came and got me around 8 and we went back to ours, we were talking for about 2-3hrs (not counting when that bitch kept coming getting him to go out and “help” her with things, I obviously followed behind every time she wanted him out there) and when we were done, his sil (she was at bingo) called him and started yelling that he better be done his work because he’d been home for 2hrs and he tried to explain that we were talking (she was also telling us that we need to talk it out) but she just kept yelling at us about how I need to stop talking to him so he can focus on studying.
What I don’t get is, he can go to the shops WITH HER and be down there for 40mins and then also go somewhere WITH HER for 4-5hrs but can’t even say hi to me before he left or can’t even try and talk about our problems for 2hrs while she can take him anywhere she wants for hours at a time, it’s honestly getting to the point where I want to hit her.
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Their friend Sarah and his niece Matilda (obviously not their real names for privacy reasons.)
I had a family dinner on Friday to celebrate my brothers birthday. One of them messaged me and asked to not bring my partner as he just wanted family there which is fair and even if he didn’t care, my partner wouldn’t have wanted to come anyways as he never wants to come to any of my family events but always wants me to go to his family events. That night Sarah and Matilda were going bowling and my partner wanted to go with them. I said okay. They left at 5pm and the family dinner started at 6pm so I obviously left after them. I got back around 9pm (I told my family I was pregnant and they were quite rude about it) so I asked him to come back as he’d been gone for 3hrs and he was done bowling. He said no because he still wanted to hang out with them and he said he wanted “me time”. I checked his location and saw he was at a lookout (I had been telling him for months that I wanted to be the first to go to the lookouts with him) and they filmed a TikTok on Sarah’s phone (he never films TikTok’s with me) I obviously was getting mad and told him to get back, instead the went golfing. He came back around 11:30 and I was furious as I was begging him to come back the entire time and I was upset they didn’t want to invite me (they drove past the place we live multiple times) to come and film the TikTok with them or even go golfing. He kept saying he didn’t have to come back so early (mind you, anytime I went out with friends or family I had to be back before 6pm otherwise he’d get pissy and give me the silent treatment.)
About 3 days later, we had an argument and he screamed in my face, I started crying and his sil told him to stop and she took him for a drive. I rang my mum to come get me (we were on good terms as I still wanted to see my little sister.) when I got back he was telling me he was going to sleep in Matilda’s room, I was saying no because it was the night Sarah was also sleeping in there and I didn’t want him to be sleeping in the same bed as another female. They would’ve been sleeping next to each other and in his sleep he likes to cuddle up to the person next to him so I didn’t want him cuddling up to her. He kept saying “I want some me time.” And I said back “you had me time with them on Friday, you don’t always need some me time with them.” And to that he told me that no matter what I said, he wouldn’t be changing his mind. After 3hrs I said “if you do this, I don’t think this can continue.” He said he would still be sleeping in there. Later that night he didn’t end up sleeping in there, he came into our room and slept with me.
The day after, I went to mum mums as my little sister (3F) wanted to have a sleep over. He messages me saying “Okay and I’m gonna go to net ball with Sarah but I will be snapping you every time you snap me I promise please trust me xx” I said no ask I wasn’t comfortable with just him going with her alone. He went anyways and he wasn’t snapping me everytime I snapped him, he’d reply like 5mins after I sent it and I kept getting angry as he was just in the car. They went to the game and while he was there, I told him I don’t want him watching her play and when they get in the car, I said I want him to sit in the back as I wasn’t comfortable with him sitting next to her. He kept saying no and he’s sitting in the front. I kept saying “so you’re really going to sit next to her knowing it’s going to make me uncomfortable.” He said yes and I was mad. Later that night I told him to ring me and he said “I just want some me time.” I said no because he’s been having a lot of “me time.” This week (he’s never said he’s wanted me time before. It’s only been this past week and it’s always been after he hangs out with her.)
So AITA?
(Btw, I’m only a few weeks pregnant but I’m constantly feeling insecure and hating the way my body looks. He also knows I have really bad trust issues as in the past as soon as I’ve trusted a partner with someone they told me not to worry about, I’d get cheated on so I didn’t want to make the same mistake again as I really want to be with him. And he also has to keep telling Sarah about the things happening in our relationship like idk why, I don’t even tell my bsf but I’m asking redit now as Idk if I’m just over thinking or if this is a red flag.)
Update 1: He was meant to be studying yesterday, I got yelled at by his sil if I spoke to him but Sarah had a full 30 minute conversation with him about her going for a drive somewhere (the place she was going to was an hour away and it was currently 3-4pm) and no one said anything. He also asked if he could go for a quick drive with them down to the shops even though I asked him not to but he was allowed to go but he wasn’t allowed to even say hi to me without me getting yelled at. On top of that, I gave him attitude because I didn’t find it fair that his pregnant girlfriend wasn’t allowed to talk to him but some random chick can and so he turned to his sister and asked if he could go with Sarah. He came into the room and started to put his shoes on, I was crying and BEGGING him not to go for about 10-20 minutes as we had also had an argument that day and I wanted to talk to him (he said “I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship with you if this is how you’re acting” I yelled at him for that so he stormed out of the room saying “maybe I’ll go fuck her then!”) but he said he was going. I told him “if you get in that car, don’t expect to see me when you get back” (they were leaving at 3-4pm and said they wouldn’t be back till 8-9pm) he said back to me “where would you be going?!” So I replied with “Im going to Lisa’s!” (Obviously not her real name, she’s my best friend. And for context, he hates her as they had an argument a while back and now he calls her a junky and all that) he got mad at me and stormed out so I put my shoes on, I didn’t even bother to do them up, I just stormed out of the house before they even had the chance to drive away. I went to her house and I was hysterically crying to her because it made me feel like he just chose her over me. He then came and got me around 8 and we went back to ours, we were talking for about 2-3hrs (not counting when that bitch kept coming getting him to go out and “help” her with things, I obviously followed behind every time she wanted him out there) and when we were done, his sil (she was at bingo) called him and started yelling that he better be done his work because he’d been home for 2hrs and he tried to explain that we were talking (she was also telling us that we need to talk it out) but she just kept yelling at us about how I need to stop talking to him so he can focus on studying.
What I don’t get is, he can go to the shops WITH HER and be down there for 40mins and then also go somewhere WITH HER for 4-5hrs but can’t even say hi to me before he left or can’t even try and talk about our problems for 2hrs while she can take him anywhere she wants for hours at a time, it’s honestly getting to the point where I want to hit her.
2024.05.15 10:36 plxo Who were some of the WORST couple pairings (all seasons)?
On my first rewatch having watched all seasons/episodes a few years ago and keeping updated. I wanna know who you think were the WORST couple pairings throughout the entire seasons (S1 — S20). If your a first time watcher, there will probably be spoilers so read at your own risk!
Maggie & Jackson: Everyone says they were a terrible pairing. I think that while they weren't ever going to be "end game", it did show the inequalities they had. Jackson never really thought of people having to really grind and work for their money, home, work/career, and generally to get by in life. He was completely blind to it and that annoyed Maggie to great lengths as she never had all that and really had to work for everything she ever had. I also think this was a turning point for Jackson because as his character develops we see all the good deeds he does with his money (buying hotel rooms for covid vulnerable people who couldn't go home, giving money to the victims of Ye Ole Grandpa Avery, etc). He stepped up more as a member of the board and to the Avery name by advocating for the underpriveldged and impoverished. Something I think he really didn't have a better understanding about prior to his relationship with Maggie.
Kai & Amelia: I don't think they had any chemistry whatsoever. I think Amelia was just sex for Kai. For example Kai didn't want kids (which is fine) but they knew Amelia has Scout, involved with Leo & Betty, and has neices & nephews of which she frequently babysits (prior to Mers depature obvs). Kai even took the job in London without even discussing it with Amelia... Kinda strange if you've been in a relationship for a while. While Amelia wouldn't have a direct choice or impact the decision much, it should still be a joint discussion imo.
Teddy & Tom: I don't think Teddy loved Tom and just used him due to her pregnancy symptoms (high libido) and actively trying not to be with Owen. Tom showed her attention while she was a hormonal mess, and she latched onto him. He had money, he was emotionally suffering (David & ex wife), and he was all round having a hard time. Maybe they were both using each other for sex but I believe Tom grew quickly attached to her and "loved" her. I'm not sure if it was legit love though.
Teddy & Owen: I think they are good together and are well suited BUT I feel like they are together for *comfort* because it's familiar rather than love.
Winston & Maggie: Again, I think this was more lustful than love. Winston adored Maggie but I always felt that Maggie didn't see him as her equal. She always considered him 'less than' and just expected him to do *anything* she asked/told him to (e.g. Chicago). In their paper, she didn't even give him the proper recognition.
Richard & Adele: They were just a bad pairing. They stayed together for convienence and I do think Richard would've deliberately taken extra shifts/work to avoid being at home with Adele. I think their home life was more than rocky and they probably spent more time apart than together. I think Richard always wanted to be with Ellis and maybe grew to resent Adele.
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Maggie & Jackson: Everyone says they were a terrible pairing. I think that while they weren't ever going to be "end game", it did show the inequalities they had. Jackson never really thought of people having to really grind and work for their money, home, work/career, and generally to get by in life. He was completely blind to it and that annoyed Maggie to great lengths as she never had all that and really had to work for everything she ever had. I also think this was a turning point for Jackson because as his character develops we see all the good deeds he does with his money (buying hotel rooms for covid vulnerable people who couldn't go home, giving money to the victims of Ye Ole Grandpa Avery, etc). He stepped up more as a member of the board and to the Avery name by advocating for the underpriveldged and impoverished. Something I think he really didn't have a better understanding about prior to his relationship with Maggie.
Kai & Amelia: I don't think they had any chemistry whatsoever. I think Amelia was just sex for Kai. For example Kai didn't want kids (which is fine) but they knew Amelia has Scout, involved with Leo & Betty, and has neices & nephews of which she frequently babysits (prior to Mers depature obvs). Kai even took the job in London without even discussing it with Amelia... Kinda strange if you've been in a relationship for a while. While Amelia wouldn't have a direct choice or impact the decision much, it should still be a joint discussion imo.
Teddy & Tom: I don't think Teddy loved Tom and just used him due to her pregnancy symptoms (high libido) and actively trying not to be with Owen. Tom showed her attention while she was a hormonal mess, and she latched onto him. He had money, he was emotionally suffering (David & ex wife), and he was all round having a hard time. Maybe they were both using each other for sex but I believe Tom grew quickly attached to her and "loved" her. I'm not sure if it was legit love though.
Teddy & Owen: I think they are good together and are well suited BUT I feel like they are together for *comfort* because it's familiar rather than love.
Winston & Maggie: Again, I think this was more lustful than love. Winston adored Maggie but I always felt that Maggie didn't see him as her equal. She always considered him 'less than' and just expected him to do *anything* she asked/told him to (e.g. Chicago). In their paper, she didn't even give him the proper recognition.
Richard & Adele: They were just a bad pairing. They stayed together for convienence and I do think Richard would've deliberately taken extra shifts/work to avoid being at home with Adele. I think their home life was more than rocky and they probably spent more time apart than together. I think Richard always wanted to be with Ellis and maybe grew to resent Adele.
2024.05.12 15:02 MyNameIsSat Its Not My MIL For Me Its My Mother
First I just want to say Happy Mother's Day to everyone here. For those who will not be celebrated as you should be, take a moment, and a deep breath, and remember there is someone who loves you in a way they will never love anyone else. You are irreplaceable to them.
I've tried to write this a couple times and the post just keeps getting so large I delete it so I am trying this one more time and if I fail again that will be it.
I love my MIL. My MIL is married to an ass, has been for 56 years. He's the type of guy that doesnt get her gifts for birthdays or anniversaries because if she wants something she can just go get it but he also controls what she can and cannot spend and has a fit if she picks out a $5 movie. She "doesnt need that".
Every year I choose to go to the family dinner there for mother's day even though my husband says we don't need to. Even though whatever menu has been picked is something I will hate. Even though the only food my husband, the kids, and I find tolerable is whatever dish I have been assigned (because they all feel anything other than salt and pepper is too much spice). My MIL and SIL prepare whatever else is eaten besides me (and generally because of the spice thing i am mashed potatoes and has to be boxed because thats what they like stuffing) and the food is very meh. And my FIL is one of those cheap bastards that will buy a 10lb ham, insist she cut it in half, and serve it to 30 people. At the end of dinner he will loudly state everyone got just enough to eat because there is no food left (it couldnt possibly be there wasnt enough). But I do this because I love my MIL. For all practical purposes she is my mother.
My mother on the other hand, I am low contact with (abuse). I cant quite go no contact, and honestly I dont know why. It will be months in between conversations and I will think finally this time I'm doing it then a week or two after my bday she will text me that she forgot about my bday (even though she can/will text me on my siblings bdays, and even my neice and nephews bdays, to add to this she has no idea when my childrens bdays are, and "remind" me its their bday so I can say something) but happy late whatever. Normally followed by some offhanded comment like "I'm a day late and a dollar short" that makes me feel even worse. Instead of that adding to my resolve I get sucked back in. What is that?
In any event she called me yesterday to tell me I would be getting package for mother's day. Why? She has never done anything like this before. I had her first grandchild. She told me she wasnt ready to be a grandma and preceeded to have nothing to do with my oldest. When I had my other two (large age gap fertility issues on my part) she was too old at that point. Of course my little sister had 3 kids after that and my brother had one, 3 or 4 days a week she has them for a few hours. Every other weekend she has my little sisters 3 younger ones. Before they were school age she watched them all day while my sister was at work. I guess she was only "too old" for a little while. Must age backwards. Not that I would have had her watch my kids. She never watched my oldest, why would I have her watch the other ones?
But seriously, what is this package thing about?
Edit: Wanted to add something about my FIL because I wonder how many crappy SOs Ive read about feel this same way. He never took my husband or my SILs shopping to get my MIL anything for mother's day. A few years back this was discussed and his response was "why would i? She's not my mother." I wonder how many of them shirk this off and explain it away with garbage like this.
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I've tried to write this a couple times and the post just keeps getting so large I delete it so I am trying this one more time and if I fail again that will be it.
I love my MIL. My MIL is married to an ass, has been for 56 years. He's the type of guy that doesnt get her gifts for birthdays or anniversaries because if she wants something she can just go get it but he also controls what she can and cannot spend and has a fit if she picks out a $5 movie. She "doesnt need that".
Every year I choose to go to the family dinner there for mother's day even though my husband says we don't need to. Even though whatever menu has been picked is something I will hate. Even though the only food my husband, the kids, and I find tolerable is whatever dish I have been assigned (because they all feel anything other than salt and pepper is too much spice). My MIL and SIL prepare whatever else is eaten besides me (and generally because of the spice thing i am mashed potatoes and has to be boxed because thats what they like stuffing) and the food is very meh. And my FIL is one of those cheap bastards that will buy a 10lb ham, insist she cut it in half, and serve it to 30 people. At the end of dinner he will loudly state everyone got just enough to eat because there is no food left (it couldnt possibly be there wasnt enough). But I do this because I love my MIL. For all practical purposes she is my mother.
My mother on the other hand, I am low contact with (abuse). I cant quite go no contact, and honestly I dont know why. It will be months in between conversations and I will think finally this time I'm doing it then a week or two after my bday she will text me that she forgot about my bday (even though she can/will text me on my siblings bdays, and even my neice and nephews bdays, to add to this she has no idea when my childrens bdays are, and "remind" me its their bday so I can say something) but happy late whatever. Normally followed by some offhanded comment like "I'm a day late and a dollar short" that makes me feel even worse. Instead of that adding to my resolve I get sucked back in. What is that?
In any event she called me yesterday to tell me I would be getting package for mother's day. Why? She has never done anything like this before. I had her first grandchild. She told me she wasnt ready to be a grandma and preceeded to have nothing to do with my oldest. When I had my other two (large age gap fertility issues on my part) she was too old at that point. Of course my little sister had 3 kids after that and my brother had one, 3 or 4 days a week she has them for a few hours. Every other weekend she has my little sisters 3 younger ones. Before they were school age she watched them all day while my sister was at work. I guess she was only "too old" for a little while. Must age backwards. Not that I would have had her watch my kids. She never watched my oldest, why would I have her watch the other ones?
But seriously, what is this package thing about?
Edit: Wanted to add something about my FIL because I wonder how many crappy SOs Ive read about feel this same way. He never took my husband or my SILs shopping to get my MIL anything for mother's day. A few years back this was discussed and his response was "why would i? She's not my mother." I wonder how many of them shirk this off and explain it away with garbage like this.
2024.05.09 12:06 TheCornerReviewer Callum's corner February 2016 video review
Howdy, I'm starting a series where i rate and review all of Adams videos, starting now, where we will look at his video catalogue starting February the seventh.
if callum wants to use my critiques and support to better maintain his content i would be honoured.
Notes:
Callum ironically whines at old people on Facebook, which again, irony speaks for itself.
putting a bet that "vegans" will be on his list soon.
okay yep, i was correct. vegans.
talks about annoying teenagers which is fair.
complains about them doing challenges, which again, ironic.
thoughts:
for the first video (that's still uploaded) this is a pretty good start, vaguely introducing veganism and the meme monkeys from the start.
that being said this video isn't all to memorable, nor too funny, so this video gets
6/10
Notes:
The reason for this iconic series starting is that callum was in a argument and wanted to prove himself
His mum is obviously behind the camera
he shows his iconic spin attack for the first time.
Callum's phone had a notification and it deafened me (retribution for the Halloween ytp)
his mum is laughing at him
at the end he tells his mum to stop recording and that it sounded good which funnily implies multiple takes
thoughts
first self defence video, its okay? not the best video, but still a bit humoures
6.5/10
notes:
first proper anti vegan video.
seeing the remnants from the replying to all comments video, he misspelled "ragin" as "raggin"
he calls his neice "a kid"
also his neices are called pee pee and poos which is a choice, a choice he blames on veganism.
thoughts:
probably the first really good video from cal, still, not much to say, but a solid
7/10
Notes:
Callum is wearing a beanie, which looks cute.
thoughts:
not really an interesting nor good video, more filler
5/10
for the first month, nothing really too interesting, but soon it will get better, see you all nextime.
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if callum wants to use my critiques and support to better maintain his content i would be honoured.
3 types of Facebook users that drive you mad
https://preview.redd.it/8937fs1eedzc1.png?width=1622&format=png&auto=webp&s=ee1eb6fbb9757e7be00dd91d527193f50312912dNotes:
Callum ironically whines at old people on Facebook, which again, irony speaks for itself.
putting a bet that "vegans" will be on his list soon.
okay yep, i was correct. vegans.
talks about annoying teenagers which is fair.
complains about them doing challenges, which again, ironic.
thoughts:
for the first video (that's still uploaded) this is a pretty good start, vaguely introducing veganism and the meme monkeys from the start.
that being said this video isn't all to memorable, nor too funny, so this video gets
6/10
Self Defence for weaker people
https://preview.redd.it/vvravxmigdzc1.png?width=1603&format=png&auto=webp&s=1498aded2bc07ecd180fda608a57600677a5213dNotes:
The reason for this iconic series starting is that callum was in a argument and wanted to prove himself
His mum is obviously behind the camera
he shows his iconic spin attack for the first time.
Callum's phone had a notification and it deafened me (retribution for the Halloween ytp)
his mum is laughing at him
at the end he tells his mum to stop recording and that it sounded good which funnily implies multiple takes
thoughts
first self defence video, its okay? not the best video, but still a bit humoures
6.5/10
Vegans ruining a party - live blog
https://preview.redd.it/b53cx2ptidzc1.png?width=1493&format=png&auto=webp&s=2aa8425995bf609c5212fd2dbd36a3002b8c8498notes:
first proper anti vegan video.
seeing the remnants from the replying to all comments video, he misspelled "ragin" as "raggin"
he calls his neice "a kid"
also his neices are called pee pee and poos which is a choice, a choice he blames on veganism.
thoughts:
probably the first really good video from cal, still, not much to say, but a solid
7/10
Marmalade - A Warning!
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Callum is wearing a beanie, which looks cute.
thoughts:
not really an interesting nor good video, more filler
5/10
for the first month, nothing really too interesting, but soon it will get better, see you all nextime.
2024.05.09 07:30 dubble_tap Moving Forward, But the Damage is Done.
I just want to know what you would do in this situation. I will try to keep it short and sweet, and stay to the point. My wife and I have been married six years. I would say that it has been a trouble free marriage but that would be a lie. It isn't us that are causing the drama and confusing times. It's actually her immediate family. When I met my wife she had a sister whom kids were taken away by the father's family. I literally met them all for a month or more. Then the family thought it would be best if the kids were sheltered from the Mother in Law. So no contact for my wife to see the kids or talk etc. Long and behold shortly after that her other Sister which is in and out of rehab for the past ten years. Is now pregnant, and has the baby taken from her custody and placed into a foster family. Mother in law doesn't like this one bit, so she forces the neice back into the family's care by taking on a kinship. I am going to be honest with all you, this child was special needs at the time and needed specific medical care for the damage done by the mother in the womb. It was painful to hear the mother in law try to insert the feeding tube and hear the kid cry. Cause you knew she was inexperienced. My point is this mother in law took on a child with a open heart condition and a feeding tube. From a specialized foster home that cared for special needs. Fast forward 2 years and you have my wife raising the child. Myself and my wife spending our money on clothes toys and outtings. Because mother in law says she isn't getting enough from government aid. Honestly we should of reported it then but hindsight is 20/20. My mother in law would only, only buy the basics. Diapers. Wipes, and maybe some baby cereal snacks or yogurt. For you guessed it 30 days. So for $400.00's she maybe spent a hundred or more ? Mother in law wouldn't shop for child she would send us, she would say she would always pay us back cause she didn't have the money. We had moved to a new place, which inturn was a five year plan that we had setup with my wife's parents. But unfortunately her father had been diagnosed with cancer and fought off really bad ammonia which took him in the end. So from that day forward is what me and my wife feel the day her mom just kind of lost it. We don't think she can feel empathy or remorse we just think she lives in her head. My wife and I were constantly dealing with complaint and complaint from other family members telling us that her mother had gone to them complaining about us. Honest to god, she really had nothing to complain about ! She is living in a house she isn't paying rent for since the day her husband died, she hasn't communicated with us properly since we all sat down and tried to figure the rent out. " Which she just flat out stopped paying it was supposed to be down the middle" she just expected us to stay out of her finances. Well we're not stupid or going to get kicked out so we confronted the landlord and he sent us a bill and at that time she owed well over $5,000.00. We asked her mom what the deal was about the debt, she just lied and said that the landlord knew about the situation. Meanwhile we sat down all together with the landlord and discussed our rent amounts each infront of one another. So she obviously recites and believes her own lies. It gets worse the Neice is still in her care. The problem is now the mother in law won't listen to my wife on parenting. Mother in law would be high off Percocet and Benydryl if she knew we would be out while baby sitting to the point she was pale faced sitting down in the living room while the 2 year old ran ramped around the house. The other scary thing the mother in law did was let the child run around the house unattended. If she knew we weren't around she wouldn't care for a second what she was doing. Which the kid would have random bruises and bumps that no one could explain. Thank god, the father stepped in after some planning of taking her home. It was getting scary cause my wife couldn't look after the kid 24/7 and the mother in law wouldn't allow it. There would be times when the mother in law would just scream at the kid. Literally scream. I called Child services, told them what had been going on. As usual people like my mother in law just bull.... There way threw everything. The worker was gone in 5 minutes. Yet no safety gear up or checking to see if there was any kid food. Anyways. I'm just to the point where I'm tired of being in this toxic family. And wondering if anyone has been threw this where you have a mentally ill family member that isn't seeking help.
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2024.05.08 12:06 Hemoklepto1990 AITA for keeping my son away?
Okay so before I get in to this, PLEASE DO NOT GIVE ME UNSOLICITED PARENTING ADVICE.
My sister and I have never really gotten along. We have both done shit in our past that neither of us agree on. We dont agree with each other on alot.But the final straw that broke the camels back was when she told me my child would grow up a criminal because she doesn't agree with the way I parent and she called cps on me. In my opinion I believe every parent and child are different, so different strokes for different folks.
I realize now I should say my son's 2 years old.
My sister left her husband again... at this point it's been 2 years I haven't been allowed to talk or see my neice and nephew. My mom calls me last night to tell me that my sister and the kids are headed home to Louisiana, then she proceeds to tell me that she's coming to get my child this weekend so he can spend the weekend with his cousins and Aunt. To which I informed her she wouldn't not be getting him. And that as long as my sister is there he wouldn't be spending the night. That I would meet her and dad in town with my child if they wanted to spend the day with all the grand kids. But that my sister isn't allowed around him. My mom got really mad started screaming at me and told me I was using my son as a weapon against her. (Mom always sides with my sister.. always has.)
So I hung up and called my dad, knowing I could talk to him and wouldn't be yelled at or talked down to. I explained how I felt to him and he agreed. He said that my son is my son and that I have a say in who is around him. And that if I didn't want my sister around him then they would respect my wishes. He also said that my mom was acting childish and inconsiderate, that he would speak to her about it.
I've tossed all night because, I know it probably started a fight between them and I feel horrible about it. But at the same time I know how my sister is. She pushed my neice when she was 5 to come out as bi sexual. I just want what's best for my son.
So am I the AH for not wanting my sister around my son, and keeping him away from my mom if she refuses to respect my wishes?
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My sister and I have never really gotten along. We have both done shit in our past that neither of us agree on. We dont agree with each other on alot.But the final straw that broke the camels back was when she told me my child would grow up a criminal because she doesn't agree with the way I parent and she called cps on me. In my opinion I believe every parent and child are different, so different strokes for different folks.
I realize now I should say my son's 2 years old.
My sister left her husband again... at this point it's been 2 years I haven't been allowed to talk or see my neice and nephew. My mom calls me last night to tell me that my sister and the kids are headed home to Louisiana, then she proceeds to tell me that she's coming to get my child this weekend so he can spend the weekend with his cousins and Aunt. To which I informed her she wouldn't not be getting him. And that as long as my sister is there he wouldn't be spending the night. That I would meet her and dad in town with my child if they wanted to spend the day with all the grand kids. But that my sister isn't allowed around him. My mom got really mad started screaming at me and told me I was using my son as a weapon against her. (Mom always sides with my sister.. always has.)
So I hung up and called my dad, knowing I could talk to him and wouldn't be yelled at or talked down to. I explained how I felt to him and he agreed. He said that my son is my son and that I have a say in who is around him. And that if I didn't want my sister around him then they would respect my wishes. He also said that my mom was acting childish and inconsiderate, that he would speak to her about it.
I've tossed all night because, I know it probably started a fight between them and I feel horrible about it. But at the same time I know how my sister is. She pushed my neice when she was 5 to come out as bi sexual. I just want what's best for my son.
So am I the AH for not wanting my sister around my son, and keeping him away from my mom if she refuses to respect my wishes?
2024.05.07 03:57 Ambitious-Chapter771 Chloe and Jordan Divorce untimely and family beef? 🤔
Someone mentioned how she said her and Jordan almost broke up a few times. I wonder what happened? Jordan doesn’t seem combative so I wonder what made them feel that way towards each other. ●From my observation it seems like Chloe and Jordan's relationship is based solely on Jordan making her feel like a queen and him being a footstool for her because in this latest vid when she came back you gotta read in between the stories and examples she gives it seems like Jordan annoys her and Is very low maintenance. Sounds like the break she took they were going at it , ●Then in the same breath says she TOLD him she wants to start trying for a baby..... it's giving she's gonna end up just like her mother. If yall just got married and she loved to state in every single video after they got married that they were still getting to know eachother . And that they weren't going to gave kids till later down the line ● I feel sorry for her honestly and will pray she's so lost and so filled with ignorance and pride. Cause if you and this man are already having problems as well as you getting on social media and letting what you say drive your attitude towards the man you "love" they're well chloe is emotionally immature and wants to keep Jordan under her control and if she has his child sheesh. [IMPORTANT BELOW] Why isn't anybody talking about this ⬇️ ●Then everyone keeps saying how the vibe between her and her mom was off in this latest video but nobody is addressing how she saw not only her nephew like she has been but also she saw her neices and spent time in a hotel in Lansing with them like she usually does with Zair, so brea most likely lost full custody if her kids....... if nobody peeped that
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2024.05.06 19:47 Federal-Dragonfly666 My Crazy Dreams
dreams #vividdreams
Dreaming While Half awakeMarch 15 2023
I’ve been having pretty crazy dreams lately some being so realistic then others, but for the most and I’d forget bits and pieces of my dream when I awoke so today is the first day I decided to write it all down Time stamp: 4:38am
On the Grayhound with a long ride back to Nashville Tn, I had my most eye opening dream. It felt so real when I opened my eyes I could feel the storm that was brewing when I slept. Just had a layover in Louisville Kentucky and when headed out a storm was coming lightening stricking, heavy downpour and slick roads a little scary for a 18 year old to be riding by herself back home so I decided to fall asleep we had 4 more hours til we reached home it was 2:57am when we pulled off and would reach Nashville by 5:30. While I turned around in my seat that I had alone I was small enough to curl into a ball and sleep on the seat comfortably, not scared of a bus full of strangers but wasn’t ready for the dream I was about to have. Falling into a deeper sleep with rain drops and thunder singing a melody in my ear and after 5 mins I was in Dreamworld or as I call it A prison for the imagination.
“Sirens , police and News broadcasters” Warning I repeat this is not a drill seek shelter now the storm is coming the storm is coming!!! Warn your neighbors, lock your doors and read your bibles for this is nothing like what you’ve seen before!!! I’m walking down the road warning people you have to go and hide, the storm is coming and it’s bad hearing thundering in the background. I’m running to every person I saw on the street. Sky’s getting dark and before I knew it the calm beautiful day it was turn grey and glumly and night set fast. While getting back to my house I started to notice something strange big holes in the ground like meteors had fell down to earth and hit ten feet apart in every direction I decided to look off down into one and was appalled by what I saw. (Lighting striked) I jumped before I could even fully process what I saw in the holes on the ground.
I run into the house lock-ing all doors and windows, getting my neices and nephews on the couch calm before the storm rolled in. I run to the front door and look out the blinds and see the storm getting closer my sister turns on the news the broadcaster repeatedly saying this isn’t a drill , hold on to your loved one and take out your bibles. I’m still looking out the window and see two people walking there dogs and so i opened it to warn them. “Get inside the storm is coming it’s not safe!” After my last words all the power in the house goes out. The storm was here. All I can remember is the news broadcaster saying this is like nothing we’ve ever seen before ancient animals from the prehistoric time was coming and they were angry. Remembering what I saw in the holes it was horns and half covered of body’s of rhinos and Dinos way bigger then the ones at the zoo, and they were standing as if stuck in place or a statue. I lock the door and turn to head to the couch when I see a homeless person run to the front door demanding that I let him in.
I can’t let you in I’m sorry!? Please seek shelter elsewhere. In my head I didn’t know this man from a hole in the wall and we had 3 little baby’s to calm before this storm arose. He’s banging on the door please please I need you and for 5 seconds it felt like the earth stood still not a sound to be heard the calm…. And before I could look out the door for the man he was gone the house started to shake as if a 10.4 earthquake would hit earth. I ran to the couch holding on to my nephews while my sister is holding on to her 7month old daughter we are scared shaking the house felt like it was getting picked up in a tornado and spun around. I could hear the rain hitting windows so hard it shattered from lighting. I held on to the boys as tight as I could praying this would be over soon, the house rocking back and forth and hearing dishes break and shatter I could feel me heart racing. My sister tried to grab on to us but in the mist lost grip of the baby and in a second the storm carried her away. We couldn’t believe our eyes the screams and tears we let out fighting to save my niece but also in fear. the house was off it’s foundation currently being spun in the air like a tornado and every raindrop sounded like a knock from the devil himself. Wiping tears and holding on tighter to the boys I saw a figure go past the window. It was the rhinos and dinosaurs from the ground they had arose and was angry damaging everything that got into their way. I looked at my sister while her husband is wiping the tears and devastation off her face knowing she may not see her daughter again I started to pray and tears filled my face. I just wanted protecting from this storm and before I could finish my prayer the bus hit a bump and thunder rumbled loud startling me awake.
2024.05.06 15:32 Marygtz2011 Not OOP AITA wife's sister let's her kids run wild and destroy my house during family dinners. So I voiced my opinion.
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2024.05.06 12:18 Rhibelly25 Need help navigating a Mother's Day dilemma
Long time lurker, first time poster. Quick background, my (32f) father (55m) has never been the greatest. He's been present (as in...physically in our home) he provided for us (mostly) when we were kids. But he's got strong narcissistic traits, he treats our mother poorly, is a serial cheater and emotionally (and sometimes borderline physically) abusive. He has a victim complex (eg if someone's birthday celebration is not at a place he likes, he will have a tantrum, once he even walked out in the middle of my sister's birthday dinner to walk home). He's become alt-right, a vaccine conspiracy theorist, he's ablist, sexist, recist, homophobic, you name it. We have had nice moments but he has always taken it upon himself to criticize me, my interests, my appearance and so on. Eventually I had kids of my own, realised the damage he had done to me and continued to do to my mother and siblings, and with the help of a therapist decided that low contact was an appropriate boundary.
I explained to him that for my own health and healing I would be going low contact, but that I had no issues being at family gatherings together.
Because my parents are still together this has been challenging. My mum has very low self esteem (I wonder why!) and can't venture too far from home on her own because she is so anxious. She also works full time and every second weekend. She is the only working adult in the house (my father quit his job years ago over a temporary office mask requirement and has not even bothered to look for more work). My mother is also caring for my father's elderly parents who moved into the flat out of the back of their house. All this to say, things are very tight financially, and my mum doesn't have a lot of time or the means to come and see me and her grandchildren.
At Christmas and Easter my father lost his shit when he heard I might be attending the family gathering at my parents home. In one instance they held the gathering elsewhere and he did not attend, in the other I told by my sister that I unfortunately could not attend because my father had made such a drama and really upset my mum.
Now, I can appreciate that is his right to set that boundary with me, I knew it was a possibility when I made the choice to go low contact. I am mildly amused that the man who does not contribute to the home, financially or otherwise, has decided not to allow me to visit, but I digress.
He has also never directly told me I can't go to the family home.
This coming weekend is Mother's Day and to make things more complicated, my aunt and uncle (on my father's side) are visiting from overseas. They will all be meeting on Mother's Day at my parents house. My grandparents who live at the house do not know that my father and I are low contact, and neither do my aunt and uncle.
I am at a loss for what to do. Here are the options as I see it:
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I explained to him that for my own health and healing I would be going low contact, but that I had no issues being at family gatherings together.
Because my parents are still together this has been challenging. My mum has very low self esteem (I wonder why!) and can't venture too far from home on her own because she is so anxious. She also works full time and every second weekend. She is the only working adult in the house (my father quit his job years ago over a temporary office mask requirement and has not even bothered to look for more work). My mother is also caring for my father's elderly parents who moved into the flat out of the back of their house. All this to say, things are very tight financially, and my mum doesn't have a lot of time or the means to come and see me and her grandchildren.
At Christmas and Easter my father lost his shit when he heard I might be attending the family gathering at my parents home. In one instance they held the gathering elsewhere and he did not attend, in the other I told by my sister that I unfortunately could not attend because my father had made such a drama and really upset my mum.
Now, I can appreciate that is his right to set that boundary with me, I knew it was a possibility when I made the choice to go low contact. I am mildly amused that the man who does not contribute to the home, financially or otherwise, has decided not to allow me to visit, but I digress.
He has also never directly told me I can't go to the family home.
This coming weekend is Mother's Day and to make things more complicated, my aunt and uncle (on my father's side) are visiting from overseas. They will all be meeting on Mother's Day at my parents house. My grandparents who live at the house do not know that my father and I are low contact, and neither do my aunt and uncle.
I am at a loss for what to do. Here are the options as I see it:
- Ask my father if he minds if I come to the home on Sunday, putting the ball in his court. I do feel like this option kind of just panders to his ego, but I am willing to do it if it is the best way.
- Just show up at the house anyway, since he's never actually told me I can't be there. My hesitation around this option is that I also have kids, and it is also Mother's Day for me. I don't necessarily want to spend it navigating the fallout and awkwardness if he takes it badly and starts to sulk. I also know my mum will be very on edge which is the last thing I want, and I don't want her to cop the brunt of his anger.
- Arrange something different with my mum for another day, and try to see if I can see my aunt and uncle some other way. I live about 1.5 hours away and they're low on time but it's doable. The only real drawback here is people might think I'm a shitty person for not attending Mother's Day celebrations with extended family.
2024.05.06 10:53 tan101 Long term Harrassment from neighbour - legal advice
Hi
I have a neighbour where we share a wall (semi detached house ). It's a man who has adult children, has confirmed drug history as their previous neighbour knows our family.
The gist of it, I keep hearing verbal abuse / audio around our house (inside and out). Examples: morning paki, bitch, kill yourself.
I also have a androgynous look (I am a female) so I also have heard comments , gay slurs. Most recent was last week, I was outside entering my front door and heard a voice / audio saying 'doesn't matter if youre a man or a woman , at least be cordial when you visit ' To things like 'she hides her Penis in her bum'
There is a long history of criminality with this neighbour and I believe they swapped houses to this one. They balantly were a drug house which attracted alot of police attention. Now I believe they are selling drugs on the down low. We have ring cameras but they walk around the field of view when entering / leaving their front door. I have reported them before (could hear them swearing at me alot , as they would sit outside their back garden ). But that was ages ago I reported this. I believe he use to sub let some rooms in his house due to odd encounters. Their / his goal was to always get us to move from our house which we own (they are social housing) and the house is under my name now pretty much. Because constantly through the day I hear 'move'. Whether directly when they sit in the back garden or inside our house. The guy will scream / shout it. He has a dog and I think he's trying to make it look in the context of him yelling at his dog. His daughter will do the same thing too.
I have briefly moved in and out of renting flats and just recently have moved back in the house. The harrassment was still constant. Whenever I stayed for a couple of days in the house , I would hear a loud clicking noise that would go on for hours in my room. That lasted half a year. Click noise every 3 minutes. Whenever I had my neice and nephew in my room the noise would stop.
They know our house phone number . We would get alot of drop calls. It got to the point where last year I was by myself in the house as parents were on holiday. The phone would ring 5 or 6 times during the space of a couple of hours and it would stop ringing when I was about to pick up the phone. If I did answer it,i t would hang up. I work from home (for a housing association where I actually deal with ASBO related issues ) so this was very disruptive. A week into this , I put the phone by our front window, next to our adjoining wall to them, and the phone calls stopped.
It's been well over a decade of harrassment like this. Led to a serious decline in mental health, stress messed up my physical health and has bled into my workplace many times. For over a decade, of hearing random audio / voices that penetrate the walls of my bedroom when I try to sleep. Some days it genuinely feels like they won't let me sleep. Been like this over a decade. Initially we (me and parents included) felt they were going to harm us if we reported anything but we realise they wouldn't do anything so explicit like that as they don't want to be kicked out their house (social housing). I say this because I have 'heard' (in the same fashion as I have heard the other comments from them) the guy talk threats, like entering the house from the back garden, I often hear 'shoot her' or 'do it'.
I also believe the guy is stalking me , whether it's online or finding where I work. Don't have solid proof but again, have documented it.
Over the years I have documented this harrassment , have tried to record audio to document this but that presents its own problems. Ring camera is not consistent. The audio / verbal abuse I hear around the house , is hard to capture as it's not balantly loud , it's like ambient level noise. The obvious examples of them yelling move or hearing loud audio of them making comments about me (often when I leave or enter the house) is again difficult to capture as ring camera is not consistent. The other problem is having the energy to go through video / audio capture to find examples. Over the years i don't have the mental energy to do this. I did manage to capture one example of a loud audio being heard when my relative was entering the house (on our ring camera), it was of a scream audio which I saw my relative react to when he opened our door.
I have spoken to my local MPs , was advised to keep a diary. Emailed ASBO team. Nothing has really come of it. Thinking of going down the route of litigation. Or at least publicising it , as I genuinely feel he's trying to harrass me outside the house aswell.
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I have a neighbour where we share a wall (semi detached house ). It's a man who has adult children, has confirmed drug history as their previous neighbour knows our family.
The gist of it, I keep hearing verbal abuse / audio around our house (inside and out). Examples: morning paki, bitch, kill yourself.
I also have a androgynous look (I am a female) so I also have heard comments , gay slurs. Most recent was last week, I was outside entering my front door and heard a voice / audio saying 'doesn't matter if youre a man or a woman , at least be cordial when you visit ' To things like 'she hides her Penis in her bum'
There is a long history of criminality with this neighbour and I believe they swapped houses to this one. They balantly were a drug house which attracted alot of police attention. Now I believe they are selling drugs on the down low. We have ring cameras but they walk around the field of view when entering / leaving their front door. I have reported them before (could hear them swearing at me alot , as they would sit outside their back garden ). But that was ages ago I reported this. I believe he use to sub let some rooms in his house due to odd encounters. Their / his goal was to always get us to move from our house which we own (they are social housing) and the house is under my name now pretty much. Because constantly through the day I hear 'move'. Whether directly when they sit in the back garden or inside our house. The guy will scream / shout it. He has a dog and I think he's trying to make it look in the context of him yelling at his dog. His daughter will do the same thing too.
I have briefly moved in and out of renting flats and just recently have moved back in the house. The harrassment was still constant. Whenever I stayed for a couple of days in the house , I would hear a loud clicking noise that would go on for hours in my room. That lasted half a year. Click noise every 3 minutes. Whenever I had my neice and nephew in my room the noise would stop.
They know our house phone number . We would get alot of drop calls. It got to the point where last year I was by myself in the house as parents were on holiday. The phone would ring 5 or 6 times during the space of a couple of hours and it would stop ringing when I was about to pick up the phone. If I did answer it,i t would hang up. I work from home (for a housing association where I actually deal with ASBO related issues ) so this was very disruptive. A week into this , I put the phone by our front window, next to our adjoining wall to them, and the phone calls stopped.
It's been well over a decade of harrassment like this. Led to a serious decline in mental health, stress messed up my physical health and has bled into my workplace many times. For over a decade, of hearing random audio / voices that penetrate the walls of my bedroom when I try to sleep. Some days it genuinely feels like they won't let me sleep. Been like this over a decade. Initially we (me and parents included) felt they were going to harm us if we reported anything but we realise they wouldn't do anything so explicit like that as they don't want to be kicked out their house (social housing). I say this because I have 'heard' (in the same fashion as I have heard the other comments from them) the guy talk threats, like entering the house from the back garden, I often hear 'shoot her' or 'do it'.
I also believe the guy is stalking me , whether it's online or finding where I work. Don't have solid proof but again, have documented it.
Over the years I have documented this harrassment , have tried to record audio to document this but that presents its own problems. Ring camera is not consistent. The audio / verbal abuse I hear around the house , is hard to capture as it's not balantly loud , it's like ambient level noise. The obvious examples of them yelling move or hearing loud audio of them making comments about me (often when I leave or enter the house) is again difficult to capture as ring camera is not consistent. The other problem is having the energy to go through video / audio capture to find examples. Over the years i don't have the mental energy to do this. I did manage to capture one example of a loud audio being heard when my relative was entering the house (on our ring camera), it was of a scream audio which I saw my relative react to when he opened our door.
I have spoken to my local MPs , was advised to keep a diary. Emailed ASBO team. Nothing has really come of it. Thinking of going down the route of litigation. Or at least publicising it , as I genuinely feel he's trying to harrass me outside the house aswell.
2024.05.06 05:11 throwaway56789690420 AITA wife's sister lets her kids run wild and destroy my house during family dinners. So I voiced my opinion.
My wife has her siblings over for dinner EVERY week. Two brothers and two sisters. Only one is married with kids. These kids are not parented at all. Many times we have to stop a child from serious injury because their parents just forget they exist. Tonight I bought a cake for my wife's birthday that is next week, since I will be leaving town for work and missing the date I wanted to celebrate. The oldest of the little guys (6) starts literally pounding the floor full blown tantrum that I won't let him Carry the cake lit with candles to the table. I ignore and proceed. After cutting the cake and bringing my wife her piece, the little brat jumps up and smashes his toy truck down into the middle of it. I get my wife another but she just eats around it and says she doesn't mind. I brush it off. Minutes later the toddler kid #3 is seen running through my great room with a spoon full of icing that his mom Gave him. And another child #2 ,is using an egg roll as a missle smashing it into my walls. My wife permits this anarchy, I keep my mouth shut as usual. After the circus leaves our house. I'm cleaning up and doing dishes by myself. My wife walks in and she sighs relief that they are gone. I made the mistake of venting how frustrated I am that her sister, her husband and children have zero respect for our home. The response was a rage filled screaming match about how absolutely Terrible I am and that she will make sure her sisters family is never present when I am home.
TLDR wife lets her Neice, nephew destroy our house on a weekly bases and then screams at me when I voice frustration.
Edit: background my wife usually cooks and cleans up after her family get togethers. This time I chose to take over. I do my best to assist in prep and cleanup. I get that even though I am home only half the month, I still need to engage in the household duties. I try to make up for my absensce when I'm home. Edit 2: Many of you have mentioned that I should let her threat of never having them over when I'm home come true. It's an empty threat meant to make me fearful of her running down my character to her family/ friends.
Update: Sat down with my wife today and established this behavior won't continue. We are in agreement to start with marriage counseling again. She apologized for being mean. I stood my ground that the verbal abuse won't continue.
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TLDR wife lets her Neice, nephew destroy our house on a weekly bases and then screams at me when I voice frustration.
Edit: background my wife usually cooks and cleans up after her family get togethers. This time I chose to take over. I do my best to assist in prep and cleanup. I get that even though I am home only half the month, I still need to engage in the household duties. I try to make up for my absensce when I'm home. Edit 2: Many of you have mentioned that I should let her threat of never having them over when I'm home come true. It's an empty threat meant to make me fearful of her running down my character to her family/ friends.
Update: Sat down with my wife today and established this behavior won't continue. We are in agreement to start with marriage counseling again. She apologized for being mean. I stood my ground that the verbal abuse won't continue.
2024.05.05 16:53 mountainjuliet So tired of CONSTANT drama
I literally can't breathe in front of this woman without her getting offended. She found out I was at sil (her daughters) house and sent a text to sil saying that she needed to talk to me for her, I was about to burn a bridge. And was an ungrateful little b*tch. Nothing has happened between us in a long while. I've been nothing but amicable towards her. Perfectly pleasant. I know what it was though. She's panicking because she's worried me being alone with sil will lead us to talking about the past, a past where she manipulated all of us (me, husband, sil and her husband) into hating each other. What she doesn't know is we've had it aaaall cleared up for awhile now, and none of us like her. After that we were all at sils house for my neices birthday. The entire time mil was clearly seething at me. Just me. Fil was not his usual chipper self. Everyone else, including myself, were just trying to celebrate a childs birthday. But no. She has to have an attitude. She kept bragging about how she got the best gift (which clearly was upsetting Bils parents, who are the sweetest people) I'm just so over the constant drama.
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