First day baseball season

I have had financial issues and my cats were in such discomfort from the fleas that I did research and found that coconut oil is safe to put on them. I didn’t have coconut oil at the time so I ordered it and it would take two days to arrive so, I will admit, in the meantime I used extra virgin olive oil which I read is safe for them. Many videos and articles recommended to melt the oil to lukewarm then rubbed it into every part of their bodies.
I left it on their bodies for a few days before giving them a bath with oatmeal based cat shampoo. I gave them two washes during their baths. Of course it was stressful for them but I’m fairly good at keeping them relatively calm although my male cat is a bit more sensitive to environment and baths than my female.
A week later after I had gotten my pay, I purchased Advantage and put it on them three days after their baths. I put it on as directed but they were still able to lick the portion of their shoulder blades where the treatment is so my male is vomited the first day.
Both of my cats have been vomiting fur balls due to extra grooming- my male more so. Both of them are still scratching a lot and at this point I think it’s the oil irritating them.
Can dish soap help remove the oil? I heard that it can dry their skin. Can any dish soap work if that is a last resort. Will bathing in general wash out the advantage II? I have had financial issues and my cats were in such discomfort from the fleas that I did research and found that coconut oil is safe to put on them. I didn’t have coconut oil at the time so I ordered it and it would take two days to arrive so, I will admit, in the meantime I used extra virgin olive oil which I read is safe for them. Many videos and articles recommended to melt the oil to lukewarm then rubbed it into every part of their bodies.
I left it on their bodies for a few days before giving them a bath with oatmeal based cat shampoo. I gave them two washes during their baths. Of course it was stressful for them but I’m fairly good at keeping them relatively calm although my male cat is a bit more sensitive to environment and baths than my female.
A week later after I had gotten my pay, I purchased Advantage II and put it on them three days after their baths. I put it on as directed but they were still able to lick the portion of their shoulder blades where the treatment is so my male is vomited the first day.
Both of my cats have been vomiting fur balls due to extra grooming- my male more so. Both of them are still scratching a lot and at this point I think it’s the oil irritating them.
Can dish soap help remove the oil? I heard that it can dry their skin. Can any dish soap work if that is a last resort. Will bathing in general wash out the advantage II?
I have had financial issues and my cats were in such discomfort from the fleas that I did research and found that coconut oil is safe to put on them. I didn’t have coconut oil at the time so I ordered it and it would take two days to arrive so, I will admit, in the meantime I used extra virgin olive oil which I read is safe for them. Many videos and articles recommended to melt the oil to lukewarm then rubbed it into every part of their bodies.
I left it on their bodies for a few days before giving them a bath with oatmeal based cat shampoo. I gave them two washes during their baths. Of course it was stressful for them but I’m fairly good at keeping them relatively calm although my male cat is a bit more sensitive to environment and baths than my female.
A week later after I had gotten my pay, I purchased Advantage II and put it on them three days after their baths. I put it on as directed but they were still able to lick the portion of their shoulder blades where the treatment is so my male is vomited the first day.
Both of my cats have been vomiting fur balls due to extra grooming- my male more so. Both of them are still scratching a lot and at this point I think it’s the oil irritating them.
Can dish soap help remove the oil? I heard that it can dry their skin. Can any dish soap work if that is a last resort. Will bathing in general wash out the advantage II?

I started my first job 3 months ago. I don't drive and due to public transport I have to work nights. the shift is 7:30pm to 7:30am.
My rota changes each week but typically it'll be something along the lines of: Tuesday night and Thursday night or Wensday night and Friday night. With the occasional weekend day shift or me covering (I'm a care assistant)
My usual routine is I'm in bed at 10/11pm and I'm up between 7/8am. so the day of my night shift I wake up at my normal time, do my normal routine. But I have to leave at 5pm for my bus, so start getting ready around 3pm. I try go for a naked around 11am to midday but I can never fall asleep. I usually have no problems sleeping after my shift but it's meaning I'm awake 24 hours at a time twice a week.
But this is the issue. let's take for example this week. I worked Tuesday night with no nap, so was awake for 24 hours, slept 6 and half hours when I got back and did my usual evening routine with my SO. Then went to bed at 10pm Wednesday due to being exhausted. So today is Thursday and I have another night shift so I've woken up at 8am, tried to go for a nap at midday (obviously failed because here I am writing this post) and will be awake another 24 hours till I get home tomorrow evening
Does anyone have any advice for me? I've struggled sleeping as long as I remember. Always struggled to take naps and even when I do sleep wake up regularly throughput it. Its taken years for me to even get into a routine of going to bed before 3am. I'm happy with the 10pm to 7am routine but I'm now starting to feel exhausted all the tome again
And im guessing twice a week being awake 24 hours isn't very healthy

TL;DR my Fiance doesn’t respect me I feel she doesn’t want me around
This post might feel like it’s all over the place and bouncing around so I apologize if it seems I am ranting
I (32M) have been with my Fiance (32F) for a few years. We met on match back in March 2021 when I lived in New York and she lived in New Jersey. We hit it off based off our sense of humors and made each other laugh. Around the time we met I was in the process of getting medically discharged from my first responder job that I got injured on. We thought of getting rid of the interstate dating and moved in together when I got my papers and my only request was instead of moving into her space we find a place for ourselves. She had her mom living with her because your mom couldn’t take care of herself and she told me that her mom would be leaving her soon for a facility. I got my retirement papers February 2022 and the following week apparently she re-upped her lease on her apartment. we did look at a few places, but nothing was really what we were hoping for so my first fear came true.
Moving in with them was uncomfortable because her mom never asked me to do anything to me she relayed to her daughter. I had to throw out a lot of my stuff and I was constantly told I ruined the apartment with all my stuff and belongings. She had rules in her apartment that I had to follow and I wasn’t really comfortable there because there’s alot of stuff I couldn’t do anymore. I enjoyed baking and cooking however her mom had a fear of gas ovens leading to leaks so I wasn’t allowed to do it anymore or secretly where her mom doesn’t see it.
I asked her to not smoke weed in the bedroom and if we started watching a show try not to watch episodes without me. Plenty of times I can home and there was a slight odor and plenty of times I saw on my streaming accounts a few episodes have been watched without me. When I brought it up she laughed like it was a joke. So that was another thing that festered with me.
Once I was retired I was paid comfortably with a pension that had full benefits so I was set with that. I only worked to have spending money and I didn’t want to do security work because I thought it was degrading from what I was doing before so I did some service industry work and became a bartender at a popular spot and I loved it. Ofcourse there was problems but overall I had a blast.
Around November 2022 I proposed to her on the cruise and she said yes. We both didn’t want gigantic wedding. We would rather have a down payment on a house and a party that people complain about. We saved up for a year and we started looking around September for a new house that would both be ours. We both know what we didn’t want and both know what we were looking for my only request was try not to see a house without me. We found a few places that were definitely out, but then she found one that she saw with her estranged uncle and she enjoyed it and put an offer, so that fear also happened.
She’s a nurse manager at a ICU and with my pension we would be comfortable and not house pour but she wanted me to get a job with more stability than what I was doing now. So to a place her I started hunting for what I was called at four and lo and behold. I ended up doing security work at a hospital. So if you think keeping dragged everything at this point, I didn’t want to do even though I told her I still ended up doing it.
Moving is already stressful as is but add onto the fact that she’s very high wound and she thinks most of my stuff is garbage anyway she wanted to literally throw out everything almost. Doing the whole moving process with everything from the house signing to the key to our first day wasn’t enjoyable because she was always upset about something and I had to walk on eggshells around her. I’ve had friends for 20 years and when I gave updates on everything they get worried about me and ask if I was genuinely happy and it felt like sometimes I had to lie and say yes. Because of her high stressful job she never really wants to go out so she has more of a hermit life, and I had to negotiate with her to come out at least once every three months with either my friends or my family.
So I was working a job I didn’t wanna do having a living situation I didn’t want to be in feeling like a guest more than a partner, so I was miserable a lot thinking about unaliving myself. I tried to bring it up to her and she didn’t know how to respond and when I said thanks for listening her response was “well you didn’t do it anyway” so that probably wasn’t the way to do it.
Because she is such a control freak with The House I couldn’t schedule any appointment without her. I couldn’t buy anything without her approval and she won’t let me help out in anyway so I thought just throwing myself into that crappy job. I work five days a week now with two days off and those two days off she doesn’t tell me what I’m doing appointment wise until like the night before. I told her I took it over assignment Tuesday and Wednesday on my only two days off and she couldn’t takeoff for whatever appointment she scheduled and her mom cannot be there oversee because of her medical problems.
For the past few days, she’s been giving me one word answers cursing me out on the phone and then call me a child because she feels like she’s the only adult in the house dealing with her mom and me. At this point I feel I can’t talk to her and I would rather be broke living in my truck then sharing a roof where I’m not feel welcome because apparently her mom told her that she feels I rushed her to At this point I feel I can’t talk to her and I would rather be broke living in my truck then sharing a roof where I’m not feel welcome because apparently her mom told her that she feels I rushed her to get this house.
I have come again to think of unaliving myself again. I have no money, I moved to a strange place away from my friends and family. And for those of you wondering, yes we have tried Therapy but after a few weeks she gave up because it was too much of a hassle to drive to a place to see if therapist. I don’t wanna see another therapist again because she’ll just probably quit that after a few weeks as well.
This is just all in my head, but if you have any questions, I’ll happily do my best to answer them and I just wanted to vent. With me she could afford this house without me she can’t and it’s all in her name because of my credit history.

I'm 9 days post op from a 1 level L4/5 MD I wanted to give some information on how my recovery has been for anyone who's concidering the surgery In my opinion I don't know why I waited so long ! Woke up pain free from the siatica that had crippled me Surgical site pain to be expected , managed by strong painkillers I had really rough nights with the pain (had surgical site pain and generalised back and abdominal pain and some awful hip pain )untill I got to day 5 , night 5 was like a polar opposite I could sleep with very little pain and little pain relief needed I was able to become more mobile in the daytime with little pain relief and the hip pains had gone away
I'm going careful with how much I'm doing and resting when I feel I need But keeping mobile is one of the most important things I've found , even if your sore- get out of bed and get wandering around the house , your back will thank you
Today is 9 days post op and I journeyed out with my partner in the car down the road for 10 mins to go to the shops and walk around - we were gone an hour and half maybe so not long but it was successful I'm now lying down to rest for the first time since I woke up (7.30 - 1 I was able to manage before needing to lie down )
I stoped using oxy at night 4 Codiene at night 5 So I am solely on paracetamol and ibuprofen now Occasionally I may take a Codiene if I feel particularly sore But usually a bit of rest does the same job I'm not struggling with nerve pain any more atal just some tingling here and there I've been able to shower myself since day 5 and am back to being pretty independent
I've had a great experience so far and I'm thankful for the relief of my pain

i need help with obtaining the buddha relic. i have all pieces for it except the earth buddha piece, and i can’t seem to get it. i finished all of the tales quests, and i do mystic realm every day, but i only have the first boss unlocked. someone told me you get earth pieces on the last boss, but i can’t seem to get more bosses unlocked unless i have relics, which i’m trying to get… help please i’ve been confused on this for weeks

Hello, I recently completed a challenge I'd set for myself: I won 100 championships in a row on Insane Difficulty - https://old.reddit.com/BasketballGM/comments/1cyr440/100_championships_in_a_row_on_insane_difficulty/
It took a lot of analysis and learning and testing to come up with strategies and principles, and then some disciplined execution.
I thought I'd write up some of how it happened, and when I started typing it was coming out pretty long, so I thought I'd break it up into separate posts.
NOTE: "SPOILERS" FOLLOW. IF YOU'RE NEW AND WANT THE JOY OF DISCOVERY, TRIAL AND ERROR, AND LEARNING ON YOUR OWN — THEN YOU MIGHT WANT TO SKIP THIS FOR NOW AND COME BACK LATER.
Ok, so how did this happen? And if you wanted to do it, how would you? Here's a few ideas to get started. Also happy to answer questions if people are curious.
(1) FUNDAMENTAL KNOWLEDGE: There's so many different weird edge cases that can happen in the course of a league — no strategy could possibly cover all of them. Given that, you'll want to build some fundamental knowledge you can draw upon.
1A: Build some fundamental knowledge about statistics in general, and sports statistics statistically. I self-taught statistics back in the early/mid-2000's by going deep on MLB (baseball) statistics, when that was still an emerging thing. Over time, you get exposed to concepts like sample sizes, regression to the mean, attempting to isolate individual performance from team factors, etc. Any and all knowledge around things like this are valuable.
1B: Learn some basketball statistics specifically. When I started playing BBGM, there were a lot of advanced statistics around basketball that I didn't know. You don't need to be fanatic about this, just get in the habit of spending 5-10 minutes learning a new basketball statistic every time you fire up the game. Every player on BasketballGM has a wealth of statistics about that player, and you can just look at your roster and other rosters to see those stats. You probably won't know all the terminology immediately, so take a minute to Google any given stat you don't know once each time you play and you'll learn quickly. For instance, "3PAr" stands for "3-Point Attempt Rate" and it's what percentage of the time a player is taking the (usually efficient) 3-point shot as a percentage of all their shots. When I first started playing, I only looked at players 3P% (success rate of 3-point percent attempts) when looking to trade for good shooters, and was sometimes underwhelmed. High 3PAr shooters with good 3P% tend to be extremely efficient at scoring. You're also going to want to learn how to apply various advanced stats, and which ones are valuable and which ones are not. Personally, I find Win Shares (WS) useful in many contexts and Estimated Wins Added (EWA) to be almost worthless. ORtg and DRtg (Offensive Rating and Defensive Rating) are useful but you need to mentally adjust it for the quality of team that player was on. Etc.
1C: Over time, you want to learn what different stats mean and — especially — how predictive they'll be going forwards. A player you're considering trading for or trading away with low Win Shares the previous season might be have been a bad player, or might have been on a stacked team and not gotten many minutes due to their depth. If it's only 14 games into a season (the soonest recently signed free agents can be traded), then small sample size caveats come into play. If a player regressed from the previous year in their athleticism and shooting but is putting up career-high numbers, that's probably phantom and would be a likely bust if you traded for them. Get in the habit of making a prediction when you take an action, either mentally or writing it down, and then check if your prediction is correct. "The player I'm trading for lost 4 OVR this season, but they still have high Dribbling and Passing so I think they'll be a passable backup guard. Their Win Shares last season was 7; I bet if I trade for them it'll decline to 5-6 WS range if I play them the same amount of minutes, but I bet they only get 10-20 minutes on my team for a WS of 2.5-3 unless one of my starters gets injured." (You don't have to fully write that out or do it elaborately - it takes only 10-20 seconds after making a decision to do something to make an explicit prediction and then check whether you're right later.)
1D: Over time, slowly and gradually build an understanding of how the computer code works. So — BasketballGM is a computer simulation of being a General Manager of a professional basketball team. This might be almost too obvious to say, but no actual basketball is being played. Rather, computer code is running. You'll want to poke around on Github and look at analyses done here on Reddit to see how the code actually works. You can check out the codebase here - https://github.com/zengm-games/zengm - and don't be intimated if you don't know any programming, you won't understand everything but you can get some general insights regardless. Probably the best place to start is here - https://github.com/zengm-games/zengm/blob/mastesrc/common/constants.basketball.ts - you'll learn some counterintuitive things. I eventually came to the conclusion that Rebounding is the least generally important skill for players (just get very tall players, since height is factored heavily into rebounding and also useful in many other ways). I think everyone who plays the game long enough eventually realizes that Inside Shooting is negative unless it's extremely high on an otherwise excellent player. But why is this? It's not just because inside shooting is inefficient (it is) but also because it directly factors into that player having more turnovers, and turnovers are really really bad. It's all in the code as you look through it. Again, you don't have to do a big study project, just have fun poking around in there for 5-30 minutes from time to time. There's also been some great analyses done here on Reddit. This one might be slightly out of date (?) but is still a classic - https://www.reddit.com/BasketballGM/comments/7b4rfn/a_detailed_analysis_of_the_effects_of_tags_xpost/
1E: Run some experiments like this: https://www.reddit.com/BasketballGM/comments/1auz38c/singleyear_player_progression_by_age/ - the easiest way to run experiments is to clone a league that's interesting in some way right before the start of a new year, and run different versions of that clone league a multiple times to see what happens. For instance, the most volatile teams are the ones with a mix of aging solid-to-good players and young prospects. It's possible in those cases for for a 50-win team to shoot up to 70+ wins by getting by having their young players making a huge leap combined with what I call the "dead cat bounce" where some of the starters have a one-hit wonder positive progression in their 30's. Alternatively, all the prospects could fail and the aging players regress and the 50-win team collapses to a 30-win team. It's useful to do some experiments yourself to get a feel for this, so you can spot both when your roster is in a risky position and when a new powerhouse contender might emerge from an opposing team.
1F: Run some easier challenges before taking on a super hard one. 100 consecutive championships on Insane is very difficult. A couple challenges I did that helped me learn about the game: I did an "Around the World" type challenge before the achievement for it was created, where I tried to win with every team in the league. That gave great insight into the player mood system and how it shapes small-market teams, as well as the value of cost-efficient players on cheap contracts. You can get away with being inefficient in big markets (NYC, MXC, LA) but playing in the smaller market teams helps you learn more about the mood system and contract dynamics. Likewise, probably the single most insightful thing I did was start a league where I went for the "International" achievement every single year — I'd never end the year with an American player on the roster. This was really good for learning how to construct weird rosters that would still win. Sometimes there would not be a high-quality center at all who was international, so you had to find ways to make due with weird roster constructions and still try to win. This is particularly useful because a lot of your teams will get into trouble during "Droughts" when no good players of a particular type come of the draft for multiple years in a row (or if good prospects come out, they regress/fail entirely). A drought in ball-handlers or centers for even a few years row has an impact on the league for 10-15 years. It fundamentally changes the value of all the players of that type and should influence your drafting, re-signing, and trading priorities. Playing an "only international" roster makes droughts happen more often which is great practice for an otherwise somewhat rare but important occurrence.
Cool, that's it for part 1. I guess the last thing I'd mention is that I actually enjoy really exploring the mechanics of the world - statistically/mathematically, using pure logic, testing and empiricism, and generally trying to get a deep grasp of how things work. If that's not your cup of tea, all good! But I think almost everyone can get some joy from a little extra learning mixed in with regular play. If you're going to play BBGM for an hour or two today, spend 5-10 minutes looking up a stat you don't know and then look at how the players on your roster and the best opposing team score in that stat. I think it's quite fun and quite informative. There's a whole heck of a lot of information around basketball stats and it's quite complex, but don't let it be intimidating... even just 5-10 minutes of learning mixed in at the start or end of a playing session makes you more knowledgeable about BBGM, but also helps you learn real-world skills around statistics and analysis. Don't be overwhelmed, give it a try for 5-10 minutes here and there, and you might be surprised at both how fast you improve at the game and how enjoyable it is to learn.

As i type this am at the lowest point of my life nakula mchele ya white saai with chumvi no stew no nothing since jana 6 jioni this is my first meal then tumefungiwa kwa nyumba with my 1 yr baby na agent(he didnt know tuko ndani akifunga) because of rent arrears ya 19k.we have lived here since 2021 but hatujawai kosa kulipa nyumba. My b.daddy waa out kutafuta kama atapata kazi ata ya mjengo tupate ata ya food. I am one hardworking person and everyone have worked with can attest to that but sijawai pata like job poa. Job nishawai pata ikanilipa vizuri was one 17k na it was running for 3 months only ni hizi promotion jobs so i have experience ya sales and marketing here and there cashier na merchandising. I have applied and applied sijafanikiwa am still applying anytime naona post inaeza nifit. I can do any type of work shida ni inatoka wapi🙆‍♀️sina capital ya kutafuta ata tuwatermelon nizungushe coz saai i am ready to do anything and move out to a cheaper house i dnt want this kind of scenario to ever repeat itself. My baby daddy on the other hand ni mtu wa hizi kazi za contracts za mashule (biometrics installation and security systems)na kupatikana ni maybe twice or thrice a year since jan alipata moja then when in the house he does online writing akioata clients saai season iko down kabisa no work.He had paid rent up to march its already may mwisho so june ikiingia arrears zinaongezeka.He has a degree in IT hajawai pata kazi na hio degree. I have tried asking for loans ata kwa family and friends hakuna usaidizi. Sina ata fare ya kuenda ushago nikakae huko of which ni mzigo tena since we have been supporting our parents mahali tunaweza we are negative negative no savings no income no nothing 😭 B.d is giving me hope kutakua kuzuri anaeza fanikiwa soon but now ata siwezi toa mtoi nje akapigwe na jua juu naogopa agent anipate if i say i go to crash at any of my friends hio ni mzigo napea watu coz thats 2 extra people to feed and the judgement ofcourse😭(i have like 2 close friends) Mimi ata sijui where our lives are heading at. I feel like giving up but if i do what about my son😭 Why is life this cruel😭oh God.

First off, thanks for listening to my nonsense.
I had two days away at my parents but we had been texting. I got back last night. I was f**king shaking. Sat next to him and casually asked if he wanted to go on a date next weekend.
He was a bit shocked but asked where are you taking me. I said probably Maccies 🤣🤣.
We spoke about stuff, protecting our friendship, what we want from a relationship, how it affects our living situation, how to deal with skipping the get to know you part of dsting, am I ok being seen dating a guy in public, honesty if it isnt working out, what the relationship looks like, what I'm comfortable with/willing to do sexually etc. Honestly I didn't know there was so much to discuss. I thought women were hard work 🤣🤣 jk.
We had finished those discussions and we had some fun. Chilled watching Baby Reindeer (yes we are late to the party) and went to his bed for a bit more fun and I woke up this morning rock hard but he had work to go too haha.
Now that we spoke fully, I'm feeling great about it. I think I've made the right decision and hope he thinks has too. I was joking about Maccies. I want to do a date that is special to show I'm in this. I still not sure what I am but I know I like him a lot and in bed (not the sex, although that too) with him or just him lying near me on the couch (or anything intimate) makes me genuinely happy. I think if it does go wrong as long as it respectfully goes wrong our friendship will be fine.

Hi, I’m on week 3 of 2.5mg. First two weeks I had no side effects but very minimal loss which was fine. I took the third dose on Monday and wow. Sulfur burps on Tuesday were terrible but only lasted a day. But the worst thing has been the bloating pain. Since Monday, I wake up every every morning with a hard stomach that is painful to touch. I don’t go to the bathroom every day, but even when I do, it only lessens the pain a little bit. I don’t know what else to do. It’s getting the way of my daily life. I have a year-old and it’s hard for me to pick him up because he put the weight on my stomach that hurts. Any tips, please?! Does this go away

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (18F) have been together for more than a year now, we met through a mutual friend and started a relationship.
Once summer 2023 started, I began to feel depressed and very lonely; which made me develop emotional dependency on my girlfriend. This resulted in me forgiving a lot of her actions and making her lots of gifts every time I felt something was off, instead of confronting her due to my fear of abandonment.
I think all of this has made the relationship center around her all the time, and now that I’m doing better and slowly recovering from my depression, I think that we have a toxic relationship.
There are a lot of behaviors that I question right now, but I’ll try to make it as short as possible:
-If we argue about something, I always try my best to communicate and not hurt her in any way, but she usually feels attacked and vents in her twitter account (I talked about how this makes me feel to her multiple times, so now she does not tweet about these things in her public account, she does it in a private vent account) or throws her anger at me.
-There is some double standard, she always wants me to answer as quickly as possible and gets mad if she sees I was active on other social media without answering her messages. A couple months ago, she got mad at me and started venting on her account saying she sometimes felt I didn’t love her at all because I didn’t say good morning to her after being active on Instagram; but she has done that a lot of times and I haven’t said anything because I don’t feel like it’s that big of a deal. I don’t think that should be a reason to get angry, but it annoys me how sometimes she does things that she would get angry about if it was me doing it.
-I try to do my best and write her letters, make her some kind of gift or paying for food when I can, but she expects me to do it all the time and it's really hard to maintain that rhythm of dedication. When I was depressed, I was doing nothing in my room; I didn’t like what I was studying, didn’t like where I was located… that made me have a lot of time to make her lots of things, I also spent too much money buying her things. Now that I have less time to do that and I can’t write her as much letters or pay for her as much (I am not working at all, I am studying and my parents are helping me with it so I can’t always pay for everything or buy a lot of things), she confronted me saying I didn’t do as much. Once I told her about all of the problems I had with the amount of money I had, all she said was “Then don’t have a girlfriend”. She later apologized but it’s not the first time she says hurtful stuff like this.
-I strongly believe that it's the little things that make a relationship last, I've tried my best to make her boxes with her favourite candies, or organize some kind of surprise date. But she never does that, when we reached our anniversary, she didn't do anything for me; I don't really need something expensive, even a letter would do the job, or a message, but she did nothing and, once again, I felt about it.
-And the thing that hurts me the most, 2 months ago I was at her house when my mom phoned me crying and saying I should get back to my house because of my grandmother. My grandmother was really sick at the time and it was a matter of time, I had never lost someone so close to me and we instantly knew what was happening. My girlfriend’s mom told me she would get me to my house on her car, I asked my girlfriend if she would come with me and her mother because I needed her support and all she said was “I’m tired”. She didn’t come with me, only her mother, because she wanted to sleep. A day later she came to see how I was doing and tried to cheer me up, but that moment where she didn’t want to come with me to support me still hurts. I talked about it once with her and she said she was sorry and that she hadn’t realized what was happening, but, once again, it’s not the first time she “does not realize” things, and sometimes it makes me feel unloved.
There are more things like her being really jealous every time I talk with a girl and so on, but I don’t want to make this post longer.
I’ve tried my best to be a good boyfriend, I know I’m not perfect and that I should’ve confronted her when these things happened, but it’s getting really tiring. She is very reactionary and has some anger issues, not only with me but with her family. Her mother told me once she said some hurtful things to her because when she gets angry, she says things she shouldn’t.
I know she has a good heart inside, her family is super sweet and there have been times where she has helped me a lot; but I don’t know how to change this dynamic. What should I do? Can I do something to fix it?
TLDR: Months ago I was in a depressed state which lead me to be very dependant on my girlfriend, resulting in her being the center of the relationship. Now that I'm doing better I've realized that I'm in a toxic relationship where I don't feel that I'm treated equally. I don't know if I should stay and try to fix all of this or if it's too late to do so.

Volume has been insane last few days. Record for highest volume was 3.1B on 5/16 (over at CRKN) - can we beat it here today???? Nearly 250M in the first 30 min of PM.
GWAV volume: Thursday: 2.1B+ Friday: 1B+ Monday: 600M+ Tuesday: 700M+ Wednesday: 1.54B+
LETS GOOOOO!!

Israel Katz: “I've instructed the immediate recall of Israel’s ambassadors... in light of these countries' decisions to recognize a Palestinian state."
Israel recalled its ambassadors from Ireland, Spain, and Norway on Wednesday to protest the unilateral recognition of a Palestinian state by those countries, warning it would not stand idly by while they reward terrorism. “This would be a terrorist state. It will try to repeat the massacre of October 7 again and again; we will not consent to this,” Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said.
“This evil can not be given a state,” he added in a video message issued hours after his counterparts from those three nations issued coordinated messages in favor of a Palestinian statehood from their capitals, a recognition that will go into effect on May 28. The European leaders argued that such a step was necessary, given the absence of a peace process and in light of the Palestinian suffering,seven into the Gaza war.
Irish Prime Minister Simon Harris said, “Hamas is not the Palestinian people. Today’s decision to recognize Palestine is taken to help create a peaceful future.”
He clarified that recognition was a gesture to the Palestinian people, who had the right to self-determination. It was taken to support “a two-state solution,” which is the only way to stop “generational cycles of violence.”
Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas thanked Harris for taking such a “courageous” step when the two spoke later in the day, explaining that he hoped it would inspire other countries to issue similar statements of recognition, according to the WAFA, the Palestine News Agency. Norwegian Prime Minister Jonas Gahr Store said the only possible political solution between Israelis and Palestinians was “two states living side by side in peace and security.”
Palestinian envoy to the UN Riyad Mansour said, “This European wave will hopefully be followed by other waves” that will allow for Palestine to be recognized as the 194th UN member state.
Britain, Australia, and EU members Malta and Slovenia have indicated in recent months that they could soon follow suit.
Ireland, Spain, and Norway’s action came on the 229th day of the Gaza war, a conflict that has stoked anti-Israel sentiments worldwide, even though the war was sparked by Hamas’s invasion of Israel on October 7. During that attack, Hamas and other terror groups killed over 1,200 people and seized another 252 hostages, of which 128 remain in captivity.
Netanyahu and his government had opposed Palestinian statehood before the war, but the October 7 attack only hardened that position. It has warned that much like Hamas seized control of Gaza in 2007 and has used it to launch attacks against Israel, so too would terrorists rule a Palestinian entity in the West Bank.
It has argued that the PA already supports terror and the destruction of Israel and can not, therefore, be a partner for peace. 'A message to the Palestinians and the world' Foreign Minister Israel Katz wrote on X during a visit to Paris that “Israel will not remain silent in the face of those undermining its sovereignty and endangering its security.” “Today’s decision sends a message to the Palestinians and the world: Terrorism pays,” Katz wrote.
Israel fears that other Western countries could follow suit and that such steps help give Hamas a sense that international sympathy is with them, further complicating efforts to secure a hostage deal for the remaining 128 captives.
“This distorted step by these countries is an injustice to the memory of the victims of 7/10, a blow to efforts to return the 128 hostages, and a boost to Hamas and Iran’s jihadists, which undermines the chance for peace and questions Israel’s right to self-defense,” Katz wrote.
The Irish, Spanish, and Norwegian ambassadors have been summoned to the Foreign Ministry on Thursday for a severe reprimand, where they will be shown a video, published Wednesday of the moment five young Israeli women were taken captive from their army base in Nahal Oz. They will be asked to “look into their eyes,” Katz wrote, explaining that he wanted to “the distorted decision their governments have made.”
Finance Minister Bezalel Smotrich, (Religious Zionist Party) called on Netanyahu to authorize punitive measures against Palestinians and the Palestinian Authority, including withholding of tax fees and accelerating the approval of West Bank settlement construction, including in the contested E1 area of the Ma’aleh Adumim settlement.
To protest the announcements, National Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir made his first visit to the Aksa Mosque compound on Jerusalem’s Temple Mount, which is known to Muslims as Al-Haram Al-Sharif. Ben-Gvir stood with the Dome of the Rock in the background, stating, “We will not allow even a declaration of a Palestinian state.” He stressed that the site, which is the holiest in Judaism and the third holiest in Islam, belongs “only to the State of Israel.”
The sharp Israeli disavowals of Palestinian statehood came as Israel was under pressure to accept a two-state resolution to its conflict with the Palestinians.
Western powers have in the post refrained from unilateral Palestinian statehood recognition believing that such a move should only come at the end of a two-state peace process.
The White House push for a Saudi deal has revived that dormant peace process, as the US has asked Israel to accept a pathway to two states.
In testimonies on Capitol Hill this week, US Secretary of State Antony Blinken has said that he is not sure Israel can take the steps necessary to make a Saudi deal happen.
The issue of Israeli acceptance of Palestinian statehood has become more acute as the United States is close to completing the first pillar of the triad deal, which is a security pact The White House on Wednesday stood firm in its rejection of unilateral Palestinian statehood, touting
President Joe Biden “has been on the record supporting a two-state solution,” US National Security Adviser Jake Sullivan told reporters in Washington.
“He has been equally emphatic that a two-state solution should be brought about through direct negotiations through the parties, not through unilateral recognition,” Sullivan said.
“That’s a principal position that we have held consistently,” he said. “We believe the only way that you are going to achieve a two-state solution that delivers for both Israelis and Palestinians, is through direct negotiations between the parties. That’s what we’ve been focused on,” Sullivan said He alluded to the White House’s efforts to finalize a normalization deal between Saudi Arabia and Israel, as he explained that the two states were also part of a regional strategy to integrate Israel into the region. When pressed by a reporter, he said, he was concerned by Israel’s growing isolation on the international stage.
“As a country that stands strong in defense of Israel in international forums like the United Nations, we certainly have seen a growing chorus of voices including voices that had previously been in support of Israel drift in another direction,” Sullivan said, adding “that this is of concern to us.
“We do not believe that that contributes to Israel’s long-term security or vitality. And so that’s something that we discussed with the Israeli government,” he said.
It is for this reason, Sullivan said, that the US had urged Israel to take a more diplomatically strategic approach to defeating Hamas and providing humanitarian assistance to Palestinians in Gaza.
https://www.jpost.com/international/article-802167

Are they any hostels around Bangalore that would let me stay for a month or two till I find a job. I have been unemployed since I completed engineering (Nov 2023). I did get placed through the campus placements but the offer letter was cancelled.
I have since tried to find work everywhere but I have not found any. The scholarship money was helpful in paying for my food and rent expenses . But this year the Karnataka government has delayed the scholarship. They have said , they will start the procedure after the elections are over.
I already have an education loan and my parents had been hopeful that i would support them after my engineering but I'm not able sustain myself. I cannot go back home unemployed . My parents cannot support me even now. They , themselves have gone through so much to send me to college. They had hoped that i would change the family situation but I'm such a loser .
The college has allowed previous year graduates who are still unemployed to attend campus placements. Hence , I have stayed back in Bangalore. I cannot go back home and keep coming to attend interviews everyday. Don't have that much money left . I have been working real hard but I don't know how to get a job .
I'm out of money now for staying in Bangalore. I have been staying at a friend's place this last month after vacating my previous PG. He's asking me to move out soon. His roomates aren't happy about me staying for free. They had huge fight because of me staying.
I have heard a lot of my friends staying in Government hostels and centres for free . Some of them are caste based , some of them only offer residency if you're studying. Hence , I wanted to ask if there's any body who knows any such centres which would allow me to stay for a month or maximum 2 months. Till I get the scholarship money. I have cleared first round interviews. I am hopeful of finding something soon.
I have been trying to get a job in BPO or any jobs that would help me with a month's rent. I have to be available to attend interviews anytime , hence I am not able to find other jobs. I don't want to miss out on other opportunities. I really need to get a decent job to support my loan and my parents back home .
So if there's anybody out there who could help me with a hostel or any centre or such thing. Or like if there's any job that i could work at night . if I could earn 300-400 rs per day . It would help me with expenses . I am not the most intelligent person, hence I am unemployed but I can work hard and find job.
Please, please help me out. If you any solutions . With any job recommendations or stay . I can't handle being the reason for other's fight . I have tried to stay outside the room all day and just go there to sleep and only eat at night to try to lessen thier fights but still I'm eating up thier groceries and money. Hopefully ,I can repay back . I never thought I would even have to struggle for food .
Please any solutions with my problem would really help me . I could work at the hostel for my stay there. If there anybody with such links. I would be greatful .

I had posted small updates and the obituary for Archer around the TFMR date on Facebook. I got an outpouring of support.
Yesterday I told my husband that I was having issues with memory and attention to detail (two big sells for my job) and that I was afraid I’d forget details about Archer and the short time we had with him. I knew I wouldn’t forget HIM but I didn’t want to forget any of it. So my husband told me to write. I do plan to write our all the details when I can sit and focus, but I started somewhere.
I posted Archer’s story to facebook. From the day we found out we were pregnant to delivery. Not every detail is there but it shows the progression of testing, consults, emotions. It gives weeks in terms of pregnancy and dates.
I was inspired to write it there first because I’ve read so many stories here where moms don’t feel safe enough or supported enough to share their story with family, friends or work. It could be due to religion, person opinions or state laws and potential consequences. Before this diagnosis happened to my son, I was blind to this world of TFMR. I didn’t know what I didn’t know and I’d never know unless someone exposed it to me. So now there is a wider circle who has been exposed to the ugly, painful truth. They may not know it first hand like us, but they know it exists. And if they know me well enough, they know the genuine rawness and pain I’ve shared. As I have strength for it, I plan to share more. More about the diagnosis and the decision we had to contemplate, more about TFMR mama thoughts, more about how this is a loss of a child and not “just a pregnancy.” I want other TFMR mamas out there to be supported, understood and feel a little less alone.
I’m sorry we are all here. And I want you all to know that you are not alone.

I started Accutane ~7 months ago, second round (first round was 5 years ago). About a month or two in, I began having break through bleeding. It’s every day, though it gets heavier and lighter in accordance with my cycles. My periods used to be heavy but now they’re pretty light (maybe because no tissue is actually building up??)
My dermatologist said he hadn’t encountered this broadly as a symptom of Accutane but “anything is possible”. I have seen some other posts on this sub where people describe having break through bleeding, but has anyone had it to the extent that it’s everyday for months? Did it go away when you stopped Accutane?

In early February, I met this guy at a restaurant/ lounge venue. I was getting lunch alone and he approached saying he wanted to come over to me and check if I was okay. I was so distressed that day. We shared a few laughs and he was complimenting me on my smile and whatnot. We exchanged details and eventually started hanging out. A week or so of us just hanging out, we eventually got intimate and it was honestly the best I’d had in my life. After that he then revealed that he is in a relationship and has been for a year+, and he lives with her. At the time I didn’t really care cause I thought it would be a once off thing. It wasn’t. Eventually the feelings and guilt took over and I started pulling back from him and he took the step and just blocked me everywhere. The restaurant/lounge we met at became one of my favourit places to chill with friends so I always see him on the weekend when I go there. He would always approach me and remind how he still thinks about me and how he wants me back and always complimented me on how I took. I eventually stopped going to the restaurant/lounge as frequently as I use to. Last weekend, after a month of not being there, we saw each other again at the restaurant/ lounge and he did the same thing he always did. When I woke up the next morning, I found a text from him. We eventually had a chat and he poured his heart to me admitting that he wants me in his life and he shouldn’t have blocked me in the first place. He’s now asking for us to start over again. I won’t lie I have very heavy feelings for him and I want him but I feel so guilty because he has a girlfriend. I feel so empathetic towards her and I hate that I actually like him so much. I know I’m being a bad person but what should I do?

Brunson Snubbed
Jayson Tatum did not deserve to be an All-NBA 1st Team over Brunson. All-NBA teams aren't about team wins but individual greatness. Brunson was much better than Tatum throughout the season, and despite us losing our two best players for almost half the season, we won 50 games. Just read a great article that fully explains why Brunson should have gotten it.

Hello,
I have always had acne prone skin, mainly around my chin and at the time of my period but for the last several years have managed it with otc products.
2021 I fell pregnant with our first and for maybe a month in the first trimester my skin was breaking out but then cleared up completely and stayed clear (clearest it had ever been) until my child was around 10 months old. Then I started breaking out a bit around my period, more than before pregnancy.
Fast forward to now, I am 18 weeks pregnant and from 5 weeks, my skin has been breaking out in cystic acne, it has gotten worse over the weeks with no end in sight. It's all over my chin and along my jawline, I've had a few around my nose and also mu forehead. Their also very painful. It's been a extremely depressing for me as my last pregnancy I really enjoyed and was hoping for the same this time around but ofc hormones will be hormones. Before being pregnant this time around, from memory, I was using: AM Cetaphil oily skin cleanser Invisible zinc SPF and tinted moisturiser
PM Cetaphil oily skin cleanser Epiduo (BP and adapalene) sukin rosehip night cream pm or weleda skin food moisturiser
I'd also add in eco by sonya serum of clear or serum of plenty or the glory oil a few times a week at night.
When my skin started breaking out with this pregnancy I felt like I need to do more and ofc I needed to also stop using the epiduo, so I started using La Roche Posay effaclar foaming gel every night then after maybe a week I added in the LRP effaclar duo+m every night. I used them for a month but I felt like my skin was breaking out more, hard to know whether it was from the products or just my hormones!? Anyway I gave my skin a break for a few days before starting AzClear products, initially I started the AzClear treatment lotion (azelaic acid 20%) because it's pregnancy safe and I'd read amazing things about it and that it was gentler than other acids etc etc. I started that every other night for the first week then the second week, every night, third week I increased it to twice daily. I also picked up their foaming cleanser (no actives), soothing gel (no actives) and their SPF moisturiser. My routine now is:
AM AzClear foaming cleanser Azclear treatment lotion Azclear SPF moisturiser Invisible zinc tinted moisturiser
PM Azclear foaming cleanser Azclear treatment lotion Azclear soothing gel
It has been three weeks now that I've been using this routine, I definitely dont see much of an improvement but the last couple of days i think there has been a slight decrease in breakouts especially on my chin.
Question, how long should I give this routine before I try something else? My GP has given a script for topical Clindamycin gel but after reading here, I'm a bit sceptical. She's also suggested trying BP if the Azclear doesn't work.
Seeing as the Azclear cleanser isn't an active, would it be okay to try a benzac cleanser (BP)?
I'll see if I can find any photos I've taken along my skin journey.
Thanks if you've gotten this far!!
From a sad spotty mama.