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2024.05.20 00:27 myster_goat99 Need to move out within 1 week of moving in
The landlord sold my old rental so I decided to move out prematurely with 6 months left on my leave. I’ve now spent 3 nights in my new house and it’s absolutely horrible for me, I want out ASAP. I’ve already given my 2 weeks written notice that I’m leaving the old house but I haven’t handed in the keys or signed anything yet.
Can I move back in? I absolutely understand that there are penalties for breaking my new lease (4 weeks rent) but I’m willing to pay that if it means I can continue looking for a new place from the comfort of my old home. I’ll just about break even as the old rent was much cheaper anyway
Any advice ?
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Can I move back in? I absolutely understand that there are penalties for breaking my new lease (4 weeks rent) but I’m willing to pay that if it means I can continue looking for a new place from the comfort of my old home. I’ll just about break even as the old rent was much cheaper anyway
Any advice ?
2024.05.20 00:22 bananataffi can i borrow someones legal GPT?
i am having housing issues and am not in a position to get a lawyer to be able to read my leasing agreement and tell me everything i need to know. i understand chat gpt is not the best way to go about this, but its my next best option as i have basically no legal knowledge in this regard. i have a court summons on thursday and am supposed to provide a defense on why i should be able to keep my place. there are some nuanced legalities within the agreement i need clarification on and if anyone has access to a legal ai software i could plug my lease into and ask some questions, i would be incredibly grateful!
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2024.05.20 00:20 Beef_boy_6969 My boyfriend (20M) is unsure if he sees a future with me (20F). He makes comments that make me feel insecure in our relationship’s future.
I could completely be misunderstanding what’s going on or freaking out for no reason but I would love some thoughts on this. My boyfriend (20M) and I (21F) have been together for a little over a year. At the beginning of our relationship there were some doubts on his end. He had just recently gotten out of a toxic relationship (as did I) and he would say things like he doesn’t feel as intense for me as he did with his ex and other stuff like that. As time went by, there was a shift of his feelings. He was and is completely attentive and more affectionate. He told me he loved me and we’ve talked about our future like babies and all that. One day, I just asked him when we should move in (for the future). I wasn’t really asking for a real answer just like an estimate cuz we already have signed leases for the next couple years so obviously it’s not soon, and he completely freaked out and said “I don’t think we should be talking about that right now”, which I found so weird because he can talk to me about all the babies and the houses we will have but he can’t talk to me about moving in which is at least 2 years away if not more? I asked him about that and he basically said that moving in was more real because it would be like the next step in our relationship and the babies and the houses are far away. I was so confused and I talked to him about it more and he said that maybe I’m being too anxious. He said we don’t know the future and he could be with someone else and that he’s so young etc. but he said he’s been enjoying his time with me and he does see a possible future with me. A week ago at a family gathering my sister told me that she asked him if he wanted kids and he responded with “I’m not sure maybe it will be with your sister or with someone else” which is weird because that wasn’t the question and why would you say that to my sister? I know that things can change in the future I’m not oblivious to that and I’m ok with that happening, but these comments don’t make me feel secure in our relationship. I’m definitely more of a long term kind of person and I am an anxious person so it definitely rattles how I feel. I’m not sure whether this is a red flag or not.
TL;DR My boyfriend likes to talk about our future until it feels real and then he freaks out. He tells me we could be together or he could be with someone else in the future.
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TL;DR My boyfriend likes to talk about our future until it feels real and then he freaks out. He tells me we could be together or he could be with someone else in the future.
2024.05.20 00:18 PlantMomAesthetic Maintenance responsibility questions
When I moved into my duplex I was verbally told that there would be weekly yard maintenance. For 3 years a crew was coming out and trimming the trees and the bushes and leaf blowing all of the leaf litter and taking away the major weeds. This stopped recently and now my property management company is trying to say that I am responsible for the yard maintenance. I never would have moved in if I knew that I had to take care of the entire front and backyard myself because I'm not physically able to. I'm pretty poor and recently lost my job and there's no way I could afford to hire someone. Do I have any recourse on this?
My second question is it literally states in my lease that no matter how long something/an appliance is broken in the house, even if it's the landlord's responsibility, that I am in no way shape or form allowed to withhold rent even though the law says I am. Which is correct? For 3 months I did not have a bathroom door. We have pocket doors and it got stuck shut. My little girl could squeeze through to use the bathroom but there were multiple times where I had to go across the street to use the restroom at McDonald's. I threatened to withhold rent and they threatened to evict me. The property management literally stated that the landlord just did not feel like paying for it. Now the light in my bedroom is not working and neither is the oven and I'm afraid that I'm going to be told the same thing.
Thanks in advance for any answers!
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My second question is it literally states in my lease that no matter how long something/an appliance is broken in the house, even if it's the landlord's responsibility, that I am in no way shape or form allowed to withhold rent even though the law says I am. Which is correct? For 3 months I did not have a bathroom door. We have pocket doors and it got stuck shut. My little girl could squeeze through to use the bathroom but there were multiple times where I had to go across the street to use the restroom at McDonald's. I threatened to withhold rent and they threatened to evict me. The property management literally stated that the landlord just did not feel like paying for it. Now the light in my bedroom is not working and neither is the oven and I'm afraid that I'm going to be told the same thing.
Thanks in advance for any answers!
2024.05.20 00:17 Sad-Volume-65 Rodent Adoption ADVICE NEEDED
Hi everyone!
My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
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My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
2024.05.20 00:15 Sad-Volume-65 Rodent Adoption ADVICE NEEDED
Hi everyone!
My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
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My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
2024.05.20 00:11 toottootmcgroot What would you do?
I have a condo I’m renting out in the states which doesn’t have a mortgage. Rent is currently $1900 but one month’s rent would go to management to find and lease to a tenant. Currently making £1300 profit a month. Condo would sell for £158k. I’ve decided I’ll be staying in the UK for good, so which of these is a good idea?
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- Sell the condo and buy in the UK to let out.
- Sell the condo and put towards a nicer house we will live in.
- Sell and invest.
- Don’t change anything and continue renting it out in the states.
2024.05.20 00:03 Strange_Flatworm_630 PLEASE HELP
I'm having trouble with the housing department here. I was undecided about living on or off campus this summer. I initially signed up for on-campus housing, but then a friend offered to sublease his apartment for a reasonable price, so I went with that option. Unfortunately, I forgot about the cancellation deadline for the on-campus housing over the summer. Now, the housing department is making me pay the $2000 rent fee even though I wont be staying there They said that since I missed the deadline, I have to pay regardless the amount. The only exceptions are for serious illness or other significant reasons, and finding a better off-campus lease doesn't qualify. I've tried arguing and sent multiple emails, but they're not considering nor responding sometimes. I’m currently off campus right now and it won’t be feasible for me to move out and move in again. PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I DO
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2024.05.19 23:24 Plus-Ad8398 Am I screwed for housing if my mom is unable to cosign a lease?
She is unable to cosign because she is currently unemployed and has too low of a credit score. I don't really know what to do or where to look. I would rather not live on campus again because that costs like 9 billion dollars. I would also want my own room because I have been going very insane living with roommates. I feel kinda hopeless right now because I genuinely just do not know what to do and I would rather not be 100k in debt. I realize that I am starting pretty late, I absolutely regret it. I would appreciate some pointers on where to go or some advice, if possible.
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2024.05.19 23:20 throwawaydadstruck Apartment lease ending, tenant may die soon
The lease on my dad's apartment is due to end the last day of May. His health is deteriorating and it's possible that he will pass away or will not be living in this apartment at the time of the end of the lease. He had the apartments draw him up a 1 year lease beginning June 1, but has not turned it in. It's my understanding that the family/estate is responsible for 30 days rent after the sole tenant passes and they're notified. If he deteriorates to the point that he won't be living here past the end of the month/end of the current lease what is the best move? Turn in the one year lease? What happens if we don't turn in the lease and also don't tell the apartment that he's gone/incapacitated? Would we be able to clear contents of the apartment and walk away? This is in Texas, standard TAA lease.
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2024.05.19 23:11 Scoobiisnackss Looking for a roommate for 2024-2025 academic year housing
Hello everybody, I'm looking for 1 more potential roommate to rent out a house with 3 of my friends and me for the next school year. We're looking to group-lease an affordable 5-bedroom off-campus house within walking distance of campus. I have already found a place, but I plan on weighing our options. Please DM me if interested.
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2024.05.19 23:05 Ok_Swing145 Questions about housing while on the waitlist.
Hello everyone, so I am currently committed to UCD as a transfer but I am also on the UCLA waitlist and if admitted off of it I will commit to UCLA instead. My question is whether I should still commit to and find a lease for housing at Davis while I’m on the waitlist or if I should wait before hearing back from UCLA first? Another dilemma I have about this is that I was going to take over one of my friends lease that already lives in Davis and is leaving but since I’m on the waitlist, his roommates would rather give it to someone who’s going to Davis for sure.
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2024.05.19 23:01 throwawayRAengage I (27F) am ready for a proposal, BF (28M) is not… how long do I wait?
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Overall, our relationship has been wonderful. He’s my best friend and I can’t imagine not having him to carry me to harass me to brush my teeth when I’m half asleep in bed. However, he’s always had some commitment issues, stemming in my opinion from his parent’s divorce. I am the first person he has ever said I love you to and his second relationship overall.
His commitment issues have popped up here and there throughout the relationship. Never did I feel like he wasn’t committed to me, it was more like he was just always scared of taking the “next step” (moving in together for example). It was always something he had never really thought about and he would tell me that he just had to process it. It was genuinely like the idea of a relationship progressing had not occurred to him and once it was brought to him he would take what felt to me like an incredibly long time to figure out if he was ready for it. I first brought up living together after a year and a half together (he owned a house and I was renting) and he couldn’t really figure out if he was ready in time so I ended up signing another year lease before we moved in. Not a big deal, just an example of his processing speed.
We live together now in the house he owns and have been living together for over a year. We broke up briefly in the beginning of 2023 after a disagreement in finances but have since worked through it and things have been great. We got back together in March of 2023.
The issue is I brought up marriage and the future and I feel like the commitment issues are rearing their head again. I really value marriage (personal preference, you do you, I just want that) and he knows that. When we got back together I told him that things would move faster now because we had made this serious choice to get back together and commit to working through everything. He agreed. I asked about engagement in January of 2024 and made it pretty clear that I wanted that to happen in the next 6-7 months (so we would’ve been back together for over a year by that point.
Well, after recent conversations, he told me he’s not ready and he just needs to be sure. Which is fair but when I asked if he knew for sure that it is me and he saw me as his forever he said “I think I can get there”. Punch to the gut. Thought he was already there.
So I told him that makes me really sad and I don’t know how I can be happy knowing that after this long and the promises we made getting back together that he isn’t sure about me. I told him I might be sad until he knew for sure and that at a certain point I might get tired of waiting and decide to leave. He said that’s unreasonable and unfair. I’m torn.
So I guess the question is, is it okay to feel sad about this? How long do I wait for him to be ready before I decide he’s taking too long? If I do wait for him to be ready, how do I handle the uncertainty of my partner not being sure about me when I’m so sure about him?
When we talk about it, he talks about all the other ways he is preparing for our future, we’re renovating a house together, we’ve talked about kids and he feels like that should be enough for right now but unfortunately for me, it’s not. I want the marriage, it’s one of my values and I’m hurt that he can’t even give me a timeline or confirm that it’s ever going to happen. He says uncertainty is just the nature of relationships. It just makes me so sad and he can’t see why. Idk…how do I handle this?
TL;DR: boyfriend has commitment issues, can’t give a timeline for proposal. How long do I wait?
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His commitment issues have popped up here and there throughout the relationship. Never did I feel like he wasn’t committed to me, it was more like he was just always scared of taking the “next step” (moving in together for example). It was always something he had never really thought about and he would tell me that he just had to process it. It was genuinely like the idea of a relationship progressing had not occurred to him and once it was brought to him he would take what felt to me like an incredibly long time to figure out if he was ready for it. I first brought up living together after a year and a half together (he owned a house and I was renting) and he couldn’t really figure out if he was ready in time so I ended up signing another year lease before we moved in. Not a big deal, just an example of his processing speed.
We live together now in the house he owns and have been living together for over a year. We broke up briefly in the beginning of 2023 after a disagreement in finances but have since worked through it and things have been great. We got back together in March of 2023.
The issue is I brought up marriage and the future and I feel like the commitment issues are rearing their head again. I really value marriage (personal preference, you do you, I just want that) and he knows that. When we got back together I told him that things would move faster now because we had made this serious choice to get back together and commit to working through everything. He agreed. I asked about engagement in January of 2024 and made it pretty clear that I wanted that to happen in the next 6-7 months (so we would’ve been back together for over a year by that point.
Well, after recent conversations, he told me he’s not ready and he just needs to be sure. Which is fair but when I asked if he knew for sure that it is me and he saw me as his forever he said “I think I can get there”. Punch to the gut. Thought he was already there.
So I told him that makes me really sad and I don’t know how I can be happy knowing that after this long and the promises we made getting back together that he isn’t sure about me. I told him I might be sad until he knew for sure and that at a certain point I might get tired of waiting and decide to leave. He said that’s unreasonable and unfair. I’m torn.
So I guess the question is, is it okay to feel sad about this? How long do I wait for him to be ready before I decide he’s taking too long? If I do wait for him to be ready, how do I handle the uncertainty of my partner not being sure about me when I’m so sure about him?
When we talk about it, he talks about all the other ways he is preparing for our future, we’re renovating a house together, we’ve talked about kids and he feels like that should be enough for right now but unfortunately for me, it’s not. I want the marriage, it’s one of my values and I’m hurt that he can’t even give me a timeline or confirm that it’s ever going to happen. He says uncertainty is just the nature of relationships. It just makes me so sad and he can’t see why. Idk…how do I handle this?
TL;DR: boyfriend has commitment issues, can’t give a timeline for proposal. How long do I wait?
2024.05.19 22:51 LineStormy 1880s rental home, issues under window… how worried should I be?
 | Area of wall directly underneath a window - there is a part (left side of the visible seam) that presses in with light pressure. Paint is flaking off in big chunks as well, just from wiping the wall down - that bigger hole started as paint chipping and then with a little bit of pressure just sort of crumbled- feels like sand. The window itself does collect moisture/ice in the winter. submitted by LineStormy to centuryhomes [link] [comments] We absolutely adore this house, but are just renting, and about to sign on for another year lease. Does anyone know what I might be dealing with here, and what might be necessary to resolve it? I realize the property manager should be responsible for it, but I’m paranoid about them not renewing our lease! We have 2 large dogs and the idea of moving makes me want to cry 🥲 |
2024.05.19 22:50 fookulongtym Roach infestation in new rental house
I am posting this for my friend to hopefully pass on some advice to her from here as she does not have Reddit. She lives in CA in San Diego County.
Here it goes: “I moved my stuff into the house I found and signed a lease for Friday. I hired movers and as they were moving stuff in I noticed a couple dead bugs and I took a picture and sent it to my sister in law and asked if they're roaches. I also asked the property management but it was after 5 so I'm sure they were out of the office by then. Well my sister in law said they are roaches but if I didn't see any they may be outside ones so I thought okay good to know. Well it got late and my movers were done at about 930 and then I was getting my kids to bed and I noticed the bottom of their feet were black from playing in the house. I was upset that they didn't clean but I thought it's fine. I'm just happy to be in a new house. Then as I'm laying in bed with my kids getting them to sleep I felt something crawling on my hand and shook it fast and turned the light on and it was a roach, it ran away on my bed then up the wall I grabbed my vacuum and vacuumed it up. I called my sister and told her and she said "omg I wonder if they're inside. Go into your kitchen flip the lights on fast and see if you see them crawling around." I did and it was horrific 😢 they were crawling all over the floor, walls, door and my furniture😭 all sizes even little baby ones. I immediately grabbed my kids one by one and put them in my car no pants or shoes! I left everything except my wallet, their tablets and the clothes on our backs. I got a hotel since there was nothing my apartment for us to sleep on or blankets or pillows. I'm traumatized and devastated and can't even explain thing to my kids because they don't understand but they keep saying new house new house. I cried all day yesterday. I have been so sick thinking about what will happen next. I don't want to live there and I know by the dead roaches they were aware of the infestation and didn't tell me about it at all. I would have never signed that lease. It's a dream come true turned to nightmare. I want my money back for the deposit and rent (3600 each and so 7200) and I paid 1300+ for movers and 700 on a hotel. I also don't want my stuff since it's contaminated. My sister and I looked up info and roaches leave a trail of urine, feces and saliva which can cause an array of disease and health problems. Not only that but they didn't clean after trying to get rid of them and I was feeling sick and my daughter threw up yesterday. I took her to urgent care. I'm just devastated and just seeking resources”
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Here it goes: “I moved my stuff into the house I found and signed a lease for Friday. I hired movers and as they were moving stuff in I noticed a couple dead bugs and I took a picture and sent it to my sister in law and asked if they're roaches. I also asked the property management but it was after 5 so I'm sure they were out of the office by then. Well my sister in law said they are roaches but if I didn't see any they may be outside ones so I thought okay good to know. Well it got late and my movers were done at about 930 and then I was getting my kids to bed and I noticed the bottom of their feet were black from playing in the house. I was upset that they didn't clean but I thought it's fine. I'm just happy to be in a new house. Then as I'm laying in bed with my kids getting them to sleep I felt something crawling on my hand and shook it fast and turned the light on and it was a roach, it ran away on my bed then up the wall I grabbed my vacuum and vacuumed it up. I called my sister and told her and she said "omg I wonder if they're inside. Go into your kitchen flip the lights on fast and see if you see them crawling around." I did and it was horrific 😢 they were crawling all over the floor, walls, door and my furniture😭 all sizes even little baby ones. I immediately grabbed my kids one by one and put them in my car no pants or shoes! I left everything except my wallet, their tablets and the clothes on our backs. I got a hotel since there was nothing my apartment for us to sleep on or blankets or pillows. I'm traumatized and devastated and can't even explain thing to my kids because they don't understand but they keep saying new house new house. I cried all day yesterday. I have been so sick thinking about what will happen next. I don't want to live there and I know by the dead roaches they were aware of the infestation and didn't tell me about it at all. I would have never signed that lease. It's a dream come true turned to nightmare. I want my money back for the deposit and rent (3600 each and so 7200) and I paid 1300+ for movers and 700 on a hotel. I also don't want my stuff since it's contaminated. My sister and I looked up info and roaches leave a trail of urine, feces and saliva which can cause an array of disease and health problems. Not only that but they didn't clean after trying to get rid of them and I was feeling sick and my daughter threw up yesterday. I took her to urgent care. I'm just devastated and just seeking resources”
2024.05.19 22:43 PleasantFrosting8676 Can a couple co sign for a house that will be lived in by the kids and the mother
I am a son going through and my parents are going through a divorce, I reside with my mom and my brother, the lease for the apartment that we are currently renting is about to be over and our landlord is selling the house, so we have to go elsewhere. My mom doesn’t have enough funds and loan to buy a big enough house for all 3 of us, so we need a co-signer. My question is whether my dad can co sign with my mom even though they are going through a divorce. I would think they can since anyone can co sign for anyone, but my dad worries that this will affect the divorce process, what do you guys think?
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2024.05.19 22:39 PleasantFrosting8676 Can a couple co sign for a house after divorce
I am a son going through and my parents are going through a divorce, I reside with my mom and my brother, the lease for the apartment that we are currently renting is about to be over and our landlord is selling the house, so we have to go elsewhere. My mom doesn’t have enough funds and loan to buy a big enough house for all 3 of us, so we need a co-signer. My question is whether my dad can co sign with my mom even though they are going through a divorce. I would think they can since anyone can co sign for anyone, but my dad worries that this will affect the divorce process, what do you guys think?
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2024.05.19 22:35 DemonaDrache Closing Restaurant - Own Building and Need Advice
So we are looking at closing one of our locations (for reasons). We own the building and I'm trying to decide whether to sell or lease the standalone building we own (older converted house). Given the current market, I think it might be difficult to sell but I would be happy to lease it out. I've looked at the Triple Net leases and I'm thinking this would be the way to go.
Have any other restaurant owners gone through this process? What are your thoughts and recommendations? Thanks in advance!
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Have any other restaurant owners gone through this process? What are your thoughts and recommendations? Thanks in advance!
2024.05.19 22:33 Sad-Volume-65 Rodent Adoption ADVICE NEEDED
Hi everyone!
My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
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My boyfriend of five years and I are strongly considering adopting two senior rats (2 years and 4 months old, bonded pair) from a shelter who desperately need a home.
The situation is a bit rough so I'd love y'alls educated advice about the best course of action (I'm also anxious and am unsure of the right choice!):
The rats have already been in the shelter for several weeks and the employees said there is nobody interested in them. They told us they want someone to adopt the rats ASAP because the amount of people coming in and out of the shelter is distressing for them and the shelter doesn't have a lot of resources for them. Their adoption fee is only $15. Poor little guys were so scared and the employees have been really hopeful that we can give them a better situation.
Their age is actually a benefit for us because we'll be moving out of our apartment next August (8/31/2025) and wouldn't want them to go through a stressful move. Plus, the landlord will start showing the apartment in the new year, so we'd have at least 7 months of undisturbed time with them.
However, this brings us to the big issue: In our lease, dogs are strictly forbidden and cats are allowed, but it doesn't specify exactly their policy about other pets, except that they require written consent. So, months ago, we reached out to our property manager just to ask if rodents were allowed (because we've been wanting a little guy for awhile now!) and he said no.
We have never had anyone walk into our apartment (to our knowledge) the entire time we've been living here. So it’s unlikely that anyone would know, but it's still a risk. They also do not outline the consequences of being caught with a pet. It could be as little as a verbal warning but as big as an eviction. Of course an eviction would be bad for us, but it would also be bad for the little fellas. So although we feel like the chances are slim to none that anything would happen, we are still trying to proceed with caution.
I work from home and it gets pretty lonely in here day-to-day. So, having them would be mutually beneficial. They can get a lot of supervised play time around the house, and I can have two small companions. Plus I'll be home with them almost all the time except when I run errands, go on walks, or go out to dinner occasionally, so I'd hopefully know if anyone enters the house.
We also don't have any planned vacations this summer except for one: June 1st-6th we'll be flying out of town. This trip has also been factoring into our decision because we'd need to find a rat-loving friend or pay a sitter to come in and take care of them. This gets a little sus considering the landlord situation, but thankfully there are no cameras around.
We've visited the little guys twice now and they absolutely melted our hearts. They're so sweet and snuggly. They love to cuddle up together and were so delicate with us. I'd really love to take them home and give them an enjoyable last few months of their lives. The shelter is trying their best but they seem so uncomfortable there.
Of note: I've owned over 10 rodents in my life. My boyfriend has a job caring for mice and rats in a lab and has many rat/rodent certifications. We're fully confident in our abilities to care for them well, it's just the circumstances that make me a bit wary.
Let me know how you guys would proceed in this situation! I'm trying not to let my emotions guide me but it's so tough <3
Thank you!
2024.05.19 22:32 Such-Zookeepergame26 Concerns about some lease clauses
I'm concerned about some lease clauses as I'm signing a lease but won't be moving into the property for a few months. I live in a different state, and although this isn't ideal, it seems like the best option for us.
While reviewing what appears to be a boilerplate lease on TurboTenant, I noticed a few issues. First, the lease allows for showing the home eight months into a 12-month lease with only 24 hours' notice. My partner and I are very clean, but I don't want to spend a quarter of my time at the residence dealing with potential showings. There's no limit on the number of showings, so it could happen several times a week, significantly impacting our enjoyment of the property.
Second, there's a Mold and Mildew disclosure. I haven't seen the state of the property aside from a brief digital tour. I didn't check behind the washing machine, under sinks, or other areas where mold and mildew might be present. I don't want to sign the lease without additional protections since I won't see the house until move-in day.
What should I say to the landlord about this? Are there any other concerns others have encountered with TurboTenant leases, and how should I approach this with the landlord? I really want to rent this home, but I don't want to end up in a situation where I'm miserable and can't legally get out of it.
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While reviewing what appears to be a boilerplate lease on TurboTenant, I noticed a few issues. First, the lease allows for showing the home eight months into a 12-month lease with only 24 hours' notice. My partner and I are very clean, but I don't want to spend a quarter of my time at the residence dealing with potential showings. There's no limit on the number of showings, so it could happen several times a week, significantly impacting our enjoyment of the property.
Second, there's a Mold and Mildew disclosure. I haven't seen the state of the property aside from a brief digital tour. I didn't check behind the washing machine, under sinks, or other areas where mold and mildew might be present. I don't want to sign the lease without additional protections since I won't see the house until move-in day.
What should I say to the landlord about this? Are there any other concerns others have encountered with TurboTenant leases, and how should I approach this with the landlord? I really want to rent this home, but I don't want to end up in a situation where I'm miserable and can't legally get out of it.
2024.05.19 22:08 hm2410 I (27F) am ready for a proposal, BF (28M) is not… how long do I wait?
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Overall, our relationship has been wonderful. He’s my best friend and I can’t imagine not having him to carry me to harass me to brush my teeth when I’m half asleep in bed. However, he’s always had some commitment issues, stemming in my opinion from his parent’s divorce. I am the first person he has ever said I love you to and his second relationship overall.
His commitment issues have popped up here and there throughout the relationship. Never did I feel like he wasn’t committed to me, it was more like he was just always scared of taking the “next step” (moving in together for example). It was always something he had never really thought about and he would tell me that he just had to process it. It was genuinely like the idea of a relationship progressing had not occurred to him and once it was brought to him he would take what felt to me like an incredibly long time to figure out if he was ready for it. I first brought up living together after a year and a half together (he owned a house and I was renting) and he couldn’t really figure out if he was ready in time so I ended up signing another year lease before we moved in. Not a big deal, just an example of his processing speed.
We live together now in the house he owns and have been living together for over a year. We broke up briefly in the beginning of 2023 after a disagreement in finances but have since worked through it and things have been great. We got back together in March of 2023.
The issue is I brought up marriage and the future and I feel like the commitment issues are rearing their head again. I really value marriage (personal preference, you do you, I just want that) and he knows that. When we got back together I told him that things would move faster now because we had made this serious choice to get back together and commit to working through everything. He agreed. I asked about engagement in January of 2024 and made it pretty clear that I wanted that to happen in the next 6-7 months (so we would’ve been back together for over a year by that point.
Well, after recent conversations, he told me he’s not ready and he just needs to be sure. Which is fair but when I asked if he knew for sure that it is me and he saw me as his forever he said “I think I can get there”. Punch to the gut. Thought he was already there.
So I told him that makes me really sad and I don’t know how I can be happy knowing that after this long and the promises we made getting back together that he isn’t sure about me. I told him I might be sad until he knew for sure and that at a certain point I might get tired of waiting and decide to leave. He said that’s unreasonable and unfair. I’m torn.
So I guess the question is, is it okay to feel sad about this? How long do I wait for him to be ready before I decide he’s taking too long? If I do wait for him to be ready, how do I handle the uncertainty of my partner not being sure about me when I’m so sure about him?
When we talk about it, he talks about all the other ways he is preparing for our future, we’re renovating a house together, we’ve talked about kids and he feels like that should be enough for right now but unfortunately for me, it’s not. I want the marriage, it’s one of my values and I’m hurt that he can’t even give me a timeline or confirm that it’s ever going to happen. He says uncertainty is just the nature of relationships. It just makes me so sad and he can’t see why. Idk…how do I handle this?
TL;DR: boyfriend has commitment issues, can’t give a timeline for proposal. How long do I wait?
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His commitment issues have popped up here and there throughout the relationship. Never did I feel like he wasn’t committed to me, it was more like he was just always scared of taking the “next step” (moving in together for example). It was always something he had never really thought about and he would tell me that he just had to process it. It was genuinely like the idea of a relationship progressing had not occurred to him and once it was brought to him he would take what felt to me like an incredibly long time to figure out if he was ready for it. I first brought up living together after a year and a half together (he owned a house and I was renting) and he couldn’t really figure out if he was ready in time so I ended up signing another year lease before we moved in. Not a big deal, just an example of his processing speed.
We live together now in the house he owns and have been living together for over a year. We broke up briefly in the beginning of 2023 after a disagreement in finances but have since worked through it and things have been great. We got back together in March of 2023.
The issue is I brought up marriage and the future and I feel like the commitment issues are rearing their head again. I really value marriage (personal preference, you do you, I just want that) and he knows that. When we got back together I told him that things would move faster now because we had made this serious choice to get back together and commit to working through everything. He agreed. I asked about engagement in January of 2024 and made it pretty clear that I wanted that to happen in the next 6-7 months (so we would’ve been back together for over a year by that point.
Well, after recent conversations, he told me he’s not ready and he just needs to be sure. Which is fair but when I asked if he knew for sure that it is me and he saw me as his forever he said “I think I can get there”. Punch to the gut. Thought he was already there.
So I told him that makes me really sad and I don’t know how I can be happy knowing that after this long and the promises we made getting back together that he isn’t sure about me. I told him I might be sad until he knew for sure and that at a certain point I might get tired of waiting and decide to leave. He said that’s unreasonable and unfair. I’m torn.
So I guess the question is, is it okay to feel sad about this? How long do I wait for him to be ready before I decide he’s taking too long? If I do wait for him to be ready, how do I handle the uncertainty of my partner not being sure about me when I’m so sure about him?
When we talk about it, he talks about all the other ways he is preparing for our future, we’re renovating a house together, we’ve talked about kids and he feels like that should be enough for right now but unfortunately for me, it’s not. I want the marriage, it’s one of my values and I’m hurt that he can’t even give me a timeline or confirm that it’s ever going to happen. He says uncertainty is just the nature of relationships. It just makes me so sad and he can’t see why. Idk…how do I handle this?
TL;DR: boyfriend has commitment issues, can’t give a timeline for proposal. How long do I wait?