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2024.05.19 22:19 ddashner Probably giving my notice tomorrow

Don't really know what I am hoping to accomplish with this. Moral support I guess, as I am kind of terrified.
Been with the same company (more or less due to mergers and acquisitions) for my whole career. Due to some restructuring of how we go to business, my workload has changed. I manage a warehouse that recently had a bunch of volume moved to another warehouse one state over. Writing is on the wall that there is more of that to come. My boss (who is currently out on leave due to stress, I think) advocated for finding other work for me to justify keeping me around. I despise the work they found for me. It's a mix of corporate nonsense (filling out forms, etc), garbage work no one else wants, and stuff an intern should be doing. (for example, my skip level boss told me to plan on renting a SUV for an upcoming meeting so I can drive people around.) Lately this whole situation has been really messing with me. Losing sleep, constantly worried about work, etc.
Also as part of these changes we had to let some of my crew go. They weren't offered severance, which really leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don't know that this has also contributed to me being so unhappy, but it hasn't helped.
As for my financial situation; m47, married, two kids still at home one of them finishes HS in a couple weeks the other is a sophomore. One more already in college. They all either pay their own way or plan to do so. I'm willing to help them if needed, but think it's important for them to stand on their own.
Net worth is just over 2MM counting house (conservative estimate on value) or 1.6MM not including house. No debt. Wife works and makes enough for us to live but we wouldn't be saving much. Last year's expenses were around 65k but that doesn't include anything that's withheld from our checks (taxes, insurance, etc)
I don't have anything lined up, but when I do I don't want to keep doing what I'm doing. I want to have a job that I don't need to take home with me. Just applied for a job maintaining trails for the parks department this morning. Pay would be minimal, but my thinking is it would be enough to keep us building up savings instead of just relying on compounding. I also can't just do nothing and expect the wife to bring in the only income until we hit our number (which I'm thinking is right around 2MM) Honestly, with some expense cutting we could possibly scrape by and call ourselves lean fired even if she didn't work, but that's not really ideal.
I know it makes more sense to wait to quit until I have something lined up, but mentally I just don't have it in me.
Any support anyone cares to offer is greatly appreciated.
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2024.05.19 22:18 ResponsibleKoala3408 AIW for helping my dad in his business and now getting called a Scammer.

So, My dad is a businessman who runs hotels, service apartments, and restaurants primarily for Japanese clients in India. His friends are also business people. Despite his success, he's always been straightforward and never uses underhanded tactics. Until April 2022, everything was going well.
In April 2022, a friend proposed that my dad invest in a high-energy bar, promising it would be highly profitable. My dad, not knowing much about the Indian hospitality business, was taken to several successful high-energy bars by his friend. These bars had the latest interiors, great sound systems, and excellent staff, which convinced my dad of the business potential.
The deal was that my dad would invest 60% of the money, and his friend would put in 40%, handling the construction and management. My dad trusted his friend completely. However, the friend used outdated interiors and overbilled my dad, making the total cost seem much higher than it was. This allowed the friend to recover his investment and gain 40% ownership for free. For the management, he hired mediocre staff and installed a subpar sound system.
Initially, the bar showed losses. For example, if the real loss was ₹50, he would report it as ₹120, pocketing the difference. He then sold 15% of his shares to one person and 5% to another, making money from these sales. By the time I returned to India, the bar was in a bad state.
I discovered the mismanagement and exposed it to my dad. At first, he denied it, but after I showed him proof, he believed me. I suggested he take a step back and let me handle the bar. He agreed, but insisted on investing more money and running the place himself initially. After two months of declining sales, he gave up.
I then proposed converting the bar into a techno club, as there was a high demand for techno clubs in our city. I reached out to Mr. Xyz , a veteran in the industry with 20-25 years of experience, and hired him as a consultant. We started hosting techno nights and saw an initial increase in sales. We believed we would start seeing profits by June.
Despite early successes, two major events resulted in significant losses. We had planned these events carefully, conducting polls to choose popular artists and putting together the best line-up in town. We had a guest list of around 150 people and sold some tickets, but unexpectedly, only 35-40 people showed up for these high-budget shows, each costing us ₹2.5 lakhs in artist fees.
Following these failures, my dad decided to shut down the club, accusing me of scamming him. This accusation was devastating. I had been working tirelessly without any personal gain, balancing college, his other businesses, and the club. My aim was to hear him say he was proud of me, not to profit from him.
Now, I face the collapse of my efforts and my reputation. I have to cancel commitments with artists and event companies, which will damage my market value. My dad's accusation has left me feeling hopeless. I never intended to scam him; I was only trying to help. I need guidance on how to move forward and prove my genuine intentions.
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2024.05.19 22:18 AIaris currently peaking hard in comp (1660), any tips? (2s)

the post looks long, but theres only one paragraph you need to read, just skip to the “STORY OVER” part. the rest is just backstory/what ive found helps me
m normally around 1500ish, and anything above 1520 would be very high for me, but recently the past 2-3 days ive climbed up to my new peak, 1660 (my previous peak was 1610, on the last day of a season so it hardly counts, so this is really new to me)
(skip to “STORY OVER” f you dont care about how i got to this peak)
i was feeling good one night and partied with a random who was playing well, and we climbed to around 1580ish, and it turned out to be a gc3 on an alt, so i doubted my rank a little, but i asked him for some tips and that was that (his tip was to try and read the ball/play more and position for it, which ill touch on later)
decided to solo q, and was still winning which helped my confidence a bit, i ended up around 1620 at the end of the night
solo queued some more the next night, and i guess i was peaking. my plan was to get off after the first loss, lost a game due to tm8 lagging out while we were winning, so i stayed on, and i just went on a winning streak. i ended up peaking at 1661, lost a game bringing me to like 1650 something and got off
—STORY OVER—
what should i be doing to try and maintain this? i feel like im playing way out of my league, despite me winning and holding my own. ive been saving replays to review, trying to take mental notes of what i might be doing better and how the gameplay has changed from 1500 lobbies. ill write my findings below but id like some additional input on things to focus on, or how to maintain this rank, or how to peak harder and keep climbing?
FINDINGS:
i think ive focused on my reads more, not like wall reads, but more reading the play to position better. i put alot more thought into “where is the ball going to end up” and “where can i put myself in the best position when this happens” it sounds like common sense but its something i would always auto pilot on. and if im unsure, or there’s multiple possibilities, position for the worst case. this is pretty much the tip i got from the gc3 (just alot more brief) and id say this was the biggest difference
good vibes/confidence. i felt like i was playing way out of my rank, but i played like i belonged with confidence. i feel like the second i lose confidence in myself and start second guessing, ill start hesitating, making mistakes, etc. this goes kinda hand in hand with good vibes imo, some games id go down 2-0 but shake it off and not let it get in my head. alot of 2-0 comebacks were made
not tilt queuing, i get off (or atleast switch to cas) after 1-2 loses in a row, rarely 3 if im really feeling it after 2.
i feel like playing higher than normal has exposed some of my weaknesses, a tm8 commented that everytime they looked at my boost, it was low/zero. i never felt like i was low boost, but i guess i just used boost as i got it. so i should probably work on my routing over pads
staying disciplined, not going for risky/dumb stuff even if i feel confident in it. obv theres a point where if im 100% confident, ill go for it, but most of the time it ends up in a turnover and me overcommitted. also stuff like not always going for boost right after kickoff, hoping my tm8 has got it, stuff like that
anyways, is there anything i should be doing while im peaking/playing in a way higher rank than im used to? i appreciate any help in advance :)
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2024.05.19 22:17 No-Ganache5404 I feel like my life just ended

(M19) Tomorrow, I will do my maturita exam. And after that, I dont have any goals because they fell apart last month.
When I was 14, I met a girl in an archery club and I fell in love with her. We started dating but after ten days we broke up. She said she had felt too young for a relationship and I understood it. But she completely cut me off and later I found out that she pretended it so she wouldnt harm me. It was devastating for me and I was feeling depressed for like two years. Because I was encountering her quite frequently and just couldnt get over it. Since that moment, I became extremely introverted, had troubles with trusting people but mostly didnt have any self esteem.
Two years ago, an Ukrainian girl came to uor class (Czechia), she fled from the war. And she was the most beautiful person Ive ever seen. And I couldnt encounter her, I just couldnt because of the past. I became attached to her, I heavily idealized her. She was two months in our class. I had too many negative thoughts, how we wouldnt match, even though I didnt know her. Then Holidays came and I finally decided to encounter her the next school year. But she left to Prague, its on the opposite side of our country.
And since that moment, it was my greatest wish and goal to meet her again. And when I realized that there is a university I wanted to go, my plans began to form. And last summer I wrote her a poem that I would like to meet her. And to my greatest surprise, she agreed. And so I visited her and.. she was better than all my dreams. She was like me. Since that moment, Ive had the happiest part of my life. I visited her on Christmas and it was the best Christmas Ive ever had. I bought her a book and we enjoyed the day. She was visibly happy and I was so happy that we matched together so well.
She was my main motivation to everything, I dedicated my whole future to her. I sent only one application to university. I imagined how we will be together. She was the first girl I started to trust, I overcame all my negative thoughts. I became positive person so much that I convinced myself that she likes me and we will end up together. And in the moment when she sent me her photo sealed it all.
At the start of the last month, she told me that she has a boyfriend. It more than a month and a half and I just cant.. do anything. My greatest wish, my only goal broke. And now I will have to go to study to Prague because its my only choice. It will be painful, everything will remind her.. I wrote dozens of poems about her. I was so happy that it started to fit so nicely together and now.. I dont have anything. And I dont want anyone else, I dont want to be happy without her, I just lost an angel.
I explained everything to her and she understood, she let my to send her all my poems. She was the first one who didnt block me in this situation. She is the kindest person on the Earth. I wrote and sent her a new collection of poems afterwards and it ended there.
I am goind to do my maturita exams, Im one of the smartest students in my school, Im going to study nuclear physics and yet, I hate myself fot being so successful in my school life but I never wanted this. All I want is just love, I dont care if I will have a poor job, or if I will have children, or an expensive house or car, I only want someone who would love me. And all of that I saw in this one girl. And its gone. All my dreams..
My family tried to help me as much as they could.. but they dont know how to help me. I started visiting a psychologist and I take antidepressants. But nothing of it will bring me her back, nothing of it will bring me back the meaning of life, my goals, wishes, dreams.
I dont want to put up with it. I feel like life showed me the best of it and than took it from me. I feel like I wouldnt be ever satisfied with it, like from all the paths that I couldve taken, this one will forever hurt me.
And so, tommorow, my life will just end. And I dont know what to do.
I just so much regret not encountering her while she was in our class. I cant read my poems anymore because its so painful to me.
I worry that I wont be ever able to create such a strong bond to anyone else. Such a strong longig, a desire.
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2024.05.19 22:16 According_Office6096 i hit myself so hard i bruised

i don't understand why I can't just be happy. i have a partner and i have friends, those are things many people don't have. but whenever my partner travels i feel achingly lonely. i notice that with everyone in my life i'm the person who reaches out 90% of the time. it used to be more even, maybe 70% my initiation, until friends got busy with work and their partners, and my partner isn't as proactively responsive when traveling. i set up plans with my friends to distract myself but as soon as they leave i'm lonely again. i can't stop crying and it got to the point where i started slapping my legs hard enough to bruise. i feel like i have no one to talk to, i tried talking to my partner about it but they said they can't be there for me all the time. i'm not asking for all the time, i just wish someone, anyone cared enough to comfort me when i'm crying and breaking down, which generally happens once every few months when i hit a breaking point of loneliness and self-hatred, or when i feel like someone has been very inconsiderate towards me and doesn't care about trying to be considere towards me. this month it's happened twice though because of an incident that felt extremely inconsiderate towards me earlier this month. i know it's exhausting and an emotional burden comforing someone who's going through it. i know this as someone who is frequently there to comfort others even when i'm also hurt and exhausted. but it just feels so unfair to me that i'm willing to drop everything for someone in crisis, especially a close friend or partner, and no one does the same for me. ii feel like i have to keep my happy sunny disposition around my friends so i don't burden them. they're going through enough in their own lives and don't need to hear how much i'm suffering. i don't want me being lonely to make them feel like they're not good enough. but i was hoping my partner would at least understand that it's okay to express these hurt emotions between us since my partner has also expressed hurt feelings to me and i've comforted them through it without taking it personally. but the response i got was that they needed alone time and couldn't always be there for me. i guess my expectations of a partner always being there for me and putting my feelings first when i'm in crisis are unrealistic, even though that's something i always do. i'm not important enough to anyone for them to consider my feelings. and who would want to be there for me anyways, i'm a worthless fat fuck who can't make positive long-term change in their life no matter how hard they try. my motivation to do anything but scroll on my phone dwindles every day. i can't muster up the strength and motivation for hobbies anymore unless with friends. i'm a shell of a human who only matters when other people are in the room. i can't even do the things i enjoy anymore, let alone things that would be good for me like workinf out or learning other helpful life skills. i guess i always support others but am not there to support myself and that's whay makes me a shell of a human. i'm just going through life surviving but i don't feel like i'm here. i'm just typing this into the void in case anyone feels the way i do so i'll know i'm not alone. also as a disclaimer i have no intention or desire to kms because of how it would affect my loved ones. i of course intrusively wonder if they would miss me or wish they prioritized me more if i did pass, but it's only in passing and not something i would ever carry out. if you've read this far i commend and thank you. hope you have a nice day
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2024.05.19 22:15 Nichard CIN 3 from smear test result

I don't know if somethjng else is going on but I got my smear test result last week which was abnormal and HPV+. This is my 4th smear that's came back positive for hpv and abnormal, but the first to come back as CIN3 so I'm freaking out to the point where I've not eaten for 4 days because I am so so worried.
I'm going for a colposcopy tomorrow but I thought smear tests only showed if cells were abnormal? My nurse didn't take a biopsy so I'm wondering how they knew the grade unless it shows up on a smear test sample? I just thought the area would be removed and biopsied first?
Any insight would be great, I have convinced myself I have cancer and I am making myself ill with worry, I just can't cope.
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2024.05.19 22:14 milanadj Quit job to take care of a kid

I often hear moms leave their jobs to take care of their kids until they start going to school. Other than the bonding reasons, I am interested in the financial and career-related aspect of all that. So, I have some questions for those moms:
  1. Do you do this if your salary is almost the amount you would normally give for daycare, so you just decide not to work anymore because it doesn't make any sense to give out so much money? In this case, you would work just to pay for daycare.
  2. Do you quit working but make some sort of deal with your company for them to try to re-employ you again when you're done with being a stay-at-home mom?
  3. Are you afraid that you might lose the opportunity to find a good job again due to a gap in work history? How do recruiters look at this?
  4. Do you prefer to have more kids during that time or that they are more apart?
  5. What do you do regarding health insurance in you're unemployed and your husband cannot put you on his plan?
I would appreciate any valuable advice on financial pros/cons of being a stay-at-home mom.
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2024.05.19 22:13 wheresmylife-gone222 Star Wars Episode 1:The Beginning- A TPM rewrite heavily based on the 1994 draft (through not a carbon copy)

I think its common knowledge in these circles that the first draft of TPM from 1994 (originally called The Beginning) is much better. Still very flawed, but a good baseline for a better movie.
For some reason, Lucas added many things in the final draft that made the movie a lot worse. It's fascinated me for a while now about how things could have been if the original script was built upon.
I have been watching videos summing up the original draft for a while now and I discovered something. Apparently Lucas gave his final TPM draft to Lawrence Kasdan a week before shooting started and asked for him to take a look at it. However, Kasdan refused because he though he wouldn't have enough time to make revisions.
I want to imagine how TPM would look if Kasdan or some other hypothetical collaborator got to see the first draft in 1994 and fixed it up. This isn't my preferred PT rewrite. This is just what I would have done if Lucas had dropped his first draft in my lap and told me to revise it.
Here are the videos I got the information from:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TPHUWM3QNk0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqsD8s2W9Ho
The movie starts with an opening crawl talking about how it is a time of weakness in the Republic. The Outer Rim controlled by megacorporation's has seceded backed by droid armies. War has not broken out yet, but the galaxy is on the brink. They are now blockading the peaceful planet of Utapau to gain its rich plasma mines as well as its newly discovered Cloning formula. The Supreme Chancellor Valorum has dispatched two Jedi to investigate and/or negotiate if they can.
We then cut to a republic starship coming to land just like in the finished film. Only the Jedi are wearing samurai esqe uniforms (like the concept art), one black and one white. The black uniformed Jedi is Obi Wan Kenobi who is about 30, trained by Yoda and is already a full Jedi Knight. Very strict and by the book. The white uniformed Jedi is his brother Ben Kenobi who just became a full jedi. This is Ben's first mission without his master Oui Gon.
Ben Kenobi is very reckless and wonders why the Republic doesn't just declare war on the Confederacy already. Obi Wan argues with him while they wait in the conference room. Meanwhile Nute Gunray and the rest of the Nemoidians look more like how they do in early concept art. Much less humanoid and they speak in an alien language with subtitles.
They call Palpatine on the hologram and he is enraged that they let the Jedi land. He chokes Nute Gunray through the hologram, cowing him. They agree to kill the Jedi and things go similarly as in the finished movie. The ship is blown up, and poison gas is pumped into the conference room. Ben and Obi Wan cut their way through the battle droids and get to the hanger. They decide to stow away on the landing craft.
On the surface of Utapau they run into Jar Jar. In this version though, Jar Jar while emotional and still comic relief speaks in a normal voice and is a bit more mature. He's more of the everyman character. Ben persuades Jar Jar to take them to the Gungan city with a mind trick, this is something Obi Wan disapproves of. Ben is more unorthodox.
They get there and are captured just like the real film. The only difference is that all the Gungans have regular voices. They are taken to Governor Nass and we learn that Jar Jar was banished because he was a trouble maker who argued for more cooperation between the Gungans and Humans. As he rants, fish continuously fall through the bubble and a young gungan gathers them up and puts them outside again.
The two Jedi still convince him to call the humans and the whole bubble is engulfed in static. It is clear that communications have been cut off. The two Jedi are then given a submarine and told to try to navigate the planet core. Nobody has been able to do it in generations and it is clear Nass thinks its a suicide mission, a convenient way to get rid of three nuisances. They then travel through the planet core being attacked by various creatures while Jar Jar is kept calm through mind tricks.
We then cut to the city of Oxon (what later became Theed) where Queen Amidala who is 40 and her daughter Princess Padme around 14 are being briefed by captain Panaka and Sio Bibble. The Queen is complacent while Padme thinks they should take the fight to the Confederacy. Suddenly the droid army attacks the city and we see building being blown up and city guards killed.
The Queen, Padme, Panaka and all the other dignitaries are captured. Nute and the rest of the Nemodians show up as well to gloat like in the final movie and give some more exposition about how they want Utapaus cloning formula. We then see the Gungan submarine surfacing and the Jedi and Jar Jar sneak into the city.
They find the prisoners being walked down an alley and save them like in the real movie. Ben uses some flashy moves to finish the droids off and is almost killed by another droid while his back is turned. Obi Wan cuts the droid down and admonishes Ben for his recklessness. The Queen and co are pleased to see two Jedi knights but they are very hostile towards Jar Jar. Which the Jedi are displeased over.
They run to the hanger like the finished film and free the Pilots, however a stray blaster shot kills the Queen with Padme screaming in horror as they board the ship. The humans also try to prevent Jar Jar getting on board but the two Jedi insist upon it.
The ship gets attacked by the blockade and Naboo guards man gun positions while astromech droids finish the repair. After they get into hyperspace there is only one droid left. R2D2 who is thanked by a still in grieving Padme. She goes off down into the droid bay to be alone and runs into Jar Jar who consoles her. This starts Padmes turn towards liking the Gungans instead of being bigoted towards them.
Meanwhile Ben and Obi Wan look through the planets accessible through their damaged hyperdrive and only find one inhabited world. Tatooine, which most of the royal guards/pilots are horrified about. Still they have no choice so they land. Padme goes with the Jedi despite protests. She wants to see another planet and get some fresh air after what just happened. Panaka lets her go reluctantly because she has two Jedi to guard her. Jar Jar also goes with them because the Utapau humans say he's "stinking the ship up".
We then cut to Utapau again where Nute Gunray and the Nemoidians are talking to captured scientists about their cloning program. They look at something in a cloning tank and look impressed. Then a hologram droid walks in projecting Darth Sidious. He castigates them for their failure in letting the princess get away and they grovel before him again. Darth Sidious says its no matter, as he will send his apprentice, Darth Maul. The Sith warrior himself looks even scarier than in the film we got with him looking like the concept art, he also has blood red robes.
We cut to a balcony on Coruscant where master and apprentice talk. Maul speaks more than in TPM and says how eager he is to get revenge on the jedi, they are no match for me yada yada.
Back on Tatooine in Mos Espa we see our heroes trying to get the part they need. It is a rowdy place and a leering slimy alien (Sebulba but we don't know that yet) tries to touch Padme arm but she elbows him and after that the crowd gives them a wide berth. Obi Wan and Ben sense something, an overpowering aura of the force. They follow it and find themselves in front of Wattos junk shop.
They meet Anakin who is 14 the same age as Padme. He is mature for his age and has a bit of a chip on his shoulder from being a slave. We also meet Watto but he resists the mind tricks because of his strong will, not because of his species. Things go similarly, though the dialogue would be much better, no "are you an angel" in this version. Jar Jar still clumsily breaks a few things but it is more toned down. Watto also hits Anakin and tells him to get back to work. Ben grabs Wattos arms as he is about to hit him again while Obi Wan helps him to his feet.
The heroes get nowhere with Watto especially after stopping Wattos abuse and a sandstorm starts to blow in so Anakin offers to take them to his place. We meet Anakin's adopted mother Shmi Lars and her son Owen Lars who is older (19) and very protective of his little brother. At the dinner scene we learn about Anakin's Podracing (how he's nicknamed Skywalker) and how many people gamble on it for huge sums of money. Ben gets an Idea while we also see just how rare Jedi actually are in most of the galaxy with Owen calling them wizards.
We then see Anakin working on his Pod while talking to Padme. They both share their own struggle going up. Padme says she's never met anyone like Anakin while Anakin says he's never met anyone like her either. He then kisses her on the cheek while Jar Jar (who was watching out of boredom) jumps in surprise. Meanwhile we see the Jedi helping Shmi and Owen with the dishes.
The topic of Anakin's father comes up. We learn that Shmi's sister left Tatooine when she was young in search of adventure. Years later she came back and gave Shmi baby Anakin begging her to take care of him before leaving. She had a lightsaber on her belt same as the two Jedi now. She also tell them how Anakin is special and can see things before they happen, just like her sister.
Ben says Anakin needs to be trained as a Jedi while Obi Wan resists the idea saying he's too old. He's all about giving the family their freedom but not taking along Anakin. Owen is Obi Wans side, saying Anakin's head is already off in the clouds as it is. Being a Jedi won't help him, he needs to be grounded and down to earth. His idealism is going to get him killed. Shmi isn't sure which side to take in the argument and defers judgement until after Anakin hopefully wins the podrace tomorrow.
Ben goes out and talks to Anakin and tells him about the Jedi and the Sith. We get a whole spiel about how strong Anakin is and how he would be a great asset to the order. Meanwhile, Darth Mauls ship lands on Tatooine at dusk and he sets out different probes to find the Jedi and the Princess. He smiles evilly to himself, showing rotting teeth.
The pod racing stuff is basically the same, only Padme is outraged when Sebulba threatens Anakin and Ben/Obi Wan manage to get the freedom of Owen and Shmi as well by trickery (not sure how). There is no two headed announcer and no Jabba cameo either. At the end, in desperation, Anakin uses his force powers to crash Sebulbas pod killing him. Nobody notices that Anakin used the force except the two jedi who look on in concern
While everyone else gathers around Anakin's pod to celebrate Ben and Obi Wan have a heated argument in the shadows of the bleachers. Obi Wan takes this as a reason why Anakin shouldn't be trained while Ben thinks that it would be better to teach Anakin before he falls down the path of evil. Eventually they agree to let Anakin decide, Obi Wan saying he'll probably want to stay with his family.
However Anakin decides to go. His mother respects his decision and is proud of him while Owen is furious, but accepts the decision as well but telling Anakin that one day he'll regret his choice and when he does he's always welcome to come live with them again. The family hugs while everyone else just kind stands around.
They walk back through the desert when they encounter a probe droid. Obi Wan slashes it with his lightsaber and tells everyone to run. Everyone runs inside while Maul approaches in his speeder bike. The fight goes differently as it is a two one one fight. They all exhibit powers never seen in the original trilogy like levitating objects swirling around them, going super fact, and slow motion. Basically a Matrix fight with lightsabers before they both jump onto the ship.
The scenes as they travel to Coruscant are similar. Anakin and Padme miss their parents etc. They then arrive at Coruscant and it is basically like the finished movie in design. They land and meet Chancellor Valorem, Senator Palpatine, and Qui Gon Jinn. Qui Gon hugs Ben like a son while Palpatine talks to Padme. Padme then talks to Jar Jar about how she doesn't understand the rift between the Gungans and the Humans. We then learn that the Gungans have a large army. Padme has an idea and decides to go back to Utapau.
The senate scenes are cut down dramatically. Its more of a montage showing Padme's increasing frustration before she finally calls for a vote of no confidence while Palpatine smiles sinisterly. The Jedi Council meanwhile consists of three members. Qui Gon who is a very unorthodox Jedi mindful of the living force (wanting the jedi to go and help the common people more), Mace Windu a bastion of militaristic conservatism (wanting the Jedi to take their rightful place as generals/leaders, and Yoda who wants to stay the course on isolationism and study of the force.
We don't see the Jedi trials, Anakin just talks about them to Ben, Obi Wan and Qui Gon. He says he didn't understand them, and Qui Gon who has taken a liking to this upstart kid says he wasn't supposed to. They are all called in and Mace says Anakin shall not be trained. He is too old and there is much anger in him. Anakin is heartbroken while Obi Wan nods grimly in acceptance. Ben Kenobi however is not having it. He says he shall train Anakin with or without the councils permission. Mace denounces this as Heresy while Qui Gon smiles. Yoda sighs and says the matter will be decided after this current crisis has ended.
Ben, Obi Wan, and Qui Gon all decide to go with Padme, but Anakin is told to stay behind. There is also the discussion about how Anakin is dangerous which Anakin overhears. Being told by Ben and Qui Gon that he's not a problem and how he will be a Jedi. Anakin gets an idea and sneaks aboard the ship with the help of R2. He is quickly discovered to Obi Wans rage and Bens laughter.
They get back to Utapau and have to go through the blockade. Anakin is able to hyperspace jump between the ships and the planet with motivation from Ben. Our heroes then try to find the Gungans at their city but it has been completely blown up. We actually see this though, as well as Jar Jars sorrow before he remembers the Gungans sacred place.
They go there and like the movie Padme makes a big speech about overcoming difference, with Jar Jar intelligently backing her up. We then get ready for the battle. Anakin tinkers with a disabled battle droid and finds out there is a second droid control hidden somewhere in the palace. So the plan is set. The Gungans will distract the droids, while the humans will infiltrate the palace, one team disabling the backup control systems and the others capturing Nute or stealing starfighters that will be used to take out the droid control ship.
The plan goes into action and things are kind of similar to the finished film, though Jar Jar shows intentional heroism instead of the goofy antics in TPM. When the starfighters are launched though, Padme goes into the fighter with Anakin. Him being the pilot and Padme being the gunner. The rest of the human teams make short work of the battle droids. However when they reach Nute a surprise is awaiting them, clones.
These clones look kind of like Dark Troopers and a Super Battle droid had a kid. They decimate the Utapau soldiers while Nute flees. Meanwhile with the Jedis they disable the secondary control system but are then met with Darth Maul. It is a brutal and awe inspiring fight. 3v1 and yet Maul still comes out on top. He knocks out Qui Gon who falls of the bridge (the duel setting is the same) while taunting the other two. "This is the end of the jedi" you get the drill.
The remaining soldiers manage to kill the clones but there are not enough left to fend of the droids. They are captured same as the Gungans. Ben gets riled up, makes a mistake and is killed. Obi Wan screams and charges getting knocked into the pit, hanging on by a thread. Meanwhile Anakin and Padme manage to destroy the flagship at the same time that Obi Wan takes Ben's lightsaber and cuts Maul in half. He then says "learn not live not as my master says" and then rushes to Bens side.
Ben begs him to train Anakin and he agrees. Meanwhile the humans and Gungans are celebrating. We cut to Qui Gon and Queen Amidala's funeral. Qui Gon throws away his lightsaber and walks off. He is done with the jedi after the death of what was effectively his son. Palpatine looks at him go intrigued. Meanwhile Yoda and Obi Wan argue over Anakin's training. Obi Wan says he will train him even without the will of the council like Ben said. Yoda gives in but warns Obi Wan of his arrogance.
We then get the celebration the end.
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2024.05.19 22:13 TheCJK The Gifts We Offer

Gaz had crawled high into the apple tree and was pulling fruit down, lobbing it into the net his sister Tibble was holding out with her four hands. He hooted as he saw Jonathan walking through the rows.
Tibble turned, her blue fluff ruffling. "Human Jonathan! We have gathered many of the apples!"
Jonathan smiled as he approached, noting the large pile stacked on the ground. "Tibble, you have to put them in the baskets. Contact with the dirt will cause them to rot." He laughed. "I've told you this."
She shook her head. "Pyramid shape best. I like this." She pointed at the pile. "This is best way. You said you would make more cider. We like the cider. You will make it for me."
He knelt down and picked up an apple, taking a bite. Juice oozed out around his lips as his teeth pierced the skin of the fruit. He chewed for a moment while looking up at Gaz. "Yes. I said I would. Get these in the baskets and I'll carry them back."
She growled at him. "Piles are best." Tibble then began moving the top of the pile into the basket.
Jonathan sat under the tree as she filled the first basket, finishing off his third apple. She stacked it as high as she could before they started rolling off the top, and he got up. He lifted the basket and started carrying it toward the shed. "I'll be back for the next basket shortly."
He walked the half mile through the ruins of the city and stopped outside the door to the shed. He placed the basket down next to the apple masher and pulled the first apple up. He felt something ping on the back of his neck. Instinctively he scratched it, not remembering the sensation. He scratched a second time before he remembered what that particular vibration meant.
"Ares. Answer transmission."
The silicon based assistant accessed the relay and transmitted it to his subneurals.
An image of a man appeared in his ocular display. "Activation code Xeres Zulu three Kappa Alpha seven." The man said.
Jonathan tensed up and took a long breath before sighing. "Go ahead, admiral I'm guessing?"
"Admiral Alexander Oline, and you are Remnant Jonathan Kurzov?"
"I am."
"You are being activated."
Jonathan shook his head. "I'm retired."
"Retired?" The admiral asked. "You're done being human? I didn't know that was a thing."
"I'm retired from whatever you're wanting to ask me to do. Unless it's gardening, I don't give a shit about whatever you're doing."
Admiral Oline looked away for a moment and then back at Jonathan. "I have a report here describing in depth contact and conflict with an alien species, conducted by you. We received this information along with an application for a species of blue fuzzy creatures to be put under our species protection from a communications relay you and your assistant built. Am I wrong in this?"
Jonathan groaned. "No, you're right. I did a good deed."
Alexander nodded to himself as he looked over the report. "Yes, and now for your punishment." He smiled. "Prior to this, we thought all expansionist missions into your galaxy were extinct. The only traces we have left, before you, are the four sentience probes that were sent with your colonists. Do you still have access to those probes?"
Jonathan shook his head. "Haven't seen them in a few centuries. They left this system to continue scanning."
The admiral nodded. "Well, they have been continuing as programmed. They've been transmitting the entire time, and their data as mothballed during the last era, but now." He paused for a moment, his face growing stern. "A lot has changed since you left the Way. We, humanity, are on a similar path as yourself it seems."
"How so?" Jonathan asked.
"Humanity is making peace with our existence. We have gone back to our roots, trying to find peace in this darkness. Gardening, zen, familial ties, these are major values we have fostered, same as you and your adopted blue friends."
"Well, good for humans. Woo." Jonathan said. "Get to the point Oline. What do you want."
"Okay, I'll cut the curtsies. Those four probes from your expedition, their transmissions got bought up by a young entrepreneur. He went through them, refocused the probes to blue planet and found something. There's a species there, Isopodal, smart, but technologically savage. They're never going to reach beyond their atmosphere. They're planet locked, hell, probably never going to see electricity."
"Okay, so savages are causing a problem how?"
Oline sighed, shutting his eyes for a moment. "He watched them, then shared the feed with his friends, who shared the feed with their friends, and it became a phenomenon. These big bug, they're nice with extended families. They build their homes out of their shed carapaces. The longer they stay in a place, the bigger their homes get. Some are a hundred generations old, children walking through their halls touching the shells of ancestors long long gone. They scavenge, filter feed. The build tunnels to channel wastes from their small towns to the forests nearby, perfect balance with their ecosystem. They don't wage war, plan long term settlements with population quotas, living exactly as how the new human government envisions we should."
Jonathan nodded. "Sounds nice."
Oline sighed again. "It's a whole thing. We have a moon dedicated to making plushies of these things. People love them. The probes have been following specific towns for four decades now. Generations of people are involved in this ideology."
"And where do I fit in?"
"Your conflict with the Brin. Our Isopods biologically cleanse their environments of heavy metals. Their towns are built out of high demand, refined, high value materials. The Brin have since shifted their focus away from your blue fuzzy's and now are predating upon the Isopods."
"Fuck. Alright, I'll put a stop to them. You got coordinates for their homeworld?"
The admiral shook his head. "No, we're not into genocide anymore. We have to consider voters now. Your galaxy is being watched in detail now, with your little communication relay set up. We have to do this hands off, plausible deniability."
"For fuck's sake. Okay. How you wanna do this then?"
"Open source a Hadronic engine, give it to them. Basic freedom fighter protocols."
Jonathan nodded. "Understood."
Admiral Oline looked down at his templates and transmitted them. "Remnant Jonathan Kurzov, you are authorized to commence Project Pandora, classification Ultra Secret."
---===*===---
The father and eldest daughter and melted in the house of her forebears. She screeched through the walls, begging them to get out while she focused on the twins. She grabbed the two balls and tucked them into her filter pouches before running out the front door. She made it out to the beach as the heat intensified and the floating disk began sucking up their home. She stood in the water, her visual plate peaking out from the waves watching as she shivered with sadness. Her feeler appendages stroked the twins in her pouches as they fed from her filters, safe under the water. The beams finished melting down her home, pulling the slag up into the belly of the floating circle. She watched it float slowly away, disappearing down the beach.
She stood in the water, watching the smoldering hole that was her home far into the night. The stars were bright, and a dim glow came from beyond the horizons. She didn't dare leave her home, her ancestors. She kept shivering in grief, then she saw it.
A shadow contorted and a figure moved. Her vision, being as highly sensitive as it was, could barely make it out. She watched as it stood next to her ruins, her family home. A flash came from the thing.
"Fear not." It said as clearly as if it were her own blood.
She tiptoed out of the water, her weight coming back to her as she walked onto the beach. She shimmered back at the creature. "Spare us. Please."
It turned toward her, its face horrible and full of holes. Two orbs peered down at her, sending waves of fear through her shell. "A mother stands before me." It said, reflections appearing in front of it, cascading infrared to her. "I will do more than spare you."
Terror welled up in her and she fell down to the ground, but she resisted the urge to coil up and maintained her gaze upon the creature. "You are not them. You, you are different."
It walked closer to her, moving upon a mere two appendages. It lowered down next to her, extending a manipulator arm toward her. "Chance has sent a plague upon your peoples, one that you will not survive." It stared deep into her visor plate. "My people weep at that thought and offer you, Mother of three now two, a gift."
She could not help herself, and as if commanded without words, she extended two of her manipulator appendages up toward it. It opened up the ball at the end of its arm, five digits unfurling to reveal a black cube. It gently pushed the cube into her two pointed appendages.
"What is it?" She asked, shimmering.
The creature shimmered the air around it, speaking in ways she couldn't. "It is the gift we wish we did not have to give. It is horror, pain, and destruction. You know it in your organs, you feel it thinking about your mate, your daughter. Those that brought this feeling to you, will not stop until you give them this feeling back. This, this will allow you to do so, and I am sorry to have to give it to you."
She looked down at the cube in her points, feeling it as it vibrated across her limbs, reaching into her. Lines traced across her shell as she watched it grow on her. She looked back up toward the being as it crawled across her body but the shadow creature was gone.
A voice spoke to her, vibrations in her very core. "Hephaestus online. Greetings Mother."
She stood, her numerous feet appendages poking into the wet sand. "Where are you, being?" She shimmered with her shell.
"I am in you Mother, and am at your service." It replied within her minds.
"What has happened?" She asked, shivering with fear.
"You have been called upon to save your people."
She looked around before touching her own carapace. "How do I, how do we do that?"
"Where are the survivors?" It asked.
She thought for a moment, visions of the deep, visions of safety in the dark filled her minds.
"Go there. Help them."
She shivered again, defeat in the squish of body, her filters feeling the twins feeding at her sides.
"They will not stop, and more will suffer and die."
She turned her gaze back toward the horizon, seeing the glow of other homes melting in the far distance. "We can stop this?" She asked, now solely using her thoughts.
"I am but your tool. You can stop this." It replied.
---===*===---
She had not been to the vents since she picked her mate. They had fed there, filtering, hardening their shells together while discussing their future family. She could see the flickers of bioluminescence in the dark as she approached, her filters tasting the dense biofilm from the sea. She was close, and the flickers were from many peoples, many different families. She watched them talk, brothers, sisters, mothers, daughters, fathers, grandparents, all missing loved ones. Pain was the primary color, loss and heartache shared through the broken peoples.
She stepped into the outer ring, the heat of the vents warming her and her twins at her sides. Shimmers rose up to her asking who she had lost. She replied. "Mate and eldest daughter." But her reply wasn't heartache, but rather tinged with a new feeling and color. She replied with deep reds, a red tied to a thought from a people people beyond the stars, a red of blood and fire, things she knew nothing about.
The people's around her shifted in confusion at the colors. An elder great mother rose up to her. "You speak confusing daughter. What are you saying? Are you injured?"
She looked around, her visor meeting with dozens of others as they raised up to look at her. "The darkness came to me, spoke with me." She looked at the great mother. "The darkness touched me and has told me what we must do."
The elder mother walked over and touched manipulators with her. "Sit with us daughter, you need to rest. You have come far and need to heal."
"Our mates burn." The Mother of three now two said. "Our children, our families, our fathers burn. Things of light and pain come here and kill us. I will not heal these wounds. I bleed in my organs, pain beyond pain. I will not rest until they cease, until they feel my pain. They will feel this in their organs!" She flashed brighter than those around her thought possible. "I will stop them!"
A father stood up, pain shown in his colors. "They burn us. They are in the sky! How do we stop them? Do you know how? If you know anyway I will lend my spikes to yours. Please, tell us how! Anyone, tell us how." He shouted as bright as he could, lament touching his words.
The Mother of three now two walked over to him, placing her appendages upon his. Dots of blue light shifted from her carapace onto his. She looked into his visor plate and spoke with tinges of red. "The darkness has come and has promised us vengeance."
He flexed his carapace, breathing deep as he sucked in the sea. "What is this?" He asked, his own colors shifting toward the red.
"Our pain made flesh." She replied.
---===*==---
Brin operator Noloc was marking the next metal deposit while the syphons were busy pulling up the slag. It radioed over to buddy Lana. "You nearing full?"
Lana replied back. "Yeah. You want to get food while we empty?"
"Yeah, obviously." It replied. "Care to stimulate bodies while we eat?"
"Yeah obviously." Lana said. "Hey, are you getting any weird readings?"
"Like what?" Noloc asked.
Lana sent over telemetry. "Heat spikes in the water. What are those?"
Noloc looked them over and then scanned the water nearby. "Yeah, I got a dozen near me too. What are those?"
Noloc turned to look out the window just in time to see something leap onto the outer hull of its ship. "Um, one of the native creatures is on my miner."
Lana screamed through the radio.
Noloc shook at the noise and looked back out at the native. The creature was larger than normal, its color darker as well. Noloc watched as the thing curled, hunkering down on the hull. Deep scratching sounds echoed through the ship. "I am in need of assistance." It radioed up toward the mothership. "Assistance needed, native attack."
Telemetry came down. "Wait time for assistance five minutes. Ten minutes. Three hours." It read out, the time continuously increasing.
Noloc looked around. "What is happening! I need assistance!" Another thud on the hull and Noloc looked out to see another native boring into the ship. "Help!"
---===*===---
The Mother walked over to the downed ship and watched as the warriors cut apart the pilot. Hephaestus highlighted the mining beam as she walked across the machinery. She pointed with one of her manipulators. "There Father. We need that piece." She shimmered.
One of the fathers walked over and cut it free with his new sharps. "What is it Mother?"
"It is a tool of light and fire."
He shook, remembering his family burning.
"Remember that pain Father. They will feel it as they burn."
He paused and looked at her. "We will be as they are then. Burners, bringers of pain. That is not who we are."
She felt at the empty filters at her side. "My twins are in the deep with the mothers. That is not who they are, but that is who we must be so they can stay that way."
The Father shimmered back in tones of red. "They will be as we were before."
She flashed understanding. "We will suffer, become the monsters so they won't have to."
He replied understanding.
--===*===---
Three galaxies away, sitting in their living rooms across numerous worlds, humanity watched on. The four probes, hidden in their cloak fields, displayed in completed holographic representations, the forgotten horrors of war. Beams of fire and light rose up from the depths of the seas, melting Brin ships out of the sky. Day after day, the Isopods did what they did, scavenged. More fallen tech fed them, and within three months they had risen out of their gravity well, taking the fight into orbit.
A year later and several scavenged stations and the Isopods had opened up communications, seeking the others hiding in the shadows.
A world of blue fuzzy creatures were quick to respond, welcoming the filter feeders to the galactic community.
The Mother of Three now two was aboard the ship crossing the darkness as the first gathering commenced.
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2024.05.19 22:11 IsopodEuphoric1412 daycare placing ankle weights on my child

TL; DR at the bottom. It’s a long one but context is important. Also shared in legaladvice
My child (2m) attends a DCFS-licensed daycare program full-time. When I went to pick him up early on Friday, he had ankle weights attached to him!
My son has no medical diagnosis or known neurodivergence. He’s never exhibited aggressive behavior. Quite the opposite - he’s shy and fairly anti-social. He is being treated by a Developmental Therapist (DT) and a Speech Therapist (ST).
The assistant director at his school (Katie) has told us many times that our child is a poor listener. Other teachers have noted he doesn’t listen when told to stop running. Katie also uses a lot of buzz words hinting at a diagnosis such as “stemming,” “non-verbal,” and “sensory processing stuff”. He says 80-100 words. A little behind for 27 months old, but that’s why we’re getting ST.
Back to Friday - I was shocked to see the ankle weights and the teacher commented that these were needed to slow him down and keep him from hurting himself/others.
Katie soon came into the room and explained that the weights were used on another “big kid with sensory issues” and they thought it would help slow down my child. Important to note kids in this room are age 2-3. My kid is big but middle of the pack in his classroom. He’s never hurt anyone- no biting, hitting, kicking. He’s thrown 1 car in his 1.5 years at day car. That’s the only “incident” we’ve ever been made aware of.
Katie also commented that the weights were “only used in the morning”. My child arrives at 7am. These were still on at 12pm.
We are meeting with the director tomorrow and the DT plans to counsel staff and management on the proper use of weights (under supervision and only as part of a treatment plan + training). I have expressed in writing that I am not comfortable with weights/restraints/compression being used without the direction and supervision of an Occupational Therapist or certified medical professional. I did get a swift reply acknowledging they should have told us first and won’t do it again.
From what I’ve read, ankle weights are not at all developmentally appropriate or safe for a 2 y/o. They force children to use quads instead of hamstrings and can do serious damage to their developing muscles.
I have so many more questions I forgot to ask. I was so taken aback and horrified. Who directed this treatment/interventon? How long has it been occurring? Do other children wear them if they’re running too much? Does any teacher have discretion to use them or just Katie? What’s the process for determining weights are needed and for putting them on?
What is my recourse here? We’re considering having my husband leave his job and try the stay-at-home-parent route. I don’t know how we can trust that they aren’t doing worse things behind our backs. Or how we can trust they won’t retaliate against my child if we make trouble for them. Part of me wants to stand outside and warn every incoming parent about this. Part of me wants to demand Katie never be allowed near my child (I’m speculating she is the one “ordering” the use of the weights) or resign.
Should I make a DCFS complaint? What would you do? Would love to hear from anyone who’s navigated something similar.
TL;DR - my IL licensed day care center applied therapeutic and potentially dangerous interventions on my child. Without a treatment plan, without my knowledge or consent, and without the necessary training/certification.
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2024.05.19 22:11 Full_Individual_2222 i want to talk to someone

(LONG POST)
I will start off by saying that i dont even feel like i have the right to complain, i just feel like seeking atention right now, but i just want to talk with someone that wont judge me.
I have a lot of "friends", most of them i consider acquaintances, even if i dont trust them or feel a connection with them i still make sure to include everyone and make everyone feel welcomed and wanted, but somehow, when it comes to me no one ever asks how I'm doing or asks me to be with them. I feel so unwanted and i started to realise this just now. Im always the last choice, im invited somewhere only when their friends cant come or they need another person.
This hurts me a lot acc and i dont understand why, or mabye i do. Ive never cared about these typa things, i dont really care in general about a lot of things, and i dont want people to know how i feel. Thats why i came to yall for help.
I have a friend group that i used to spent a lot of time with just bc we used to play videogames togheter and we used to go out, and for 4 months now i started to really like a boy from that friend group. Like i really like him, ill do anything to know that hes alright, ill do anything for him. But since some time ive noticed that im not invited where they go no more. These things happened before that,but only now i started to notice. They preffer to go without me anywhere, they talk about their plans in my face without even bothering to ask me, just to show off or sum. The boy that i like was the only one that was asking me to go out and made me feel wanted and now hes like the rest of them.
Why? Why is he acting like this? I started to love him blindly without even knowing what he thinks about me, but this shi love that i have for him made me realise that most of the people in my life dont even care a bit ab me, and it hurts really bad, him starting to be one of them makes this pain even worse.
I start to feel like im going insane, i just want him to be like before and i want to stop carring so much man. why do i care ab these things? its not that deep, why it hurts me? i just want to feel wanted by people that i care about. i want him to notice me, to give me a chance so i can show him how much i can do for him. Why i am even atracted to him? Its not like we were togheter, but still, somehow, his behavoir hurts my soul so much. i just want it to end.
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2024.05.19 22:09 chaosmagicwanda my 20M bf broke up with me 22f because God told him i wouldn’t be his wife

my boyfriend (20M) christian boyfriend broke up with me (22F) after saying he had a conversation with God and he said I would not be his wife.
we were long distance for 6 months and he was finally going to come visit me in june. all expenses paid and i had spent so much money for our future plans. yesterday he told me he was his soulmate and then later on says that God told him i wasn’t it for him. I consider myself Christian, but not to the point of where God could tell me something that directly. to be completely honest i don’t understand it. I think that we pray to God to help us make decisions in our relationship but it comes down to us wanting it. he said he had dreams about me cheating on him which i figured came from past relationship trauma as i have never cheated and he has been cheated on, but he thinks they came from God.
i feel so blindsighted. i feel so shocked, i feel like i changed so much of myself (i wasn’t a christian before him) to accommodate him and to make it work because that’s what you do for someone you love. i was coming out of a long term relationship and i didn’t know if i was ready for someone but he pushed and pushed his way into my heart and when i finally broke my walls down and allowed myself to trust him, he did exactly what i didn’t think i was ready for. to love and have someone just leave. he would tell me i am going to be the mother of his kids, he tells me im his biggest blessing, his soulmate, and in the span of one night his mind is changed.
anyways, it’s over now and i don’t know what to feel. he got me to get rid of so many friends i had because they were involved in things that weren’t christ like and they weren’t being good friends to me at the time. i feel like he completely isolated me and then he himself just left and i don’t know where im supposed to go from here. i have no one anymore. i feel angry that i wasted time allowing myself to trust.
i know i will get over this and i will be okay, i just don’t know how to cope or comprehend what happened. How do i get acceptance over this? how do i find closure in this? he called me at work a couple hours later crying to say he wanted to pray for me and then he wanted to say to me that he breaks all soul ties. i think. he just wanted to feel off the hook for leaving me high and dry.
fellow people of reddit, please give me some advice on how i keep carrying on and some words of encouragement pls. how do i figure out who i am now?
tldr: boyfriend broke up with me after calling me his soulmate in the span of 24 hours because God told him i wouldn’t be his wife.
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2024.05.19 22:09 jorgsmash Fusilade II to control Bermuda in tall fescue

What's up everybody. I'm just getting into lawn care and I have some Bermuda in my tall fescue that I plan to hit with fusilade II. I'm about 45 minutes north of Atlanta where the summers are humid and hot and get in the 90s regularly. It's probably 500 Sq feet or so that I'm trying to control. I've read the label for fusilade II twice now in preparation for use. My dad told me to use 0.75 oz in a gallon of water but after reading the label, it pretty specifically says NOT to use that strong of a dilution in desirable turf. From what I can tell, it says to use 3-6 oz per acre in desirable turf grass. I calculated that to be around 0.07-0.14 oz per 1000 square feet. I could mix that amount in 1 gallon to cover the area. Does that sound right, or too little?
I know I will have to spray every 30 days or so and avoid the summer months according to the label, and it can take multiple seasons to control. I also don't have an herbicide specific non-ionic surfactant which the label says to use, but would dawn dish soap work instead?
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2024.05.19 22:08 Impressive_Leave_411 Need suggestions for buying Desk

Hi, I am new in Dubai so I don’t know much about best shops/brands here. I am planning to buy an elevating desk. And I never owned one before.
I am confused between these 4 models:
  1. Cougar Emars 150: Looks good to me. Looks like it is not very available in Dubai market.
  2. JWX Standing Gaming Desk: This also looks nice but I am not familiar with the brand.
  3. Navo Desk height adjustment gaming desk: This one looks good too. Also the price is lower and the look is much more minimalistic.
4: Optimus Gaming Desk: This one is from Home Center. I once saw this in their showroom and the only desk I have seen myself. It is a lot cheaper, almost half the price. Home center looks like a renowned brand here, so I guess their after sale service will be better.
Me: I am software engineer and play games occasionally. I don’t really care much about gaming design. Rather I prefer minimalist design.
If you have used any of them can you kindly leave a review. And suggestions are highly appropriated.
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2024.05.19 22:08 graciemose How to get a CNA job out of state?

Hi! I got my CNA back in February and am planning on moving out of state. I currently work at a local bank and have never been a CNA/PCT. I'd like to be a CNA as I work on my prerequisites for nursing school. I just got my BLS certification and transferred my CNA to the state I intend to move to. I'd like to secure a job before signing a lease somewhere and have applied to 20+ jobs there this weekend. I've heard back from one place saying they only do on-site interviews and cannot do a Zoom interview. I'm starting to get worried no place will be able to do a virtual interview. Has anyone been successful securing a job out of state? Any tips? Thank you in advance!!
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2024.05.19 22:08 Impressive_Leave_411 Help me buy an Elevating Desk

Hi, I am new in Dubai so I don’t know much about best shops/brands here. I am planning to buy an elevating desk. And I never owned one before.
I am confused between these 4 models:
  1. Cougar Emars 150: Looks good to me. Looks like it is not very available in Dubai market.
  2. JWX Standing Gaming Desk: This also looks nice but I am not familiar with the brand.
  3. Navo Desk height adjustment gaming desk: This one looks good too. Also the price is lower and the look is much more minimalistic.
4: Optimus Gaming Desk: This one is from Home Center. I once saw this in their showroom and the only desk I have seen myself. It is a lot cheaper, almost half the price. Home center looks like a renowned brand here, so I guess their after sale service will be better.
Me: I am software engineer and play games occasionally. I don’t really care much about gaming design. Rather I prefer minimalist design.
If you have used any of them can you kindly leave a review. And suggestions are highly appropriated.
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2024.05.19 22:07 Kind_Turn_8155 AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after 4 years of relationship?

I and my ex-boyfriend have in a relationship for 4 years.we started dating in 2020. In the start of this relationship, everything was just amazing and pure. He loved me wholeheartedly and i did too. We were in a happy relationship for a year but then one day a girl texted me that my ex boyfriend is flirting with her when she didn't flirted back he started harrassing her. I confronted him immediately and told him I would not accept something like this and started ignoring him but after 2-3 days he apologized and told me it was a drunken mistake he will never do it again . He explained and I gave him a chance.
We were in a good relationship after that incident for few months then he started asking for money. I spoiled him with gifts and all but he kept asking for money , and I was so stupid that I kept giving him the money and he never returned them. And whenever I refused to give him money he would ignore me for days and suddenly come back that nothing has happened. It continued for a year.
In January 2023 he asked money again and i refused and I was determined to not give him anything. But all he did was, Gaslight me and told me that I never supported him in any way I can never be a good girlfriend and he insulted me alot that day. So that day I broke up with him blocked him from all the social media handles and my best friend support me throughout this but I loved him too much so i started talking with him again in April 2023 and we cleared everything between us that how sorry he was and he never meant any of that shit and he kept telling me how much he loves me and everything so i decided to forgive him again. So we started dating again in April 2023 on our 3rd anniversary. In August i planned a date for him and and invited him to a pizza place near his home because he loved pizza. He said he would be there at 6pm and I kept waiting for him until 8. But he never showed up, i called him like a thousand time but he never picked it up. So I went home. Texted him that I am breaking up with him because he can never love me like he used to be and he will never prioritise me and will never care for me.and he started threatening that he will commit suicide if i broke up with him and I was so scared that i blocked him.
Yeah, I am an asshole. In October i unlocked him and he texted me we started talking again and we again became a couple in December until 2 months ago. I saw him with another girl. I asked him about it but he lied about it and told me that i must have seen some one else. I never liked that girl and she always flirted with him and she was always touching him inappropriately , and he was with her . I was hurt once again. He told him to stay away from me I need to re-think everything and should probably break up too but next day he texted me saying he wanted to have s** and keep forcing even tho I was so hurt to do so . I kept ignoring him and in April i finally broke up with him.
Today, i text him ( i don't know why I didn't but I did) he again started forcing me to send n**** and i blocked him on WhatsApp and he started calling me on Instagram where insulted me and my friend. He called us a slut and i argued him for an hour and at this point I am so tired of this loop of same events that I told him to stay away or I would have to contact his father and family that he is harassing me. He didn't back off so I told him that I am very tired of this toxic relationship but i still love you but we can't be together anymore because I know he wasn't in his right mind. But again he started threatening me that he will commit suicide because he loves me too much. And I got scared again and blocked him from everywhere and delete his no.
Am I the ah?
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2024.05.19 22:07 brendling Any weight mods tip? Im planning to do a weight mod on my g pro hero wired mouse, just planning to take off the dpi button and sand the egg shell on the inside, prob gonna drill some hole in the front part of the mouse too, are there anything i should be extra careful about? This is my first modding

Any weight mods tip? Im planning to do a weight mod on my g pro hero wired mouse, just planning to take off the dpi button and sand the egg shell on the inside, prob gonna drill some hole in the front part of the mouse too, are there anything i should be extra careful about? This is my first modding submitted by brendling to MouseModding [link] [comments]


2024.05.19 22:06 Impressive_Leave_411 Help me buy an Elevating Desk

Hi, I am new in Dubai so I don’t know much about best shops/brands here. I am planning to buy an elevating desk. And I never owned one before.
I am confused between these 4 models:
  1. Cougar Emars 150: Looks good to me. Looks like it is not very available in Dubai market.
  2. JWX Standing Gaming Desk: This also looks nice but I am not familiar with the brand.
  3. Navo Desk height adjustment gaming desk: This one looks good too. Also the price is lower and the look is much more minimalistic.
4: Optimus Gaming Desk: This one is from Home Center. I once saw this in their showroom and the only desk I have seen myself. It is a lot cheaper, almost half the price. Home center looks like a renowned brand here, so I guess their after sale service will be better.
Me: I am software engineer and play games occasionally. I don’t really care much about gaming design. Rather I prefer minimalist design.
If you have used any of them can you kindly leave a review. And suggestions are highly appropriated.
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2024.05.19 22:06 Oryx_Took_The_Kids Does more lights = more fuel used in the bunker?

I tried googling this question and its literally a 50/50 split of answers. Im on normal difficulty, and want to know if I should flip every switch I see or be careful and plan it
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