About me: I’m Richard 50, I live and work in Melbourne, Australia. I’m 6’2 (90kg) and enjoy trying to keep fit. Walking and travel.
I have been single for 18 months after a long term relationship (27 years) and living alone for the first time ever. It is scary and lonely as I adapt. I have 2 kids who live with their mum.
What I’m looking for: I’m looking for an online friend to connect emotionally, mentally and maybe physically. I would like to develop a relationship that offers friendship and possibly leads to a relationship if we are both ready.

I'm using a throwaway account- don't want this connected to my main. I teach online with synchronous sessions on zoom. Yesterday during the zoom session of my seminar, a student suddenly collapsed. It took a moment for me to realize what was happening. And then it took way too many more minutes to search the LMS for the student's address, then frantically google emergency services where the student lives (hundreds of miles from the school)) call the department I thought covered that town, get told by dispatch that this was not their jurisdiction, and try three more phone numbers (with other students on the zoom crowdsourcing leads) before I finally got the right department in the right county to send a rescue squad to the student's address. I did first try to call the school to get emergency contact information for the student but no one answers the office landlines and anyway, students are not required to provide an emergency contact- it's voluntary. I'm still deeply shaken, and especially upset by how long it took to get help to that student.
My question to you is this: does your school have any policy or guidance for faculty faced with responding to this kind of live but online emergency? We have procedures for campus emergencies, but we have no procedure when the emergency is happening right in front of our eyes but the person in danger is halfway across the country. Does your school have an effective procedure for responding to emergencies like this? Do you have any advice for creating such guidance for faculty? Has something like this happened in one of your online classes, and if so what did you do?

I am trying to change my status from H-1B to B2 and I wanted to confirm if I can file the form online instead of sending it to the USCIS processing center.
In addition, is there an option to select premium processing instead of regular processing while applying online?
I signed up for an account on USCIS and started filling the form I-539. I have completed filling the form, would just like to know if it is okay to submit online instead of mailing it to the processing center.
Thank you.

Hello everyone, an old console player here trying to get back on the game. Now am really getting interested in PC gaming and since I already need a somehow powerful one for my engineering softwares thought I might add few extra bucks and make it a gaming PC as well. So I am looking for any advice on how to build a PC from scratch, what are the essentials, a guide map on how to match all the parts....etcetera. Also, do you shop online and all from one place or is it better to shop in person and from different places ? Just anything will be a great help. Thanks guys

Hi there! I've ready so many helpful posts on this subreddit since starting out with credit, so I wanted to share mine along with some info that I typically see shared.
Got approved for WF Active Cash card today!

• College student (undergrad)
• Employed in academia making $13k
• Banking w/ WF for nearly 2 years
• I'm a foreigner on a student (F1) Visa
• 694 FICO: 7 months oldest account, I barely have ANY history and I have a very thin file (student loans and 1 card)
• Discover IT (first card) $1.5k, no late payments, below 10% utilization and I always pay everything off in full, I just keep some in the statement so that I have a reported usage.

I used the Pre-Approval tool on the WF Website and applied when I saw Active Cash as an offer. Got approved for $4500 literally instantly. So happy because I've been spending lots of time researching and really wanted this one for a daily all-arounder!
Extremely surprised by the limit they gave me since I was kinda nervous, but what I mostly saw online was that having a banking history with WF helped so I went ahead and tried. Hoping to continue building good habits w/ this card :)

The malware was a chrome extension that wouldn’t let me delete it so I looked it up online and tried to go through the registry editor and delete its files but it still is on my computer. I tried reinstalling google but after I deleted google it won’t let me reinstall it and no sources online have had a solution that I could find? What should I do

I just want to make a rant about job hunting so this may come off as a slightly unorganized rant.
Why the hell is it so damn hard to get a job? You go in person and they beat around the bush. You do it online every other thing either is a scam or ghosts you. Speaking of ghosting I hate when they said "we should get back to you on this or that day" then they never do. Last few jobs did this to me so it made me even more upset. You call or go in person and they act confused. One time I even went to a job at another city for an interview and they acted like they didn't know what I was talking about despite the guy saying come at 1:30pm for an interview at XYZ place (address). I show up dressed formally, nice dress shoes, haircut, paper copy of resume and all and for no reason. I even put my phone off silence and data on just to show them the interview message. So now I wasted my time and have to go all the way back to my home city.
I have a part time job already and they're not gonna give much more hours anyway and I'm just looking for something to do on different days, for a few days a week on evenings. Remote jobs I'm trying to seek as well but not having much success in that avenue. I can do the double-up grind jobwise— trust. Last year I had two jobs at once and at one point I even had 30+ hours in each. So some weeks I was working around 60+ hours but it was temporary. I need some more money coming in so I can get paid on two different days, I would love if the other job was weekly as well. That is all I ask. I hate getting my hopes up and wasting my time.
"No one wants to work!" I dislike that saying. It's a crock of shit. We can also say that "no one wants to hire." See how much nonsense that also sounds. To not fully contradict myself I'll instead say that many jobs don't want to risk or take a chance and pass up on potential workers that may be good. Anyway it just feels like so many of these jobs really just be putting up listings for decoration. That or they are elaborate scams.

I started my online clothing store in bonfire but when I try to upload my campaign, it shows error. What should I do? Or should I start my journey with bonfire?

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Dean and Classmate are contributing to a toxic learning environment
Last week, our dean asked us to write 100 items worth of definitions surrounding our subjects with her, and since she handles 4 of our subjects then we had to write down 400 definitions to be passed this week, Wednesday. Most of us finished within 2-3 days and we were able to submit yesterday. Here lies the problem. She was out yesterday so all of our notebooks were returned back to us since if we left them in the classroom then it might get lost. Later on, we found out that the classmate that our dean favors actually passed the notebooks after every one of us had left the school. She did not even tell us that she was going to pass it so today our dean told us in class that she will not be accepting our outputs because she gave us ample time to pass and even said "wag kayong magmakaawa sa akin at hindi ko talaga tatanggapin yan." We were fuming because she or that classmate could have at least updated us about it. Why does the fault lie in us when the only way she was communicating with us was through that classmate? So we went to her office to try to let her know about what happened and she really doesn't want to accept it.
For further context: my school is in the countryside and she's pretty much the only full time professor for our program. We basically only have two other professors to handle all the other major subjects. She is genuinely incredibly unbearable. Instead of teaching us, she just makes us report all our topics and gets mad at us if we don't understand anything in that subject. In our exams we don't even know where she gets the test items and she doesn't even want to give us pointers to review leading us all to fail. And after knowing that most of us failed, she will then proceed to call us "bobo." Then we also have her favorite student who is competitive so she really tries to sabotage us.
Above was written yesterday so these are updates from today: Our dean today said that since our school gives quality education (we only have one lab, one classroom, and pretty much only one professor) so next year our tuition will be costing around 40k per sem para mapantayan yung other schools. Which was weird because a school which has the same curriculum as us offers 28k per sem and they have way better resources, teachers and facilities. Not only that but, our internship will apparently cost at around 120k? My friend from a more prestigious school in our place has a 100k+ internship for pharma only because it's at Thailand. Ours is only at the smaller cities in Luzon, not even Manila. Anyway, today we also found out from the transferees that they were to able to pass their notebooks even though they only passed today. Our classmate and dean really doesn't want to accept ours. I genuinely think she sabotaged us because she really hates our group of friends.
We wanted to report her to the higher ups or to CHED but if we do, then we would all have to either deal with her anger issues or move out because if she gets removed then the entire program will get removed as well.
Our course is already hard enough as it is and dumagdag pa sila. I am genuinely so sick of this.
Thanks for reading this rather lengthy rant :')

So the thing is, a few months ago (cant recall how long, but atleast 5 months ago) i was scrolling through YouTube when i found one of this "recaps" of Manhua/Manhwa/Manga vids (i belive this particular one was a Manhua, hence why im posting this here). after binging the entire recap i really enjoyed it and since then i have forgot about it, until a few days ago when i remembered about it and wanted to actually read it. however, i cant seem to find the original video that i viewed nor can i find any information on the particular Manhua anywhere on the internet. So i was hoping any you here might know the name of it so that i can find it and give it a proper read. here is what i remember about it: - The Manhua in question is a cultivation Manhua, where the mc is born (not reincarnated/transported) into a world where the cultivation is a form of almost Extinct art. - The main protagonist (male, cant remember much of facial features, but i seem to recall black long hair, tho don't quote me on that) after witnessing a battle between two immortal cultivators at the very start of the Manhua goes to seek a tutor in a temple to teach him cultivation, the guy from the temple does not take him seriously since himself is not very versed in cultivation (since cultivation is almost extinct), however gives him vague advice and provides him with a place to stay. - Once the time passes and the guy from the temple dies, the MC goes to a city where he finds out about technology and society, since he lived in the temple with his master (the old guy from the temple) - This world is around modern day in terms of technology (smartphones, pc cafes, social media and all the stuff) and a lot of people are streaming in social media and boasting about their "cultivation" prowess (altho this is all special effects and GCI to draw viewers and get donations) - The Mc once arriving to the city goes to a pc cafe where he rents out a room with a pc and finds out about this "cultivators" in social media and is very impressed by their "cultivation" prowess (remember, the mc is an actual cultivator, with actual cultivation techniques (altho basic ones by this point) all of the others in social media are using CGI and special effects) -The Mc decides to seek advice from this "Cultivators" by creating an account in a streaming platform and uploading a video of his actual cultivation techniques, asking the other cultivators for advice on how to improve. and he uploads them as "A Slow Cultivator" as his nickname. -Using the "advice" (just some random bs that a few people commented in his video seeking aid) he actually manages to improve his cultivation. he even goes in the chat of some of the more known "cultivators" of social media, getting their attention. i seem to recall one of this more known "cultivators" that ends up interacting a lot with the mc becoming the main secondary character is a girl that has a floral themed red dress (very popular social media "cultivator" very famous, cant recall facial or hair features). -In some point, the mc ends up trying to make a cultivation Pill for this girl and sends it to her via mail, and her later makes an unboxing of all the gifts that her followers sent. however the pill that the mc gave her actually worked and gave her a very big boost to strength and i seem to recall making her look younger (tho dont quote me on that last bit) -More towards the end of the Manhua the mc ends up in a sect of actual cultivators, however most of them are weak, and the mc has a very important sealed treasure (small square box with talismans all arround it) from his master`s temple (old guy from the temple) that has something to do with a door of heaven and the immortal path (cant recall this last part very well)
I believe this wraps the most important/memorable parts that i remember. Does anyone know the name of this Manhua?

Ive been with my husband for 18 years. He cheated on me dec 2022. Not making excuses but at the time his mental health was in question and he wasnt able to legally make decisions himself so i was legally his decision maker and q so called friend started it and he was mentally out if it so it's technically rape but lets not open that up. First time hes physically ever done it. For our whole 18 year relationship. Yes my fault for not leaving at those points. He's cheated emotionally other ways. Photos, messages to girls. Its always online. Never in person. Multiple people. Some have known about me and some dont hes told some that ive treated him bad or I controlled him. While I was working full time making money for our family and supporting his arse while he does next to nothing. All due to his mental health issues. Yes his team of mental health professionals are amazing. He had a job for 7 years and then was made redundant. Not his fault. He was absolutely amazing at his job. But now I'm back to being our only source of income for our family. He's still struggling with mental health issues. Feelings of unliving himself. Hurting himself and so on. Those with mental health issues understand. Those fear daily while I'm at work scares me. So many what ifs.
I do try to talk to him about everything and find out where we stand and how hes feeling etc . But he shuts downs. Tells me he loves me but that's as far as i get and I've taken that for the past 2 and a bit years. Plans for his the future always include us together. Doing shit. Exploring the world etc I do want us together do all those things.18 years and 4 kids. Our lives are long entwined together that it's to hard to untwist it. Trust me I did try when he told me that he cheated. I do greatly love him. He's my best friend, baby daddy, my everything. But with his mental health and physical health issues. I get no loving physical touch. boobs & butt always get touched btw and im happy for those. But I would like Cuddles and kisses too. Simple things. You forget how much you miss them when you don't get them. I'm not going to force him into anything he doesn't want to do. I don't push him into anything. Hes in complete control of our sex life etc As I don't wanna send him down a spiral path but it feels like I'm walking constantly on egg shells in that regard. I did have little to no sex drive due to mental health and stage 4 endometriosis but now i always want it. And being married to someone who's always struggled with his mental health I truly get that its a struggle. As I myself struggle as well just not to his severity. I feel like I'm just more venting to strangers as I can say this shit to anyone I know personally. Yep I'm weird as fuck. I'm well aware.
Babe if you read this I fucking love you and you know that. You know I want the absolute best for you. You know that. I just want you to remember and realise that I need love too. Simple things like cuddles and kisses that you start not me. I know that you don't think of these things but plus try to remember I'm more than t&a. As much as I enjoy those things I need my snuggles And kisses. I'm a simple women. I need things that are small. Like kisses and cuddles plus the extra fun shit ♡

Hey all, I'm sure these "what do these symptoms sound like" posts get redundant, but I'm trying to help my mom. Over the past 6 months she's been in increasing amounts of pain. I had her type out her story and I'm going to post it for her. I myself was diagnosed with fibro back in 2020. My pain is different than hers but as we know, fibro comes in all sorts of flavors. Take a look below and lmk what you think. Hope you're having an awesome and pain free day :)
"Back in November I injured my back from picking up a young child incorrectly, I picked her up with my arms extended instead of close to my core, right after I picked her up I felt a “twinge” in my lower back and thought to myself darn my back didn’t like that and set her down. I didn’t think much of it and went on with my day, by the next day I noticed my sciatia was bothering me. I waited one more day and then decided to see my acupuncturist, and she solved my problem but I noticed back pain lingered. I continued my usual daily routines and work schedule. Weeks passed and still the pain wasn’t going away. I also started to develop severe acid reflux and had no previous history then came constipation, and stomach pain after I would eat no matter what I ate or how small the meal. I started twice weekly acupuncture treatments hoping for relief. I had a little but nothing consistent. After six weeks of twice a week treatments I stopped. The back pain seem to get worse, it didn’t matter if I would try to do nothing and just relax or if I had a busy day and took care of my grandson.
The pain patterns don’t make sense, the soreness can feel like its directly in my spine or the muscles on each side of my spine. Sometimes my back muscles hurt so bad it’s the type of sore pain that you feel when you get the flu and have intense body aches. The pain is localized from my mid back down to my lower back. As time goes on the nights seem to be the worse, I fall sleep but with 1 to 2 hours I wake up with pain in extreme intensity, it feels like someone is squeezing my entire torso or crushing my spine. Heat use to help but it doesn’t bring soothing relief anymore. In the past 1-2 months the intensity of the pain has been getting worse to the point where it affects my ability to cope with the pain and I start to do short rapid breathing to cop with it, kind of like being in labor.
I decided to consult a chiropractor to be evaluated for possible disk or vertebrae damage. He had a different approach to testing and evaluating, he uses a computerized test the measures the central nervous system along with health history and x-rays. He references the sympathetic and para-sympathetic system and how those systems affect so many systems throughout the body and I was familiar with the information is why I concluded my acid reflux and stomach issues developed shortly after my back injury. After researching online I concluded that I developed Gastroparesis which is tied to the Vegus nerve and its functions. I was going three times a week for adjustments but now I’m going daily because we learned that my nervous system is so inflamed that even the adjustments cause me immense pain later that day and the next.
I feel like there hasn’t been any significant improvements yet. It’s almost getting worse the longer time passes. Nights are my most dreaded time because I only sleep 3-4 hours and I go from my bed to couch trying to change positions or use ice or heat to bring hopeful relief. Nothing seems to help, no position lying or sitting, heat or ice, resting or active. Occasionally I have a day where the pain is minimal and then I think I’m on my way to normalcy then the night or next day is unbearable. The past two days I’ve had to resort to taking over the counter pain medication but I haven’t resorted to that because I know it can cause stomach and liver damage.
Overall summary of pain; mild to extreme lower back muscle, tissue or nerve pain/ mid spine directly in my vertebrae a feeling as if some put a wedge right into my spine/ entire back muscle pain so intense that when the hot water of a shower hits it I cringe until my body adjusts/ acid reflux but has almost disappeared with the help of chiropractic adjustments, stomach pains after eating continue and are very painful/ constipation improved with chiropractor adjustments but has returned again/ Epson salt baths, hot showers, inferred sauna all help while in process but after the pain and soreness return/ physical therapy helped strengthen core but no back relief/ yoga poses or stretches don’t help/ meditative breathing doesn’t help.

It's been 6 months the incident/trigger of injury doesn’t justify the length and intensity of ongoing pain. I believe my body has been in the sympathetic mode (fight or flight) for months. I just want to understand why this is lingering so long and so intense. Any feedback is greatly appreciated."

Hi all! I need some help here. I have a job in tech as a data analyst so I mostly work with SQL for the past year but lately I’ve had to do a little more data engineering(python). I have a business degree but I took a couple programming courses in school, still I’m new to coding (I’ve been teaching myself through tutorials online) but I don’t know as much as I want to as I’m hoping to transition into more of back end development soon. I’m really trying to stick with the tutorials but it doesn’t really work for me, I have several subscriptions to Udemy, code academy and the likes but I can’t seem to stick with them(I do enjoy coding though so that’s not the issue). I’m considering enrolling in a coding bootcamp part time since I work full time so I can get focused guidance or at least a syllabus. I learn really fast so I know if I just have a proper structure I’ll pick things up. My question is, are coding boot camps worth it and if so which ones do you recommend? Thank you!

i have been trying to decide for almost months now on weather to get a Talaria sting R, or a surron X. Peoples main reason for recommending the surron seem to always be the same two things. The size/weight, and the aftermarket options. Since i would be keeping the bike mostly stock, the aftermarket argument for the surron doesn't really apply to my situation, and for the size/weight, i have been on my friends talaria mx3 and the size seems pretty good, I am not sure about how the weight difference of the two bikes would affect the handling, but i guess thats something i will have to take a gamble on.
Now when it actually comes to performance, on paper, the sting R seems to wipe the floor with the surron, with the extra 2kw in peak power, the bigger battery, better motor, better controller and better display. I also hear the gearbox on the talaria is much more reliable than the belt drive on the surron, and changing the oil doesent seem that difficult compared to swapping out a belt, so im not worried about the oil changes. But everyone i see online seems to have surrons and i keep thinking there must be something about the ride quality of the surrons that makes up for it lacking in performance, and makes it more enjoyable that the sting R, or have all these people just rushed and not done research and bought surrons before considering a talaria. I'm not sure.
any experience/stories with either of the bikes or even just general advice would be greatly appreciated!

I wanted to share this story here because I’ve never experienced something like this really. To set the scene, before May I flew back to my home state in the Midwest (I live in CA now) to visit the last of my buddies who were graduating from college.
And for some quick (not) deep lore about this girl I’m about to mention. We met freshman year of college, we sat by eachother in a class and quickly became friends. Though this friendship only lasted that first semester for unspoken reasons. One for me being - we smoked together on Halloween night towards the end of that semester, I got wayyy too high, and thought they could tell, was so embarrassed. (She had no idea, come to find out). I went on and got a girlfriend (until 2022) and we didn’t speak for the next almost 6 years. She would occasionally and subtly like and interact with things I would share online here and there throughout those years. We hadn’t spoken in forever. I was about to be moving in with 3 friends, 2 men, 1 woman. Key details here: this 1 girl went on to become my gf. One night after we moved in, we all decided to download tinder for the fun of it. Within 5 minutes I got the first match, and it was this girl from freshman year, I ecstatically announced it. Flash forward to my relationship with this girl I lived with - it was never forgotten. She would use it against me when she was feeling insecure and ask if I loved her or was thinking about her. When in all honesty, I wasn’t, and didn’t speak to her, but she kept always planting this thought back in my head and questioning my commitment. I had a major crush on this girl when we had that class together, but that was years prior, and don’t think I even expressed it to anybody, but I got over it and moved on, never thought it was a possibility.
Flash forward.
Before going home to visit the boys I posted a photo of myself on my story, not particularly serious but was just feeling good in my skin that day. Me, being single for 2 years now, found that freshman year gal liked it. And cmon, instagram is basically a dating app and we all know it. I said fuck it, and DM’d her that I wanted to see her again. Because in all sincerity, I did. She always peeked my interest, we had good laughs and time together through those short couple months. Whenever I would see her around or from afar during school I would just be curious about what she was up to and like. This in no way ever lead unloyalty in my relationship, I was happy in it. But I pretty much “wasn’t allowed” to speak to her again or interact. Out of respect for my (at the time) girlfriend’s feelings, and knowing that even though I wasn’t feeling anything for this girl, my interacting with her would make my gf think otherwise.
After the Dm was sent
I left my phone in the car and anxiously went into the gym. When I came back I found a message of her saying how she would “love that” etc. To spare your time, if you’ve read this far - we had some good online chatting and came to find out that we were both very deeply crushing on eachother that freshman year, and thought we were both out of reach for eachother. This information would’ve gone unspoken and unknown forever had she not liked my story, and I not dmd. I asked her if at the end of my friends visit I could leave them early and come down to her and take her on a date. She lived about 4 hours south of where I was at. She happily agreed and this implied that I would stay with her.
The date went beautifully. It was out of a movie. Museam/butterfly house, food, sitting and talking for 4 hours straight, etc etc. the part that really surprised me as well was the level of open communication we had. She expressed that she was anxious before bed and I told her that she should tell me next moment she gets a wave, and she did. She said nobody has ever done that for her. I decided that I didn’t want to try and sleep with her because of all of these factors of the date, and this bit of anxiety. We slept together, but didn’t sleep together. The morning, all of it, was so lovely and romantic, and I think that by not having sex we established our quickly discovered joy for eachothers presence.
I had to leave after that morning and head home, to catch my flight back to CA. Again more movie shit. A wonderful date then leaving state right after, brutal.
Flash forward one more time, bear with me.
Current day. Last week she bought a plane ticket to come visit me here for 4 nights at the end of this month. I’ve never been with someone where I would be comfy with them visiting for that amount of time having only gone on one date. I am eagerly waiting for her visit, and she is the same. This is crazy right?! Maybe a good crazy. We are just both happy to be this enthusiastic about something. I think we are on the same page. Can’t really worry about other factors just yet. Need to enjoy it as and how it comes.
In short: the girl I met and lost touch with that my ex always worried about (for no valid reason. I had zero contact or feeling for this gal during relationship) is flying out to stay with me for 4 nights on the other side of the country after going on one date. We connected very deeply, very fast. My ex and I had a healthy split. She is definitely going to hate me and all of my past truthful statements will now become lies in her head right?

i have been trying to decide for almost months now on weather to get a Talaria sting R, or a surron X. Peoples main reason for recommending the surron seem to always be the same two things. The size/weight, and the aftermarket options. Since i would be keeping the bike mostly stock, the aftermarket argument for the surron doesn't really apply to my situation, and for the size/weight, i have been on my friends talaria mx3 and the size seems pretty good, I am not sure about how the weight difference of the two bikes would affect the handling, but i guess thats something i will have to take a gamble on.
Now when it actually comes to performance, on paper, the sting R seems to wipe the floor with the surron, with the extra 2kw in peak power, the bigger battery, better motor, better controller and better display. I also hear the gearbox on the talaria is much more reliable than the belt drive on the surron, and changing the oil doesent seem that difficult compared to swapping out a belt, so im not worried about the oil changes. But everyone i see online seems to have surrons and i keep thinking there must be something about the ride quality of the surrons that makes up for it lacking in performance, and makes it more enjoyable that the sting R, or have all these people just rushed and not done research and bought surrons before considering a talaria. I'm not sure.
any experience/stories with either of the bikes or even just general advice would be greatly appreciated