recently, i had a conversation with my mom detailing what i wanted to be when i was older. ever since i was a child, i loved singing and dancing. not like i was humming in the womb, but singing was a great past time for me.
when i moved to london in 2022, i, according to my mom, fell in love with the idea of becoming a musician. for some reason, my childhood is overly blurry, but she told me back then i wasn't interested, and i was sorta confused because i'm sure i was. she said the idea of becoming a musician and singing and everything was not on my to-do list. it was weird because i don't recall ever telling her a career i wanted to look into back then. i think i assumed she knew i wanted to become a singer, but she didn't know? idk its confusing lol.
so anyways, after that i tried to occasionally sing and practice my voice. note: occasionally. i would, according to my entire family, sing for a few moments and stop singing (MOMENTS??) clear my throat, do that again, get mad and say "I'm never singing again." (which is obviously a lie.) for some reason, i was dead-set that i wanted to become a musician, but i also didn't put in the effort to becoming a singer.
now, even i know this, but i tend to pick-up and drop things easily, so i never really stuck to one thing. the reason is most likely because my parents were movers. even when we lived in dubai, we never stayed in one place. changing schools and houses more times than i can count. i think having this sort of lifestyle of not having to stick to one thing is affecting me as a person also. but thats a story for another day;
my point is that singing is one of the things that i picked up but i can't seem to drop. i think as i kept going and watching these people perform at concerts, work in studios, all of that it makes me want to become a musician even more! i tried my hand in acting at one point but that totally backfired. so its just on singing again. in fact, i tried so many things and i decided i was good at nothing so singing was my only option.
now, don't get me wrong my family is well off, so i can afford school, college, university and the works, but i still feel like i'm not good at anything besides singing. im going to grade 12 next (school) year, so i don't have lots of time to think about this, yet i feel like everything will just work itself out.
now, to my actual question; do i like singing, or do i hate it? and if i hate singing, why do i hate it?
so, my first reason that comes to mind on why i hate singing is my voice. now, i've had no shortage of compliments from my family telling me i'm a great singer. (well, maybe a little shortage. and my dad has never told me i'm a great singer. apparently i've never sung in front of him before.) but, also from strangers. before the winter holidays in 2022, my school held a winter concert and i had a solo in there. my music teacher who's also the choir teacher, gave me the solo, telling me i had a great voice and potential. the day came and i felt i completely blew it, but people were pulling me left, right and center to tell me i had a lovely voice. might've been just curtesy, but it was very sweet of them.
so i have no genuine idea why i hate my voice, but it just feels so flat and bad. i can't hold a note more than 4 seconds, my breath control sucks, i can't mold my voice into something, and my voice is raspy. i could keep going. it doesn't sound like sabrina carpenter, ariana grande, whitney. someone told me it sounded like maria once, but i'm calling bullshit. and most importantly when i sing, my neck hurts or i get a splitting headache.
now, second reason i came up with is that, like my mother said, its a chore. she told me i only sing to practice, i don't sing because i like the melody songs create. i don't sing because i love it. i sing because it feels like it's already a job for me, and as if i'm about to make money from it. i tried to deny this, but i think it's true. when i sing, i don't sing like i'm trying to enjoy the song, i feel like i'm trying to monitor my voice and what it sounds like.
when i practice and i cut myself short, it's not because my voice hurts or i'm tired of singing, it's because i don't like how i sound, which makes me think: am i enjoying the song at all? obviously to get better at singing, i have to practice, its a must. but i don't often sing because i like a song, i sing them as a form of work. now, i thought this would all be easily avoidable if i just went to singing classes, because now i can focus on practicing there and enjoying singing out here. but i've always been of the "if i had this, it would be better" mentality. and in this case, i might even be right! but my mom asked "why would i pay money for something you don't even like", and maybe she's right and it is a waste.
maybe i hate singing because i'm bad at it but i'm starting to feel like this is my only option.
but that was until last year when i fell in love with gaming. game development particularly.
now i've always been a fan of gaming; not like the fortnite, COD, GTA and other games of the sort, but more like resident evil, roblox, the last of us type games, but then i fell even more in love with learning how to make them. now this is a whole big story and another story for another day, but basically, i now feel like game development is something i would be really interested in taking in university. but that didn't make me want to stop singing and trying to make music so... maybe the second point is invalid. but i don't know.
recently, i've been taking more effort to practice my singing and improve my voice. i sing daily now, for a significant amount of time. i've been seeing some progress actually. my sister told me that i've always been improving, but it's not the little improvements i see. its the big one. she's in 6th grade... 😭
anyways, thats all i know about this entire thing. its making me really sad and unhappy writing this entire thing. i thought i had everything figured out about this, but this whole "you hate singing" thing is doing my head in. i just wanna dance and make music :(
what do you guys think?

Edit for clarity: I love indies, that’s where pretty much all of my gaming resides these days because that’s where all the cool, amazing shit is happening. But I just want fun, goofy games with a budget again, in a way that echoes genuine happiness and not corporate greed
This may seem like an odd thought, with new releases trending towards a distilled, “just the gameplay” model compared to the $60 full-package releases of before, but I’m talking about things that break the 4th wall, let you peek behind the curtain, and remind you that you are in fact playing a video game created by somebody.
I miss easter eggs, cheat codes, mini-games, galleries, wild unlockables, etc. I miss all the things that established a connection between developer and player, a cheeky mutual nod in agreement that we’re both gonna take a pause from the “serious” stuff and have a little fun.
Nowadays there is no distinction, all the wackiness is on full display in every micro transaction you can fit in in your wallet, or is completely non-existent so as to not distract from the experience.
Gimme an achievement for running over just a few too many people in GTA, gimme a goofy costume for completing a level in an inhumane time, just give me SOMETHING that shows that someone actually enjoyed making this game, without completely derailing the entire thing altogether (usually into a soulless cashgrab)
Now I get why things are like this. The industry has gotten too big for its own good, and the medium is either treated as a glorified storefront or an artistic statement so they can appease shareholders. But please, video games are supposed to be fun, let them be fun for fun’s sake
Side-discussion: Bring back ARCADE-Y GAMES!!! Why is NFS the only big-name arcade style racer on the market now? Where’s all the the goofy sports games like NBA Street and Mario 3-on-3 (that game was fire btw)? Where’s my 3D fighters that care more about crazy characters and ring-outs than making the EVO roster?

Okay so I'm extremely flustered so some of this may seem all over the place. I (25m) have been dating a narcassist for 4 years, after leaving a 6 year abusive narcissistic relationship before her. (I must have a type). Well, she has always accused me of cheating, or talking to other girls. But this past few months, she hasn't accused me of anything, and doesn't make comments anymore. I've also noticed she has gotten really protective of her phone. She takes it to go to the bathroom multiple times in the morning, sleeps with it under her pillow (always picks side away from night stand to sleep, and even if there is one she still puts it under her pillow), and when im driving she turns the back of her phone towards me almost hiding the screen. At one point she left it home with me, and i didnt touch it, (I want to trust her so I don't go through her phone) but she said that she knows i got onto it and cleared all her apps, and was being super weird about it. But i didnt do that. I dont know if I'm paranoid, or if there's any other reason these things could be happening, but I need some advice bad. It's 2am where I'm at and I can't sleep now with the idea that she could be kicking me out and breaking up with me more lately because she has a new supply

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Hi all,
I’m in a long term relationship, I’ve always had an issue with apologising and thinking people are mad at me or thinking I’m annoying.
I’ve discussed with my therapist before who tells me that I need to try and not give in to the compulsion and she’ll give check in’s on how I’m doing.
I’ve been with my partner for 4 1/2 years and recently I’ve been feeling less of the compulsions that come from my hypervigilance but last night it sort of came back to me. Started feeling the need to ask if he was mad and tell him I’m sorry.
I really hate doing this as I feel it really puts pressure on him and we’ve discussed it before so I’m aware that I don’t want to ask the ‘are you mad at me’ or apologise for no reason.
I also started to get an intrusive thought that he was planning to cheat on me - I think it was a bit of exhaustion coming up too.
Any advice on how to manage this? I don’t want to put any strain on my partner or our relationship.
Thanks! :)

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2.35.1.81 -> 2.35.1.82 (2024-05-13)

• Jaguar IS : Removed Free Backups
• New Decal :
  • 'Flanking Snail' decal : https://i.imgur.com/kHIxugy.png
• New Title :
  • "Slick flanker"

2.35.1.82 -> 2.35.1.83 (2024-05-14)

• Wing Loong I :
  • Added custom loadouts (which it can't use as a killstreak aircraft, similarly to how the Orion has KAB-50 GBUs in custom loadouts)
  • New loadouts : 2x AKD-10 (stock)
• HMAS Arrow :
  • Min Crew Count to repair : 6 -> 0
  • Min Crew Count to survive : 4 -> 5
• HMS Gay Archer : Min Crew Count to repair : 4 -> 0
• ZBD04A : Commander Sight :
  • Horizontal Speed : 90 -> 120 °/s
  • Vertical Limits : [-5, 10] -> [-15, 60]°
  • Stabilizer :
    • Can no longer be turned off
    • Speed to Degree Error divided by 100
• ZTZ88A, ZTZ88B : Commander Sight :
  • Horizontal Speed : 120 -> 90 °/s
  • Removed Stabilizer
  • Vertical Limits : [-15, 60] -> [-5, 10]°
• PT-16/T14 mod., Leopard 2K : turret_07_bottom_dm : Structural Steel -> RHA
• BTR-80A (All), Pantsir-S1 :
  • Zoom : x[4.23, 4] -> x[3.8, 4]
  • Sight FoV : 9 -> 10°
• Swingfire :
  • Zoom : x[4, 8] -> x[10, 10]
  • Sight FoV : 9 -> 3.58°
• 57 mm WA318 cannon : Type 59 HE : Explosive Mass : 0.153 -> 0.159 kg
• SAM 9M39 : 9М39 :
  • Max Speed : 1000 -> 590 m/s
  • Guidance : Additional Elevation : 1.5 -> 5°
• Mistral SATCP : Max Speed : Not hard-limited -> 850 m/s
• 9K330 TT : Radar Track : Min Target Radius : 1.475 -> 0.7375
• Texts Changed :
  • "Spitfire LF Mk.IXe Weizman's" -> "Weizman's Spitfire LF Mk.IXe"
  • "Spitfire LF Mk IXe Ezer Weizman's" -> "Ezer Weizman's Spitfire LF Mk IXe"
  • "Yak-3(e) Eremin's" -> "Eremin's Yak-3(e)"
  • "Yak-3(e) Eremin's" -> "Eremin's Yak-3(e)"

2.35.1.83 -> 2.35.1.84 (2024-05-14)

• Nothing Burger

2.35.1.84 -> 2.35.1.85 (2024-05-14)

• Tech-tree changes :
  • AV-8A (US), Prinz Eugen (GER), Rooikat 105 (UK), HMS Iron Duke (UK), VRCC (IT), Merkava Mk.2D (ISR) : Shown for everyone -> Hidden for everyone

2.35.1.85 -> 2.35.1.86 (2024-05-15)

• FY-4 ERA, FY-5 ERA : Tandem Precharge Armor Quality : 0.33 -> 0.7
• ZTZ88A, ZTZ88B : Removed Gun Control through Commander Sight

2.35.1.86 -> 2.35.1.87 (2024-05-15)

• It appears that gaijin is implementing another 2FA for WT called "Pix" or "Pixel Storm", and another payment method, "Pixel Coins"
• New Images :
  • pix_two_step_email : https://i.imgur.com/ZHh92BJ.png
  • pix_two_step_form_bg : https://i.imgur.com/vJY66d5.png
  • pix_two_step_gp_banner_bg : https://i.imgur.com/95CUAk9.png
  • pix_two_step_phone_ga : https://i.imgur.com/oaskack.png
  • pix_two_step_phone_gp : https://i.imgur.com/oOwr1i4.png
  • pix_two_step_phone_pp : https://i.imgur.com/vQndD0r.png
• Images Changes :
  • two_step_email : https://i.imgur.com/scavQgd.png -> https://i.imgur.com/WTPbL5v.png
  • two_step_form_bg : https://i.imgur.com/nkSk3vk.png -> https://i.imgur.com/m4su6PR.png
  • two_step_phone_ga : https://i.imgur.com/hXqmsaN.png -> https://i.imgur.com/lqax71p.png
  • two_step_phone_gp : https://i.imgur.com/BQLfuJd.png -> https://i.imgur.com/8xuFXx5.png
• New Texts : same
  • "Confirm sign"
  • "Compare Pixel Storm Achievements"
  • "Show Pixel Storm Achievements"
  • "Подтверждай вход одним нажатием на кнопку или через PUSH-уведомление с нашим официальным приложением для защиты аккаунта. Помимо усиленной защиты аккаунта в Gaijin Pass ты сможешь читать свежие новости из всех наших игр."
  • "Зачем нужен Gaijin Pass"
  • "Подтвердите вход в приложении Gaijin Pass или введите код вручную"
  • "Подключить Gaijin Pass"
• Texts Changed :
  • "Lost access to the Gaijin Pass app?" -> "Lost access to the app?"
  • "Confirm sign in with Gaijin Pass app or enter code" -> "Enter the verification code from {passName} or any other app you use"
  • "Get Gaijin Pass" -> "Get {passName}"
  • "Confirm your entry with the click of a button or through a PUSH notification with our official app to protect your account. In addition to enhanced account protection, you can read the latest news from all our games in the Gaijin Pass." -> "Confirm your entry with the click of a button or through a PUSH notification with our official app to protect your account. In addition to enhanced account protection, you can read the latest news from all our games in the {passName}."
  • "Why do I need Gaijin Pass" -> "Why do I need {passName}"
• New Decals :
  • Seal of the United States Army : https://i.imgur.com/6ydALoo.png
  • sold_out_decal : https://i.imgur.com/mTMzRri.png
• New Title :
  • "Участник Air Superiority"
    • Description : "Air Superiority FINAL 2023 Tournament contender"
  • "Чемпион Air Superiority 2024"
    • Description : "Air Superiority FINAL 2024 Tournament Winner"

2.35.1.87 -> 2.35.1.88 (2024-05-16)

• m/43 Ace Tankman and Invincible m/43 Tankman challenges can now be completed with the pvkv m/43 (1963) as well

Current Dev version : 2.35.1.88
Current Live version : 2.35.1.87

I've been installing modification for GTA 4. I had no problem with the ones that involved dropping the file into the correct folder, but the modification for radio only has an .exe installer. I tried to launch it through Wine, but how do I set the correct location to install it in GTA4 folder? - It only showed me access to the non-existent "C/Program Files(...)"

Ive been with my husband for 18 years. He cheated on me dec 2022. Not making excuses but at the time his mental health was in question and he wasnt able to legally make decisions himself so i was legally his decision maker and q so called friend started it and he was mentally out if it so it's technically rape but lets not open that up. First time hes physically ever done it. For our whole 18 year relationship. Yes my fault for not leaving at those points. He's cheated emotionally other ways. Photos, messages to girls. Its always online. Never in person. Multiple people. Some have known about me and some dont hes told some that ive treated him bad or I controlled him. While I was working full time making money for our family and supporting his arse while he does next to nothing. All due to his mental health issues. Yes his team of mental health professionals are amazing. He had a job for 7 years and then was made redundant. Not his fault. He was absolutely amazing at his job. But now I'm back to being our only source of income for our family. He's still struggling with mental health issues. Feelings of unliving himself. Hurting himself and so on. Those with mental health issues understand. Those fear daily while I'm at work scares me. So many what ifs.
I do try to talk to him about everything and find out where we stand and how hes feeling etc . But he shuts downs. Tells me he loves me but that's as far as i get and I've taken that for the past 2 and a bit years. Plans for his the future always include us together. Doing shit. Exploring the world etc I do want us together do all those things.18 years and 4 kids. Our lives are long entwined together that it's to hard to untwist it. Trust me I did try when he told me that he cheated. I do greatly love him. He's my best friend, baby daddy, my everything. But with his mental health and physical health issues. I get no loving physical touch. boobs & butt always get touched btw and im happy for those. But I would like Cuddles and kisses too. Simple things. You forget how much you miss them when you don't get them. I'm not going to force him into anything he doesn't want to do. I don't push him into anything. Hes in complete control of our sex life etc As I don't wanna send him down a spiral path but it feels like I'm walking constantly on egg shells in that regard. I did have little to no sex drive due to mental health and stage 4 endometriosis but now i always want it. And being married to someone who's always struggled with his mental health I truly get that its a struggle. As I myself struggle as well just not to his severity. I feel like I'm just more venting to strangers as I can say this shit to anyone I know personally. Yep I'm weird as fuck. I'm well aware.
Babe if you read this I fucking love you and you know that. You know I want the absolute best for you. You know that. I just want you to remember and realise that I need love too. Simple things like cuddles and kisses that you start not me. I know that you don't think of these things but plus try to remember I'm more than t&a. As much as I enjoy those things I need my snuggles And kisses. I'm a simple women. I need things that are small. Like kisses and cuddles plus the extra fun shit ♡

A bit of context, so basically my ex and I dated about 5 years ago, and the relationship lasted for around 1.5 years. We were pretty much best friends before getting together, and all was good throughout the relationship (no major fights or anything).
However, the relationship ended rather abrupt, and to be honest, I still don't really know and understand how it went south so quickly. From my point of view, she got busy and whenever there was free time, she prioritized meeting her friends over meeting me. And we got into a big fight because of that, and when I suggested we should meet physically to talk about it, she shunned away from the idea and basically ran away to an overseas exchange programme (for university).
So we officially broke up via text while she was away, and we both said some hurtful things to each other. It ended with her telling me that she needed some space and time to work on herself.
However, fast forward about 4-6 months later, our mutual friends started telling me about how she's in a relationship with someone from her university. To clarify, I don't know if she cheated (I didn't bother to confront her about it). However, the last time we spoke (which was when we broken up), she told me that she had a couple of guys advancing on her (weird flex but ok), so I don't really know if anything happened during our fight.
Now to the main question, I met a couple of our mutual friends recently, and I basically told them beforehand that I wouldn't join if my ex was coming, and they expressed how unfortunate it was that we couldn't get together as a group again. They also told me that my ex was okay with the idea of having a meet-up where I'm invited, so it basically all boils down to whether I am comfortable with having her around or not.
That comment basically implanted the idea of burying the hatchet with her (since it has been a while). But I'm not too sure if I'm able to do it. Although she moved on rather quickly after the breakup, I was stuck picking myself up for the next couple of years, even a little to this day. I was in a really dark place after the breakup, suffering from depression and panic attacks.
Although I am in a better place now, and have somehow come to terms with the whole ordeal. I don't really know if it is worth it to let her back into my life again. I still love her a little to this day, and have not dated ever since we broken up. But the whole ordeal has left such a bad taste for me that I am unsure on how to handle this entire situation.

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Pale Crawler
Troglodytopithecus leptinermis
Height: 3-4 feet (quadrupedal), 6 feet (bipedal)
Length: 5 feet
Classification: Troglodytopithecini
Subdivision: Fauna
Predation: Omnivorous
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Cryptozoology:
Though the story of the Rake is nothing more than an Internet creepypasta, there have been stories of similar creatures fitting the description; pale, malnourished, humanoid creatures on all fours that bring menace and dread to those unlucky enough to stumble across them. Such cryptids have been referred to as crawlers, or pale crawlers (sometimes skinwalkers and wendigoes are erroneously grouped into this, when in reality, the former two are separate and independent things from the crawler phenomena), and Monarch has discovered that not only are these creatures indeed real and are hardy survivors living in the Hollow Earth and surface, but also have close ties to Bigfoots, and possibly may even form a constituent group of New World primates. Their tribe, Troglodytopithecini, is currently viewed as a sister tribe to the Variupithecini, the Bigfoot group, and though their taxonomy is still being studied and debated, it is clear that these two are related in some way, both being anomalous primates. As for the crawlers themselves, as their scientific name shows, are mainly cave dwellers by nature, though this hasn’t stopped them from wandering beyond the subterranean realm and up into more open territory, such as the surface. These creatures are clearly apes, but with a morphology unlike anything seen before, adapted to life in darkness. Further investigation into their habitats in the Hollow Earth show their troglobitic lifestyle, preferring caves and desolate, dark areas. Though found in confirmed habitats elsewhere like the Damned Forest, the Valley of Memories, the Serpent’s Nest, the Rotting Pit, and Ginnungagap, they mainly seem to thrive in what have been nicknamed “In-Between Zones,” cavernous passages connecting regions and usually being sparse in life, though open up to regions that could serve as hunting grounds. This habit has also been carried over to the surface, with pale crawlers preferring nesting in caves, sinkholes, canyons, ravines and forests (only coming out at night), as well as taking advantage of abandoned buildings or structures they could find. Pale crawlers are opportunistic omnivores, feeding on anything they can find, from uprooting plants to stealing eggs from nests, to even snatching small animals. However, pale crawlers on the surface exhibit a rather strange yet consistent appearance: the stereotypical malnourished and ghastly forms usually seen in sightings and stories of their cryptozoological namesakes. For a time, it was unclear why, but recent analysis of pale crawlers found at the surface and compared to ones in the Hollow Earth show dramatic differences. Whereas Hollow Earth individuals show healthy and fit bodies, the surface individuals are not only pale, sickly and gaunt, but contain a rather disturbing neurological anomaly: the failure or malfunction of the amygdala and the hypothalamus. These parts of the brain are visibly afflicted in surface specimens, resulting in symptoms similar to starvation, anemia, kwashiorkor, and electrolyte imbalance. The prevailing theory is that pale crawlers sighted at the surface are only there due to extremely dire straits, with little options below, they resort to going above to try to find food. As a result, these malnourished, desperate creatures are driven by a seemingly never-ending hunger and state of fear, resulting in not only their aggression, but also in other disturbing or unsettling behaviors, such as screeching, hissing, rocking back and forth, stalking, purposefully contorting their bodies beyond their tolerance for pain, and so on. There is still so much to the pale crawler that we don’t know, though we believe the disparity between surface and Hollow Earth individuals isn’t unlike the blobfish (Psychrolutes marcidus), in which taking it outside its familiar habitat may be to its physical and mortal detriment. It is entirely possible that pale crawlers may not be as common as we think, and the ones we find on the surface are merely the desperate members of a dying species. Either way, it is frustrating yet sad to see that much of what we know about them comes from afflicted individuals rather than healthy ones. ---------------------------------------------
Threat Analysis:
Given their mythical notoriety, pale crawlers are extremely dangerous, and though sympathetic in their plight, should not be fed or dealt with. Their desperation for food provokes them to chase after potential prey for miles at a time, trying to do so even after their own bodies give out under the exertion. They can be quite intelligent too, able to learn and understand behaviors of their prey (for example, how a human opens a door) to try to go after their prey at any cost. Though their eyesight isn’t reliable, pale crawlers have acute hearing and smell, allowing them to easily detect the presence of prey before the prey even notices them. That said, pale crawlers are not invincible, and there are ways to scare them off or kill them. Since they are used to living in darkness, they are either living in dark places or coming out at night, which means bright lights can be an excellent deterrent (strobe lights especially can give them a seizure), with even a phone’s flashlight being enough to scare them. They also have very thin skin, making them vulnerable to most weapons. The bone density of their skulls has been shown to also be thin, taking less effort to kill one via a headshot. Ideally, pale crawlers should be left alone for both their and our sakes, though when push comes to shove and lives are at stake, there are ways of fighting back.

Tl;Dr I'm probably going to have to tell someone I would probably fall in love with that I can't be anything with them because I'm crazy. The very painful part will be when she realizes it and moves on and gets with someone and I have to live with it. I hate my fucking brain.
This won't be a harsh self deprication vent, but I have recognized aspects of myself and that's why I chose to be single. It's something I try to work on and I give love a shot again but I always end up going down that same familiar road. And I don't like it. I put it in the same lack of self control and discipline as addiction. You can't fucking control it, it just happens.
I either just have been very very very unlucky or I've been gaslit to think I'm toxic....I don't really know, but the last relationship I was in was very bad...but the one prior to that was ok I guess now that I think about it. But I panicked and broke it off because things were going well. I want that hurt type of love, and I don't know why. I think the highs in a toxic relationship unload euphoric feelings throughout the body, but then when things are bad because someone may think they want space, I've been the spaced and the space-ee. Both ways it's a complete meltdown because the other person wants nothing else but to be with the other. Obviously this type of dynamic isn't healthy for anyone.
I've face book stalked my ex's, not in an obsessive way, but like a curious way, several years down the road. After the sting is gone. And I see them leading seemingly happy lives, and I am nothing's but happy for them. I've never reached out to anyone, just living my life. I'm 37 by the way. Longest relationship I was in was 4 years.
I know what unconditional love is. Means what it means, unconditional. You create a bond. And to me, that bond can never be broken. It can be stretched, but never broken.
I've fallen in love when I was 15 to someone that I still think about to this day. Our encounter was brief, but exciting. She ended up making out with my buddy who was dating another friend of mine and I made him tell. Me and the girl never talked until we were in our 20s. She professed her love for me, and I to her. But I was also with someone else I fell in love with. We never had the opportunity to build, and I was dealing with drama from the current girlfriend because she was cheating on me...that unconditional love? Yea, it fucking sucks sometimes...still love her to this day.
So now with the current girlfriend, her cheating, me smoking. She was deal breaker against it, but I'm addicted, so I snuck. I knew she knew, cmon, how dumb do you think I think she is? Anyone who sneaks it, your partner knows. And now it's easier because of vaping. But she equated that to a cardinal sin. Which I can't argue with that. Her perception of the world is what it is, and mine is mine. Remember that buddy that made out with my first love? When I was working 70hrs a week to help build a life, she was fucking him. They got married, moved out of state. I haven't talked to him in years. Fuck that guy. Maybe I deserved it, I wasn't prince charming. We both did bad, sucks because we love each other. There's a slim possibility she'll read this but probably won't comment on it, same as I do with hers. And there's no way for anyone else to guess who the other poster is.
So years pass and I date off and on with basically roommates, nine of them were terrible, but I never loved anyone and didn't care about feelings. So I stopped dating to work on myself. Thought I was doing great, went through an entire Sam Harris/Terrence McKenna phase. I learned transcendental meditation even though those quacks say you can't, lol ...fuck David Lynch. I can meditate into the void and float in the nothingness. I've sat in a closet for 8 hours, tripping on muahrooms to confront my demons. I took an ounce of mushrooms,.ground it up into a powder, mixed it in orange and lime juice and went into parallel worlds where I lived for years before waking up. I've seen all that there is to see inside my soul. But they still want to grab the wheel.
Met the 3rd woman at the shop I worked at. She was separated but the husband still would show up with their kids when we would meet up. That relationship was terrible. Shes an alcoholic and I though I could handle that, but the demons took over and I was reactive the entire time. She said she was manic but she self diagnosed. But she wasn't right. I don't blame her, she's a good person, unless you live with her. It ended very badly because I was too controlling and she was crazy. Not a good combo.
So it's been about 6 or 7 years and I feel good about myself. I have 2 vehicles. I work at an amazing place, I'm working on credit and all that stuff. I'm buying my parents house which will be et a steal and I can have farm animals and a garden. My health is decent and I could stand to loose about 40 pounds but other than. That? Like Im happy. I have a few animals that keep me company. But I do crave a friendship and I think older people know it's hard to have a best friend or a confidant. Someone you can just talk to any time, any day. People are busy. People have family's.
Now enter in this last week. Someone started working at the shop I work at. I think she's cute, so what, think a lot of people are cute. But she gives me that feeling. The same ones I got with the other loves. And it was always that instant. Maybe it's coincidence, maybe there's a scientific explanation for it, but I feel it with this girl. And goddamnit is she flirting from afar. I know, it's 50/50 that she is even flirting but I'm usually.riggt about these things. I can read body language. But I don't want it, I don't want to flirt with her. I don't want to make small talk. But I think that'll make her think I'm playing hard to get. I don't want to be in a relationship.

I quit playing Official servers years ago because the cheater problem was really bad. I would die almost every run to a cheater and usually once I acquired decent gear. Usually these deaths were from an aimbot cheater where they magically headshot you when you're well-hidden in a closed room in the middle of nowhere.
So I moved to community servers that are close to Vanilla, but still the populated ones have mods of some sort. Since quitting Official servers I have seen many report that the cheating problem "isn't that bad" and people claiming to have not died to cheaters in a very long time. While I knew they were wrong I decided to put it to the test because hey, maybe something has really changed over the years.
So I join a high pop Official 1st person server and start gearing up. Won a legit pistol fight in Staroye a couple hours in which was super fun and reminded me why I love the vanilla DayZ experience. Well guess what? It took a whopping 4 HOURS before I got headshot by a blatant aimbot cheater when I was well-hidden in a closed room in a secluded area and away from windows. The same kind of cheaters that made me migrate to community servers in the first place.
By the way, this NEVER happens to me on the high pop community servers. I do get sniped sometimes but there is always a reasonable explanation for how it was legit (for example, I was on a roof using a flashlight at night). I can be up North with precious gear for weeks and not get shot. These weird aimbot headshot deaths ONLY happen to me on Official servers and typically right after I get further North and get any decent military gear, when I'm completely hidden indoors.
So the people who claim that the cheater situation on Official isn't bad are either:

1. Dishonest. They might be cheaters themselves.
2. Naive. They are newer players that can't tell the difference between a legit death and a blatant cheater, or even if they're experienced, they're just clueless as to what's going on.

I have over 1500 hrs and have played DayZ since Alpha when there were cheaters swimming underground on Official. Unfortunately, the situation is still terrible and cheaters are rampant unless you go to some low pop server in a less popular location. The swimming cheaters are gone but there are still aimbot cheaters that will headshot you from impossible locations and it happens frequently.

I, (21F) have a boyfriend, Josh, whose friend, Will got cheated on by his girlfriend, who was my friend, Sally. So, back in Thanksgiving, when Will and Sally had been dating for 4 months, Sally called me up and told me that her ex-crush came and kissed her out of nowhere, and she didn't pull back for around 10 minutes, these are her words, that she told me on text. Now, after that, she was very inconsistent with her stories irl, saying, 'oh it was for 2 mins', or 'oh, it was just a peck' and so on. Now, I felt guilty hiding this from Josh, so in the end I ended up blurting it out to him, which I realize may have been wrong, but Will needed to know. He was madly in love with Sally, and I couldn't bear being on the sidelines when he got hurt.
Now, Josh wanted to tell Will, Sally convinced him to wait for January, so that the news doesn't ruin his birthday (he's jan born). Josh agreed, but told her to distance herself from Will, so they went on a 'break'. In that break, she used to always tell her friends, including me that she's moved on, she doesn't care about Will, she's detached, etc etc. She also said, 'I don't love him' once. Now, in my eyes, it looked like they've practically ended, but on Christmas, he wanted to give her a lot of gifts, and ended up spending around 500$ on her, without anyone knowing. Since Josh and I knew the truth, we convinced him to return some items, and when Sally found out she called me expletives and said I'm not a good friend. Fast forward to January, even after his birthday, she never told him. So Josh took the matter into his own hands, and told Will. He was crushed.
After he confronted her, she twisted the story in a way that made me the bad guy, and said I made up the amount of time they kissed (even tho i have a screenshot), and in the end she convinced him that it was not 'consensual', and convinced him to stay. Next day, Josh explained the story as it was, with cold hard facts, with proof, and Will decided to break it off. Now Sally and I aren't friends because she said I betrayed her trust. AITA?

hey guys, i'm here looking for advice as to what i should do with myself. the story is a little long so please bear with me. (i'm 20M)
i was 18 when i first met my ex-girlfriend back in 2022, let's name her sofa (20F). we were arranged to be in the same class for the first time after going through 4 semesters in poly, right after i went through a break up. i got to know of her beforehand because my best friend back then was pretty close to her, so naturally the both of us hit it off immediately when we found out that we were in the same class. too natural in fact. to me, it felt like she was an extension of me. by the time week 1 ended, we were able to finish each others' sentences, and we knew most of each others' secrets.
slowly but surely, i fell in love. but back then she let me in onto one of her secrets: she had a boyfriend. i didn't want to be a homewrecker, so i kept my feelings to myself. however, said boyfriend was apparently sexually abusive towards her. and throughout it all, i was there for her emotionally and physically (this includes forcing her to give him a bj and to swallow his jizz, and going down on her when she clearly voiced her discomfort.) we'd skip classes sometimes to just be with each other, because she told me that she needed to get away from everything, and as her best friend i couldn't say no. but now that i think about it, it was probably because i too, wanted to spend time with her.
then one night we were out watching black panther 2, and she held my hand in the cinema. that's when i knew that i probably wrecked a home without meaning to. she confessed that she already had feelings for me long before the movie, probably at the same time i started falling for her. she explained how she got together with her then boyfriend: he was there when she needed someone, especially since they were both in the school band (she was the vocalist), he would pull her confidence up when she felt unconfident of herself. gratitude, she called it, with "it" referring to her feelings for him.
she then told me that she believed in the connection between me and her, and i agreed because i too, had never felt anything like this. after that day, i accompanied her to AFA, where she cosplayed as makima and i helped take photos of her. and the next day, our lips met for the first time. she promised that she would break things off with her ex when she flew to new zealand, i trusted her. long story short, she didnt end things with him. but i didnt know that she actually tried her best, but the man wouldn't take it as an answer. (she was the type to never say no) i cut her off there and then, because i didn't want to get hurt any longer.
months passed, and during that period, i went back to my ex. who popped my cherry, and showed me that sex was actually pretty bad. context: i didn't feel good at all, and took 1h30mins to finish. she enjoyed it though, and i later found out that she was lying about being a virgin, and that she actually loves cock. march came and i went to bangkok, thailand on internship with sofa and my best friend. my ex cheated on me 2 weeks into the internship with some streamer on a chinese streaming platform. i have records of her sending gifts to him all the time. strangly, i didnt feel much when i found out, i was actually okay with it. this is where sofa comes in. she held my hand again one night when me, my best friend and her were watching "the whales" in my room. i never thought that she would still have feelings for me, because the whole time people were saying that she gave up on me long ago. and i too, realised that i was not over her. call me a playboy, whatever. but it was my feelings, and i wasn't mature enough to control them. me and sofa fell in love and fixed our misunderstandings.
we spent 5 months together living in the same room. it was like a honeymoon period minus the actual marriage. we had a hard time adjusting to life without each other after we returned to singapore. and we broke up last year december 30th.
thing is, things didn't stop there. she found another guy 3 days after the break up, but still continued to see me in secret and hooked up with me too. all while dating the guy and having sex with him too. (i didn't know they were together, she claimed that they were just friends). soon enough, her own friends found out about our trysts and sold her out to her new guy. i guess he was as delusional as me, because he wanted to hold on. but things weren't the same, and eventually he ended things with her. this prompted her to come back to me, but with a pre-requisite: she wouldn't date me because she needed time to heal. at that point i felt like it was understandable, because she had been through a lot, and on the other hand completely neglected the 4 months of pain that i went through. i finally snapped at her one day, and told that if she wasn't going to try fighting for me, then i wasn't going to. she sent a whole paragraph to defend herself and then blocked me. i thought that i would be able to move on quickly after that, but its still the exact same as the time when i first broke up with her (i didn't sleep for 4 days in a row and collapsed in class, and often locked myself in my cupboard to just cry). i just enlisted in the army a few days ago and i really want to know how do i cope with this, because truth is i still love her.

My (20F) boyfriend's (21M) entire mood depends on how much I talk to him during the day. Or entirely little things, he will act like a sad puppy when I get back to him after I let him know I'm busy. I've only done this once, and that was today because I attended a funeral for one of my really good friends and we'd ride motorcycles together everyday last summer. Now that I'm responding he's being a little dry like I have no idea how to reply to these texts. But if I don't he will genuinely panic and think I'm abducted. I used to really be happy with him but because of his mood swings it has made me over time not want to be with him anymore even though I love him. I'm the kind of person who doesn't want to give up on it unless I really have too. Funny enough, this is actually our second time being together. We ended the first time because he cheated on me, so l got a new boyfriend a week later. We came back to each other based on feelings while being apart and it was really exciting and hot at first, but now things are unfolding and I'm realizing that I'm not really like happy to be with him. He doesn't make life any more exciting. Our conversations are so dry now a days and it's pretty obvious I'm very checked out. I don't know how to have this conversation that I'm losing feelings and will I gain them over time? The only way I'd want him again was if he lived closer, (he lives an hour away), went to the gym everyday, be more funny and carefree (he's really serious but a good lover.) idk. I just wish we had more fun together.
TLDR: my boyfriend and I are dating for the second time and I’ve already lost interest in him. We’re only 4 months in and I least expected this and need advice.
What do you think? Can we come back from this? I’m like really checked out but I don’t wanna be

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