SHORT VERSION: On June 1, my fiancée (44F) and I (47M) were supposed to get married. This is roughly 2 weeks away, right? Well, last Saturday, she suddenly left the house and ghosted me. No contact, scattered texts, no explanation. She doesn't tell me she's not coming back, either. Doesn't apologize for anything. I've had to discover this for myself, as well as start moving out because she couldn't pay 1/2 rent (which she hasn't done ever...)
I really need some advice, context, insight, comfort and whatever else this sub might be able to provide. She didn't This doesn't hurt so much as blow my mind. Details are below.
My question: How do I process this?
LONG VERSION: - I'm almost 47M and she's 44F. We're both white and boring (I thought in a good way).

• We've both been married before. I have 3 kids; she has 3 kids.
  
• She and I have lived together for roughly 18 months. We've been together for about 3 years. We've known one another for over 10 years.
  
• I'm an author and screenwriter; she's a mental health therapist.
  
• I ask frequently how things are going between us and she's always quick to tell me things are great. We've never discussed an issue between us, ever.
  
• We've never fought. Not really. We're a good team. A heated argument here or there over a world topic, but nothing big.
  
• In the last year, I've had a lot of money screwed up by identity theft.
  
• I'm admittedly high-strung at times due to stress. But I routinely apologize and check in a lot. Still, my memory isn't great because I'm always wheeling from 1 gig to another. Right now, I have 11 active things I'm working on.
  
• In recent months, I've had to patchwork-quilt my finances here and there, and I constantly forget to send $ back because of our living situation (more on that in a second). Hell, I even fell for an elaborate scam and accepted a fake job, if that tells you anything about my brain.
  

So...
Basically, there's too much going on and our wedding day is coming fast. I'm the one in charge of the invitations, save the dates, etc., securing the venue, honeymoon, etc. I'm told I should delegate, but I cannot because no one else has the graphic design knowledge and I'm strapped for cash.
We're two months out and almost no one knows the wedding is still on, but a few things...

• We haven't really spoken about the wedding, not in detail, for a good half-year.
• Last Friday afternoon/Saturday morning, she still didn't have a dress (due to her finances), but she said she was still excited and happy.
• We almost always talk about money stresses, but we never talk about specifics or strategies, etc. That's because she wants to keep our finances separate. I respect this 100%, but I also find this ironic because she's frustrated by having no line of sight into my money...

And then, two things happen:

• there's a potential problem with the venue - we're a month behind on paying rent (not our fault)

But I suddenly find myself becoming angrier and angrier at her. This is new.
We now had to come up with $2440 suddenly, which is literally another month's rent we never planned on. I warn her that our landlord, if we don't pay this by the 10th, will not renew our lease. She repeatedly shrugs and says, "Well, what can we do?" and goes to bed. This is fine for the first night she says it, but not the next day when she doesn't have clients.
For days and nights, I'm calling around and texting to see how to pay this because my money is locked due to fraud for a few days. I'm also up all hours of the night (literally) working on marketing for her new practice, which feels like I'm doing a hell of a lot more than she's doing at all.
Two final details:

• I've paid the rent in full for nearly a year, plus family-sized internet, renters' insurance, a few new appliances, etc. on top of life's other charming charges. Also, I've come through even when I was unemployed.
  
• She rents an office space that has held nothing more than a few plants since 1st of the year. Seriously. It's never been used and there's no end in sight for this. She pays utilities and groceries.
  

I find out that we're losing our place and then she starts paying attention. But I'm angry and tell her so via text. There's a great deal of misunderstanding going on here, too. She thinks I'm saying she needs to get out and move; I'm saying she's going to have to start looking for a place for us to live. The long and short of it is this: I paid for half of this month's rent; she needs to come up with the other half.
Next thing I know, she's up and gone. All of her stuff is still here. Cats and fish, too. Zero explanation. Seriously. She goes to her mom's and says she'll be back on Monday. Doesn't even say she needs space because she's not replying at all. This goes on for days. In fact, IT STILL IS.
When I finally do get ahold of her at midnight, after days of not knowing why she'd bolted, she says she left because "it's not okay how I was talking to her." So we compare iMessage screens and guess what? She didn't receive 4 messages. Problem solved right? Nope. I say that she could help with rent if she wasn't paying for a potted plant to have an office; I also say that I know she has savings, which she admits is true.
She goes on to say that I'm mad at her because she's not behaving the way I expect her to behave.
At first, I say that's not true -- but it is true: I expect my fiancée to talk to me and communicate issues, not suddenly up and run to her parents'. It's a huge leap from earlier that morning going, "I love you" and looking for wedding venues to later that afternoon to not. I send dozens of texts into the void -- some panicked, some sad, some furious, some indignant. But I don't know anything and she knows this. During this time, I surmise that she's not coming back home, which she casually confirms like an afterthought.
I then literally have to break up with her via text.
I get a thumbs-up reaction to that text.
She later goes on to say that it wasn't her plan to leave and that it was because of "everything that ensued" that she's not. I seriously don't know what this even means. Well, turns out -- thanks to phone calls -- that she was calling around to fact-check the status of an injury settlement of mine and other things with friends and my mom (of all people). She calls her twice, in fact. She spends the next 12 hours asking my mom and others things she's never asked me, ever. This is a verboten subject with her, so it's ironic. And why would my mom ever know the status of a malpractice settlement? But she's calling people and sobbing on the phone but tellingly, never once revealing to them why she's actually leaving. It's only questions about my financial situation. She also swears them all to secrecy about calling them...
So.
She leaves after a misunderstanding that could've been cleared up with a quick call. She doesn't like my opinion about her leisurely paced startup/rent. She refuses to pick up the phone, but she's calling all around to people about my money. She owes rent but doesn't pay it, and lets us get booted. She refuses to text, chiding me for my walls of words because I'm talking to myself...
It's almost one full week and she hasn't returned home. I've had to explain to my kids that, no, I don't know why she left. Honestly, I still don't. I'm packing up my belongings and selling things on Facebook Marketplace, etc. and finding a new place in days.
I can't believe someone has a toggle switch like that, let alone an inability to talk to me. Seriously, there was NOTHING said anywhere that warranted her "you can't speak to me like this" and sobbing with my friends and family.
Thank you, Reddit. Sorry for the novel. If you're the one person who made it this far, I am deeply grateful.

Hey everyone, As you must know already there has been a ton of layoffs and I was one of them. I have 13 years of experience in financial technology and esg space. I am in the UK and giving interviews, going through to the final stages but not landing a role. Not to mention all the competition for a senior PM role, directors or Product VP’s are applying and getting the roles. Plus the salaries offered are 30-40% lower than the market value, companies are taking advantage of the fact that there are a lot of candidates available in the market. To be honest, 80% of the roles I am interviewing for does not spark my interest fully but I need a job. Been having some bad luck too, for the roles I thought I nailed it and am super excited about , just announced hiring freeze. Others added newer requirements like knowing an European language. Most recent one is telling me that they need ‘more stakeholder management skills’. Which is bs, I have been in tricky situations and was successful in negotiating. A lot of the times I wonder if the people hiring know what they want. I hired people too and I always judged them on their ability and openness to learn and not necessarily know everything. I have been a PM for well known Fortune 500 companies, I have a lot of experience and I do not understand why I am not landing a role. Been under a lot of stress lately and this does not help as well. Anyone interview here, what are the reasons you thought a candidate was not right for the role, perhaps I can learn from that.
Thanks.

Hi folks! Bit of an out there request, but I'm writing a novel in the near future set in Brasil. I've never been myself, and in my current financial situation it's rather unfeasible for me to get there, but it's somewhere I'm super interested in and really would love to go. My end goal is to go eventually actually, but I'm hoping to reach out to some folks who currently live there/have spent substantial time in the country/or know folks who do to learn about the culture!
I'm open to hearing all types of information but am particularly looking for folks with experience in the Manaus, or Sāo Paulo regions! I'm looking to hear about your experiences in these places or around them, how your culture has impacted you, and any and all interesting or important travel details your willing to share! I'd love to hear any personal anecdotes, favourite memories or even really cool places you've been, best foods etc etc. Anything your super passionate and proud about would be so lovely to hear.
For reference, the novel is following a tourist's persepctive and would be post apocalyptic, if that helps at all! I'm hoping to learn as much as possible so I can hopefully eventually write something with the care and detail it deserves! I'd really love to be as informed as possible so I don't make errors or offend. Thank you so so much for any and all experiences shared. I'd be more than happy to accept Dm's, comments, or even hop on discord calls with anyone willing to help someone wanting to learn. Thank you all so much for your time!

So the thing is, a few months ago (cant recall how long, but atleast 5 months ago) i was scrolling through YouTube when i found one of this "recaps" of Manhua/Manhwa/Manga vids (i belive this particular one was a Manhua, hence why im posting this here). after binging the entire recap i really enjoyed it and since then i have forgot about it, until a few days ago when i remembered about it and wanted to actually read it. however, i cant seem to find the original video that i viewed nor can i find any information on the particular Manhua anywhere on the internet. So i was hoping any you here might know the name of it so that i can find it and give it a proper read. here is what i remember about it: - The Manhua in question is a cultivation Manhua, where the mc is born (not reincarnated/transported) into a world where the cultivation is a form of almost Extinct art. - The main protagonist (male, cant remember much of facial features, but i seem to recall black long hair, tho don't quote me on that) after witnessing a battle between two immortal cultivators at the very start of the Manhua goes to seek a tutor in a temple to teach him cultivation, the guy from the temple does not take him seriously since himself is not very versed in cultivation (since cultivation is almost extinct), however gives him vague advice and provides him with a place to stay. - Once the time passes and the guy from the temple dies, the MC goes to a city where he finds out about technology and society, since he lived in the temple with his master (the old guy from the temple) - This world is around modern day in terms of technology (smartphones, pc cafes, social media and all the stuff) and a lot of people are streaming in social media and boasting about their "cultivation" prowess (altho this is all special effects and GCI to draw viewers and get donations) - The Mc once arriving to the city goes to a pc cafe where he rents out a room with a pc and finds out about this "cultivators" in social media and is very impressed by their "cultivation" prowess (remember, the mc is an actual cultivator, with actual cultivation techniques (altho basic ones by this point) all of the others in social media are using CGI and special effects) -The Mc decides to seek advice from this "Cultivators" by creating an account in a streaming platform and uploading a video of his actual cultivation techniques, asking the other cultivators for advice on how to improve. and he uploads them as "A Slow Cultivator" as his nickname. -Using the "advice" (just some random bs that a few people commented in his video seeking aid) he actually manages to improve his cultivation. he even goes in the chat of some of the more known "cultivators" of social media, getting their attention. i seem to recall one of this more known "cultivators" that ends up interacting a lot with the mc becoming the main secondary character is a girl that has a floral themed red dress (very popular social media "cultivator" very famous, cant recall facial or hair features). -In some point, the mc ends up trying to make a cultivation Pill for this girl and sends it to her via mail, and her later makes an unboxing of all the gifts that her followers sent. however the pill that the mc gave her actually worked and gave her a very big boost to strength and i seem to recall making her look younger (tho dont quote me on that last bit) -More towards the end of the Manhua the mc ends up in a sect of actual cultivators, however most of them are weak, and the mc has a very important sealed treasure (small square box with talismans all arround it) from his master`s temple (old guy from the temple) that has something to do with a door of heaven and the immortal path (cant recall this last part very well)
I believe this wraps the most important/memorable parts that i remember. Does anyone know the name of this Manhua?

I am trying to fully eliminate blackheads and similar non-inflammatory congestions, primarily nose and forehead, and have a question regarding the effectiveness of salicylic acid cleansers. I’ve used one for a while (lpr medicated gel), twice a day every day, feels fine, but I am not quite sure how much better is it over just cleansing without any active ingredients. It doesn’t seem to fully eliminate all gunk from the pores, you’d never see it from a normal distance, but if you stand super close to the mirror and stretch the skin, you can see plenty of them.
Perhaps that’s normal and I should give up chasing zoomed in perfection? Or maybe cleansers are super inferior to leave on products? Like I said, I use twice a day every day, with the evening one happening during shower where I massage it on face for 40sec, basically maximizing what I can get out of a cleanser. What’s your experience with this?

I'll start by saying we've been married for approximately 13 years, and most of that time has been great!
When I met my wife, she was already working as a flight attendant, and we always knew kids were in our future. A couple of years into our marriage, we decided to start trying and now have two amazing kids.
Fast forward, and she’s been back to flying for about three years now.
She works 50% of the time, flying anywhere from 4-7 days per month, mainly back to the US. She also has another part-time home office job where she works 20 hours a week. The hours are flexible, and she can split them up however she wants, working more some weeks and less when she's flying.
Our kids are 6 and 8 and are very active, including participating in competitive sports at a national level. We recently built a house and have a lot of friends with various activities planned each day/week.
Now, enough background and on to the point of the post.
We live in Germany, where there are robust employee protection rights, allowing one to call in sick up to 20 days for personal illness and 10 days per child. Recently, I’ve noticed she’s overwhelmed and stressed, often calling in sick to her flight attendant job mainly to avoid missing the kids' activities (especially the competitive sports).
My salary is OK but not great, considering the total hours worked (flight attendants only get paid when the plane is moving, not for the briefings conducted 4 hours before takeoff). However, her additional income helps with future retirement planning and other expenses.
I recently suggested she evaluate if she still enjoys flying. If not, I proposed she consider quitting and increasing her hours at her other job to about 30 hours a week. This way, she could handle more of our personal lives and the kids' needs (one of our kids has severe ADHD and requires regular attention). This change could provide a more stable environment for our kids and be financially beneficial since the salary is better at her side job. I also pointed out how often the kids say they miss her and ask why she has to fly. To be clear, I always support her by explaining to the kids that this is her job and some moms have jobs that require travel.
This is where she lost it.
She accused me of "trying to take away her happiness" and said that I "married her as a flight attendant." She said, "this is her dream job, and she's not quitting for anyone," basically accusing me of trying to take away her happiness. She also mentioned that "not everyone has to hate their job like you do." To clarify, I don’t hate my job; it fulfills me, but it’s definitely not my dream job.
I tried to explain that people evolve, situations change, and what was practical 10 years ago may not be practical now.
I reminded her that I was a bartender when she met me, living a completely different lifestyle. I decided to get an office job with better pay and more stable hours in anticipation of our family life.
I explained that I really loved bartending, tending to guests, and building social relationships with people.
She then suggested I "go back to doing what I love." I tried explaining how it’s not financially feasible (since the salary is approximately 70% lower) and that we wouldn’t be able to afford our house and current lifestyle.
This is where happiness became conditional. She listed all the things we wouldn’t be able to do if I took a pay cut and ended by saying, "but you can if you want to."
She knows my decision to take a happier role would cause financial discomfort for the entire family, leading to everyone’s unhappiness.
My question is, AITA for asking her to consider trading in her dream job for one that's more compatible with our high-demand lifestyle (where she could potentially earn more)?

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Hi there, does anyone have any recommendations for lawyers that can assist in defending a challenge to a will? Probably more specifically, a lawyer who would allow payment after everything is settled? In that unfortunate area of not being able to pay a lawyer as I go, but make too much money to be eligible for legal aid.
Additionally keen to hear anyone elses experiences defending a will as a beneficiary.
Thanks

Hey all, I'm sure these "what do these symptoms sound like" posts get redundant, but I'm trying to help my mom. Over the past 6 months she's been in increasing amounts of pain. I had her type out her story and I'm going to post it for her. I myself was diagnosed with fibro back in 2020. My pain is different than hers but as we know, fibro comes in all sorts of flavors. Take a look below and lmk what you think. Hope you're having an awesome and pain free day :)
"Back in November I injured my back from picking up a young child incorrectly, I picked her up with my arms extended instead of close to my core, right after I picked her up I felt a “twinge” in my lower back and thought to myself darn my back didn’t like that and set her down. I didn’t think much of it and went on with my day, by the next day I noticed my sciatia was bothering me. I waited one more day and then decided to see my acupuncturist, and she solved my problem but I noticed back pain lingered. I continued my usual daily routines and work schedule. Weeks passed and still the pain wasn’t going away. I also started to develop severe acid reflux and had no previous history then came constipation, and stomach pain after I would eat no matter what I ate or how small the meal. I started twice weekly acupuncture treatments hoping for relief. I had a little but nothing consistent. After six weeks of twice a week treatments I stopped. The back pain seem to get worse, it didn’t matter if I would try to do nothing and just relax or if I had a busy day and took care of my grandson.
The pain patterns don’t make sense, the soreness can feel like its directly in my spine or the muscles on each side of my spine. Sometimes my back muscles hurt so bad it’s the type of sore pain that you feel when you get the flu and have intense body aches. The pain is localized from my mid back down to my lower back. As time goes on the nights seem to be the worse, I fall sleep but with 1 to 2 hours I wake up with pain in extreme intensity, it feels like someone is squeezing my entire torso or crushing my spine. Heat use to help but it doesn’t bring soothing relief anymore. In the past 1-2 months the intensity of the pain has been getting worse to the point where it affects my ability to cope with the pain and I start to do short rapid breathing to cop with it, kind of like being in labor.
I decided to consult a chiropractor to be evaluated for possible disk or vertebrae damage. He had a different approach to testing and evaluating, he uses a computerized test the measures the central nervous system along with health history and x-rays. He references the sympathetic and para-sympathetic system and how those systems affect so many systems throughout the body and I was familiar with the information is why I concluded my acid reflux and stomach issues developed shortly after my back injury. After researching online I concluded that I developed Gastroparesis which is tied to the Vegus nerve and its functions. I was going three times a week for adjustments but now I’m going daily because we learned that my nervous system is so inflamed that even the adjustments cause me immense pain later that day and the next.
I feel like there hasn’t been any significant improvements yet. It’s almost getting worse the longer time passes. Nights are my most dreaded time because I only sleep 3-4 hours and I go from my bed to couch trying to change positions or use ice or heat to bring hopeful relief. Nothing seems to help, no position lying or sitting, heat or ice, resting or active. Occasionally I have a day where the pain is minimal and then I think I’m on my way to normalcy then the night or next day is unbearable. The past two days I’ve had to resort to taking over the counter pain medication but I haven’t resorted to that because I know it can cause stomach and liver damage.
Overall summary of pain; mild to extreme lower back muscle, tissue or nerve pain/ mid spine directly in my vertebrae a feeling as if some put a wedge right into my spine/ entire back muscle pain so intense that when the hot water of a shower hits it I cringe until my body adjusts/ acid reflux but has almost disappeared with the help of chiropractic adjustments, stomach pains after eating continue and are very painful/ constipation improved with chiropractor adjustments but has returned again/ Epson salt baths, hot showers, inferred sauna all help while in process but after the pain and soreness return/ physical therapy helped strengthen core but no back relief/ yoga poses or stretches don’t help/ meditative breathing doesn’t help.

It's been 6 months the incident/trigger of injury doesn’t justify the length and intensity of ongoing pain. I believe my body has been in the sympathetic mode (fight or flight) for months. I just want to understand why this is lingering so long and so intense. Any feedback is greatly appreciated."

So, I was watching the amazing digital circus since I wanted to see what all the fuss was about after all this time. I'm watching it and faintly remembering all the gay art of this guy jax, where every piece is of him being gay and I'm wondering: "this jax guy must be a real rizzler, a manler, if you will, if he can make so many gay men fantasize about him like that". And I'm under the impression that he's at least likeable, but when this man comes onto my pixels all I feel is disdain, I didn't like that pink character cuz she was a downer, but jax is just a straight asshole. Like, seriously what's his problem why doesn't caine kill him like he did that green crocodile (still don't know his name btw) since all jax does is make everyone's lives miserable. I get it, you're stuck in this digital realm for maybe eternity, but at least make your peers stuck with you have a decent time! Like do you have to be so pissy about everything? "Oh I didn't get to hurt someone, woe is me!" Ok buddy. And why are the characters not giving him the same energy? I want to see pomni brutally beat up jax as part of an adventure. Infact this is the story:
Caine says some dumb adventure like going into some cave that's infected with radioactive aids or something, and bubble is like "oh, I must've left those there" or something dumb that he would say and then the characters go there and jac Is just being an asshole as usual like he's being all stupid and then when jax throws someone under the buss pomni loses it, I'm talking full on ytp caillou type stuff and she grits her teeth and exclamation marks pop off of jax's head and then pomni pounces on him and starts furiously ripping him apart like Travis the chimp when u takea photo, I'm talking full on MAULED! know what, have more moments where that pink triangle head character grips his throat, since these characters can still feel pain y'know, so that'd be cool. Anyway yeah that's about it

Hey there. I’m 35F and I once had a friend who’s 33F. Her name is Sara. We were friends for over ten years and we connected because we were abused by the same man at different points of our lives. We healed together, bonded, and had a very close friendship. Sara was codependent with me. She vented about her personal issues a lot. Her family is in Mexico and she has no freaking support system so she was very overwhelming. She had anxiety problems, a chronic illness, and she got herself into a lot of abusive situations. I was there for her every time. She asked sometimes if she was “too much” but I felt I couldn’t tell her yes or I’d feel guilty. Tension between us got worse and worse cuz and she’d lovebomb and then make me feel bad for not being as enthusiastic about the… friendship. She was getting more and more toxic and I was pissed. She apologized and said it was best if we stopped being friends. I knew damn well she was right.
My husband and I were out with family. We learned that his brother’s girlfriend knew my (and Sara’s) abusive ex boyfriend. I told both of them about the abuse I went through as well as Sara’s experience (without saying her name) because Sara’s included financial abuse and physical abuse which is important to mention obviously.
Anyway months later I get a call from a familiar looking number. It’s my abusive ex. He was really mad that he lost a coworker friend because of a reputation caused by fake rumors which is annoying because he genuinely did abuse me and Sara and many others. I had no clue how he got my number but I said nothing and listened as he said something that sounded like it was about Sara (“I knew it was either you or your friend spreading this shit” blah blah I can’t remember). I hung up and blocked but my head was so hazy I instantly thought yeah it’s definitely Sara who gave him my number it only makes sense if it is.
I immediately left Sara a voicemail saying all kinds of really awful stuff I’d rather not repeat. It was along the lines of “every time something bad happens to you I hope you know you deserve it.” Sara was confused. Once I calmed down her confusion made me realize she didn’t do what I was accusing her of. She saw the uproar as some others were sending her “how could you do this” messages and she sent proof through her work email (LOL) that she didn’t even know my number or her abusive ex boyfriend’s and reminded me that she is scared to message him in the first place because he abused her too. She even sent her message history. She said she loves me (?) and regrets the way she treated me in the past but she swears she didn’t do what I accused of her.
Look, it was a bad moment but it really did seem like she did it. And I was not thinking straight with everything that happened. I was lost in my own anger and trauma plus I had no respect for her after she’d been such a bad friend in the past so I didn’t expect great things from her.
Flash forward to today. She thinks I don’t know her Twitter but I do. She’s going through a horrible health scare. As in, hospitalizations and lots of scans and procedures being led to more scans and procedures. Yup, she’s that childish and posts that kind of stuff. I noticed a little thread where she said to her fiancé (I think) that she “is so grateful that he’s there and tells her she doesn’t deserve it” and she can’t help but feel that way sometimes because “that voicemail you know about” and he was like “yeah well that person was an asshole.”
Or was this all just a misunderstanding during a really traumatizing time for me? Maybe we all sucked? I don’t know. I feel guilty so I wanted to talk about it here.
Sara, if you’re reading this, don’t try to message me all angry for posting or wanting to be friends again. Just ignore this.

During Putin's visit to China, Putin was greeted with a grand and respectful welcome, highlighting the strongest diplomatic ties between Russia and China.
On the other hand, the USA is burdened with over $34 trillion. The Congressional Budget Office (CBO) projects that interest payments will total $870 billion in fiscal year 2024 and rise rapidly throughout the next decade—climbing from $951 billion in 2025 to $1.6 trillion. In the next decade, net interest payments will be over $12.4 trillion.
If I speak, the majority of typical Americans express their anger towards me and utilize offensive language. This is what I perceive as an authentic representation of American culture. The majority of American lack knowledge, exhibit ignorance, harbor hatred, lack respect, lack curiosity, and struggle to differentiate between right and wrong but are strongly opinionated. In essence, most American citizens prioritize their own desires, disregarding fundamental principles of civility and consciousness. To them, engaging in warfare equates to amusement and a stronger economy.
Following the Second World War, the United States experienced economic prosperity, leading to its emergence as an economic powerhouse. For that reason, most American believe warfare symbolizes power and pride. In contrast, throughout the Dark Ages, Europeans engaged in internal conflicts and launched three Crusades against Muslims, resulting in bloodbaths and destruction, not an economic powerhouse. The Europeans we witness today are a consequence of the deceptive foreign policies implemented by East India Companies in the name of trade rather than warfare. Similarly, the United States we observe today is a product of the "Good Faith financial product and trade currency Dollar," represented by the IMF and World Bank, rather than warfare. Warfare signifies destruction and permission to commit acts of violence and sexual assault.
During the Cold War, all US presidents made great efforts to avoid direct war with the Soviet Union. The rivalry between the Soviet Union and the USA began in the early 1919s, with communism reaching its peak. Both nations engaged in proxy wars using puppets rather than directly confronting each other, as the consequences would have been devastating. After the Cold War, the USA lacked a clear foreign policy, leading to uncertain world relations. The influence of foreign intelligence and lobbyists on the US media can make it challenging to grasp the political landscape. There are concerns that the media shapes the image of US politicians and influences policy decisions and public opinion. Additionally, there are allegations that the media promotes certain candidates and perpetuates false narratives.
As of today, in the first quarter, China sold a significant amount of Treasury and US agency bonds, indicating the country's strategy to diversify its assets away from American holdings amidst ongoing trade tensions.
My prediction was the USA would crash in 2032.

UWorld - 61% average with 78% complete CBSE - 43 (40ish days out) Form 28 - 62 (offline, 20ish days out) Form 29 - 67 (offline, 15ish days out) Form 31 - 72 (online, 9ish days out) Form 30 - 78 (offline, 5ish days out) New Free 120 - 74 (2 days out)
I know how daunting this exam is and happy to share my experience as I know I benefited from these write ups when I was going through it. Passed a few weeks ago with a mid April date, but just getting around to this now.
Prior to dedicated had barely reviewed any material. I only really recalled hematology and repro as they were our last two blocks, and half of sketchy micro as I had done that over winter break.
If I had to give advice, I would say that if you have prestudied just micro and pharm (I do sketchy but in any modality) you will have a comparatively relaxed dedicated as these took a significant time for me.
I had around a 5 week dedicated since I had a trip planned and wanted to stick to it.
First week - downloaded pepper deck for sketchy micro pharm, started working through remaining micro and then a majority of pharm (tried for folder a day but sometimes too much), would read a chapter of first aid each evening (not sure if this helped really)
Second week - wrapped up a majority of pharm late this week and stopped introing regularly. Was beginning uworld blocks and starting in the 50-60s with only content I had read through in first aid + micro/pharm. Finished the first aid read and started doing full random, timed, tutor uworld blocks. Made cards out of incorrects on Anki + related topics/mnemonics I would find online, in first aid, or in dirty medicine. Printed out a 200 box sheet for offline nbmes. Also started listening to goljan on drives and walks here - didn’t get through all but probably around half the lectures over the following weeks in some weak areas.
Third week - kept doing uworld blocks (3 a day was the goal), scores could get into 70s rarely if I got a good block. Watched occasional pathoma or dirty medicine video on topics I felt bad in. Reviewed pathoma 1-3 after missing much of immuno questions in a nbme. I felt very confident on pharm and micro now, physio was ok after first aid and seeing it repeatedly, but weak on pathology still. Was reassured that my scores were ok but I really just felt dumb.
Fourth week - I decided I needed to learn pathology. Set out a 8 day schedule to work through all of pathoma + intro duke pathoma cards + 1 block of uworld daily. This was very ambitious and did not succeed (especially in keeping up with Anki cards) but at least covered cardio, renal, pulm, endo, GI in full and did cards at least twice. I do think this helped. Also started looking through mehlman risk factor, neuroanatomy, msk, and Endo pdfs. Dirty med was great for a biochem review. Kept memorizing a ton of random mnemonics from dirty or first aid using Anki. Uworld blocks could hit 70s pretty frequently.
Fifth week - was really considering pushing. Scores were ok but confidence was in the gutter. I was hitting the equilibrium block of info coming in as fast as I was forgetting it, and realized I just had to go for it. I knew I was weak in some concepts (ex. Msk) but I felt like it wasn’t worth it to me to go through it all and forget something else. Just kept doing uworld to try to get my percentage up and cuz I didn’t know what else to do. Did some sketchy pharm I was missing (lipid drugs, migraines, etc.) since was missing questions on them. Was really only keeping up with mnemonic, anking incorrect cards, and sketchy pharm at this point.
Test - around 3 hours of sleep cuz schedule was shit sleeping at 2am everyday. Though I’m used to low sleep before tests so was fine. Exam felt like uworld blocks. I felt really bad in the 1st, 3rd, 4th blocks since I had flag streaks of 6-7 questions in a row, but I was also not remembering the gimme questions most likely that I was getting right. About 10ish questions that I knew I missed or was like “oh I should study this” and never did like a few days ago. Overall didn’t feel terrible but didn’t feel good and was not confident I passed.
I will say trusting scores is harder than it seems, especially when we see people with good scores fail online. Just understand that there are a lot of uncontrolled factors with anything you see online, but if you are taking your tests in as controlled circumstances as possible then you should try and trust them as much as possible. For people cramming this exam in a few weeks, we are not going to know everything - just be as confident as you can in what you are good in and that will go a long way. And remember that 85%+ people pass this thing, and (if possible in your circumstance) it is not hard to give yourself a fighting chance with a few weeks of full-time committed effort.
Good luck everyone now or in the future. We can get through this. Let me know if I can help in any way.

So I've been on spiro for +6 months and fin for +3 months and stopped birth control 3 months ago after taking it for 3 months because it was giving me mood swings and depression and suicidal thoughts. I was literally living in hell. Now I have realized that after that, my periods have slowly become more and more often. To the point that now I get my period twice or sometimes even three times a month! ( i think it's easier to count the days I don't get my period, haha) And I don't know what's causing it. Is it the spiro? Or can ot be fin? Stopping birth control? I don't know. I have an appointment with my gynecologist soon but what should I do till then? Spiro hasn't helped with my hair but it has magically solved my hairsutism problem and fin has been really effective for reducing my hairloss and hiar shedding I'm on spiro 100 and fin 5 I never had such problems before stopping birth control. Idk what happened all of a sudden. ( I cut bc and started fin kinda at the same time) Now I really don't wanna cut spiro and fin cause they've been really helpful; and at the same time, I don't wanna go on bc again either because I was really near committing suicide and the funniest part is that it didn't take long for me to go back to normal. Only a week was needed to get rid of all those thoughts and depression. I used to cry every single day when I was on bc and couldn't help it.
I would appreciate any advice and same experience. What should I do? Thanks in advance!

Hello guys and gals. It's going to be a fairly long post but please if you have any ideas regarding going abroad or have an experience LET ME KNOW.
so, I'm a 22 year old. I'm a single son of a single mother. I did my inter in 2021, and after that did go to a Uni for 2 years but only did 2 semesters because that uni really really fucked up my mental health and i just couldn't continue. It's not like I didn't want to, I'm a hard-working person I know i Am but that uni just broke me because i was all alone, my family stopped supporting me emotionally or financially. so, I had to do a job to support myself. But, i focused on my job because thats the only place i felt peace, Just thinking about going to my uni made me have a bad anxiety attack. I couldn't afford a therapist or had time for it. Fast forward to know, i left my job and come back home. And i should have pushed myself harder to complete my degree but it took me alot of time to get back at my feet. Now i know i won't crumble under pressure. My only regret is not getting back up quick enough. Now my mother is pushing me to go abroad. My profile is weak considering i have a 3 year gap. I have 79% in inter (it's not alot but i had no control over it because it was during the pandemic, results were all over the place). My budget is just 3.5m. The only option I can see is UK. But i can only pay 60% fee and the other 40% would come out by working there. But I cant work full time because UK only allows 20hweek. Want to know what to do? Is there a chance of working on cash on UK? Work more than 20hrs?
And is there any other country i can go to. I can't convince my mother to let me study in Pakistan because she just wants me out. I can't convince her, because she just repeats why didn't i study when i had the chance and I can't explain her that i couldn't.
So right now, I'm just stuck. There are options in this budget, but no place where i can earn. I want to struggle want to push myself harder because i have had enough of being weak.
Please, if anyone can help in this, please do. If anyone wants to discuss this further in DMs, please do. There might be alot of things I didn't discuss here, so help.
JazakAllah

Hi all.
I (22f) live with my narcissistic mother, this week it's gotten worse in a chased through the house like Shelley Duvall running from Jack Nicholson a la the shining.
I've contacted Womens Aid (I am in Ireland) and they're full up. A friend has offered to let me stay with their family (they live with their parents) until I get a place. I've mentioned this could take a couple of months to do (especially since I have found out the social housing waiting list to just get on it is 8 weeks).
How do I explain the situation to my friend? They know the abuse but I don't want to be a burden on them without them knowing the full after effects of taking me in.
Also if I were to stay with them, how can I be a good guest to them? I'm unsure if where I would be sleeping is a spare bedroom or a pull out couch in the sitting room.
Thanks for any advice you have.

My (34F) fiance (44F) have been together for 11 months, engaged for 9 of them. When we first met, I got out of a very toxic and abusive relationship [on both sides]. I was with someone that used me as a trophy girlfriend and I was using them for security and stability. We were both aware of it. Not my proudest moment.
Yesterday was his Birthday, and something happened that made me question whether he gaslights me, and how long he’s been doing it.
It was the hottest day of the year so far. We had to drop off his car to get his steering fixed. To kill time, we decided to walk downtown and sit down somewhere to have a bite.
We went into a small resto neither one of us have been in before. Being bisexual, I immediately noticed how attractive our waitress was. She was dark haired, slim, with beautiful manicured hands and was about 20-22 y/o.
He started following her with his eyes even before we sat down inside, when she was working on the patio. When she came to our table and took his order, he literally kicked back in his chair as he told her his order, which made it look like he was obviously stunned by how hot she was. After that he made every attempt to discreetly follow her with his eyes all over the resto. One time when we were talking, he did that thing that guys do when they steal a glance at a woman they find hot, then right back at you just as you’re looking back at them, making it seem like they’re only looking at you. He did that twice. I made it look like I didn’t notice, but I did.
Well aware of what was happening, I asked him “How old do you think our waitress is?” He replied, “Which one?” There was another older, overweight lady working in the resto together with that girl. He also started staring in the direction of the hot waitress, seeking her out with his eyes and making it out like he never even once looked at her before I asked him that question.
I was floored. I realized, in that moment, that he blatantly lied to me. My heart sunk. He asked me what’s wrong, I said “You don’t remember what our waitress looks like? The only person you’ve interacted with in here besides me?”, he said “No, I wasn’t paying attention, but I will now to tell you how old I think she is, which is about 20 now that I’m looking at her.”
This developed into a fight where he was denying ever even looking at her, when I could clearly see he also found her hot and literally couldn’t stop following her with his eyes. I left the resto abruptly and said “Enjoy your meal.” I never ordered food, only had water.
We met up afterwards, and this thing turned into a whole-day fight. He kept saying things like “You’re making this up”, “There is something wrong with you”, “You’re delusional” and “You should know me better than that! But instead, you’re making me feel like a piece of shit who is slutting around out there.” He always reminds me of how good of a guy he is and is always shocked as to why I don’t full trust him “this far into the relationship”, to which I reply “What? 11 months? That’s just the honeymoon phase honey. I still don’t know you.”
I never backed down once. I stood my ground and kept saying “I know what I saw” the entire day. The thing is, it’s not that he found someone else hot - we are all human, that’s bound to happen. It’s that he blatantly lied about it, gaslighted me, and made me feel like I was some psycho with delusional thoughts.
I felt sorry for this whole thing falling on his Birthday which I’m sure I’ll hear about for a while, but I refuse to sit there and be disrespected like that, especially since he’s a guy that constantly tells me that I’m “amazing” and “the most beautiful woman he’s ever met.” Certainly doesn’t feel like that when he can be so swayed by a young waitress and lies about it.
TL;DR My fiance found a waitress hot and completely denied it despite me sitting beside him the entire time.

M23. I met a girl(f21) at 21, and originally entered the relationship as a situationship, I had no direction in life and was needing a place to stay as my lease was about to expire.As life unfolded, we ended up getting our own apartment together. As our time grew together, I began to see a future with her. The way she carried herself, the way she cared for me, it was like nothing I’d ever experienced before. Through her actions she, tried her best to help me be a better person, take accountability for my life, guided me out of my addictions, and ended up supporting me in a pursuit of my career. Over time I began to develop stronger feelings for her month by month and even started to feel guilty about the way I the reasons I entered the relationship in the first place. She was provided me with an environment that allowed for personal growth that I wasn’t even aware was possible and consciously and unconsciously offered endless support. We would talk about our future together, what we wanted it to look like, how many kids we were gonna have, the whole 9 yards. What was going to be a temporary fling originally, started to really devolop into serious feelings for this girl. Months pass and I finally get a breakthrough in my career that would not be possible without her support and my dedication. I pass my test and many new financial opportunities opened up for me. The best work opportunity happened to be 800 miles across the country (making about 3x what I was available in the location we were at) and after long talks of logistics and how it would be life changing for us we had a big decision on our hands we decided it would be the right time to take action. Before I left, I felt it would only be right to propose to her, given that she had been through so much with me and I couldn’t see my life without her. I decided to take the job for a month and test out the waters, and have her hold our apartment as a contingency plan to make sure the new job was a good fit. During that month I missed her more than ever. We talked almost nightly to catch up, but eventually working 12-14+ hour days started to catch up to me. By the end of the month i really felt at home with the new job and I felt it was a great opportunity to plant roots for us. I asked her to move where I was and without hesitation she packed our whole apartment by herself to be with me. I offered to pay for a moving and packing service, but she insisted on packing herself and wanted to we split the cost of moving. It cost me all of my savings, ( about three years worth) but I felt it was truly an opportunity we could build our lives upon. Fast forward 6 months post move. I know she misses her friends and family, so I fly her out of state once a month to catch up. Where we are living is desolate, the winter was more extreme than I could imagine and she has been stuck inside for weeks on end keeping up with her remote job and taking care of our puppy. Working 12-14 hours a day was taking away from our quality time together and starting to really take a tolI on our relationship. Perhaps this job is more than I bargained for. I talk to my boss to get my hours reduced, so I can spend more quality time together and he agrees. Our relationship is in decline. Arguments that lead to know where, the cold shoulder and the silent treatment become regular. I try to make up date nights, activities to do in my spare time, nothing seems to satisfy her. I buy her plane tickets back home, and when she comes back, she can’t stop talking about an old friend she ran into. He’s accomplished this, he does that, yadda yadda. She wants to move back home. I offer to quit my job but she doesn’t want me to give up on this career that I’ve worked so hard for. While I want her to stay, I just knew how unhappy she was living where I worked, so I began looking at apartments for her and seeing what I could afford in both places. I helped her find a place, helped her pack up, and moved her 16 hours away, just to find out 10 hours through my trip that she wants nothing to do with me, is planning on partying all weekend with the guy she’d been talking to and had no intention of maintaining a long distance relationship with me. I’m not usually one to post anything online, but I’m unsure how to react to this. I feel betrayed yet guilty at the same time that I went into the relationship under not so great circumstances. Maybe I deserve what’s coming to me. TLDR did I fuck up?

Task Force Monarch - Discord
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Who are we?
We are a UK based ArmA III MilSim that pride ourselves in creating compelling campaigns with the aid of real-life international hard-politics and inspiration from prior conflicts involving UK Elite Special Forces.
We have an extensive selection process that reflects the UKSF Joint Selection Process. We greatly pride ourselves on our use of extensive skills such as CQC, Air-Assault, Close Protection, HUMINT and more. We rely on heavily detailed, intel-orientated campaigns and rarely have deployments / operations with pre-determined endings.
We are capable on providing a realistic yet enjoyable operation to our members. Our Operations are every saturday at 17:30 EST/10:30 GMT.
Detachments and positions Within Our Unit

• B Squadron SAS: UKSF 22nd Special Air Service B Squadron [Direct Action, Close Protection, COIN]
  • Patrol I/C and 2I/C
  • SF Medic
  • Weapons Specialist
  • Signals - FO/JTAC
  • Trooper

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• X Squadron SBS: UKSF Special Boat Service X Squadron [Direct Action, Close Protection, COIN, Maritime Ops]
  • Patrol I/C and 2I/C
  • SF Medic
  • Weapons Specialist
  • Signals - FO/JTAC
  • Marine

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• O Squadron SRR: UKSF Special Recognisance Regiment [Direct Action, HUMINT, COIN, Long Range Recon, Close Recognisance, HUMINT]
  • Patrol 2I/C
  • SF Medic
  • Signals - FO/JTAC
  • Trooper

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• JSFAW: Joint Special Forces Aviation Wing
  • Rotary-Wing pilots and crew
  • Drone Operator
  • Support Weapon Systems Operator

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• Joint Task Force HQ: Mission Design & Zeusing
  • Intelligence & Operations OfficeAnalyst: Zeus & Roleplayers

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• SIS-MI6: Intel

What are our Deployments like?
As a brief summary, our operations are fast-paced, well planned and well executed.
However, in more detail, our operations are greatly based on real-world situations that the UKSF detachments are involved in. The planning of our deployments usually commence upwards of 3 months before the first operation. This planning includes extensive research, "news reports" and intelligence documentation that our J-2 and SIS-MI6 staff create. Once our deployment has started, our operations are rich in detail, intel, and role-play interactions.
All of this culminates into a big picture which allows detachment commanders and staff to surgically strike to defeat or destabilise the enemy. If certain information is not accumulated or is not acted upon this could change the course and outcome of the campaign.
Our deployments can span over multiple maps to simulate multiple provinces and regions. We usually take between 6 to 8 weeks to complete our campaigns.
Availability within detachments
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SBS - XSqn 8 Troop (OPEN)
SRR - 0Sqn 3 Troop (CLOSED)
JSFAW (OPEN)
Entry Requirements * You must be 18 or older (Exceptions can be made on a strict probationary period) * You must have a legal copy of Arma 3 * You must have a working microphone * You must be proficient in English * You must be willing to be mature and dedicated to the unit * You must own APEX DLC (Tanoa) * A new Member must be willing to go through training & selection. * A new member must be willing to conform to rules and regulations set out on our discord.
How to Join us To join us, all you need to do is simply go to the discord link bellow, wait for a recruiter to contact you in #recruitment-chat and apply on the website from the links bellow.
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X Squadron, 8 Troop SBS IC
Directing Staff